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Use Persuasion to Save (or Make) MORE Money (3 Tips)

April 15, 2013 Tayo Solagbade 1 Comment

The core message in this week’s issue of my newsletter is that you never know what you can get, until you try…or ask. If you always accept what you’re told – be it price or options – you may end up shortchanging yourself in life.

Virtually everything can be negotiated. And if your persuasion skills are well honed, great bargains or deals can be yours. The fact that you have the money does not mean you should spend it! If an opportunity exists to pay less, take it. Nothing is cast in stone.

Remember that, when you’re buying, selling, leasing, renting – indeed in all your interactions. This article 3 ideas you can use, including examples my recent experiences out here in Benin Republic (full details – with photos – in an update I’ll publish here).

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Publication: Tayo Solagbade’s Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP) Newsletter

Date: Monday 15th April 2013

No:85

Title: Use Persuasion to Save (or Make) MORE Money (3 Tips)

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263]

Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog

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Hi,

Please find below the latest issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter.

Why You Need A Web Marketing System (WMS) – Part 2 of 3

This post had 1481 views in less than 4 days. Maybe you should read it too…:-)

Above: Screen shot of the preview of part 2 of my 3 PART EDUCATIONAL SERIES: Why You Need a Web Marketing System.

This installment is titled “Understanding How (Routine/Repeated) Use of Paid TV, Radio & Print Media Short Changes YOU ”. Published on Thursday 11th April 2013 it had over 700 views by Saturday morning (< 2 days).

As I type these words today, Monday 14th at 1pm, it has been viewed 1,481 times (<4 days). Before now, the best I’d seen for ANY of my posts was 200 views in 7 days.

This write up (not surprisingly) resonates strongly with many people!

Maybe you should read it too…click here

No. 85: Use Persuasion to Save (or Make) MORE Money (3 Tips)

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Virtually everything can be negotiated. And if your persuasion skills are well honed, great bargains or deals can be yours. The fact that you have the money does not mean you should spend it! If an opportunity exists to pay less, take it. Nothing is cast in stone.

Remember that, when you’re buying, selling, leasing, renting – indeed in all your interactions. This article 3 ideas you can use, including examples my recent experiences out here in Benin Republic (full details – with photos – in an update I’ll publish here).

1. Save Money When Buying Products & Services

Who says you always have to pay what the seller gives you as the official or standard price? Indeed who says you have to pay at all?

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not asking you to go around trying to cheat people. Instead I ask you to think before you shell out cash for everything you want. Quite often, there will be a viable alternative to spending cash – that even the seller you confront may LIKE, but has not yet thought of. Challenge him on possible alternatives. You could be surprised.

The self-confidence you develop from public speaking can help you get what you want at low or even zero cost. Asking is not a crime. Just open your mouth and ask if there’s a way you can have a product, service or item at something other than the stated price.

I’ve successfully applied variants of this strategy to get what I want at low – sometimes ZERO – cost. And that includes getting myself featured on TV (twice), and in a newspaper (half-page feature).

Examples/Suggestions:

a. After 2 weeks here in Benin Republic, I’ve already applied this strategy to secure rented accommodation for myself at a fourth of the going rate – with ALL the normal facilities included. It took some searching, but it was well worth it: No more hotel bills!

b. Do you know that you do NOT have to hire space for every speaking event? No you don’t. I know because I’ve done it – and seen others do it. Simply do some thinking – and research – to discover potential venues. Then approach them with proposals to pay low to zero cash via some form of barter exchange.

c. Be sure to approach those who do not even offer their properties for such use. It’s possible they have not thought of it. When you make your proposal to them, the opportunity to make extra income could appeal to them. And most times, they will be willing to accept less payment than those who do it commercially!

d. The above also applies to staying in hotels. Under certain conditions, you can get FREE room in hotels.

I’ve got many ideas you can use. Get in touch if you want specific details.

2. Make More Money From Clients/Buyers

In every business the need to negotiate fees or prices will periodically arise. It could be with an old client or a new prospect. Knowing how to articulate your arguments is essential to a successful negotiation.

For long term benefits, you must leave the other party feeling good even when you have your way. That means you must be good at expressing the benefits accruable to her in a way that persuades her it’s a win-win.

Your speaking proficiency will be an asset in this regard. How well you do it, can determine how much you make. It goes without saying that your offers will be good!

TIP: When a prospect demands for a price reduction, don’t just cave in. Remember to offer options of other useful benefits as an added incentive, to keep the price the same. Many people will be glad to pay what you ask if they perceive that that extra is worthwhile.

In addition, sometimes – as Jason Leister notes (get a FREE copy of his highly rated “How to Get Kick As* Clients” PDF below) – you can even use questions to help a client discover other services you offer, that can help her achieve a valued goal. And that could make her gladly extend the project scope: meaning more money for you!

3. Generate Additional Income Via Passive Streams

The more you speak, the more people will know you in your market or niche. Public speaking is a reliable way to get “famous” in your target market – for what you know/do.

As your name recognition grows, you can use it to sell items that generate passive income for you even when you do not speak. This would be by producing learning resources based on your expertise – and drawing from speaking events you host.

Examples: Video and audio versions of your talks, or other learning programmes, as well as educational resources (books, courses, reports etc).

Every expert-who-speaks can – and should – do this. Otherwise, you waste a valuable opportunity to earn more with little or no extra effort. If you’re good enough to get invited and paid to speak, you’re good enough to have your products purchased even when you do not speak!

Final Words: There Are Forces Waiting To Help You – But Only If You Act!

Everything I’ve said above has to do with persuading others. Your speaking proficiency will be your greatest asset in doing this. The more effective you are as a speaker, the greater will be your chances of saving or making money by persuading others.

If you’re not currently doing any public speaking, you’re missing out on an excellent opportunity to earn more, and spend less, while expending little effort and time.

You don’t need any special qualifications to succeed as a speaker. Just develop expertise on a subject you have a passion for.

Burt Dubin, widely acknowledged today as a leading authority on the business of public speaking, points out on his website that he’s a high school drop out. Like he says “ Oh boy, if I can do it, then so can you!”

With solid preparation (which a seasoned mentor, like Burt, can help you with) and a message that won’t stay untold, you can get paid to speak to audiences locally and even internationally.

LASTLY, an important point that must be highlighted:

With the right mental attitude, each of one of us can earn support from providence, to achieve our goals. Just play your part by diligently implementing your plans. Then watch the “coincidences” happen (scroll down to read a real-life example of a “coincidence” that happened just before I sent this newsletter out to you!)

My recent comment on a Facebook thread (screen shot below) provides additional insights, and a fitting conclusion with regard to the foregoing:

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FREE PDF REPORT: How to Get Kick As* Clients – By Jason Leister (www.artofclients.com)

Just as I was putting finishing touches to this newsletter, Jason Leister’s e-mail broadcast to subscribers popped into my Blackberrry messages window.

Amazingly – in a theme consistent with this issue – he announced that he’s giving away his highly rated “How to Get Kick As* Clients” PDF report for FREE. Not optin required. Nothing.

Now Jason’s email offer’s arrival is an excellent example of one of those “coincidences” I mentioned will happen IF you take diligent action!

All he asks in return is that we spread the word about his PDF. That’s why I’m doing this. And it’s also why I’ll be creating a permanent link to it via a thumbnail image on my website.

Yes, that’s how much value I place on it: You see, in a tribute blog I published last year, I listed Michel Fortin as one of 5 mentors whose works really influenced me (another is Burt Dubin). It so happens that Michel has read Jason’s PDF. His review tells me it’s a gold mine. Period.

I intend to do my bit to see that Jason gets rewarded for his generousity. So click here to get your copy now – and don’t forget to spread the word. That’s ALL he asks. It’s the least we can all do…and it’s good Karma too

Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: Use Persuasion to Save (or Make) MORE Money” in the subject line).

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you! *
Public Speaking [Monday]:	Why 30 Out of 31 Speakers Do Not Succeed (2 Tips) – By Burt Dubin
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	Why You Need A Web Marketing System – Part 1 of 3
Self Development [Wednesday]:	To Excel, You Need To Take Intelligent Risks – Sometimes BIG, FAT ONES Too!
*Entrepreneurship [Thursday]:**	Why You Need A Web Marketing System – Part 2 of 3
*Entrepreneurship [Friday]:**	Why You Need A Web Marketing System – Part 3 of 3
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	You Need Thinking Power to Generate Ideas (3 Tips)
*I decided to publish parts 2 and 3 of the series started on Tuesday, in place of the scheduled posts for Thursday (Career Development) & Friday (Parenting). This was to enable readers find all 3 parts close to each other.
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Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

Tayo Solagbade is a Performance Improvement Specialist & multipreneur. He works with individuals/businesses who want to achieve highly profitable outcomes, and also with parents who want to raise real-world competent children.

Tayo earns multiple streams of income providing clients with performance improvement training/coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

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Have you been undecided about whether or not to become a paid speaker? Or have you been trying to get your speaking career off the ground with little success?

Here’s a tip: Burt Dubin works with people who want to be speakers, and with speakers who want to be masters. Click here to visit his website NOW and submit a contact form message telling him what challenges you’re facing, and how you’d like him to help you. Tell him I sent you, and you’ll get a pleasant surprise offer from him.

Comments?

What do you think of the above message? Do you have any personal experience to share on this subject? Are there some other points you feel can be added, to help persons looking for answers? Please share your thoughts!

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You can choose to purchase Burt’s mentoring at any of the three (3) levels listed below:

1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

Burt’s three mentoring packages can be likened to the seating options offered by airlines: Budget Delight (Economy); Mid Range (Business); and Top Shelf (First Class).

At least that’s how I like to think of them!

All three will get you to your desired destination of “speaking success-ville” – so long as you meet the requirements/play your part well (your fare, abide by the set guidelines etc). During the “flight”, the seat you have will determine how much personal service attention and preference the provider will accord you. It’s that simple

So, make your choice:1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

Send me an e-mail with your questions via tayo at tksola dot com. In the meantime, why not get started by subscribing here to get his 7-Part Course (How To Succeed And Get Paid As A Professional Speaker) . . . and receive his monthly newsletter (Speaking Biz Strategies Letter) at no cost.

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Why 30 out of 31 Aspiring Speakers Do Not Succeed (2 Tips) – By Burt Dubin

April 8, 2013 Tayo Solagbade Leave a comment

According to Burt Dubin (who has mentored some of the highest paid International Speakers in the world – some becoming CSPs i.e. Certified Speaking Professionals), it is a lack of the two qualities discussed in this issue that often makes 30 out of 31 wannabe speakers fail. What follows is my paraphrased version of Burt’s discussion. It’s based on excerpts transcribed from a SpeakerMatch Radio teleseminar hosted by Brian Caplovitz (the host). I call it a “mined transcript version”.

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Date: Monday 8th April 2013

No:84

Title: Why 30 out of 31 Aspiring Speakers Do Not Succeed (2 Tips) – By Burt Dubin

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263]

Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog

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Hi,

Please find below the latest issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter.

No. 84: Why 30 out of 31 Aspiring Speakers Do Not Succeed (2 Tips) – By Burt Dubin

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NEWS (Nigeria) : Expert Jump Starts International Speaking Career by Traveling Across West Africa as a Location Independent Entrepreneur.

According to Burt Dubin (who has mentored some of the highest paid International Speakers in the world – some becoming CSPs i.e. Certified Speaking Professionals), it is a lack of the two qualities discussed in this issue that often makes 30 out of 31 wannabe speakers fail. What follows is my paraphrased version of Burt’s discussion of this concept. It’s based on excerpts transcribed from a SpeakerMatch Radio teleseminar hosted by Brian Caplovitz (the host). I call it a “mined transcript version”.

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NB: Starting next month, I’ll be offering slideshows, audio and video versions (including DVDs) of most of the Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter past issues. I’ll also be offering more of what I call “mined transcript versions” of certain audio messages that offer useful valuable knowledge for persons looking for speaking success

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1. They Lack Resolute Tenacity

The Speaking Industry Has Changed Over 30 Years, But the Need for RESOLUTE TENACITY Has Not

Bryan noted that Burt Dubin (his guest on SpeakerMatch Radio) had been around for about 3 decades. During this period, lots of changes had occurred in the speaking industry, in contrast to what obtained when Burt got started around 30 years earlier.

He added that one thing Burt said had not changed in all that time, was (and is) the need for tenacity – resolute tenacity.

From here on, I paraphrase Burt Dubin…

This Speaking Business (and you need to think of it as a business to succeed) is not an easy business. It is the most difficult business I’ve ever been in, and the most rewarding.

Most people do not succeed. I repeat: Most people do not succeed. My own rule of thumb –note that this is just empirical – is that about 30 out of 31 people that enter the business dreaming of success, big money fine restaurants and all of that, do not make it.

And the primary reason that people do not make is a lack of tenacity.

It’s takes tenacity. It takes bulldog blood. Now you may not know exactly what I mean by bulldog blood. So let me tell you a short story which will illustrate that:

Suppose there’s a bad guy approaching your house with an ominous look on his face – and you own a bulldog.

The bulldog sees this bad guy approaching, and attacks him, bites him hard in the ankle. Well this bad guy has a nice big knife. He stabs your beloved bulldog and sadly ends the dog’s life.

The dog is dead now. And he thinks well now I can get into the house and do my harm.

But that dog’s teeth do not let go their grip even in death! It takes the police finally with the jaws of life of the fire dept to pry those teeth away from his leg.

That is tenacity; it is never giving up regardless of what!

If You Give Up, You’ll Never Make It To The Big Time!

If you do give up as most people do, you doom yourself to live in the mire of mediocrity. You might make it to the K-marts of the speaking business, the low end programs in the darkest room or the farthest hall in the hotel.

I’ve done those in my early days

But you never make it to the big room. You never make it to the big time. You never make it to not having to look on the right side of the menu (where the price is stated).

How To Develop Your Personal Tenacity

Now the question comes up – how to develop your personal tenacity?

It’s a matter of defying your demons.

What are these demons?

Anything in the way of your actualizing your potential is a demon. As a speaker, your purpose will be to make a difference in the lives of people and affairs of organizations.

Anything that gets in the way is a demon!

All you can do is be incorrigible to an extreme, letting nothing, but nothing, get in your way!

Only 1 in 30 i.e. 3%, have this quality. But anyone can develop it – including you.

2. They Lack Authenticity

Tenacity Is Not All That It Takes – You Also Need Authenticity.

You need a lot more than tenacity. It takes among other things, being authentic on the platform. It takes revealing your true essence as you stand before audiences. Standing before them say psychologically unclothed. Here I am folks, warts and all, with all my human frailties.

You see it is not so much the words you say important though those words may be; it is not your stories, entertaining those stories may be; it is not your humor, hilarious though it may be.

What it is, is your essence…your core.

And you cannot hide this from people. It reveals itself…they just know it. Whether they’re looking at you or hearing you speak on the phone.

Your state of being is something you cannot conceal. Stand before people knowing you’re an imperfect being. Imperfect though you are, you may have wonderful ideas to share with them.

To Develop Your Authenticity, Make Yourself A Model of The Possible

And so the important thing is that you make of yourself as you stand before the audience, for that matter as you live your life, as a model of the possible.

Think of the Greek statues that you may remember from your ancient history. They were physically models of the possible.

Gene Houston – years and years ago – wrote a book called The Possible Human. I don’t even know if the book is still in print. However, if you make it your ideal, to be the possible human, the ultimate possible human…you will move ahead faster.

Again Mahatma Ghandi. A very famous quote, by Mahatma Ghandi – Be the change you want to see in the world. What is the population of the ideal world? How do the ideal people conduct themselves? Be that person.

Make yourself accountable for your presence here. In fact, be the authentic you, as you share your wisdom.

You can be an ordinary person (I’m an ordinary person) and you can share extraordinary concepts. Simple as that.

Summary

In essence I’ve talked about what they’re not telling you in speaking business school. In the speaker school you get told to make a demo CD and compile a list of prospects. That’s standard procedure to build your business.

What is however (often) left out is the need for resolute tenacity and authenticity, which I’ve highlighted here. You need those 2 to make your speaking business really take off.

Final Words: Once You Have Tenacity & Authenticity, What’s Next?

If you’re an aspiring speaker reading this, it is assumed that you at least have the skill to speak in front of an audience. (If not, join Toastmasters, and start learning, or get a competent mentor to help you.)

Once you have tenacity and authenticity, another quality you need to develop, in order to become one of the very few who succeed as speakers is described here (click now).

And while you’re at it, if anyone tells you that you can’t, read this past issue of the Speaking IDEAS newsletter titled “How to Do the Impossible (5 Tips You Can Use)” to discover why they would be wrong!

NEWS (Nigeria) : Expert Jump Starts International Speaking Career by Traveling Across West Africa as a Location Independent Entrepreneur

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Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, call me on 234-803-302-1263 or email tayo at tksola dot com.

Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: How to Jump Start Your Speaking Career ” in the subject line).

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking[Monday]:	How To Jump Start Your Speaking Career (7 Steps)
My DN Travel News	Update: Checked into hotel (why I’m keeping my destinations and location secret for now)
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	Build Profitable Relationships By Inspiring Respect
Self Development [Wednesday]:	To Succeed, You Need Your Sixth Sense to Unmask Insincerity
Career Development [Thursday]:	Going The Extra Mile Can Make You A High Flyer At Work!
Parenting [Friday]:	3 Ways Travelling Can Prepare Your Child To Succeed (Features Pix of a Cameroonian Michael Jackson
*Writing/Blogging [Saturday]: actually published on Sunday**	2 Dangers of Using Social Media As Your Business Home
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Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

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Have you been undecided about whether or not to become a paid speaker? Or have you been trying to get your speaking career off the ground with little success?

Comments?

Share this issue!

What fears or doubts are keeping you from (a) taking up Burt Dubin’s monthly speaker mentoring, or (b) buying his products?

You can choose to purchase Burt’s mentoring at any of the three (3) levels listed below:

1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

Burt’s three mentoring packages can be likened to the seating options offered by airlines: Budget Delight (Economy); Mid Range (Business); and Top Shelf (First Class).

At least that’s how I like to think of them!

So, make your choice:1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

For over 25 years, Burt Dubin has provided a variety of speaker mentoring products and services to clients worldwide.

Download this flyer as PDF: http://tinyurl.com/bdubin-africa

My DN Travel News, Public Speaking

Update: Checked into hotel (Why I’m keeing my destinations and location secret for now)

April 1, 2013 Tayo Solagbade Leave a comment

Hi,

I’ve just checked into a hotel room in the capital of a Francophone West African nation. You have take my word for it for now that I AM really outside Nigeria

At least my family knows I’m telling the truth – as does Burt Dubin who I’ve already emailed from my Blackberry on arrival.

About Blood Sucking Vampires

Later in the week I’ll explain why I’ve kept my destinations and location a “secret” for now: it’s due to the activities of people Chris Guillebeau says a friend of his called “Blood sucking vampires who want you to fail”. More on this later in the week.

Thanks to Burt Dubin for letting me know the link to the newsletter in the first email broadcase that went out this morning was bad. Here’s the newsletter proper.

I hope you enjoy reading it.

Hunting for the Super Star Commercial Rabbit Farmer

I’m going out to find my 700,000 rabbit breeding entrepreneur based in this city tomorrow morning. My plan is to request an interview with him, which I’ll publish as a video, audio and text. Then I also intend to see if I can get his consent to use photographs from his facility (which I’ve seen in videos) in my work in progress guide on Commercial Rabbit Farming.

Hooking Up With Handballers

I’ve discovered Handball courts looking in excellent condition out here – and a lot of people seem to know about the game. That’s great because I intend hooking up with active players to see if I can join them in training. That’s a strategy I’ve found quite effective for breaking myself in whenever I’ve travelled. When people see that you’re a lover (better still a competitive player) of their sport, they warm up to you.

There’s Power Supply!

Oh yeah…in case you’re in Nigeria, and wondering: YES, there’s electricity. And YES the people take it for granted. They expect to have it. I’m certainly glad I don’t have to plan to stop over at the fuel station this evening to buy fuel into kegs for my generator!

Got some work to do tonight – have to create a slideshow presentation for meetings I’ll be having later in the week.

See you later – will upload the photos I’ve taken later in the week.

My DN Travel News, Public Speaking

How to Jump Start Your Speaking Career (7 Steps) – By Burt Dubin

April 1, 2013 Tayo Solagbade Leave a comment

NEWS (Nigeria) : Expert Jump Starts International Speaking Career by Traveling Across West Africa as a Location Independent Entrepreneur.

This issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter is based on text transcript excerpts I created from Burt Dubin’s recorded responses to a question from a caller to a SpeakerMatch teleseminar. Sandy (according to the host – Brian Caplovitz) called in saying “she was a great speaker but no one knew her, and she wanted to know what steps she could take, to jump start her career”.

From here on, you have my partly paraphrased version of Burt’s response…

Now this will not be an encyclopaedic answer…It will be the best I can give you in a couple of minutes.

1. You Absolutely Must Have, Must Have, Must Have A Website

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Date: Monday 1st April 2013

No:83

Title: How to Jump Start Your Speaking Career (7 Steps) – By Burt Dubin

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263]

Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog

Archive (For E-mail only version started 14th May 2012): Click here to view

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Hi,

Thanks to Burt Dubin for letting me know the link to the newsletter in the first email I sent was bad. Here’s the newsletter proper. I hope you enjoy reading it.

No. 83: How to Jump Start Your Speaking Career (7 Steps) – By Burt Dubin

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NEWS (Nigeria) : Expert Jump Starts International Speaking Career by Traveling Across West Africa as a Location Independent Entrepreneur.

This issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter is based on text transcripts excerpts I created from Burt Dubin‘s recorded responses to a question from a caller to a SpeakerMatch teleseminar. Sandy (according to the host – Brian Caplovitz) called in saying “she was a great speaker but no one knew her, and she wanted to know what steps she could take, to jump start her career“.

From here on, you have my partly paraphrased version of Burt’s response…

Now this will not be an encyclopaedic answer…It will be the best I can give you in a couple of minutes.

1. You Absolutely Must Have, Must Have, Must Have A Website

I’m not going to tell you how to build a website here. But do research. See what other speakers’ websites are about. Look at my website burtdubin.com – well it’s not so much a speaker’s website, as a speaker’s mentor’s website.

There are however principles there. Among the principles, be live on your website. I’m live on my website! You’ll see me there. And say the things to respond to the interests of the people who are your market.

Don’t talk about how good you are. Rather refer to the various ways in which you make them look good and be good. Speak about benefits for them, and not about you.

2. Start an E-zine

For example I have an e-zine. Mine happens to be a monthly. It’s out there every month normally as a rule. Usually goes out the first Tuesday of the month (I sometimes miss by a couple of days).

So have an e-zine, and in that e-zine address issues and concerns of interest to the market that you serve. And somewhere in there, invite them to contact you to talk about engaging you, to speak, to train, ah to educate – whatever it may be that you do.

To signup for my e-zine, see the end of this article.

3. Develop Personal Qualities That Will Make You Succeed

You need to deeply believe in what you do. You need to have character. Strength of character. You need to have authenticity.

You also need to have integrity. Resolute integrity: There are no degrees in integrity. There’s no such…there’s no such thing as a partial virgin. You are or you aren’t. Well that’s how integrity is. You have it or you don’t!

If you have all of these things, and if you have “Fire in your belly”. If you absolutely will not give up – you will be reasonably equipped to get off to a good start.

Now on top of all that, there’s something else too…

4. Make Yourself An Expert On Something

Be an expert on something. Don’t be an expert on something people won’t pay for.

Be an expert on something the world needs.

If you deal on personal development, be an expert on something that helps people develop. If you deal with organizations and most of us do, then you must think in terms of what’s going on within the organization.

What do they want? Well let me tell you something about what organizations want.

Number one: They want return to shareholders. In other words they want to make money so they can pay their stockholders money.

Number two: They want the presidemt, the CEO, the managing director to look good.

These are the two top concerns.

There’s a third one: The Chief Executive, the CEO of the organization wants to look good himself or herself as the case may be.

How does this happen? By enhancing productivity. By enhancing profits, By enhancing sales. By market penetration.

Now I have just named 4 things: Productivity, profits, sales, market penetration by enhancing the ability, relationships, communication.

Now these are various topics which any speaker can learn about by doing research. Make of yourself an expert at some aspect of something organizations want.

Make yourself so skilled at understanding that, and then tie that in with what’s going on in that organization, within their market, among their people.

And do it with fluency, with passion, with deep belief.

5. Know The Major Market for Speakers & What Their Decision Makers Want

For speakers the major market is the Association Market – Professional and Trade Associations (especially in North America).

Let me tell you what is on the mind of the decision maker who can hire speakers for trade and professional associations.

More than anything else, they want perpetuation of dues income. Write that down. Perpetuation of dues income.

Why? Because dues are the oxygen of the organization.

Without dues they’ve got nothing. What do you do? What will you say that will help them get their members to renew every year?

What else do they want? They want members to come to the meetings.

This is because most associations…my own the National Speakers Association for instance, generates more revenue from their annual meetings than from their dues!

That’s how most associations are. Now if they want members to come to the meeting, what must they do?

They must give members value. They must invite speakers that will address issues close to the hearts, the interests, the needs, the challenges the concerns, of the people who are coming to the meeting.

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I know you know that. No ego in that. It’s simply the truth.

Also on my website, you’ll find 35 downloadable and printable articles by me, all full of more speaking business wisdom. This is a passion of mine. This is what I’ve studied with the ardour of a lover. I don’t know how to put it, I just love this business!

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So, get started jump starting your career…and Good luck! (If you need more inspiration, read this past issue of the Speaking IDEAS newsletter titled “How to Do the Impossible (5 Tips You Can Use)“

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Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?

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Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: How to Jump Start Your Speaking Career ” in the subject line).

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking [Monday]:	Speakers Are Self-Confident People
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	Proven Strategies for Competing Against Bigger Businesses
Self Development [Wednesday]:	Use Your Smartphone to Boost Your Productivity (5 Tips)
Career Development [Thursday]:	Walls That Cool Rooms by Absorbing Heat, Helping You Save Energy? Yes, You Can Have Them In Your Company!
Parenting [Friday]:	Why You Need To Teach Your Child to Question Authority
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	5 Skills You Need to Achieve Your Writing Goals
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Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

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Burt’s three mentoring packages can be likened to the seating options offered by airlines: Budget Delight (Economy); Mid Range (Business); and Top Shelf (First Class).

At least that’s how I like to think of them!

So, make your choice:1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

For over 25 years, Burt Dubin has provided a variety of speaker mentoring products and services to clients worldwide.

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Public Speaking

How to Do the Impossible! (5 Tips You Can Use)

March 18, 2013 Tayo Solagbade

This is an ambitious topic. Question: What qualifies me to write on it? Answer: The fact that you’re reading THIS, right now – It’s proof of the fact that I successfully persist in doing what others have said is impossible – in spite of repeated orchestrated attempts by some to “pull me down”, over the past ten years. This is a simple statement of fact.

Many who seek to achieve authentic success, with integrity, face similar trials.

But rather than talk about haters, this issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter discusses how a competent expert, like YOU, can do what others say you cannot. e.g. establish a lucrative Speaking Business, and/or use Public Speaking for your business marketing.

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Title: How to Do the Impossible! (5 Tips You Can Use)

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Hi,

Please find below, the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013.

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking[Monday]:	Diligence Beats Following the Rules! (True Stories About 4 Famous People)
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	Train Your Mind To Repel Fear
Self Development [Wednesday]:	When Your Work Speaks for Itself, Turn Up The Volume
Career Development [Thursday]:	Frequent Secondments Can Cause Employee Ineptitude (A True Story + Tips You Can Use)
Parenting [Friday]:	Your Don’t Need A Monopoly of Wisdom (Smart Kids Know It!)
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	Does Your Blog’s Income Earning Ability Depend On Comments Volume? (Additional Insights from 2 Famous Bloggers)
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	My Recommended Posts for W/E 16th March 2013: Jan Vermeer – The Man Who Found a Way to Paint Light \| Sunday Evening With Ghana Association of Writers (GAW) \| Toyin Aluko’s Lagos State Handball Association distributes handball equiopment to 15 schools
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I’ll be sending out links to the video narrated version of the above presentation in a few weeks. It’s an Educational Commercial designed to help experts (sales/marketing experts, business executives, entrepreneurs etc) understand the tremendous promotional benefits of public speaking.

It features a special message from Burt Dubin, a renowned mentor of some of the world’s highest paid speakers. There’ll also be a video message from Claude Moller, a highly sought after conference speaker and coach, based in South Africa, who enjoys national and international level success that proves the ideas advocated in this presentation work.

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No. 81: How to Do the Impossible! (5 Tips You Can Use)

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Many who seek to achieve authentic success, with integrity, face similar trials.

Many Experts Are Possessed By A Fear of Public Speaking

Many business owners and professionals dread public speaking. Those close to them often know it. That’s why the latter often express doubts or outright sarcasm when they announce their intention to launch speaking businesses.

James R. Cook, author of the Startup Entrepreneur, noted in his book that when people express doubts or scorn towards your idea, it is often a sign that you’re on the right path.

Now, we’re told to get the support of loved ones towards pursuing our goals. An assumption is implied that those loved one will “believe” we can succeed. But what if they don’t? Those close to us can be blinded by their knowledge of our shortcomings.

So rather than give us support, they’re may voice criticism, refuse to give material or other support, and/or even go against us.

For Those Doubted By Loved Ones, The Words Of Burt Dubin (creater of the Speaking Success System™) May Provide Some Consolation:

“Have noble intentions. A grand plan. A mission. An objective that makes a difference. A major difference. Something transcendent everyone you know assures you cannot be done, at least not by you. Many people who know you and love you do not believe you have what it takes to reveal the greatness they do not see through the prism of their misperceptions about you.” – Burt Dubin

People often measure what is possible based on what they have seen or experienced. To them, whatever they have never seen or experienced remains impossible.

Only a few who have developed their “senses” to tap into the depths of their intuition, to gain powerful insights into the nature of things, think and act different. The key to doing the impossible is therefore to become one of those few.

I offer 5 tips you can use:

1. Have Unquestioning Faith: The Fact That You Want To, Means You Can!

Yes. Another name for it is conviction. It’s the first step really. Donald Wattles in the Science of Getting Rich E-book explained that the very fact that you feel the “urge” to do something implies you have the capability within you to do it. This is a powerful truth. That’s why Napoleon Hill wrote that “Whatever your mind can conceive, it can achieve.”

Purge yourself of any doubts – continually, until you’ve trained your mind to only suggest the kinds of thoughts you want to you. You may have heard it said that “thoughts are things”. And if negative, they can attract the opposite of what you want to you. Do you have conviction that you can succeed as a speaker?

NB: Bear in mind – as Burt Dubin warns – that you must specialize in a topic that people are willing to pay for, if you expect to reap profitable financial rewards.

2. Develop Mastery – Learn Everything There Is To Know

Today, we fly across the world in metal planes that weight tones. Some decades ago human beings did not consider air travel to be a possibility. We send manned spaceships into space more or less at will. Yet, there was a time when those who dared speak of the foregoing as being possible were regarded as being insane.

I could go on. But you get the message. At every stage of man’s development, we have had to depend on those who refused to recognize impossibilities, to help us break “imaginary” barriers and take quantum leaps forward.

To achieve these man made miracles, those responsible toiled for years to develop knowledge and mastery of their subjects. And then they used that know-how to create new possibilities that we now enjoy today.

Do the same to achieve your speaking success

3. Take Diligent & Purposeful Action DAILY

You have to take definite action on a regular and consistent basis to achieve your goal. Wishful thinking won’t get you there. Verbal affirmations repeated all day will not.

A proverb in my language says:

“Eni ti o ba fe se nkan ti eni kan ko se ri. Oju re a ri nkan ti eni kan ko ri ri!”

Translated contextually, this means:

“He who wishes to do what no one has ever done before, will have experiences that no one has ever had, on the way to accomplishing that goal.”

I came across an infographic on Facebook, that expresses a similar sentiment to the above quote. It reads as follows:

“If you want something you’ve never had…then you’ve got to do something you’ve never done.”

In essence, you cannot sit in your chair at home everyday, just dreaming of doing the impossible. You have to articulate a plan and put it in motion – with determination, and perseverance, making intelligent adjustments every single day, until you succeed.

What plan do you have for your speaking business? Click here to get help.

4. Know That It’s Unlikely To Happen Overnight (& Never Listen To Nay Sayers)

You may have to endure prolonged delays, painful setbacks and other bad experiences. These may also occur frequently. And that could shake your confidence greatly.

That’s why Burt Dubin says having bulldog blood is a crucial requirement for success in the speaking business. It will keep you going no matter what.

When you’re starting out, some nay sayers may voice their doubts. If you seem not to be making progress (outwardly), don’t be surprised if people who previously “believed” suddenly become nay sayers too!

Sometimes they’ll pop up from closer to you than you every anticipated e.g. your spouse!

The truth is nobody, except you, can feel the way you feel about your goal. But if you do not give up, you’ll make believers out of those who doubt you. And when you succeed, they will be your most fervent advocates. So don’t let them shake your convictions!

Do you want to have bulldog blood? Email me via tayo at tksola.com to request an audio recording in which Burt Dubin tells a story that explains how to “get” it.

5. Draw Inspiration From Those Who Did “Impossible Things” In The Past

Like I pointed out in a comment I posted on Men with Pens, the unbelief of others cannot make an individual’s idea or concept unviable.

In making my point, I quoted Jeff Bezos (who started Amazon.com) as saying that every competent expert they consulted about starting Amazon.com told them not to. Not one saw the opportunity he – Bezos – saw at the time.

Wisely, rather than listen to them, he went ahead, and succeeded in a big way.

That’s just one of many examples of people who did what others thought was impossible.

Since you’re trying to do something that has never been done, chances are there won’t be historical records of past achievements you can consult to prepare yourself.

However we do have a wealth of information about people who succeeded in doing “impossible” things in the past. And Napoleon Hill’s “Think and Grow Rich”, based on his study of 80 millionaires, has proven that the principles of success are universal.

So, read their biographies.

How did they spend their waking hours? And the rest of each passing day? What kinds of friends did they keep? Where did they turn when they got stuck? What mental attitudes did they have towards failure, difficulty and other forms of adversity? And so on.

If you don’t already own it, get a copy of Napoleon Hill’s book.

If you do own it, but have not read it, there is no better time that THIS to begin.

It makes an excellent companion for people destined to do the impossible – like YOU!

Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, call me on 234-803-302-1263 or email tayo at tksola dot com.

Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: How to do the impossible! ” in the subject line).

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

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You can choose to purchase Burt’s mentoring at any of the three (3) levels listed below:

1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

Burt’s three mentoring packages can be likened to the seating options offered by airlines: Budget Delight (Economy); Mid Range (Business); and Top Shelf (First Class).

At least that’s how I like to think of them!

So, make your choice:1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

For over 25 years, Burt Dubin has provided a variety of speaker mentoring products and services to clients worldwide.

Download this flyer as PDF: http://tinyurl.com/bdubin-africa

Public Speaking

Diligence Beats Following the Rules! (True Stories About 4 Famous People)

March 11, 2013 Tayo Solagbade Leave a comment

In this week’s issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter, I offer excerpts that I personally transcribed (inserting sub headings in relevant sections) from the audio clip of an edition of the Speaker Match Radio Series titled “Success Strategies for Speakers from the Pros”.

The host – Bryan Caplovitz – interviewed Burt Dubin – a 25 year veteran mentor of highly paid international speakers, on the theme: “What They Don’t Teach You at Speaking Business School”.

Burt tells four (4) powerful true stories to explain how diligence (which is often NOT taught at speaker schools), when employed by an individual in pursuit of a valued goal, can result in notable success.

NB: The Speaker Match Radio Series is described by Bryan Caplovitz as a live show where top experts from the Speaking Industry and business are interviewed to provide emerging speakers with marketing strategies and other business building advice. While listening live, you can participate in the call online by going to Speakermatch.com/radio. Learn more at www.speakermatch.com.

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Title: Diligence Beats Following the Rules! (True Stories About 4 Famous People)

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Hi,

Please find below the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013.

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking[Monday]:	What If a TV Reporter Requests To Interview YOU Live?
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	Do You Have To Be Popular To Get Rich? (Case Study: Michael Jackson vs Warren Buffet)
Self Development [Wednesday]:	Cheating Denies You The Opportunity to Improve Yourself
Career Development [Thursday]:	To Succeed, Treat Even a “Demotion” As a Good Thing
Parenting [Friday]:	Your Child Needs to Decide What She Wants In Life
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	10 Valuable Lessons I Learnt About Blogging for Passive Income, from Yaro Starak’s 60 Minute Podcast Interview with Patrick Meninga
Want me to write for you? Click here…

Patrick Meninga achieved fame as a blogger by building a $2,000 a month adsense website while doing a full time job, and then selling it for $200,000.

Between 6th and 7th March 2013, I spent over 12 hours typing out a 20 page verbatim transcript of Yaro’s wonderful 2012 podcast interview for my personal use. Then it struck me that others could find it useful as well.

So I’m distributing this free PDF eBook version, which begins with an article that discusses twenty-one (21) lessons I distilled from listening repeatedly (for a cumulative period of over 24 hours) to the interview.

I’ve published a blog post based on excerpts from my 21 lessons article from the ebook. It’s titled “10 Valuable Lessons I Learnt About Blogging for Passive Income, from Yaro Starak’s 60 Minute Podcast Interview with Patrick Meninga“.

To read the full post – Click HERE! (As a subscriber, if you want a copy of the FULL ebook, containing the transcript of Yaro’s podcast interview, simply reply to this email newsletter from your mail box.)

No. 80: Diligence Beats Following the Rules! (True Stories About 4 Famous People)

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The host – Bryan Caplovitz – interviewed Burt Dubin – a 25 year veteran mentor of highly paid international speakers, on the theme: “What They Don’t Teach You at Speaking Business School”.

Burt tells four (4) powerful true stories to explain how diligence (which is often NOT taught at speaker schools), when employed by an individual in pursuit of a valued goal, can result in notable success.

NB: The Speaker Match Radio Series is described by Bryan Caplovitz as a live show where top experts from the Speaking Industry and business are interviewed to provide emerging speakers with marketing strategies and other business building advice. While listening live, you can participate in the call online by going to Speakermatch.com/radio. Learn more at www.speakermatch.com.

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Bryan: So let me just try and get a little bit more from you about this you know, the tenacity and what else is needed . So we’re talking about what they’re not telling you in speaking business school.

Burt: Exactly!

Bryan: In the speaker school they’re telling you that oh you need to get a demo CD, and you need to get a list of people to go after. You know you need to do the standard things to build your business. Ehm I guess it’s the tenacity part of it is just being willing to go out there and do what it takes to get those meeting planners on your side and to figure out everything there is to know about the business.

Talk a little bit more about what you really need to have in order to make this work. I’m assuming that most people that are trying to start a speaking business, at least have the skill to speak in front of an audience.

So, once you have that, what else do you need?

Burt: (Exhales.) Diligence. Let me talk to you about diligence.

Story 1: Jan Vermeer Painted Light

Some of our listeners may not have heard of Jean Vermeer (click to see his paintings, biography and quotes). He was a painter during the renaissance. And Jean Vermeer did something that all the painters of his time knew could not be done. And even today, no one has been able to what he does. And you can find his paintings in the great museums of the world. JV working diligently, discovered how he could paint light…L.I.G.H.T.

Look up some of Jean Vermeer’s paintings, wherever you can find them in art books or whatever, and you will see that I’m telling you the truth,. . No one else of his time could do it. And as far as I know, no one to this day could it. He did it with relentless diligence.

Story 2: Colonel Sanders Started Kentucky Fried Chicken, While Living On Social Security

I will give you a second example. Colonel Sanders (click to read biography). Harland Sanders. (Exhales.) When he was 65 years old, older I’m sure than many of our listeners, living on social security, he had nothing, but diligence and a recipe for Kentuck …for what he called Kentucky fried kitchen.

And he talked abut 11 herbs and spices which you can find in any kitchen cabinet. And he went around in the country in his old beat-up Volkswagen, the early Volkswagens from the early 1950s if you remember, trying to persuade restaurant owners to offer and to produce, in a pressure cooker actually, what he called his Kentucky Fried Chicken. He persevered for years, and finally broke through, and the only reason he broke through – this 65 year old man living on social security – was he was relentlessly diligent.

Now I have a Col Sanders story. A true story. I lived in the valley, San Fernando Valley. And Colonel Sanders lived in Encino I believe. That’s the valley too. I was in North Hollywood.

He drove a big Chrysler, the Chrysler Imperial. I drove a Plymouth. And twice in my life I pulled into the Chrysler agency in Van Nuys, by chance directly behind Colonel Sanders! Him in his Big Imperial and me in my (laughs) used ehm Plymouth.

And I watched him as he interacted with the service representative, in that white suit with the polo ties looking exactly like his pictures if anyone remembers those pictures. He was so so courtly, so gentlemanly, so kindly, ah so gracious, and I had a chance to see him in real life – not on television, not on stage.

However, and that’s how he became in his older life.

Something else about his older life many people don’t know. The last 20 years of his life, Colonel Sanders, the purveyor promoter of Kentucky Fried Chicken, Col Sanders was a vegetarian.

Bryan: Really?

Burt: Now few people know that. But keep in mind he wouldn’t have gotten there, had he not been diligent.

Story 3: Sylvester Stallone – Got the Rocky Movie Made Despite Countless Rejections

I will give you a third story. This is a story written by and acted out by Sylvester Stallone. The film was called Rocky. I don’t know how many of you know this, Sylvester Stallone was indeed a film writer many years ago.

He came up with this story called Rocky, went to peddle it to the studios and was told by all of the major studios they wouldn’t have it. Finally one said “Okay we’ll have it and we’ll create the stars”. Stallone said “No! If you want this picture, I star in it”. Well needless to say that was the original Rocky picture. There have been 7 of them now I believe. Something like that.

Diligence. Diligence. Diligence. None of these 3 people. Not Jan Vermeer, not Colonel Sanders, not Sylvester Stallone would have made it without diligence.

Story 4: Burt Dubin Relentlessly Endured Rejection 24 Out of 25 Times, to Win Speaking Gigs

Let me now tell you Bryan about my version of diligence. Let me get the time in California, I would get up at 4 in the morning. That’s 4 a.m California time I’ll spare you what I did between 4 and 5. By 5 a.m I was at my phone making my east coast calls relentlessly Monday through Friday.

And as ehm…That’s 8 a.m east coast. And most decision makers for meetings are at their desks by 8 a.m. The whole idea is to get them early in the morning, while their day is fresh, before they have a million things on their mind. It was this kind of relentless diligence, being rejected 24 out 25 times, that remains the percentage these days.

24 out of 25 well placed phone calls, to decision makers with the budgetary discretion, the ability to hire you, the budget to hire you, and the need for what you can do, do not succeed, you fail: The 25th one you will make it!

That is not just my percentage. My numbers. Others in the business, including some CPAEs, top speakers, report that percentage too. It’s a number game. That’s the way this business is. Relentless diligence, and you will absolutely make it.

Diligence is More Important Than Following the Rules

Bryan: It sounds like you’re also saying that diligence is much more important than following the rules? From some of the examples you gave, those people didn’t necessarily follow the rules for lets say how to start a restaurant…

Burt: Absolutely! You just…we go right back to being a bulldog! Relentless commitment that nothing, but nothing is going to stop you.

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Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, call me on 234-803-302-1263 or email tayo at tksola dot com.

Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: Diligence Beats Following the Rules!” in the subject line).

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

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Have you been undecided about whether or not to become a paid speaker? Or have you been trying to get your speaking career off the ground with little success?

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What fears or doubts are keeping you from (a) taking up Burt Dubin’s monthly speaker mentoring, or (b) buying his products?

You can choose to purchase Burt’s mentoring at any of the three (3) levels listed below:

1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

Burt’s three mentoring packages can be likened to the seating options offered by airlines: Budget Delight (Economy); Mid Range (Business); and Top Shelf (First Class).

At least that’s how I like to think of them!

So, make your choice:1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

For over 25 years, Burt Dubin has provided a variety of speaker mentoring products and services to clients worldwide.

Download this flyer as PDF: http://tinyurl.com/bdubin-africa

Public Speaking

What If a TV Reporter Requests To Interview YOU Live?

March 4, 2013 Tayo Solagbade Leave a comment

“Can we ask you a few questions?“. What if the foregoing question was suddenly directed at you at a formal public event, by a TV reporter holding a microphone, followed closely by a colleague with a camera?

A live interview (on an important subject in your area of expertise), right on the spot. No opportunity to collect your thoughts. No prior warning. It can happen to anyone – including YOU.

I know this because it’s happened to me – more than once.

It pays to know your subject. But it pays even better, to know how to speak in a way that attracts powerful opportunities for zero cost media exposure, like the one mentioned above. I share my personal insights on this theme, in this week’s issue of my public speaking ideas newsletter.

It Can Happen to You: A Real Life Example

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Title: What If a TV Reporter Requests To Interview YOU Live?

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Please find below the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013.

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking [Monday]:	Success Is A Lousy Teacher – Bill Gates
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	How Flexible Should Your Fees or Prices Be?
Self Development [Wednesday]:	What If You Lose Everything?
Career Development [Thursday]:	Make Your Boss Look Good, & You’ll Fly High!
Parenting [Friday]:	Train Your Kids To Do Housekeeping Chores & They’ll Thank You For It
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	How To Make Your Writing Effortless
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No. 79: You’ve Been Invited to Speak on TV

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“Can we ask you a few questions?“. What if the foregoing question was suddenly directed at you at a formal public event, by a TV reporter holding a microphone, followed closely by a colleague with a camera?

A live interview (on an important subject in your area of expertise), right on the spot. No opportunity to collect your thoughts. No prior warning. It can happen to anyone – including YOU.

I know this because it’s happened to me – more than once.

It Can Happen to You (A Real Life Example)

I love listening to the radio. Compared to television, I find it gives me more value for my time. Both media have always been useful for getting the word out about almost anything or indeed anyone. Only their rates can be prohibitive for most small businesses or solo entrepreneurs.

That does not however stop us from listening to, or watching them. And it certainly does not mean we cannot get useful exposure on either medium for FREE.

Have you ever considered that? Instead of listening and watching others on those media, YOU could be the one others listen to and watch!

It could happen anytime, in one of a number of ways.

For instance, a journalist could pick on you after an event you attended, in which you’d made useful contributions as a member of the audience.

That’s one way in which it’s happened to me.

She was from a national TV network. Their branded equipment made that obvious – even before she introduced herself. I’d seen them moving around taking pictures and recording since before the start of the event – at the popular MUSON (Musical Society of Nigeria) centre on Lagos Island.

The event was an anniversary lecture. The guest speaker had discussed reasons why Micro, Small and Medium Enterprises in Nigeria often struggled to succeed, and how they could make better progress.

He was eminently qualified, boasting an impressive resume that revealed he’d worked over 2 decades in private and public service supporting businesses with financial services. And he did a great job with his talk.

This subject was however one that I felt (and still feel) strongly about. So much so that I’ve written many articles about it. So, as I listened to the speaker, I readily identified specific action steps MSMEs were not taking, that I felt could boost their progress faster, if adopted.

Like I’ve always said in this newsletter, when you have an opinion that’s based on your convictions about an issue, do NOT keep it to yourself. And don’t wait to become the guest speaker at a formal event to say it either. Sometimes, voicing it from the audience stand can be just as effective. And it’s always better than saying nothing. What’s more it could get you invited to say more!

For me, especially based on my experiences from years operating as an entrepreneur in the same environment, I knew more MSMEs needed to stop waiting on the government or other bodies to solve this problem for them.

My long standing opinion has always been that we (Nigeria – and possibly Africa – based business owners and decision makers) collaborate and cooperate too little. Instead we compete needlessly when it would mutually benefit us to form alliances.

When the guest speaker called for questions from the audience, I wasted no time in raising my hand.

I spoke for just about one minute. Only 60 seconds.

But what I said during that short interval – and HOW I said it – derived from the passion I had for the subject. And I really wanted those listening to use the insights I offered to use. It was not an ego trip for me.

To get my message across, I illustrated with examples of my experiences in relating with other MSMEs owners as clients and associates. The real life examples (not surprisingly – at least for me anyway) resonated strongly with many in the audience.

So, after we closed I had a few people walk over to commend me, ask what I did etc. I believe the impact I made may have been one of the factors that made the reporter seek me out for that interview.

TV/Radio Presenters Who Speak Poorly?

That young lady was quite impressive in the way she went about it all. Her questions were intelligent and delivered in an articulate manner.

And that struck me as not so common these days. I mean out here in this part of the world. The quality of speaking one hears on radio/TV (and the writing in print publications) is not confidence inspiring.

There was a time when I listened to presenters on TV and radio out here, to learn new words, how to pronounce those I already knew – and even how to speak well. People like John Momoh (owner of the award winning Channels TV), in his days as a news presenter made listening to the news quite pleasurable – for me.

Not surprisingly, his TV station today stands out from others because the training given his presenters makes them deliver to a similar standard when they come on air.

Sadly, too many others seem to have stumbled into TV/radio presenting. It would not be so bad however, if they took action to improve themselves. Instead, these individuals routinely come on air to display a disappointing lack of fluency, and an appallingly limited vocabulary.

For example, apart from periodic incoherence, a good number punish listeners by “hmm-ing, ehm-ing and aah-ing” at random. Such distractive speech mannerisms make listening less pleasurable for any audience. (For many with this problem, investing in Public Speaking Training could be a wise move.)

And that’s why whenever I’ve identified a presenter with such limitations, I routinely tune to a different station (or turn off the radio/TV), when s/he comes on air.

The above digression was done to show that regardless of the highlighted fallen (or falling) standards, developing speaking proficiency is still a wise thing to do. Especially if you anticipate speaking on radio/TV, either as the interviewer or the interviewee.

Presenters May Have Time To Redeem Themselves: You May NOT!

But it’s not just journalists who need to hone their speaking skills. Those who have to be their “guests” – even for short interviews – will also find public speaking expertise helpful.

Many people who present TV and radio programs do so on a regular basis. So, for those who work hard to improve on the shortcomings I highlighted above, there’s a chance they’ll eventually overcome them, and make more useful impact on their listeners.

When YOU are approached for an interview by a reporter, YOU may NOT reasonably expect to get another chance. I don’t mean a situation in which you’re in your car or on the street, and someone asks you what you think about a trending topic.

Instead, I refer to a case where your expert opinion on a serious topic is sought by knowledgeable journalists who may feature it in a report to be aired on TV/radio: An excellent opportunity to achieve valuable name recognition, and more.

You can make make the most of it, or blow it. To do the former, you need to be prepared.

I assume you are a master of your subject. If you’re not, that’s the first problem you need to address – FAST. Once that is done, your public speaking proficiency will determine how well you do with a sudden “interview” opportunity (You could get quoted, and possibly invited for longer sessions).

Public Speaking mastery implies knowing how to manage fear, anxiety, and thinking on your feet, to competently address a formal audience, your area of expertise.

Are you comfortable doing that yet?

If you are, I propose you learn to do it even better.

If you’re not, I suggest you seriously consider getting public speaking training today!

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If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, call me on 234-803-302-1263 or email tayo at tksola dot com.

Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: What If YOU Get Invited to Speak on Radio/TV?” in the subject line).

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

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Success Is A Lousy Teacher – Bill Gates

February 25, 2013 Tayo Solagbade

The above title is a verbatim excerpt of the first of two phrases comprising an insightful quote credited to Microsoft founder, Bill Gates. When I first read it, I instantly said to myself: “That’s TRUE!” And Mr. Gates should know – having enjoyed years of continuous successes prior to his anti-trust experiences.

The quote reads in full as follows:

“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.” – Bill Gates (Source: Page 163 of Readers Digest, readersdigest.com 8/2010)

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Date: Monday 25th February 2013

No: 78

Title: Success Is A Lousy Teacher – Bill Gates

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263]

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Hi,

Please find below the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013.

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking [Monday]:	The World Needs You To Manifest Your Genius!
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	Why A True Entrepreneur Cannot Fail
Self Development [Wednesday]:	To Succeed, You Must Not Fear Criticism
Career Development [Thursday]:	Use Coaching To Maximize Employee Productivity
Parenting [Friday]:	Without This Skill, Your Child Could Be In Danger!
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	3 Important Truths About Writing for a Living
Writing/Blogging [Sunday]:	My Recommended BPosts for WE 23rd Feb 2013 \| The #1 Thing You Need To Be Successful In Life \| King of the Online Jungle: The Early Years of Jeff Bezos \| How A Guy With A Full Time Job Built A $2,000 A Month Adsense Income Niche Site And Then Sold It For $200,000 – Patrick Meninga Tells His Story
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No. 78: Success Is A Lousy Teacher – Bill Gates

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The quote reads in full as follows:

“Success is a lousy teacher. It seduces smart people into thinking they can’t lose.” – Bill Gates (Source: Page 163 of Readers Digest, readersdigest.com 8/2010)

Success Can Set You Up To Fail, If You’re Careless

Sometimes a person succeeds at first attempt in a chosen endeavour. It could be a totally new field or one previously existing. In some cases, she may inherit success from another e.g. a successful family business passed down from parent to child.

However, except proper orientation/coaching is given to her, there’s a real danger she may be unable to maintain that level of success, once she’s left alone.

That’s why I believe that a person who claims never to have failed (if he’s telling the truth) has yet to fully test himself in the sea of life’s challenges. Indeed I would argue that such a person is not yet fully formed, and can lay no legitimate claim to being successful in the real sense of the word.

This is because success on its own lacks the ingredients to deliver adequate useful instruction for its perpetuation. That crucial input is most often provided by failure. I say this from very personal experience – and also from studying the lives and writings of many successful people.

Below, I discuss 3 major areas in which I’ve found success to be a poor teacher:

**1. Success Will Not Drive You to Constantly Create & Innovate**

It’s failure that does that. When you become successful as a speaker, unless you’re disciplined about it, you may feel no need to keep creating and innovating. After all, you’ll be getting invited and well paid to speak. And you’ll be applauded often.

But that’s where the danger lies: Successful people tend to be in great demand. This leaves them less time to “think” of ways to improve. Some become complacent as a result, so that when more competent rivals show up, they end up losing out.

Question: Have you recently created any new speaking programs, materials, and other useful content that you can offer your target market? Do you have a plan for researching that, so you can always offer a constant flow of new content to attract meeting planners? Have you considered converting your content to formats that could generate passive income for you – and at the same time consolidate your brand presence?

Click here to view examples of thought leading information products created by Burt Dubin, with some of the world’s highest paid speakers attesting to the value he offers.

**2. Success Will Not Compel You to Monitor Important Trends**

Again it’s the experience of failure that does that. People who failed often admit looking back to analyze why. Upon identifying the cause of their setback, they formed the habit of monitoring relevant trends, to avoid a future mishap.

Again it takes being disciplined to keep this up once success has been achieved. For those who fail to establish that mindset, they end up losing when they least expect it.

Question: What’s changed (or changing) in your target market? How are events being organized or sponsored now, compared to last year or two? Is there something you can change in your marketing strategy to get better attention from potential clients? Are there new topics that seem to interest decision makers more, that you need to develop your expertise on?

Burt Dubin’s Speaking Success System is based on over 2 decades of relentless research on the latest developments and trends in the speaking business. Click here to learn more.

**3. Success Will Not Challenge You to be Frugal**

Success allows you to get easily reckless if you choose to. Unlike failure, which causes you to stop, step back and think more carefully, about all you did, and want to do.

Dan Kennedy once wrote that he had become convinced that being adequately capitalized can actually be more of a curse than a blessing for a business.

And that’s because human nature thrives most when a little deprivation exists. The truth is that an atmosphere of abundance does not evoke the desire to conserve resources.

A successful person is so described because she’s doing well. Quite often in society, that implies she’s getting handsomely rewarded in material and monetary terms. Such absence of lack can make the uninitiated individual fail to apply common sense. So you could have her failing to be prudent in spending/using resources.

Question: Does it make sense to go mailing out volumes of printed information pack to meeting planners you’ve never spoken with? Email can be used to make first contact and establish potential interest in your speaking services. So can the telephone. They help you reduce the number of people you may have to use expensive paper based correspondence to initiate contact with.

Signup for public speaking mentoring with Burt Dubin, and learn his proven secrets for achieving speaking business success, without throwing your money away. If you’re based in Africa, tell him I sent you, and he’ll make you a surprise offer you’ll find hard to resist.

Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOUR Company?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, call me on 234-803-302-1263 or email tayo at tksola dot com.

Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: Success Is A Lousy Teacher!” in the subject line).

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

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You can choose to purchase Burt’s mentoring at any of the three (3) levels listed below:

1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

Burt’s three mentoring packages can be likened to the seating options offered by airlines: Budget Delight (Economy); Mid Range (Business); and Top Shelf (First Class).

At least that’s how I like to think of them!

So, make your choice:1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

For over 25 years, Burt Dubin has provided a variety of speaker mentoring products and services to clients worldwide.

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Public Speaking, Self-Development

The World Needs You To Manifest Your Genius!

February 18, 2013 Tayo Solagbade Leave a comment

If you’re often afraid of socializing with new people, you’re not alone. It’s a fear many people have. But the world needs you to manifest your genius: so you MUST overcome this fear! In this issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter, I use personal anecdotes to explain how engaging in extracurricular activities (like sports and public speaking) can eliminate fear of socializing in anyone – like it did for me.

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Date: Monday 18th February 2013

No: 77

Title: The World Needs You To Manifest Your Genius!

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263]

Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog

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Hi,

Please find below the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013.

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking[Monday]:	Salespeople Succeed More Using THIS!
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	What Happens If/When You Run Out of Cash COMING SOON: Practical Guide to Commercial Rabbit Farming (PDF)
Self Development [Wednesday]:	GRIT Will Help You Defeat Adversity
Career Development [Thursday]:	A Perfect Solution for Workplace Conflict
Parenting [Friday]:	I Fought “Iron Mike Tyson” In School – and Paid The Price!
Writing/Blogging [Saturday]:	How to Make Money from Social Media (An Ex-Public Servant’s True Story)
Writing/Blogging [Sunday]:	My Recommended Posts for W/E 16th Feb 2013: Sun Tzu’s Art of War for Business Executives \| Stopping Web Content Theft \| Winning A Fight By Walking Away \| African Moms vs Their Unmarried Daughters \| Nobel Laureate Wole Soyinka’s Valentine Message to Wives of African Leaders
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No. 77: The World Needs You To Manifest Your Genius!

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If you’re often afraid of socializing with new people, you’re not alone. It’s a fear many people have. But the world needs you to manifest your genius: so you MUST overcome this fear! In this issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter, I use personal anecdotes to explain how engaging in extracurricular activities (like sports and public speaking) can eliminate fear of socializing in anyone – like it did for me.

Fear Has a Way of Holding A Person Back

When I was much younger, I used to be shy – and afraid of socializing. Once there were strangers or visitors around, I would go strangely quiet. Or even into hiding. And even when I knew stuff that could help others, I was often too terrified to say so!

Looking back, I realize my shyness was even more serious where it concerned members of the opposite sex.

Part of the problem had to do with a bad experience I had with a primary school classmate who falsely accused me of peeping at her in the convenience room (Read the story here). Although the matter was resolved, that experience made me develop a deep aversion for females in general.

But as I grew up, I began feeling what a normal male would feel for females. And that made me uncomfortable being around them. If I found myself too close to one that I fancied just a bit, my mouth would go dry while my heart thumped wildly. Most times I quickly walked away for fear of embarrassing myself. I’m sure you know the feeling

Extracurricular Activities Can Help You Overcome Fear!

But if there was one place I was never really shy (or afraid of socializing), it was on the handball court. Once the whistle went, I would forget everything else, and immerse myself fully in the game.

When I took part in the open camp trials for the under 12 state team in 1982, I did not know playing handball would help me in that manner. Indeed, all through secondary school, after I got selected, I was not really conscious of its influence on my development of interpersonal competence.

I simply acted on it. But looking back, I know the changes began taking place back then.

Getting to university, my handball proficiency helped me quickly settle in. The first day I trained with the university team, the coach immediately drafted me into the team. In no time I’d made new friends with others in the team and other sports.

The university was a bigger social environment. And the level of serious attention paid to sports persons made it even more prestigious to be one. We got preferential room allocations that was paid for – unlike other students. And we got allowances, training kits issued to us. All we had to do was play to the best of our ability whenever the need arose. It’s the same thing across the world really.

Back in secondary school, I’d gotten a fore taste when, at 15, I earned a call up to the Kwara state camp for the National Sports Festival. While my classmates remained in school, those of us who were selected, were picked up by a bus from the sports council and taken to purpose built accommodation blocks in the state’s new sports complex.

I was later dropped from the final team. But those who went on to play in the competition had their exams conducted for them separately, after they returned.

What I’m trying to say here is that experiences like this have a way of boosting your self-esteem. You get to have the best of both worlds (school and sports), picking up additional know-how within the same period that others may not get.

You Are Forced To “Practice” Socializing

What’s more, you get to do the above by necessarily relating with others.

The following true story should make you laugh…even as it offers useful insight:

During camp for the 1985 sports festival, Aroc – a top member of the state’s female handball team (who also happened to be quite pretty/naughty) – went out of her way to openly flirt with me, at training sessions and elsewhere. Since arriving, I’d been my shy self – retiring to my room after training, to read novels etc, until the next training session.

One day during training, an exercise routine required players of the same gender to pair up. This was because it was a defensive sequence in which players had to alternately push each other in the chest area.

Aroc chose that moment to leave her female colleagues, and plant herself in front of me. Before I could protest, the coach’s whistle blew for us to begin. Knowing how strict he was I decided to do what I could.

Each time she came forward I made sure my palms landed well below her breasts (in the area of her lower ribs). She on her part boldly pushed me – repeatedly – in the chest/breast area smiling innocently all the while.

Our team mates giggled so badly all through that routine, that it was a miracle the coach did not catch on. And afterwards, they teased me about it weeks!

That experience “broke me in” socially, into that group. And although I resisted Aroc’s advances till I was de-camped, my socializing improved considerably after that day

Your Innate Leadership Skills Could Be Developed

But more seriously, my shyness/fear evaporated over time mainly due to my active involvement in sports. Travelling for hours together in a bus with others, on a regular basis, will eventually make you loosen up.

You’ll meet people who will show excitement when they learn you’re a “member of the state team preparing for the forthcoming XYZ competition”. Many are keen to make friends with someone who shares a similar interest or passion.

By the time I began to gain recognition on the university campus as a starter on the university team (and captain of my hall team), the last thing I felt was shyness.

In that environment, I felt at ease with myself, knowing that I had the competence to relate with anyone on my areas of interest or focus.

But the transformation did not happen overnight. It was a progressive improvement – a key part played by the self-talk I also actively engaged in to keep from withdrawing into my shell.

Basically, I told myself people would want to have me around if they knew I could add value to them. So all I had to do was to be myself, put in my best efforts at all times, and everything would be okay.

And Good Things Will Happen To You MORE Frequently

That’s what eventually happened to me. For instance, below are examples of leadership positions I was nominated/elected into (even though I never indicated interest) by different groups in the last 2 years of my stay in the university:

1. Members of Student’s Farm Research Foundation (SFRF) voted me as Supplies Coordinator on the team of club executives (1991/92).

2. Members of Agricultural Extension department’s Readers’ Club voted me the maiden chairman (1991/92)

3. Members of the Independence Hall handball team nominated me as Captain (1991/92) – In my final year, we won the Inter halls handball competition for the first time since I joined the university(having been runners up 2 years in a row before then).

What made the above achievements even more significant was that I also won an award from the sports council, in addition to emerging best graduating student from my department with the highest ever Cumulative G.P.A of 5.9 (First class was 6.0).

In other words, my academic performance did not suffer due to my active involvement in social activities. It goes without saying that striking a healthy balance of that kind in school, and life in general, is very important.

Final Words: The World Needs You!

At the risk of stating the obvious, I have offered personal examples in this write up, not to brag, but to illustrate the positive outcome I achieved by engaging in extracurricular activities. Without that, I honestly believe I would have struggled greatly.

It’s an excellent way to develop self-esteem and confidence in one’s abilities.

As adults, we can build further on that foundation, no matter the vocations we’re professionally engaged in, to become even more interpersonally effective.

Which brings me to this important point: If you think about it, one thing common to all forms of extracurricular activities is the need to speak or communicate in public. Even when you’re playing sports. Yes, sports involves physical movement mostly, but where team sports in particular are concerned, your ability to speak effectively comes into play.

Competent public speakers are sensitive to both verbal and non-verbal communication. This helps them gauge what to say and how to say it by studying the reactions (body language) of others.

Public Speaking is so central to the existence of human beings in society. That’s why it’s regarded as a crucial skill for achieving high levels of success. If you cannot “win friends and influence people” by speaking, you’ll be very ineffective in your interpersonal relationships.

It therefore follows that learning public speaking can improve your ability to socialize successfully.

That’s why organizations like Toastmasters exist.

But if you prefer private sessions, there are seasoned personal coaches/mentors in public speaking you can approach.

So, what are you waiting for?

Don’t let shyness deny you excellent opportunities to make the most of yourself. People out there need what you have to offer. But if you keep it locked up inside of you, they’ll never get it. And you won’t be fulfilled.

You deserve better than that!

Need Help Deciding How To Cure Your Fear of Socializing?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, call me on 234-803-302-1263 or email tayo at tksola dot com.

Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: Socializing With New People” in the subject line).

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

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You can choose to purchase Burt’s mentoring at any of the three (3) levels listed below:

1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

Burt’s three mentoring packages can be likened to the seating options offered by airlines: Budget Delight (Economy); Mid Range (Business); and Top Shelf (First Class).

At least that’s how I like to think of them!

So, make your choice:1. Top Shelf [Click here] | 2. Mid Range [Click here] | 3. Budget Delight [Click here]

For over 25 years, Burt Dubin has provided a variety of speaker mentoring products and services to clients worldwide.

Download this flyer as PDF: http://tinyurl.com/bdubin-africa

Public Speaking

Should You Speak For FREE?

January 14, 2013 Tayo Solagbade Leave a comment

I answer this question with a big YES, based on my personal experiences/achievements, and also drawing from my study of the writings of experts like Burt Dubin, Les Brown, and Dale Carnegie.

Certain experts find it difficult to understand why they need to get some “speaking” experience under their belts, before they can command respectable remuneration for their speaking efforts.

For those who have that difficulty, I offer the following insights in the hope that you might see the justification.

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No: 72

Title: Should You Speak For FREE?

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Hi,

Please find below the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013.

SD Nuggets Blog™	New posts from last week that may interest you!
Public Speaking [Monday]:	Get People Talking About YOU!
Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]:	Knowing Why You’re In Business Can Make You Unstoppable
Self Development [Wednesday]:	Eliminate “IMPOSSIBLE” From Your Vocabulary
Career Development [Thursday]:	Your Salary Can Be Dangerous (To Your Long Term Financial Health)!
Parenting [Friday]:	Challenge Your Kids To Be Readers & Thinkers
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No. 72: Should You Speak For FREE?

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I answer this question with a big YES, based on my personal experiences/achievements, and also drawing from my study of the writings of experts like Burt Dubin, Les Brown, and Dale Carnegie.

Certain experts find it difficult to understand why they need to get some “speaking” experience under their belts, before they can command respectable remuneration for their speaking efforts.

For those who have that difficulty, I offer the following insights in the hope that you might see the justification.

(NB: At the end of this piece I provide a download link to a slide show version of interesting answers given – over the years – by Burt Dubin to questions – like “Should I speak for free?” sent in by aspiring/expert speakers.)

Let’s Start With A Simple Analogy

When a law student graduates from university, the next step is (usually) finding a good job with her newly acquired qualification.

At the risk of stating the obvious, she is unlikely to be able to join any law firm as a Senior Partner.

There’s a reason why they are called “Senior”, and quite often it has less to do with age, and a lot more to do with quality time they’ve had arguing real cases in court.

That’s why a junior partner is made to spend time understudying seniors before she can take on certain roles or responsibilities.

This requirement to acquire real world relevant experience under controlled conditions is not limited to law practice obviously.

Soccer Professionals Undergo Similar Preparation

Before he got where he is today, as a footballer of legendary accomplishments, Lionel Messi started out as a junior player in his club’s feeder team.

The scouts, coaches and club management had already noted his amazing abilities.

But they knew he still needed time (corrective surgery) and more training to develop further and mature better as a player.

They were still investing in him. And so during that time he got paid what was more of a stipend – peanuts compared to the fees he commands now!

Messi is not the only player with great potential to have been made to start this way.

Both Diego Maradonna and Ronaldo (aka “The Phenomenon”) of Brazil also went through the same preparation.

So did Messi’s perpetual Ballon D’Or running mate – Christiano Ronaldo.

One thing common to all these players is/was the ability to consistently deliver superlative performances when in the spotlight!

A Paid Speaking Gig Is Not Where You Experiment Or Fine tune Your Performance!

As a paid professional speaker, you’re in the spotlight when you mount the podium to speak.

That’s not the kind of place you want to be if you’ve not gotten your stuff properly together – especially when you’re getting paid handsomely to deliver powerfully!

You must make sure you’re ready.

Sometimes your desire to start earning income may cloud your judgment about how ready you are.

This is why you may find it useful to seek objective feedback from a competent and experienced speaking professional – or better still, a coach/mentor. To ensure you can consistently and reliably deliver your best at paid gigs you need plenty of practise.

By speaking for FREE, you gain useful opportunities to safely test yourself and identify areas you need to improve. If you really apply yourself at every outing, your audiences won’t notice you’re “practising” and will often enthusiastically applaud you.

You’d consequently be able to legitimately boost your resume by mentioning most, if not all, of such talks you give(no need to state that you spoke free).

How much time you need will naturally vary from person to person. You – possibly with guidance from a coach or mentor – will ultimately decide when you’ve done enough.

At that point, you’d “feel” confident enough to approach meeting planners with speaking offers stating your professional fee – consistent with industry standards.

No matter how academically sound, or theoretically grounded you are. No matter how skilled or talented you naturally are. You’ll likely need to spend time honing your newly acquired skill before you can safely (and responsibly) request payment to speak.

Final Words: If You’re Still Not Convinced, Download Burt Dubin’s Answers Instead

I feel your pain, but if you just put yourself in the shoes of those who hire speakers, you’ll appreciate how great the risk they take is every time they decide to hire a new speaker.

And that’s why putting yourself out there in a way that allows them a low risk opportunity to see what you can do – by speaking free – can be a smart strategy to employ.

Still not convinced?

Then maybe you need to hear it from a mentor or master speakers himself – click here (no opt-in required) to download the slide show version of the Frequently Asked Questions page on Burt Dubin’s website.

In it, he discusses the question about whether or not to speak for free – and why – in at least 2 different sections.

Take it from me: You will be wise to heed his advice!

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

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