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PII 184: Educate Your Child to Reliably Make Money by Herself, to Meet ANY Needs She Has – Anytime She Wants [HINT: If you are a parent to kids you REALLY LOVE and desire success for, you NEED TO READ THIS!]

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QUESTION: What skill, talent or competence has your child exhibited or developed or got – NOW – that you believe can help him/her CONFIDENTLY and COMPETENTLY command income s/he needs – with or without a salary job?
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A degree certificate is no longer a guarantee of income via paid employment or otherwise.

We must empower kids as early as possible in life to KNOW how to MAKE MONEY and to NOT need a job, to live independent lives and achieve success in life.

I’ve heard some people recommend not letting kids get too interested in money early on in life. That they should FIRST focus on academic studies and graduate with good grades.

BUT THEY ARE WRONG!

“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.” – Robert A. Heinlein

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PII 184: Educate Your Child to Reliably Make Money by Herself, to Meet ANY Needs She Has – Anytime She Wants [HINT: If you are a parent to kids you REALLY LOVE and desire success for, you NEED TO READ THIS!]

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QUESTION: What skill, talent or competence has your child exhibited or developed or got – NOW – that you believe can help him/her CONFIDENTLY and COMPETENTLY command income s/he needs – with or without a salary job?
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A degree certificate is no longer a guarantee of income via paid employment or otherwise.

We must empower kids as early as possible in life to KNOW how to MAKE MONEY and to NOT need a job, to live independent lives and achieve success in life.

I’ve heard some people recommend not letting kids get too interested in money early on in life. That they should FIRST focus on academic studies and graduate with good grades.

BUT THEY ARE WRONG!

“A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects.” – Robert A. Heinlein

Please note: The earlier a person learns about money making the better s/he is likely to be – financially – over time, in life.

Without money, very little works in today’s world.

And it’s important to know that being academically brilliant will not make you good at making money – because schools do NOT teach money making.

How many of your teachers were RICH in the real “money” sense of the word?

If going to school made people rich, schoolteachers would be millionaires.” – Robert Kiyosaki

Your best bet therefore is to DEVELOP the ability to reliably make money by yourself, to meet ANY needs you have, anytime you want.

Robert Kiyosaki calls it BEING ABLE TO PRINT YOUR OWN MONEY.

In case you wonder, I’ve been reading Mr. Kiyosaki’s books since 2000 – and have ADAPTED lots his ideas to suit my unique needs in the peculiar socioeconomic environment of my primary target market in Africa.

The Current Situation

The skills required for personal survival and financial success have changed from what obtained decades ago.

Back then all you needed was to go to school, get good grades and land a good job, with good benefits and you were literally made.

Today, such opportunities are getting harder to find by the day, while more and more people with good grades are joining the hunt for them each year!

But at the same time, in today’s technology enhanced world, we see proof that anyone – with minimal schooling – who can quickly acquire new skills to create/add tangible VALUE that others gladly pay him/her for can become financially successful.

The Problem

Sadly, many people today, continue to send kids to school to get education that prepares them for the world that existed decades ago in which graduates aimed for employment in factories/industries.

As a result their kids undergo formal schooling (aka academic/knowledge based education), but do not have life/survival skills when they graduate.

“It’s only after you have left school and, in adulthood, gained a bit of distance, that you can be fully aware of the gaps in your education.” – Rhiannon Lucy Cosslett in this excellent article.

How I got my wake up call.

1. I graduated top of my class with a degree in Agric. Extension

2. Then I got into paid employment with a multinational brewer as a Graduate Trainee where I saw hands on competence mattered more for success than certificates.

3. Then I quit paid employment to run my own business in the real world (aka University of Hard Knocks)…where I repeatedly saw people with less formal education than mine get AHEAD of me – some mocking me.

It took me many years of perseverance and self-education to LEARN how to survive in the real world.

But I gradually learnt how to do it – by developing my own unique combination of skills to solve real life problems for others.

Today I use self-taught spreadsheet programming and web marketing/freelance writing skills to deliver custom Excel-VB spreadsheet software as well as a growing range in multidisciplinary information products – in addition to other unique solutions that earn me repeat income from clients locally and internationally.

…in case you missed it, I DID NOT LEARN TO DO ANY OF THAT IN UNIVERSITY!

ONE BIG LESSON I LEARNED is that “Education differs from Schooling:

The truly educated person knows how to apply knowledge s/he acquires to achieve a useful end that others value enough to pay him/her profitably for.

This is why Henry Ford was described as a man of education despite the fact that he had no formal schooling. He employed the greatest engineering minds and made them work together to achieve the feat of building the automobile engine for a car that could be purchased by the masses – even though they had all told him it was impossible!

The Alternative Education Model i Propose for Adoption by Smart Thinking Parents Who Love Their Kids

Today I recommend parents design custom education for their kids that combines DAILY Formal Schooling with Real World Relevant Life Skills Acquisition Training

This is what I am doing for my kids.

I’m exposing them to academic education combined with practical, real world relevant skills based education.

And I insist on as close to 50:50 content as possible i.e. 50% academics versus 50% practical vocational skills training content.

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[RELATED] Is Your Child Learning For School Or For Life?

What standards of success are you setting for him/her?

Be careful so you do not end up preparing him/her to fail in life.

Take him/her out into the real world so s/he can CHOOSE a real-world relevant COMPETENCE to acquire that will ensure s/he does not get “kicked around” by those who are better “real-world educated”.

I say this from painful personal experience.

A hands-on approach to life is crucial for survival especially in the face of rapid and unexpected changes in today’s world. Click here to continue reading

OTHER RELATED ARTICLES

1. PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2

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3. PII 150: Stop Ancient Schooling: Your Child’s Success Depends on Her School’s Teaching Method [VIDEO: Jack Ma says “We need to stop training our kids for manufacturing jobs”]

4. PII 115: To Kill Unemployment, Treat People With Vocational Skills With EQUAL Respect (and Remuneration) as Those With University Degrees! [True Story – Remi, a Lagos Based Entrepreneur, Shows Sapele Youths How to Make Ankara Bags and Shoes]

4. [RECOMMENDED] Education that can’t create jobs is useless –Ngige

5. PII 066: There’ll be No Need to Force Kids to “Finish” School If They See MORE Formally Schooled People Doing Well Financially [Hint: 9 Questions That Indicate How Conventional Schooling Shortchanges Learners]

6. PII 112: A Well Schooled Person May NOT Necessarily be Well Educated [Excerpt from Tayo Solagbade’s “Schooling is a Means to an End and NOT an End in Itself” – Includes Excerpts from Tayo’s Letter to Lagos State Deputy Governor]

7. TRUE STORY: An Invitation from The Ministry of Youth and Social Development to Discuss My Paper Titled “Schooling Is a Means to an End and NOT an End In Itself”

8. [BPP] This 2016 Viral Video Sues “School” for Killing Creativity, Individuality and being Intellectually Abusive

9. Two Videos Every Parent Should Watch With Her Child to Ensure S/he Gets The Right Education

10. Bayo Adeyinka Shares his Frustration from Interviewing 50 “Graduates” of Nigerian Tertiary Institutions |Femi Ogedengbe – Nollywood Actor Turned Security Guard in USA Identifies Types Of Nigerian Leaders & Followers Responsible for Her Retrogression

11. [Workshop for Kids – by a Kid] Build Your Own Battery Powered Toy Bike!

12. We Need Schooling Systems That Transform Learners Into Real World PROBLEM SOLVERS!

13. A Formula Schools Need to Teach But Don’t [Reason Why Brilliant Students Struggle In the Real World]

14. Teach Your Child to be Brave Despite School

15. We Make Our Own Things™ [Hint: Why You Should Too!]

16. Empower Your Child to Develop Market Relevant Income Generating Competencies [True Story]

17. Graduation Day at the 2 week Cosmetic Makeup and Gele Tying Workshop [Re: Empower Your Daughter to be Her Own Boss With Minimal Resources Via Vocation She Can Build on to Excel]

18. [PHOTO SLIDESHOW] 9 Year Old Oluoma Plaits “Evelyn King” Hairstyle for 12 Year Old Temiloluwa On Sun 28/10/2018

19. [2016 TEDx VIDEO] To Truly Succeed, Black Women Need to Wear Their Natural Hair! -Verbatim Text Transcript of presentation by Cheyenne Cochrane, an Ambassador for the Natural Hair Movement

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[ARE THESE STORIES TRUE?] Has Jumoke The “Bread Seller-Turned-International Model” Gone From Grace To Grass again?

Below – Screenshot of a News Report Headline that should bother EVERY right thinking Nigerian.

This is the second time I’m seeing a news headline on this truly alarming development in the life of breads-seller turned International Model – Jumoke Orisaguna – whose grass to grace story inspired millions and who, in my considered opinion PERSONIFIES Nigeria’s equivalent of THE AMERICAN DREAM.

Read my 2016 article: Is Olajumoke the Bread seller-Turned-Model Getting a Fair Deal?

Has Jumoke The Bread Seller Gone From Grace To Grass again?

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Not to Above Screenshots: After following her phenomenal rags to riches rise to fame, and observing how various vested interests were literally falling over themselves to get a piece of all that she was generating (media exposure, money making opportunities etc). an uncomfortable thought occurred to, and began to nag insistently at me…until I gave in to the impulse to at least write about it. So, on 26th February 2016, I published the blog titled “Is Olajumoke the Bread seller-Turned-Model Getting a Fair Deal?” Well, today 10th December 2019, I’m reporting headlines suggesting that most of the concerns I raised in my 2016 article about Orisaguna being a candidate ripe for exploitation may have been valid after all if the news report dated 9th Dec 2019 on the page shown below is anything to go by.

This story should NOT be true. What it describes should never happen.

And if it is TRULY HAPPENING to this lady, I make bold to say EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US will be guilty of letting her down, and making Nigeria look AVOIDABLY bad – if we let it continue to its inevitable bad ending!

Forget the “lack of formal education” excuse. Too many people abound right here in Nigeria, who are doing quite well inspite of a lack of formal schooling – by leveraging their unique and God-given talents, with the right SUPPORT.

A good example is Nike Okundayo who has no formal education but lectures at Harvard, other top varsities – as  world renowned expert in her specialized vocation textile crafts

I gave several other examples in my 62 page paper titled “Schooling is a Means to an End and Not An End in Itself  – which incidentally features Orisaguna herself.

Read PII 112: A Well Schooled Person May NOT Necessarily be Well Educated [Excerpt from Tayo Solagbade’s “Schooling is a Means to an End and NOT an End in Itself” – Includes Excerpts from Tayo’s Letter to Lagos State Deputy Governor]

If this story (and others linked below) is/are true, then NIGERIANS as a people are once again proving through this Lady’s life that they lack EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE and actively engage in using and dumping anyone at the slightest opportunity.

The professionals who guided this young lady knew the dynamics better than she did. Why let her stay in a 5 year rental if there would be no support to renew it.

Would it not have been better to gift her a place of her own, no matter how small?

What about her social life?

Uncontrolled exposure to sophisticated interpersonal relationships with people in a world filled with people nursing predatory instincts can change the meekest person into a totally different personality overnight.

And when you add money and fame to the mix, the result can be quite disastrous.

This lady was bound to make mistakes. Including the issues she had with her husband. But her handlers must be told that THEY FAILED HER and they need to take action now to save her, otherwise ALL OF NIGERIA WILL HAVE TO BEAR THE SHAME if we let her fall back from grace to grass.

After all she will not be the first person in the world lacking formal schooling to get the kind of break she did.

The difference is that many such others had HUMAN BEINGS WHO TRULY CARED AND WHO TOOK STEPS TO PROTECT THEM FROM EXPLOITATION

Was she given any life coaching (e.g how to stay grounded and not let fame get to your head and CHANGE you from your real self)?

I doubt it – especially given what has reportedly happened between her and the father of her kids.

Did she get tips and support on how to invest money she got paid? (I’ve read she’s been working her plan to have her own business etc – so hopefully she’s on the right path there).
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Who was checking to ensure she got paid right?

Was any coaching given to the husband on how to build himself to support his wife?

What were the professionals she worked with doing?

Who was looking out to get her new modelling opportunities and contracts?

It would seem most people just came in to take what they could and get out!

How this lady and her family end up MUST become a NATIONAL PRIORITY.

Otherwise our version of the AMERICAN DREAM could – figuratively speaking “die” an embarrassing death!

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Life no longer rosy for former bread seller, Olajumoke Orisaguna

 

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https://www.kemifilani.ng/2019/04/former-bread-seller-olajumoke-orisaguna-officially-divorces-husband.html

3. Bread seller turned model Olajumoke Orisaguna in financial and relationship crises

[BPP-PhotoStory] Sisters-With-Skills: A Day Out With 2 Multi-Skilled Sisters (13 and 10 years old) Who Combine DAILY Formal Schooling With Vocational Skills Training

[UPDATE at 7.00p.m 27/11/2019]: Removed “Fri” from list of days the girls attend Hairstyling training. They actually rest on Tuesdays and Fridays. BUT if they miss their normal days, they have to make it up by going to work on those rest days. Also added 2 new articles – see items 18 and 19]

LAGOS- NIGERIA @12 Noon, Wednesday 27th November 2019: Photo-Story – Yesterday (Tuesday, 26th November 2019), I took my girls (13 and 10 years old) out to lunch – picked them up from school with a change of clothes. The ten photos below describe how we spent our day. 

By way of interest, the 13 year old recently got selected by the school administration to represent them in a Hair-styling Competition where she will also teach other kids.

The girl has been excited – understandably. She came to tell me 2 days ago, asking for money to buy the attachments and other stuff she’s been told will be required at the event.

I’m super excited too, because I know this opportunity will cement their interest in the vocation.

It all seems like yesterday, but they’ve actually been apprenticing now for over 2 years, starting back in 2017, when they attended a 2 week long intensive Vocational Skills Training on Cosmetic Make Up and Gele Tying, after which they chose to have me enroll them for hair-styling training at Mushin.

Graduation Day at the 2 week Cosmetic Makeup and Gele Tying Workshop [Re: Empower Your Daughter to be Her Own Boss With Minimal Resources Via Vocation She Can Build on to Excel]

A year later they enrolled to apprentice at another stylist’s shop closer home.

The rest is history – as they are now competent doing various styles – and take turns to work on each others hair to do whatever hairstyle their school announce for each week.

Their boss recently told me the older girl is now able to take on paying customers without supervision.

No. 1 of 10:

Here we were getting close to our destination, then I remembered I wanted photos of them wearing these African prints I bought for them on Victoria Island,on my way to the Immigration (Passport) Office at Ikoyi.

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No. 2 of 10

Selfie at the same landmark as in Photo 1 of 10. They still did not know where I was taking them. A busy school day had them looking a bit tired. By the time we got to our destination, they came alive…and I teased them about it…LOL!

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No. 3 of 10

So here, they’re about to place their order inside a Domino’s Handmade Pizza outlet at Ogba. Before we arrived here though, we’d actually stopped over for about 30 minutes at a Shoe-making Training School within the same area, where I had discussions with the CEO about available courses.

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No. 4 of 10

In this photo they are paying much closer attention to the choices described on the menu…after I made it clear to them that I would NOT be helping them make sense of it. Instead I challenged them to imagine I was not there and get the sales attendant to clarify any aspects they did not understand.

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No. 5 of 10

Here they review entries for the order they placed, as well as the POS payment made using my card on the auto printed slips handed to them by the sales attendant. I actually insisted they study both printouts and asked them questions to be sure they understood them as well as the debit alert to my phone.

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No. 6 of 10

It’s been a while since I last gave them this kind of treat. This time around it was an opportunity for me to REWARD them for sticking with the intensive regimen of combining schooling (8a.m to 2.30p.m) with Hairstyling Training (4.30p.m to 7.30p.m on Mon, Wed & Thur + 10.30a.m to 7p.m on Saturday).

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A. [PHOTO SLIDESHOW] 9 Year Old Oluoma Plaits “Evelyn King” Hairstyle for 12 Year Old Temiloluwa On Sun 28/10/2018

B. [2016 TEDx VIDEO] To Truly Succeed, Black Women Need to Wear Their Natural Hair! -Verbatim Text Transcript of presentation by Cheyenne Cochrane, an Ambassador for the Natural Hair Movement

No. 7 of 10

We chatted about the choices on the menu…and tried to analyze the price paid based on what they were given. They chose a MEDIUM PIZZA that came with FREE FRENCH FRIES and one bottle of FREE DRINK. I asked if they wanted to buy an extra bottle. They declined. I learned why later!

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No. 8 of 10

I requested the help of a gentleman sitting at a table next to us. The bright lighting made it quite hard to take good photos. I knew this from taking the first set of photos. Our friend had to change positions quite a bit like I did, to get the best shots.

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No. 9 of 10

Well, the smart young ladies waited till we left Dominos and had stopped at Chicken Republic to buy a take-away pack of jollof rice, moin moin and fried chicken for their 5 year old brother, Then they got me to buy them snacks worth 2 bottles LOL!

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No. 10 of 10

The gentleman I approached to help us take the p;hotos did a great job taking multiple shots from different angles,to minimize negative impact on bright lighting coming through. FYI: We tried using my Life Book on their FREE WIFi but got a browser message: ONLY MOBILE DEVICES ALLOWED.

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RELATED ARTICLES

1. PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2

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3. PII 150: Stop Ancient Schooling: Your Child’s Success Depends on Her School’s Teaching Method [VIDEO: Jack Ma says “We need to stop training our kids for manufacturing jobs”]

4. PII 115: To Kill Unemployment, Treat People With Vocational Skills With EQUAL Respect (and Remuneration) as Those With University Degrees! [True Story – Remi, a Lagos Based Entrepreneur, Shows Sapele Youths How to Make Ankara Bags and Shoes]

4. [RECOMMENDED] Education that can’t create jobs is useless –Ngige

5. PII 066: There’ll be No Need to Force Kids to “Finish” School If They See MORE Formally Schooled People Doing Well Financially [Hint: 9 Questions That Indicate How Conventional Schooling Shortchanges Learners]

6. PII 112: A Well Schooled Person May NOT Necessarily be Well Educated [Excerpt from Tayo Solagbade’s “Schooling is a Means to an End and NOT an End in Itself” – Includes Excerpts from Tayo’s Letter to Lagos State Deputy Governor]

7. TRUE STORY: An Invitation from The Ministry of Youth and Social Development to Discuss My Paper Titled “Schooling Is a Means to an End and NOT an End In Itself”

8. [BPP] This 2016 Viral Video Sues “School” for Killing Creativity, Individuality and being Intellectually Abusive

9. Two Videos Every Parent Should Watch With Her Child to Ensure S/he Gets The Right Education

10. Bayo Adeyinka Shares his Frustration from Interviewing 50 “Graduates” of Nigerian Tertiary Institutions |Femi Ogedengbe – Nollywood Actor Turned Security Guard in USA Identifies Types Of Nigerian Leaders & Followers Responsible for Her Retrogression

11. [Workshop for Kids – by a Kid] Build Your Own Battery Powered Toy Bike!

12. We Need Schooling Systems That Transform Learners Into Real World PROBLEM SOLVERS!

13. A Formula Schools Need to Teach But Don’t [Reason Why Brilliant Students Struggle In the Real World]

14. Teach Your Child to be Brave Despite School

15. We Make Our Own Things™ [Hint: Why You Should Too!]

16. Empower Your Child to Develop Market Relevant Income Generating Competencies [True Story]

17. Graduation Day at the 2 week Cosmetic Makeup and Gele Tying Workshop [Re: Empower Your Daughter to be Her Own Boss With Minimal Resources Via Vocation She Can Build on to Excel]

18. [PHOTO SLIDESHOW] 9 Year Old Oluoma Plaits “Evelyn King” Hairstyle for 12 Year Old Temiloluwa On Sun 28/10/2018

19. [2016 TEDx VIDEO] To Truly Succeed, Black Women Need to Wear Their Natural Hair! -Verbatim Text Transcript of presentation by Cheyenne Cochrane, an Ambassador for the Natural Hair Movement

[RECOMMENDED] Incredible Story of Professor Andrew Haruna: Vice-Chancellor of FUGA and Former Shoemaker

I came across the interesting story of a Vice-Chancellor who started out in life as a Shoemaker and was naturally drawn in to read more (Who wouldn’t be?)

I must say though that the full article is a bit lacking for depth (rather sketchy details), but the moral of the true story is still compelling.

Which is why I shared it to my wall on Facebook.

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But I made the point in my Facebook post, about a massive opportunity the Shoemaker-turned-VC is missing to use his achievement to influence a badly needed modification of the Learning Solutions Menu on offer in the University System. Read my comments below:

“Great achievement. But why BE CALLED FORMER SHOEMAKER?

If I were in his shoes, I would have employed few reliable hands to take my shoemaking business to the next level.

This argument becomes easy to relate with when one considers the
GLARING FACT that increasingly larger numbers of “graduates” unable to find work years after leaving school are enrolling in footwear making (and other vocational) schools springing up

Take it from me. Just last week I was in the office of the CEO of a popular footwear making training school – who told me he quit paid employment as a Chartered Accountant with a firm to focus on his shoemaking business because he discovered he earned more than twice his salary.

More significantly, he noted that over 95% of people he trains in his bags and shoemaking school are graduates who got tired of looking for jobs…or of doing jobs that did not reward them satisfactorily – especially in terms of what they earned.

It is therefore my considered opinion that this Shoemaker-turned-Professor is missing a MASSIVE opportunity to change the narrative of University education as it relates to its real-world-relevance.

Indeed if he is smart, he will setup a shoemaking course (or even a Faculty of Practical Vocational Studies) that his university’s students will be encouraged to enroll in.

It’s amazing that this opportunity could have been missed by him – and those who saw him evolve to become who he is today!!!”

 

Is Your High Feeding Cost Due to Rats? [Archived Issue No. 02 of my PDF Farm CEO Newspaper of 15th June 2015]

[TIP: Download and read archived Issue No. 02  of my PDF Farm CEO Newspaper (published 15th June 2015) shown in the screenshot below Be sure to follow the instructions given for opening the document with the password provided]

Inset Photo: Rat Stunned by MY Old Fashioned Trap – True Story

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This spring trap set in my backyard is proving quite effective for my MICRO needs. So far 3 troublesome rats caught in 4 days. Bait is bits of crayfish in nylon hooked to the trap.

The rat attracted by the aroma bites the nylon…and BAM! – the hair trigger is activated, We hear the sharp clap of metal on metal – and it’s time to bury another one.

The undeveloped plot next door where cassava, yams, sweet potatoes, and other crops are grown is their home. The security man who farms the land with the owner’s permission (as a way of keeping it from getting bushy) continually battles (poor guy!) to stop them damaging his crops before he can harvest them. But they keep breeding and replenishing their ranks!

Every now and then they dig under the fence to come and explore refuse bin surroundings in the estate. And they can be quire a nuisance. But since I set 2 of these traps (on Saturday) their visits have dropped dramatically while the few that have been bold enough to try either got caught or had narrow escapes that they likely won’t forget in a long while.

This kind of rat control method I am using in my backyard will however NOT be effective for use on a farm – if effective rat control is to be achieved…for obvious reasons.

DOWNLOAD and read THIS issue of the Farm CEO for tried and tested ideas that work better.

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NB: HOW TO USE PASSWORD TO OPEN THE PDF NEWSPAPER

All members of my Cost-Saving Farm Business Ideas Club) group received – when they first signed up by purchasing a Farm Support Solution from me – a zipped folder of past issues of my PDF Farm CEO Newspaper sent to them FREE.

But some of those PDFs (about 7 or so) require passwords to open them.

It’s been difficult getting back to you individually, with the passwords, so I’ve decided to post ARCHIVE editions of the newspaper on here and supply passwords for those ones that require it.

Click HERE to download Issue 02 published and broadcast on 15th June 2019.

It is password protected.

When the password entry dialog box appears, copy and paste (leaving NO spaces before or after the letters) the password provided to open it.

NB: I took the screenshot you see above, BEFORE and AFTER I used the password. Just so you know I confirmed it works.

If however you need help, let me know and I will be glad to give it.

PS: If you are not a member of the Farm CEO Ideas club, and would like to receive the password to open this PDF newspaper, click here to send me a message.

 

PII 181: [VIDEO] Make More Money by Integrating Rabbit Production Into Your Farm Business – True Stories From Africa

*I traveled – on Saturday 9th Nov. 2019 – from Lagos, to visit Bella Rabbits World farm at Ogere – Ogun State along with a member of my Inner Circle – who wants to learn about and successfully startup his own Rabbit Farm Business.

Following my return, working almost non-stop over what I estimate to be a 36 hour period, I prepared the video (and screenshots) below as a quick Introduction to Commercial Rabbit Farming Business. You learn how real life Rabbit Farm CEOs from South Africa, Uganda, Benin Republic and Nigeria are succeeding in Rabbit Breeding and Processing/Value Addition.

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PII 181: [VIDEO] Make More Money by Integrating Rabbit Production Into Your Farm Business – True Stories From Africa

*I traveled – on Saturday 9th Nov. 2019 – from Lagos, to visit Bella Rabbits World farm at Ogere – Ogun State along with a member of my Inner Circle – who wants to learn about and successfully startup his own Rabbit Farm Business.

Following my return, working almost non-stop over what I estimate to be a 36 hour period, I prepared the video (and screenshots) below as a quick Introduction to Commercial Rabbit Farming Business. You learn how real life Rabbit Farm CEOs from South Africa, Uganda, Benin Republic and Nigeria are succeeding in Rabbit Breeding and Processing/Value Addition.

[Screenshot] V.O.A News Interview – Video audio to text transcript excerpts- by Tayo K. Solagbade.

This video interview excerpts feature as the opener in the educational video (watch above) titled “Make More Money by integrating Rabbit Production Into Your Farm Business – True Stories From Africa”.

You can also watch it at www.tinyurl.com/rabbits2019
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Independent Rabbit Farmr Gavin Grgurin keeps 500 Rabbits at his farm outside Johanesburg

“As National (Rabbit) Council, we’ve been saying for the last 12 to 15 odd years, that Rabbit has the potential of being the saviour of Africa, from protein point of view. The reasons behind that are a multitude…

1. Rabbit meat is high in protein and low in Cholesterol

2. They take up little space and don’t eat much.

3. They require less water than chickens and put out less waste than cows.

4. Rabbit Grgurin says, may be the greenest meat (yields minimal carbon footprint compared to other livestock – especially feedlot-ing of animals on large scale).

5. They are prolific breeders.

[Screenshot] Case Study No. 1 – MARK OCHIENG, Agrosol, Uganda – Verbatim Video audio to text transcript excerpts- by Tayo K. Solagbade.

This story is Case Study No. 1 in the video.

 

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[Screenshot] Case Study No. 2 – GRACE ALENG, V.A.T Limited, Uganda -Verbatim Video audio to text transcript excerpts- by Tayo K. Solagbade.

This story is Case Study No. 2 in the video,

 

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[Screenshot] Case Study No. 3 – SAMUEL AGOSSOU, Benin Republic Cotonou – Verbatim Video audio to text transcript excerpts- by Tayo K. Solagbade.

This story is Case Study No. 3 in the video.

 

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[Screenshot] Case Study No. 4 – Mr. SAMSON, Bella World, Nigeria – Verbatim Video audio to text transcript excerpts and notes compiled via interview/references – by Tayo K. Solagbade.

*I traveled – on Saturday 9th Nov. 2019 from Lagos, to visit Bella World Rabbit farm at Ogere – Ogun State along with a member of my Inner Circle – who wants to learn about and successfully startup his own Rabbit Farm Business.I have committed to giving him FREE SUPPORT throughout the process in line with benefits promised to ALL MEMBERS OF MY INNER CIRCLE(I also offer same to NGOs/Non-Profits)

I was quite impressed with Mr. Samson. It is noteworthy that he INSISTS on giving FREE lectures/talks etc on Rabbitry, if invited. And he has a VERY active followership on WhatsApp where he shares LOTS of FREE tips.

This story is Case Study No. 4 in my educational video titled “Make More Money by integrating Rabbit Production Into Your Farm Business – True Stories From Africa”. You can watch it at www.tinyurl.com/rabbits2019

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1. A Permanent Solution to Africa’s Low Per Capita Protein Consumption!

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2. PII 032: Maximise Returns by Integrating Rabbit Farming into Your Farm Operations [True Story: Excerpts from my response to a tweeted request from Eno, a Nigerian Rabbit farm owner]

PII 032: Maximise Returns by Integrating Rabbit Farming into Your Farm Operations [True Story: Excerpts from my response to a tweeted request from Eno, a Nigerian Rabbit farm owner]

3. Rabbit Farm Business Startup As Alternative to Traditional Livestock Businesses

While a student in the University, I’d operated a micro rabbit farm business in the backyard of my parents’ Lagos-Gbagada home.

Back then, I would sell my slaughtered and roasted rabbits, wrapped in foil paper, to health conscious seniors like Mrs. Lois Omagbemi (mother-in-law to Mary Onyali, the former African sprints champion).

Today, I’m keen to get my farm CEO clients and those aspiring, to see Commercial Rabbit farm business as the worthwhile venture that it really is. A quick google search on the web will show that the awareness of this lucrative venture has grown a lot in Africa.

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4. Finishing My Commercial Rabbit Farming Guide: Between Samuel Agossou, & Benin’s Songhai Integrated Farming Centre

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TO LIVE YOUR DREAM: Get LOSERS Out of Your Life, Spend MORE Time Alone & Invest In Your Mind [Hint: Someone’s Opinion of You Does NOT Have to Become Your Reality] – Viral Video titled “DREAM” – “From Mateusz M” Transcribed & Retitled by Tayo K. Solagbade

Any true student of authentic success achievement will be familiar with the hidden truths shared in this viral video.

I only came across this video few months ago. But I csn tell you that as a relentlessly diligent student of authentic success achievement, I have LIVED my life based on the philosophy advocated for adoption by the speakers for decades.

During that time I evolved my understanding of it to repeatedly succeed at higher levels, even (and ESPECIALLY!) when people told me I could NOT – both within and outside paid employment.

And THAT is why I find this video’s message worthy of being transcribed from audio to written form. I believe more people need access to the message in as many forms as possible. Indeed for those who may lack the resources to watch the video, this PDF version offers them a viable alternative to accessing what is a truly empowering presentation.

Below, I offer download link to the PDF text transcript version I’ve prepared of the audio message contained in a powerfully motivational viral 6:19” video (over 54 million views on YouTube – see below) titled “DREAM” – “From Mateusz M”

Download a mobile friendly (22MB) MP4 version of the video along with my PDF verbatim text transcript version from www.tinyurl.com/lyd2019

Here’s an excerpt from the PDF transcript version:

Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.
That you don’t have to go through life being a victim.
And even though you face disappointments, you have to know within yourself that “I can do this. Even if no one else sees it for me, I must see it for myself.
“This is what I believe, AND I’m willing to die for it. Period.”
No matter how bad it is, or how bad it gets, I’m going to make it.

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You can watch the Mateusz M video online on:

  1. Youtube
  2. Vimeo

It features the following powerful speakers:

Les Brown: facebook.com/Brown.Les,
Eric Thomas: youtube.com/user/etthehiphoppreacher
Will Smith: facebook.com/WillSmith

 

PII 180: Learn How to Prepare Yourself to Claim Your Smart Money-Making INDEPENDENCE! [*FREE Confidential Business Startup Ideas Support Service]

You will want to read this write-up if you are:

a. preparing for retirement

b. an organizational decision maker who prepares employees for retirement.

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PII 180: Learn How to Prepare Yourself to Claim Your Smart Money-Making INDEPENDENCE! [*FREE Confidential Business Startup Ideas Support Service]

Tough economic times, fewer jobs for those seeking, and more job losses looming on the horizon for people in industries we once thought to offer job security, ALL combine to make the message in this issue of my newsletter most relevant and compelling!

You will want to read this write-up if you are:

a. preparing for retirement

b. an organizational decision maker who prepares employees for retirement

c. planning to start a business part-time, while remaining in paid employment

d. planning to quit your job to start/run your own business full time.

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It is NOW available in a specially bundled MP3 Audio and PDF Book package that can be downloaded online or accessed offline on a DVD delivered to you.
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EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

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The URGENT Need to Support Male Victims of Domestic Abuse [EVENT: 7th National Conference on Male Victims of Domestic Abuse – Thur. 14th Nov. 2019, Mercure Bristol Holland House Hotel, Redcliffe Hill,Bristol, BS1 6SQ United Kingdom | Organized by Mankind.org (Mankind Initiative)]

The narrative of Domestic Violence has changed a lot in recent years.

Statistics reported by Lagos State’s Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT) clearly show alarming increases in male victims reporting domestic abuse at the hands of their female partners.

READ: Incredible! Wives batter 138 husbands in Lagos

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Considering the fact that men often shy away from reporting, the actual statistics are likely to be even more worrying. This means many more men are suffering in silence in their homes etc – and they have nowhere to go for help!

Over the past 3 years, and especially in the last 6 months, I have come to the painful realization that existing support systems in Nigeria, will continue to be skewed towards female victims of Domestic Violence (e.g Notice image and examples on the foregoing linked page ALL refer to male abusers!).

Abusive females know this and exploit it to make the lives of their male partners a living hell.

Most harmful is the ridiculous stereotype which makes people, including social workers insinuate that “he must have done something horrible to her, to make her do what she did. So he most likely deserved it”

This is very wrong and often not true. I say this based on my personal experiences as a survivor and observation of other victims.

With few exceptions I got the usual treatment everywhere I went for help. The DSVRT did what they could and I got useful relief for a while but it was not enough.

Read PII 135: Neglecting Domestic Violence Victims Can Cause Serious Tragedies – True Stories [Highlights from my discussion of “The Culture of Silence as it negatively affects male Survivors.” at the 2018 SYMPOSIUM IN COMMEMORATION OF THE LAGOS STATE DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH]

I realized others may not have my kind of resilience and would need more robust support systems.

So I launched my Facebook Advocacy page to share true stories, tips and strategies etc.

Read [DVAM] Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal) – NairaLand.com & PraiseWorldradio.com: This excellent article by Toyin – a female Nigerian lawyer – accurately captured the key aspects of Domestic Violence I had come to be aware of. That’s why I used bullet point excerpts from it, to highlight examples of abuse on the cover photo for my page.

I also began researching both locally and internationally to see the statistics and other information about trends in DV reporting.

Last year (2018), I discovered the work being done by Mankind Initiative to support Male victims of DV in the UK and was inspired to learn that one of the founders was himself a male survivor of DV.

That made me resolve to launch a similar support service for victims out here.

Mankind Initiative have coming up next month, an event I really believe needs to be organized in ALL societies across the world, especially where men are becoming more victimized. The fact that the conference is in its 7th year, in my view, indicates that stakeholders interest has been sustainable, and that means REAL PROBLEMS are being solved!

National Annual Conference

Details of my tentative plans are to be announced.

For now, I would say this conference linked above is one of the kinds of events I hope to challenge stakeholders to participate in and, at some point even organize as well.

Male victims and their kids will benefit greatly as a result.

Click here to send me a message.

Alternatively, you can call me on +234-803-302-1263 or +229-66-12-21-36

 

Related Articles

  1. PII 135: Neglecting Domestic Violence Victims Can Cause Serious Tragedies – True Stories [Highlights from my discussion of “The Culture of Silence as it negatively affects male Survivors.” at the 2018 SYMPOSIUM IN COMMEMORATION OF THE LAGOS STATE DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH]
  2. #SexForGrades Updates: The BBC Journalist “Kiki Mordi” Dropped Out of College Due to Sexual Harassment [Watch “Mr Lecturer” in which Eedris Abdulkareem rapped about #SexForGrades in 2002!]
  3. NPD – DVAM NEWS No. 004: Are There Children/Adults Suffering Emotional &/or Psychological Abuse Right Under Your Nose? [Subtitle: An Experience Based Discussion of The Frequently Overlooked Yet VERY TOXIC Personality of the Closet (or Covert) Narcissistic “Mother”]
  4. PII 178: Are You Confident That Your Child Can Stand Up to Peer Pressure? (Lessons from BBC’s #SexForGrades Video Documentary About University Lecturers)
  5. PII 165: [DVAM] So some social workers tell us “Children never lie” about sexual abuse? Garbage! Totally discredited herewith [READ THIS NEWS REPORT ABOUT A REAL LIFE USA COURT CASE]
  6. [DVAM] (Unwittingly) Coaching the children (to lie)
  7. [DVAM] HIGH‐CONFLICT CONTACT DISPUTES: EVIDENCE OF THE EXTREME UNRELIABILITY OF SOME CHILDREN’S ASCERTAINABLE WISHES AND FEELINGS – Family Court Review | An Interdisciplinary Journal
  8. [DVAM] When children lie and why they lie and why people who work with separated families should know that they lie and why
  9. [DVAM] Yes, sex is food, Nkechi Emmanuel tells married women – Here’s the URL for the ORIGINAL SOURCE of what I consider PURE WISDOM on relationships
  10. PII 147: Narcissists Can Harm Those They Live With – Especially Children [What You Need to Know]
  11. PII 142: Ideas for Unmasking and Dealing With Narcissists Anywhere, Anytime [Featuring “Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions” – from HigherPerspectivesDotCom]
  12. Ignore the Macho Myth™: Asking for Help Means You’re Truly Strong [Advice for Battered MEN]
  13. PII 136: [DVAM] How to Identify & Stop Domestic Violence [Key Combination of Approaches to Create Massive Awareness In Society]
  14. [DVAM] More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals – TheGuardianDotCom
  15. PII 134 – [DVAM] Ideas to Empower Women Without Emasculating Men [Five (5) Suggestions for women empowerment experts that may need to review domestic violence accusations while mediating between disputing couples]
  16. WebMD Dot Com Offers “Help for Battered Men” [Powerful Ideas for Identifying & Stopping Domestic Violence Against Men – DVAM]
  17. [DVAM] Man Writes Women Support Agency Saying His Estranged Wife is Teaching His Kids to Hate Him [Features Expert Articles/Research on the common problem of Parental Alienation]
  18. [DVAM] Who will save men from domestic violence?
  19. [DVAM] Group laments increase in violence against men
  20. [DVAM] EXTRA REPORT: Husband Battering, A New Face of Domestic Violence
  21. [DVAM] The Rising Women’s Domestic Violence Against Men: An Appraisal Of Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Act, 2015 By: Hameed Ajibola Jimoh Esq.
  22. [DVAM] Experts Interviewed by Punch Newspapers Identify 5 Major Causes of Rising Domestic Violence Against Men, by Women in Nigeria
  23. [DVAM] Story of domestic violence against men is hidden, complicated and disputed – by By Cathy Moore on 23 November 2015 — 9:49pm for Brisbane Times, Australia
  24. [DVAM] VIRAL VIDEO > 1m Views – What It Really Means to Be a ‘Strong Woman’: Nigerian Woman Delivers Hard Hitting Message to Peers About Relationships [Download FREE Verbatim Transcript PowerPoint Slideshow created by Tayo K. Solagbade for www.facebook.com/stopdvambytks]
  25. [DVAM] How Women Destroy Love (Why Men Fall Out of Love) – by Kara Oh, US based National Relationship Expert | Download FREE VIDEO Based Transcript Slideshow created by Tayo K. Solagbade for www.facebook.com/stopdvambytks
  26. [DVAM] Women Who Emotionally Abuse Men
  27. [DVAM] The 3 Types Of Nagging That DESTROY Your Marriage
  28. [DVAM] Top 10 Things Women Do To Destroy Their Marriage
  29. PII 113 [AUDIO]: 1. One Serious Mistake Gov Ambode Needs to Stop Making If He Wants to Stop Domestic Violence | 2. Just Before You Blindly Join In Pointing Accusing Fingers at A Man Accused of Domestic Violence
  30. [RECOMMENDED] Do You Know How To Deal With People Who Mock And Ridicule You? (Syndicated Version)
  31. [DVAM] Woman As Aggressor: The Unspoken Truth Of Domestic Violence [There’s something very important that we’re not talking about when we talk about domestic violence. by Edward Rhymes]
  32. [DVAM NEWS UPDATE – FEATURE STORY] Man Reports Female Partner for Domestic Violence BUT Gets NAMED the Abuser, based on Lies & Edited Video Cooked Up by His Partner!
  33. [DVAM] VIDEO – Maryam Sanda arrested for stabbing husband to death [vanguardngr dot com – NOVEMBER 21, 201710:06 AM]
  34. [DVAM] Incredible! Wives Batter 55 Husbands In Lagos
  35. [DVAM] REAL MEN DO CRY ABOUT ABUSE
  36. [DVAM] Nigerian man narrates the domestic violence he faced in his wife’s hands
  37. PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]
  38. [DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]
  39. Human Beings Don’t Have On/Off Buttons Like Machines – We ALL Have Feelings & Will React Differently to Abuse!
  40. [HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!] People are posting an 8-ball emoji on Facebook – here’s what it means
  41. [RECOMMENDED] DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN ~ ARE WE RAISING ‘ENTITLED’ DAUGHTERS – By Adeela Kasoojee-Gathoo – irtiqa dot co dot za/
  42. [DVAM] Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Domestic Violence [Hint: Read These True Stories from batteredmen dot com]
  43. [DVAM] Violence against men – Wikipedia
  44. [DVAM] Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help – MayoClinic.org
  45. [DVAM] It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com
  46. [DVAM] Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal) – NairaLand.com & PraiseWorldradio.com

 

NPD – DVAM NEWS No. 004: Are There Children/Adults Suffering Emotional &/or Psychological Abuse Right Under Your Nose? [Subtitle: An Experience Based Discussion of The Frequently Overlooked Yet VERY TOXIC Personality of the Closet (or Covert) Narcissistic “Mother”]

 

Normal or healthier mothers are proud of their children and want them to shine. But a narcissistic mother may perceive her daughter as a threat. If attention is drawn away from the mother, the child suffers retaliation, put-downs, and punishments. The mother can be jealous of her daughter for many reasons: her looks, her youth, material possessions, accomplishments, education and even the young girl’s relationship with the father. This jealousy is particularly difficult for the daughter as it carries a double-message: “Do well so that Mother is proud, but don’t do too well or you will outshine her.” – Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201310/mothers-who-are-jealous-their-daughters

 

Verbatim Audio Text Transcript Excerpt:

I’m trying to tell you that we have a situation in which there are children and also adults, who are being exposed to severe forms of emotional and psychological abuse, as we speak, and who are looking for help, but do not know where to go – because nobody listens, nobody understands!

And the people that are guilty of subjecting them to this kind of abuse are typically CLOSET (or COVERT) NARCISSISTS. The ones that hide their behaviour, so that you cannot see it.

Click here to download the full audio (<4MB) 

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