Category Archives: My Ideas for Making Nigeria Better

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix (TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

The Phoenix is a mythical bird. Click here to learn more about it, to understand why I’ve referred to it here, with regard to my re-incarnated website presence :-))

I’m gradually putting finishing touches to the new look website and content at TayoSolagbade.com. It’s now leaner, and smarter!

Many thanks again to those who “forced” my hand by taking over Spontaneousdevelopment.com (click to read the full story about how I lost that 9 year old domain)!

Click now to view the lastest updates to TayoSolagbade.com

Below is a photo I took yesterday (Thursday, 22nd May 2014) in a Cotonou restaurant, with a Cameroonian client (Arnaud Franklin Nana), who – like me – is based in Benin Republic.

I developed an elaborate Web Marketing System for him in June/July 2013. 

Photo I took yesterday with a client that I developed an elaborate Web Marketing System for in June/July 2013. He took me out to lunch yesterday (22nd May 2014) in a Cotonou restaurant here in Benin Republic.

Here’s another one we took just before leaving. We wanted to capture the moment in multiple ways…heehee

Another photo I took yesterday with the client.

We discussed business and also shared updates about our work etc – including stuff like this drama with my website…

I should point out that most of my authentic clients have similar relationships with me. We relate more like FRIENDS, than business associates. And that includes those I have NEVER met in the flesh!

By the time we parted ways he’d told me about 3 projects he wanted me to handle. Two for him. One for a private university he runs with Victor Ogar, his Nigerian partner of many years. All three relate to the Web Marketing based Hosting Service I provide.

He has since paid for 2 of the 3 projects. So, it was not all talk :-))

It’s so great to be able to attract patronage for my products/services on and off the web, ANYWHERE I go, simply by being CONSISTENT!

Think about it. One day my website was gone, some days later, I put a better one up.

All the while, some of my clients would have been watching (including prospective ones!) to see how I would deal with the challenge.

What I’ve now successfully done with TayoSolagbade.com, can only make me look more convincing than ever, with regard to my competence as a Web Marketing Specialist who offers website hosting services!

And it’s likely to make it easier any serious minded person, to choose me over any other provider s/he is considering.

Wow, I AM living my dream: So, here’s my prayer for YOU:

“May you also get to live your dream too!

And while you’re working at it, remember that no matter how bad it looks or feels, there will always be something better that turns up…IF you do NOT give up.

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Having said all the above about my hosting service, it only makes sense that I provide some details for anyone who may be interested.

First, let me state this: My hosting service is VERY targeted.

In reality, I mainly offer it to clients who hire me to develop Web Marketing Systems for them.

The number of plans I offer, and their pricing reflect that. And so it may be difficult to compare the “prices” with what some other web host may offer you!

A visit to my hosting services website displays a “Budget Base” plan – the lowest available, along with ONLY 2 others, which are premium hosting plans.

My hosting services website displays a "Budget Base" plan - the lowest available, along with ONLY 2 others, which are premium hosting plans.

However, there is a special hosting plan that is NOT listed. I call it “WebMarketingforCEOs.”

This screenshot shows key features of my special hosting plan that is NOT listed. I call it "WebMarketingforCEOs.

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That’s because I reserve it for clients who engage my services in Web Marketing Systems development.

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If you wish to host with me, without taking up my FREE Web Marketing Support offer, I recommend you pick either the Business or the Pro hosting plan.

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Simple. I’ve seen that my clients’ busy schedules makes web marketing hard for them.

This promo enables me help you, since YOUR website’s success is MY success. By helping your website succeed, I make it easier for you to continue making renewal payments.

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The Nigerian Fascination With Religion (Perspectives Of A “Troublemaker”)

I suspect that this article is going to get me into "trouble" – BUT I am convinced that if I do not put my ideas regarding this subject on paper, I will not be able to rest easy, as they say! So, here goes. [NB: This article was first published online – on 6th September 2007 – as part of my Self-Development Academy’s Social Change Information and Education Service. 7 years on, its message remains just as relevant as it was back then].

If you know me personally, I advise you put whatever you think you know about me aside, and read the contents of this article with an open, unbiased mind. That is the only way you can fully appreciate what I am saying, and possibly learn a thing or two.

There is a rabid form of religious discrimination pervading this country – and it is destroying lives on a daily basis.

If we could all start doing the right thing, Nigeria would be better off for it. There is a saying in Yoruba land that goes thus: "Enu mi ko ni won ti ma gbo pe iya teacher ku!". Translated literally, this means: "It will not be from my mouth that news of the death of the teacher’s mother will be heard".

Obviously, in my case, I have chosen to do the opposite of what the wisdom of that saying suggests.

I hope I will be forgiven – even as I also hope those religious people guilty of acting in the ways I have described here can truly MEND their ways for better.:-))

Every society that wishes to lay claim to being PROGRESSIVE, must afford every one of its members an INALIENABLE right to believe whatever s/he wants.

Therefore let each person respect the Civil Liberties of the other!

Let me also add that in discussing religion here, I do not aim to cast aspersion on any religious group or movement.

All I am trying to do is point out where I believe many of us might not have gotten the “purpose” for practicing religion “just right, just yet”.

Note also, that I have NOT written this piece to challenge the existence or otherwise of God or any other being that different religious groups worship.

Four(4) Groups Of Religious People I See In Nigeria

I believe that people who practice various forms of religion in this country, fall into 4 main groups viz:

1). Those who do not really understand why they practice their religion(e.g. born into a family that practices it, and simply adopted it but not convinced);

(2). Those who are doing it with ulterior/negative motives (e.g. may.see an avenue to make easy money etc);

(3). Those who are doing it for the wrong reasons (e.g. think it’s popular or are afraid of being criticized by others if they do not do it);

4). Those who are spiritually convinced about WHAT they believe and WHY they believe it. (THIS, in my opinion, is where every religious person NEEDS to belong).

In essence a large majority of religious people(Groups 1 to 3) do not have SPIRITUAL conviction as the MAIN reason for practicing their religions.

And this affects the way they behave among themselves and to others who do not belong to their groups. Many times their behaviour(Groups 1 to 3) leaves a lot to be desired. I give examples as we go on.

It’s The Impact Of What They Do On Children That Concerns Me the Most

I am not really concerned about the adults who may be guilty of doing some of the things I will highlight here.

It is the young people and children who are affected, impacted or influenced by these ideas, practices and habits that I worry about. Whatever adults do often affects children/youths.

Therefore when adults engage in the serious business of religion without properly defined purpose, then chances are that children who look up to them will do the same. The resultant cycle, which can be quite vicious, has a large potential of continuing–as is already becoming obvious in our society today.

So, What Do I Mean By Nigerians And Their Fascination With Religion?

I will start by inviting you to turn with me to page 17 of The Guardian newspaper of Tuesday February 11th 2003.

On that entire page is published, the third and concluding part of an engaging address delivered by Bashorun J.K. Randle (Chairman and Chief Executive of KPMG Nigeria, and Vice President, Institute of Chartered Accountants of Nigeria).

That address was delivered at the 2002 Harvest Fundraising Breakfast of All Saint’s Church, Yaba, Lagos.

A pullout quote from the text of the address goes thus:

“My own understanding is that Nigerians love to parade themselves gloriously decked out to attend churches and mosques. However, the moment the period of worship is over they almost immediately erase whatever lesson has been preached and revert(straight back) to their evil ways where wickedness and violence reign supreme. It is now common knowledge that arms and ammunition are being imported into the country in such huge quantities that even the security agencies are compelled to raise an alarm – because they know that once arms gets into the wrong hands, they will not remain idle for long” – Bashorun J.K. Randle.

That’s one notable person and his opinion on how Nigerians practice religion.

Please bear with me, as I refer to ideas on this same issue from another notable Nigerian,who incidentally is a powerful man of God himself.

Hardly is there any adult who has not heard of Winners’ Chapel in Nigeria talk less of the overall head of that rapidly expanding Christian ministry – Bishop David Oyedepo.

In the October 2002 edition of Success Digest, Bishop Oyedepo’s writing on “MIND” were published in part as follows:

“It is the use of the mind or brain that will make the world to mind you. When your mind is not in use, the world will not mind you, because nobody minds a mad mn. But the productive use of the mind is what leads to success, causing those around you to mind you. Christianity enhances dignity, it doesn’t bring people down. The reason many Christians are suffering today is because they suspended the use of their minds when they gave their lives to Christ, thinking that it was no longer needed. They think that the use of their minds for reasoning is contrary to faith. But they can’t be further from the truth. The use of your senses is what enhances your results. You require more smartness than strength to be successful in life” – Bishop David Oyedepo.

Now, the two quotes I have supplied were recorded as far back as 4 years ago.But anyone living in Nigeria today KNOWS that the same issues raises by the two individuals quoted persist up till today!

Nothing has changed.

In fact, going by the reports we get on the news, where religious leaders are shown being prosecuted in court for setting members ablaze as punishment for "sins" etc, things have really gotten worse.

The "unholy fascination" with religion continues unabated.

In relation to children, the truth is that parents/adults in Nigeria do not give children the opportunity to decide what they want to believe.

I know some Nigerian parents, who are near-fanatical about making sure their 2 year old kids go to marathon revivals and night vigils etc with them. Sometimes I summoned the courage to point out that the child at that age was unlikely to understand why he/she was there and the benefits to be had. But the parent would reply that it was better than not taking the child there.

In other words, no matter how bad the economy is, no matter how tough our finances are, we still go all out to provide our children indoctrination in the religions we profess faith in. But is this approach GUARANTEED to work – or FOOL PROOF?

A Quick Test To Determine If Your Child Believes YOUR Religion Is Good For Him/Her

Let me tell you what I believe is an excellent litmus test for to ascertain whether you have successfully indoctrinated your child to permanently accept the religion you have exposed him/her to from birth.

The following questions require a Yes or NO answer:

1. Will you readily release the child to go away for one month to attend a retreat on philosophical ideas and religious self-discovery?

2. Would you be comfortable with your child keeping a best friend who is a self-proclaimed atheist?

If you said NO to either or both of those questions, then I can tell you that you have NOT yet succeeded in making your child CONVINCED that the religion you practice is the one s/he NEEDS.

If you had, you would NOT be AFRAID to let him/her go ANYWHERE and/or be with ANYONE, at anytime WITHOUT YOU. And that’s because you would be sure that s/he could hold her own, and KNOW enough not to stray from the religious path you have pointed out.

Problem is in the process of trying to get him/her to that level of conviction, you could – if you push too hard – actually make him/her develop a "dislike" for YOUR type of religion.

Most of us know of many very UNRELIGIOUS – but highly successful – adults who are/were offsprings of deeply pious parents.

Examples that readily come to mind include Fela Anikulapo Kuti (whose father was a Reverend) and Nobel Laureate Prof. Wole Soyinka.

Incidentally, I will point out that both men I have just mentioned can be quite accurately described as being legends – achievers of very high note – in their respective fields of endeavour.

Which implies that their lack of religious bias – if we can call it that – did not prevent them from excelling in the vocations they chose. And that’s contrary to the myths some religious people try to perpetuate! (I say this at the risk of incurring the greater wrath of my religious friends…)

Have You Ever Been To Heaven Before?

If you have not, and neither has your religious leader, how come everyone seems to be sure that what is written in the Bible, and Quoran will get them to see God/heaven when they die?

The answer is that they BELIEVE.

If my understanding is right(and I KNOW it is), any adult with full control of his senses can take the DECISION to believe in Jesus/Mohammed etc.

Or he/she might decide not to, and instead believe in Buddha, Orunmila, Sango etc. It’s all about what you know and what you are ready to believe.

The truth is that sometimes we believe certain things because we were brought up to believe them – or because we found a solution we wanted at the time we chose to believe those things. However if we went somewhere else, we might find it is completely unacceptable THERE to express belief in those same things we believe in.

Imagine if a born again Nigerian medical doctor with a passion for "winning souls" got a job in a hospital in New York City, USA.

S/he would not need anyone to tell him/her NOT to go about using a megaphone in residential areas at 5.30am the way it is sometimes done out here by some individuals.

They have stricter rules there about "public disturbance". Also, people out there with different religious preferences rarely take kindly to anyone who chooses to "push" his/her religion in their faces.

Not many people will like the analogy I have just used, but I’m sure deep inside them they KNOW I am right.

That’s why I like the approach of the Buddhists better in many ways – they seem more prepared to accept that others around them may not share their religious preferences. And they demonstrate this "tolerance" in the manner they interact with everyone they meet.

Maybe religious people belonging to Groups 1 to 3 earlier mentioned, in Nigeria, might want to borrow a leaf or two from Buddhists.

Do I hear someone shouting "I reject that!"? Well…it’s just a suggestion :-)

Some Religious Nigerians May Need To STOP taking Marriage Vows!

Anyone who has watched Nigerian home video movies is likely to have seen what I am about to describe happen – AT LEAST once.

I mean a case in which a wife (legally and traditionally married to her husband) found herself being literally driven out of her matrimonial home. For instance, because her husband’s relatives(and sometimes her husband too!) believed she was barren.

Many dramatised stories of this sort are a reflection of what happens in society.

Some of us have had personal contact with married but childless couples. The torment the wife has to endure can be devastating. Some husbands manage to remember they are supposed to be strong, and try to defend/protect their wives.

Others are too cowardly to even try.

In very many cases, when the man and woman were getting married – traditionally and/or legally – prayers would have been said by relatives from both sides.

And sometimes by the presiding priest and/or a legally authorised person. The couples themselves would have said their vows – ending it with "for better for worse, in sickness in health, for richer or for poorer, till death do us part".

They would have invited their creator etc to witness and "bless" their union. In fact these people would tell a couple who fails to get married by going through this elaborate process, that they are NOT yet fully married properly.

If the man is the one who defaulted by failing to meet some requirements, he would be told he has NOT yet "married" his wife.

Yet the same people who took part in the above process would turn around to DESTROY it all by separating the couple

And they would even bring in what they consider a "fitting" replacement "wife".

In the case where they do not succeed, they make life miserable for the one they consider "guilty" of not making the couple bear a child.

As I said before, it is usually the woman that has to endure most of the insults and abuse.

The question I ask is, how come these people who so loudly proclaim faith in God, find it easy to destroy what they asked God to join together for them?

Why do they find it so easy to forget his "words" as documented in the religious books they read. Books in which "UNCONDITIONAL LOVE" is emphasized and believers are admonished thus:

…."Love your Neighbors as Yourselves" and "Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto YOU"…etc ?

What is the point of taking all those marriage vows if the fact that babies fail to come – or take too long in the opinion of some relatives – can provide enough justification to destroy a couple’s marriage – causing great anguish and pain to the husband and wife, the latter especially? This nonsense continues to happen daily. And I remain awed by the fact that there seems to be no class of people who do not exhibit these bad habits. It seems you can never be sure who will do it, until s/he is affected i.e. his/her child is married to someone and no baby is forthcoming.

That’s why I suggest such religious Nigerians stop taking marriage vows – or participating in the process.

At least that would make it easier to "scatter" the whole thing if/when anyone – relatives, friends or the couples themselves – feel it’s gone on for long enough! :-)

And Then There’s The Issue Of Religion Discrimination In Nigerian Business Practice

"Where do you fellowship?" Have you ever heard, asked or been asked, that question before?

If you are a Nigerian, the answer is likely to be YES (I think). In my case I cannot count the number of times I have found myself being asked THAT question by prospective clients that I met with in a bid to sell my services.

I always answered the question truthfully as follows "I do not fellowship".

Which would lead to other questions and eventually, I might earn myself a short sermon about why I need to give my life to… etc.

But that’s when I am "lucky".

I have had experiences in which I explained that did not fellowship, and that I did not feel a need to do so, stressing that I had a different preference regarding religion. The prospect suddenly became "coldly" receptive, and in most instances, I never made the sale.

Only on one occasion did I get past that problem. In that instance, after I gave my usual answer, the prospect asked if I belonged to the "other" religious group: "Are you a …..?".

I answered in the negative, to which he promptly said "Ah, because if you were a ……… there is just no way you could get this job".

I made a mental note of that statement in my head – it was serious enough to make an impression on me, even though I was not a ………

He then went on to tell me he would expect me to "convert" by the time I finished work on the first project they wished to have me do for them – IF I wanted him to give me the next job.

I told him I would think about it (but I already knew what my answer would be!).

The question I ask is : In what way does a man’s belief or unbelief in a particular religion make him LESS or MORE competent to do what he does for a living?

If we wanted to choose a contractor to build a bridge across the Atlantic or something as challenging, would we be looking at the RELIGION of those who submit bids for the job?

Or would we want to see evidence of their competence in form of past projects completed; client references etc?

I am sure everyone will agree that the latter are more relevant criteria than the former.

Yet in Nigeria, every SINGLE day, people take important decisions on behalf of their non-religious BUSINESS organisations/employers based on religious considerations.

The result is that mediocres and incompetents are awarded contracts/jobs while more qualified persons lose out because they do not profess faith in the same religion as the decision maker.

Is it then any surprise that some people who have lost out in this manner later decide to "pretend" to join the proposed religious group, in order to increase their chances of winning projects from such biased persons?

And is that not why so much insincerity exists today in many religious groups?

There is a rabid form of religious discrimination pervading this country – and it is destroying lives on a daily basis.

If we could all start doing the right thing, Nigeria would be better off for it.

In my case, I am VERY clear in my mind about what I believe and what I do NOT believe – and WHY!

If/when I feel my beliefs need to change, I will not need anyone to dangle a "contract carrot" in front of me to help me make up my mind.

After all, this is supposed to be a PERSONAL and SPIRITUAL matter – is it not?!

Final Words : At last, I’ve Said It…!

And who knows where they will be looking for my head now – considering all the "blasphemy" I have littered this page with :-))

But then nothing written here comes close to being inaccurate or untrue.

It just so happens that most "normal" people would rather not be the ones to be quoted as having SAID THEM!

So, I repeat what I said at the start of this piece:

There is a saying in Yoruba land that goes thus: "Enu mi ko ni won ti ma gbo pe iya teacher ku!". Translated literally, this means: "It will not be from my mouth that news of the death of the teacher’s mother will be heard!".

Obviously, in my case, I have chosen to do the opposite of what the wisdom of that saying suggests.

I hope I will be forgiven – even as I also hope those religious people guilty of acting in the ways I have described here can truly MEND their ways for the better.

Every society that wishes to lay claim to being PROGRESSIVE, must each of its members an INALIENABLE right, to believe whatever s/he wants.

Therefore let each person respect the Civil Liberties of the other!

PS: What I Have NOT Said!

One last thing. Even though it is obvious, I will like to state clearly that I have NOT said in this article that ALL religious Nigerians behave in the unsavoury ways I have described above.

As is the case with every thing else in life, there WILL AWALYS be exceptions.

So, let no one accuse me of making blanket generalisations.

I thank you in advance.

Why Some People Dislike Reading

It’s strange but true. A growing number of Nigerian adults DO NOT ENJOY reading. Apart from sports, politics, or entertainment, reading for more serious purposes (e.g. for personal and professional development) rarely interests them. Except when it’s related to some immediate monetary or other benefit.

In other words, adult Nigerians have – what is for the most part – an unconscious dislike for reading.

Most will however often explain this inadequacy away by saying they do not have enough “time”.

The irony is however that those who DO read, often tend to be busier and more productive than they are!

The cause of this aversion for reading is that those affected were not taught to read in the proper way. And that’s due to our educational system traditionally encouraging learners to “memorize” rather than “understand”.

That’s why the “look-say” method of reading is more common in our schools. However, as is normal in life, there are exceptions where some schools teach reading using phonics, in part or fully.

How do people learn?

I’ve read several very enlightening write-ups on this theme, written by seasoned academic professionals. Those works helped me realize why I’m such a successful reader, and why people who are not, struggle.

It has to do with how each of us was introduced to reading, from our early years in school!

Learning using the whole word approach is not the best way to learn. This is because people who use that approach have to employ a lot of guessing and memorizing. And that makes them inefficient learners, which later affects them negatively in life.

A person taught to read using phonetics will often be able to pronounce a strange or new word without help. But one who did not learn using phonetics will tend to struggle to pronounce complex and unfamiliar words.

And that’s why I’m keen to help my kids develop their phonetic reflexes as well.

As the author of one of the papers I read noted, English is a phonetic language.

And he explained that phonetics is a more efficient method for learning to read, because only 44 sounds need to be memorized.

On the other hand those who choose to learn reading by using the whole word approach, have to recall correctly (i.e memorize) 1 million words.

This latter approach is similar to what people learning to read in a picture language like Chinese or Japanese, need.

But we know that most countries that have phonetic languages do teach using phonics.

The author also pointed out that kids learn to speak by listening to and imitating sounds, which they combine to form words. It only makes sense therefore that they learn to read the same way they learned to talk.

Certain symptoms are common to people who do NOT learn to read using the phonics system:

Among others they tend to be slow readers, and often demonstrate poor comprehension. They readily get tired from reading, and will often display poor spelling skills.

All of this results in their deriving little or no pleasure for reading.

The symptoms listed above in my experience based opinion, are easily noticeable in many Nigerian adults!

I say this with every sense of responsibility.

Please stop and think for a minute because this may just help you appreciate how our traditional educational system has affected even you!

In truth, our schools are turning out sight readers!

It has been said that the phonetic reflex developed by phonetic readers, is what makes them read and write effortlessly. And that makes them mature into “independent readers”.

In contrast, a sight reader (who does not read phonetically) must depend on memory recall of individual words, and also contextual interpretation to correctly identify the word. This latter approach is naturally prone to error, and is naturally cumbersome and less pleasurable for the reader.

This is not surprising, since the “look-say” method favoured by sight readers, was originally developed for teaching deaf people!(as explained by Sam Blumenfeld)

No wonder its use for teaching perfectly normal children to read has been so unsuccessful!

So, why do we still use it – especially in Nigeria?

Maybe most of our educationists do not yet know this fact. Also, our experts could be waiting, as is our practice – for the Americans or British to stop before we do the same thing! (Actually in most cases they already have, at least compared to us, but we are never really up to date on such issues are we?)

Again, it could be because we think it takes less effort to get majority of children to learn via the "look-say" method.

Most teachers/schools want to “teach” as many children as possible in as short a time as possible. Particularly here in Nigeria, where the turnover in each class is directly correlated with the ability of the school to pay teachers leaving a “profit” for the owners.

Sounds nasty doesn’t it? But it’s the truth in many cases here in Nigeria.

That’s why when a child is identified to have difficulty learning using this traditional method, s/he get quickly labeled as a dunce and dumped or stigmatized etc.

What’s worse is that some parents, rather than try to get close to their child and understand her, instead also apply pressure to get her to be like those other kids.

The result is often a child lacking self-esteem, introverted in addition to having poor learning skills, also developing an intense dislike of learning generally.

I was lucky to have a mother who worked as a very keen practicing educationist

She took time to help me – and my siblings – learn to read and write via the phonetic methods.

Later in life, using books like those written by Tony Buzan, I would rapidly build on that comparatively advantageous foundation to become a much faster reader and comprehensive learner than most others around me.

Today, using the techniques I learned from Buzan’s book about Speed Reading and Mind Mapping, my productivity in reading/learning as well as creative thinking and writing has grown in multiple folds. And the evidence can be seen in my seeming ability to do many useful things simultaneously.

The foregoing is what has led me to become a multi-skilled entrepreneur (multipreneur) today. Just like I was a highly successful multi-skilled manager back in my days in Guinness Nigeria Plc.

Final Words: When a child gives teachers problems, poor reading skills could be the cause…

Based on what has so far been said, one begins to appreciate that when a child finds it difficult to understand what he is being taught, s/he may "protest" by being uncooperative.

Unfortunately, since majority of other children like him/her may not have similar problems (or have learnt to be docile and submissive), s/he would be the exception in the class.

This would naturally make the teacher feel the child is not "normal", or is being naughty.

S/he would consequently simply ignore the child (as I learnt happened to my younger sister in Nursery school, until my mother took her up for a week) or worse, s/he may decide to sanction the child.

It is instructive to note here that this same child, prior to starting school, would probably have shown no signs that s/he could not learn like others her age.

In fact, history has shown that children that give teachers problems of this kind, often tend to end up extremely successful in life later on.

A good example is Albert Einstein – who famously denounced the traditional schooling system for its heavy emphasis on rote learning (or memorization).

Learn more (References):

1. Read the full article by Sam Blumenefld: Dyslexia: Man-Made Disease found on the official website of Practical Homeschooling Magazine:

http://www.home-school.com/Articles/BlumenfeldDyslexia.html

2. Tony Buzan’s Speed Reading Book” provides illuminating evidence/explanations…

It was written by Tony Buzan who is regarded as a world authority on the brain, memory, creativity, and speed reading.

Buzan is also the inventor of the world-famous Mind Maps© taught in management/ training institutions like Lagos Business School among others in Nigeria.

Get a copy of Buzan’s book. It offers information and education every parent needs to help his/her child learn more successfully.

Visit the Buzan centre at www.Mind-Map.com.

FREE TALK: Profitable Buyers for Your Farm Products at Zero Cost!

Happy Workers’ Day to you!

A representative of an organisation serving a large farmers group in Lagos yesterday indicated interest in inviting me to give my FREE 1 hour talk to their members. I just published the flyer on my SD Nuggets blog.

The offer is open to farmer groups across Africa.

See details in the flyer below – click the JPEG image version to download the PDF.

The offer is open to farmer groups across Africa. See details in the flyer below - click this JPEG image version to download the PDF.
The offer is open to farmer groups across Africa. See details in this flyer – click this JPEG image version to download the PDF.

Prepare Your Kids to Succeed Despite Society’s Ills

If you’re a parent in Nigeria, you really – and I mean REALLY(!) – need to read the story told by Ayodeji Adeyeye, about the traumatizing JAMB examination centre experience, his 2 daughters had during the recent 2014 exams.

Unless you’re like one of the adults he says orchestrated the massive exam malpractices he described, you’ll be just as outraged as other right thinking adults who have read it.

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Adeyeye had no reason to tell a lie. He had nothing to gain…

What’s more, I have access to comments by another responsible adult, from a different Facebook discussion thread, which lend credence to Adeyeye’s claims.

That, and the testimony of other Nigerians living in Nigeria, was enough to convince me this was the truth.

In his Facebook post, Adeyeye narrates how, that fateful morning, he gave his young girls N2, 000 naira each, for refreshments at the exam venue.

He however noted that their older brother who was taking them down, had pointed out that the money he’d given them would be inadequate.

Being he, being uninitiated in the new ways of doing things at the exams, had argued that the money would be more than adequate for their needs. After all, they would only need to buy snacks to eat!

How wrong he turned out to be.

As I read the story, I could almost not contain my outrage!

Adeyeye said his girls were first of all met with a request to pay what was called “Marching Ground” to enter the exam hall.

The fee was N500 (Five Hundred Naira).

But that was mild…

The demand for N5, 000 (Five Thousand Naira) to get them connected to an “aide” via mobile phone who would supply answers to the questions, which followed soon shook them up!

The girls could not pay the requested fee. So the invigilator’s put marks on their papers meant to indicated they were caught engaging in exams malpractice!

Can you believe that?? Those who did NOT do wrong being given punishment meant for those who did?? Unbelievable!

Now, if you’re wondering where the policemen were, when all this was going on, Ayo tell us that they dutifully came in, collected their “allocation” of money and left.

And the invigilator’s…?

Well, they were the ones coordinating all of the action, from the front……while the parents of the candidates, we are told, monitored and controlled proceedings from right outside the examination hall!

Click here to read Adeyeye’s original narrative.

What many who read this story may not immediately appreciate…

You see, there a lot of damage being done to kids who are exposed to this kind of experience – on both sides…

a. For those kids like Adeyeye’s whose parents challenge them to study diligently, and take exams without cheating, frustration is bound to be their lot.

For instance, they are likely to get negative attention from invigilator’s, and peers who play the game…

b. For the kids whose parents have coached them to cut corners in this manner, they are bound to develop a warped sense of right and wrong.

And hard work or honesty will certainly make little or no meaning to them.

What’s more, since they’ll see their parents actively conniving with unscrupulous others to help them cheat in exams, such kids will grow up expecting such support all through school, and even life!

And they will in turn teach their own kids to be the same too, since they would not know better.

But that’s not the worst…

You see, society will gradually feel the negative multiplier effects of such happenings – as in today’s Nigeria. That;s why so called graduates cannot speak comprehensible English. It’s also why most of them are incapable of meeting the lowest employer standards for recruitment.

CEOs of multinationals in Nigeria have often cried out in frustration, after interviewing supposed First Class and Second Class Upper degree holders whose performances call their credentials to question!

The irony is that the misguided kids go around feeling they deserve to get the best jobs and opportunities. And their crooked parents (who often got where they are through similar methods), often help them open the needed doors.

But anytime they meet the kids of upright parents, crooked people feel threatened.

It happens all the time…

The crooked person whose credentials are phony naturally feels threatened by competent others. S/he knows given a level platform based on merit, such persons will outdo him/her.

So s/he will go out of his/her way to bring such persons down, so they not longer constitute a viable threat to his/her ambitions.

In other words, if YOUR child meets such a crooked person s/he would instantly be perceived as a threat to be eliminated (I’m assuming here that YOU, are one of the good guys…like I AM…)

So, no matter how nice your child tries to be, the fraudulent kids and their parents will never be comfortable around him/her.

As happened to Adeyeye’s kids, who now have to look forward to next year’s exams through no fault of theirs, your child may therefore be doomed to failure within the existing social setup in Nigeria.

My argument is that if you are not prepared to go crooked like those mentioned above, need to HELP their kids prepare better for the REAL world.

You will do this by equipping them with the knowledge and skills to flourish regardless of attempts to use existing systems to derail their progress.

By this I mean, rather than send them abroad (which I do not subscribe to, and many cannot afford), you can deliberately prepare your kids much earlier for LIFE outside school.

Formal schooling today needs to include life skills coaching.

Fewer jobs await school leavers at any level. And that’s why more and more people are finishing schooling and finding cause to launch careers in various vocational fields.

Today, it’s best that kids are introduced much earlier in life, to knowledge and skills they can use to earn a good living.

This does not stop a child from finishing school.

But it makes him/her better prepared to deal with the real possibility that formal schooling may NOT be enough to achieve success in larger society.

Take it from me, dear reader. Nowhere is the above statement truer, than in Nigeria.

No matter how intelligent your child is academically, today’s world makes it imperative that s/he acquire the know-how to earn EXTRA income using a variety of skills, within and/or outside paid employment.

You cannot foresee what is in store for your child. But you can prepare him/her better to deal with challenges that life and society will throw at him/her.

I’m doing that for my kids.

In past parenting articles I’ve shared several true stories/examples e.g. how I taught them to use pineapple peels to make a drink and cakes (baked without using an oven) which they sell.

You can do the same too.

Prepare yourself, by paying attention to what INTERESTS and TALENTS your kids have. Then learn how to match them with what WORKS in the real world, so they arrive adulthood with income earning abilities to succeed in spite of the antics of society’s "bad guys"!

Your kids are your most valuable investment in life.

Do NOT let society’s bad guys make you lose them!

Insights from BBC’s “Doing Business in Nigeria” article, vs New Income Opportunities I see for Farm Business Owners

The BBC’s “Doing business in Nigeria” article linked below, went live yesterday, and is trending ferociously.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-africa-27081948.

Isn’t it amazing that a newspaper outfit run by a Pulitzer prize winning journalist could have failed in Nigeria, as described in the article?

That reminds me of Richard Branson’s Virgin Nigeria airline partnership that failed in Nigeria few years back, and Branson’s very unflattering comments about how institutionalized corruption killed the venture!

Kudos to the Article’s Author (Adaobi Tricia Nwaubani), and the BBC!

For me, I think it’s great that more people are now willing to write the truth about what it’s really like trying to run an honest and upright business in Nigeria.

All these years I’ve written about clients who literally attacked me for trying to do things right.

Many told me I could not make it in Nigeria. And some went out their way to make sure I did not.

Like I’ve explained in past articles, it got to a point that the Attorney General’s office assigned me a lawyer to respond to a phony petition by an abusive client who wanted to make me work without paying my fees.

That incident, followed by some others, coupled with a confrontation with the local branch of the power company, about bloated bills, made me relocate to Benin Republic

Now, with articles like this, fewer people in their right minds can accuse me of being unpatriotic, or of exaggerating the problem in Nigeria.

In relation to my part-time marketing of high profile solutions like Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking mentoring products and services(as sole agent in Africa), my deep understanding of the “psychology” of Nigerians – as illustrated in the article – is what convinces me VERY few of them with financial means will be prepared to purchase them.

The environment they live and work in operates on completely different rules, compared to the rest of the normal world.

The truth is years of exposure has trained the Nigerian majority to accept most of the absurdities as normal, just like the author noted.

Over a decade of personal experience as an entrepreneur in Nigeria, convince me this is true.

What’s more, some of the comments posted under the BBC article readily add credence to my above assertion, about the uniquely warped “reasoning” that Nigerians in Nigeria employ in doing business locally.

That’s why businesses with contrarian philosophies and strategies end up being stifled to “death” in this country.

Only groups like high profile farm industry players I work with can be influenced to adopt solutions like Burt Dubin’s and those I offer.

Farm businesses cannot flourish with corner cutting, mismanagement or disregard for best practices that occurs in some other industries.

Their owners know that, and that’s why over 80% of orders for my Cost-Saving Farm Business products and services are placed remotely/online by CEOs of farms across Nigeria!

But I see more income earning opportunities most of them do not know are available to them…

There are, for instance, many agricultural conferences and other learning events held across the world that they can aim to serve as experts-who-speak.

The thing is that most don’t know it yet. So I aim to show them, so they can see how the public speaking products and services I promote can help them.

Apart from groups like the above, my focus will also
be on experts in other parts of Africa and beyond, where normalcy still exists.

That’s why I’ll soon be moving to another West African country, after I return to Cotonou – in line with my goals as a Location Independent Multipreneur.

Your Child can Succeed Even When Schooling Fails

This article was inspired by Dauda Ayodele’s Facebook post which read: ““THE POOR EDUCATION THEY ARE GIVING US IS INTENTIONAL. TO CREATE UNINFORMED MULTITUDES AND IT IS WORKING THE WAY THEY WANT”. It was linked to a 2006 report (shared by Dr. Chukwuma Christopher Osaji) that quotes Governor Ali Modu Sheriff, on the same theme.

Below: Screenshot of Dauda’s Post, And an Interesting Comment by a Friend of His

Dauda Ayodele’s Facebook post which read: ““THE POOR EDUCATION THEY ARE GIVING US IS INTENTIONAL. TO CREATE UNINFORMED MULTITUDES AND IT IS WORKING THE WAY THEY WANT”. It was linked to a 2006 report (shared by Dr. Chukwuma Christopher Osaji) that quotes Governor Ali Modu Sheriff, on the same theme.

First of all I want to say – with no attempt at flattery – that Dauda continues to impress me with his selfless commitment, to the emancipation of Nigerians/Africans from mental slavery.

Dauda’s profile states that he works as a school teacher.

But the quality of thoughts he shares daily on his facebook wall, prove he is more of the exception, than the norm amongst school teachers in Nigeria/Africa.

I believe Dauda somehow managed to pass through the traditional schooling system without losing his critical thinking skills.

And he’s taken it upon himself to help others liberate themselves mentally as well, by sharing his thoughts on issues affecting them on a daily basis.

This is why his ideas resonate so well with me!

In the above screenshot, I believe Nnamdi’s comment (which Dauda asks him to elaborate on) is in reference to damage that conventional schooling can do to those who undergo it, if they are not properly guided.

Accomplished people like Sir Ken Robinson, Robert Kiyosaki and Seth Godin, among others, have – for years – been advocating the need for schools to modify their curriculums, and approach to teaching, so as to eliminate the negative impact on learners, especially kids.

Parents and educationists in developed societies have been gradually making needed changes. That’s why a home schooling revolution continues in the USA for example.

Parents keep their kids at home and teach them the required subjects for work and life success in ways that DEVELOP and NURTURE their creativity.

In other words, their kids start from the equivalent of nursery and finish secondary level education, at HOME, without going to a physical school.

And many do better in life as a result. Because they are protected from the additional negative impact that may come from deliberate efforts to damage education provided in formal schooling systems – like the one Dauda referred to as happening in Nigeria, Dauda.

This means therefore that if parents do not want their kids to be turned in what Robert Kiyosaki calls "Mindless Parrots", they will need to stop depending on conventional schools to educate their kids.

Now, here’s the challenge that faces Nigerian parents in Nigeria:

They have even MORE work to do than parents in other parts of the world, to protect the creativity of their kids.

But most of them don’t even know it.

They do not realize that the danger in sending their kids to conventional schools in Nigeria, is EVEN greater than what parents in other societies face!

This is because "evil" power brokers in Nigeria are deliberately influencing a sutble "watering down" of the quality of education provided in formal schools.

They do this to make it easy to control the masses. And that’s what Dauda was saying in his post.

As a Nigerian Parent in Nigeria, You Therefore Need to Re-Educate Yourself to be Able to Help Your Child

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read or write. They will be those who cannot learn, unlearn and relearn” – Alan Toffer

The solution is therefore for parents to deliberately play a more active role in their kids’ education.

One aimed at providing the children with real-world relevant knowledge, skills and interpersonal know-how to survive, and excel in larger society, as adults.

As more and more parents do this, over time, the negative impact of formal schooling will be removed.

Below are 2 examples of self-study resources you can use to begin re-orienting yourself towards helping your child.

1. Schools Can Kill Your Childs Creativity IF You Dont Apply These Tips – By Tayo Solagbade

http://spontaneousdevelopment.com/sdnuggets/schools-can-kill-your-childs-creativity-if-you-dont-apply-these-tips-2/

[NB: I offer many more ideas, and links to ideas offered by others in my parenting articles (click to open in new browser window).]

2. If You Want to be Rich & Happy, Don’t Go to School? – By Robert Kiyosaki: Ensuring Lifetime Security for Yourself and Your Children (Paperback)

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0944031595/

This book was Kiyosaki’st first, and it became an international bestseller getting rave reviews from many teachers at all levels – including tertiary institutions.

In 2000, a copy I purchased online was delivered by Amazon.com from the USA, and since reading it, I have been an advocate of parents protecting their kids from the damaging influence of conventional schooling.

I believe those responsible for the deliberate damage of Nigeria’s schooling systems, as noted by Dauda, along with greedy profit focussed school owners, do not want this book to get read by Nigerian parents in Nigeria.

Maybe that’s why 10 years after I bought it, I have yet to find it on sale anywhere in Nigeria.

Yet I see other books by the same author, which I’ve also bought and read, like "Rich Dad, Poor Dad", and "Rich Kid, Smart Kid" (by the same author) in many bookshops in Nigeria!

If you’re a teacher and/or parent, here’s my advice: get a copy of Kiyosaki’s "If You Want to be Rich & Happy, Don’t Go to School".

Read it again, and again, and again, to unlearn the wrong stuff you picked up in school, and learn the right stuff to help yourself, and your kids.

Google to read articles and watch videos on better ways to provide schooling for kids, using the names of experts like those mentioned above.
 
This is for your sake, and also for your child’s sake.

PS: In case you wonder, the answer is an emphatic YES: I am Practicing What I Preach…

I actively inform and educate MY kids to counter the potentially negative impact of exposure to formal schooling they are getting.

I’ve been doing so for over a decade – starting with my first child, who was born almost 15 years ago.

And this is helping them develop useful critical thinking skills.

The successes I’m recording equip me to offer the ideas in this article.

I urge you to put them to use for the sake of your kids – not matter how busy you are. Otherwise, they could end up becoming one of the "uninformed multitudes" and "mindless parrots" that Dauda and Kiyosaki respectively referred to!

Can Lack Of Money Stop Your Marriage Succeeding?

Drawing from my experiences initially as an employee, and later as an entrepreneur, I describe the psychological challenge that confronts a person who runs out of money, while married – and doing business. I then offer practical for surviving such periods of financial adversity, without losing dignity.

Do you have a spouse?

If yes, do you think you him/her very well – intimately?

Would you boldly say you know what your spouse will or will not SAY or DO to YOU, regardless of how bad things get – especially financially?

For many couples, the correct answers to those questions would be difficult to predict. That’s the truth.

In certain societies, when people court each other towards getting married, one of the prime considerations is often the “net worth” (if you can call it that) of the other person.

Your friends, relatives, colleagues etc want to know “If s/he has a job; Where? Does s/he get good pay?” etc. If they like what they hear, they then congratulate you.

Very few will ask you if you love each other.

If you’re the type that needs others to “approve” of you, you might “find” a way to choose someone that would be “acceptable” to those whose approval you seek.

The sad result is sometimes that two fundamentally incompatible, but outwardly well-matched people tie the knot, and embark on what becomes a turbulent marital adventure.

I have worked closely with someone who frequently stayed out late, after work, just so as to get home when his spouse had gone to bed.

There were in fact situations where extended family members repeatedly had to intervene in squabbles between this husband and wife.

One thing that often tends to be at the root of this problem – whether the couples readily admit it or not – is MONEY.

I won’t bore you with any stories or details.

But if you think you know your spouse (or “fiancé/fiancée), especially where it has to do with money and its ready availability, I’d say…don’t be too sure!

My advice is that you try and get to see your partner at his/her worst, in relation to “lack of money” as soon as possible BEFORE you start the venture you intend.

This will prepare you for the worst.

Some people KNOW that their spouse’s “love” for them is directly correlated with the “ready” availability of money.

This knowledge is what keeps them from taking the “risk” of starting their businesses – much as they would have loved to.

It could be suicidal if you decide to go ahead without “testing”, and making sure about this for yourself. Assuming s/he will “understand” if things are difficult initially would not be a smart thing to do.

The books may not say this often, but many marriages have disintegrated during the tough start-up phases that a spouse’s new business had to go through.

The other person would have tried to share in the vision/endure the “suffering”. But somewhere along the line, s/he probably could not hold faith any longer.

So, the “fights” begin – the “tired” partner saying nasty things to his/her already embattled entrepreneur spouse – and they eventually separate.

When you read the autobiographies of some successful entrepreneurs, you’ll find that they never mention their spouses at any point all through the book.

The problem described above is probably the reason why…

So, I ask you again. Do you KNOW your spouse well?

Do you KNOW what s/he will or will not do should things get really tough in the process of starting-up your business? Remember that when difficulties arise, you will need all the support and encouragement you can get.

Be sure that the closest person to you is the type that will actually give you that.

The last thing you want, when you’re trying to keep an upbeat mental state, is someone telling you how stupid you were to have made this or that mistake.

Or reminding you of how the family could have been better off, if you hadn’t insisted on plunging all your savings/benefits into your “hair-brained” idea for a venture.

My purpose here, is to help you eliminate “grey areas” in your thinking about where problems will likely come from, when you start your business.

Oh, and by the way, if you also have kids, PLEASE make sure you set aside adequate funds to cater for them, all through the start-up phase.

If you cannot do this, then seriously consider waiting till you can. Do not jeopardize the security of your family. 

A lot of worrying issues that you never anticipated might just come from the home front.

Believe me when I say I KNOW what this feels like. I have experienced SEVERELY prolonged periods of heartbreaking lack of money.

What I went through during those tough years of struggling as an entrepreneur, really tested my marriage relationship to its limits.

The fact that my wife and I are still together today, in spite of those experiences, makes it possible for me to write this piece!

You would be wise to get yourself well and truly forearmed.

Lastly, what about YOU? Will YOU be the problem in YOUR home when you have no money?

NB: This article was first published online in 2006, and is one of twenty-five(25) contained in Tayo Solagbade’s Ebook titled "25 Articles/True Stories On Self-Development, Entrepeneuring & Web Marketing To Help You Succeed More Often"

Activism Does Not Succeed With Egotism (Case Study of Nigeria’s Activists)

I believe about 80% of Nigeria’s activists let egotism and hidden ambitions diminish their impact. This is based on my personal observations, and subtle testing, of many I’ve related with over the past decade. Screaming, tearing your hair out, or beating your head against the wall won’t change my view. And if youre objective, you’ll likely see that I’m right :-)

Nigerian activists are mostly well schooled members of the elite.

Surprisingly, unlike what happens in other climes, they struggle to achieve critical mass needed to influence significant, lasting change regarding their causes.

As a result, crooked, and poorly schooled individuals in government continue their mis-rule with impunity.

I share some of my views about WHY activism in Nigeria seems so ineffective, and suggest a possible way forward.

Over the past decade, I’ve made many efforts to team up, partner or collaborate with different individuals and/or groups supposedly engaged in activism for various causes.

Very rarely did I record any useful results. Most times I walked away disappointed by the shallowness of the exchanges that took place, and the tendency to “use” followers by “leaders”.

The best and most memorable experience I ever had in my attempts to team up with others to fight for a cause was the anti-fuel subsidy protests held at Gani Fawehimni’s park in Ojota.

For once I saw Nigerians engage in activism in great unison. It was exciting. But it could have ended better. At the tail end, there was a splitting of the ranks that led to decisions about suspending the protest being taken without ALL the activist groups being carried along.

Nigerians love to copy what happens in other countries, especially developed countries.

We copy more or less anything. Including bad fashion styles that make us assault one another’s sensibilities by dressing indecently!

What I however find strange is that we rarely, if at all ever, copy activism done in those same places we copy other things from.

One example…

Steve Biko, Nelson Mandela, Miriam Makeba, Archbishop Desmond Tutu are examples of great black South Africans who practised activism, as a means to FREE their people from Apartheid.

In fighting their cause, they all at various times repeatedly exposed themselves to dangers of all sorts. The protest letters and messages and songs they wrote to the apartheid government, and foreign leaders made them targets of the oppressive regime in power at that time in their country.

As a result they put themselves in harm’s way. Makeba was forced into exile. Mandela found himself in prison etc.

Another example…

In Nigeria, we’ve had real activists like Fela Anikulapo Kuti, Gani Fawehinmi, and Beko Ransome Kuti among others. These people spent extended periods getting negative, often punitive, attention from those they challenged.

They also wrote letters, and messages and songs, which addressed the causes they fought for. They had fans and admirers, but that did not insulate them from efforts launched by those they criticised to hit back at them.

As a result, they often became guests of security agencies in jails across the country. But it did not deter them. And they did not "water down" their messages.

Pastor Tunde Bakare is, for me, one of those still with us, who fits into the ranks of the above mentioned.

There are others of course.

For instance, Wole Soyinka is a seasoned activist still with us, who has intimidating activism credentials. He has proven his mettle at the battle front. Today, he still writes letters and messages and boldly stands up for the causes he supports – by collaborating widely, and selflessly lending his celebrity status to those he teams up with.

But Many Activists Today in Nigeria, Often Let the People Down!

Let whoever the cap fits wear it. I offer no names…but I have identified some guilty of this.

Feel free to accuse me of judging others, or trying to remove a speck from their eyes when I have a log in mine. That would cause me no discomfort whatsoever.

The truth however is that I am sick and tired of seeing the same phoney activists doing their phoney activism both online and off the web – especially ON THE WEB: Facebook in particular!

They make a mockery of what true Nigerian activists have done, and continue to do. And they provide the loop holes, through which the bad guys we are after, can escape.

They give them an opportunity to break our ranks, because those bad guys know they’ll cave in under pressure, that they cannot stand strong in the face of threats or aggression.

That they will compromise for the right price.

That their egotism will make them ALWAYS put "self" above the rest.

These are the reasons why they are unable to UNITE to beat inertia, and build momentum to achieve the critical mass they need to make lasting impact in pursuit of their cause(s)!

That’s why most campaigns they launch often lack meaningful impact, and often fizzle out in no time.

It’s also why they embark on placard carrying protests, which make a mockery of the word itself!

I see many using platforms like Facebook, to propagate their messages to followers who fall over themselves to comment on every post.

To the untrained eye of the uninitiated, rarely will anything seem amiss.

Yet, I see a lot that’s not right in their daily egotistic tendencies exhibited via their Facebook posts/comments, as well as their actions/inactions.

1. They prefer “fans” who agree with views they express, and who rarely tell them where they’re wrong.

2. They keep a distance from other activists they do not know in person, but who have built equally good reputations in fight for the same cause they support.

Each person expects the other to come and introduce him/herself, and propose working together. Neither wants to lose face by taking the first step.

S/he does not want to be seen as “smaller” than him/her. In the process, the causes they support suffer, because the JOINING of forces does not happen, or does so late!

From watching them, it seems each person fears the other person could steal his/her “thunder” or “prestige” by outshining him/her if given too much visibility or recognition in his/her social space.

The above bad habits are all about silly egotism!

And this keeps them from leveraging the power of the social media platforms they use, and even the offline networking that’s open to them.

Once again, the cause(s) they claim to support ultimately suffer(s) LESS momentum as a result.

The Way Forward: Noise Making & Self-Glorification Achieve Too Little!

FACT: Selflessness, spirit of service, integrity, as well as HONOUR are more important requirements for successful activism.

And we have many examples in recent history we can learn from, if we really want our activism to succeed. Otherwise, those we “fight” will never take us seriously!

Mandela and His Fellow Freedom Fighters acted as ONE well oiled team!

No opponent can withstand an assault from that kind of team!

Watching the movie about Mandela’s time in jail, the many efforts made by the apartheid government to split their ranks were dramatized.

False information would be fed to Mandela on the inside that his people on the outside had give in, or given up. Then they would tell him he was alone, and ask him to give up the fight.

But Mandela stayed strong. And so did his colleagues on the outside. Sometimes they managed to slip information to him warning that what he was being told about them was untrue.

They did this even though they knew they could be in danger. This UNITY in spirit, kept them strong, and made it impossible for the adversary to wear them down.

Everyone was willing to serve. No one felt s/he had to be “Oga or big boy/big girl” or “most popular”.

Even over the course of 27 long years that Mandela was in jail, they stayed true to one another.

No one felt s/he was more important than the others.

They covered one another’s backs.

They gladly helped publicize issues relevant to each member, without feeling diminished by doing so.

Today, people from all over the world enjoy visiting and relating with the NEW South Africa, because of the sacrifices made by these true activists!

That was also the kind of team work African Americans used to end black segregation in America.

No one felt s/he was more important than the others. Everyone was willing to put in the needed work, side by side with the next person.

And they readily formed strong alliances with like minded others that the opposition could not break.

Their concerted efforts over time led to the end of segregation, and brought freedom to blacks!

Nigerian Activists MUST stop working in ISOLATED pockets of Egotism & Selfish Ambition!

That is, IF they want useful long term progress in pursuit of the causes they claim to support.

They need to start teaming up selflessly, to form a truly UNITED front that no opposition will be able to crack, regardless of who leads or who follows.

And they will have to maintain that front, even in their online interactions.

Especially on Facebook!

That means they will do what Jean Claude Van Damme, Bruce Willis, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, Michael Jai White and others with “fans” do on Facebook…

What’s that you ask?

Well, on each of the above person’s facebook page, you get to read his/her own thoughts, ideas and opinions, as well as view photos and videos of himself, or something he likes.

But every once in a while, his fans will also encounter him/her posting of interesting/useful content about one or more of others…some of who could even be described as his rivals.

Nigerian activists must learn to actively collaborate in promoting one another’s causes, and acknowledging each other in the same way.

That is, if they really want to build the MASS and MOMENTUM to succeed with their campaigns!

Further Reading…

My Ideas for Making Nigeria Better

Fulfilling Farm Business Best Practice Product Orders, Amidst Chaos (True Story)

[Lagos, 6:49a.m, 6th April 2014] Each time I visit Lagos, I see more reasons to justify not doing any aspect of my work from here.

I spent all of Friday 4th February 2014 – under stressful conditions – battling to prepare and send courier packs to 3 Farm CEOs who paid for my products.

One is based in Kano (Feed formulation Handbook and software), a second, in Jos (Poultry Farm Manager) and the third in Warri (Feed Formulation Home Study Pack).

Holding a Ready-to-Dispatch Print Copy of My Popular Practical Feed Formulation Handbook

Holding a Ready-to-Dispatch Print Copy of My Popular Practical Feed Formulation Handbook

I sent 2 of the packs off at 5.15p.m, from the Fedex branch along Ikeja’s Toyin street.

The 3rd goes out Monday a.m once I get additional handbook copies made.

My new Practical Feed Formulation (& Compounding) Home Study Video Series DVD

My new Practical Feed Formulation (& Compounding) Home Study Video Series DVD

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It is bundled with a copy of my Ration Formulation Software, video tutorials, pdf user guide, a physical copy of my Feed Formulation Handbook, and other products.

Delivery is via courier.

The link below leads to a detailed description:

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Massive traffic jams all over the area made moving around to get that done soooo hard.

Near zero power supply has meant my having to force myself to do needed work with noise from multiple generators making my head ring – my work rate suffering badly as a result.

Honestly!!

Only the knowledge that my new product offers are bringing in much more sales make it easier to bear.

My new Poultry Farm Manager app CD

My new Poultry Farm Manager app CD

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http://tayosolagbade.com/uploads/screenshots_MonthlyPoultryFarmManager.pdf

Learn more at:

http://tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets/a-pocket-friendly-poultry-farm-manager-software-for-profit-conscious-farm-business-owners

Click the link below to watch the demonstration video for the ExcelVB driven Poultry Farm Operations Management software.

You can see the demo video at:

http://www.tayosolagbade.com/pfmgr.html

Alternatively, the Youtube version can be viewed at:

http://youtube.com/watch?v=u2OEhGPmd5E#watch_actions

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I still have a past buyer from Tanzania asking for payment details too (for my home study video), while a Kenyan CEO is working to repeat the bank transfer (for my Poultry Manager app), using the corrected domicillary account details I got by visiting my bank on Tuesday.

This rapid increase in orders for physical versions of my products is something I’ll have to handle more from Cotonou.

Not only will it cost about 40% less to produce copies, there’s also a lot less stress involved in fulfilling orders from that end.

My Feed Formulation Handbook hard copy & Ration Formulator software DVD

My Feed Formulation Handbook hard copy & Ration Formulator software DVD

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Hint: The page that has details of my Excel-VB driven Ration formulator software and handbook etc is at:

http://iff.tayosolagbade.com/wp/feed-formulation/

The handbook offers 60 pages of practical information, guidance and tips on feed formulation AND compounding.
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Would you believe, I had to walk 2.5 hours from Ikeja to my home, when after waiting 4 hours from 4p.m till after 8p.m, the traffic jam along the routes failed to ease up?!

But in a way it was fun. I decided to make it fun, rather than let it affect my mood. And I’m always ready to push my fitness level higher :-)

However, the chaos, and extremes out here remind me of why I moved to Cotonou, and why once I find a willing property owner, I’ll move my family to join me.

As I began walking from the bus stop, 2 young chaps in their mid 20s to early thirties joined me. I’d told them while we waited that I would walk home if the traffic jam did not improve.

The traffic situation already bad for weeks before, due to elaborate road repairs being carried out, really peaked that day.

I would later learn it was due to the monthly exodus of thousands of Redeemed Christian Church of God (RCCG)’s members to their “camp” along the Lagos-Ibadan expressway.

I and my new young friends chatted about Nigeria, about corruption and eventually about our work.

This made our progress faster, as we walked. About 400m past the Grammar school bus stop, my friends found a bike rider willing to take them to Akute, their final destination.

We exchanged contacts, they left, and I continued walking another 15 minutes to my home.

The top of my Cotonou sewn native outfit was drenched in sweat.

My thick soled army regulation type leather shoes were completely covered in brown dirt from the long trek, making me shake my head in self pity.

I slept at 11.45p.m that Friday, after taking my meal and posting the blog article for the day.

Waking up Saturday morning at 7.30a.m, I watched movies with my kids all day (Jamie Foxx’s “The Whitehouse is down” is GREAT!).

At last I felt as relaxed as I’d wanted to be since coming down to see them!

A few days back they’d surprised me by baking and selling cakes without an oven like I taught them late last year.

I’d challenged them to do it as part of “celebrations” of the anniversary of my 1st year in Benin Republic.

I’ve been bragging to everyone about the zero oven charcoal stove cakes being made, and sold by them…and even wrote a blog article about it on Thursday:

http://tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets/sometimes-youll-need-to-keep-it-within-your-family/

Despite all that’s happened, I cannot deny that Nigeria’s peculiarly harsh atmosphere drives people to function at their best.

Apart from pushing me to explore smarter and more creative ways to get my work done, it’s helped me start my kids on the entrepreneurial path, towards achieving financial independence.

That’s a dream I’ve had since the first child was born, in 1999.

Having said that, I know it’s better to expose them to other societies, like Cotonou, Douala, Accra, so they can see that life does not have to be so hard, harsh and tough.

That 20 hour hustling need not be a way of life.

That corruption is not a pandemic there, like it is here.

That in those societies laws often work, social order exists, making it inevitable that wrong doers, small or big, get duly punished.

I realize I need to let them see all that, lest they conclude that the many negatives they see growing up in Nigeria, are “normal” and unavoidable.

And that’s why I’m eventually going to make them travel with me.