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Societies That Progress Make Their Best Talents Feel Wanted

Nigeria has wonderful talents that can add great value to the world. But they need a favourable environment to flourish. Today, I paid for a nice apartment (photos below) that -post refurbishing – my family will soon join me to live in here in Cotonou.

If I had a choice, I would have stayed in Nigeria…

That’s the truth.

Today, I paid for a nice apartment (photos below) that -post refurbishing - my family will soon join me to live in here in Cotonou.
Today, I paid for a nice apartment (photos below) that -post refurbishing – my family will soon join me to live in here in Cotonou. A good friend inspects the inside and outside, after we made payment and took possession of the keys.

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If I’d not felt stifled while based in Nigeria, I would not have moved here in April 2013.

Unfortunately despite trying hard to patriotically build my brand from within my own country, I eventually had to admit to myself, that nothing was going to change anytime soon.

I had to put my wife and kids into consideration – as well as my dreams and ambitions.

Staying in Nigeria had been killing me “softly and slowly” – in terms of my ability to excel at what I chose to do for a living.

It was that bad.

Click here to read the article in which I outlined the combination of unfavourable factors that forced me to relocate.

When I muted the idea of moving next door to Benin Republic, in 2013, someone told me the problem was not Nigeria, but my attitude.

He was about twice my age, and he had run his own business for decades.

Normally, I should have taken his age, and years of experience into consideration. However, I had enough depth of insight to know his view was one-sided.

My insight came from years of carefully analysing my experiences, and comparing with what others reported in their societies.

Also, I had access to powerful books that articulated timeless success philosophies that had been proven to work regardless of geographical location.

All of the above pointed, very clearly, to the what I chose to do for a living, and my attitude of rejecting how “business” was done in Nigeria was not the “problem”.

Instead, the socio-economic environment I chose to work in was actually a major limitation to my ability to progress.

Thankfully, those books I read also proffered a solution.

And it was that sometimes one would need to change the environment from which one was trying to achieve success.

You could ask: But what about those who remained in Nigeria and succeeded?

My answer would be that what I do is different from what they do. And how I choose to achieve my goals may not be how they opt to pursue theirs.

I once read a wise quote which went thus:

“To be well adjusted to a sick society is no sign of good health.” – Anonymous

My experiences confirm the above to be a very accurate statement.

Some people – actually many people – in Nigeria, who run businesses, are good people. However, most of them do not engage in what can be called “ethical” or above board business dealings.

It is possible that not all of them want to do business that way. My interactions with them certainly suggest that they are willing to admit that giving “bribes” or other inducements to win contracts is not right.

However, most have convinced themselves there is no alternative.

In my case, I could not accept to do business that way. But that did not make me judge them.

Instead, I simply avoided going to places where I would encounter “requests” to do such things to get my products and services purchased.

Since the majority of people did not believe in my approach, that meant I got less patronage than I needed.

I was consequently often just limping along financially.

This local challenge made me begin to explore the use of the web to find more people willing to relate with me on my own terms.

But “they” again told me I was wasting my time.

That Africans were not ready to do business that way.

And all that.

When I was still in Nigeria, it appeared they were right.

I found I was not getting as much attention as I needed, despite stepping up my web marketing efforts.

However, I also noticed that I was limited in how much I could do by the fact that I had to use the generator 90% of the time.

In other words, if I got a client project, finishing it to the agreed deadline meant I had to run almost exclusively on generator power, as PHCN, Nigeria’s wonderful power company remained as unreliable as ever.

As you can imagine, fuelling and servicing the generator was no small expense. Apart from the hefty spending I had to do in that regard, there was the wear and tear, as well as the air and noise pollution to consider.

What was worse was that Internet connectivity was also both expensive and periodically expensive.

So, while in Nigeria, I had to incur expenses in multiple directions to finish ONE job. This made taking on multiple projects a potential nightmare.

It was hard to take on multiple projects, out of a fear that one would be unable to deliver as promised.

But that had nothing to do with my abilities. Instead, it had everything to do with the resources available in the environment I chose to work from.

Since relocating to Benin, I have demonstrated just that with my achievements!

For instance, I have repeatedly handled multiple Web Marketing Systems development and Excel-VB Software development projects.

And in between, I’ve travelled to give talks, and write research papers that I got paid for.

Not once did I miss any of the agreed deadlines. Indeed, I have consistently exceeded my clients’ expectations.

This explains why ONE client here in Cotonou has now given me 3 different high profile projects to handle in less than 14 months of meeting me!

Most interesting however is the fact that nearly 90% of sales I make for my products and services today, are to buyers based in Nigeria.

That is the SAME country I had to relocate from, in order to reach my full potential!

All of the above makes it clear that my environment was really a major limiting factor on my ability to excel while I was in Nigeria.

Just yesterday, I published my latest print/physical book.

It is over 80 pages thick but I only began writing it just 6 weeks ago.

If I had been in Nigeria, I really doubt I could have finished and put it online in 6 months, with confidence in the content QUALITY!

The above are key reasons why I had to take this painful decision to move my family to Cotonou.

Another reason is the massive difference in cost of living.

Cost of food here continues to amaze me here. I spend over 4 times LESS for a plate of food, compared to Nigeria.

Now, you can imagine what that means for my family’s upkeep.

I still earn income the same way, but I’ll be making HUGE savings when they get here.

But the savings here, when my family comes down, will not just be on feeding…!

Even getting a hair cut, transportation, photocopy, electricity, water etc costs so MUCH less in Benin. I offered some price comparisons in this article that explains why I relocated.

Even housing is much LESS expensive!

For my nice new apartment, which only needs painting and slight refurbishing, I paid 6 month’s rent, plus a one month “refundable security deposit”, and the agent’s commission (one month’s rent).

Now, at the expiration of the 6 month period, I only have to pay monthly.

Yet the money I paid for this nice place I rented is about half the rental of the place my family lives in currently in Nigeria!

Despite that fact, the space, and finishing of the property here in Cotonou is way better!

Also, in Nigeria, you pay for 2 years and afterwards you pay annually. People have to run around to raise funds to pay rent. Some subsequently struggle to feed their families for weeks, before they recover. Life is made needlessly harsh in Nigeria!

So far, the only major exception – in terms of costs – is my Blackberry subscription.

Here in Benin, I pay the equivalent of 1 month’s fee in Nigeria, for a week’s access.

But that is well covered many times over, by the multiple savings I make in virtually all other areas.

The reason we have this disparity in cost of living between both countries is the Nigerian Factor ™

The Nigerian Factor stifles Nigeria’s ability to make it’s gifted citizens willingly come – or stay – home. Here’s how I define it:

“The Nigerian factor is what makes things that work elsewhere fail to work in Nigeria. It is also what makes doing the wrong thing acceptable and doing the right thing condemnable” – Tayo Solagbade

I believes that anyone who truly loves Nigeria will want her to develop to the point where many individual Nigerians will no longer feel a need to flee for Europe and America (and in the case of people like me – Benin, Ghana or even Togo!) in order to achieve worthwhile goals.

Perpetuation of the Nigerian Factor currently makes this development process difficult, if not impossible.

I have a vision to provide information and education for re-orientation towards eliminating the Nigerian Factor.

Why?

Because I believe every business organisation will find her chances of survival and profitable existence threatened, if negative influences that prevent stabilisation of political and economic conditions persist.

Individuals are also guiltly of making the problem worse in Nigeria!

The irony is that those responsible for cutting corners in Nigeria for personal monetary gain are NOT all in government.

Some are individuals in society who think it is smart to exploit the existing loopholes.

Maybe that is why many Nigerians seem incapable of insisting that things be done as expected. They can ask for a while, but they soon give up and accept anything they are told hoping that the problem will resolve itself.

I believe that this LACK OF POLITICAL WILL (note that political will need not be demonstrated through violence) is what makes Nigerians continue to suffer the hardships they complain so much about.

The following quote reinforces this:

“Find out just what any people will quietly submit to, and you have the exact measure of the injustice and wrong which will be imposed on them” – Frederick Douglas

Even though I have chosen to work from outside Nigeria, I continue to make myself available to add value to Nigeria and Nigerians using my products and services.

I do this because I LOVE my country and want to help her develop.

However I am not naive enough to blindly put myself – and my family – in harm’s way, be it financially or otherwise, to “help” Nigeria!

My experiences have taught me that people willing to let Nigeria develop are in the minority, both in and out of government.

The majority have found a way to exploit the chaos in the country for personal gain. And so they don’t want things to “change for the better”, for obvious reasons!

So, I know this is not a battle that will be won quickly.

Howeve, with help from the creator, I know we who are of like mind, will join forces, over time, until we win!

[Now Available!] KUKURU DANGER™: 5 True Stories About the Adventures – & Misadventures! – of a School Age Child Trying to Find Purpose in Life.

In this unusual book, Tayo Solagbade narrates 5 true stories about a dizzying variety of (sometimes shocking) escapades he engaged in – while schooling – that repeatedly landed him in trouble, causing his parents avoidable heart breaks.

In the first story, Tayo suffers the embarrassment of having a female classmate falsely accuse him – to their class teacher – of peeping at her in the girls’ room!

He would however shake off the potentially traumatizing experience, to earn a double promotion into enter secondary school one year ahead of his class, in 1980.

At the age of 10, in his first year in secondary school, Kukuru Danger™ (Tayo’s alter ego) joins a notorious group of students, in a bid to escape frequent bullying from bigger and older classmates.

Over the course of the year, they routinely sneak out of school to eat meals at Mai Shai shops without paying, steal coins from trader’s slot machines, and catch crabs at the Lagoon front!

At a point, Kukuru™ begins stealing money from home, to play the slots. But he soon gets caught.

By the school year’s end his mother is shocked to read the principal’s comments at the bottom of his report card, saying “To repeat for cheating”.

Click here to continue reading in the online store…(or click the front and back cover images below.

 

 

 

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Front Cover for 'KUKURU DANGER™: 5 True Stories About the Adventures - & Misadventures! - of a School Age Child Trying to Find Purpose in Life.

Back Cover for 'KUKURU DANGER™: 5 True Stories About the Adventures - & Misadventures! - of a School Age Child Trying to Find Purpose in Life.

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No. 153: A “Formula” Schools Need to Teach, But Don’t! (FREE PDF Report)

“Any school that teaches this “formula” will discover her products – who apply it diligently – will never beg for jobs, or experience “unemployment”, talk less of poverty.

If you think that’s a reckless claim, I challenge you to read this report with an open mind. Unless you detest authentic success, when you’re done, you’ll be EAGER to learn and use the “formula” – and to also teach it to your child – or students!”

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Click now to view the latest issue of Tayo Solagbade's Public Speaking IDEAS page

Publication: Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Newsletter

Date: Monday 3rd August 2014

No:153

Title: A “Formula” Schools Need to Teach, But Don’t! (FREE PDF Report)

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [Tel: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic) ]

Blog URL: http://www.tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets

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No. 153: A “Formula” Schools Need to Teach, But Don’t! (FREE PDF Report)

Any school that teaches this “formula” will discover her products – who apply it diligently – will never beg for jobs, or experience “unemployment”, talk less of poverty. If you think that’s a reckless claim, I challenge you to read this report with an open mind. Unless you detest authentic success, when you’re done, you’ll be EAGER to learn and use the “formula” – and to also teach it to your child – or students!”

The idea I reveal in this new PDF report is the solution to poverty and unemployment anywhere.

Note however that is NOT my brain child. In fact, it came into use many years before I was born.

But, for some strange reason, even some of the best schooled people do not know it, or how to use it.

As a result, they go through life – in spite of all their education, and impressive qualifications – achieving BELOW their God-given potentials!

That’s why I consider discussing this amazing, but little known/understood formula, important enough, to make it the “subject” of this week’s issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter.

But just in case you wonder how this relates to public speaking, my argument is that expert-speakers who serve the EDUCATION industry at all levels (up to tertiary), need to develop “programs” to help schools adapt their curriculum to include this “formula” my report reveals.

I offer my report’s contents to help them get started.

And I’ve also resolved to begin offering my own “programs” towards helping interested institutions make the long overdue modifications to their teaching content.

As experts-who-speak, our key role is to be agents of positive change in society.

And one important area where our insights can make very useful impact on society is EDUCATION.

I hope you will join me in this worthy cause.

Come to think of it, your children – and mine – stand to benefit as well!

Click here – or the image below, to download the report now.

A “Formula” Schools Need to Teach, But Don't! (FREE PDF Report)

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And PLEASE I urge you to share it as far and wide as you possibly can!

EVERYBODY needs to know this Magic Formula – tested and proven to work for VERY many decades, with ample verifiable evidence.

If you are a parent, teacher or school owner interested in getting my help with regard to the above, click here to contact me!

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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to

Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organisations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organisations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

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“Tayo, I honestly believe you are one of those who will succeed at anything he does. Your commitment and effort has been outstanding….Thanks for all your hard work since I’ve been here – you will be sorely missed. I don’t need to wish you good luck, you have the ability to make your own luck. – Andy”(R. Jones)*

*Operations Manager, Guinness Nigeria Plc Benin Brewery, December 2001 (Handwritten comments in farewell/xmas cards sent to Tayo Solagbade following his resignation to start his own business).

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“Bleaching” Your Skin Insults Your Creator, and Makes You Lose Dignity (Message from Fela Anikulapo Kuti and Lupita Nyong’o to Black/African Parents & their Children)

One of Fela’s most popular songs when I was a child was :”Yellow Fever” – released when I was 6 years old, in 1976. I LOVED that song. Still do too(see Youtube video below)! He was basically challenging skin-bleaching black men and women, who wanted to become “white” by force, out of an inferiority complex, to change their ways.

Click to watch on Youtube here.

Apart from his fierce defence of human rights, as being each person’s “personal property’ and therefore NOT to be “given” to us by others, Fela also launched “lyrical” attacks on corrupt governments/individuals.

And of course he constantly challenged the individual African to treat him/herself with respect.

I named my first child “OLUFELA” in 1999, in honour of Fela! Just like his daughter said in this pictured poster, he was – and remains – a major influence on my thinking about how to be a PROUD AFRICAN.

Sadly, many hypocritical parents/adults focused on his weed smoking as a convenient excuse to ignore his wise – and prophetic – counsel.

Most of Fela’s songs, always carried clear and powerful messages to either the common people, or the government of the day, or “colonial” powers.

As an adult African, and parent, today, one of the things that bothers me the most is the apparent self-hate that Africans/black skinned people seem to have for their skin colour…and hair.

Today, I travel around quite a bit, and I see that the problem is worse. Women especially, African WOMEN in particular, continue with this sickening habit.

I look around me and it appears every time I see 5 normal skinned black persons, at least ONE rainbow coloured skinned woman passes by as well!

In Lagos-Nigeria and Cotonou-Benin Republic, where I currently do most of my traveling, this skin “bleaching” trend is like some kind of competition!

And all sorts of crazy skin creams are arriving the markets, to feed this madness!

The sad thing is that they NEVER end up better off…as Fela points out in his lyrics.

He starts by explaining that there are 2 kinds of Yellow “Fever” – the Original one (i.e. the actual sickness) and the artificial (skin bleaching from black to lighter tone in an effort to look white)

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Original and artificial he dey!

Bom bom bom, tell me now…

Original catch you

Your eye go yellow

Your yansh go yellow

Your face go yellow

Your body go weak

I say but later if you no die inside

The yellow go fade away

Artificial catch you

You be man or woman

Na you go catch am yourself

Na your money go do am for you

You go yellow pass yellow

You go catch moustache for face

You go get your double colour

Your yansh go black like coal

You self go think say you dey fine

Who say you fine?

[Chorus]

Na lie, you no fine at all!

At all, na lie!

My sister, who say you fine?

[Chorus]

Na lie, you no fine at all!

At all, na lie!

Yellow fever

[Chorus]

You dey bleach, o you dey bleach!

You dey bleach, o you dey bleach

African mother

You dey bleach, o you dey bleach

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Read the lyrics to the song here (http://www.lyricsbay.com/yellow_fever_lyrics-fela_kuti.html)

Add to that the thirst by the same women to wear imported long straight hair, that the God they claim to BELIEVE in, never thought it wise to give them at birth, and you discover a pandemic of unimaginable proportions!

This need to avoid a loss of identity, as an African, is one of the reasons I have vowed to coach my own kids to be comfortable with who they are, and what they look like.

That is, to have what sane human beings know as SELF-ESTEEM.

It is why I’m publishing my new book titled “Kukuru Danger™ about my own childhood search for self-discovery and purpose.

I too suffered a need to belong, and to be accepted, right from my early years and even in my later adult years. But by listening to Fela’s lyrics, and also reading books about self-development, I learnt to believe in myself, and never feel inferior to any other human being.

Today, that mental attitude serves me well in my dealings with people – regardless of who they are, how important they are (or think they are) or where they come from – even if from MARS!

More Africans need to realize that the world appreciates them for being the way they are, MORE than it will ever appreciate them for trying to be what they are inherently NOT.

And if we ever needed proof of the above stated fact, well Lupita Nyong’o’s example perfectly fits the bill. And luckily for us, she herself shared a familiar story that proves she knows what others with her skin complexion pass through.

But she arrived on the world stage and discovered it was willing to accept her, if she accepted herself.

Today, she is celebrated by virtually everyone who is anyone in her industry…yet her complexion remains the same, and so does the hair on her head!

How I wish African women and their men (some tell me their women look “more beautiful” after bleaching!) will wake and rediscover the pride and essence of being who they are.

Some try to make it sound less nasty by calling it skin toning, and they refer to those with money (e.g female black celebrities) who “successfully changed” skin colours as justification for doing it too.

How lame! Goes right back to the lack of identity and self-esteem I started this article with.

Look, white skinned people get sun tanned skins by spending time in the sun, or using sun tan lotions. But the effects are never permanent. If they stop, their skin changes back to it’s natural white. But a black skinned person cannot get a white “tan”, you see. That’s why when a black skinned person goes “yellow” or “white”, s/he never changes back. Now, you can say it’s “toning”, if you like, but THAT, is what I call SKIN BLEACHING (to borrow Fela’s very apt terminology).” – Tayo K. Solagbade

By the way, last time I checked Oprah Winfrey remains globally acknowldged and respected, and I have NOT see her undergo any noticeable skin colour changes.

Should Oprah not be the role model we should all try to emulate in that (and other) respects???

The truth is that the world will be a much better place for us to live in, when we start respecting ourselves.

Only then will others really take us seriously and respect us as well. But if we keep acting as if we’re inferior (and we have NEVER been), then those who relate with us and who see that, will naturally treat us that way.

The choice is yours. What will you do? And what will you TEACH your child to do???

I know what I already do, and I have begun teaching my kids to do it as well. In my family/clan will always be black and proud sons and daughters of Africa!

Lupita ended her wonderful acceptance speech on black beauty with the following words…

“And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside.”

I now offer those same words, as a parting message, to my fellow black skinned African women and men who may be tempted to “bleach” their God-given complexions lighter, to feel better about themselves.

Don’t do it. You insult yourself, and your creator if you do. And it will never be worth it!

To Succeed Despite Misconceptions and Stereotypes, Let Your Work Speak For You (2 True Stories)

Yesterday I had a Skype chat session with a Pakistan based Poultry Farm CEO, about my Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager. At a point, he wrote: “it is good to see that kind of work from Africa”(screenshot below).

Yesterday I had a Skype chat session with a Pakistan based Poultry Farm CEO, about my Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager. At a point, he wrote: "it is good to see that kind of work from Africa"(see screenshot below)
Yesterday I had a Skype chat session with a Pakistan based Poultry Farm CEO, about my Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager. At a point, he wrote: “it is good to see that kind of work from Africa”(see screenshot)

I knew he meant it was rare to find an African based in Africa, selling functional, and customizable Excel-Visual Basic software to a global audience.

Incidentally, he was not the first to do say that to me. Others have expressed similar sentiments in the past.

For instance, I’ve been friends with a “Singaporean” professional Excel-VB developer for about 5 years now…for the same reason…

He’d found my Excel Heaven website, and after watching my video demos, sent me a web form message to express how impressed he was.

Below: This video demonstration of a Financial Reporting App I built for a large Lagos based hospital in 2007, was one of those that got his attention:

He also pointed out that I could make a few additions to some of my demos, for better effect.

In that regard, he was referring specifically to an enhanced version of an MS Excel workbook for engineers, that I’d downloaded from www.structural-engineering.fsnet.co.uk – which (I think) is now also accessible via www.structural-engineering.co.uk.

See screenshot below.

NB: I'll be putting up a video demonstration showing how the enhanced version of this simple workbook functions, on my Youtube channel next week. Subscribe to the channel, if you wish to be notified
NB: I’ll be putting up a video demonstration showing how the enhanced version of this simple workbook functions, on my Youtube channel next week. Subscribe to the channel, if you wish to be notified.

I replied saying I really did not have much interest in doing more than I had already done, as I doubted that potential buyers in my target market (Africa), would be interested in that kind of solution.

My only reason for going as far as I had, was to “test” the idea that came to me after I’d browsed through the workbook. When I saw how the query interfaced I’d added really boosted the speed and reliability of data retrieval from the different spreadsheets, I decided to put it online.

I still recall sending a copy of the enhanced menu driven version of the workbook to the author of the original workbook (at www.structural-engineering.fsnet.co.uk), just to let him know what I’d done.

[NB: Back then, my spontaneousdevelopment.com domain was still active. So I’d sent it via tayo at spontaneousdevelopment dot com. As I’ve since explained on this blog, that 9 year old domain got taken over by Aplus.net, on 4th may 2014. Click here to learn why/how that happened.]

My Singapore based enquirer pressed further, saying that if I made the modifications he proposed, it would be MORE useful to others from developed societies.

I then told him I’d created that improved version and offered it for FREE download, only to give interested persons from any part of the world password free access to study what I’d done, and improve on it if they so wished.

At a point in our email exchanges, he expressed surprise that I claimed to be based in Nigeria (this was late 2007).

[NB: I’ve since relocated from Nigeria, and have been based here in Cotonou since 1st April 2013. ]

As he put it, he did not imagine anyone from that part of the world, could produce Excel-VB driven apps of the quality that he’d seen on my site.

I replied that I was indeed a Nigerian based in Nigeria.

He countered that he’d checked the headers in my emails and found they were coming from servers in the US.

I explained that I used a US based web host (Aplus.net at the time), and that that was why the headers showed GMT data suggesting my mails originated from that end.

To convince him, I offered to call him on the mobile phone number he’d supplied when he first submitted the web form message on my website.

This was so as to prove to him that I was indeed physically in Nigeria.

He agreed.

So, I dialed his number and on the first ring he picked up, and we spoke for about 20 seconds. I asked if he now believed me, and he said he did.

We then ended the call and returned to exchanging emails.

It was an interesting experience. Two developers from opposite ends of the world, more or less, establishing what would go on to crystallize into a long standing friendship.

Today, “KC” (his initials from his real name) is connected with me on one of the popular social media platforms.

And over the years we have shared all sorts of project ideas.

I recall one time I had a request from a large hotel in Allen Avenue area of Ikeja, in Lagos, Nigeria.

They wanted me to make my Excel-VB driven Hotel Records Management Software automatically tap into the electronic door key cards software database.

And they wanted it to link each guest’s name with my software’s modules for accommodation, restaurant, laundry etc. That way, each guest’s bill would be generated by my app without need for manual addition of corresponding records from the electronic door key cards software.

I tried to meet with the MD of the electronic door vendor company. He was initially reluctant to give me access to the disk for the software, so I could determine how best to connect to the database from my Excel app.

That is, until the Manager of the hotel told him they would NOT purchase the key card software, unless it was established that it would work with my app.

KC had offered some experience based suggestions…he’d been in the “business” much longer and had massive experience from developing custom high performing apps for use by clients in various industries – including oil and gas.

But by the time I was able to examine the software on the hotel PC, and the files on the installation disk, I discovered it was a normal MS Access database that the key card software used!

That made the task much easier than I’d thought it would be.

And I soon setup the needed code to dynamically connect my app to the database.

The point I’m making however is that if I’d needed support to do something much more advanced (which KC had thought would be the case), I already had a competent online colleague/friend I could reach out to.

And that happened courtesy of my decision to put my work online, from my small corner of the world right here in Africa.

As for my Pakistani Farm CEO prospect, his web form enquiry to me had indicated he half-doubted I actually had the competence my video suggested. See his exact words below…

As for my Pakistani Farm CEO prospect, his web form enquiry to me had indicated he half-doubted I actually had the competence my video suggested. See his exact words

My Youtube video for the Poultry Farm Manager had led him to me (See below)

But when I read what he wrote in the comments field, I knew again that the stereotype about people from my part of the world was causing some “noise” in my marketing message, for him.

So, when we finally had our chat session on Skype, I was not surprised when – after I’d supplied detailed responses to his queries – he wrote:

“it is good to see that kind of work from Africa”.

Non-Africans, from Asia, Europe and America especially, are so used to meeting people from our part of the world, who lack skills like those I display online.

Even what I do using my own brand of Web Marketing, to generate search engine based leads for myself, and my clients, is something I’ve had people from developed societies express surprise at.

I periodically encounter this (often involuntary) stereotyping online, and also offline when I meet non-Africans face to face – even here in Cotonou.

Over the years I’ve tried to interest fellow Africans I meet (especially colleagues and younger persons) in doing what I do, the way I do it, using PC and Internet technology…

But very few have been interested. Not even those who studied IT or some related subject. And those who showed interest never had enough passion to develop the needed proficiency to excel at it.

For some reason our people always want to take the “easy” route. Especially something that does not require much mental exertion.

Ironically, PC and Internet technology if well used, offer Africa – and Africans – the most cost-effective avenue to create jobs/employment and also generate income – as individuals, groups, and even as nations.

I am hopeful that the work being done by a few of us will over time inspire more of our people to wake up and take their destiny into their own hands, like we have done!

People Who Take Without Giving Ultimately Hurt Themselves (Be It In Paid Employment or Business)

“After listening to each of my subordinates give me a self-appraisal of their performance, I have come to the conclusion that I have only three types of people working for me – Stars, All Stars and Superstars!” – Gunther Brink

Do you justify the pay you get for each day you show up at work?

In one of his books, Robert Kiyosaki noted that many people in paid employment today continue to demand to be paid more for doing less work!

Think about it. Some people go through a whole week (or year) without doing anything more than their jobs’ basically demand (sometimes they don’t even do up to that!), secure in the knowledge that come rain or sun, their salaries would be paid.

And this is true.

In many companies, for as long as you remain on the payroll, you will be paid – even if you perform poorly or averagely (especially with the labour union there to “fight for workers”).

That’s why Robert says that salary earners do not “earn” money – instead they actually receive “handouts”.

Now, before you challenge this point, I refer you to Zig Ziglar’s observation about people going to work each day without doing anything differently from the day before.

It is indeed – as he put it – A FACT.

The irony is that many find it easy to close their eyes to the FACT that they are asking to be paid more – or promoted – despite not adding any extra VALUE to their jobs!

The only time they change their reasoning in this regard, is when they start their own businesses and their own employees make similar demands of them!

Only THEN does it dawn on them that such employees’ requests are unrealistic!!

In the real world you WON’T get paid for work you do not do!

The obvious exception to this rule are crooked persons who acquire unearned income e.g by taking bribes, stealing, cheating etc

The real world demands that you prove yourself worthy of every reward you get.

You must sow before you reap. You have to give in order to receive.

Only in paid employment do we find this law of nature almost totally disregarded.

And that’s why when many people retire from well paying jobs, they are unable to adjust to surviving in the real world.

This is because they discover that (contrary to what obtains in paid employment), just putting in minimal effort does not result in multiple fold income returns.

For those who are NOT in paid employment, the need to “live in the real world” as described above is equally relevant.

Just being out there does not prove that you are “there”. What do you do with each day you spend there?

I refer here to fellow entrepreneurs, some of who choose to take the easy way out by failing to deliver promised value for payment they receive.

How well do the products and services you provide to paying clients, fulfil the promise made to buyers?

One Example: I’ve had nasty experiences with certain Internet Service Providers (True Story)

This has happened to me several times. Just before you pay they are all polite and friendly. They assure you their connectivity has not match in the area.

When you start using the service, it often works as good as they promised.

Then at some point everything goes crazy…I’ve had many instances in which just getting my mail box open took over 30 minutes. And uploading a 5KB file kept timing out in Filezilla!!!!

So you pick up the phone and call them. It takes maybe 10 attempts before you get someone who picks up. And s/he basically tells you “Well, from our end here, everything is working perfectly.”

To add insult to the injury, s/he may even go further to say “In fact, you’re the only one who’s calling to complain. All our other users are getting along just fine. Maybe you need to check your computer, and see if there’s a fault at your end.”

Saying this usually makes many people feel uncomfortable, as they are made to look like trouble makers. So, even when the problem is unresolved, they don’t call for support again.

The ISP support staff use this tactic knowing (or thinking) you won’t be able to tell if they are lying or not.

Unfortunately for them, they did not know someone like me would show up…!

Experience had taught me to hook up with at least one other person who used the same platform.

So, I’d always call him up. 99% of the time he often had the same problem.

Once I confirmed I was not alone, I would call support and ask them what the problem was.

If the agent tried to bamboozle me with the usual crap, I’d then tell him/her what I’ve already confirmed through my friend who lived in a totally different area.

Most times when I did this, s/he’d ask me to hold on. And then s/he would miraculously return saying they’d been informed that a fault was being rectified by “our engineers” in some zones!

In truth these people often already KNOW a problem exists even BEFORE selling to you!

But if you ask them if all’s well, they’ll often say everything’s OK.

Why?

It’s simply because they cannot bear to pass up sales by telling buyers that kind of truth.

Now, I understand their need to sell. But I disagree with their negative philosophy.

In my opinion, if you do not want to lose sales, then WORK HARD (proactively too!), to eliminate problems that can give clients bad experiences.

That way, you will have no need to lie and deceive people who want to sign up with you!

But people with this kind of mentality, rarely want to do such hard and honest work.

They prefer fleecing their buyers…giving as little as possible to get as much as possible.

Final Words: People who take more, while giving less, ultimately hurt themselves!

James R. Cook once wrote that “there are hidden penalties working against those who seek to get something for nothing.”

Those who act in the manner described above, be it in paid employment or elsewhere, VERY rarely endear themselves to others who work honestly.

What’s more, employers/clients who get cheated by them often find ways to break up with them.

As a location independent multipreneur, I have a unique opportunity to serve individual and organisational clients – in different societies (e.g Nigeria and Benin Republic). And I see people who display the negative habits described in this piece.

With very few exceptions, they rarely achieve long term authentic success.

If you do not wish to end up like them, I recommend you seek to add equal or greater value to everyone you meet – especially those who pay you to serve them at work or elsewhere!

What Do YOU Tell YOUR Child About Rampant Wrong Doing S/he Sees In Society?

I call it the 21st century parenting dilemma. How do you convince your child to accept that stealing, cheating or lying for instance are “bad”, when s/he often sees them happening routinely? This ranges from adults s/he sees (or hears) about in public office diverting state funds, to sports persons found guilty of doping, as well as musicians who steal other people’s songs…and lecturers who plagiarize (or sexually harass) students they are supervising.

But that’s just one dimension of the problem...

How do you explain to the child, why most of those who do such bad things, even when found out, rarely pay any serious price for it in the long run?

In past articles, I’ve written about the rampant examinations malpractice palaver in Nigeria.

It started as a small flame. Today, it’s burning like a wild fire. Indeed it is a pandemic of sorts!

True Story: Way back in 1993, I served in Niger State’s Gulu Vatsa village during my NYSC service year.

One day, I was outraged to hear the students tell me (while taking them extra classes in Agriculture, Maths and Physics), that I was stressing myself needlessly.

When I asked what they meant, they told me I would be in the exam hall to read out the answers to them. So why not wait till then, they asked…like it was the most normal thing in the world!

To them, it was only fair that I did that. After all, I was their teacher. I would be “wicked” to “let them fail” they added.

Amazing. These kids had no idea that what they were asking for was wrong!

I told them that was not possible, and they all laughed at me. So, during the exams, I made a point of staying away from the halls.

But one day, as I walked past one of the halls, I heard the head teacher as he called out “No1: A”, No. 2: C” etc, while walking up and down the exams hall!

As it turned out, I was the uninitiated.

The head teachershad apparently known what the practice was, because he was one of those who made it happen!

That explained his casual response when I’d complained to him that the students suggested I would be reading out answers to them

He must have thought to himself: “Who is this funny youth corper guy. Does he not realize that when you’re in Rome, you have to act like the Romans?”

I recall returning to Lagos, and penning a long article describing what I experienced in that school. Then I submitted it in a large envelope addressed to the Editor of The Guardian Newspapers.

I even included a passionate cover letter. In it I challenged the editor to consider the damage that would happen to the educational system, if that practice was allowed to continue.

Not a word of response came back to me from The Guardian, or the Editor.

Later on, it became obvious that I was the one who was not in touch with reality, when I told one of my sisters about my letter and its contents.

She also basically laughed in my face. Then she told me worse things were happening in Lagos. At the time, she had just taken the exams, if I recall correctly. And she told me stories that left me dumbfounded.

That damage to the educational system I worried about has now gone much farther that I thought possible!

Today, those students who “passed” exams using that crooked approach back when I was a youth corper, are NOW parents of their own kids.

And not surprisingly, they are openly and actively collaborating with invigilators, to do the same thing for their kids.

Sadly, the older generation who could have stopped it, have allowed themselves to be compromised.

They do this either by accepting some form of gratification (cash or kind e.g. sexual favours) or by getting themselves into situations in which they can be blackmailed into agreeing to anything.

Not all, but quite an unhealthy majority, of the older generation, are implicated in this manner. As for the rest of the “oldies”, they’ve chosen to either stay silent or look the other way.

And lest we get it mixed up, this is NOT limited to Nigeria (even though it happens there in alarming extremes!). Instead, we are experiencing this wave of sharp drops in morals and values right across the world.

Just look at what sells on TV for instance today.

More events being sponsored today often promote nudity, and sexual indiscretion. Less effort is made to develop programmes to repair the social fabric.

That’s why our young people pay less attention to adults who tell them not to copy dressing styles of celebrities who go almost naked.

Religion, which used to be a means of passing moral instruction, now has religious leaders condoning what they used to rebuke.

As a matter of fact, some religious leaders, in increasing numbers it would appear, are even getting caught in acts of indiscretion.

For most of those engaged in the naughty acts described above, they had to adopt deception, and insincerity as a way of life to do them.

By so doing, they lost the moral courage to correct others – whether young or old.

Which is why things have been falling apart: There are effectively fewer people willing – and able – to correct those doing wrong!

Certain misguided “elders” even disappoint me more, by arguing that they have “done their own bit” and it’s up to the “rest of us”!

I feel nothing but pity, laced with contempt, for older persons who hold such views.

They fail to learn from the examples of Zig Ziglar and Jim Rohn….as well as the legendary Fela Anikulapo Kuti.

All three men stayed active in influencing society till they passed on. And there have been others like them.

Today, Wole Soyinka, a Nobel prize winner, is 80 years old. Yet he continues with the same tradition of being a Social Change Agent: A journey he began in his early twenties!

Just as this problem is happening in the educational sector, so it rampages in the other aspects of societal life.

In the face of all the above, I ask again: What do you tell your child?

Just like back when I was as a youth corper, I remain uninitiated today.

Indeed, I refuse to be initiated into wrong doing habits of any sort!

Not just for my own sake. But also because I happen to have kids of my own – who are exposed on a daily basis to people who do all these, in society.

The truth is you cannot hide a child away from the rot, because it is everywhere.

So, you need to diligently invest quality time and effort to DRUM the morals and values you KNOW the Creator expects them to uphold, into their little heads :-)

For me, it’s a nightmare of sorts just imagining what my kids see and hear each day they are away from home.

I know what trouble I got into while a child, in a much saner Nigeria.

The Nigeria of today offers so many temptations to young people! What’s more, deception – indeed the ability to tell barefaced lies without remorse, as well as doing wrong and producing crocodile tears while denying it, has been elevated to an art form by today’s kids.

That’s why I challenge YOU as a parent to get close to your child – and be sure you KNOW him/her as well as you think you really do.

This is the time to do it – while s/he is still under your care, living under your influence and authority. You still have a chance to detect and correct any character flaws that s/he may pick up from corrupt society.

You owe yourself, and your child, a duty to play your role, so you do not have cause to regret when s/he becomes an adult, and leaves home.

So, the question comes up again: what do YOU tell your child in the face of rampant wrong doing s/he sees in society?

I say tell him/her NEVER to accept that standard – no matter how attractive it appears.

I say make yourself a shining example of a superior standard, and let him/her know that the Creator approves of that standard: That is, a standard which does NOT condone cheating, lying, stealing, deception or wrong doing in any form.

And I say, demonstrate to him/her in words and action on a daily basis that you truly BELIEVE what you tell him/her.

Do so by walking your talk with pride and dignity, even if it means having to accept humbling circumstances for a while, until the Creator elevates you.

Do this without fail, every waking day, and by the time that child leaves home, NOBODY will be able to tempt him/her to go off track.

S/he will therefore always be a source of pride to you, and your entire family.

Don’t waste time. Start doing it today. Your child’s future most likely depends on it.

Good luck!

RELATED ARTICLES/FURTHER READING

1.Is It RIGHT To Do Wrong, So As To Fulfill FAMILY Obligations?

2.Prepare Your Kids to Succeed Despite Society’s Ills

Video Narration: She Called Me a Peeping Tom (A True Personal Story) – What If This Happened To YOUR 8 Year Old Child?

This is a True Story Narration. It is available as audio (MP3) & as a video presentation, and PDF on CD/DVD. You can listen to the audio on your phones. This is Part 2 in the Self-Development Education for Parents Series titled “Kukuru Danger™: Adventures – & Misadventures – of a School Age Child Trying to Make Sense of the World and his purpose in it!”

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This is TayoSolagbade again. This time around I’m going to tell you another story.

But this story, rather than take you forward in my life following my experience of getting asked to repeat my first year in secondary school.

I’m actually taking you back to a time, I think about a year before I left primary school, ehm, in which I had a particularly (pause) ehm, how do I put it now…even talking about it now still irritates me.

NB: This presentation is dedicated to my mother, my wife (Nkechi) and my kids.
NB: This presentation is dedicated to my mother, my wife (Nkechi) and my kids.


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Email your name, phone number, number of children, and country to PT at tksola dot com
Email your name, phone number, number of children, and country to PT at tksola dot com

To Succeed, You Need a Gut-Level Instinct for Self-Preservation

I once had someone phone me up (in 2002, my first year in business), requesting that I come down to Falomo on Victoria Island from my Gbagada base, in Lagos (more than 30 minute drive on a good day) saying my services were needed. I got there to find that I was only being mocked! The person was nowhere to be found, after two hours, and her husband kept sending me around in circles, smiling impishly all the while!

She did this twice before I caught on to it, and stopped responding.

That same woman called me up many times afterwards, over the following months, to mock me on phone. She would ask questions like “How is business now?” while intermittently erupting into loud laughter.

What did I do to deserve this treatment? Well, I had one time in the past gone to their company to attend a Visual Basic training (which I paid for!), and during the 3 month period, we’d had discussions that touched on how I left paid employment to become an entrepreneur. And I had told them the big plans I had. That was all!

I have since survived the “jungle” that is the world of entrepreneuring in Nigeria for over a decade – before moving to Benin Republic.

Based on my experiences up till date, I have come to the firm conclusion that the definition of a "Nigerian entrepreneur", will not differ much from that of those in other parts of the world – especially America.

And here’s how I would define an entrepreneur, based on my extensive studies and personal experiences:

"A strong-willed, independent minded individual who ultimately achieves financial success and social recognition, by delivering innovative products/services, and/or developing a new way of doing things, that IMPROVES the lives of others. Most times, such persons will have started out with little or nothing. And in cases when s/he may have started out with a lot, s/he will most likely have lost it all and had to start all over before finding success.

Most times, such a true entrepreneur, would have had to depend on nothing more than his/her idea, and an unquenchable thirst to make it work. This is why entrepreneurs have been described in certain quarters as people who create something new out of nothing – taking risks that threaten their very survival, but overcoming all odds via persistence, to do what most would have considered previously impossible."

But Nigerian Entrepreneurs Often Have to Contend With Additional Obstacles Those in Other Climes Rarely See…

Examples include absence of support systems (e.g. social welfare/security systems) that entitle you to some base income/unemployment benefit as obtains for an American for instance.

They can provide a valuable cushion effect. Entrepreneurs in Nigeria get NO such thing.

You simply have to sort yourself out. Having said that, I believe that obtains across most of the African continent – to be fair.

But I will add that from living here in Benin Republic, I know things are significantly less challenging – especially as it relates to feeding.

Food is dirt cheap here, and if you’re not lazy what you earn from doing a few odd jobs will keep you going. And there is constant power supply, which has a multiplier effect of keeping costs of products and services low, since people do not have to generate their own electricity.

In Nigeria, too many things not in place make living costs very high. Entrepreneurs have to run expensive petrol/diesel powered generators to keep their businesses going.

So people find they often in danger of running out of money. And that make "hustling" imperative!

Imagine the dilemma, then, of the entrepreneur yet to achieve stable income!

Another factor is the prevalence of “malicious detractors” who go out of their way to make you fail.

It’s not a pleasant subject I know. But that does not make it less worthy of discussion.

Especially as I have seen it happen just too often!

The crabs in a bucket analogy applies here.

I have seen people try to pull another down (including yours truly), for reasons as petty as ensuring you do not invalidate their alibis for failing to start their own businesses, by succeeding in your chosen endeavour.

Others are actually people who have been in business before you – who may want you to pay them homage. When you don’t they take offence.

I do not exaggerate here.

I had that kind of experience many times when I was starting up (before I learnt how to protect myself)…

That I survived and am going strong today, I believe, is due to my resilience.

As well as the fact that I had other alternative arrangements put in place that kept me going despite the efforts made by certain persons to sabotage me.

And of course, I always kept an unshakeable faith in the Creator, to protect me.

A good example is the short story I began this article with. But let me assure you that it’s actually one of the milder cases I have personally experienced.

During my talks on this theme, my audiences will be regaled with more shocking accounts

The true stories I will share will illustrate, in graphic terms, just how potentially traumatizing it can be, to function as an entrepreneur in Nigeria.

Especially when you are new in the game, have no connections and lack funds (as was the case with me!).

Not surprisingly, NONE of the books that I have read on entrepreneurship, written by foreign authors (especially those from developed societies) have ever given this aspect much – if at all any – attention.

Yet it remains a reality that can STOP you from succeeding, even if you have all the competence of a world class entrepreneur.

Even the BBC recently published an article (authored by a Nigerian journalist working for them) about what I’m saying here.

And the example of NEXT newspapers, run by a Pulitzer prize winning Nigerian born journalist, who tried to apply best practice independent journalism in the Nigerian market was mentioned.

He failed. Woefully. But not due to incompetence….!

Instead, he failed because his adopted approach of journalism with integrity, and objectivity, put off those who had funds to advertise in the paper. So they froze him out – influencing others to toe their line of NOT advertising in NEXT newspapers.

So, without money coming in, the NEXT newspaper, despite aspiring to world class standards, died.

[Read the BBC article, for a real life account of what led to the paper’s demise, and how a Nigerian BIG man predicted it!]

Some people shy away from writing things like this because they do not want to raise “dust” or rub readers the wrong way.

I believe that by forewarning persons who plan to do what I am doing, I can give them a better chance of surviving the rough terrain they have to travel to entrepreneurial success in Nigeria.

You see, there are certain people who are unwilling to do what it takes to achieve entrepreneurial success/significance with honesty and integrity.

Yet they will not let others who are ready do so!!

And this is why I believe, strongly too, that a true (read: honest, authentic, non-corner cutting) Entrepreneur in Nigeria, will (apart from doing all that I mentioned in the definition given earlier) must develop a gut-level instinct for self-preservation.

That instinct that will enable him/her successfully evade the many attempts that will be made to frustrate him/her – via the Nigerian Factor.

It was what drove ME to exploit my multipreneurial aptitude to generate multiple income streams – making it difficult for those who tried, to stop me.

And that is what keeps me going today.

I earn income via both active and passive streams, from a growing variety of channels and activities. And I LOVE doing what I do, the way I do it!

RELATED ARTICLES/USEFUL READING

1. BBC News – Letter from Africa: Doing Business in Nigeria

2. Pulitzer winner’s Nigeria newspaper 234NEXT stops printing

One Major Reason Why People Avoid Entrepreneurship (True Story)

[NB: Names used in the following narrative are NOT real] The Admin Manager in a medium sized company gets an ultimatum to resolve a recurring office photocopier fault. This fault has made it necessary to visit business centres to duplicate sensitive documents at higher costs. Different "trained" service engineers brought in previously had been unable to solve the problem.

The Admin Manager, Richard, decides to ask some associates in other companies. One of them recommends a self-employed multi-skilled young man called Ezekiel(who learnt to repair photocopiers from a friend who is a Service Engineer with a large multinational).

Richard calls Ezekiel the same day. (He knows he needs to get some results, to avoid upsetting the boss.)

Next morning, Ezekiel arrives and proceeds to examine the machine.

After 15 minutes, he announces to Richard his diagnosis, and proposed solution – including parts replacement cost and his service fees(N10,000.00 and N2,500.00 respectively). Some negotiation takes place.

Both eventually agree that Ezekiel will effect the proposed solution, and once the machine is confirmed to be running smoothly, payment of Ezekiel’s service fees would be effected.

So, Richard asks Ezekiel to come in the next morning for N10,000.00 cash to purchase needed replacement parts.

Before the day runs out however, Richard makes a point of checking with other sources and, is surprised to learn that the items to be purchased actually cost just about the same amount quoted by Ezekiel. In other words, they were not "padded" by Ezekiel.

So, Ezekiel gets the money the next morning, purchases the needed items, then installs them.

By noon he is standing next to Richard as the machine is test-run and confirmed to be back in order.

Ezekiel turns to Richard and asks for his service fee of N2,500.

Richard responds that the money is not ready, and asks him to pick it up the next day.

Ezekiel calls thrice the next day via phone and each time Richard tells him the money is not ready. A day stretches to a week. Then two. Ezekiel decides to visit Richard’s office again. It turns out to be a humiliating experience.

Richard not only accuses him of being a pest, he also threatens to have him dealt with if he continues!

The most intriguing part of the exchange is when Richard makes the point that Ezekiel is not even a qualified"Service Engineer" and has no formal training or certification to repair photocopiers.

This is a very convenient argument …especially, when you consider the fact that it was this same Ezekiel, the Self-Taught technician who resolved Richard’s nagging photocopier problem AFTER a number of trained/certified engineers had failed!

As a wise service provider with over 3 decades of experience once told me: Never be too eager to deliver your service, especially, if your payment terms have not been firmly agreed upon. Reason is, service, once delivered CANNOT be withdrawn. Ezekiel, for instance, could not – within reason – go an un-fix the photocopy machine. He could have, but it would not be worth the hassle.

Now, while we’re on the subject, does anyone know of a ROAD SIDE mechanic, in Nigeria for instance, who has a certificate or degree in Mechanical, Automobile or ANY other field of Engineering?

I don’t. Any person with such paper credentials would be VERY unlikely to choose the option of working as a ROAD SIDE mechanic…more due to ego considerations, than the fact that s/he has superior problem solving skills to the (mostly unschooled) chaps on the roads!

Yet we ALL know that these same ROAD SIDE mechanics do MOST of the car repair work in this Nigeria!

I can confirm that Ezekiel NEVER got that payment, small as it was…

Yet, he had diligently done a job that he was engaged formally to do.

Now, he could have protected himself by requesting for some papers to be signed – as I had often suggested to him – but the "size" and "scope" made him think doing that would be "over kill".

Having said that, my personal experiences indicate that even getting some papers signed, to commit a client that is determined to be naughty, may do little or no good eventually.

The above narrative is a classical example of a VERY common occurrence of what I call Entrepreneur Abuse™.

And it is the kind of thing that makes many who would have loved to become self employed take the risk of doing it.

I am not unaware that something similar does happen in other societies.

However, the problem with our society, in Nigeria, is that it happens with abnormal frequency – or to put it another way: Rather than be the exception, it tends to be the norm – hence my formal label of Entrepreneur Abuse™.

Starting up and running a business to success, is already a daunting task on its own. When the challenge of getting routinely mistreated by those you serve is added, the business of entrepreneurship (and I mean the honest, non corner cutting kind!) becomes less fulfilling/rewarding than it can be.

Yet for our economy to truly flourish and prosper, we need more people to see venturing into entrepreneurship as a viable and attractive alternative.

Not one that will make them spend half of their begging to be paid profitably, and on time, for products/services they deliver to specification.

The above happens too often in Nigeria, from my experiences and observations.

I say this with every sense of responsibility and integrity, based on over a decade of being an entrepreneur in Nigeria, during which time I experienced it myriad times.

Indeed, that was what made me resolve to use the web MORE to sell my products and services 80% of the time, while taking on face to face clients – by exception/after careful evaluation – the rest 20% of the time.

The example described in this story is one that occurred at a very basic level, to a relative newbie to entrepreneurship.

This abuse is also routinely inflicted on more established, professionally certified entrepreneurs, who run larger operations. Sadly, many of those in this latter group, to whom it happens decline to talk about it openly for fear (I believe) of being marked down.

My attitude is to remind such persons that they are ALREADY being marked down INSPITE of the fact that they REFUSE to talk about or challenge those who do it.

When you bring it up for discussion, like I am doing here, and as I have done for years, at least 2 things are likely to happen:

1. Those who do it, or have a tendency to do it, will KNOW that you are unlikely to accept it being done to you. So, the frequency with you encounter it WILL drop. Which means you get to enjoy doing what you do, and love, MORE. Yippy ;-))

2. Others who can do something to stop it (e.g. regulatory bodies such as government human rights protection offices etc) can become aware, through you, that it is happening. And this can prompt them to investigate and/or set up systems to discourage the practice.

I love helping clients do what they do better, using my skills as an entrepreneur.

However, I will enjoy doing it much less, if clients take advantage of me, and refuse to reward me as agreed, for the value I add to them.

And that can be frustrating.

That is why I have developed a process for identifying the right kinds of clients to work with.

What’s more, over the years, I have refined the use of that system, and it’s helped me dramatically REDUCE contact with persons with a tendency to be abusive in the manner described above.

In doing the above, one need not get aggressive. You can confront without being combative.

A lot of this has to do with how you present yourself, from your very first contact with a “properly screened” potential client. Your ability to assert yourself without being “rigid or insensitive” will determine how your interpersonal exchanges subsequently evolve.

Sadly, most people who end up as entrepreneurs are unlikely to be taught any of the above, while learning their core professions in formal school. As a result, they may have to learn via experience, in the school of hard knocks (like Ezekiel).

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PS: This article is based on excerpts from a write up first published online, in 2006, on Tayo Solagbade’s "Beat The Nigerian Factor" website located on www.spontaneousdevelopment.com.