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Why Your Child May Need a Liberal Arts Education to Succeed

“One of the benefits of a liberal arts education is that it trains the mind to think.” – Albert Einstein

Einstein was a famous “Theoretical Physicist”…who thought up amazing theories, that changed our lives.

Now Here’s Something Many People Miss About Einstein’s Achievements:

You see, he was a SCIENTIST. That means he specialised in the field of science.

…not the arts…like literature, drama, history, music, philosophy, languages etc:

Yet this great scientist – renowned for his achievements in Physics – asserted that a liberal arts education trains the mind to think!

One is (at Least I Am) Tempted to Ask: So What Do Science Subjects Do Then?

Don’t people do plenty of thinking during the study of science in schools and universities?

In truth, thinking of different kinds exist…or happen.

Studying math requires the student to accept certain assumptions in thinking up a solution. It also defines limits within which such thinking is to be done.

In other words, there are rules (sometimes strict ones) guiding thinking, and the outcome to be arrived at.

For instance, in math, physics or chemistry, you have to work with basic assimptions provided, in solving problems.

But in the arts, such as literature, emphasis is placed more on reading up material, then having learners voice their interpretations of the material read.

Rarely is there one particular correct answer.

Instead, different veiws as adopted by the learners, using their unique experiences are accepted, and reviewed for merit.

Very often, the entire class is required to engage in the process of reviewing each individual’s submission. Feed back is provided with a view to helping each person refine the thinking s/he employed to arrive at his/her voiced opinion.

Most importantly, each participant, over time, comes to discover that there is value to be had in patiently waiting to hear others out.

Even when they voice contrary opinions or dissenting views.

They learn that perspectives from which issues on various important subjects in life, can be viewed, can vary greatly from person to person.

And many times they learn that rarely will one answer cover all possible scenarios.

Learners are taught to be comfortable with challenging their own assumptions about issues. They develop a habit of constant self-evaluation.

Rigid views and intolerance, arising from narrow perspectives thus become alien: the mark of truly liberated minds!

It is this kind of mental attitude that a liberal arts education nurtures in those who undergo it.

Some of the greatest people in the world have been those referred to as “thinkers”.

They were often those who spent quality time and effort constantly reflecting on how things were, and how they could be better.

That’s why today, we still find ourselves quoting many of them, many years, decades, even centuries after they passed on.

Examples include Voltaire, Socrates, Plato, Emerson etc.

We all know Einstein came up with amazing theoretical assumptions which were proven to be accurate and on which a lot of our progress was built.

He was able to do that because he knew how to think.

His thinking was not hampered by limitations imposed by traditional society.

I believe this was the reason Sir Ken Robinson, in one of his videos about education, made the point that conventional schools all over the worlds tend to “kill creativity” in people.

We Need to Give People – Our Kids Especially – Real World Relevant Education

A real education has to give equal weight to the arts, the humanities, to physical education. ” — Sir Ken Robinson

“Kids prosper best with a broad curriculum that celebrates their various talents, not just a small range of them. ” — Sir Ken Robinson

View this useful slideshow titled “Quotes from Sir Ken Robinson’s 2013 TED Talk

He pointed out that relative to other areas, schools put arts at the bottom of the curriculum, ranking them, by implication, least important…and according them the least attention.

The points made above, along with Einstein’s quote, and historical evidence available, indicates that arts are crucial for our evolution and progress.

That’s why I believe we need to
deliberately incorporate more liberal arts, into formal education we provide at all levels of society.

The study of subjects like history, sociology, philosophy, music, dance, drama etc must be made more integral to the completion of formal education in our traditional schools.

This will over time equip learners with the critical thinking skills that societies need, to ensure they can continue evolving/progressing.

My Opinion On This Subject is Based on Personal Experience – NOT Theory (A Confession)

I discovered great pleasure and fulfillment from attending courses in sociology, psychology, and philosophy during my stay in the university. And I came away feeling more knowledgable, even wiser about life, and the world in general from taking those courses.

Yet, I was majoring in Agricultural Extension Services at the time, so I could not afford to puruse further studies in them.

To make up for that loss, I developed a driving need to buy and read any books even remotely related to those subjects.

As a multipreneur, my core competencies are in mainly intellectually demanding vocations, that require considerable creativity and innovative thinking.

I can confidently say my deliberate self-study of the arts has been a crucial ingredient in my ability to succeed in various areas of endeavour as a multipreneur.

As you leave this article, take this thought provoking quote from Sir Ken Robinson with you, as a reminder of why you need to act on what you’ve read here:

“Many highly talented, brilliant, creative people think they’re not — because the thing they were good at at school wasn’t valued, or was actually stigmatized.”

I’ll add to the above quote by saying…

”and that probably includes your own child!”

A. Further Reading

1. This Wikipedia article explains that a “Liberal Arts Education”aims to “produce a virtuous, knowledgeable, and articulate person”.

Doesn’t that remind you of Plato, Socrates and co…?

In the early days, core subjects like “Grammar, rhetoric, and logic” were taught to students.

Today, we are told “areas of literature, languages, philosophy, history, mathematics, psychology, and science” tend to be the focus.

I recommend, strongly, that you read this article.

2. You may also find it useful to read this excellent article titled “Why Study Liberal Arts?” by Richard Sigurdson

He is a former Acting Dean of Arts, The University College of the Cariboo, Kamloops, B.C. Canada.

And he does us ALL a favour by providing a list of questions and answers that help to demystify “Liberal Arts Studies” in terms of their real world relevance/usefulness.

Indeed, his article will help ANYONE understand why Eistein said what he did, about the benefits of a Liberal Arts Education. I urge you to read it.

B. Sir Ken Robinson’s Videos You Can Watch Include:

1. How schools kill creativity(1st video)

2. How to escape education’s death valley (scroll down page to 2nd video)

3. Bring on the learning revolution(scroll down page to 3rd video)

4. Changing Education Paradigms

5. Why is Creativity Important in Education?

C. What Sir Ken Robinson Got Wrong (Huh?)

I always love to present information and education I offer on my website, in a balanced form.

That’s why when I encounter ideas that oppose those I advocate, and I feel they have merit, or are worthy of discussion/consideration, I try to highlight them.

Some people happen to disagree with Sir Ken Robinson. That’s not unexpected. Everyone cannot see things the same way all the time!

And one of them has articulated – very intelligently – the major points and areas they do not see eye to eye with him on this suibject.

I’ve read the article, and I appreciate the points he raised.

But to be fair, most of them actually do NOT prove Robinson is wrong. And I am glad someone was able to make this clarification – in the comments – to the article’s author.

You should read this article too.

If nothing else, it may help you gain a balanced perspective from which to draw your own conclusions.

Remember: What matters most is the impact in the lives of the leaners – who are, very often, our kids.

“A person who cannot “think”, and does not know he cannot “think”, will get himself – and any who depend on the output from his thinking – into lots of trouble!” – Tayo K. Solagbade

Do We Really Become More Prone to “Forgetting” As We Grow Older?

In 2003, I wrote my popular research based article (titled “When You Grow Old, Your Brain Does Not”. It has since been republished via syndication on many websites. If you believe your mental abilities will diminish because you’re aging, think again.

Do We Really Become More Prone to “Forgetting” As We Grow Older?

In yesterday’s post, I narrated the events in which my Nokia phone got stolen in a taxi I took from the Seme border into Lagos.

I noted that recent instances of “forgetfulness” (e.g. 2 incidences in Cotonou, in which I left my Blackberry smart phone behind in public places, but was lucky to have it returned to me both times) made it possible for the eventual theft of my other phone – a Nokia double SIM handset for my two MTN business lines.

A friend who read that article via the link auto-shared on Facebook, however made an interesting contribution that got me thinking about an article I wrote 7 years earlier.

He expressed the opinion that aging, and not necessarily work pressure, was often more responsible for such seeming increase in forgetfulness, or absent mindedness.

According to him, from the age of 40 upwards, this diminishing ability to retain stuff in one’s memory becomes more obvious. Regardless of one’s brilliance, he said it would happen.

Then he offered suggestions/tips on how to cope with it.

I saw the point he was making…

However, I knew from my demonstrated abilities even alongside persons half my age, that my experience was different.

What I know about aging, and how it affects the brain, is something I have often used so effectively, that it’s gotten many clients to compliment me, and younger persons to marvel.

This is NOT an attempt to brag or exaggerate. Just a simple statement of facts.

People Need to Know The Truth About The Brain, and How Aging Affects It!

While working in paid employment, with a large corporate manufacturing multinational, I reported to an expatriate Senior Manager, who was about 65, if I recall correctly. One of the things he was well known and respected for, was his amazing ability to remember/recall anything and everything said in meetings, written in reports, emails or discussed verbally.

For an “old” man, he had an exceptionally sharp mind and brilliant memory. You could not say one thing to him this week about why your department failed to meet the brewery target, and get away with changing ANY fine detail next week, if the matter came up again.

But he was not the only one. During the seven (7) year period I spent in that company, I worked with a number of over 50 to 60 year olds, at various levels in the organisation. Some were colleagues in the brewing department; others were junior staff/process operatives who were assigned supervisory roles.

A few were highly skilled technicians with specialties in areas where the company struggled with manpower. This made it necessary for this last group to constantly be on demand on site – leading to near round the clock duty runs on some busy days when plant problems required their presence.

What struck me was that they often delivered performance at par with what the rest of us who were younger.

I was then LESS than 30 years old at the time...

You could rarely fault them for “forgetting” things. Indeed, many times, WE depended on them to remind us of what was to be done, how etc.

As evidence of their abilities despite aging, some of them, upon formal retirement, got formally engaged as external consultants or on contract basis to serve the company in the same role they played before leaving!

The company’s decision makers wisely assigned younger, less experienced hands to formally undergo coaching at the hands of these “veterans”. This equipped the former to step into competently step into the latter’s shoes.

The above observations led me to do some SERIOUS investigation about retirement, aging, and how it relates to work performance.

I read stories and dug up research findings.

What I discovered was shocking.

And it changed my thinking about aging, as it relates to the brains ability to perform it’s key functions – an important one being memory recall.

I could not keep what I learnt to myself.

The knowledge enabled me liberate myself psychologically, in terms of how I believe aging would affect my brain power.

And I felt others needed to know, that what we were being told about aging was mostly untrue.

That was why – in 2003 – I wrote my article titled “Your Company May Be Losing Money By Retiring Employees When They Clock 60 Years – And Above!

In 2007, I decided to publish it online as a PDF – downloadable from the members-only section of my website. That version – with the contents remaining basically the same – was re-titled “When You Grow Old, Your Brain Does Not“.

My article has since been republished on others websites, by owners – indicating its message resonated with readers.

I Now Invite YOU, to Read The Article Yourself: One of the things you’ll learn about is “Brain Training”, and how it helps to keep the brain “fit” no matter what age a person arrives at!

Read it, and have your eyes opened to the amazing power your brain will continue to possess even when you enter your late nineties!

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Proof That Poverty Cannot Make People Steal…If They Don’t Want To (A True Story)

One minute the phone was next to my elbow in the space behind the hand brake, the next minute I was looking all over the taxi to find it. The driver asked “When did you last see it?” “I called my mother just before we left the border” I replied in a puzzled voice. (The events described here occurred between 7 and 9p.m yesterday, Monday 3rd February 2014).

(I’d told her I was taking a taxi, and would need some Nigerian naira, since banks had closed, and I could not change the Euros I had with me.)

As I said this and continued searching for my phone, the two young Nigerian girls in the back, whose conversations had revealed they were returning from a university they attended in Benin Republic, giggled repeatedly.

Their male colleague remained silent. I did not look back, but wondered how anyone could find what I’d said funny.

I had my Blackberry in my hand, but the SIM card in it was for my MOOV/Etisalat line in Benin Republic.

Once we’d left the border, the Internet Service on it had stopped, as usual. Normally at this point I would have switched the SIM card for my MTN Nigeria line on which I also subscribe to the Blackberry Internet Service.

But that SIM card was in the missing Nokia double SIM handset – as was the SIM card for my MTN line in Benin Republic. Both lines were the ones listed on my website i.e. my business lines (+229-66-122-136 and +234-803-302-1263).

So, I could not make calls on my Blackberry, as it was not possible to purchase airtime or load it from the Nigerian end (I still struggle to wonder why. Maybe I need some coaching…???). The driver offered me his handset, so I could call the MTN Nigeria line. I tried and was told “The number you’re calling is switched off. Please try again later.” I handed the phone back to him saying “It’s been switched off. I never left the car, and yet it’s gone. This is rather strange.”

The young ladies in the back, whose nauseatingly shallow line of conversations had continued, once again began giggling, just as I made that pronouncement.

I’d been tempted to think they had something to do with the phone’s disappearance. But I’d pushed the thought out of my mind.

However, their continued giggling, as if on queue, made me think back to when I last saw the device. It was about 10 minutes before the girls and their male student friend came in.

I tried remembering how they got into the car. I concentrated and played the scene back in my head.

That was when I recalled that the girl in the middle had found it necessary to pile three sachets of pure water, on the compartment behind the hand brake – just between my seat and the driver’s seat.

That was where I’d placed the phone in order to shut the door, when the driver quickly jumped in to move the car forward in the motor park. It was after that, that the trio got in.

It occurred to me that the water sachets were probably used to cover the phone, so they could withdraw it from beneath, without being noticed.

One thing was certain. I’d never stepped out of the car since getting in. So if the phone was not in the car, there was a very good chance it had been taken by these young people. .

But I kept this thought to myself.

Why?

Because past experience (from observation) has taught me, that people who choose to stoop that low to do things like that, can be quite good at hiding (or disposing of) what they take.

Demanding to search them would create a scene. And if one was unsuccessful in finding it on them (e.g. since it was night, it could be thrown out the window in a flash!) they would turn around to claim they’d been falsely accused.

I’ve been around enough, especially growing up in Nigeria, to have seen this happen. Suddenly, the thief is telling the accuser, who is actually in the right, to apologise to him for the false accusation!

So instead of starting a war, I chose to deliberately engage the driver in a conversation meant to pass a message across to the young people.

Whether or not they chose to take it did not matter to me.

I told him how, on two separate days – just last week – in Cotonou, I’d left my Blackberry smart phone in two difference public places in Benin Republic, and nothing had happened to it. (Don’t get me wrong. Stealing happens there, but much, much, MUCH less readily!)

The first time I forgot the Blackberry, it was in a hotel I stayed in – specifically on the counter at the reception.

This was a very small hotel in Cotonou. I’d checked in for a 24 hour blitz, to churn out some writing that was overdue, and also put finishing touches to the new mini version of my Poultry Farm Manager.

I’d paid the reception, picked up my receipt and gone upstairs to my room.

Matthias, the receptionist, a very warm and friendly chap had wished me a great stay.

I never knew how much he meant that, until one hour later when I searched my trousers, then bag, and was unable to find the phone. That was when I recalled I’d placed it next to me on the counter just as I was filling in the form.

Apparently, I’d left it there!

All sorts of thoughts began running through my mind. I was almost sure it would be gone by the time I got there. When I arrived reception, I asked Mathias if he’d seen my smart phone. He looked me right in the eyes, smiled, and reached down under the counter and gently placed my phone before me!

Barely concealing my surprise, I thanked him and left. The next morning I gave him a tip. He responded by saying “C’est rien!”(i.e. it’s nothing), in reference to what he’d done.

This man was NOT even close to being well paid. Yet he carried himself with an unmistakable sense of dignity and pride. I felt honoured to know him!

The second time, it was in a Cyber Café I frequent a lot:

I’d met there with a client who came to pick up a draft Functional Requirements Specification I’d prepared for a Web Marketing System to be developed for his university. In a bid to print the document, I’d removed the memory card from my Blackberry, and placed it in a USB modem, to access it via the printing terminal.

After handing the printout to the client, and seeing him off, I simply rushed back to the inner room where I was working on my laptop…leaving behind the Blackberry smart phone on the window sill!

About 15 minutes later, the young Beninese girl who worked as café operator, (and had helped print out the document) came into the room and simply handed the device to me, without saying a word!

I was shocked beyond words.

For one thing, I was so drawn into my work that I probably would not have remembered to check for the phone till hours later. So, to have her return it to me that way truly touched me. I thanked her, feeling embarrassed for being guilty of such absent mindedness again.

That happened last Saturday.

Yesterday afternoon, just before I left for the border, I visited the café to send out my newsletter for the week.

On my way out, I handed the young girl a bottle of Coke I’d bought from a nearby store on my way in as a gift for her. I said “Merçi pour Samedi”. She took it and nodded in appreciation.

Again, there was no attitude of subservience or patronage. For her, what s/he’d done seemed to be no big deal. Wow!

The students went completely quiet as I narrated these stories…

Not long after, they got off at their stop.

As we continued to my parents’ place, the driver told me he strongly believed the students were the ones who took the phone.

I told him I also considered it a possibility right from the start. “Why did you not tell me, so we could search them?” he exclaimed.

I told him my reasoning that they could have tossed it out and claimed we’d falsely accused them.

He thought about it and said “Okay, maybe you have a point there.”

Reflecting on that experience as we drove on in silence, I wondered why things had to be so different in Nigeria, and with Nigerians!

These young girls who’d taken my phone schooled in the same country – Benin Republic – that I’d had the above positive experiences. But they’d obviously not imbibed those good attributes from being there!

Indeed, from my travels to other African countries (e.g. Ghana, Cameroon, Benin Republic), and interaction with their citizens, I’ve discovered that many of our fellow Africans are much more Emotionally Intelligent than we are.

For instance, they are much more averse to gleeefully doing wrong to (or hurting) one another – be if physically, emotionally or otherwise.

And that’s sad. Very sad.

I know you may be thinking “Why did I keep forgetting my phones?”.

The truth is this has not happened to me in a very long time.

For over 2 years now. I’m always extremely careful when it comes to handling my phones, which I consider very important for my work.

But in the days approaching my father’s 80th birthday celebration, I had a mountain of outstanding work to finish, in order to free myself up to visit Nigeria. This added psychological pressure, is what made me so prone to making this mistake.

The thing is in other societies, people seem willing to “forgive” you for making it. But in Nigeria no such consideration is given you, most times. Slip up, and they’ll “hit you”…HARD!

This is common knowledge. That’s why everyone in Nigeria I’ve told about this experience said they were not surprised.

And that’s without a single exception – including my sister who came in from London.

Amazing isn’t it? That we know ourselves to be so capable of doing wrong/evil so readily!

Yet, just next to us, in a much poorer, but better organised black African society, people still consider fidelity to high moral standards a worthwhile endeavour.

And most of these people lack material wealth, when compared to the average Nigerian!

I honestly believe we have so much work to do on ourselves in Nigeria.

My phone did not get “stolen” by “bad government”.

It was taken by a very emotionally unintelligent group of young Nigerian undergraduates visiting Nigeria from their Beninese University. One day, they’ll complete their studies and return home…in Nigeria.

What does that tell you about this country’s future? Not something good, that’s for sure…:-((

I’m determined to make sure my kids never descend to that level of insanity.

I hope you resolve to do the same thing too…for the sake of OUR country!

PS: I’ wrote this piece at 7.33a.m Tuesday 4th February 2014 (the morning of my father’s birthday). If any persons on my phone contacts lists have received – or receive – strange calls before I’m able to get MTN to disable and recover both lines on that missing phone (i.e. +229-66-122-136 and +234-803-302-1263), you can be sure they did NOT come from me.

Happy 80th Birthday to our SUPER DAD!

By the time you read this, I’ll be in Lagos with my siblings and the rest of the “Luwaji Solagbade family” to join in celebrating with my father, on his 80th birthday anniversary, at the University of Lagos. [Update (12th Feb 2014): Dad’s 80th anniversary celebration went perfectly! Click here to read about/view photos :-))]

Wow….80 years. We’ve come a long way as a family.

I’m going to share a story in my next post about how he found out I was secretly keeping a tortoise in our home – and gave me a thorough thrashing…LOL!

PS: By the way…I’m typing this post at 3.32p.m from here in Cotonou, to auto-schedule it to appear 12 noon tomorrow(that’s TODAY…for YOU, reading it now). You can therefore imagine just how much work I’ll have to do to make up to my siblings/family for arriving soooo late. Pictures will follow….

Happy 80th Birthday to our Super Dad!

One more thing: Big thanks go to www.mydelightfuldesigns.com for the Super Hero designs I customized above for use with Baba’s photo…LOL!

No. 127: Master FEAR, and You’ll Achieve Mastery In Any Field

What are you afraid of? Fear is experienced by everyone. And that includes experts – be they self-employed or in paid employment. Sadly, traditional schooling teaches us little about how to handle it successfully. This issue of my newsletter offers practical insights that can help you.

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No. 127: Master FEAR, and You’ll Achieve Mastery In Any Field

What are you afraid of? Fear is experienced by everyone. And that includes experts – be they self-employed or in paid employment. Sadly, traditional schooling teaches us little about how to handle it successfully. This issue of my newsletter offers practical insights that can help you.

You could be trying to launch a speaking service, as an expert in your field. Or maybe you’re a prospective retiree, and considering what venture to invest in.

Stop letting thoughts of possible failure, or loss, hold you back. Start small if necessary. Then gradually scale up your efforts. You’ll be better off in the end.

Here’s How/Why I Know This is True

Last week I spent time watching some of Sir Ken Robinson’s videos in which he talks about the need to overhaul our traditional schooling system to meet the needs of today’s fast changing world.

Nothing he said in those videos was essentially new – to me at least.

Like I read somewhere, degrees are now a dime a dozen.

If we, especially here in Africa, were to be honest with ourselves, we would admit the fact that universities from Europe and America are NOT just discovering potential students with intellectual competence abound in Africa. Instead, their rapidly increasing focus on recruitment from here, is (partly) a reflection of the drastic drop in enrolments happening in the societies they are based!

The truth is traditional schooling is no longer as attractive as it used to be.

Young people today have grown up with enough tools and resources to discover that on their own. Especially those in the developed societies who have ready access to eye-opening information. They are refusing to be shoved down the same paths their parents and grandparents were sent decades before.

This resistance is not simply due to typical stubbornness of youth. Instead many have increasingly observed that so many of their peers are adopting new strategies to developing real world competence, Indeed, very many have modified the original definition of success to suit their own preferences.

Like a home-schooled American teenager told his audience at TEDx, to him, success means being happy.

That (i.e. happy) is what he wants to be when he grows up.

So the purpose of the education he’s chosen (in collaboration with his parents) to get, is to identify what he can do to be happy – while being able to cater for his needs and those of any dependants.

This is the way I have always felt!

It’s why over 12 years ago I announced to close friends (and to my Montessori certified mother’s horror) that I would not let any of my kids start school before they clocked 5 years old.

I also said they would all be challenged to think outside the box, and engage in extracurricular aimed at helping them identify and nurture any talents or unique skills they possess.

My argument was that I had found very little use for my excellent academic credentials in the real world I chose to enter.

In other words, outside the controlled environment of paid employment, I discovered most of what I knew did not serve much useful purpose.

So, I had to put them aside and learn all over again.

But what really struck me was that I successfully did that, without needing to go back to a formal schooling environment.

I also noticed that while I was in paid employment, what made me most successful was NOT my academic ability, but (mainly) my ability to use my spreadsheet programming skills (developed in my spare time) to solve real life problems faced by my company.

And I noticed that the better I got at it, the greater the recognition I got.

So much so that I got sent on assignments and given opportunities that people who joined the company many years ahead of me had not been considered competent to handle.

It happened again and again.

The company apparently valued people who produced results they wanted – not just credentials!

All of that convinced me I did not need to go back for a Master’s degree.

Funny enough, I was working as a Brewer, and later Training Manager in Guinness. But I’d studied Agricultural Extension Services. So there was also the issue of what area I’d be able to obtain a masters degree in, since the company (Guinness Nigeria), had recruited and trained me as a Graduate Trainee Brewer.

That process took about 12 months.

And subsequently I sat and passed the professional Associate Membership Examinations of the UK’s Institute and Guild of Brewing (a certification I later discovered to offer ME little value outside the company!).

So when my colleagues (fellow brewers) at the office began to tell me they were running Masters Programmes, I often asked them what use they felt it would serve.

Of course they looked at me as if I was crazy.

Yet they never gave me an answer that really made any practical sense. As far as I could see, getting a Masters degree would not make them do their jobs better (in most cases anyway). Only they could decide to do that.

Many times the knowledge or information to help them do that, was available in the workplace.

Therefore the idea of going back to get an extra degree never really cut it. But they did/do it anyway.

(NB: I’m NOT saying an M.Sc I useless. Just that it’s not everyone who really needs one.)

And they closed their eyes to the glaring evidence that those of us who refused to get extra qualifications still out-performed them!

This was the most amusing part of it for me.

I thought going to school was supposed to make us think smarter?

But how come well schooled people fail (or refuse) to see this consistent trend and learn from it?

I believe it’s because they are afraid.

They are afraid to be different. To think different, and to act along those different lies.

They afraid of doing so and failing. To be seen to have been wrong. To be laughed at for being wrong

To have their mistakes (or attempts to succeed via unconventional channels) criticised by close friends and relatives:

Example 1: “Haha, imagine Tayo thinking he could get paid any decent money to build Excel workbooks for people. See where that landed him!”

NB: Today, I (Tayo), get decent money to build Excel software for clients in different industries, and also sell my own custom Excel software.

Example 2: “Oh, have you guys heard? I just learnt Tayo’s saying he’s working to get paid 2,500 Euros write a research paper online while still based here in Nigeria. Does he know how many writers there are online? How can he be sure he’ll get chosen? And even if he is, will he ever see the money? What writing qualifications does he even have? Come to think of it, does he even have a Masters degree?”

NB: Today, it is on record that I DID get paid for writing that 4,000 word agribusiness Case Study by the international organisation based in Holland.

Even if no one asks them such potentially disempowering questions, they subsconsciously ask themselves!

In other words, they either sabotage themselves, or let people do it for them.

Why?

Because that’s what traditional schooling teaches those who pass through it.

You are taught to think getting the approval of others is important to your well being. That if you do not get it, something is wrong with you. That if you go alone, you’re not normal. That if you think and act different from everyone else, you’re a wet blanket…or a freak.

Dear reader, let me tell you a secret: All those things I just outlined above are myths!

Totally false and misleading stuff. And if you’re honest with yourself, YOU have always sensed it. The truth has periodically picked at your conscience. You’ve always felt something was not right about what you were being told. But that fear kept you from acting on your feelings.

As an expert in your field today, the programming done on you decades ago is very likely still working its limiting effects on how you think and act.

That’s why you want to do what others experts in your market do. You don’t want to rock the boat by trying something new, or unusual.

It’s why you put your creativity on hold so often.

It’s also why you’re scared to purchase solutions your colleagues show no interest it, but which you “feel” can help you (e.g. Burt Dubin’s mentoring service and products).

Those bright ideas you have scare you so much. You wonder what others would think if you used them.

Less (or UN) Schooled People Have Proven That Mastering Your Fears Can Yield Mastery in Life

Burt Dubin has coached some of the world’s highest paid and most successful speakers (like this one).

However, before becoming a mentor, he’d built highly successful careers in different fields (e.g. real estate, sales/sales management and public speaking).

He’s been around for over 3 decades, and has always been in the top leagues.

Yet, he points out on his website that he is a high school drop out!

The logical question for all of us who are NOT drop outs, but have had to learn from him is often:

Where did he get all this knowledge, know-how and wisdom he’s come to be renowned for over the last 3 decades?

That’s what tells us that we have MORE inside of us, waiting to be discovered, than we know!

The best educational system is the one that will help us unearth those hidden truths buried deep inside our subconscious.

The truths about ourselves in terms of the true abilities we have.

And of course the truth about fear…the fact that it only holds us back if/when we let it.

That we can, from today, learn to consciously put it aside and think/do anything we set our minds to.

The day we learn to do this, we’ll begin to effortlessly achieve mastery in any undertaking. Burt Dubin is just one example whose life demonstrates this truth. So many others exist in various fields.

You can be the next example that will inspire others.

Pursue additional schooling if you feel the need. But NEVER let fear be the reason you do that.

Otherwise, it will be an exercise in futility – and the mastery you seek could elude you…perpetually!

Have a great week :-))

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He’s presently based in Benin Republic, where he’s preparing an English-French Language Guide, City Travel Guides, and a Commercial Rabbit Farming Guide.

He earns multiple streams of income providing clients with performance improvement training/coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

For a limited time, Tayo is available to speak to your group or organization for a moderate fee. Send e-mail to tayo at tksola dot com. You can also visit www.tksola.com to learn more.

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Achieve Success via Patience and Tolerance (A Lesson from Bello Hassan, a Farm Business CEO)

In business, and in life, our relationships with others often determine how well we succeed. How we handle conflicts, and even perceived slights can make or break cordial relations we’ve built with a client, partner, associate or friend.

This true story teaches a useful lesson from a humble, but successful Farm CEO client of mine.

Bello Hassan (real name) made his first purchase from me, of my Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook, and its accompanying Ration Formulator software in May 2011.

He’s based in Abuja, and has a farm business in Niger state. That’s effectively all I know about him.

Yet, since we’ve known each other, we’ve spoken and corresponded countless times on phone and email.

He’s been one of the most active of my past buyers in many ways.

His intelligent questions were used to create this 10 Frequently Asked Questions About Feed Formulation PDF I now offer as a FREE download.

Just last weekend I returned from Lagos, where I went to conduct a 4 hour one-on-one training session for a new buyer of my handbook and software.

Bello was the one who’d referred the Farm CEO to me. Read the story here.

So, it was a bit of a shock to me when Bello told me, 2 days ago, when I phoned him…

…that he had still not been able to login to the January 2013 upgrade version of the Ration Formulator I sent him!

But instead of making a fuss, he’d patiently continued using the version he bought in 2011!

I never knew this was happening all that time.

You see, I’d sent out the FREE upgrade version to all past buyers who’d requested it. Ronald Vaughan in Canada had written back to say he liked it. I liked Ronald’s comments so much I used them on my blog here.

Bello however later wrote in that he was unable to login to his custom copy of the app, despite using the password I’d sent him.

I naturally expressed my doubts, after checking on the copy with me, and finding no problem.

But to prove he was not crying wolf, he’d sent the application to his son based in Malaysia, who also found it impossible to login to the app.

Puzzled, I sent a copy to KC Cheung, my professional Excel programmer friend in Singapore, asking him to try logging in. KC (in his typical prompt manner) responded within an hour. He included screenshots. He also had no problems getting in via the normal login interface.

I was baffled. It did not make sense. And I was at a loss as to what to do.

Short of rebuilding the app just for Bello, that is…

One day, in his usual positive minded way, Bello phoned me to say he would be in Lagos for business the following week. He asked if we could meet so I could examine the app’s behaviour on his laptop. Unfortunately, I was not able to meet with him.

Later on I sent him another copy of the app. But it was still in the Excel 97 to 2003 compatibility format (which I now believe was the cause of the conflict he was experiencing).

When I called Bello again, he told me it did not work!

After that, events leading up to my relocation to Benin Republic (on 1st April 2013) made me forget about the issue.

But (selfish me!) I did not forget to call Bello for information….!

For instance, in September 2013, I was building a custom version of my Poultry Farm Manager for a farm in South West Nigeria (the CEO was then still based in Benin Republic).

I called to ask Bello if he or other farmers had experenced drops in layer performance due to the hot weather.

He readily shared his experience based information that tallied with my thinking at the time.

You see, the client had received farm performance figures that revealed sharp drops in daily eggs production, that had never occurred since the birds came into lay almost a year earlier.

The farm manager had said the hot weather was responsible. I’d argued to my client the drops were too sharp and sudden drop – within one week. To me, high temperatures would have produced more gradual changes.

The week that followed, mortalities climbed rapidly. By weekend the vet was called in, and post mortems revealed an outbreak of Salmonellosis! Now that explained the extreme drops much better.

I mentioned to my client that Bello had said “Tell the owner to look closer at what’s happening on the farm. People have layers here in the north, and it’s even hotter, but such serious sudden drops in production are not being recorded.

Bello never brought up the matter of his inabiliy to log into the upgraded version again…

Yet he kept taking my calls, and sending referrals my way. What a great guy!

I on the other had had completely forgotten about it!

As fate would have it however, I called him 2 days ago to thank him for the most recent referral, and offered to send him the offer of the new mini version of my Poultry Farm Manager.

He replied by saying:

You can send it. As long as the software won’t behave the same way the Ration Formulator behaved, that I was unable to login.

I left my mouth open in disbelief, as I said “What? You mean you still have not been able to use it?”

He replied matter-of-factly, saying: “No. It never worked. I was unable to login!

We were speaking on 30th January 2014. The problematic upgrade was sent to him on 20th January 2013…OVER a year before !

And this true gentleman had continued relating with me, with dignity, as if nothing was wrong!

There and then I told him I’d get back to him in 24 hours with a solution.

And I did…see screenshots below:
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Final Words: The Lesson I’ve Learnt…for myself, and My Kids!

This morning, when I read Bello’s reply (shown above) confirming that he’d successfully logged in to the new version I sent him, I was ecstatic…my reply indicates that much!

In summary, I must say Bello’s (actually I should say “Alhaji Bello’s”) example has taught me to act with MORE tolerance, and consideration.

…and to HOLD my temper, refrain from drawing conclusions or judging anyone hurriedly.

The person you begrudge may be SINCERELY unaware you’re hurting, or that you’re not satisfied.

By being patient, and seeking positive ways to communicate your dissatisfaction, both of you can achieve progress, and build an even more mutually beneficial relationship.

I believe this lesson is worth teaching to one’s kids.

That’s why I’ll be sharing this story with mine when I get home on Monday evening.

PS: In case you’re wondering, Bello has not even the slightest idea that I’ve written this piece ;-))

No. 126: True Story – Public Speaking On The Road (Why You Must Always Be Prepared!)

This is a true story that I hope will impress upon you, the need to be PREPARED, at all times!

I returned to Cotonou 2 evenings ago (i.e. Saturday p.m), after a 24hr visit to Lagos, where I conducted practical training(on use of my livestock feed formulation software/handbook) for a client who paid N47k.

He paid on Wednesday, and travelled from Umuahia, in Eastern Nigeria, to join me on Friday, at the venue in Oko Oba, Lagos state.

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No. 126: True StoryPublic Speaking On The Road (Why You Must Always Be Prepared!)

This is a true story that I hope will impress upon you, the need to be PREPARED, at all times!

I returned to Cotonou 2 evenings ago (i.e. Saturday p.m), after a 24hr visit to Lagos, where I conducted practical training(on use of my livestock feed formulation software/handbook) for a client who paid N47k.

He paid on Wednesday, and travelled from Umuahia, in Eastern Nigeria, to join me on Friday, at the venue in Oko Oba, Lagos state.

I Had Little Time to Prepare – or Even Rest!

NB: If you wonder why  I choose to come and go to/from Nigeria, from my base in Cotonou, this article offers detailed explanations.

My father will be 80 years old on February 4th (in a week or so from today). The family has been working hard to prepare for a big celebration in his honour. As you can imagine, there’s so much that needs to be done. Yet, I’ve been unable to make myself as physically available as I’d have loved to.

I keep returning here, in Cotonou, where it’s more convenient and less expensive (no generator noise or fueling expenses!) to prepare my Ration Formulator software for submission to the “Top 20 Innovations for Smallholder Farmers” competition that’s followed the “Call for papers” I wrote a Case Study for.

Deadline is 15th feb. I did nothing on it while in Nigeria. Not much time now left given Dad’s approaching birthday party. This is why I’m so pressed to use the little time I have left.

Luckily for me, ‘Tomi, my “super” sister, and my other siblings have been on top of things from day one.

I Had to Prepare All Promised Items, Even As I Continued Work on Outstanding Tasks…

Towards meeting my trainee, I prepared the invoice, printed the physical handbook, and had it spiral bound. Then I packed up my things and took off for Lagos at 3p.m on Thursday.

I got into Lagos at 4.30p.m, but did not get home till 10p.m that night…courtesy of Lagos traffic.

By the time I ate my meal and went to sleep, it was past midnight. And I still recall waking up at abut 3.00a.m to respond to an email from ‘Tomi, which required an urgent answer, about reviewing photos for the birthday programme, to be sent to the printer.

By 8.00a.m I was on my way to the venue!

Here’s Why It’s Good to Know Your Subject Inside Out….

Burt Dubin recommends making yourself a master of your subject.

That’s advice I strongly recommend you take to heart!

Get yourself so familiar with it that if woken up from sleep, you’d have no problems delivering a convincing presentation on it.

That’s what I’ve consistently done on the subject of “Livestock Feed Formulation using Pearson Square Computation”.

And it’s always paid off for me.

That day, I was just hours away from running a 4 hour on-on-one coaching session, and I had gotten little sleep, PLUS had had no time to do a revision of what I was to speak on.

Yet, I knew I would be okay.

It was a subject I loved. IT IS a subject I LOVE with a passion!

That’s why I’ve always constantly researched it. Plus, my regular conversations with past buyers/users give me useful insights most trainees always appreciate.

It Turned Out the Farm Biz CEO Was Unfamiliar with Getting Around Lagos…!

Just as I was thinking I had my plate full, a phone call from the trainee revealed he did not know how to get to the venue!

Suddenly, here was another unexpected factor to worry about.

I did some thinking and recommended he consult taxi drivers about the best way to take buses/motor bikes to reach the venue (a feed milling company at Oko Oba), from his relative’s place at Egbeda.

We agreed to meet there by 10a.m as planned.

By  9.30a.m, as I approached the place, I called to ask where he was. He said “You’ll have to give me an hour please. I’m at Eric Moore in Surulere.

I was stunned. That was a totally different location: It was nowhere near where I was headed…

Indeed, it was good one hour away from our planned meeting point, if traffic was good!

What are you doing over there?” I asked.

I had to quickly get something from a friend’s. But I’m now leaving. Please tell me, how do I take transportation from here?” he replied.

Once again, I told him. Then I followed up with an SMS stating the names of landmarks and bus stops je was to mention to the bus consductor, to reach my end.

Past Training Sessions Lasted 4 to 5 Hours. This Client Came Unexpectedly With “Special Needs”

We took off about 2 hours late. But that was just the beginning of many unplanned “occurrences”…!

After the practical training at the feed mill, I needed to coach him on using the software. But he told me he had an important appointment to keep in Ikeja. Our late start meant he was going to be late. I proposed we go together, and from there retire to a business centre to finish the training.

We did that.

About an hour later we were seated in a business centre near the Ikeja computer village. I began demonstrating the use of the software.

To his credit, he periodically stopped me to ask very intelligent questions, that made me supply answers that gave him deeper understanding.

I appreciated that, and it made the hiccups we’d had to endure worthwhile for me.

It’s always fulfilling when a learner displays interest in understanding/using what s/he is being taught!

And this gentleman was driven. For instance, about 20 minutes into the session, he said:

Ah Tayo, I think I’d better buy a small laptop, otherwise I’ll be unable to practise and remember all these things you’re teaching me!

He explained that he was relocating from Abuja to Umuahia, where his new venture was based. Most of his stuff was still back in Abuja, and he it would take a while to bring them over.

So, getting a laptop to work with in the meantime made good sense.

I agreed. Again I was impressed with his obvious commitment to learning.

We Moved Into the PC Village, and Went Round the Vendors Till He Bought an Elite Book

Back at the business centre, I copied the Ration Formulator, its PDF user guide, the FREE PDF Pictorial Introduction to Feed Ingredients, and the Feed Formulation Handbook’s PDF into a folder on his laptop. Then I burned 2 CDs containing the same files, as well as 7 video demonstration files, and gave to him.

The above was however a bit of a slow process.

So, while we waited for the copying to end, I gave him additional tips on how to get familiar with computing ration formulas via Pearson Square. I also promised to create special annotated guides to further boost his comprehension.

But for starters, I made it clear he needed to study the handbook’s contents in depth.

When the files copying ended, it was about 7.30p.m.

He had to return to Umuahia, to beat Saturday’s sanitation exercise. So – after getting directions from some transporters – I took him to Bolade area of Oshodi where he boarded an Onitsha –Owerri bound luxury bus. Then I made my way back home…

I Had to Show Up, and Perform, As Represented!

Through all of this the Lagos traffic was at its worst on most routes, so you can imagine what moving around was like for us.

This farm biz CEO was however referred by Bello Hassan, a past buyer and long time subscriber to my website newsletter, who has still NEVER met with me in the flesh in the years since we made contact.

So I was determined to give him the best possible experience.

It’s interesting to note how surprised he was when I replied that I’d never met Bello in person.

He said “Really? You know I was not sure about paying that money to your accouint. After you sent me the account number, I asked Alhaji Bello if it was okay to go ahead and pay. He simply asked me ‘Don’t you want it?’ I told him I did. He then said ‘Then go and pay!’ ”.

Apparently, he was surprised that Bello was so sure about me, even though we had never met in the flesh.

The above explained why he’d delayed paying for 3 full days. This was despite calling me repeatedly to get my account number on Sunday 20th January (while I was having my wonderful multiple co-incidences filled “meeting” with a Beninese restaurant consultant I’d just met).

He would not not make payment until Wednesday 23rd. Apparently, he’d been worrying if it was safe to do so….Can’t say I blame him though ;-))

Luckily, he went back to Bello, who re-assured him.

And that’s not the first time Bello (like some other past buyers) has done that!

What can I say? Something about my conduct inspires confidence in some of my buyers, so that they willingly take risks most people would not.

That’s why I do my best to ensure they NEVER regret their actions!

I pointed out to CEO, that some of what I’d already done for him, had NOTHING to do with what I promised. Yet I’d gone out of my way to help him anyway.

He nodded in understanding.

Final Words: It Pays to Be Prepared…You Never Know What Conditions You’ll Have to Speak Under!

After I left him on the bus that night, I sent him an SMS reminding him to read the feed formulation handbook to thoroughly understand the theory of feed formulation. In a week or so, I’ll follow up with him to find out how he’s getting on.

And so “My Public Speaking on The Road” adventure ended well…but ONLY because I make a point of ”ALWAYS being prepared”.

You can also succeed more, even in the face of rapid and unexpected changes, if you do the same!

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Self-Development/Performance Enhancement SpecialistTayo Solagbade – works as a multipreneurial freelance writer providing  zero risk article and report writing support for website owners, while travelling slowly across West Africa as a Location Independent Multipreneur.

He’s presently based in Benin Republic, where he’s preparing an English-French Language Guide, City Travel Guides, and a Commercial Rabbit Farming Guide.

He earns multiple streams of income providing clients with performance improvement training/coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

For a limited time, Tayo is available to speak to your group or organization for a moderate fee. Send e-mail to tayo at tksola dot com. You can also visit www.tksola.com to learn more.

Connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

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You hear performance strategies you can emulate. You shorten your learning curve. You see ways to engage and delight audiences with both content and stories . . . plus you experience a bit of fun.

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“Tayo, I honestly believe you are one of those who will succeed at anything he does. Your commitment and effort has been outstanding….Thanks for all your hard work since I’ve been here – you will be sorely missed. I don’t need to wish you good luck, you have the ability to make your own luck. – Andy”(R. Jones)*

*Operations Manager, Guinness Nigeria Plc Benin Brewery, December 2001 (Handwritten comments in farewell/xmas cards sent to Tayo Solagbade following his resignation to start his own business).

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Good Writing Ability Can Lead You to Financial Success

People use writing to make money in so many unusual ways. Some write articles and reports for others, and get paid per word, page etc. Others write as a means of self-promotion, to attract buyers/clients. Then others write to produce books they publish and sell. All this happens across so many genres. With diligent effort, many are achieving financial success and freedom using their writing skillls. And you can do the same!

You Need to Find What Works for You

Almost exactly a year ago, at about this time, I’d just decided I needed to try my hand at using blogging, more directly, to achieve my online writing goals. I had already seen and enjoyed the multiple rewards of writing for self-promotion and sales income in various ways.

Apart from my physical books and e-books (on self-development, feed formulation etc) which had been selling via my online store, and through offline systems I set-up, I’d also had very many new clients find me online through my article marketing.

In other words, I had no doubt about the power of the written word, and how it could get people to do what I wanted, if I wrote it right.

But over time, the volume of my writing output had grown tremendously, and I had to continue doing it while attending to client needs and responding to prospect enquiries.

The Process Gradually Became Cumbersome and Time Consuming For Me.

I knew I needed an easier way to keep going, or something would give…most likely my work quality and/or ability to deliver satisfactory work to deadlines.

After studying the structure of blogs, I realized a lot of the work I was doing on my own via my static html based articles publishing would be automatically handled by a blog. Even better, search engines love to visit blogs. I’d learnt that from careful study of many blogs, and reading articles by successful business owners who used them.

So, I decided to launch this blog…the SD (Self-Development) Nuggets™ blog in June 2013.

Less than 7 months later I’d begun reaping amazing results from using it. And the exciting trend continues even today. More visits, more contact form enquiries and requests, more newsletter subscriptions. And even more emails and phone calls about what I do. Some just to thank me or to ask for help etc.

So Far, I Have Not Yet Had to Attend Writing School to Succeed With Writing the Way I Do It..

Don’t get me wrong. I recognise the importance of doing this right, and I do have my plans to get some formal coaching on writing – especially because I intend to focus more on writing short stories and novels in the near future.

My experiences convince me more people will benefit from the value I have to offer if I can connect with them using that approach, instead of formal writing which non-business persons may find stifling and uninteresting. In fact I submitted a 500 word entry to a 2013 writing competition on 31st December 2013, so this is no joke!

But back to my take on getting formal coaching in writing…

By Following Simple Tips from Experts, I’m Achieving Exceptional Success Using Writing!

I started my journey into writing without any formal preparation.

After reading books by real world business marketing experts online, I noticed a common theme by most of them.

They kept saying:

“Write the way you talk.”

Another thing they said often was:

“Write using words that a 6th grader can understand.”

In other words, avoid using unnecessarily complex words. Keep it simple.

One more thing they constantly emphasized was:

“Tell stories. Share your experiences. Use real life examples.”

According to them doing so will make your target audience want to read your writing.

Then they also made it clear that one needs to:

“Offer ideas that provide useful insights and solve real problems people face. when applied to the personal or work lives of your readers.”

I’ve Shared Many of My Own True Stories About Writing Success, On This Blog

A recent one has to do with the 4,000 word case study agribusiness paper accepted for publication by an international organisation that paid me to write it.

My wonderful experience has been so exciting, that I’ve been unable to keep it to myself.

That’s why I’ve written to share my knowledge and experience in articles.

And I’ve also been gently pushing my own kids to develop interest in writing the way I do.

I’ve also been gently pushing my own kids to develop interest in writing the way I do.

I ask them to focus on earning decent passive income on a part time or full time basis… the way I do.

This way they see a tangible end that they can relate to, which assures them it’s not just another school exercise.

You see, I realise today that if I’d discovered paid writing while in school, I might have honed my writing skills earlier, and used it to earn additional income in my free time, during the years I was in paid employment.

I Don’t Want My Kids to Delay Getting Started Using Writing to Succeed Financially, Like I Did

I don’t want them to make the mistake I made.

That was why I made each one handle the bundle of 50 Euros totalling 2k euros, the day Professor Idowu (my co-author for the international agribusiness paper)  gave me the payment he’d received on my behalf via his Euro denominated domiciliary account.

I knew if they saw that I earned that much for writing a 4,000 word paper, it would make them take what I was saying about writing competently more seriously.

My mother counts the bundles of 50 euro notes I showed her

This Has Been an Ongoing Exercise with My Kids – Especially the 3 Oldest (all Boys)

I made the 14 year old attend a 6 month manual typewriting class in late 2012. When he finished it, I tasked him to write a short story that we could publish in his name on my blog. I got him to read Chinua Achebe’s “Things Fall Apart”, the popular “Oliver Twist” and other books based on stories.

Every now and then I’d ask him how far he’d gone. He’d often have nothing to show me. I’d deliberately make a fuss about how he was wasting all he learned in typing school, and how disappointed I was. Then I would make him go online with me to read Bamidele Onibalusi’s blog, saying to him: “This chap is just 19 years old. You can do what he’s doing if you try!”

If you know kids, especially teenagers, getting them to do stuff like this can be hard work.

But if you persist, they will eventually respond.

I knew I was getting through to my 14 year old son, when one day he told me he was almost done writing a story he had conceived!

When I eventually read his story, I liked it so much that I made slight corrections and published it on my blog late last year.

Incidentally, I’d always told him to think a lot, and to use what he saw/heard around him to come up with writing ideas. He apparently took that advice to heart.

I’ve since tasked him to teach his siblings how to type, using a typing tutor on my laptop

Last time we had a “meeting”, all 3 boys showed me short stories they’re working on, in different stages of completion on my laptop. This has encouraged me to consider getting them a used but rugged laptop that can take rough treatment. Before now I felt they would only play games and music on it!

But with what they’ve been doing, I already see useful progress.

What’s most exciting for me is that I know good writing skills will open doors of early financial success for them.

This is because it will empower them to develop independence in earning high level income regardless of their location at any point in time, like I do.

YOU (yes “YOU!”) can also develop good writing ability and use it to earn decent income on a part time or full time basis.

And you can start even if you lack money to attend formal writing classes. Then as you succeed, you can also coach your kids to do what you do.

At some point you can choose to invest some of the money you make, in taking your skills to the next level by taking formal writing lessons.

All the above will cost you is some sweat and time spent hammering away at your keyboard.

If you consider the lifetime of rewards that are bound to come from doing it, you’ll realize this is what some people call a no-brainer!

If Everybody Does It, Should You?

Quick answer: Not if it’s something that you’d be ashamed to admit doing to others not doing it. In this article, I discuss the tendency people in paid employment have of adopting a “herd mentality”, even where issues conflicting with their ethical and moral values are concerned. A good example which has bothered me since I was in paid employment myself is the matter of seeking some form of gratification from contractors or service providers engaged by one’s employers.

I spent only 7 years in paid employment. But during that short period, my exceptional workplace performances led top management to rapidly assign me multiple career advancement opportunities.

In 1998, about 4 years after I joined the company as one of 12 graduate trainees, I got assigned to a fairly sensitive position in an acting capacity.

It was the office of Training and Technical Development Manager (TTDM).

That job involved dealing directly with a lot of external training consultants, including planning training programmes they would conduct for the staff, and also agreeing payment they would get.

I’m proud to say that right up till the time I voluntarily quit that company to start my business, I NEVER once asked for or took gratification of ANY kind to do my job, from ANYONE.

My Naivety and Love of Work Saved Me…

In many ways, I’m glad I tended to be more of a workaholic than most. As a result, the idea of asking any of the consultants to build in a percentage for me, in the fees they charged, never crossed my mind.

I had more important things to do…like developing new solutions to problems they company faced in the departments I worked!

I’ve learnt a lot since becoming self employed and (initially) trying to offer training services to companies as an entrepreneur. For instance, some Training Managers often insist the trainer agree to give them a cut, BEFORE they include him/her on their training schedule.

If you say NO, your offers, no matter how great or potentially beneficial to the company’s personnel, would not be passed on to decision managers by the Training Manager. Most times it would be done in a way that you would not be able to prove anything.

It always surprised me whenever I came up against this problem as an entrepreneur offering consulting services to organisations with such issues. I often wondered why people in positions they were being well paid to man, would feel a need to take from what a consultant was getting.

“What did they need the extra money for?” I asked anyone who cared to listen.

Silly me…:-)

One day I met with a gentleman who also ran a training consultancy. By the time we got around to the subject of getting access to medium to large companies, I brought up the matter.

He gave me a look that said he pitied me for trying to fight a losing battle, and then said:

 “You see, they won’t tell you anything when you submit your company profile to them. They’ll wait till you come asking why they’ve not called you for a discussion. A few may venture to ask if you’re new in Nigeria, for instance. But most will just say you’re trying to prove you’re holier than others. MY friend, it’s a battle you cannot win. Most of them do it.

Then he showed me a number of invoices he’d prepared for corporate clients whose staff he’d trained. Pointing to the N15, 000 per person fee on one of them, he announced that the training manager was getting N3, 000 per trainee. In other words, he as the consultant would only get N12, 000.

I asked: “But why? What works does he do to justify getting part of your money?”

He replied: “There are companies where it does not happen. But they are not many. Most companies have people in them who believe in doing things like this. Even the guys in the accounts office who have to give the consultants, contractors and other suppliers/providers their cheques have a system for getting some gratification, in place.

Those who fail to play ball simply find their cheques never seem to get signed on time, or even get lost. By the time they “get the message” and “do the right thing”, they suddenly discover it’s the company staff in charge who calls them on phone to say “Oga, your cheque is ready O!”

This article is not a self-righteous rant.

I’m not trying to make myself look like a saint here. But the truth is that in ALL my time in paid employment, I never once did such a thing. Not only is it bad and wrong, it is also not worth the hassle…and the anxiety they must periodically feel about getting found out.

But most people tend to follow the crowd. Some do so out of fear of criticism. Others do so out of greed.

As a result today, many in paid employment dip their hands in all sorts of naughty stuff. And they develop large appetites from taking home more money than they earn.

Sadly, their spouses rarely ask how come they have so much extra money to spare when they do not run a side business.

Instead everyone simply falls in line and adopts the high consumption lifestyle.

If/when the person gets found out and kicked out of the company; they are often unable to readjust to the normal lifestyle they should have been living. This eventually may lead to a crisis in the home.

My question to YOU is this:

Does the fact that you discover all your friends, colleagues and co-workers are doing something that’s lucrative, but dishonest or even illegal mean you MUST do it too?

Should you let your friendship with others be such that they can lead you to do things that can damage your name and reputation – possibly permanently? If others travel and return with “manufactured” receipts to claim money for expense they made, should you join them in doing it when you also travel?

I have a confession to make here:

You see, I once made this mistake(of letting others force me to join them), and I lived in terror of being found out till I quit the company I worked with.

Believe me, it’s not worth the hassle doing something you don’t want to, just to avoid being called a wet blanket!

That’s why today, I FIRMLY refuse to do any such thing – including giving anyone any money or gift to award me a project – regardless of whose Ox is gored.

Many people told me I would suffer for taking such a stand while trying to succeed in business in Nigeria.

One person even said “Tayo, people who think like you and have such an attitude often get frustrated out of business in Nigeria.

That same person recently added me as a friend on Facebook…10 years after he made that statement to me.

We’d not been in touch all that time. One day, last month, he sent me an SMS asking to know how I was doing. I called him and told him a few of the advancements I’d been able to recently make.

Then I invited him to read up more on this blog.

Next thing I saw was an SMS to me exclaiming “Wow…Tayo the Multiplexer! Well done, I’m going to read the entire thing!!”

I will not pretend I know what “Multiplexer” means. I call myself a Multipreneur. Whatever the case, I believe that was meant to be a complement of sorts :-)

I’m sure he’s seen enough, now, to realize that the creator ALWAYS makes a way for people who refuse to play the “dirty” games others play.

So Here’s My Challenge to YOU: Don’t Let Peer Pressures Push You into a High Consumption Lifestyle

You do NOT need to do what others are doing, if it’s wrong, bad or illegal.

Anything you know you will not be proud to admit you’ve done should never interest you.

Not even if means you’ll be called names!

Take that stand and stick with it, then watch as your creator elevates you above all those short-sighted persons who chose to take an unhealthy shortcut to success!

 

Real-Life Proof That Co-incidences Rarely Happen! (True Story)

Here’s a story you may find entertaining. I share it because it provides an excellent multi dimensional example of how the creator can lead you to meet people who have answers to your needs, when you least expect it.

19th January 2014 Was A "Sunday" of Multiple Uncanny Coincidences!

If you’ve been reading this blog a while, you most likely know I intend to open a Home Based Farm Products Brew Pub here in Cotonou. The target I’ve set for myself is to find and rent a suitable place and get something started in it before the end of March 2014.

Not an easy task, as I’ve discovered. I only returned from the end of year holidays with my family on Saturday – with half of the month gone. And I have a backlog of tasks – including an international competition I have to enter my Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator for – to deal with.

That awareness was what drove me to go walking around the neighbourhood where I live, in Barrière, here in Cotonou, on Sunday morning. I was hoping to find and speak to any property owner with the kind of place I was looking for available to rent.

In case you’re wondering why I didn’t just check with Estate Agents, it’s because I’ve never had a good experience with them – in Lagos, or here in Cotonou. They just make me spend lots of money. Most times I end up having to find what I need by myself. That’s what happened with the room I live in now!

I Was Walking “Almost Aimlessly” Around, Looking Buildings Over, When I Saw a New Looking Bar

It was just like I’d imagined mine would be. The owner lived in the building behind, and setup the frontage to be the bar. The open space provided extra room for plastic chairs and tables to seat guests. Whoever this person was, I was sure he could help me – in more ways than one!

The time was about 10.30 a.m. It was rather early on a Sunday. Most people would not agree to me with a stranger at that time of day.

But I always listen to my intuition. And it rarely steers me wrong.

This time it told me to go in and ask for the owner. I walked in and asked the young attendant cleaning the floor if I could speak with the owner. He gave me a guarded look and asked me why. I promptly told him exactly what I had in mind.

Surprise, surprise! The young man nodded in understanding, and pointed me to an open door saying, “If you go in there, you’ll see him. Try and see if he’ll agree to speak with you.”

Thanking him, I walked to the door, and soon found myself staring at a bespectacled man in his late 50s or early 60s, with hair greying at the temples. He was slim, and from his seating position, obviously tall.

He asked what I wanted. Again, just like I’d done with his attendant, I went straight to the point.

With a puzzled expression on his face, he asked “Qui t’a envoyé ici?” (Who sent you here?).

He asked how come I knew to come to his place, and not elsewhere, to make my enquiry.

He said “Setting up restaurants is my specialty. How is it that you managed to find your way to me in this manner? It’s just too strange!”

He began asking more questions. I kept answering.

As we talked we discovered more coincidences in other areas of common interest, including using MS Excel to prepare records and reports for restaurants.

He kept saying it was strange that I just walked into his office saying I needed help finding a property to rent for use as a home based restaurant, when in fact THAT was a core aspect of his new consulting outfit.

I Told Him I’m Often Guided by the Creator, to Meet "Helpers" That Way

And that was the truth. I’ve had the experience countless times, so that I’m no longer surprised. I understand why it happens.

It’s how I got myself well known in the Nigerian embassy, for example, by top officers, even though I had no initial contacts in there when I arrived Benin Republic.

You see, back in April 2013, I met a total stranger, who gave me contact details of the top embassy officials (including the ambassador himself) – phone numbers and email addresses – before I ever met them. That enabled me access them, and not get blocked by secretaries, personal assistants etc.

A total stranger…in under one hour of meeting me, did that. Now, how uncanny is THAT kind of coincidence?

Still he said "Mais c’est bizarre." ("But it’s strange")

We went on to spend about 6 hours (11a.m till about 5p.m) discussing. He turned out to be widely traveled internationally as a Chartered Accountant/Auditor (in the Hospitality Industry), and retired about 6 months ago to open his home based restaurant.

By the time I told him the kinds of light/quick meals/snacks I plan to offer in my pub, he called up an Excel workbook and showed me his restaurant’s menu with much similar contents.

“Yet another coincidence. We have so much in common!” he exclaimed.

Soon he was showing me all the spreadsheets he uses to track sales/expenses, and over 4 wonderful business idea packages he did not realize he could sell as information products …until I told him.

By the time I showed him how his manual Excel records could be automated using Excel VB, he took me into the restaurant and bought drinks for us as we continued talking.

At a Point I Recalled I Needed a Tailor Urgently…

At a point I told him I needed to find a skilled tailor to sew an outfit I would be wearing for my Dad’s 80th birthday celebration coming up on 4th February.

Amazingly, another coincidence occurred…

He announced that just next door was his brother who ran a fashion design business. We simply walked over!

By the time the brother was taking my measurement in his studio, after we’d settled on nice embroidery to be done, I noticed a large photograph on his studio wall.

In it he (the brother) was receiving a plaque from, and shaking hands with a big and tall man that I thought I’d seen on TV and billboards a number of times since getting here.

But I felt it was unlikely to be the same person. Out of curiosity, I asked the brother who the man in the pix was. He looked at me then smiled knowingly, saying, don’t you know him? Take another look.

I said "Le Chef de l’etat?" i.e. "the head of state?"

He nodded to confirm it was President Yayi Boni!

Apart from that photo, this chap had other award plaques on his wall. As you can imagine, I began sweating when I thought of how much a person like this was likely to charge to sew an outfit like the one I’d chosen…lol

Luckily for me, he gave me a very pocket friendly bill (15k FCFA), explaining that he could not do otherwise, because I was his restaurant-owner brother’s friend.

Phew…what a relief that was…lol

PS: There Was One More “Coincidence…He Bears a Yoruba Surname!

Yep. Their ancestors are Yoruba from Nigeria, who emigrated and settled in Cotonou. His kids even attend Nigeria International School here. But neither the kids or their parents speak Yoruba. Small world indeed!

I mentioned that the school’s supervisor is Nigerian embassy’s Mr Kakshak (minister for political affairs and education). And that he knows me well because of my pineapple peel products. My new friend promptly called his daughter into the office and asked here who their supervisor was.

She mentioned the same name. So that gave me even more credibility as you can imagine!

But Here’s the Best Part of It All….

It looks like we may be doing some big things together.

If our discussions go according to plan, my new friend may engage my services to develop a web marketing system and/or an Excel-VB restaurant management software for his consulting practice.

On my part, I’m planning to engage his services to help me with setting up my Home Based Restaurant. I foresee us doing some barter exchange at some point to make some of this happen.

Amazing isn’t it, how it all seems to fit?

We’ll see how it goes…maybe he’ll be my first Beninese client!

But wow…that was one great Sunday…and we did not even go to church. He and I discovered we both do not do "religion". We share the same belief about having a direct and personal relationship with the creator!

Final Words

Hopefully, you’ve been entertained by my story.

However I would not want you to miss my core message, which is that:

You can have anything want by thinking about it with faith that you already have it, even before it arrives.

You only need to have absolute and unquestioning faith that help you need is on the way.  As you’ve learnt from the story above, that help can sometimes come in form of uncanny coincidences.

With time you’ll learn to recognize them as what they really are:answers to your heart felt desires that you expressed to your creator.

In the case of most of us who subscribe to the Science of Getting Rich philosophy – whose author predicts the coincidences as reward for diligent adherence – we do our asking ("praying") silently, most of the time.

Our successes prove one need not scream or shout to get the creator to listen and respond to us!

To learn more about the above mentioned concepts, Google “Science of Getting Rich”. Then download the FREE PDF e-book and read it from cover to cover, until you internalize the concepts, as the author recommends. Soon, you’ll start experiencing your own wonderful coincidences!