Self-Devpt. Nuggets™

Life is full of ups and downs. Quite often, to get to the top, we first have to endure going DOWN, and having to exert ourselves to climb back up and BEYOND where we originally fell from.

Challenges we face will come in various forms. In order to qualify for the reward of success we seek in life, we will have to take them on, and overcome.

Haters, whether they know it or not, are helpers of those they hate ON. The key is for the HATED to understand this, and use it to his/her advantage.

Jim Rohn advised: “Be grateful for adversity, for it forces the human spirit to grow… He explained that there cannot be achievement in the absence of adversity…we have to achieve IN SPITE of adversity, if we are to truly succeed.

This is why complaining never helps. When haters turn their lenses on you, and begin to viciously backstab or openly castigate you, that will be the time for you to be at your adrenaline boosted best.

When haters see the relish with which you welcome their advances, the pleasure they get from doing what they do greatly diminishes. I know this because Ive seen it in them.

But that’s not all you can do.

Wear Haters Down With Tenacity

If you follow my advice and double your efforts at doing whatever it is you do, which haters envy or resent you for, be sure that sooner than later, they WILL give up on you.

How Can I Be So Sure About This?

It’s because I’ve had to battle haters in different shapes and forms most of my life. Right from the age of ten, I experienced what it meant to be a “target”. Initially, I used to get visibly upset, and over the years I continued being that way.

But during my 7 year stay in Guinness Nigeria, the efforts of one particular hater, to bring me down, while I was a Graduate Trainee just maturing into a shift brewer, led me to discover my true self.

I discovered that all I needed to do was apply the wisdom contained in the following quote:

“When your work speaks for itself. Don’t interrupt.” Henry Kaiser

Many people get worried when they discover that falsehood is being spread about them, by haters.

I always get amused when I see people react that way. And that’s because I consider it a good sign, when people are said to be talking about me.

Does not matter what they say. Like someone said “Talk good about me, or talk bad about me. So long as you talk about me!”

Even our young entertainers seem to understand this simple truth. In the lyrics of a song they did together, MI and TuFace Idibia sang “If nobody talks about you, then you are nobody…Stop existing, and start living…”

If haters go beyond just talking, and for instance, try destroying your works, don’t fret.

Just go right back and replace, restore or re-build whatever you can. But don’t just put it back. Take your time to make it better than it was when they struck.

Add useful improvements and some bells and whistles without going overboard. Then PROMOTE the new improved version, for the world to see. You can be sure they’ll be watching – and they’ll SEE that you’ve come back stronger and better.

And that’s why you’ll defeat them.
CAUTION: If you feel they could go so far as to harm you physically, informing security agencies and loved ones/associates would of course be advisable.

It is however noteworthy, that “petty haters”, which are incidentally the most common type in society, are frequently too fickle minded to carry out physical attacks even if by proxy, (though they might contemplate or brag to others about it amongst themselves).

Summary

Let me tell you a secret: Haters are basically people with “loser” mentalities. They lack faith in themselves. This makes them resent others who act with faith in themselves to achieve what the haters fear to aim for.

Now, because haters lack self-esteem, they do not have the emotional or mental resilience to SUSTAIN their efforts in doing ANYTHING – including hating!

Once it appears that what they are doing is not working, they soon get tired, and ultimately frustrated.

This is the part I like best: If you keep treating haters the way I recommend, they WILL, over time, LEARN to steer clear of you. Indeed, when their “peers”, who do not yet “know” you, suggest going after you, the haters who have “experienced” your relentlessness, will strongly advise their colleagues not to waste their time!

And that’s the key to beating haters: You don’t need to engage them in a war of words. Don’t even acknowledge they exist by trying to reason with them. They are BENEATH you, and not worthy of your conscious attention.

Simply focus on doing what you do, and keep doing it better, and more intelligently.

In the end, YOU will WIN!