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No. 229: How To Excel As An Employee (4 Experience Based Strategies)

[This issue is dedicated to experts-who-speak, who work in paid employment e.g. as Sales/Marketing Professionals, Public Relations/Corporate Affairs Managers, Legal Experts & career persons in general]

Except you are a CEO of the company you work for, there is a good chance you have ambitions to move to the next rung of the corporate ladder, and as far up as possible before you retire (or resign).

That implies you want to get promoted, and/or given more career advancement opportunities.

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Title:
How To Excel As An Employee (4 Experience Based Strategies)
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1 of 2: PUBLIC SPEAKING – How To Excel As An Employee (4 Experience Based Strategies)

[This issue is dedicated to experts-who-speak, who work in paid employment e.g. as Sales/Marketing Professionals, Public Relations/Corporate Affairs Managers, Legal Experts & career persons in general]

Except you are a CEO of the company you work for, there is a good chance you have ambitions to move to the next rung of the corporate ladder, and as far up as possible before you retire (or resign).

That implies you want to get promoted, and/or given more career advancement opportunities.

It would also be nice to enjoy more perks such as an official car, driver, allowances or even official residence etc. This write up offers you tested and proven experience based ideas you can use, to become a well recognised high flyer in your company within the shortest time possible.

When you put in a lot of effort in doing your job, it can be quite fulfilling to eventually learn you are being rewarded with something tangible such as the above.

Promotion in the workplace is a sure sign that one is progressing within a company.

Nobody likes to be left spinning his/her wheels in the same job for years. Sadly however, that is exactly what happens to many employees – they may start out with bright prospects in the company, but at some point, especially when they approach or settle into middle management, nothing comes their way any more.

The Question Is Why Are You NOT Getting Promoted?

Why are you not being called on to do those special assignments that can get you into the spotlight, to be noticed by those who matter in your company.

Why is it that no one ever thinks of nominating you to go on that course meant for “workplace champions” who will then return and coach other employees using what they learn? Why is your colleague often picked to go on secondment to sometimes senior positions, and you are not?

My Answer – You Are The One Holding Yourself Back!

You need to do some sober reflection here. If you’re not getting promoted, or you’re missing out on career advancement opportunities, it’s most likely because you are NOT doing enough of the right things to get noticed by those who make the decisions in your company, about who gets promoted, or sent on secondment/other high profile assignments.

Let me use an analogy that explains why I am so sure.

Think about any nation that sends a team to the world cup. Take Nigeria for instance. We all know that when it comes to WINNING, most Nigerians would gladly have the best possible ELEVEN players on the pitch, than fight to get a less competent tribesman or woman to play.

Why? Because we love to win. The same thing applies to well managed companies. The decision makers want the company to post the best performance possible. So they ALWAYS strive to select the best people from their army of employees to do the most important work necessary to achieve the company’s goal.

Now, THAT is the key:

If you want to win more opportunities to further your career, or get promoted, you will need to actively engage yourself in doing things on and off the job that will make those decision makers in your company SEE you as a valuable asset in the company’s arsenal.

They must become convinced that giving you such opportunities will benefit the company and other employees. Once you achieve that, you will be amazed by the regularity with which you will get chosen over many others.

What Can You Do, To Increase Your Chances?

1. Get A Variety Of Experiences Under Your Belt & Put Them To Use:

The first thing I always emphasise to ANY person who wants to advance his/her career as an employee, is the need to get as much exposure to varied workplace experiences as possible.

Just as is the case in life, the key to becoming a high flyer in an organisation, is to possess real world relevant COMPETENCIES, which when put to use, will enable you deliver results that the company wants. Bosses often love an employee they can count on to keep things going according to plan. Someone they can leave things to, and go to bed. A person who can be trusted to protect their interest/that of the company.

In order to be this kind of person, you will need to acquire good knowledge of different aspects of YOUR boss’ job. This implies you will also be familiar with what everyone who reports to him does. Most importantly, you will ensure you are VERY competent in doing your job. Once these are achieved, you will be able to combine doing your job, with looking out for opportunities to add value to other people’s jobs. Soon, your boss, colleagues and others will notice your efforts.

2. Never Turn Down ANY Opportunity:

The reward for success is more responsibility or more work. And it will likely come at a higher level. No matter your prejudices about a specific project or assignment, NEVER turn down an opportunity extended to you, to tackle an new or different job. Not even if you feel you know nothing about it.

Believe me, you can learn what you need to know right on the job in a matter of days, weeks or months, depending on the job type. Most times, as you climb up the ladder, your assignments will be supervisory or managerial in nature. You will be doing less by yourself, and more by getting others to do stuff.

All you need to do, is dedicate some time and effort to understanding what your subordinates do, so as to better manage them to do it. Even if your assignment requires your hands on involvement, do so until you become proficient. Make a success of this, and you would have added another invaluable body of knowledge/experience to yourself.

But here’s the best part:

There is a good chance that the new competencies you acquire in the course of carrying out that unfamiliar assignment, will equip you to excel when you get back to your normal area of work. I say all of this from personal experience.

Success in paid employment comes mainly to those who LEARN from lessons taught by the experiences they have in the course of doing work that is assigned to them. If you turn down opportunities because you feel the job is unfamiliar or difficult, you deny yourself valuable opportunity to ADD new experiences that can make you more competitive.

3. Avoid The Mistake Of Waiting To Go On Courses:

You will be very unwise to wait for your company to send you on training courses as an avenue to acquiring the competence you need. In my experience, and from my studies of many books on management, EXPERIENCE gained while on the job plays a massive role in moulding managers exposed to them, into the high-flyers they later become.

Management courses offer mostly theoretical grounding.

The onus is always on the manager to them return to the workplace and APPLY what s/he has learnt. The assumption is also made that the workplace will present challenges in a manner similar to what was covered in the training course. Very rarely does this happen.

Each of these people will communicate his/her desired result, typically derived from a need to achieve the company’s goal, to his/her subordinate(s). At some point, the desired result will be translated into specific tasks for people at your level. So long as each person does his/her assigned bit, the overall company goal will often be accomplished.

Once you gain this understanding, it will be easier to appreciate the role YOU have to play in the entire scheme of things in your position of responsibility.

It is the lack of understanding of how the role they play, fits into the BIG company picture, that makes many employees fail to take their jobs as seriously as they should. This limited insight also prevents them from seeing the opportunities that could fall into their laps, if they were to step up and proactively play their parts, to facilitate improved processes that would help the company perform even better than planned.

4. Ignore Office Politics:

Ah yes, of course there’s is the challenge of office politics making nonsense of efforts you might make to use the ideas offered here. However, the truth is that office politics is everywhere. It happens in every part of the world – even in the best run companies.

Due to the fact that rewards will be given out to persons deemed to have been most instrumental in helping achieve the valued organisational goal, direct and indirect competition for the spotlight, will naturally happen amongst employees at various levels.

I believe it is the company’s management that decides how much office politics can SWAY decision making. In most well managed companies(I was lucky to work in one), people who depend more on politics than on-the-job performance rarely get far, compared to those who do the opposite.

If you work in such a company, where MERIT is the primary determinant of career advancement for employees, then the ideas I offer here CAN help you get FAR ahead, if you diligently apply them.

Even if you don’t, I can assure you that you WILL still reap great rewards – it just tends to take longer, and you’ll have to also endure longer periods of adversity. If that does not appeal to you, moving to another company could be a viable option.

As far as office politics goes, I have only ONE piece of advice for you: Do NOT get involved in it. Carefully identify those who play it, and tactfully maintain a safe distance from them – in your own interest.

Why Should You Listen To Me On This?

This is another in a series of Performance Enhancement write ups I have committed to publishing on this website, to help employees and career minded persons who aspire to climb high, as fast as possible, up the corporate ladder.

Looking back at the time I spent in paid employment, I sometimes feel I had the gift of knowing HOW TO do my work in a way that would get me noticed, and marked for career advancement opportunities almost at will. Very rarely did I do ANYTHING to curry favour or attention from superiors.

Yet, they repeatedly chose me over others who were many years ahead of me on the job. I knew no magic tricks. All I did was work hard to LEARN how to do ANY job assigned me, and I also actively studied books and real life managers I admired.

Then I went out daily and applied all that I learnt with single minded dedication, rarely giving a thought for my comfort or convenience. 99% of the time I put the needs of the company first. In other words, I did what I have suggested you do in this write up

One more thing:

I’ll also tell you that I followed my instincts a lot, and asked questions about everything – to the extent of constructively criticising the way things were been done, to proposing new ways to do them – some of which got adopted.

The result  was that I became a high flyer in a relatively short period of time.

Final Words

I have written, published and presented management research papers in the past, that capture key points outlined in this piece. Just in case you are reading my writing for the first time, and wonder what really qualifies me to comment on this subject, I suggest you click here to view my resume which details of specific experiences and accomplishments I rapidly recorded in the relatively short period I spent in paid employment.

Related: Become A Leader At Work, By Making Your Company’s Decision Makers Take Favourable Notice Of You!

PS: This write-up was first published online on Monday 2nd April 2012 via spontaneousdevelopment.com (my former 9 year old domain – which is now defunct).

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Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the

popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm

Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in

various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly

traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical
Manager.

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’

competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to

SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

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Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

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Achieve Greater Success by Being a Problem Solver

The Internet, if properly utilized to achieve what Michel Fortin describes as Power Positioning (click), can make people who fit your target audience profile, conclude YOU are the go to-expert for virtually anything they need as far as what you do is concerned.

In my case, I continue to marvel at how people from within and outside Africa continue to reach out to me, even when all they want is to gain access to some other resources outside of me.

They basically display a preference to have me TELL them where to go, who to speak with or email, and so on.

This has happened several times with Farm CEOs and those aspiring, who contacted me by phone, and email to ask how they could get in touch with – for instance – decision makers in the famous Songhai’s Integrated Agricultural Centre’s Benin Republic headquarters.

On other occasions, I have had some call to ask if I could give them the contact details or a name for anyone in charge of a Songhai-modeled facility in one of Nigeria’s states.

When we spoke, it was often obvious they assumed I would have the answers they needed.

Thankfully, many times I did have the answer, and on the few occasions I did not, I was able to send them to someone who did.

The above is why I remain diligently committed to staying up to date with as much relevant information as possible with regard to what I do as a Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist.

My experiences from way back in paid employment have trained me to remember that people are naturally drawn towards persons they feel can SOLVE their problems or give them answers they seek.

So, I make a point of adding to myself with the above in mind, plus I SHARE what I know generously with them whenever they reach out to me.

The result is they go away feeling good about me, and often tell others.

Even better is the fact that those who go on to do business with me, often leave with WAY more value than they pay me for, and they say so.

Indeed, some return because of that to do repeat business with me.

Most importantly, we become and remain friends subsequently.

As a matter of fact, I am deliberately nurturing LONG term relationships with ALL who buy from me, so as to PROVE that my solutions not only work, but they remain relevant to the needs of those who invest in them.

In the past month, I’ve found myself having to email the information below, obtained from the Agra Innovate exhibition to 2 different Farm CEOs who in discussing with me on separate occasions eagerly asked that I send it to them.

They had plans that required connecting with some of the organizations. I gladly obliged, and then decided to publish it in a post to make it easier to send it to others who may request it in future. Also, this method makes it possible for those searching online to also find the information even without

Below, I share contact details and basic information about representatives of certain exhibiting organizations I had discussions with during my visit to the Agra Innovate Agricultural Exhibition on it’s last day in November 2015 at the Landmark Centre, in Lagos’ Victoria Island.

Like I said, I came in from Cotonou to attend the last day (Nov 28 or so) of this event at the Landmark Centre on Victoria Island.

I got the following contact details on promotional materials and call cards freely given out by the respective company representatives:

1. GIZ

Christian Widmann is Head of Programme, Pro-poor Growth & Promotion of Employment in Nigeria (SEDIN) by GIZ, the German NGO who make chin chin from Cassava flour.

Mobile: +234-704 436 9589. Email: sedin at giz dot de.

Sunday Idahosa is Value Chain Advisor for GIZ’s “Agro-Allied & Commercial Cassava Farmers Association” in Ogun state.

His number is +234-703 729 2509.

2. Dangote

Ms. Lillian Sadoh is Group Head ITMIS & Strategy of Dansa Holdings Ltd.

I spoke to her at the exhibition about using Pineapple peels to make drinks. They have:

A. Dansa pineapple farms.

B. Dansa Oil palm farm with crude palm oil refinery.

C.  1,200 metric tonnes tomato paste factory

Lillian’s mobile is +234-811-393-6816 or +234-805-933-2211 and her email is lillian dot sadoh at dansaholdings dot com

3. PRESCO Plc

This Edo state based company I told you produced a unique range of specialized oils from different parts of the palm fruit alone!

They’ve been around for about 3 decades. I knew about them when I was based in Benin city.

Jalaj ARORA is Head – Sales & Marketing of PRESCO Plc. He is the one I called and spoke to after the Agra Innovate exhibition at Landmark centre, VI.

His mobile no is 0703 562 2750 and his email address is jalaj dot arora at siat-group dot com

PS: See photos and my notes in my report on the exhibition at www.tinyurl.com/tfc26ok

 

No. 228: To Achieve Extraordinary Feats, Be Prepared to Overcome Extraordinary Trials! [Hint: That’s Why You Need Practical Guiding Philosophies to Pursue Success]

 “Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny” – C.S (Clive Staples) Lewis, 20th century British novelist, poet, literary critic, theologian, broadcaster, lecturer (November 29, 1898 to November 22, 1963)

The above C.S. Lewis quote was shared by a Facebook friend, on her wall, with a question asking if her observation that most successful people have often “been through the absolute worst times” was correct.

Something about the way she made wrote it got me thinking, that not everyone aspiring to success will readily understand why they should accept severe trials, and hardships as necessary stepping stones to achieve their valued goals.

So I wrote THIS piece to explain…

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No: 228
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To Achieve Extraordinary Feats, Be Prepared to Overcome Extraordinary Trials! [Hint: That’s Why You Need Practical Guiding Philosophies to Pursue Success]
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1 of 2: PUBLIC SPEAKING – To Achieve Extraordinary Feats, Be Prepared to Overcome Extraordinary Trials! [Hint: That’s Why You Need Practical Guiding Philosophies to Pursue Success]

“Hardships often prepare ordinary people for an extraordinary destiny” – C.S (Clive Staples) Lewis, 20th century British novelist, poet, literary critic, theologian, broadcaster, lecturer (November 29, 1898 to November 22, 1963)

The above C.S. Lewis quote was shared by a Facebook friend, on her wall, with a question asking if her observation that most successful people have often “been through the absolute worst times” was correct.

Something about the way she made wrote it got me thinking, that not everyone aspiring to success will readily understand why they should accept severe trials, and hardships as necessary stepping stones to achieve their valued goals.

So I wrote THIS piece to explain…

In my case, I learnt that truth by studying books about authentic success achievement, during the darkest days of my struggles as a startup/struggling entrepreneur.

Without the insights I gained from doing that diligent self-education, and the understanding they helped me develop about the need to have a GUIDING PHILOSOPHY for pursuing the success I wanted, I am convinced I would NOT be succeeding the way I am today.

Over 12 years on, since I quit paid employment to start my own business, I am able to build on my successes with confidence and determination, regardless of delays, disappointments or setbacks I encounter.

Without the success philosophies I read and adapted to suit my needs, I would have fallen by the wayside a LONG time ago!

The harsh economic times we’re in are TESTING people to the limits of their confidence, patience and self-belief…

I draw from my personal experiences and studies/investigations, including references and quotes, to explain why, if you want great success, you will most likely, as a matter of necessity have to endure great adversity BEFORE you achieve whatever dreams you set your mind on.

I know this because I made out time to carefully investigate it from my early startup years as a novice entrepreneur.

Among other things, I did a lot of reading e.g. Napoleon Hill’s Think & Grow Rich, Cynthia Kersey’s bestseller “UNSTOPPABLE!” (which tell 45 amazing true stories of entrepreneurs who overcame great suffering to succeed) as well as James Cook’s New York Times Bestseller “The Startup Entrepreneur”.

What I learnt helped me learn how to deal with frequent and prolonged hard times I faced in my business till I gained mastery that enabled me succeed more often.

As time went on, I found, by reflecting on my own experiences, that the authors of those books were right.

In past writings, I’ve noted that James Cook stated in “The Startup Entrepreneur” findings from his personal experiences as an entrepreneur, as well as his research into the lives of over 500 successful entrepreneurs in America.

Among other insights, Cook found that there is a direct correlation between the degree of suffering an entrepreneur goes through and the height of success s/he eventually achieves.

According to him, the greater the suffering, the greatest the height of eventual success achievement.

Jim Rohn, in one of his book explained why the above happens by saying:

“Be grateful for adversity, for it forces the human spirit to grow…there cannot be achievement in the absence of adversity.” –
Jim Rohn

Anyone who wants to achieve sustainable long term success in any area of endeavour in life needs to understand, accept and apply these truths and philosophies in his/her life.

Those who do never feel a need to complain when the going gets tough, because the know it’s going to make them better equipped to succeed.

What I’ve found is that many people do NOT know this truth before they embark on their journey into tough, unpredictable world of business/entrepreneurship.

And that’s why most of the allow hard times they encounter to discourage and make them quit.

Napoleon Hill noted that it’s important to have a guiding philosophy you adhere to (like that outlined in his classic bestseller – Think and Grow Rich), in pursuit of your valued goal, especially to keep you going through adversity or failure which is also known as “Temporary Defeat”.

Below: Cover image for my recently published CEO Spotlight Interview with Efe Ohwofasa…

Efe’s amazing rags to riches life story perfectly illustrates the point I’ve made in this write up about the need for you to RESOLVE to overcome hardships in your life, till you succeed.

Click here, or below to read his story, and be inspired to defeat ANY trials you encounter!

Click the link/image below to download the PDF version of my interview with Efe. I’m sure you’ll find it useful reading.

[LEARN MORE] Read the articles linked below…

In some of them, I referred to excerpts from the books mentioned above.

1. To Succeed, Understand That Suffering Can Be Good for You!

2. No. 223: Dealing With Adversity Requires The Right Mental Attitude

3. Why You May Want to Rejoice When Others Mock You

4. Do You Know How To Deal With People Who Mock And Ridicule You?

5. How To DEFEAT Haters – Permanently!

6. Why You May Want To Rejoice When Others Mock You!

7. Practical Guiding Philosophies For Entrepreneurial Success

8. Handle Your Problems Without Drama!

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Before we teamed up in 2011, I’d been studying his work and adapting it to succeed in my work from way back in 2002. It does not matter what part of the world

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Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the

popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm

Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in

various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly

traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical
Manager.

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’

competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African

continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your

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Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to

SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
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An Indigenous African Church Leader Who Makes World Class Talking Automobiles (Incl. Engines!) From Scratch, Using Local Materials in Ghana: Meet Apostle Dr. Kwadwo Safo

I’ve been studying and researching him for some time now and have downloaded articles, videos and audios by reporters from BBC, Al Jazeera, AFP, CNN etc, based on visits they made to his facility in Ghana, to see his amazing locally made talking SUVs and other tech products like TVs that go off when you clap, and doors that speak when you knock and open ONLY if someone is in.

Over 2 decades ago, Ghana’s Apostle Dr. Kwadwo Safo began producing hand-built SUVs made using over 80% locally fabricated parts, including branded engine blocks molded in his foundry, using an ingenious process involving crushed palm kernel shells. Today, his Made-in-Ghana cars are gaining international attention.

kantanka-engine

Image credit/source: http://africarm.org/an-insight-into-the-world-of-kantanka-automobiles-the-history-present-and-the-future-2824/

The-hope-of-Africa

Above: Apostle Dr. Safo (Photo credit: http://africarm.org/november-edition-vnovember-edition-apostle-dr-kwadwo-safo-the-hero-of-our-time-ideos-and-pictures-of-some-kantanka-products-1374/the-hope-of-africa/)

Click here to see search results done today, on Google.com using the string “Kantanka motors”

A true Man Of God!

The best thing about this man is that he continues to train thousands of Ghanaian youths in his hands-on training school, regardless of their religious beliefs or preference.

Note also that this Apostle’s church, with branches across Ghana is 100% indigenous and self funding via a chain of businesses from which he finances the motor manufacturing arm, and also give out scholarships and free homes to citizens in need.

Would you believe the dashboard, bumpers and other parts of the cars he and his team build are made from locally crafted wood and formica with superb finishing that mimics plastic used in imported cars but is much much cheaper?

In fact only the tires (and I think the radiators) used in his cars are imported. When he began years ago, he worked with a small team over 6 months to build one single SUV by hand.

I have watched one of the training videos. It is amazing.

If Nigeria’s Innoson – which mostly assembles imported cars – can adopt a similar strategy, he won’t be affected by lack of government patronage.

Apostle Safo was ignored by Government and private sector investors in his country for decades. Only in the last 3 years or so has he begun to get major attention from them.

Before then he refused to be discouraged and simply channeled funds from his multiple businesses into the car making.

Note that he does not hold a university degree in engineering!

Today, his son who is a licensed pilot runs the company and is now leading a move to export their unique range of cars, which now enjoy patronage from local celebrities and others.

Below: Links to the videos and audio interviews I found on the web in my search late last year (2015)

http://africarm.org/an-insight-into-the-world-of-kantanka-automobiles-the-history-present-and-the-future-2824/

http://www.aljazeera.com/news/africa/2014/08/ghana-talented-but-ignored-inventors-2014823191921173432.html

http://www.hulkshare.com/africarmorg/bbc-and-apostle-safo (BBC World Report – Audio Podcast)

http://africarm.org/apostle-dr-kwadwo-safo-creativity-184/

http://africarm.org/report-by-aljazeera-after-their-visit-to-apostle-dr-kwadwo-safo-in-ghana-2630/

http://www.ghbase.com/get-ready-kantanka-care-series-hit-roads-soon/

http://africarm.org/bbc-overwhelmed-by-apostle-dr-safos-creativity-348/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9D9bD_DX5k&feature=player_embedded&list=PLgGkzD1gCVOg4hXEHCD15ZMGVxf6paQHQ (Kantanka Inventions exhibitions)

It’s amazing that Nigerians and Africans are not celebrating this guy, and sending people to learn from him!!!

Handle Your Problems Without Drama!

One Yoruba saying I really LOVE goes thus:

Gbogbo alangba lo da inu de ile. A ko mo eyi ti inu nrun.

Literal Translation:
Since all lizards go around with their stomachs on the ground, we cannot tell which one is suffering from stomach trouble.

Contextual Translation:
The fact that others are not screaming to your hearing about the challenges they are facing in their lives does NOT mean they have none. So stop thinking you are the only one with problems and that others are better off, or have no clue what you’re going through.

Quite often there will be some who not only know what you’re feeling, because they’ve been down that road before…

However even those persons may actually – at that point in time- be going through an even worse experience, but have TRAINED themselves to take it in their stride, and use it as a stepping stone to achieve their goal.

These thoughts often come to my mind every time I come across people who readily complain about their inability to have one or more things they want in life, and who choose to moan and complain about how unfair life is, INSTEAD of devoting intelligent, creative effort t think up viable ways to turn their circumstances around while seeking help from the Creator via prayer.

It has been my experience that those who complain in this manner the most, are often people who are actually situated in socioeconomic environments that afford them MUCH greater access to multiple comforts, conveniences and benefits.

In other words, these people are often living in more conducive circumstances compared to others who are NOT complaining.

I argue, and historical evidence abounds to back it up, that for every bad experience YOU find yourself having, someone out there will have gone through, or is currently going through something that is MUCH worse.

The fact that you may not be aware of it is no justification for you to assume it is not happening. Indeed, as I mentioned above, it could be happening to someone around you, that you see everyday, but s/he may choose to deal silently – and courageously – with it, instead of falling apart and burdening everyone around with the problem.

That is not to say one should not ask for help or support, or seek outlets for venting. That can be therapeutically beneficial at times.

What I am however against is adopting the disposition of a victim or trying to make yourself look like you’re suffering more than you should.

Like I always tell people I coach, you will NEVER be presented with a challenge in your life that will be beyond your ability to overcome it. All you need to do is harden your resolve and focus on finding a viable solution to the problem. That mind set will NEVER fail you.

But while you’re passing through that phase, the whole world need NOT know about it. They have their own problems to worry about – and to be honest, no one is likely to give you an award or pat on the back for knowing how to moan and complain about how badly life is treating you.

So, get real: Take a cue from the lizards mentioned in the Yoruba quote I began this piece with.

Choose to be discrete about how you share information about whatever you think your pains or difficulties are. You are better off working to eliminate them and THEN offering to share HOW you did it with others who may be facing similar issues.

That way you add VALUE to the world: which will make people want to have you around. No one wants a complainer for a friend. They may not say it, but they most certainly THINK IT!

I’ll end this piece by sharing a quote from Jim Rohn, which perfectly captures the mind set I always adopt in dealing with adversity, and which I recommend anyone one who wants to become UNSTOPPABLE adopt as well:

Learn to hide your need from the world and show your skill.” – Jim Rohn

Simple and easy to remember isn’t it?

Yeah…but it is sooooo tough to apply.

Yet those who master the DOING of it end up with the uncanny ability of being UNSTOPPABLE.

That’s what I AM….

What will YOU be???

CEO Spotlight Interview VIDEO: With Efe Ohwofasa, UK Based Nigerian born Speaker, Biz Coach & Consultant

Watch the video version of the 3rd edition of Tayo Solagbade’s CEO Spotlight Interview Series below

 

Click here to download the full PDF version which contains the text based version of the interview.

 

Click the link/image below to download the PDF version of my interview with Efe. I’m sure you’ll find it useful reading.

You Need an Experience Sharing Habit to Succeed More…in Career, as a Parent & in Life!

In this article, I explain what drives me to keep using my writing to share my experience based knowledge, ideas and insights on various areas of life, and why doing the same thing can help you succeed in your chosen occupation, as well as in parenting your kids!

It is my vision to be the best father possible to my kids, so that I can spare them needless pains of self-discovery I have had to suffer, and
endure, in arriving/evolving my adulthood.

A lot of what I do in coaching young people, and my kids, is greatly
influenced by the knowledge and memory of the pains visited on me because I got VERY little in form of proactive preparation for the REAL WORLD of the society into which I was born…until it was almost too late.

Instead I’d been trained to focus of developing my academic genius almost
without regard for my other abilities and with little or no effort being
made by those who raised me to ALERT me to the shocking contradictions extant in Nigerian society.

Now, I’m not trying to blame anyone, but like I’ve told relevant persons, I am determined to make sure I do a MUCH better job of preparing my kids to face the REAL WORLD…

And when they do begin their journey, I intend to be THERE, always ready to give them the needed support without making them dependent on me, until they can carry on by themselves.

In the recent photos taken during our 2016 Lagos Bar Beach New Year celebration outing, five of my kids appear I.e 2 girls (6 and 9 years old respectively), and 3 boys (the 2 older ones are
12 and 14 years old respectively…while the little man will clock 2 years in
April). Click here to see the photos in the article I wrote.

It is instructive to note, that one child – the eldest in fact – is missing from the photos.

In other words the kids are 6 in total. He is my first son – Fela, and is 16 years old.

He did not go on that outing with us because he had to join his mother to take one of the Cockerels sent to me by a client, as a gift to his maternal grandmother.

Click the link below to see the 2016 Calendar I sent out as a GIFT to all my newsletter subscribers in December.

Click here

On pages 4 and 8 of the calendar, you’ll see Fela, in a pose with the others – excepting the little man (Tayo Solagbade Junior).

These kids are the ones who inspire me on the home front, to do what I do the way I do it, especially with regard to my Best Practice Parenting Advocacy.

Going further, and by way of interest, the above mentioned 2016 Calendar features a quote by Burt Dubin, which I put there as a reminder of how far I’ve come in my journey to success as an entrepreneur.

You see, just like I am passionately driven to be the best father I can be to my kids, I also remain unequivocally committed to making the most of myself vocationally and professionally.

In this regard, I have found Burt Dubin’s work to be of especially great value to my socio-psychological development towards achievement of my valued goals.

Like I’ve told Burt many times, his words/writings have inspired me for over a decade: Since way back in 2000, when I discovered him – and his famous Speaking Success System – via a series of classified ads in Michael Angier’s Success Digest newsletter!

Many MANY times, over the years, I’ve re-read Burt’s words to keep myself motivated to continue despite the delays and setbacks I suffered in trying to achieve my goals.

For instance, when I relocated to Benin Republic on 1st April 2013, I used a quote I found in one of Burt’s write-ups, to stay focused on my goal, by putting up an image version of it on my website then hosted on my spontaneousdevelopment.com domain (which later became defunct at 9 years, in 2014).

That same quote is the one I’ve put up on the cover of the above linked calendar.

The inspiration I’ve derived from reading the works of accomplished experts like Burt Dubin, Napoleon Hill, Zig Ziglar, Les Brown, Robert Kiyosaki, Wole Soyinka and Jim Rohn, is what encourages me to keep doing my own writing, sharing my own ideas and stories, in the
hope that they might serve as useful and timely inspiration for some other person(s) when they need it.

I hope that what I’ve written here will make you give serious consideration to sharing your own ideas and stories for others – includind your kids – to learn from.

No. 227: CEO Spotlight Interview With Efe Ohwofasa, UK Based Nigerian born Professional Speaker, Business Growth Coach and Marketing Consultant [FREE PDF – VIDEO COMING SOON]

[UPDATE: VIDEO NOW LIVE – CLICK HERE]

In the second issue of this interview series, my guest was Burt Dubin, US based veteran mentor of some of the world’s highest paid speakers.

One of the points I noted in the introductory notes was that despite that fact that he is 91 years old, he remains as active as ever, especially as a mentor to speakers. In that regard, I pointed out that Efe Ohwofasa was/is being mentored by Burt Dubin himself!

Efe Ohwofasa is a UK Based Nigerian born Professional Speaker, Business Growth Coach and Marketing Consultant with an amazing rag to riches story.

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Date: Monday 11th January 2016
No: 227
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CEO Spotlight Interview With Efe Ohwofasa, Efe Ohwofasa, UK Based Nigerian born Professional Speaker, Business Growth Coach and Marketing Consultant [FREE PDF – VIDEO COMING SOON]
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and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly

traveling across the West African region.

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and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical DevelopmentManager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical
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In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerise manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’

competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy.

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But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

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No Matter How Bad Things Look You Can’t Claim to Believe In an Almighty God and Accept Gloomy Predictions for YOUR Life!

This is sad, and it needs to STOP:

I am seeing LOTS of “broken” men and women on and off the web…!

Recognizable from their “panic-fueled” words and actions, these people are obviously allowing gloomy predictions from dooms-day forecasters, to make them adopt a NEGATIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE towards perceived impending hard socioeconomic times, and it saddens/pains me so much.

I wonder how, with all the religious beliefs we profess in an ALL powerful creator, we can so easily forget that with FAITH in HIM nothing can defeat us?

How can a self proclaimed believer not know that the Creator can turn his/her circumstances around for the better, regardless of obstacles that may be put in his/her way?!

Too many people are allowing themselves to be led into the defeatist mindset that they should simply dig in and expect the worst in the New Year

What misguided sentiments, from the same people who claim to worship a God that can do ALL things!

If you really believe in the Creator, how come you so readily accept that the worst can happen to you – a believer! – because some people said so??!!

You fail to realize you are a spiritual being with great powers to use what you THINK to influence your physical reality!

Negative thoughts and confessions can – and do -become self fulfilling prophesies. The fact that you cannot see the process does NOT mean it’s not happening. There are laws set by the Creator to guide occurrences in the spiritual universe, by rewarding each person according to the QUALITY of his/her thoughts.

That was why Napoleon Hill wrote in Think & Grow Rich: “You can literally think yourself into disaster” – if you adopt a Negative Mental Attitude.

Some people are actually working towards the above right now, from what I see them doing and saying!

The Creator I believe in is NOT a God of scarcity, but of unending abundance…but He only rewards those who ACT with faith to achieve their goals! – Tayo K. Solagbade

It is at times like these that TRUE believers are identified, and the pretenders exposed.

What many are doing and saying today makes me wonder if they have considered the kind of example they are setting for their kids.

In case they don’t know, it is a BAD one, and kids will be the worse off for it, because they will lack the right mental attitude to deal with hard times!

Instead of – for instance -squeezing the fun out of your life by going into “hibernation mode” via mindless cutting of your spending in ways that threathen your socio-psychological well being(!), why not challenge yourself to explore NEW and IMPROVED ways to boost your income/earnings???

Why not do the above while praying to YOUR Creator, that you claim to believe in, for the wisdom and insights to succeed with your bold plans???

Isn’t that what one who is the “child” of an OMNIPOTENT Creator would be expected to do???

As the saying goes, “A Lion cannot give birth to a lamb”: Whose child are YOU?

I stopped being religious in 1989 (over 2 decades ago).

Instead I’ve over time developed myself spiritually to successfully connect with the Creator so as to make the most of myself in life, no matter my circumstances.

In that process I discovered the truth about why I must never make the mistake of confessing negatively anywhere, or at anytime.

That is why I will continue to be a source of information, education, encouragement and inspiration to ALL who need it, now and into the never ending future!!!

What about you?

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Take Your Kids Out to Experience The REAL WORLD of Your Society [True Story: A Last Minute New Year’s Outing with my Kids to the Bar Beach via Public Transportation in Nigeria’s Lagos]

You take it for granted, but your kids don’t have a clue about it – even though they WILL have to deal with the reality in future.

I’m talking about everything you have to do, to provide for them and/or to pursue your goals in life.

That includes the STREET SMARTNESS to move around in YOUR society, without getting lost, losing money or possessions…or worse, falling victim to fraudsters, scammers and the like.

You know how to do all that today, having grown up in society learning from your mistakes and those of others. But do your kids have the same competence?

Can you confidently let them go out of your home, ALONE, without worrying about them till they return?

If you said NO, then this article suggests what you can do to equip them to develop the competence that will give you THAT peace of mind!

Remember what it was like when you went on your first “trip” away from home without your parents? How nervous and/or scared were you?

Right. I doubt any of us found it easy.

Yet most of us rarely consider that our kids will one day have to find their own way in the real world.

Evidence of this is seen in the way we let them move around in chauffeured cars, or hired taxis etc. We think of what is involved too simplistically, from our perspectives as adults who have already mastered the process – and fail to put ourselves in the shoes of our kids.

They do not have the benefit of access to our reservoir of YEARS of experience based insights to tap from for decision making!

This is why I write my articles on Best Practice Parenting – to warn parents who may not be aware – of the need to take deliberate conscious steps to give their kids real world relevant exposure to, and experience of various aspects of life that they will eventually have to deal with.

As usual I practice what I preach. Like I always say, no matter how successful you become in life, the success you achieve as a parent will ALWAYS be the most important success of all. Fail as a parent, then you’ve failed as a person – this is my belief.

In this article I share photos from an outing I deliberately took my kids on…for the New Year celebration…on Saturday 2nd January 2016

It was meant to give them yet another dimension of real world relevant education I’ve been taking them through in their Personal Achievement Coaching.

We’d talked about going to the beach for weeks before then. But each time something always happened to make us shelve the idea.

However, my 2 daughters, who had no conscious recollection of all the previous family outings we’d had on the beach (because they had been too young back then) remained insistent.

That morning, after initially telling them I needed to rest, I finally gave in and we began cleaning up the house.

One big concern had been what to do about the 4 remaining Cockerels (from the 9 delivered to us as part-payment by a client who signed up for my Sales and Marketing Coaching program on New Year’s day), which needed to be delivered to buyers.

Eventually we found a way to pack them into one of the rooms in a large wooden box.

Then we cooked a large quantity of jollof rice, with cubed meat, and soon got on our way.

1. Do your kids know how to move around by local transportation?

None of the kids had ever ridden on the famous Lagos BRT (Bus Rapid Transit) buses. So when I announced we would be going to Victoria Island and back via the BRTs, they were excited.

I felt it was important to let them compare traveling via BRT with going in private car as well as the rickety local transport buses.

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Apart from discovering that the BRTs were more spacious, more comfortable, and FASTER, the kids were shocked to find (when buying their tickets) that the BRTs were 50% cheaper!

For instance, the local CMS bus conductor we spoke with on our way to the BRT terminal had told us the fee was N300 per head. We ended up paying only N150 [NB: Official exchange rate is N200 to $1 USD, but black market is about N270 to $1 USD]

This was an important lesson I hammered into their heads i.e. the fact that the benefits superior comfort and speed do NOT necessarily have to come at a higher cost!

Indeed, as most people who work on the Island will confirm, many car owners find it makes more sense to go via BRT and leave their cars at home. Not only do they expend less money, they also save precious energy and time too from driving their own cars in the troublesome Lagos traffic – which NEVER affects the BRTs, since the latter have their own lanes!

Below: It’s NOT easy to take steady shots while in a fast moving BRT bus…so I ended up with several blurred images. What I offer below are the best I could salvage from the lot.  I must say though that I really missed my Blackberry 9015 Pearl camera. In this kind of situation, it NEVER failed me!

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2. We got off the BRT at the popular CMS bus stop, and I found myself forced to give in to the need to ease myself in a public toilet, that was (mercifully) located just at the edge of the jetty.

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Er…we tried HARD to ignore the “messy” environs during our short stop over here – I was to their right, after easing myself. We spent some time watching people get on the speed boats behind us get transported to the rig. One of the boat’s engines stalled just before we left, and another was dispatched to help out.

I took that opportunity to tell my kids about my trip across the Atlantic Ocean in 1999, on my way back from Cameroon’s Douala. It was past midnight and our motor boat engine propeller got caught in a mass of water hyacinth right in the middle of the sea. It took the boat man over 1 hour to get it free, before we could continue our 12 hour journey to Oron in Nigeria. During that time, I said all sorts of prayers…lol! Click here to read the full story.

 

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A few thoughts crossed my mind while I was in there e.g. where did the “flushed” stuff go?

The arrangement I saw there suggested it all went into the Lagoon…but I refuse(d) to believe that!

What do you think….???

Trust kids – by the time I came out, THAT was the first thing they asked me: “Tayo, where does all the poo poo go?

My answer: “I haven’t the slightest clue!”…then we all burst out laughing, because we were ALL thinking the same thing….:-))

Is someone from Lagos state government reading this?

If YES, it would not be a bad idea if you guys check out that public toilet facility and ensure what’s happening there is not something that could cause a major health problem.

This is after all the “Centre of Excellence!”

3. When we arrived at the Bar Beach, I got a rude reminder of the fact that I’d not visited the beach or even the Island since BEFORE I relocated to Benin Republic in April 2012.

Indeed the last time I was on the beach, with the family was back in December 2011.

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A LOT has changed since then, especially due to the efforts made by the government to control the flooding from the sea, which sometimes covered the roads and even swallowed the lower floors of buildings close tot he beach.

As a result, the beach we knew was no longer accessible, having been sealed off using a barrier setup by the construction company engaged to put in the reinforcements to check the waves and erect structures on various parts.

The kids were disappointed.

We were forced to join other families who had resigned themselves to playing on the narrow strip of concrete left accessible.

Left with no alternative, especially since we arrived there after 5p.m, we made the best of what there was to be had.

After they gobbled up the jollof rice (including half of mine!) the kids went for ice creams, drinks, horse riding (our smallest member VERY reluctantly!), till night fell.

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The girls were the main agitators all through that outing: they wanted a horse ride, so I let them have it. Pity the photos of them actually riding away turned out blurred (Once again, I miss my Pearl 9105 camera).

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They kept asking for one treat or the other, and I made a point of letting them have it, to the intermittent consternation of the boys :-))

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Then we began strolling around the whole place, taking photos, chatting, just to get some variety. Like I said, we just had to make the best of what we had…lol!

 

NB: The beach was to our left…notice the fence

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BELOW: Tayo Solagbade Junior – Protesting vigorously and with real terror in his eyes, as he was being put on the horse he’d just watched his sisters dismount from! He had the same reaction to the Cockerels we brought home until they were down to the last one, at which point he got bold enough actually touch it…!

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The rest of the clan have a nickname they coined for him which I’m NOT at liberty to share here. Here he is after we finally got him to stay long enough on the horse to have his photo taken (phew!)

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By 7.30p.m, the girls were still saying “let’s wait a little longer” when I reminded them the last BRT would leave by 8p.m – meaning we would have to take the local buses if we were late.

That got their attention: none of them wanted to go back in the small, rickety, cramped buses.

We hired a Keke Marwa (commercial tricycle) to take us back to the TBS (Tafawa Balewa Square) BRT terminal, and boarded a BRT back to our locality.

The kids were especially excited on mounting this return bus because it was one of the new ones, and the air conditioning as well as on board TV was still fully functional.

They were glued to the TV for most of the trip, as different content flashed across its screen – including music videos, promos, news, interview etc.

Any doubts I had that they understood the news reports in particular were however cleared when – after we got back home – I heard them tell their mom about the report about a lady who got her finger cut off by robbers who wanted her gold ring!

By the time we went to bed, I reflected on the day’s events, and noted with satisfaction that a lot of what we’d seen/done had prompted the kids to ask questions that provided ME a good opportunity to give them information & tell them TRUTHS.

A good example was the truth about how to move around safely in the real world of our society, and what to look for before asking for directions; who to ask for directions; where to ask for directions etc.

These may seem obvious to us as adults, but in a place like Lagos, our kids in their innocence will rarely realize asking questions in the wrong manner can make dubious characters focus on you as a potential victim or target!

My purpose is to let my kids have a DIRECT experience of, and exposure to what happens in society daily, in a way that will prepare them physically, psychologically and emotionally, to move around confidently, and successfully on their own.

School cannot teach them that.

Neither can reading of books.

They simply need to go out and DO IT.

What better way for them to do so, than with their own parent(s)!

PS: When we eventually relocate to Benin Republic’s Cotonou, we’ll be doing something similar, to get the kids familiar with moving around in THAT society.

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