“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” – Calvin Coolidge
Today I and the kids of the Tayo Solagbade clan will be attending (and participating in) yet another event. This one we’ve actually been talking about and even “preparing towards” for weeks!
Yesterday, the second “littlest” among us spent most of the day “practicing” in readiness for a possible opportunity to showcase her skills, that we anticipate may present itself where we’re going.
I felt so proud seeing her take control of proceedings assertively, from consulting their Facebook page for details of steps to follow, to executing the actual steps required to complete the task.
There were times when things did not go as planned or the way she wanted. And she got readily upset about it.
Those moments presented me valuable best practice parenting opportunities for me to explain that life will sometimes not give us what we want i.e. that LIFE WILL OFTEN NOT BE FAIR TO US!
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Tayo Solagbade’s
Performance Improvement IDEAS
(PI Squared) NewsletterMonday 1st May 2017
NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016. I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.************
PII 064: Life Will Not Always be Fair – The Secret to Having Your Way Anyway [Hint: Is Your Job Keeping You from Being a Better Parent?]
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” – Calvin Coolidge
Today is a special day for me and the rest of the Tayo Solagbade clan. We’ve been talking about the event we’ll be attending today, for weeks. Regular readers of this blog know I’m an advocate of REAL LIFE experience based learning to better prepare kids to succeed in society.
Yesterday, the second “littlest” among us (see her in the ATM queue in photo below) spent most of the day “practicing” in readiness for a possible opportunity to showcase her skills that we anticipate may be given to her where we’re going.
I felt so proud seeing her take control of proceedings assertively, from consulting their Facebook page for details of steps to follow, to executing the actual steps required to complete the talk.
There were times when things did not go as planned or the way she wanted. And she got readily upset about it.
Those moments presented me valuable best practice parenting opportunities to explain that life will sometimes not give us what we want i.e. that LIFE WILL OFTEN NOT BE FAIR TO US!
At least not immediately. Sometimes it will test our resolve and conviction. Our academic brilliance or natural genius will not matter.
Only our capacity for self-belief, blind faith, determination and persistence will matter.
They are the ultimate determinants of authentic success achievement.
Like the little child she was, she found this “unfair” treatment (in which she did not get to have her way) hard to swallow. But I made it clear there was no escaping it.
The above is a message I’ve also passed to her older siblings in many coaching conversations over the years – and especially since last year (2016).
We’re all getting up right now, so we can get early breakfast ready and hit the road to beat the traffic.
I will be sharing news from this outing when we return.
Like I always do with any aspects of activities I engage in that I believe can help others get potentially useful ideas they can put to productive use in their lives, in this area of best practice parenting and others covered in my work as a Performance Improvement Specialist.
For now, I refer you to the article linked further down, in which I shared experience based insights, from over 2 decades of achieving my goals in spite of adversity.
These ideas I seek to pass FIRST to my kids, and to any others willing to learn.
If you want to be a person who succeeds no matter what and no matter how long, you need to get used to the fact that people will often be telling you that you are trying to do the impossible, when you choose to pursue your genius.
Learn to think like I do, and like I advocate here, and you will NEVER be limited by whatever they think or say.
It’s NOT easy, and does not happen quickly.
But if you keep at it, you will succeed. Everything I say here is based on my verifiable accomplishments in spite of nay sayers.
E.g. They told me I could not make any decent money selling my custom automated spreadsheet workbooks for YEARS as I struggled to create a market for my Excel-VB Solutions Development service in Nigeria.
Today, I enjoy the undeniable international reputation as a trusted provider of custom Excel-VB software (and related solutions) to buyers within and outside Africa. One of my most popular products – the Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager, sells for what some people earn as monthly salary in Nigeria.
This is why I SPEND SO MUCH TIME with them daily exposing them to mental stamina BUILDING experiences.
I want my kids to have the kind of mental attitude I have – because I know it is the major factor responsible for my demonstrated ability to DEFEAT adversity and ADVANCE towards my goals regardless of what goes wrong at any point in my life.
Mental Stamina is the best gift you can give your child. And if you lack it, I urge you to invest the time and effort to DEVELOP it!
On a final note, I must say this:
Becoming a Location Independent Multipreneur was not easy for me to ACHIEVE, but today it gives me the freedom to give my kids the kind of intensive best practice parenting I know they need.
[Read: No. 119: How to Achieve Success in Any Field (True Story)]
The choices I made to get here were tough, but I LOVED my kids too much to NOT be prepared to take them.
Those who don’t get it still persist in 10a.m to 10p.m jobs and think they’re “parenting” their kids by “paying” for stuff they should be DOING for their kids themselves. Sad.
If you really LOVE your kids, you need to find a way to WORK for a living, so as to better give them the parenting preparation they need!
Happy Workers’ Day!
.
Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator
1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc
2. Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE
Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
SDN Blog™
New posts from last week*
Monday:
[Wednesday]:
[Thursday]:
Long Term Benefits of Empowerment Will Often Not be Immediately Obvious [Tips for Getting Your Kids to Make Profitable Use of Smartphone Technology]
[Friday]:
N/A
[Saturday]:
N/A
[Sunday]:
The FARM CEO (Issue 81): 2-in-1 Offer to Support Your Farm Business [FREE Customization of your Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager & One year Basic Web Marketing Support]
Tayo K. Solagbade*
Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist
*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition
Mobile: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic)
Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement
Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.
Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).
Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.
He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.
In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.
On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.
His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).
In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.
In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.
Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).
When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter.
You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.
Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.
====
[IMPORTANT NOTE:====On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.
Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.
But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts he’s published.
If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.
Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))
Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:
Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix
(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)
And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:
A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
==================
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Tayo Solagbade’s
Performance Improvement IDEAS
(PI Squared) NewsletterMonday 1st May 2017
NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016. I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.************
PII 064: Life Will Not Always be Fair – The Secret to Having Your Way Anyway [Hint: Is Your Job Keeping You from Being a Better Parent?]
“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not: nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not: the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.” – Calvin Coolidge
Today is a special day for me and the rest of the Tayo Solagbade clan. We’ve been talking about the event we’ll be attending today, for weeks. Regular readers of this blog know I’m an advocate of REAL LIFE experience based learning to better prepare kids to succeed in society.
Yesterday, the second “littlest” among us (see her in the ATM queue in photo below) spent most of the day “practicing” in readiness for a possible opportunity to showcase her skills that we anticipate may be given to her where we’re going.
I felt so proud seeing her take control of proceedings assertively, from consulting their Facebook page for details of steps to follow, to executing the actual steps required to complete the talk.
There were times when things did not go as planned or the way she wanted. And she got readily upset about it.
Those moments presented me valuable best practice parenting opportunities for me to explain that life will sometimes not give us what we want i.e. that LIFE WILL OFTEN NOT BE FAIR TO US!
At least not immediately. Sometimes it will test our resolve and conviction. Our academic brilliance or natural genius will not matter.
Only our capacity for self-belief, blind faith, determination and persistence will matter.
They are the ultimate determinants of authentic success achievement.
Like the little child she was, she found this “unfair” treatment (in which she did not get to have her way) hard to swallow. But I made it clear there was no escaping it.
The above is a message I’ve also passed to her older siblings in many coaching conversations over the years – and especially since last year (2016).
We’re all getting up right now, so we can get early breakfast ready and hit the road to beat the traffic.
I will be sharing news from this outing when we return.
Like I always do with any aspects of activities I engage in that I believe can help others get potentially useful ideas they can put to productive use in their lives, in this area of best practice parenting and others covered in my work as a Performance Improvement Specialist.
For now, I refer you to the article linked further down, in which I shared experience based insights, from over 2 decades of achieving my goals in spite of adversity.
This ideas/ability I seek to pass FIRST to my kids, and to any others willing to learn.
If you want to be a person who succeeds no matter what and no matter how long, you need to get used to the fact that people will often be telling you that you are trying to do the impossible, when you choose to pursue your genius.
Learn to think like I do, and like I advocate here, and you will NEVER be limited by whatever they think or say. It’s NOT easy, and does not happen quickly.
But if you keep at it, you will succeed. Everything I say here is based on my verifiable accomplishments in spite of nay sayers.
E.g. They told me I could not make any decent money selling my custom automated spreadsheet workbooks for YEARS as I struggled to create a market for my Excel-VB Solutions Development service in Nigeria.
Today, I enjoy the undeniable international reputation as a trusted provider of custom Excel-VB software to buyers within and outside Africa. One of my most popular products – the Excel-VB Ration Formulator, sells for what some people earn as monthly salary.
This is why I SPEND SO MUCH TIME with them daily exposing them to mental stamina BUILDING experiences.
I want my kids to have the kind of mental attitude I have – because I know it is the major factor responsible for my demonstrated ability to DEFEAT adversity and ADVANCE towards my goals regardless of what goes wrong at any point in my life.
Mental Stamina is the best gift you can give your child. And if you lack it, I urge you to invest the time and effort to DEVELOP it!
On a final note, I must say this:
Being a Location Independent Multipreneur was not easy to ACHIEVE, but today it gives me the freedom to give my kids the kind of intensive best practice parenting I know they need.
[Read: No. 119: How to Achieve Success in Any Field (True Story)]
The choices I made to get here were tough, but I LOVED my kids too much to NOT be prepared to take them.
Those who don’t get it still persist in 10a.m to 10p.m jobs and think they’re “parenting” their kids by “paying” for stuff they should be DOING for their kids themselves. Sad.
If you really LOVE your kids, you need to find a way to WORK for a living, so as to better give them the parenting preparation they need!
Happy Workers’ Day!
.
Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator
1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc
2. Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE
Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
SDN Blog™
New posts from last week*
Monday:
[Wednesday]:
[Thursday]:
Long Term Benefits of Empowerment Will Often Not be Immediately Obvious [Tips for Getting Your Kids to Make Profitable Use of Smartphone Technology]
[Friday]:
N/A
[Saturday]:
N/A
[Sunday]:
The FARM CEO (Issue 81): 2-in-1 Offer to Support Your Farm Business [FREE Customization of your Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager & One year Basic Web Marketing Support]
Tayo K. Solagbade*
Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist
*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition
Mobile: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic)
Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement
Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.
Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).
Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.
He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.
In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.
On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.
His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).
In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.
In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.
Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).
When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter.
You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.
Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.
====
[IMPORTANT NOTE:====On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.
Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.
But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts he’s published.
If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.
Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))
Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:
Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix
(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)
And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:
A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
==================
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Category Archives: Self-Development
Long Term Benefits of Empowerment Will Often Not be Immediately Obvious [Tips for Getting Your Kids to Make Profitable Use of Smartphone Technology]
I consider it crucially important to quickly and unceremoniously get kids OVER the feeling of awe that tends to overtake many of them in our part of the world, when they gain initial access to what are now increasingly affordable and often fancy mobile devices and gadgets (e.g. smartphones, tablets, laptops and computers) abundant in marketplaces today.
I recommend (based on best practice parenting ideas I advocate and use) the following lines of action:
Make them understand that owning such tools should always be a means to an end for them, and never the end in itself.
Ask them: What can you do, or learn toi do with it, to better pursue/acheueve goals that matter to your personal/career advancement?
Ask them: What can you do with it to make money or more money?
Ask them what they can do with it to solve problems for others e.g do they know how to build apps others need.
Or do they just download apps created by others?
Point out the fact to them that many apps they see on their devices actually make money for their creators.
Let them know PC and Internet Technology makes it possible for them to also create their own original money making apps for download by other users!
Most importantly challenge them to do some kind of REAL “work” or chore(s) to earn money to buy such devices if they want to own them.
Avoid buying such things for them using your own funds, without meaningful exertion on their part
Make them sweat to acquire it e.g by way of household chores completed and/or make them learn to do stuff to earn income to keep using it.
They might complain or even protest that you’re asking too much. They could even compare you to other parents who don’t demand such.
My advice is that you remember that parenting is not a democracy.
The long term benefits of empowerment will often not be immediately obvious. That will not mean it’s not there.
So stay firm and stay strong and they will be better off for it in the long run – by which time they will thank you for it!
That’s a fact.
Below is a photo of Itel phone in my 11 year old daughter’s hand on the day of her “graduation” (along with her younger sister), from a 2 week Facial Makeup and Gele Tying workshop they attended.
Most photos and videos of the various skills they were taught were recorded using this phone of hers.
Sadly, about a week later, she dropped this device into the bowl of soap water in which she was washing clothes, and the touch screen stopped working. We never got it fixed.
Today, I got her a Lenovo smartphone as replacement, mainly because they will need it to record what they are taught in the new hairdressing training they are to start.
However, I’ve made it clear she must resume her daily online business tasks execution, and ensure she hits the required DAILY points, if she wants to keep the phone and have the Internet browsing data subscription renewed.
If she does this for long enough, she will earn commissions from the online business, effectively paying for herself to continue using it. That’s the same approach I use with the 2 older brothers who have been told similar thing. So they know there is no free ride in a fancy car for them!
Your 2016 Excel-Visual Basic Automation Home Study Tutorial Archives DVD is READY!
This week I formally announce the availability of the 2016 Excel-Visual Basic Automation Club Home Study Tutorial Archives DVD. As I hinted in a previous post, this product is a compilation of ALL the text and video based tutorials I’ve sent out over the past year, since the launch of my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation club.
The promise I made to members of the club was to share my expertise with them via the coaching tutorials I send out, not just with regard to Excel-VB coding, but also in the area of marketing one’s products and services as provider of custom Excel-VB Automation solutions.
Below is a screen shot from an email enquiry I received from a Farm CEO, who expressed interest in buying my 3 flagship products – the Feed Formulation Handbook, Poultry Farm Manager and Ration Formulator.
That gentleman has since gone on to make payment for all 3 products (in addition to 2 others I offered at a discounted bonus) – and I’ve since delivered them via email to him.
TIP: In tomorrow’s issue of my Performance Improvement Ideas newsletter, I’ll share insights from my use of Video Marketing to attract profitable paying customers for my products, for years.
As we approach 1st May 2017, to begin a new year in the life of the club, I want members and those aspiring, to know that there is a LOT to be learned.
You can also become competent in Excel-VB coding and the marketing of what you do, in a way that enables you make money like I do.
But it takes work – and a lot of dedication. You need to be willing to invest emotionally in this venture, if you want to succeed at it.
To make it easier for yourself to progress, you must embrace every opportunity to learn that comes your way. I recommend you start by purchasing a copy of this new DVD compilation. it offers you an opportunity to learn the basics I’ve presented via my Experiential Coaching based system.
Click here to contact me for details of how to order your copy.
[DVAM] Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help – MayoClinic.org
Prevailing stereotypes about Domestic Violence are making it so easy for cunning female offenders to get their male victims vilified as the abusers!
These manipulative women know how the system works, and they are “gaming” it to have their way at the expense of their intimate male partners.
Thankfully, we have females with integrity speaking out about this harmful trend (e.g Toyin Omoniyi, a female Nigerian Lawyer in her excellent piece titled Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal))
And these fair minded females are demanding more recognition for DV Against Men.
Most are mothers to sons and siblings to brothers who they’ve seen suffer serious abuse at the hands of female partners.
Many are joining the movement to inform and educate, as are the men in their lives.
The information in the truly excellent (!) article published by the famous Mayo clinic (MayoClinic.org) – which is previewed/linked below – can help you get started learning what you need to know, to identify and stop DVAM
So I say this to you now…
If you’re male, lookout for the signs for YOUR own sake…
If you’re parent to someone who is male, and you really care for him lookout for the signs for HIS sake…,
If you’re uncle/aunt/brother/sister or relative to someone who is male, lookout for these signs for HIS sake…,…
Domestic violence against men: Know the signs – Mayo Clinic
Domestic violence against men isn’t always easy to identify, but it can be a serious threat. Know how to recognize if you’re being abused — and how to get help.
By Mayo Clinic Staff
Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help.
Recognize domestic violence against men
Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. It can happen in heterosexual or same-sex relationships.
Continue reading…
RELATED RESOURCE
A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.
In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the eFforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defence” when their actions come under scrutiny.
What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better.
We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who beloing to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.
That’s why I’ve launched the page described below…
Page Name:
Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It
Page Description:
This page is dedicated to empowering men who find themselves, by some accident of fate on the receiving end of abuse from an intimate female partner.
Page URL:
SPREADSHEET AUTOMATION WORKSHOP INVITATION: Anatomy of N200k Excel-VB Cash Book Spreadsheet Software [Secrets to Build Yours Successfully]
To formally close the maiden year (May 2016 to May 2017) in the life of my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation club, I’ve decided to conduct a LIVE hands-on workshop titled “SPREADSHEET AUTOMATION WORKSHOP INVITATION: Anatomy of N200k Excel-VB Cash Book Spreadsheet Software [Secrets to Build Yours Successfully]“.
Duration: 11a.m to 5p.m
Location: Sherryville Arcade, Ojodu-Berger Bus Stop, Opposite First Bank Plc, Ikeja – Lagos
Date: Sat 29th May 2017
The commercial quality Excel-VB software application to be reviewed is one that I built for a large Specialist Hospital based in Ogudu, Lagos in 2007, for approximately $1000 USD equivalent at the time (Back then $1 USD = N200)
Name: Excel-VB Driven General Accounts Manager [GAM]
Watch the YouTube demonstration video on my YouTube channel at:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUl4_RAja-g
Below are its key features and details of the app:
Description: This is a highly sophisticated Automated Cash Book with a Powerful Modeless Dynamic Data Entry Form & Menu Driven Reports Summaries Generator.
- Allows user to post cash office receipt using in-house format register (cash, cheque. value card etc) and payment (expense) amounts using custom automated floating modeless data entry forms.
- Automatically generates – using drop menus – Weekly, Monthly/Annual Income & Expense Reports on one A4 page.
- The reports are integrated with charts/graphs of EACH heading value
During the workshop, I will show attendees the various interfaces in the app, and demonstrate how they were built from scratch, using a blank workbook template.
In other words, by the time we are done, a simplistic version of the app would have been built – though not with all the bells and whistles I added to the real app, for obvious reasons that they would take more time to incorporate.
Attendees will be able to ask questions and try their hands at doing what I show them.
My learning events are always EXPERIENTIAL i.e. designed to give learners what they need to know, in a way that builds on what they already know, and what they already do in their work/on their jobs.
This event is designed to be a way of saying THANK YOU to members of my Excel Heaven club over the past maiden year (May 2016 to May 2017)
From 1st May 2017, ALL members will be required to renew their membership for another year, to continue receiving the weekly email tutorials I send out.
All those who attend the event will get FREE copies of a home study video tutorial version of the workshop that I will create AHEAD of the event.
The reason is to ensure that they are able to study and understand anything we are unable to cover in the event using the DVD version.
Question: So, what’s the FEE for attending this Workshop Event “Anatomy of an Excel-VB Driven Commercial Automated Cash Book Spreadsheet Software [Including Tips of How to Build It from Scratch]”?
Answer: Simply pay the ONE year membership fee of $65 USD @ N200 per dollar i.e. N13, 000.0
The above payment requirement is however for non-members.
Payment gets you the DVD FREE, PLUS ONE full year of club membership (May 2017 to May 2018).
IMPORTANT NOTE TO CURRENT EXCEL HEAVEN VISUAL BASIC AUTOMATION CLUB MEMBERS:
All current club members should recall that their membership entitles them to a 50% discount, for life, to buy my products/services.
That therefore means they only have to pay N6,500.0 to attend this event, and also get the double benefit of the FREE Tutorial DVD and renewed membership from May 2017 to May 2018.
Click here contact me if you have need further details or require clarification.
Visit my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Solutions Development website to learn more about what I offer (while there you can watch videos of other app demos and tutorials).
RELATED ARTICLE
This True Story About Abraham Lincoln and the Message in a Nigerian Author’s Article Teach Anyone to Succeed Despite a Humble Beginning
Article Title = There Is Nothing Wrong With A Humble Beginning- Achieve YOUR Success With Honour & Integrity by Tayo K. Solagbade
Read the full article at http://tinyurl.com/humblestartup
Ten years ago, in March 2007, I published the above linked article online, via SpontaneousDevelopment Dot Com (my old website, now defunct), and I also republished for syndication via EzineArticles.com.
Last year, I came across the true story reproduced below, about US President Abraham Lincoln, which perfectly captures the sentiments I expressed in my article, and even ends with an admonition consistent with the message in my own article’s title.
I invite YOU to read and learn from both!
DISCLAIMER: I Do Not Sell Fish etc!!! [Suspected Impersonator/Attempts to Discredit Me]
This is the 2nd or 3rd time I’m getting this kind of bothersome feedback.
It would appear some person(s) have been impersonating me in relating with Farm CEOs and other stakeholders.
A member of my Farm Business Ideas club – Tunde Okunuga – called me up at 08.56 this morning to say he’d referred his brother based in Ede to me a while back, and that the latter said he had been corresponding with me – claiming that I had even sold FISH to him!!!
Fish ke! Where would I keep them? Ede is a location I have never gotten a single call from. This made no sense at all!!
My mouth was hanging on the floor by this time, and I recalled a Real Estate CEO who’d told me a “Tayo Solagbade” – with a different photo from mine – had been sending him messages!
Beliow is the SMS I sent him after the call, which I post here as a precursor to a formal disclaimer I will publish later.
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Hey Tunde.
I just spoke with MTN call center about your assertion that Alfa, in Ede, spoke with me on phone, noting that I never got such a call and have never heard that name or had an enquiry from Ede in my life.
Neither do I sell fish to anyone! The operative at my instance checked and found no active call direct on my line. A
s things stand it would be useful for me to speak with your brother to get a better idea of what’s going on.
Do respond.
Tayo
NB: I have since not been able to reach Tunde Okunuga on his line for some strange reason. And he has yet, as at this moment (4p.m) to reply my above SMS.
UPDATE (17th April 2017 @ 20:21): Tunde, who is on my newsletter mailing list, replied to the email broadcast version of THIS post, which I sent out, saying he would call his brother today, to find out what was really going on, noting that it did appear that someone was using my name. I’ll be posting any feedback he sends me, here, as soon as I get it,
[RECOMMENDED] 10 Things Exceptionally Successful People Do on the Weekends | SUCCESS S
Preview:
It is one thing to be successful and it is another thing to be exceptionally successful. But to attain a high level of success, you have to be willing to put in the work. Because the theme of the modern-day careerist is this: How do you get more done in less time?
So while a lot of people see the weekend as a time to hang out and relax, exceptionally successful people have a different idea of how Saturdays and Sundays should be spent. Here is how they spend their weekends to set the tone for a week of crazy productive work.
1. They wake up early…”
Continue reading…
http://www.success.com/article/10-things-exceptionally-successful-people-do-on-the-weekends
[DVAM] It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com
[TIP: Yesterday, I formally launched my new Facebook page named “Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It“. The page is dedicated to empowering men who find themselves, by some accident of fate on the receiving end of abuse from an intimate female partner. Click here to visit it].
The Huffington Post article previewed and linked below, is yet another (like this one from yesterday) in a series that I’m compiling to SHOW clearly that DVAM is a major reality that is being ignored by most stakeholders, especially those tasked with duty of providing support and protection to abused persons.
This neglect of male victims of domestic abuse by females, is being exploited by a growing number of manipulative females to visit serious physical, emotional and psychological abuse on their partners, knowing prevailing stereotypes about domestic violence will make it easy to later claim to be the victims!
I have seen this happen MANY times over the past decade. So I speak from a position of personal knowledge and experience when I make these assertions. My mission is to influence a positive and permanent change in THIS unsatisfactory situation for the better.
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It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com
When we discuss domestic violence, it is often assumed that the victims are women. And the statistics are truly traumatic. The less-told story is that a striking number of men are victims, too, suffering physical, mental and sexual abuse in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships.
According to the CDC, one in four adult men in the U.S. will become a victim of domestic violence during his lifetime. That’s upwards of three million male domestic violence victims every year, or one man in America abused by an intimate or domestic partner every 37.8 seconds.
Highlighting these statistics is not meant to downplay in any way domestic violence among women. It is, however, intended to add to the growing conversation that anyone can be the victim of domestic abuse and everyone who needs protection deserves access to it.
Continue…
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bari-zell-weinberger-esq/its-time-to-acknowledge-m_b_8292976.html
RELATED ARTICLES
[DVAM] Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal) – NairaLand.com & PraiseWorldradio.com
[Starting yesterday Thursday 13th April 2017, I formally announced my public service initiative to research, investigate and publicize potentially useful information and education by competent expert authorities on Domestic Violence Against Men]
The article previewed below was published by a female Nigerian lawyer, I find its contents most accurate, and recommend it to members of both genders,
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Domestic Violence Against Men by TyLegal: 2:22pm On Nov 19, 2015
Other forms of abuse are where a woman manipulates her man into granting her wishes or goes about spreading negative rumours about him to his friends or even on social media.
She might insinuate that her man beats her or does not provide for the family or that he is a ‘two-minute man’. She might also threaten to take the kids and disappear so that the man will not have any access to his kids. Women have also been known to drug their men or attack them in their sleep. If as a man, you are experiencing any of these, please get help fast.
Other forms of domestic violence against men are:
· Constant accusations of infidelity.· Putting him down or insulting him.
· Seizing his medications as a form of threat.
· Trying to control what he wears, eats or how he spends his money.
· Verbally abusing him, be it in the presence of friends, colleagues or even within closed doors.
· Blaming the man for her violent actions or making him feel that he deserves such treatment.
Towards the end she writes:
This is not to give women ideas on how to abuse their men o. It is to create awareness that men also get abused and they also need to be protected. Men should be on the lookout to ensure that they are not in such a relationship otherwise it would shatter the man’s ego and leave him a shadow of himself.
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What a wonderfully balanced mind this Nigerian Lady Lawyer has!
Read the full article at: http://www.nairaland.com/2748370/domestic-violence-against-men