Self-Devpt. Nuggets™

In this article, I explain what drives me to keep using my writing to share my experience based knowledge, ideas and insights on various areas of life, and why doing the same thing can help you succeed in your chosen occupation, as well as in parenting your kids!

It is my vision to be the best father possible to my kids, so that I can spare them needless pains of self-discovery I have had to suffer, and
endure, in arriving/evolving my adulthood.

A lot of what I do in coaching young people, and my kids, is greatly
influenced by the knowledge and memory of the pains visited on me because I got VERY little in form of proactive preparation for the REAL WORLD of the society into which I was born…until it was almost too late.

Instead I’d been trained to focus of developing my academic genius almost
without regard for my other abilities and with little or no effort being
made by those who raised me to ALERT me to the shocking contradictions extant in Nigerian society.

Now, I’m not trying to blame anyone, but like I’ve told relevant persons, I am determined to make sure I do a MUCH better job of preparing my kids to face the REAL WORLD…

And when they do begin their journey, I intend to be THERE, always ready to give them the needed support without making them dependent on me, until they can carry on by themselves.

In the recent photos taken during our 2016 Lagos Bar Beach New Year celebration outing, five of my kids appear I.e 2 girls (6 and 9 years old respectively), and 3 boys (the 2 older ones are
12 and 14 years old respectively…while the little man will clock 2 years in
April). Click here to see the photos in the article I wrote.

It is instructive to note, that one child – the eldest in fact – is missing from the photos.

In other words the kids are 6 in total. He is my first son – Fela, and is 16 years old.

He did not go on that outing with us because he had to join his mother to take one of the Cockerels sent to me by a client, as a gift to his maternal grandmother.

Click the link below to see the 2016 Calendar I sent out as a GIFT to all my newsletter subscribers in December.

Click here

On pages 4 and 8 of the calendar, you’ll see Fela, in a pose with the others – excepting the little man (Tayo Solagbade Junior).

These kids are the ones who inspire me on the home front, to do what I do the way I do it, especially with regard to my Best Practice Parenting Advocacy.

Going further, and by way of interest, the above mentioned 2016 Calendar features a quote by Burt Dubin, which I put there as a reminder of how far I’ve come in my journey to success as an entrepreneur.

You see, just like I am passionately driven to be the best father I can be to my kids, I also remain unequivocally committed to making the most of myself vocationally and professionally.

In this regard, I have found Burt Dubin’s work to be of especially great value to my socio-psychological development towards achievement of my valued goals.

Like I’ve told Burt many times, his words/writings have inspired me for over a decade: Since way back in 2000, when I discovered him – and his famous Speaking Success System – via a series of classified ads in Michael Angier’s Success Digest newsletter!

Many MANY times, over the years, I’ve re-read Burt’s words to keep myself motivated to continue despite the delays and setbacks I suffered in trying to achieve my goals.

For instance, when I relocated to Benin Republic on 1st April 2013, I used a quote I found in one of Burt’s write-ups, to stay focused on my goal, by putting up an image version of it on my website then hosted on my spontaneousdevelopment.com domain (which later became defunct at 9 years, in 2014).

That same quote is the one I’ve put up on the cover of the above linked calendar.

The inspiration I’ve derived from reading the works of accomplished experts like Burt Dubin, Napoleon Hill, Zig Ziglar, Les Brown, Robert Kiyosaki, Wole Soyinka and Jim Rohn, is what encourages me to keep doing my own writing, sharing my own ideas and stories, in the
hope that they might serve as useful and timely inspiration for some other person(s) when they need it.

I hope that what I’ve written here will make you give serious consideration to sharing your own ideas and stories for others – includind your kids – to learn from.