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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others. Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organisations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners). Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™, the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook, and developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator - as well as the increasingly popular Monthly Poultry Farm Manager app. On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, writes and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, in the French Speaking Benin Republic on the first lap of his slow travels across the West African region. His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details). When he's not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog - on which he also publishes previews of paid issues of The Farm CEO™ Newspaper (www.thefarmceo.net), in addition to his FREE Weekly Public Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter - which he uses to promote Burt Dubin's Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts across the African continent. Visit Tayo's Flagship Performance Improvement website to download over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity. Join Tayo's international community of fans on his Flagship MS Excel Heaven Facebook page (click here). You can also connect with him via Twitter (@tksola).

PII 152[TRUE STORY]: Seize Every Opportunity to Close a Sale: Too Many Things are Fighting for Your Prospect’s Money – Bonus Commandment No. 2

To succeed in selling ANYTHING, you must develop the discipline to smartly convert sales leads to money you want. In this second bonus commandment, I share another true story to illustrate how to use a WMS to achieve selling success.

This story however has an interesting twist, because the prospective buyer came back to me (days after we’d spoken and he’d failed to take up an offer I emailed to him) to say he’d been robbed of his phone, laptop and other devices (including online banking token)!

Yet he told me he STILL wished (despite getting robbed only days earlier) to purchase the software he’d enquired about, based on the promo offer I’d made to him!!

Talk about a Motivated Buyer! This guy was an excellent example of one.

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PII 152[TRUE STORY]: Seize Every Opportunity to Close a Sale: Too Many Things are Fighting for Your Prospect’s Money – Bonus Commandment No. 2

To succeed in selling ANYTHING, you must develop the discipline to smartly convert sales leads to money you want. In this second bonus commandment, I share another true story to illustrate how to use a WMS to achieve selling success.

This story however has an interesting twist, because the prospective buyer came back to me (days after we’d spoken and he’d failed to take up an offer I emailed to him) to say he’d been robbed of his phone, laptop and other devices (including online banking token)!

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Yet he told me he STILL wished (despite getting robbed only days earlier) to purchase the software he’d enquired about, based on the promo offer I’d made to him!!

Talk about a Motivated Buyer! This guy was an excellent example of one.az-back

NB: On TayoSolagbade.com I have retained the N200 to $1 USD exchange rate with which I launched international sales online for my flagship products, in 2013. That’s why the ExcelVB Poultry Farm Manager which sells for $375 USD, is available to buyers paying with Naira within the country, for N75,000.0 Naira. 

Like I said in my 10 Commandments of Web Marketing for Business Success, the WMS designed and implemented the way I recommend, will often attract “Motivated Buyers”, to contact you about what you sell. At that point, it will then be up to you to do what is needed to close the sale,

That’s exactly what I did with this Farm CEO, who has now become the newest member of my Cost-Saving Farm Business Ideas club.

The screenshots below tell the story about how I led him to the final point, by empathizing with him.

 

This is where Psychology comes to play in selling. Your selling instincts need to be finely honed to accurately assess the psychological state of prospects and clients, when they come to you.

For instance, in the case of this Farm CEO, I immediately saw that he had conviction that my software could help him. This was why he still returned to ask for it, despite having only just suffered considerable material loss.

He was yet to buy a new smartphone and only had a small N3k phone he’d picked up after he got robbed. It lacking browsing capabilities and so he was not yet able to do mobile money transfers.

The truth was however that his priorities could change at any point in time. Apart from the need to replace the stolen items, other pressing money demanding tasks or events could force him to DELAY his plans to spend money on such a solution. A good example is if a medical emergency suddenly came up in his home.

The above considerations – and the fact that I’d also been robbed of similar devices less than a year ago – prompted me to send him a revised version of the promo offer he’d come back to enquire about. And I added zero cost bonuses as a gesture of goodwill, as my own small way of empathizing even more, with him.

But it was slightly higher priced – because, like I have told others who came to me (and as I stated in the 10 Commandments Series), I strive to make my offers with integrity.

I do this (making offers with integrity) by ensuring they are reasonably unique in terms of pricing, bonuses and other features. That way, the buyers knows that s/he is getting what is promised, and which differs from what came before, or what will come afterwards.

 

After I sent out the offer, it occurred to me that he might not see the email early enough, since he did not have ready access to Internet connection. To be fair to him, so as to give him the best opportunity to take it up, I called him up, and was not surprised to learn he had yet to check his email.

[TIP: Do you see how acting with due diligence can help you avoid losing useful selling opportunities? My advice: Don’t be too laid back and depend exclusively on indirect methods of communication like email, messenger etc. Sometimes it makes more sense to simply pick up your phone and CALL THE PROSPECTIVE BUYER so as to tell him/her about the juicy offer you’ve cooked up!]

So I read the email offer out to him on phone and asked if he wanted to take it up. He said he did, and wasted no time in asking me to text him my account details.

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But he noted that he would only be able to make the payment on Monday (we were speaking on Saturday p.m). This was because he had no means to make payments from his phone or via online banking.

For my time limited promo offer, this would not work – and I told him so. You see, the buyer ALWAYS has to make a commitment to tie down the offer as given.

Otherwise it would be revised upwards in price, and possibly the accompanying bonuses modified.

I made this clear to him, and suggested he talk to a trusted other (friend, colleague, relative or partner) to send in the payment on his behalf.

He initially said he could not immediately think of anyone. I replied that other buyers had often said the same, but after doing a little checking, were able to find someone to help.

NB: As long as they can trust you to refund the money to them, people who know you well will often accept to help you send payment to a 3rd party, if you ask them the right way. I know this because I have done it countless times – several of those involving having clients who have NEVER met with me, helping to send funds to 3rd parties they’d never met, on my behalf!

At this point he agreed to explore the alternative payment option I’d suggested, in order to take up the attractive multi bonus offer I made to him, before the deadline.

Sure enough, he got a friend to help make the payment – she did so twice

[TIP: To make things easy for him to convince the helper, I told him he could make the payment in 2 installments. That way, the person would not worry that the sum was large. By Monday, he would be able to get cash to the helper and she could then pay the balance. And that was how it went].

 

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Above: This SMS message failed to deliver to the Farm CEO due to a network glitch. I’d tried sending it after seeing the credit email alert shown below:

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Below: 2nd and final instalment – done by the client’s friend

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I am NOW preparing the products he ordered, by personalizing him using his name, business name and contact/other details he’s sent to me.

Those of you familiar with my work, most likely recall I ALWAYS personalize my products for each buyer. This is so as to better protect their investment in solutions I deliver to them.

I have shared this true story to illustrate the importance of taking timely action to close sales leads:

Act Decisively. Avoid  Hesitating or Procrastinating.

To paraphrase a common saying “Delay can be dangerous”.

You see, people often have a variety of expense channels competing for the money in their hands, pockets and accounts.

Make up your mind what profit margin to aim for with each product or service, BEFORE you start generating sales leads.

That way, when they eventually come to buy (and they will, if you use your WMS like I recommend), you will be ready to make IRRESISTIBLE offers that motivate them to make payment before they consider any other things they wish to spend their money on.

Fail to act as recommended above, and you could see potential sales fizzle out right before your eyes. THAT, is not something you want to happen, if you seek authentic selling success!

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PII 151[TRUE STORY]: Use Relentless Web Marketing to Achieve Selling Success Inspite of Adversity – Bonus Commandment No. 1

Let me begin by stating an important fact you need to keep in mind, if you want to succeed in winning profitable paying clients using MY Web Marketing System.

You may be doing your marketing, but it may not immediately give you the kind of results you want.

Then again, even when it is giving you the results you want, it may not continue to do so indefinitely, Typically, you may get to a point when it suddenly stops doing so as well as it used to, or even stops doing so completely – for a time.

As you can imagine, this would feel like a total disaster happening in your business life and you would wonder to yourself saying “I thought I had this all worked out before?”

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PII 151[TRUE STORY]: Use Relentless Web Marketing to Achieve Selling Success Inspite of Adversity – Bonus Commandment No. 1

Everything I share in this 10 Commandments of Web Marketing for Business Success series is experience based wisdom – insights from the University of Hard Knocks (UHK) aka LIFE – and NOT textbook theory.

Far from being something I picked up from ANY textbook or classroom, it’s something I conceived by applying myself diligently to thinking about and intelligently, analyzing failures and successes I experienced over years of marketing my multidisciplinary range of products and services.

Then I distilled those experiences into a system that I could put to use practically, to solve the problem of finding prospects or potential clients/customers and making them buyers.

Let me begin by stating an important fact you need to keep in mind, if you want to succeed in winning profitable paying clients using MY Web Marketing System.

You may be doing your marketing, but it may not immediately give you the kind of results you want.

Then again, even when it is giving you the results you want, it may not continue to do so indefinitely, Typically, you may get to a point when it suddenly stops doing so as well as it used to, or even stops doing so completely – for a time.

As you can imagine, this would feel like a total disaster happening in your business life and you would wonder to yourself saying “I thought I had this all worked out before?”

The truth is sometimes the lessons we need to learn are not given to us at once.

Sometimes we need to learn in phases. Success happens in levels or to put it differently, there are different levels of success.

You may be at a certain level of success, and assume you’re home free or made, when in reality there are still other lessons you need to learn. By the time those lessons become necessary; some people wrongly assume that it’s something entirely negative.

The wrong mental attitude they’ve adopted makes them think they’re subfreezing needlessly.

But the truth is that such an experience will often be an opportunity for growth.

It will equip you to deal with adversity mentally.

So your success in marketing is unlikely to simply be continuous and uninterrupted. Nothing in life is ever that way.

What is more likely to happen is that you will experience what are called PEAKS and TROUGHS in your marketing.

The PEAKS are the periods when you rise high and you achieve and things are going well.

But there will always be TROUGHS in the life of an entrepreneur. Those are the down times you have. But those down times usually will come because there is something you don’t yet know, that you need to know to add to the body of knowledge, skills and abilities you have.

So you need to maintain a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) during those periods when things are slow, when things are not looking good, because those are the periods when the lessons are there to be harvested.

It is very important to have the right mindset towards your marketing, so that you can make the most of the experiences you are going to have, because nothing is ever going to happen in a straight line.

In life, you cannot avoid adversity. Instead it is how you respond to adversity that determines how you succeed in the long run.

So, you need to make adversity your friend. Embrace it. Jim Rohn said “Adversity forces the human spirit to grow”.

I agree.

I’m a product of adversity – and every day I remain a student of adversity, learning continually.

It’s NOT easy, and it can be very psychologically an emotionally challenging, BUT I have found that I always emerge wiser and stronger afterwards – and that makes it worthwhile!

Now, here’s why I had to give the above admonition as a preamble…

It’s because if you do not have mental attitude described above, it will be near impossible for you to achieve the kind of authentic success I will now go on to describe, based on a recent true story, about the use of my Web Marketing System (WMS) to attract and win over buyers.

Late last year – specifically, on the 27th Nov. 2018 (2 months ago today) – I got an email from a Cameroonian gentleman based in Ghana, regarding my Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager Pre-Built Custom Automated Workbook software Application.

As he stated in the email screenshot below, he was looking to purchase the app in preparation for a Poultry Layer Farm Business Start-up in Ghana.

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Now, he’d gotten my email address (tayo at tksola dot com) from the demonstration video I’d published in my YouTube channel, announcing the PFM app to potential buyers searching for solutions of that kind.

Members of my Web Marketing for CEOs club will recall I’ve mentioned several times, the need to create promotional materials that include what is called a Call To Action – CTA.

There MUST be a purpose to your marketing. Your CTA will be used to effect that purpose.

Be it videos, audios or written materials/resources, you must ensure your message ends with a specific request, offer or invitation to the target audience that comes into contact with it. Something they have to do that will draw them into your sales process – resulting in a “Sales Lead”.

In my videos, I usually recommend at the end that the viewer interested in knowing more send me an email via tayo at tksola dot com or that s/he call me on either +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic).

This was what led the Farm CEO to send me the email he did.

In response, I told him to call me on my Nigeria line, so I could ask him a few questions (see email screenshot below).

I make this request as a strategy to screen out potential time wasters.

Put in place a screening system to help you make effective use of your time.

My experiences have taught me that some people (especially out here) can be mischievous. Some people may just call to chat you up for the sake of it, just to see what you will say.

I used to call people at my own expense in the past. But after I discovered that a growing number of those I was having to respond to were just curious, I realized I needed to modify my strategy.

Then in Nigeria, there are people who habitually engage in the silly practice of flashing – they call your line, let it right briefly, then end the call, so that YOU feel drawn to call back.

I used to do such call backs, but soon learned it was not worth my while. So I stopped and focused on identifying serious prospects by requesting they call me.

Since 2013, I’ve had enquirers call me, as a prerequisite for getting a response from me. I estimate that I close over 70% of sales opportunities that come to me through this process.

It actually makes them see that I take myself seriously, and that boosts my credibility + makes them come to me believing I can really help them.

My argument is this:

The products I sell are not very expensive, but they are not dirt cheap either. If you’re unwilling to spend the little amount that would enable you speak with me for 1 to 3 minutes on phone, I don’t see any reason why I should believe you are a serious potential buyer for my products that cost MANY times more!

Back to the Ghana based prospect:

When he got my email asking him to call me, he replied that he would and did so about a day later.

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I still recall that I was visiting my parents in their home when the call came in. Less than 5 minutes later, we were done. He’d given me the answers to my questions and had asked me how much the app cost.

In responding, I offered to make him a time limited discount offer.

He however declined, noting that he was still looking around, trying to make up his mind, and that he could not make any concrete buying decision until January 2019.

I encouraged him to take his time and we ended the call.

By this time, in line with my recommended best practice for Web Marketing, I had 2 important items of information from him, which equipped me to safely and cost-effectively follow up with him:

a. His Mobile Number:

This I plugged into my Phone Contacts and used to find him on WhatsApp

b. His Email Address:

This I added to my General Contacts who I periodically forward copies of my published newsletter

As you can see, there is a method to my Web Marketing “madness” :-)

My approach helped me check and confirm reasonably, that the prospect was to be taken seriously. Then I stored the 2 key contact details I would need to take him/her to the next level in MY sales process, and proceeded to WAIT for ideas to come to me.

As the year approached its end, I sent out newsletter broadcasts via WhatsApp and email.

One carried the download link to an Excel-VB Greeting Card Workbook that I’d adapted from a source version downloaded from the web.

I’d embellished the workbook with code that got it to do more, plus a floating form featuring my photo, logo and clickable command buttons – including one that opened an offer page for discounted signup for membership of my MS Excel Heaven VB Programming Club.

Just before the year ended, I sent all my past enquirers a GIFT PDF copy of the 4,000 word Case Study I got paid 2,500 Euros to write, by a European Union Funded NGO based in Holland. There was also an offer of a special MP3 audio podcast series.

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All of these were sent out using a clear no-strings-attached approach.

Recepients knew they were not being pressured to respond to anything, even as they took ownership of the FREE gif

[TIP] It is instructive to note, at this point, that I kept sending out my broadcasts, regardless of whether or not I got any responses. This is critical to successful selling. Marketing is the life blood of any business and it MUST happen continously, for the best chances of sales leads generation to be had.

I did some thinking, early in the New Year, and decided to send out a special FLASH PROMO offer of my Feed Formulation Bundle at 50% off with a deadline that expired midnight of the same day.

Why?

Because I knew most of those on my mailing list were Farm CEOs, or those aspiring, who had yet to purchase my Feed Formulation products.

Sometimes people tend to be ready at different times, to take up specific kinds of offers. Timing matters, in making offers.

When I sent out my offer, I got some responses – and was NOT surprised.

One of them was from the gentleman in Ghana…

The screenshots that follow below are self-explanatory, and show how I was able to successfully close THAT sale to him, using Guaranty Trust Bank’s Money Transfer (GTMT).

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Another Selling Opportunity Opened Up…

In an interesting turn of events (which I’d actually thought could occur) he came back – see screenshot below – while still expecting his payment to reach me, to ask about the PFM app which he had originally reached out to me for!

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You see, I’d offered him a different product (Ration Formulator software etc), which has a lower price tag, at a discount, to get my foot in the door, with the intention to them up sell the actual product he’d indicated interest t in to him.

Not surprisingly, he asked about THAT other product – the PFM – on his own.

This request from him gave me legitimate reason to then make him another offer, this time for the PFM.

Do you see now, why it always pays to keep an open and flexible mindset when marketing?

Never be too rigid in presenting your offers. Learn to watch the prospective buyer’s “body language” when you communicate with him/her. You can do this even when you are NOT physically with them. How they respond when you speak on phone, or even what they say in email replies or WhatsApp/Messenger chats can give you insights into how to get them to buy!

I’ve honed my selling instincts and skills in this regard for years and it has helped me get total strangers convinced enough to send me money from in and out of Africa, without EVER meeting me in person.

So this system I use, and recommend to you, works – if you know how to use it.

As a member of my club, the FREE coaching tutorials I publish (like this 10 Commandment Series) will reveal what you need to know. And you will be FREE to reach out to me for help in putting it to use.

The first step is for you to ensure you have a solution that your target audience wants and which they will consider worthwhile AFTER you deliver it to them.

This latter point (making sure they are HAPPY they bought from you) is critical to your building long term relationships with buyers: It which will guarantee opportunities for REPEAT sales to them in the long term.

Let me know if you have questions or require clarification on how to use the ideas I have shared in this piece.

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It provides experience based ideas, tips and insights for use by any persons engaged in business, who wish to achieve low to zero cost business marketing reach and impact by leveraging the the power of PC and Internet Technology.
It is NOW available in a specially bundled MP3 Audio and PDF Book package that can be downloaded online or accessed offline on a DVD delivered to you.
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1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc

2.Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.

Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.

EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.

Click here to watch a screenshot demonstration of the Excel-VB Driven Poultry Farm Manager I built for a client farm business in Ekiti state, South West Nigeria.

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PII 150: Stop Ancient Schooling: Your Child’s Success Depends on Her School’s Teaching Method [VIDEO: Jack Ma says “We need to stop training our kids for manufacturing jobs”]

If we do not change the way we teach, thirty years from now we will be in trouble.” – Jack Ma, former teacher turned Billionaire founder of AliBaba.com speaking at the 2018 World Economic Forum [Watch full video at the link provided later in this issue]

Today’s parents (especially those in Nigeria/Africa) NEED to understand and accept that the PC/Internet Technology Revolution has PERMANENTLY changed the way REAL EDUCATION can – and should – be done,

As a result the “formal schooling” you provide to your kids MUST be adapted to suit the new needs created in society, by the revolution, so that it can deliver real world relevant know-how to learners.
Otherwise it will continue to be a WASTE of your kids’ time, effort and abilities and YOUR money…

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Monday 15th  January 2019

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NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016.
 I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.

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View Tayo Solagbade's video tutorials and demonstrations on Facebook Productivity Tips, Web Marketing, and for his Custom MS Excel-VB driven software applicationsJoin the SD Nuggets community on Facebook.comConnect with Tayo on Twitter.comConnect with Tayo on Google PlusConnect with Tayo on LinkedIn.com

PII 150: Stop Ancient Schooling: Your Child’s Success Depends on Her School’s Teaching Method [VIDEO: Jack Ma says “We need to stop training our kids for manufacturing jobs”]

If we do not change the way we teach, thirty years from now we will be in trouble.” – Jack Ma, former teacher turned Billionaire founder of AliBaba.com speaking at the 2018 World Economic Forum [Watch full video at the link provided later in this issue]

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Today’s parents (especially those in Nigeria/Africa) NEED to understand and accept that the PC/Internet Technology Revolution has PERMANENTLY changed the way REAL EDUCATION can – and should – be done,

As a result the “formal schooling” you provide to your kids MUST be adapted to suit the new needs created in society, by the revolution, so that it can deliver real world relevant know-how to learners.
Otherwise it will continue to be a WASTE of your kids’ time, effort and abilities and YOUR money e.g kids will leave schools unable to meet employers’ requirements, and lacking the competence to function in self-employment – despite their years of formal schooling preparation!

One example of how PC/Internet technology is being used to effect new teaching methods is what is seen happening in the Math Tutorial video shown below – with a kid doing the teaching :-)

I NEVER knew this “Common Core Box” method for doing multiplication, yet in this short video a few minutes, I NOW DO. And I did so without leaving my home, at 5.20a.m right from my laptop.
 
The implication of the above, is that MOST of what is being taught in schools can, today, be effectively taught and learned via Smartphones.
Indeed, the FREE online video based learning website  – www.khanacademy.org already PROVES this to be possible, with millions of teachers, students and their parents using it to achieve top class quality (and VERY pocket friendly) learning, regardless of their location, anywhere in the world – including the poorest countries in the developing world.
 
Sadly, for MOST Nigerian/African kids, regardless of how expensive and fancy their schools are, their teachers are unlikely to embrace this approach to teaching – because they remain stuck in the past, holding on to archaic teaching methods that NO LONGER serve the world’s needs!
Little wonder that I am yet to meet ONE Nigerian teacher or school owner who was aware of www.khanacademy.org BEFORE I mentioned it to him/her. And that’s no surprise because their kind would feel threatened by such a platform that makes learners independent of teachers and empowers them to do more thinking rather than engage in rote learning (aka cramming), which the teachers favour!
 

China’s Jack Ma, 54 year old billionaire business owner (worth over $27.9 billion today) once earned as little as $12 per month as a teacher.

His inspiring classic rags to riches story about how he endured countless repeated failures to get where he is today, is well known.
Recently, Jack gave a speech in which he used his experience based insights to tell the world that WE NEED TO CHANGE THE WAY WE EDUCATE OUR KIDS.
It’s a speech I strongly believe EVERY parent, teacher, policy maker and even students need to hear.

Click here to watch this CNN video of him speaking at the World Economic Forum, in which he noted that “We need to stop training our kids for manufacturing jobs”.

Or watch the Youtube Video below:

Jack Ma is right.
More emphasis now needs to be placed by our schools, on teaching learners/kids especially, soft skills – thinking, creativity, innovation are qualities that will equip our kids to succeed in a world where KNOWING stuff is no longer enough, given the robot/automation/artificial intelligence driven nature of today’s societies.

The rest of the world is listening to Jack Ma…but Nigeria/(some countries in Africa) seem(s) NOT to be keen to do so!

I know this from studying trends in the evolution of education worldwide over the past decade – in line with my work on Best Practice Parenting.
Countries like Finland have been leading the way long before now, in this regard. Experts like Robert Kiyosaki have been screaming for decades that we need to change the way we teach kids and WHAT we teach them.
 
But Nigeria continues to lag behind. And out kids are leaving school often boasting few if at all any competencies that make them internationally competitive. And even locally, they struggle to find relevance.
 
I am a product of Nigeria’s schooling system and I know what it feels like to discover that what you learnt in school is NOT enough to help you excel or flourish to your full potential, outside paid employment in your own society.
This is why today, I earn a living using skills I never learne din school after I unlearned, and relearned a lot of the things I was taught in school.
It was a most painfully excruciating experience – especially due to the fact that I got mocked and ridiculed for years, by those with much less schooling than I had, for not being able to fend for myself and my family, inspite of my brilliant academic abilities, and qualifications.
That drove me to spend thousands of hours thinking about what was wrong in the education i’d received, and I also did lots of reading to learn what I was missing, until it clicked.
I realized what I lacked and proceeded to begin, slowly and painstakingly developing the needed competencies.

Today, my new self-taught abilities enable me earn income in ways that others have told me are ground breaking especially out here in Nigeria/Africa.

I am also able to repeatedly defy adversity and failure to bounce back to success, no matter what life throws at me – because I NOW POSSESS these abilities – none of which is taught in formal conventional schools!
 
That’s why I wrote my 62 page White Paper titled “Schooling is a Means to and End, and NOT an End In itselt” – see details of how to get your copy, below.

TRUE STORY: An Invitation from The Ministry of Youth and Social Development to Discuss My Paper Titled “Schooling Is a Means to an End and NOT an End In Itself”

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PII 132 – Part 2 of 2 [New Report] Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You, and Your Child – Best Practice Parenting Ideas

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  1. Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You & Your Child! [How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools]
  2. Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself [Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner-Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!]

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PII 149: Live, Sleep, Eat, Drink What You Do, to Achieve Success [VIDEO INTERVIEW of Ruthie Davis – Award Winning Shoe Designer]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the message contained in this excellent video interview by Babson College, of Ruthie Davis – an award winning shoe designer, who is an alumnus of the institution.
Now, in as much as the video is self-serving for the authoring institution, Ruthie’s message resonates greatly with me, because I KNOW, from my experiences as an entrepreneur that what she says is true. Her insights are accurate and can help others.
That is why I have chosen to share THAT video with you, to start off 2019, along with a verbatim text transcript I have prepared. Note also that I have added a link to a downloadable mobile friendly version of the video you can watch offline.
Here’s wishing you greater joy, success and fulfillment in 2019 and beyond!

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PII 149: Live, Sleep, Eat, Drink What You Do, to Achieve Success [VIDEO INTERVIEW of Ruthie Davis – Award Winning Shoe Designer]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE the message contained in this excellent video interview by Babson College, of Ruthie Davis – an award winning shoe designer, who is an alumnus of the institution.

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Now, in as much as the video is self-serving for the authoring institution, Ruthie’s message resonates greatly with me, because I KNOW, from my experiences as an entrepreneur that what she says is true. Her insights are accurate and can help others.
That is why I have chosen to share THAT video with you (see embedded version below), to start off 2019, along with a verbatim text transcript I have prepared.

Here’s the transcript, followed by the video:

Those who dream, we call DREAMERS.

Those who do, we call ENTREPRENEURS.

INTERVIEW – BABSON UNIVERSITY, USA

Ruthie Davis, MBA ’93
Award Winning Lead Designer and President Ruthie Davis Shoes

===Starts===
“I literally dream about shoes, all the time.

I live, sleep, eat, drink fashion.

It’s not something I separate. I’m like always designing.

Historically, both in ready to wear and in shoes and accessories, it has been men.

I’m kind of the new garde, which is “wait minute, why shouldn’t a woman know what a woman wants when it comes to footwear?”

I’m always telling young designers, who are very creative coming out of art schools:

“You’ve got to learn the business. In the world we live today, you can’t just sit in the corner and draw shoes, for example. You have to know how to market the shoes. You have to know how to sell the shoes. You have to know how to cost the shoes. You know…you don’t design into a vacuum.

To be an entrepreneur, you don’t have to be like myself – the LEAD entrepreneur.

You know, the people who work for me, they all have to be entrepreneurs. So it’s really a way of thinking. It’s an empowering way of thinking. It’s an accountability. It’s you can make a difference. It’s going to your job and not just thinking that you’re a cog in the wheel. It’s thinking like you could affect the wheel. You can innovate the wheel. You can make it a better wheel. That kind of thinking is so important for any type of job, any type of career – and especially design.

I think having my entrepreneurship background gave me that confidence that I could go out on a limb and innovate. “

===Ends===

Note also that I have added a link to a downloadable mobile friendly 3GP version  (3.34 MB) of the video you can watch offline (right-click here to get it). 

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Here’s wishing you greater joy, success and fulfillment in 2019 and beyond!

 

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[DVAM] HIGH‐CONFLICT CONTACT DISPUTES: EVIDENCE OF THE EXTREME UNRELIABILITY OF SOME CHILDREN’S ASCERTAINABLE WISHES AND FEELINGS – Family Court Review | An Interdisciplinary Journal

This research paper’s findings speak for themselves. It was authored by “a child psychiatrist who acts as an expert witness within the family courts of England & Wales“.

Here’s an excerpt from his conclusion that I found powerfully compelling, and highly noteworthy:

I conclude that courts might exercise caution when evaluating the views of children and young people in this situation, and emphasises that assessors should consider including at least one observation of the child at a prolonged visit to the NRP. Because of the new orthodoxy some parents may be tempted to misuse their child’s right to a “voice” in court in order to achieve their own ends. Practitioners who advise courts may need to be more aware of these difficulties– Kirk Weir, Child Psychiatrist and Author of the Reviewed Paper

I preview/link to it below, as a follow up to the preceding recommended article that discusses “when kids lie, why they lie etc (which is also linked to at the bottom of the page”.

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HIGH‐CONFLICT CONTACT DISPUTES: EVIDENCE OF THE EXTREME UNRELIABILITY OF SOME CHILDREN’S ASCERTAINABLE WISHES AND FEELINGS

Abstract

This article challenges an increasing orthodoxy regarding the weight which courts might place upon the expressed views of children in a specific situation—high‐conflict contact disputes. I am a child psychiatrist who acts as an expert witness within the family courts of England & Wales. I have conducted a statistical analysis of cases in which I have conducted assessments of children caught in such disputes between their separated parents.

Fifty‐eight children met the criteria for inclusion in the study—the child’s consistent opposition to contact with the non resident parent (NRP), despite the court having determined that there was no good reason to constrain contact.

My assessment routinely included attempted observation of the child at a visit with the NRP. Despite their stated views most children had a positive experience in those visits that took place, and despite the fact that most had not seen the NRP for a long time. Overall there was a statistical association between increased resistance to contact and the greater age of the child and the longer the time during which no contact had occurred.

However, the responses of children and young people were unpredictable and it was impossible to conclude that apparent maturity or intelligence was a guide to the reliability of their expressed resistance. The possible reasons for this unreliability are discussed.

I emphasize that my sample of children is unusual as many of the cases had involved serious, though unfounded, allegations of abuse. In addition most of the children showed indications of having become “alienated” from the NRP.

I conclude that courts might exercise caution when evaluating the views of children and young people in this situation, and emphasises that assessors should consider including at least one observation of the child at a prolonged visit to the NRP. Because of the new orthodoxy some parents may be tempted to misuse their child’s right to a “voice” in court in order to achieve their own ends. Practitioners who advise courts may need to be more aware of these difficulties.

Continue reading…

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1744-1617.2011.01414.x

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[DVAM] When children lie and why they lie and why people who work with separated families should know that they lie and why

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[DVAM] When children lie and why they lie and why people who work with separated families should know that they lie and why

The article previewed/linked below – authored by a US based Parental Alienation Expert is powerfully educative and informative. It provides elaborate real life examples to support its valid argument that kids can, and do lie (often coached by a naughty parent in dispute with a partner) when asked to “testify” in matters relating to their quarreling parents.

My experiences strongly convince me that MANY experts in this part of the world, who have to work with disputing partners with kids, often invest little or no time to READ and LEARN about this aspect  of issues they have to mediate in.

Quite often they are clueless about the REAL possibility that serious problems – like LYING – could be happening. This is why many literally brag when discussing their work, that they KNOW how to get the kids they interview to tell them the TRUTH. They fail to realize it is possible for the kids they interview to be coached to tell lies by one parent, against a target parent. This makes them prone to being sometimes hoodwinked and used, by a naughty manipulative, vindictive parent against the other parent.

The above is why I consider such experts (I wonder HOW they are recruited to play sensitive roles of this kind!) a danger to those couples (and their kids) that they have to work with.

Aside from my personal experiences and observations, this problem of kids lying when testifying is something that reports have shown (See some examples in Google) happens quite a lot, making it imperative that experts take pains to check for it, before any decision is made in mediating disputes.

This is why I am compiling and promoting articles like the one below, as widely as possible, for the attention of disputing couples, and any experts or professionals working with them. Kids are fickle minded and LOVE their parents.

A manipulative parent can use them to hurt the other, even if the child does not like it.

Read the article below to better understand that things are not often as straightforward as they may seem, where so called “child testimony” is concerned.

Failure to put these considerations into use when dealing with disputing couples with kids could lead to villification of an innocent partner!

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TITLE: When children lie and why they lie and why people who work with separated families should know that they lie and why

PREVIEW:

False allegations are a feature of family separation, especially when that separation is accompanied by high levels of conflict. Writing in the splendidly detailed and must have book for all mental health practitioners working with separated families – Parental Alienation – The Handbook for Legal and Mental Health Professionals, T W Campbell tells us

False allegations of CSA (Child Sexual Abuse) typically originate as rumours and can spiral out of control as the ensuing processes of rumour dissemmination gather greater and greater momentum. False allegations do not involve the malicious premeditation found in fabricated allegations (page 164)

Fabricated allegations however, are differentiated by Campbell as being

based upon premediated determination to direct allegations at an entirely innocent person (page 164)

Which is why, when we are working with separated families where such allegations are made, it is important to know how the allegation arose in the first place and then what impact the allegation had upon the concentric circles around the family. This allows differentiation and differentiation allows deeper understanding, of the nature of the allegations and why and how they arose.

Continue reading full article

https://karenwoodall.blog/2015/03/21/when-children-lie-and-why-they-lie-and-why-people-who-work-with-separated-families-should-know-that-they-lie-and-why/

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PII 148: Commandment No. 10 – You Shall Constantly Equip Yourself to Tackle Negative Competition [10 Commandments of Web Marketing for Business Success]

In this tenth and final commandment, I explain using several personal true stories and examples, how negativity from others – both those close to you, as well as people you may not even know or be consciously aware of – can cause potentially serious damage to you, in a way that could stop you from achieving the valued goal you set.

Dispense with any rose colored glasses through which you may be tempted to view the world. Some people, including those you love, may choose to make things difficult for you, as they observe your progress.

What you need to do is PREPARE yourself for that possible eventuality. Otherwise you could just end up getting derailed from achieving your dream.

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PII 148: Commandment No. 10 – You Shall Constantly Equip Yourself to Tackle Negative Competition [10 Commandments of Web Marketing for Business Success]

Unfortunately, it may be difficult to eliminate all the negative people from your life. Your mother or father, a business associate, a best friend or even your spouse might be a negative influence. And since any of these people have known you for years, they probably think of you in terms of your past experiences and not in terms of who you are today, or the person you can become.

The saying “A prophet has no honor in his own home” couldn’t be truer, Sometimes it’s easier to find support from a complete stranger. A stranger doesn’t carry preconceived notions about what you can or cannot do…everyone needs someone to believe in him or her, and those who are closest to you may not be the best people to fill that role.

The key is to find someone who does…Negativity works like poison in the bloodstream: If you give in to its power, it will weaken your confidence and kill your dream. Your goals are simply too important to let that happen.” – Cynthia Kersey, Author of UNSTOPPABLE 45 Powerful Stories of Perseverance and Triumph from People Just Like You

In this tenth and final commandment, I explain using several personal true stories and examples, how negativity from others – both those close to you, as well as people you may not even know or be consciously aware of – can cause potentially serious damage to you, in a way that could stop you from achieving the valued goal you set.

Dispense with any rose colored glasses through which you may be tempted to view the world. Some people, including those you love, may choose to make things difficult for you, as they observe your progress.

What you need to do is PREPARE yourself for that possible eventuality. Otherwise you could just end up getting derailed from achieving your dream.

In addition to experience based insights I offer in the MP3 audio and PDF transcript for this commandment, EVERY member of my Web Marketing for CEOs club also has FREE access to request help in implementing these ideas.

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[DVAM] Yes, sex is food, Nkechi Emmanuel tells married women – Here’s the URL for the ORIGINAL SOURCE of what I consider PURE WISDOM on relationships

Hmmm…something made me Google for more on this title/theme and suddenly I discovered what would appear to be the ORIGINAL source of the excellent thoughts I shared to my Facebook wall on Christmas Day December 25 at 6:20 AM (screenshot below):

 

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In line with my uncompromising stance on giving due attribution to the true originator of any ideas I choose to use or refer to, I NOW post the link to the authentic source below to acknowledge the AUTHENTIC author of what I consider PURE WISDOM on relationships:

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https://www.vanguardngr.com/2017/02/yes-sex-food-nkechi-emmanuel-tells-married-women/

PII 147: Narcissists Can Harm Those They Live With – Especially Children [What You Need to Know]

I’ve recently begun writing about Narcissism and how a Narcissistic person can cause great damage to others – especially his/her intimate partner and more importantly, ANY kids they have to parent.

Read PII 142: Ideas for Unmasking and Dealing With Narcissists Anywhere, Anytime [Featuring “Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions” – from HigherPerspectivesDotCom]

In fact the damage a Narcissistic parent can do to a kid, which I have seen firsthand, can be quite serious – which is why I’ve chosen to draw attention to it.

Sadly, Most of Those Responsible for Social Work Are Clueless About Narcissism – Yet The Words /Actions of Narcissistic Persons Often Influences Their Decision Making In Working With Such Person’s Families!

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PII 147: Narcissists Can Harm Those They Live With – Especially Children [What You Need to Know]

I’ve recently begun writing about Narcissism and how a Narcissistic person can cause great damage to others – especially his/her intimate partner and more importantly, ANY kids they have to parent.

Read PII 142: Ideas for Unmasking and Dealing With Narcissists Anywhere, Anytime [Featuring “Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions” – from HigherPerspectivesDotCom]

In fact the damage a Narcissistic parent can do to a kid, which I have seen firsthand, can be quite serious – which is why I’ve chosen to draw attention to it.

Sadly, Most of Those Responsible for Social Work Are Clueless About Narcissism – Yet The Words /Actions of Narcissistic Persons Often Influences Their Decision Making In Working With Such Person’s Families!

My resolve to do this stems from a scary discovery I have made, that MANY supposed experts/professionals/social workers I have come across out here seem to be completely unaware of what that serious personality disorder is, how to identify it in a person, and the damage such a person can do to those s/he relates within the home.

Their gross ignorance causes them to miss valuable opportunities to STOP the (often emotional/psychological) abuse being visited by a Narcissist particularly on the kids they parent – and also on the partners they co-parent them with (who they sometimes subject to Parental Alienation).

[NB: I argue, in a separate article to be published soon, that if a person is correctly assessed to be Narcissistic, if s/he decides to have kids, the case could be made for his/her parenting of such kids to be closely monitored to prevent possible harm to them.]

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Title: The Real Effect of Narcissistic Parenting on Children [Narcissists raise children who suffer from crippling self-doubt.]

Why does it matter if a parent is a narcissist? How does that hurt a child? You may be asking these questions if you are a person co-parenting with a narcissistic ex; someone raised by a narcissistic parent; one who is in a relationship with a narcissist; or maybe a divorce professional working on a case that involves a narcissistic parent. Given my research and clinical experience, I want to provide some education and awareness about how this disorder hurts children.

URL: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201802/the-real-effect-narcissistic-parenting-children

Author: Karyl McBride Ph.D. | The Legacy of Distorted Love

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I say the above from VERY personal experience with Narcissists in my relationship with a co-parenting Narcissistic partner and also as an offspring to a Narcissistic parent.

Neither of those experiences is one that I wish on my worst enemy (if I had anyone I thought of in that manner).

The Most Dangerous Tendency Narcissists Have Is Their Pathological Lying & Penchant for Re-Writing Your Real Life History to Suit Themselves

In other words, they tell cold blooded, brazen lies to your face, about what they did to you, as well as what happened between you and them, in ways that benefit them at your expense (making you look bad).

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The article previewed/linked below highlights a dilemma that a person in dispute with a Narcissistic partner is likely to face.
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Title: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SOMEONE LIES UNDER OATH

Preview: The opposing party started making wild accusations. She said I had been abusive. She said I was unsafe with our children. She said I took money. My ex-wife was literally re-writing our history and lying under oath.

How can I disprove something that never happened? Do judges really believe wild accusations with no proof? The worst part is that my soon to be ex-wife would take an event that actually happened and turn it into something it wasn’t. If we went to a family get together and the adults were drinking, now she was saying everyone was fall down drunk.

She is telling the kids I’m an alcoholic, and since they have seen me drink, they believe her. This is the worst sort of deception. What can I do?

URL: https://mymodernlaw.com/what-happens-when-someone-lies-under-oath/
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Not everyone can deal effectively with this kind of behaviour. Especially since Narcissists do what they do without remorse.

They simply have no capacity to feel for others. That’s why they speak and act without consideration for their impact on those they relate with.

Like I have said in the past, they have close to zero Emotional Intelligence. This makes them toxic – persons one would be better off not staying in prolonged contact with.

Imagine the challenge therefore, that persons who have to live with them – especially kids that have to be parented by them! – will face every single day.

And this is why I feel this is driven to share as much information and education about Narcissists, to enable others use self-education to empower themselves towards handling such persons they have to deal with in their lives,

This is more so as it relates to protecting kids from serious emotional damage that could stunt their development into healthy functioning adults.

The Narcissist and His Lies: How They’re Different [The psychology of deception and the narcissist’s skillful mirages]

I knew that he and I had a different relationship to the truth but I didn’t really understand it. We joked about it—how I was a moralist and he was more of a relativist—but I didn’t get what motivated him. Because he had been a lawyer for over thirty years, I chalked it up to the hidden costs of his profession—that peculiar zone that resides between truth and what might be true.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/tech-support/201808/the-narcissist-and-his-lies-how-theyre-different

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The articles previewed/linked in the body of this write-up are the latest in the series of recommended pieces I will feature on this theme.

At the risk of stating the obvious, Domestic Violence can be physical, verbal, as well as emotional/psychological.

The non-physical dimensions are the kind that readily occurs when a Narcissist is involved. Indeed, it is practically impossible for a Narcissist NOT to be abusive. In other words, they subject those around them to DV frequently through verbal, emotional/psychological means.

This is why those who have to relate with them need all the help they can get, to handle them effectively.

Watch out for more recommended articles to follow on this theme.

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