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To Coach Successfully, Don’t Tie People to Your Apron Strings

Coaching is ultimately about subtly putting ideas into a coachee (person-being-coached)’s head about who s/he is and what s/he can become or accomplish.

That may NOT sound very romantic, but THAT is what Coaching ultimately entails!

This is the reason why the best coaches are those who know how to make you BELIEVE you can do anything you set your mind to.

It is also why those coaches often succeed in getting a coachee to rebound from serious failures or setbacks that would keep others down, to resume his/her winning ways at even higher levels.

Sometimes however even the best coaches will not be able to help a coachee…

But that will often only happen when the latter is unwilling to accept the ideas the former ever so subtly puts into the latter’s head.

For instance, if a tennis player past the age that most active players are expected to be able to  compete effectively at world class level, wants to reach the Top 10 rankings, after having crashed out say 5 years earlier, s/he has to DISPENSE with the conventional wisdom that players enter a period of decline once they cross that certain age range.

S/he must also tune out advice from inevitable nay sayers: some will be former champions, veterans, even coaches, who will try to dissuade him/her from embarking on a futile journey.

Most importantly, s/he will likely need to exorcise his/her own demons in terms of self-doubt that may plague him/her anytime s/he suffers a setback as s/he pursues this ambitious goal.

The coach’s ability to show him/her how to deal with the above mentioned intangible but potentially negatively impact-ful factors/conditions, will go a long way to determine how successful the player ends up being.

The ability to do the above, and reproduce it, is what makes some coaches better than others.

A quote I once read stated that success is never about being right 100% of the time. It’s instead a matter of percentages. You will get it wrong, or fail periodically. That is inevitable.

The trick to success is to work hard to get it right more often, over time, than you get it wrong.

It won’t matter what you do, or where you do it. Understanding this simple rule is the key to avoiding frustration as you pursue success!

Coaches who excel are those who leave coachees equipped to CONTINUE succeeding on their own…

They do this by instilling in their coachees a sound understanding of the above philosophy, and a mental attitude that ensures they can diligently apply it anytime the need to do so arises.

In other words, the best coaches are those who empower those they coach to eventually BE INDEPENDENT of the coach, such that they can Self-Coach!

At that stage, such coachees, only reach out to the coach periodically, for insights or perspectives to deal with new or unfamiliar challenges.

Outside such situations, they would be confident carrying on alone in pursuit of valued goals they constantly refine and expand towards achieving self-actualization.

If you’re going to be a coach, THAT is the kind I recommend you become!

As you can imagine, IT IS the kind that I am – and have always been.

Such coaches make what is called a LASTING DIFFERENCE anywhere they go.

And they are the ones our societies need…NOT those who try to tie people who learn from them to their apron strings – or worse, who try to keep persons they coach, from surpassing them.

Doing the latter (i.e. failing to give enough to make coachees do better than you are doing or have done) effectively defeats the purpose of coaching.

How successful a coach can you be, if you cannot produce any coachee that you’ve empowered to exceed whatever you may have accomplished?

It goes without saying, that NOT all coaching relationships involve both parties sharing similar vocational/career interests.

However, whenever THAT is the case, it is my considered opinion that if the coachee does NOT end up exceeding the coach’s achievements at some point, something would be wrong with such a coach’s formula or method!

Why do I say this?

Because a coachee’s talent/potential is only one part of the coaching equation that will yield success.

Other factors will often come into play – most being Psychological, and some Environmental.

Both factors are the coach’s playground…where s/he creatively injects needed input to elicit the desired behaviour from the coachee.

In other words, a coach’s success in getting his/her coachee to succeed will depend on how frequently s/he is able to create conditions that enable the coachee reject anything that goes against what s/he needs to believe/think/do, to achieve a set goal.

 

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Except yours is an NGO or not-for-profit entity, your purpose for becoming a Farm Business Owner (or Farm CEO) is ultimately to make money and do so profitably.

Achieving that goal does NOT however start and end with being technically competent in the specific venture (e.g. poultry, fishery, piggery etc) you may settle upon.

This is the mistake too many people make in starting up their farm (and other) businesses.

Knowing how to do what is involved (e.g. planting/nursing/harvesting or breeding/feeding/slaughtering) is just one of several key requirements for success.

There is a lot more you MUST know, and do COMPETENTLY to achieve adequate and sustainable results to make your investment of time, effort and money worthwhile.

I help Farm CEOs identify and develop those other aspects they may be lacking in, which are often critically important for succeeding in farm business.

This e-course discusses 6 strategies ignored by most farm owners, which used together (and correctly), can boost farm business performance, at low to zero cost!

At the end of this course, you will know why you need to pay them the serious attention they deserve, if you want long term, high-profit farm business success with PEACE of MIND.

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No. 213: To Achieve SIGNIFICANCE in Success, YOU Need to Resist Corruption! [Feature: Strive Masiyawa’s 5 Part Anti-Corruption Series on Econet Wireless in Nigeria]

Earlier today, Strive Masiyawa posted the first of 5 stories (view here) in his promised series on CORRUPTION regarding his experiences launching Econet Wireless in Nigeria.

The revelations are shocking, yet instructive.

As an expert in your field, if you desire SIGNIFICANCE in success, YOU MUST resist corruption, like Masiyawa has done for decades.

But you don’t need to be rich like him to do it, and still progress in life. I explain based on unique successes I’ve achieved by THINKING up a way around it!

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Title: To Achieve SIGNIFICANCE in Success, YOU Need to Resist Corruption! [Feature: Strive Masiyawa’s 5 Part Anti-Corruption Series on Econet Wireless in Nigeria]

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1 of 2: PUBLIC SPEAKING – To Achieve SIGNIFICANCE in Success, YOU Need to Resist Corruption! [Feature: Strive Masiyawa’s 5 Part Anti-Corruption Series on Econet Wireless in Nigeria]

Earlier today, Strive Masiyawa posted the first of 5 stories (view here) in his promised series on CORRUPTION regarding his experiences launching Econet Wireless in Nigeria.

The revelations are shocking, yet instructive.

As an expert in your field, if you desire SIGNIFICANCE in success, YOU MUST resist corruption, like Masiyawa has done for decades.

But you don’t need to be rich like him to do it, and still progress in life. I explain based on unique successes I’ve achieved by THINKING up a way around it!

Strive Masiyawa (Founder of Econet Wireless Telecom company) is the FIRST authentically successful African business owner I am consciously aware of, who has OPENLY narrated specific instances in which he has encountered and had to fight corruption.

Most others simply skirt around the subject – or refuse to comment on it at all. They pretend it’s not there, while sometimes either participating in it, or benefiting in one way or another from it.

Yet many such people want you to listen to and accept the advice they give you about succeeding in running your own business in Africa, like they claim to have done.

But they refuse to offer you valuable information and education, to DEAL successfully with CORRUPTION – which most times constitutes the BIGGEST obstacle to success that any entrepreneur has to face, especially in Africa.

I find that to be hypocrisy of the worst kind. And it annoys me that such business persons are in the majority in these parts. I KNOW MANY – some were once clients. Others are relatives.

I say this as one who has shared countless true stories of the stifling effects of corruption on my efforts to breakthrough, for years, as an entrepreneur.

It took taking the drastic steps of focusing on 80 to 100% online income generation and relocating to another country, to get the freedom I needed to begin to flourish.

As Masiyawa’s narratives indicate, corruption is EVERYWHERE.

However, in Africa it’s largely uncontrolled…and in Nigeria, it has simply gone viral!

Consequently, when you are starting up, and what you do requires interacting with others in the African environment – especially face to face – CORRUPTION is a reality you must deal with.

The problem – as many questions posted by young Africans on Masiyawa’s page indicate – is that most people start-up unprepared for the discovery of just how bad it is.

By the time they find out, they are already committed to doing business, and probably in dire straits financially, so that they feel too weak to resist the suggestion that they cut corners.

Masiyawa’s message is that there is a SPIRITUAL dimension to dealing with this problem, which can help ANYONE faced with the dilemma of deciding whether or not to engage in corruption.

I’ve been saying the same thing in many of my past articles in which I’ve shared my own very painful encounters with corruption (at my SMALL level compared to Masiyawa).

I found myself enduring prolonged periods of humiliation unable to fulfil my obligation as a husband and father. All because I would not bend.

My business remained stunted because my attitude towards corrupt advances meant I had LIMITED – very limited – opportunities I could reasonably pursue to earn income, especially via offline channels.

My stubbornness cost me so much. It strained my marriage relationship to breaking point, and caused conflicts with some clients, friends and close relatives who felt I was trying to do the impossible by fighting the system.

But I remained firm in my faith that I could advance without giving in to corruption in any form.

You will need uncommon courage and wisdom, to overcome every encounter you have with corruption

ONLY absolute faith in your Creator and  a willingness to persist perpetually in working hard to find creative ways to progress in spite of CORRUPTION induced adversity, will enable you succeed.

Read below, a comment (click here to view it on Facebook) that I shared on Masiyawa’s page as my contribution on 1st October 2015…

It offers insights into the mindset you can adopt in dealing with corruption, even if you lack resources like those used by the Zimbabwean billionaire to fight back (click here to read the post I responded to):

a comment I shared on Masiyawa’s page as my contribution on 1st October 2015 : It offers insights into the mindset you can adopt in dealing with corruption, even if you lack resources like those used by the Zimbabwean billionaire to fight back

Regarding what I said above, about moving to another country, it was Benin Republic.

As I’ve said in past articles, I did NOT go there to look for clients or business. No.

Instead I did so to access steady power supply and a saner environment, devoid of annoyances to achieve my goal of building my brand online so that I would no longer need to meet prospects face to face to sell my products and services.

For over 2 years, from late 2010 till early 2013 I had tried to do just that while still based in Nigeria.

But VERY poor power supply and consequent hefty DAILY expense on generator fuelling and maintenance, on top of high living costs made it impossible for me to invest the quality of effort and volume of time I needed to do anything tangible.

In contrast, between 1st April 2013 when I arrived in Cotonou and the end of the year, I was able to work most days virtually round the clock, to the point that my web marketing began generating powerful sales leads, 50 to 60% of which I was able to convert to sales.

Guess what? Over 80% of those sales were to Nigerians living in Nigeria, who sent payment via my bank account.

The icing on the cake was that I ended that year on a high by getting paid by an International NGO to write an Agribusiness case study paper based on one of the products I sell to Farm CEOs within and outside Africa: the Excel-VB Ration Formulator.

To this day (indeed this morning!) I continue to record such online sales that afford me the peace of mind and convenience that I NEVER enjoyed when I had yet to put in place the Web Marketing System I setup on relocating to Benin.

Now that my 24-7 leads generation system is in place, I am able to earn income regardless of where I am. I do NOT need to meet anyone face to face.

That means LESS contact with corrupt individuals – at least as far as doing what I do for a living goes. In other areas, where and when I do encounter them, I resist them as is my habit.

In case you wonder, the core of a Web Marketing System that makes it generate sales leads via search engines and other online platforms for you, is YOUR CREATION OF USEFUL INFORMATION AND EDUCATION in as many formats as possible, for consumption by people that fit your target audience profile.

Creating such content requires LOTS of thinking, with a focus on problem solving for those you wish to sell to.

I could not do that with any degree of consistency back then in Nigeria: It cost too much money and effort. When I got to Benin, I was able to work online from 8a.m round the clock till close to midnight, even beyond, where some café’s permitted it. I only took breaks to rest while eating.

That was a brutal period!

I pushed myself to the limits, adding more web marketing content to my online presence until it reached “critical mass” and began to produce repeat leads.

Today, I continue creating new content almost DAILY, but it now takes me MUCH less effort than it used to, because I have gotten so proficient at it that I do it almost without conscious effort i.e. spontaneously.

The point I’m making by sharing the above details is that since I lacked the resources Strive Masiyawa had, I had to THINK up a different way of doing what I wanted to do, that would make it UNNECESSARY for me to accept the corrupt ways of others!

It was not easy, and it did not happen overnight…

BUT I succeeded eventually, and today, I am better off as a result.

No one can dictate to me, or demand that I give him/her any form of gratification to get paid for what I sell. I would simply laugh in his/her face.

The way I have positioned myself makes it IMPOSSIBLE for anyone to do that to me.

It’s either you see what I offer via my Web Marketing System, and decide you want it badly enough to send payment, or you move on.

I won’t even know you were there unless you send me an email or call my number.

And if you do either, the system I employ in responding to enquirers will QUICKLY make it obvious there is no room in my space for nonsense of that kind.

A Point to Note: Today when I say I sell my custom Excel-VB software and physical books online, as an African living in Africa, people readily accept it because they SEE evidence of it…BUT I did not enjoy such acceptance at the start!!

You see, when I began trying to earn income without going out anymore, using the web as my main marketing platform, to sell what I used to sell offline, virtually EVERYONE I told, or who knew about it told me it could not work.

Their argument was that Nigeria/Africa was NOT ready for it.

And they often said it with relentless emphasis!

The same people now see me doing it daily, and succeeding MORE than I ever did when I drove my battered car around all over Lagos, visiting prospective clients for possible projects!

Hopefully, that tells you something about the wisdom of taking too much advice, when you’re trying to break new boundaries.

What you can see, most people will likely be unable to see!

Final Words: To free yourself from the annoyance of corruption and those who engage in it, you MUST invest quality time to THINK UP a solution for yourself like I did.

It does not matter what you do, so long as you have FAITH in the Creator, you can always find a way around corruption.

He will guide you to discover what will work for you, like He did for me.

In fact, forget about me: He will do it for YOU, like He did it for Dr. Strive Masiyawa!

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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement

Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to

Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the

popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm

Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in

various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly

traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training

& Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’

competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African

continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your

personal and work related productivity.

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[IMPORTANT NOTE:====

On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to

SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name

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Spend Less Money to Eat Well, by Growing Foods (Hint: True Story With Photos of my Kids Growing Tomatoes, Beans, Pineapples at Home)!

[Photo] My 14 year old son shows off 6 big ripe tomatoes he and his 12 year old brother harvested yesterday (1st October 2015) from our small home garden. Another result of the real-world relevant confidence/competence building Personal Achievement Coaching (PAC) program he and his siblings are SIMULTANEOUSLY undergoing, in conjunction with controlled exposure to academics.

[Photo] My 14 year old son shows off 6 big ripe tomatoes he and his 12 year old brother harvested yesterday (1st October 2015) from our small home garden. Another result of the real-world relevant confidence/competence building Personal Achievement Coaching (PAC) program he and his siblings are SIMULTANEOUSLY undergoing, in conjunction with controlled exposure to academics.

As parents, our primary role is to COACH (and not just verbally lecture) our kids, to prepare them to be competent, financially independent adults in life. To succeed in playing that role, we must do what a professional coach in any other area of life would do.

Simply put, we must create an environment, physically, emotionally and intellectually that enables them learn all they need to succeed in adulthood.

The above implies the need for BALANCE in the education we give them.

Sadly, too many parents leave their kids to get a one-sided preparation for life…

This happens because they focus their efforts on giving them mainly – or ONLY – formal schooling.

Very little in terms of character forming and vocational skills building education is provided. The result is what we see a lot in today’s society.

Young products from schools across the three tiers of education unable to demonstrate real-world relevant awareness, and competence outside what their certificates say they studied.

In fact, today some young people even go around with certificates they cannot demonstrate academic competence to defend.

The way I see it, parents who want their kids to fare better than that CANNOT just throw money at their kids’ education. Formal schooling, no matter how advanced or expensive, is simply NOT enough to give children what is needed to succeed as adults in today’s fast changing world.

You must be in the driving seat of your child’s education as the NUMBER ONE COACH – and NOT his/her teacher(s)!

The mental attitude you adopt must be that of a professional coach who has a sound understanding of what his/her coachee (your child) is going to face in the real world.

You must be a coach who uses his/her insights about life to create learning experiences that prepare YOUR CHILD for life away from YOU!

That’s what I’m doing for my kids…

Incidentally, I’ve done it for other people’s kids BEFORE I had mine – so I’m really PUMPED up about THIS run!!

As part of their homeschooling, they watch specially selected educational videos on various subjects they need to master academically, as well as vocationally.

Then they are challenged to go out into the real world to put as much as possible of what they learn to use, as the opportunities present themselves.

To stimulate their minds, I subtly “put ideas into their heads”, about how they can make use of what they learn.

Then I wait to see what happens…and they rarely disappoint.

Kids are amazing: Once you succeed in winning their interest, getting them to learn becomes so easy.

Basically, what excites them is when you teach them something they can immediately try their hands on in real life.

They love DOING – especially where they are allowed to apply their creativity without restriction. That’s the environment I have created for my kids and it’s yielding fruits (no pun intended).

What you see in photos below are other trial crops the boys planted…

A. More tomatoes

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B: Pineapple head cut from a Cotonou variety planted by the kids has taken root (not sure if the soil will let it do well though…!)

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C. Beans pod maturing

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It all began when I told them the garden space in the compound could be used to raise vegetables we could eat (i.e. putting ideas in their heads)

One day they got some bad tomato fruits their mother disposed, and asked me if the seeds would sprout. I told them it was likely, so they planted and began watering and tending them with great seriousness.

Later on they got seeds and stems from other crops and planted them.

Over time I noticed a dense layer of Water Leaf vegetables and told them to pluck some for making vegetable stew. I pointed out the fact that the quantities we harvested were equivalent to those sold for N50 in the market: which meant we were saving money.

I noted in passing that they could plough back into the soil, stems left behind after the leaves were plucked, to replenish the nutrients to helping the plant grow new leaves.

They began doing that immediately: Like I said, kids are eager learners, and doers, once their interest is triggered!

It might interest you to know that they actually planted and harvested a yam tuber (small though – but they cooked and ate  it) in that narrow stretch of soil in our compound.

One day I came home and the 12 year old showed me a maize cob, he’d harvested. It was not well developed, but the boy was still excited that he’d grown maize and gotten the cob without spending money.

Later on they told me the tomatoes were producing fruits. I was surprised, not having been aware they’d planted tomatoes.

Seeing signs suggestive of the presence of disease causing microbes on some leaf edges, I told them to get charcoal ash and spread generously over the leaves of the plants. They asked me why, and I explained that ash has anti-microbial characteristics which help to stop onset of common diseases on the plant.

As the weeks passed we watched the fruits grow bigger. Just a few days ago, we were discussing how they were gradually turning red.

Yesterday I came home and saw that they’d plucked some ripe, fully red tomatoes, which their mum was planning to use for a meal. The other plants – as shown in the photos on this page – still have a decent number of fruits yet to ripen.

I asked the kids if they knew how much those plucked tomatoes would go for in the market. Not surprisingly (because I’d asked then similar question in the past), they’d already asked around, and had been told they would cost about N200 ($1 USD) or more.

The looks on their faces told me they knew what I was thinking.

Having a backyard garden can help many homes cut down costs on purchase of certain items used regularly. The small amounts spent to buy them really adds up over one week to a month.

Yet it just takes making a little effort to setup the needed space and taking a little time, every now and then to nurture the plants/crops.

If one wants, even mini-livestock like poultry, rabbits, fish could also be kept in a small backyard area.

Sadly, many homes today spend too much on simple food items they can easily grow themselves – especially in Nigeria, where most foods are so expensive!

Many such homes have kids who do not have a clue how foods they eat come about e.g How they are grown, processed, stored or even cooked.

Long ago, I resolved that my male and female kids would be coached to know, and be able to do all that.

The 2 oldest go to the market to buy foodstuff and prepare meals for their siblings(thanks to their mother’s coaching).

We as parents don’t need to be there to make this happen.

They’ve also learnt to plant crops and make their own drinks/cake products using fruit peels – which they’ve been able to package, sell, and also give out as gifts. We’ll be doing a lot more of this when we get to Benin Republic.

This varied mix of real-world relevant experiences, combined with formal schooling, gives kids a truly balanced education.

In essence, I’m saying it’s great that your kids already attend school. But that’s not all they need.

Coaching them to plant some of their own food, or even run their own micro-farm business (e.g rearing/breeding rabbits for sale, along with growing useful crops like Tomatoes etc), can equip them to live and eat well, at a lower cost – by making the best use of space in their homes.

They would thus spend less to buy food (and possibly sell some of what they grow) – boosting their chances of KEEPING more of the money they earn, to build real, lasting wealth: unlike others who, not knowing how(despite attending school), will have to ALWAYS buy all they eat!

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Creative Thinking, Hard Work, and Blind Faith Will Defeat Adversity – ANY DAY! [Hint: Get Spontaneous Coaching to become a Master of Adversity (MA)™ ]

When you lack money, common sense dictates you get enough before traveling to another country doesn’t it. Of course it does.

Well, as described in a true 1999 story linked below, I did the opposite, with empty pockets, successfully.

How? Through Blind Faith (and I’m NOT talking religion): Blind Faith guides you to intelligently dispense with common-sense, doubt or fear, to pursue your goal (be it personal or business related), while BELIEVING that YOUR Creator will meet you at the EXACT point of YOUR need.

Note here that “intelligently dispensing with common-sense” in applying faith implies you will STOP “worrying/doubting/fretting” and LISTEN for insights – the tiny voice inside you – from the Creator on how to move forward in-spite of your handicap.

That often comes in form of subtle hints, suggestions, flashes of ideas: that’s Him ANSWERING your requests!

The problem is we often let worries, doubts and fears BLOCK us from “detecting” those insights, talk less of acting on them.

[NB: Here’s a warning: Unless you detect, and more importantly ACT on those insights He sends to you, you may find yourself unable to make useful progress, despite your best efforts: Not even when you get money!]

This is NOT textbook theory: I have experienced it countless times…

But it took doing it right, to begin to make sustainable progress in different endeavours.

Over time, my ability to succeed this way has caused some who know me to comment that I “create my own luck”.

I often try to explain – but most people fail to “get it”.

That’s why I write articles like this, every now and then, in the hope that some will come across it and LEARN!

Regular readers of my writing likely know it already. But in case you’re not one, I’ll tell you:

I am NOT religious – and have not been since 1989 (when I was 19 years old).

So this piece is NOT about religion.

I share here details of how – in 1999 – I gained life-changing insights into the what the Creator expects from us, if we are to get answers to what we want from Him!!!

My understanding continues to evolve till today, but the foundation was laid back then.

It happened when (having NO MONEY to pay my way after a 3 week stay), I embarked on a dangerous 12 hour overnight boat journey – under heavy rainfall – across the Atlantic ocean, in a desperate bid to return to Guinness Benin Brewery, in Nigeria’s Benin city, from Cameroon’s Douala.

[Full details of what happened/why are in my widely syndicated 2006 article – also published on Ezinearticles.com: Click to read.]

What I did that day by choosing to travel across the ocean under such risky conditions, even as I heard a radio report that some people had died when a boat capsized just few days before (!), would be called “foolhardy” or “crazy” by most people.

Yet doing so enabled me achieve my goal of resuming work from annual leave, on the very day and minutes to the time (2p.m) I was expected to resume as duty shift brewer!

After I arrived, my inner eyes opened, and I knew my life would never be the same again/

I have taken countless other risks of varying degrees, since then in different areas of endeavour, to succeed – in spite of daunting adversity – by doing what MOST sane, logical minded, “commonsensical” people would NOT do!

To put it another way: when faced with problems or difficulties, I often overcome them by taking calculated risks to do what MOST “right-thinking” persons would NEVER do.

The confidence – and conviction! – with which I keep doing the above, derives mainly from my experiences during THAT fateful journey across the ocean, when a guardian angel literally came out-of-nowhere to help me.

My understanding enables me achieve relentless advancement towards my goals, no matter the challenges, problems, setbacks or failures (aka temporary defeats) I encounter!

In other words, that “understanding” equips me to defy negativity in every shape and form it exists.

By implication, I defy evil and anything that goes against the will of the Creator for my life (because He never wishes us evil)!

I do this using a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA) that puts no hope in ANY man, but invests 100% faith in the Creator, while engaging in honest and hard work, based on creative application of intelligence.

Adopting such an internal state of mind attracts timely advancement opportunities, and insights for resolving inevitable challenges/adversity to you.

There are universal laws in nature, setup by the Creator, which make this possible.

If you abide by them, you simply CANNOT fail.

 

That does not mean you will not periodically struggle.

You will. As does every other human being.

But unless you do it wrong, your struggles will often be preparations for greater success held in store for you – IF you persist, and do not quit.

If you keep your PMA and continue having blind and unquestioning faith that the Creator will see you through, in-spite of any shortcomings you have, and because you NEVER do evil to others (which pleases HIM more than anything else)…YOUR success is inevitable!

I benefit from living this way: It is why I successfully defy negativity, evil, and anything that goes against the will of the Creator for my life – including attempts by ANYONE, big or small, powerful or not, to pull down, cheat or exploit me.

It is impossible for ANY true child of God to BE otherwise!

This is why I continue to record progress towards greater successes in EVERYTHING I do.

 

It is also why I AM a spontaneous, fearless and bold DOER of what is good and right, AND challenger of wrong doing wherever I find myself – even at the borders I cross so often.

Some who have experienced me in this mould, have had cause to ask: “Are you a lawyer or journalist? Do you work with SSS?” etc.

When I answer in the negative, they look at me in unending puzzlement.

Concerned persons have warned me of the risk and dangers associated with doing the above – that I could get attacked, or even killed.

But I always tell them I’m alive TODAY only because of the Creator – and NOT by the grace of ANY human being. I therefore will NOT let fear of human beings, stop me from doing His will

We forget that so often.

Our lack of faith makes us miss the point that if He does NOT permit it, even a loaded gun will fail to discharge its bullet load when pointed at YOU.

Isn’t that why we talk about “miracles”?

My life is full of miracles.

For instance, my demonstrated success in generating continuous passive income creating & selling my OWN 100% original and unique range of MS Excel-VB software online, as an African in Africa, is unprecedented.

Using it, I’ve defied conventional thinking in my society (where trust is VERY hard to win online), to achieve my financial goals, without needing to move around physically to win buyers’ trust.

And I do it so well that I’m attracting an increasingly global paying audience, who send payment to me via various channels, without meeting me!

Today, I have wonderful friendships with many of my past buyers – and we still have not met.

It’s the philosophy I’ve shared here that makes it possible for me to do all this.

But if you think getting where I am now, was easy, think again: I have invested MANY thousands of hours – unrelentingly – under the most discouraging physical, emotional and psychological conditions that most people would give up in, to KEEP GOING, until I broke through.

And I continue doing so even today.
That is to say, this kind of success did/does not come quickly, or easily.

Just the aspect o marketing my work by writing an article daily takes MAJOR effort, unless what you turn out is RUBBISH. To craft a compelling piece that commands the conscious attention and interest of others, on a regular basis requires having more than a passing interest.

This alone I have found most people unwilling to do – talk less of sticking with trying to create and sell custom MS Excel-VB driven software (like my Ration Formulator, Poultry Farm Manager, Payslip Generator etc) for N5k to N200k like I have now done many times – but which took me YEARS to get right!!!

So what was it that kept me going all those years when I saw little or no positive results to encourage me?

It was FAITH in the Creator – the unflinchingly absolute and unquestioning kind.

It goes without saying that I believed in myself and my ideas.

But most of all, I had FAITH that the Creator would SHOW me how to use my abilities, to succeed with my ideas…

The results I get today show that he has since done so, and continues to do so.

Anyone willing to LIVE this way will record similar if not better results – be it in your personal or business life.

It’s that simple.

Do you want to LEARN how to use the ideas I’ve shared here, to overcome ANY adversity (failure, disappointment or setback) you encounter in your life, like I have done for YEARS?

Click here to contact me about my Spontaneous Coaching for Mastery of Adversity(SCfMA)™ program.

I like to tell people that the highest qualification I have is an MA – but it is NOT the one we all know about.

This MA means Master of Adversity™ – and I earned it from my unpretentious studies in the University of Hard Knocks (aka Life or The Real World).

I recall being told in 2012, by a close relative who knew about the many ups and downs I’d suffered in business, that most as unmarried person would have gone crazy if they’d suffered half of what I’d been through.

Talk less of having to go through it like I had, with the added load of supporting (or being unable to support) my wife and kids as a result!

My MA “competence” is why nothing ever gets me down, no matter how difficult the circumstances I am faced with.

It is why I never ever gave up during the prolonged years of heartbreaking struggles I passed through, till I began to record sustainable success.

It’s ironic, but I was NOT born this way. I used to be quite fickle-minded and easily frustrated in the past.

But I LEARNED to be this way when I discovered that doing so helped me achieve virtually ANY goal I set for myself – even if I am ALL ALONE with no one to help me.

What’s more, I have studied many other authentic achievers within and outside Africa, by reading their life stories, and found that most had to BE this way too, to achieve the success that made them.

That’s why I know that anyone who is willing can achieve similar results.

So, I ask you: Are you willing to do what it takes to be a MA (Master of Adversity)?

If YES, Click here to contact me about my Spontaneous Coaching for Personal Success Achievement program – because an MA is a key benefit you will reap from going through that coaching program.

 

Excel-VB Apps Can be Made Networkable, to Enable You Remotely View & Generate Timely Reports for Decision Making

I’ve recently noticed a gradual increase in the number of enquiries I’m getting from online prospects, about my Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager app.

Interestingly, more of them now ask if the app can work across an intranet. In other words, for those who have a network of interconnected offline PCs, or those who use apps that send and receive live updates via the web, the Farm CEOs ask me if my app offers similar functions.

Now, I could be wrong, but the more I get asked this question after I answered someone else not too long ago, in the affirmative, the more I cannot help feeling that the same people are the ones coming back through proxies to ask me the same question again.

Why would they do this?

Well I suspect it’s the same reason some of my past clients did so. Knowing that my app is built using MS Excel, which is NOT designed to be multi-tasking, they find it hard to imagine how ONE app like mine can possibly be used at the same time on multiple terminals across a network.

Rather than argue, I will simply tell the reader that I have done it more than once, and for GOOD pay too. Way back in paid employment I developed a Training Records Database application for use by departmental heads across the brewery via the intranet.

Each head was able to launch the app from where I’d placed it on the server, using the shortcut I’d placed on their PC desktops. They then quickly/easily generated training reports for individual employees in their departments, for printing.

Now, despite the fact that the above happened, it was only good for VIEWING and report generation/printing.

If data entry needed to be made, that had to be done by posting into the app on the server, and then advising ALL users to close and re-launch the app to view the latest updates.

As you can imagine that option did not appeal to the CEO of a hotel I got invited to build a Hotel Records Management System (HRMS) for.

In his case he wanted the different sections of the hotel where data recording happened (e.g. Accounts, Reception, and Bar/Restaurant) to post their data as and when needed in a way that would promptly reflect in the report generation interface of the app, once it is REFRESHED.

In my usual way, I thoroughly investigated the possible options available online until I found a perfect solution described by an Excel-VB developer named Pierre LeClerc.

Even though his method did not suit the hotel’s purpose, a little creative thinking quickly helped me develop an adaptation that did.

2 months later, I’d successfully trained the staff in the different hotel data entry sections, to use the app across the company’s intranet.

After overcoming the usual teething problems, they soon got up and running using the app. I still recall being asked by the CEO to call up the app on his laptop so he could view latest reports drawing from data being posted in the different sections.

It is the same method I used for the hotel that I would use as a guide for developing a network-able version of my Poultry Farm Manager app.

I cannot give details of how I would do it, but once completed, it would enable a Farm CEO readily access any latest posted data updates the staff may have done, from ANY terminal – including the web.

If you’re interested in using my Excel-VB driven Poultry Farm manager across a network, click here to send me details of your needs, and how you’d like me to help you.

In my response, I will send you a one page annotated diagram that depicts the approach conceived by Pierre LeClerc, which I modified to develop the HRMS mentioned above.

Below is a small version of the diagram:

Click here to submit your request to see the large version of this diagram: I will send you a one page annotated diagram that depicts the approach conceived by Pierre LeClerc, which I modified to develop the HRMS mentioned above.

The larger version I will send to everyone who submits this web form, will come with boldly written explanatory notes, labels and generic information.

Your Child Needs Strength of Character to Successfully Resist Corruption

No matter how intelligent/well schooled, creative, competent, well spoken and nice a person may be, if s/he does not have strength of character, all those aforementioned qualities s/he possesses will not matter.

Why?

Because it takes having upright morals/values and strength of character to navigate the good and bad, as well as right and wrong in the real world. And how well you do that ultimately determines how authentically successful you become in life.

But no one is born with strength of character, or the right conception of morals and values.

It’s society that teaches each of us what they are. Right from childhood in our parents’ homes through school, till we arrive adulthood in larger society.

As a child I spent my early years (10 to 16) getting into – often spectacular! – trouble (causing my parents major embarrassment) because despite being given the right exposure at home, I repeatedly let peer pressure and influence push me to act contrary to what I’d been taught about doing right and wrong.

Luckily for me, the Nigerian society back then still practiced what I like to call “Societal Parenting” – in which a child that misbehaves away from home gets promptly corrected by other adults/parents/strangers.

They then report his/her misconduct to his/her parents who go on to reinforce the corrective feedback to the child.

I share 5 such true stories from my childhood, in my Best Practice Parenting book titled (Kukuru Danger).

The book is dedicated to all those uncompromising adults and parents who diligently pulled me back in line each time I derailed while I was away from my parents.

Without their efforts, I doubt I would ever have gotten the awakening that has since led me to reform myself into an uncompromising stickler for doing right at all times, no matter how hard it may be.

Doing the above requires a clear sense of right and wrong.

The moral upbringing given me by my parents and the larger society helped cement my character, which in adulthood now equips me to do right when it matters, regardless of the circumstances I may find myself.

For instance, my ability to overcome years of prolonged heartbreaking struggles as a start-up entrepreneur unwilling to do crooked business in a society where that prevailed, is due to that foundation of sound character that I established in my formative years.

Today I enjoy authentic non-corner cutting success providing my unique range of unconventional Excel-Visual Basic software (like my popular Ration Formulator and Poultry Farm Manager apps), Information Products (like the Feed Formulation Handbook), and services to a global paying audience.

To get where I am now however, I had to fight many attempts to make me compromise and do crooked business – especially during those years that I still focused my efforts exclusively on selling offline.

As a result, I suffered severely prolonged lack of money and humiliation as a result, to the extent that I could not fulfill my obligations to my wife and kids.

I’ve shared true stories in past articles about this, and how my siblings and parents had to bail me out time and time again.

If you’ve read some of them, you’ll know that I described myself as being the “Bambiala” (aka beggar) of my family during that phase.

I also noted how some friends and relatives repeatedly told me I could not make useful progress if I insisted on NOT doing things like over-invoicing to get assigned projects by decision makers in some (not all) companies. But I refused and kept looking for alternatives.

Eventually, through a process of trial and error in using the web, coupled with creative thinking in showcasing solutions I offered offline to an online audience of pre-qualified prospects, I’ve gradually built a passive income generating system that continues to evolve today(which I now teach others about)!

Using it has helped me limit exposure of myself to the offline annoyances I faced in the past, and I am better able to reap rewards for the work I do, without needing to compromise on my morals or values.

All this courtesy of the positive character moulding impact of Societal Parenting on me, from my childhood.

Sadly however, things have seriously deteriorated – on the Societal Parenting front, since I had my childhood experiences.

It’s so bad now that adults and parents today often openly engage in teaching kids to do wrong e.g. to tell lies, bear false witness, deceive, scheme, and to be lazy or detest hard honest work for reward etc.

And it shows in what we see daily around us.

Youths who prefer to cheat to pass exams (actively aided by parents in collaboration with invigilators), who enjoy living on the wrong side of the law doing email fraud. Young female students who engage in sex for money or marks, and male counterparts who become campus cult members and inflict bodily harm on peers or even kill them when they disagree.

That’s to mention just a few!

Simply put, today’s Nigeria is brimming with human beings the larger majority of whom have seriously warped morals and values. This distorts or clouds their view of what constitutes right and wrong, effectively making them unreliable where decision making to uphold the law in words or action is required.

Now, apart from the nuisance they cause, the presence of this majority also poses a danger of corrupting influence on the impressionable minds of kids.

Not just their own kids, but more importantly the kids of the minority who still uphold the right morals/values and who teach their kids to do the same.

I happen to belong to that minority, and my concern about the above makes me limit my kids’ interaction with their peers in the Nigerian society. To do this I have taken certain drastic steps that’s gotten close relatives worried that I’m being too extreme.

But engaging the kids in discussion about societal happenings has revealed very clearly that my concerns are NOT unfounded.

Let me share one true story to illustrate what I mean…

I recently asked my 16 year old son if he knew about special centers where exam mal-practices were openly carried out in the country.

This is something that’s earned Nigeria Number 1 ranking amongst ALL countries that enroll students in the West African Examinations Council exams. The media regularly reports it.

He replied that some of his friends had told him about such places and practices, but that he had not personally seen any instances where it happened.

I then asked him if he felt what he’d heard that people like parents and invigilators did there (telling students answers to exam questions), was right.

His answer confirmed my suspicions about how open occurrence of wrong doing can make young people who grow up in such an environment, come to accept them as normal.

He said (his exact words):

If it was not right, I don’t think they would do it so openly.

I could not believe my ears.

He had said it with an innocent look in his eyes which confirmed he actually did not know what was being done in those centers was wrong!

But I understood why he saw it that way. The impunity with which it was all done, and the fact that there was rarely any news that culprits were caught or punished made it appear to him that it was okay!

Unregulated exposure of impressionable minded children to unethical acts on a regular basis, can cause them to get so used to it that they think it’s normal.

That day, my determination to counter the corrupting influence of the society on them was renewed as a result of that incident.

I promptly called his siblings to join him and proceeded to explain to them why such practices were VERY wrong, and why it was important that they ALL never accept to see them as being otherwise.

To encourage them, I told them of the many instances I had suffered harassment in my personal and work life for refusing to do wrong that others did, and how staying firm that the Creator would open alternative doors for me to follow, yielded positive benefits for me, time and time again.

What could be worse than a brilliant child with wonderful God-given talents and abilities who grows up learning to see hard work as needless and corrupt enrichment as worthwhile?

I refuse to let it happen to my kids.

And I will continue to take every step I feel necessary to TEACH them why they must not be that way, and also shield them from such corrupting influences, UNTIL such a time that I am convinced that they have developed enough strength of character to RESIST it all.

I suggest you seriously consider doing the same – IF you want to have peace of mind regarding your child’s LONG after s/he leaves home.

Those who do it right will never be afraid of getting news that their adult children have been found engaging in unbecoming conduct.

They will confidently say: MY SON OR DAUGHTER would never do that, and stand by their child no matter what.

I want to be able to do that.

Do you?

THE FARM CEO (Issue 16): Made in Africa Talking Cars, Animal Reproduction Boosting Extracts & Incubators by a Church Leader?!, World’s 1st Fish Farm in Shipping Container: A South African Invention, New Innovations to Reduce Harvest Loss, Aquapod System That Can Enable MARINE Fish Farming by Africans?, Kenyan Invention: Egg Monitoring Kit to Check Egg Fertility/Assess Incubation Progress

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Preview (Issue No. 16):

Multi Award Winning West African innovator makes modern talking cars with 100% locally made engine blocks/parts; TVs controlled by clapping, plant extracts that boost livestock reproduction 4 times over & over 100 more.

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Here are the headlines, reviews – and links – for this week’s featured news items:

[URL] Made in Africa Talking Cars, Animal Reproduction Boosting Extracts &  Incubators by a Church Leader?! P.1

[URL] World’s 1st Fish Farm in Shipping Container: A South African Invention P.2

[URL] New Innovations to Reduce Harvest Loss P.2

[VIDEO] Aquapod System That Can Enable MARINE Fish Farming by Africans?  P.3

[URL] Kenyan Invention: Egg Monitoring Kit to Check Egg Fertility/Assess Incubation Progress P.3

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Screenshot of the cover for Issue No. 16 of THE FARM CEO (Monday 21st September 2015)

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