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Defeat Traitors Using Compassion (Hint: Welcome a Judas into Your Life!)

FACT: You can be a genius and still fail due to a "close friend’s" betrayal.

This week, I’m teaching my kids about this. "Et tu Brutus?!" Caesar’s famous exclamation is one of the classic examples of how great people responded to discovery of acts of betrayal by those closest to them.

In my personal opinion, I believe enduring the betrayal of our closest allies, friends, relatives etc, and going on in spite of it, to achieve our important goals in life, is the greatest way to succeed.

Until you have had to deal with such a situation, you probably may never know for sure just how tough you are, or how much you really want to succeed. This article offers ideas for the interested individual about how to turn this type of situation to his/her advantage.

Have You Ever Had A "Judas" In Your Life?

Have you ever had to associate with certain individuals who you later sensed and went on to discover were in the habit of giving out your personal information, or even telling what you consider confidential or "secret" to others they knew from relating with you, you did not approve of?

Some would do this in order to gain the favour of those they passed the information to. Others could do it to spite you – for instance, maybe they feel they need to bring you down, for being (what they consider) ‘too proud" or "overconfident".

Have you ever discovered that a certain person you allowed to get close to you/confided in, turned out to have sought you out so as to gain your confidence and then betray you to those who "sent " him/her? This happens all the time – especially between people or groups that compete against one another. Individuals and large corporations, nations etc all play this game in one form or the other. This article offers ideas for the interested individual about how to turn this type of situation to his/her advantage.

IMPORTANT NOTE: You may not be consciously competing with anyone. However, those who observe you may feel what you are doing affects them one way or the other. This could make them decide YOU are THEIR competition. That makes YOU a target! How do you deal with that situation when it develops? Read on for some ideas.

Welcome A “JUDAS” Into Your life!™

Let me make what should (hopefully) be a humorous addition to this chapter that might make it easier that story and you will find that it was said that Judas was "chosen".

In life, you can decide to see each person that chooses to play "antagonist", "critic" or "enemy" as the "unfortunate Judas" in your own life who is destined to help you achieve another level of success or greatness though one or more acts of "betrayal"!

Now, I will tell you that in my experience, this really does happen. And many times I have personallydiscovered that the "Judas" of my life at any point in time usually lives or works in fairly close proximity to me – denying me the convenience of avoiding him/her! As a result, I am forced to find a way to relate with the person without compromising my position.

Your Judas Will NOT Be Your "Friend" But S/he Can Help You GROW!

The truth based on the above, about the individuals described is that event they they made out to be your "friends", their actions were not those a friend would take. They were in fact more consistent with what an "enemy" would do!

So, what do you do, when you find them out? I say it depends on the circumstances. In my other articles titled, "Do You Know How To Deal With Those Who Mock And Ridicule You?" and "Why You May Want To Rejoice When Others Mock You", I suggested that the reader consider limiting his/her contact with persons who adopted a negative stance of mockery and ridicule toward him or her.

However, in this article, I am referring to persons who have taken it upon themselves to go against you – not just to taunt, mock and ridicule, but to bring you down or even harm you. Such persons would be correctly described as enemies. But rather than run away from them or hide, I want to ask you to see them as quite useful to have around!

The Dalai Lama Believes We Need Enemies

The Dalai Lama is the spiritual leader of Tibet, who has (I understand) been in exile for some decades now, since the Chinese occupation of his country. There is a quote I read somewhere credited to this great sage, that have personally found quite instructive:

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Enemies test our ability to feel compassion, and strengthen us in doing so” – Dalai Lama.
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The Dalai Lama Is Right

It is my belief that we need "enemies" or antagonists in our lives. They help us to keep our heads from going into the clouds, and by so doing help us stay "human" especially when we’ve been successfully forging ahead in pursuing our magnificent obsessions!(To learn what I mean by "Magnificent Obsession", read the article version of my 113 page self-help print manual titled Ten Ways You Can Use Self-Development To Create The Future You Want.)

Personally, I would “get worried” if everyone around me keeps saying they like me, and I never run into anyone who feels or acts differently. I once heard it said that “a little dose of paranoia is healthy”. My point is that it would be folly for anyone to expect that everyone else would like her. I said this earlier and I’m saying it again: there will always be people who will not like you (or will not want to work or cooperate with you). You MUST prepare – and learn how – to deal with such people.

Also, it is my opinion that we need the periodic ”tests” of our abilities posed by those people who refuse to “like” us and who give us a hard time. Just imagine if everybody liked you and always gave you an easy run. Imagine if everybody said you were their favorite and there was no single person who expressed reservations about you, or was cynical about what you could or could not do (?).

What If We Stopped Having Bad People Or Bad Things In This World?

Maybe I’ll take it a bit further – what if we suddenly stopped having "bad people" or "bad things" happening in the world? It would be quite boring and unchallenging to continue living here wouldn’t it? We lock our cars because someone could gain easy entry if we didn’t. We watch what we say because a mischievous person might report to others when we say things that are not exactly "nice" about them.

Simply put, “bad” people – or the possibility of a bad thing happening – keep us alert and “on our toes”. It is this same consciousness that makes us teach our children what they need to do to stay safe and out of trouble when they are away from us. Without the knowledge gained from the previous so-called "bad" experiences in society, we would not be wiser about how to live in this world – talk less of being able to advise our children – would we?

Now, a person that perpetually antagonizes us might eventually push us to a point where we actually develop an intense dislike (or hatred) for him. The Dalai Lama however challenges us NOT to harbour such feelings towards anyone – even when it is someone that obviously takes delight in causing us pain or discomfort. It’s ironic that most religions actually advocate this philosophy for adoption by believers and YET, many believers find that they are often unable to really practice it!

Why? Because they are human, and it actually takes tremendous effort and commitment to maintain a compassionate disposition to people who make things difficult for us, or do not like us! It’s so much easier, for instance, to read the portion of the bible where the believer is asked to "turn the other cheek" than to actually do what it says. I am sure many who read the foregoing statement will understand what I mean. When it comes to "doing" it , a lot of people “struggle”.

The secret to mastering the art of feeling compassion for one’s "enemies" or "antagonists" is to ALWAYS remember this:

Without the "threat" of a bad thing or person coming around to do us "harm", we are likely to relax to the point where we lose grip of the things we already have in control. Think about sports – the team or individual that usually wins is not necessarily the one that scores first. No, it is often the one that gets in the lead, then STAYS ALERT to – and thwarts – all attempts by the opponent to equalise till the game ends!

Like I said earlier, the Dalai Lama is right because ALWAYS, at the end of it all – maybe when I’m moving on – I find that I have become stronger due to the perpetual presence of my "Judas(es)".

Some typical benefits include increased "mental stamina", "thickened skin", "self-control" etc.

This has been my personal experience.

I am sure you will find that yours will be similar (or better) if you adopt this philosophy towards your "enemies" or "antagonists".

"To Laugh Often And Much, To Win The Respect Of Intelligent People And The Affection Of Children, To Earn The Appreciation Of Honest Critics And Endure The Betrayal Of False Friends, To Appreciate Beauty, To Find The Best In Others, To Leave The World A Bit Better, Whether By A Healthy Child, A Garden Patch, Or A Redeemed Social Condition; To Know Even One Life Has Breathed Easier Because You Have Lived. This Is To Have Succeeded!" – Ralph Waldo Emerson

So, are you ready to welcome a Judas into your life today? It could be the start of your climb to a new level of personal success!

PS: This article is based on excerpts from the original piece written by Tayo K. Solagbade in October 2006.

To Succeed More, You Need a Real World Understanding of the Meaning of Intelligence

We often hear (or read) this word – “intelligence” – being used in different situations by different people e.g an intelligent "writer", intelligent "student", intelligent "speaker", intelligent "artist", PLUS on a less approving note, an intelligent THIEF ! :-)

In this article, I advocate the adoption of what I consider ONE all embracing,and real-world relevant definition of intelligence, which can help those who use it live more successfully.

The word intelligence basically refers to some form of ability to do things. In conventional use for instance, the term typically describes a person’s (academic) aptitude regarding the use of words, figures, and various forms of computation.

A broader application is inclusive of body skills (e.g. an intelligent footballer), familiarity with concrete materials, ability to adjust to new conditions and/or facilities in solving new problems etc.

But, What Exactly Is Intelligence?

The brain can be developed just the same as the muscles can be developed, if one will only take the pains to train the mind to think” – Thomas Alva Edison

Intelligence is also used to describe how a person deals generally with people, things, ideas and events.

Research has shown that about 20% variation in the Intelligence Quotient (IQ – expressed as a ratio of an individual’s mental age to her chronological or real age) of individuals is caused by factors like quality of nutrition; health; sleep; experience; social contact; drugs taken by mother and general upbringing.

But age has been found to have little influence on the level of intelligence as measured by IQ.

In fact it’s been found that maximum mental growth is achievable at age 13, stabilizing at about 70. Also, and contrary to societal myth, modern brain research has now shown clearly that mental abilities of human beings do not reduce with ageing.

Tony Buzan (inventor of the world-famous Mind Maps®) is widely regarded as a world authority on the brain, memory, creativity, and speed reading, reports. In his Speed Reading book, Tony stated that Dr. Marion Diamond of the University of California confirmed via research findings that “there is no evidence of brain cell loss with age in normal, active and healthy brains”.

It was found that if a person actively uses and “trains” her brain (Buzan’s Centers and books teach HOW), there is a “biological increase in its inter connectivity complexity resulting in a significant rise in the person’s intelligence”.

This explains why after people in their sixties, seventies, eighties and nineties are “brain trained” at Buzan’s centers, measurable, statistically significant and permanent improvements are achieved by the old people in every area of mental performance!

By the way, one (long-discovered) way of training your brain is by frequent reading and thinking – according to geniuses like Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein.

Most debated probably has been the issue of how Sex and Race affect intelligence. It was once believed (and some still do today) that the black race was less intelligent than their white counterparts, and females less than males.

There is however no research evidence to support those assumptions.

A Definition I Advocate For Adoption(Using "Academic Performance", "Murder Investigations", And "Interpersonal Communication" As Case Studies)

Over the years it’s been agreed that IQ is limited as a measure of intelligence – even in the academic dimension. Intelligence has increasingly become recognized as a result of one’s total life experiences.

This means intelligence tests results express how well one has learnt to achieve in the areas, which are being measured by the test. This is why I believe that Robert Kiyosaki’s father’s definition of Intelligence, as “the ability to make finer distinctions” is most appropriate for real-life use.

1. Schooling: When Robert Kiyosaki was ten years old, his friend and classmate Andy was announced to the class(after an IQ test the entire class had taken), as a “genius with a high IQ”.

But Robert’s father in response to his son’s subsequent queries about the definition of intelligence simply told him it referred to a person’s "ability to make finer distinctions”.

Robert said he learnt from his Dad’s explanation that Andy his friend was smarter than him in the classroom because he could learn better there, but that did not mean Andy was smarter than Robert(THAT was the "finer" distinction"). This understanding went a long way to make him finish his schooling instead of dropping out for fear of being called stupid etc.

"A person does not need to go to college to learn facts. He can learn them from books. The value of a liberal arts college education is that it trains the mind to think…Imagination is more important than knowledge.” – Albert Einstein

2. Murder Investigations: In the society I live/work in some types of law enforcement agents are renowned for their aversion for "making finer distinctions".

For instance, when one of them sees a dead body, a knife and a man seemingly "loitering" nearby, s/he immediately decides the loitering man MUST have killed the dead person – else what could s/he be doing there at that point in time(God help us all!).

So s/he conveniently puts the "loiterer" in jail and tells his/her boss a suspect has been found. Soon (except the poor "loiterer" has providence on his side), the case is announced as solved, and a possibility innocent person sentenced to time in prison!

Why do they do this? One school of thought has it that maybe because that option requires the least thinking – or quickly satisfies people that justice has been done, and frees the agency from having to answer questions about how far investigations have gone and so on.

Under different circumstances, a murder investigation would be prosecuted more thoroughly. Typically, the lead detective/investigator will go the extra mile to do some thinking.

Often s/he would try to establish a “motive”, and in the process probably discover something others missed and (maybe) end up finding the “true” killer.

The logic is that except a person is confirmed mad or insane, he/she would have had a “convincing enough reason”(motive) for committing a crime.

The investigator has to establish what that motive was, and get concrete evidence to support his findings. If he cannot, the law prevents him from holding on to the suspect longer than a specified period. So he continues digging. This method has helped detect people being “framed” or who decided to own up to crimes they did not commit so as to protect loved ones.

Agatha Christie’s suspense filled detective stories provide an excellent example of how deep thinking is(and should be) applied by investigating officers in solving cases of crime. The lead character – Inspector Hercule Poirot – solves cases by applying deductive reasoning and making finer distinctions.

The moral here: Actually derives from looking at the methodology employed by the investigators. They get information, then subject it to logical reasoning against the background of prior information, and based on that make deductions which then guide them on deciding what action to take – leads to follow etc. It takes people who do plenty of deep thinking and strive to make finer distinctions(so as to avoid jumping to wrong conclusions) to work like that.

Sometimes the obvious thing is not always the correct or most important thing.” – Tayo K. Solagbade

3. Interpersonal Communication: Successful communication has occurred when the words I write/speak to another person(s) are received and understood by my target audience exactly as I intended it.

However there are two sides to the communication process – that of the "communicator" and that, of the "communicatee". If the former does a good job of passing her ideas across, it does not necessarily follow that the latter will receive(or “admit“ receiving) the intended communication!

This may be so for 2 main reasons. One, the communicatee may unconsciously have “noises” (like biases, preconceptions, past experiences etc) interfering with his interpretation of the message. Secondly, he may simply deliberately feign misunderstanding to make a point.

Both cases happen all the time. Sometimes it is said that people will hear only what they want to hear – no matter how many times you tell them what you actually mean. (Re: Inter-tribal, ethnic or racial conflicts).

This almost hopelessly booby trapped situation that anyone who has to communicate with others faces, I believe is what led Dan Kennedy to refer to what he called a "Communication Minefield".

For a sincere hearer to truly understand a message, he/she must be objective, listen actively(and not pretend to) and be able to make those finer distinctions i.e. apply intelligence.

But then not everyone knows how to do the last part i.e. make the distinctions.

And that’s why I am writing this article( to impress upon the reader the NEED for him/her to begin to do this from now on). It is also why we must thank Robert Kiyosaki for sharing his father’s definition.

A reporter once asked Albert Einstein: “What is the speed of sound?”, to which the genius replied: “I don’t know. I don’t carry information in my mind that is readily available in books”.

Always Weigh "The Evidence" Or "Information" Or "News" About A Person/Issue Against Your Personal Observations BEFORE Taking A Stand!

Let me put it this way. A Police investigator that arrests, jails and get conviction of an innocent person for a crime the latter did not commit will likely be called “stupid” or “unintelligent” by his boss if/when eventually his error is revealed.

So, to appear intelligent, you must not only strive to employ objective, deductive reasoning and thinking, but you must also have the courage to follow your resultant insight/convictions right to the end, so that your actions end up being appropriate and justified. Let’s face it there is hardly anyone who doesn’t’t want to be called intelligent !

So when next someone comes up to you, for instance, with some "gossip" or negative information about another person, you might want to (and I do mean "literally"!) pick up up a teaspoon of salt and put it in your mouth.

The objective will be to jolt your senses, and help you remember to "make finer distinctions" in assessing the person you have been told about. I have seen many highly educated and otherwise extremely intelligent persons so readily draw conclusions about someone they have NEVER even met, based on negative information fed to them by another person.

It is my considered opinion, that evidence of a persons true intelligence – and education – can be readily seen in how s/he weight information available about a person or issue against actual observations s/he is able to make through deliberate personal effort.

Many times those who fail to look below the surface fall victim of deliberate manipulation by devious persons against their perceived rivals or opponents I do not like being used, and will never try to use anyone against another.

However societies tend not to be lacking in people who readily resort to campaigns of calumny to discredit someone they dislike.

And this works quite well when those they feed the bad information fail to "apply their powers of discretion and discernment" by checking to confirm that what they have been told is a true and accurate representation of the person or issue in contention.

The result: reputations are ruined; characters assassinated and lives/careers destroyed. If not for anything else, I urge you – for the sake of your own good name – to begin making finer distinctions today, in deciding how to use information that those you meet or relate with pass to you.

Chances are great that over time, you will not only discover those around you whose word cannot be depended upon, BUT you will also avoid being named as one of those responsible for spreading falsehood about others.

Final Words: Some People’s Egos Keep Them from Learning!

And that’s because they hold faulty definitions of intelligence in their minds. They think being intelligent means appearing to be “cool, calm and collected”; never making mistakes, failing or being at fault i.e. always being right.

In fact they MAKE SURE of this by doing everything possible to hide away ANY and EVERY evidence of their failures or mistakes, so no one ever gets to know!).

But that does not really work in the end, as the limited and mediocre, accomplishments they record in their lives very often attest to the fact that they have not been sincere in their past actions!

"When you fearlessly pursue excellence by repeatedly failing and learning from those failures in order to succeed at newer and higher levels in life, you ALWAYS gain an edge over those who choose to play safe." – Tayo K. Solagbade

Learning is a never-ending journey. Yet after one little achievement, some people “hang up their gloves” and go ahead to live on THAT “old glory” till they die. Worse still they seem to be able to find others who praise them for doing so!

The reverse obtains where there is an entrenched culture of striving perpetually for excellence. In such successful societies, people have a habit of "making finer distinctions" – and so never settle for average, since they always realize they can do better if they try harder.

To achieve our full potentials as individuals and as a nation, we must adopt the right definition of intelligence, and begin to make finer distinctions in our everyday pursuits so as to achieve sustainable progress.

NB: This article was first published online by Tayo K. Solagbade, via his former 9 year old primary domain (www.spontaneousdevelopment.com) – & later Ezinearticles.com – several years ago.

Is That Nice Person “Nice” To Everyone – Or Just YOU?

"A person who is nice to you, but is NOT nice to the waiter, is NOT nice" – Author unknown.

The foregoing quote captures my preferred definition of being nice, which is essentially entails treating others with "respect and consideration".

In this article, I offer five (5) practical ways to evaluate the "quality" of your relationships with persons you associate with – as it relates to being "nice".

Most people who consider themselves to "decent", try to treat others they meet with respect and consideration. They also (rightfully) expect others to do the same for them.

But life is not always straightforward. Good people do not always get treated fairly.

Indeed, sometimes bad people can seem to get a better bargain from the world than good people – possibly because the former actively work to subvert the will of others, so as to gain an unfair advantage.

This does NOT however make being good a BAD option to adopt. And part of being good is being "nice" to those around us.

What Does It Mean To Be Nice?

Nice could mean a whole lot of things, but mainly – to me – it comes down to the phrase I used earlier: "respect and consideration�. In essence, for me, being nice essentially entails treating others with "respect and consideration".

Therefore, every now and then, in moving around society, I quietly evaluate myself (and others) with respect to how "nice� I am (or they are).

Sadly, what I have found is that many people, especially adults, tend to be "selectively nice".

By this I mean their "niceness" seems to depend rather greatly on WHO they are relating with.

For instance, I have noticed fairly consistently that some people who act friendly and talk "nicely" to me, adopt very (I and do mean VERY) nasty dispositions in talking to "poor" relatives, or their hired hands – such as office workers, house helps, mechanics etc.

They typically display impatience, and intolerance at the slightest opportunity.

Indeed I have seen some instances where an acquaintance of mine (with his wife’s encouragement!) chose to needlessly ridicule a new employee right before me, by mocking the latter for his "slow" speed and lack of familiarity with the computer.

I could not help wondering why he did not think of coaching the young man to develop the missing skills, using more encouraging words to boost his morale. Past experience with this individual however made me keep my opinion to myself.

Speak Out Against Unfair Treatment Anywhere You See It

I have chosen to write on the subject, because such "selectively nice" people go around in their preferred social circles – like religious groups – being "nice" (e.g to the pastor, and other church members).

Few who see them in THAT mode would imagine they can be psychologically abusive to those under them, back in their homes or offices.

The rest of us need to avoid being fooled by such people. Then again, if anyone is guilty of being selectively nice, this article is a call for such a person to change.

It is instructive for you to note, at this point, that a person who maltreats others, while treating you nicely, WILL have his/her reason(s) for being nice to YOY, which is (are) likely to be ulterior.

Maybe you have more of something s/he values e.g. money, status, fame, a special skill etc. Whatever it is, for as long as s/he feels there is benefit to be had from continuing to be "nice’ to you, s/he will.

BUT, mark my words – the day s/he feels being nice to you no longer serves any useful purpose, the same "un-nice" treatment reserved for the "lesser" humans, will be handed down to YOU too!

And that is why no matter what you feel you stand to gain, you MUST, as a rule speak out (or caution) against any unfair treatment of others that you notice.

If you fail to do this, chances are NO ONE will stand up for you, if/when the same happens to you – and it can! (Re: Karma)

Here are some quick checks you can use to ascertain just how nice, THAT nice person you know is:

1. Does s/he openly relate with you regardless of who else is around?

Or is there a noticeable attempt to limit interaction with you to seemingly "safe" environments or situations?

Specifically, how does s/he introduce you to others – in a manner that enhances they way the other person sees you, or one that puts you in a one-down position?

2. How does s/he treat workers generally?

In passing out instructions, giving feedback or correction? Is there a noticeable effort to make people feel good about themselves.

Or does s/he go out of his/her way to put them down. Is the working environment positive, or are most of the workers scared stiff?

3. Does s/he demonstrate a healthy respect for YOUR experience, and knowledge? 

Or is s/he often keen to tell you (directly or indirectly) that you are not as "good" as s/he is?

Do you find that s/he is "nicest" to be around when you AGREE with his/her opinion, and gets very difficult if you insist on holding a position at variance with his/hers?

4. Does s/he call you a "good" friend when you say YES to his/her requests for help?

Or ANYTIME you say NO, s/he throws a tantrum and accuses you of being undependable?

5. What about when you NEED his/her help?

Does s/he readily give it, or is it often done grudgingly (complaining to your face, or behind your back)?

Does s/he expect you to be ready to go out on a limb for him/her? Do you think s/he would do the same for you, if the need arises?

The above are just to offer you some practical ways to evaluate the "quality" of your relationships with persons you associate with.

What I’ve said here is based on what I do – which is why I share it.

I honestly believe if we all try to be nice in the way I have described in this article, our societies can only become even BETTER than they already are, with people truly living to their fullest potentials.

To end this article, I recall the very apt quote I began this piece with…

"A person who is nice to you, but is NOT nice to the waiter, is NOT nice" – Author unknown.

That says it all, doesn’t it?

NB: This article was first published on 15th October 2009 by Tayo Solagbade via www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

Top Twelve Ways to Achieve Results Focused Self-Development

Too many people claim to do Self-Development, when what they do is mostly wishful thinking, with little or NO ACTION TAKING! The ideas I offer will help you practice results-focused Self-Development that yields tangible benefits!

1. BREAK the bad habit of idolising paper qualifications

Don’t rush like others to acquire the latest certification unless you’re sure it can really help you improve. Don’t feel inferior to another person for any reason – especially not because he has an MBA when you only have an M.sc.

Ask yourself: Do I really need this qualification to get ahead in my job/life – now or in the future?

2. Find a role model – Within your company or outside it

There are people who have done similar things to what you wish to achieve in their time, and who have chosen to write about how they did it. Make them your role models – use their methods or modify to suit your self/purpose.

3. Stop begin afraid to stoop to learn

Ask yourself who you work with that you have no idea what he does. Begin to show interest in understanding what your co-workers or subordinates do and how they do it. You WILL learn a lot and MIGHT have some useful ideas on improvement to pass on to them. And of course the personal interest you show in their work will do a lot to boost their morale.

4. Start knowing a little about everything

Show interest in other parts of the business for instance. Be interested in knowing how the production department did last week, what their problems were and how they resolved them. Before long you’ll begin to sound like you actually know a bit about what goes on there.

Better still; the department’s members may begin to see you in a more positive light.
At a point, managers not as close to Production as you are, may begin to regard you as a reliable source of information about that department.

Don’t be fooled – all these will be noticed/eventually filter to the decision-makers at the top and they will take note of it for the future.

5. Read, Read, Read and Read!

Build a personal library. Buy books that teach you what you want to know. Apply what you learn from the books.

6. Develop the right attitude toward problem-solving: Be a change agent!

Always seek ways to improve the way things are done. Never avoid problems. Problems are challenges that present us with an opportunity to learn “a little more” (in addition to what we already know) by trying to solve them.

7. Become a deep thinker

Be reflective. I do not mean that you should “worry”. Start doing the little things that others never seem to think matter. You must have depth. People who come to you should come away feeling that you have a lot to offer them.

They should feel that you have revealed something new about what they thought they knew to them. Others will enjoy working with you because they will get nourishment from you.

Never be superficial. Never lose interest in detail. It might appear fashionable, but it can be quite costly too.

8. Always finish what you start

To put it another way, never leave ANY job unfinished. You can delay or put off a job you started, but ensure you go back and finish it. It does not pay to have someone else come around to discover you did not do a complete job, when you had NO reason not to!

Your integrity automatically gets called to question…not good!

9. Learn from EVERY experience – be it failure or success

There are two sides to a coin – what you see depends on which side of the coin (the situation) you choose to look at. Do not fear failure – use it as a stepping stone instead.

10. Stay in the line of action

Always try to be in the thick of the action. Be ready to take risks.

Some people will tell you to avoid being too out in the open, but you will gain absolutely nothing by doing nothing. Confidence only comes from doing. Only when you have been a member of a problem-solving or project team, do you begin to understand how such a team works, what they do etc.

This immediately takes away whatever fears you had about being in such team when next the issue comes up. The knowledge/skill you pick up in the process will eventually serve you well if you get re-deployed or seconded in the future to an area where it becomes useful.

11. Believe in yourself & Think Positive ALWAYS

Free yourself from the discouraging limitations that naysayers may try to impose on you. That it has never been done before – or that they tried it and it did not work – does not mean you cannot do it.

What’s the point of saying “it’s been tried before and it did not work” anyway? We learn nothing by giving up! Conversely, we learn a lot by persevering through determination till we succeed.

12. Avoid re-inventing the wheel

Ask those who have been there and done it before, then modify what you learn to suit the present situation.

Use the Internet to see what is available that might be of use. The Internet is filled with various tools and resources put online by generous minded individuals and groups with a view to ensuring they make it easier for others across the world to do solve their problems quicker and more efficiently.

If you use it intelligently, you will find that you save yourself many hours of work and become more efficient and effective in the process.

Final Words

If you practice “Deliberate, Performance Enhancing” Self-Development, those around you WILL notice a major difference.

And they will eventually acknowledge you for it.

If that does NOT happen, there’s a good chance you are NOT doing it right – in which case, re-reading and diligently acting on – the 12 tips offered in this article may be what you need!

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To Ensure Others Easily View Your Pictures, Optimise Them BEFORE You E-mail Them (Here’s How!)

Before you excitedly email those pictures to your contacts, do them the favour of reducing the image file sizes (via web optimisation) in a graphics software. Owners or employees in fields like real estate and entertainment, often have to send digital camera, or scanned images (e.g of contracts) to contacts via email.

But doing so without first "pruning" the file sizes by optimising them for viewing on the web, can sometimes create problems for the recipient.

For instance:

(1). His/her email inbox gets clogged because pixs attached to your email are huge.

(2). Even where s/he has access to unlimited email storage, time required to view EACH image may still turn off the recepient..

Web users are not patient people plus, and NOT everyone uses broadband! If you’re in business in my part of the world, you will be wise to take this into consideration when reaching out to clients and prospects with your images.

I wrote this article-tutorial back on 3rd September 2007, to offer some ideas.

However, I encourage you to explore additional options that are now available- including web based services that make it possible to reduce your file sizes online within a matter of seconds.

Three Web-Relevant Graphics File Format Acronyms And Their Meanings

In case you are unfamiliar with the subject of graphic file formats, I provide brief descriptions of the three main graphic file formats used on the web, and which I have mentioned at least once in the body of this article:

a). JPEG means "Joint Photographic Experts Group" : useful for displaying "photographic or continuous tone" images.

b). GIF means "Graphic Interchange Format" : useful for displaying images with large areas of flat colours(e.g logos, icons, and navigation buttons).

c). PNG means "Portable Network Group": An improved replacement format for GIF.

One Example of How Optimise An Image for Viewing On The Web

1. Load the graphics editing software on your PC (If you have none, ask around for advice from people who know, about which one to buy – and where . It won’t take you long to find someone who can help).

Note: in this example, I use Adobe Photoshop 7.0.

2. Click "File-Open" in Adobe Photoshop, then use the "Open" dialog box that appears, to navigate to the folder/location of the image(s) you wish to optimise.

Note: In my case I’ve done this with all sorts of images. One time it was a JPEG graphic of the front cover of my ten ways manual (the Self-Development Bible™) that I had designed for screen printing onto T-shirts I intended to print for sale locally. The initial file size was 1.8MB approx.

I call it up into Photoshop using steps 1 and 2 above.

3. Once it opens, I click "File-Save For Web…" on the main menu and a "Save For Web" dialog interface appears.

4. Looking at the "Settings" panel to the top right, I notice that the JPEG setting (which can be any one of four possible settings for "desired image quality" namely: Low, Medium, High & maximum) is currently set to "Maximum".

A display on the bottom left of the image reads "JPEG (indicating the image’s file format), 1.653M (indicating the displayed image’s size), 603 sec @ 28.8Kbps (indicating estimated image download/view time at 28.8 kilobyte per sec internet connection speed).

Remember : Your purpose is to bring the image size(& by implication the download/online display time) as low as possible without significantly losing image quality.

You need to understand graphic file formats to do this right.

To learn the difference between the different graphic file formats and when it is best to use each one, press F1 in photoshop and click "search" on the browser based help interface that appears, then type "About file formats", and click "Search".

The results page that appears to the right offers – among other things – links to explanations about different file formats. Also there is a link that leads to information about "choosing a Web optimization format".

Explore the links and you should soon be familiar with why JPEG is often the preferred format for web optimisation of photographic images etc.

NB: Another way to learn about the different graphic file formats (such as JPEG, GIF, and PNG) and when best to use EACH is to do a search on the web.

5. Next I click the graphic file formats selection drop menu and choose "Medium". The interface soon changes, and the resulting image display quality still looks acceptable. So I check the bottom left display which now reads: "JPEG (for image format), 339.9KB (for the optimised image’s size), 133 sec @ 28.8Kbps (for the optimised image’s download time at 28.8 kilobyte per sec internet connection speed).

Doing a quick calculation, I am pleased to discover that I have achieved a MASSIVE 81.7% file size reduction (from 1,800KB to 339KB!) using this quick and easy process, without impairing displayed image quality.

Now imagine if I had six(6) such files to email to my friends. Rather than slam their mail boxes with 10.8 MB worth of picture attachments, they will only have to contend with approximately six files totalling 2 MB altogether(!) – each of which would take about 122 secs to download at 28.8kbps. But it’s actually likely to be BETTER than that because in reality, the simplest/most basic net connections today run at 56kbps and higher, so that it would actually take 60 seconds or less to view the optimised images!

6. Next I click the "Save" button to accept the optimised image. Then I navigate to the desktop using the "Save Optimised As" dialog box drop menu, and add "_optimised" to the default filename of the image.

Next, I click "Save" to store the new image to the desktop, where I will later find it and send it as an email attachment to an acquaintance for his comments.

Note that not only does the optimised image look almost (if not just as) clear as the original, it also has the exact same dimensions, so nothing really is lost – at least to the human eye, which is the benefit of the lossy compression format called "JPEG".

Summary: Web Users Are a "Click-Happy" (i.e. Impatient) Lot, So, to Keep Their Attention, Employ Methods and Formats That Ensure Speedy Delivery of Quality Content!

Many people come online in a bid to quickly check their mails or find some information or upload some data etc. Quite often, this causes them to have little time or patience to "WAIT" for top- heavy web pages or "fat" images to download.

As a result they tend to be "click-happy" – and if your pictures take too long to appear – could "click away " to do other more pressing things (possibly promising themselves they will come back another time to view the lovely pictures – but often "forgetting" to do so).

If you really want people to take time to look at the pictures you send to their email boxes, make the extra effort to optimise those pictures(using any good graphics application) for quick/easy display on the web.

Most good graphics editing software will offer something similar to Adobe Photoshop’s "Save for Web" tool.

Play around with with your program a bit, read up the instructions provided in the Help section, and you should soon be up to speed with making your pictures/images web optimised AND viewer-friendly :-)

Protect Your Debit Card from Online Fraudsters…or This Could Happen to You (True Story) [Lost & Re-Published Post]

This article was first published on this blog 3 months ago, on Friday 23rd May 2014 (see browser history screenshot below). Today, when I tried linking to it, to post a comment on Facebook, I got a “Page Not Found” error on my blog. A MySQL database check soon revealed it was GONE: “Yepa!”!

This article was first published on this blog 3 months ago, on Friday 23rd May 2014 (see browser history screenshot below)

But I suspect no foul play. It’s quite likely it “got lost” during the back and forth cross-database updates from my old to new hosts following the loss of Spontaneousdevelopment.com (my former, 9 year old domain name).

Whatever the case, here’s the FULL article republished.

But just before you read it, here’s my comment on recent newspaper reports on this theme, which made me want to link THIS article from Facebook in the first place:

Punch Newspaper Headline (27th Aug. 2014): Fraudsters shop abroad with cloned Nigerian ATM cards

This is not the first such headline I have seen. When I saw one for the first time few days after arriving Lagos, from Cotonou (2 weeks ago), I found report headlines like the above hard to comprehend.

But now it’s all starting to make sense.

For fraudsters to successfully clone ATM cards, they will need insider help. And my recent personal experience equips me to piece together key parts of the puzzle…

This is why despite picking up my new ATM/debit card on arriving Nigeria about 2 weeks ago, I’ve been VERY reluctant to put it to use for my international web hosting and other payments online.

You see, just few months ago, the previous (now expired) card from the same bank, which I’d actively used without issues for 3+ years mysteriously got hacked and an attempt was made to use it for shopping by one “Rabbi” in “New York”.

Luckily, the card was not directly linked to an account that had enough funds to cover the transaction. That was a due diligence precaution I’d proactively taken earlier in the year.

But these guys were persistent (and wretched!) as they kept reducing the amount charged to the card, till they took out the less than $13 USD balance left over in the linked account from the last domain name registration and web hosting payments I’d funded it for.

I never understood how my card got compromised, and my bank also had no answer. So I waited for my card to expire – and it did on 31st July 2014. Since then, I’ve been too wary to start using the new one!

Then I came back here (Lagos) and began reading newspaper reports claiming some bank staff have been implicated in using customer cards online…and I told myself: EUREKA!

See article I wrote to warn/alert others to the potential danger:

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Protect Your Debit Card from Online Fraudsters…or This Could Happen to You (True Story)

If you use a debit/credit cards, you may want to read about this experience I had within the last 24 hours. Why? Because doing so could just help you avoid leaving yourself open to having someone drain out your bank account!

I spent yesterday morning corresponding via phone and email with my bank in Nigeria…

It had to do with 3 International Transactions on my debit mastercard by fraudsters.

They began by applying a charge of $218 fee to my GTB MasterCard.

Since I use a Blackberry, I saw the alert announcing “Transaction Declined due to Insufficient funding” as soon as it came in.

They began by applying a charge of $218 fee to my GTB MasterCard.

Luckily for me, the account linked to the card (which is the one I also use to make payment for hosting renewal etc) is one that I keep almost at NIL balance.

I chose to do this based on past experience when I inadvertently let my Skype subscription autorenew when I did not need it.

Otherwise, that attempt would have gone through – and these crooks would have gotten away with it.

A bank account officer called me yesterday evening to discuss what steps I could take, after I emailed a complaint to them,

A bank account officer called me yesterday evening to discuss what steps I could take, after I emailed a complaint to them,

We agreed that I would continue what I’d doing, by keeping funds NIL until I need to use it, then once loaded I make payment to return it to NIL status.

That way, the fraudster would stand no chance of getting funds out if they try again.

As explained above the first attempt (for $218 USD) did not got through.

What I did not know was that my last transaction had resulted in about N1,500 being left as balance!

After discussing with the account officer who called me from Nigeria yesterday, the crafty guys charged $9.51 and then $5 USD overnight (between 2 a.m and 5a.m) successfully!

After discussing with the account officer who called me from Nigeria yesterday, the crafty guys charged $9.51 and then $5 USD overnight (between 2 a.m and 5a.m) successfully!

You see, I did not know my last online payment had left a balance that much, otherwise I woudl have spent it.

Normally I try hard to use up any balance to the barest minimum by loading funds to a reseller account I run for my web hosting service. But my exchange rate calculation for $50 USD equivalent was off, and I ended up leaving some funds behind, that the guys took out.

They must have kept lowering the applied charge all night or soemthing, until it went through.

Each alert I got, I sent an email to the bank, requesting that they do a reversal.

My account manager replied my email this morning saying I should authorize the bank to block the card.

My account manager replied my email this morning saying I should authorize the bank to block the card.

The problem is that I have 2 web hosting clients I need to do renewals for in July.

A new debit card may not be ready for me to use before then.

So after thinking about it, I’ve decided I’ll pursue one of 2 options:

a. Continue with my strategy of keeping my balance close to NIL, until I need to make payment, then fund it and use up at once.

b. From discussions I had with a banker friend, I can purchase a virtual Mastercard I can make use of on a one-off basis.

The second option appeals to me more.

Interestingly, I used to do that about 8 years ago. And it was always a much safer way to spend online. I guess I should thank the fraudsters for pushing me to THINK of a better way!

In case you wonder, I still have no idea how they got my card details.

I’ve always tried to be very careful these past 4 years of using it.

I’m not sure if this was done by Nigerian fraudsters or not. But the location on the transaction notices has been in the USA.

Lesson you can take away: Beware of linking your debit card to an account that has a FAT balance!

It would be better to be safe than sorry. I never imagined this could happen to me, and it has. Plus, I found out nothing could really be done short of disabling my card. In other words, even your Nigerian bank cannot help you.

Compare the case of my brother in law who lives in the UK. He simply told his credit card company to back charge or reverse the charge when it recently happened to him.

But that did not mean he would not be able to use his card anymore. Or that he would have to pay to get a new one!

Which is what my bank in Nigeria has told me. Not very helpful is it…!

So, if you’re in Nigeria, or using a Nigerian bank’s card for online payments, it would be safter to AVOID this kind of problem altogether, by not letting it happen in the first place.

Onee again the message is: Beware of linking your debit card to an account that has a FAT balance!

Please pass this on!

 

Why I Convert Video/Audio Interviews & “Informal Narratives” by Other Experts Into Downloadable PDF/Slideshow Versions for EVERYONE – Tayo K. Solagbade

This new personal philosophy paper offers download access to four (4) useful PDF documents I recently created using videos, audios or informal “writing” originated by competent experts I reckon with. They are Efe Ohwofasa (UK), Patrick Meninga (USA), Richie Parker (USA) and Charles Ayo Dada (Nigeria).

The first 3 can be downloaded from www.tayosolagbade.com.

A. Breakthrough to Purpose – Andy Brine Interviews Efe Ohwofasa – Video

B. Ten (10) Valuable Lessons I Learnt About Blogging for Passive Income, from Yaro Starak’s 60 Minute Podcast Interview with Patrick Meninga 

C. NEVER Let Anyone Tell You What YOU Cannot Do! (Transcript Slideshow Version of ESPN’s July 21 “SportsCenter” Profile video about Richie Parker – the engineer born without arms, who designs championship winning NASCAR race car parts/components)

D. HOW I MADE MY FIRST MILLION AS A WRITER SELLING BOOKS…(A True Story About Potentially Traumatizing Sales & Marketing Dilemmas Book Authors Face in Nigeria) – narrated in a post by award winning writer – Charles Ayo Dadaon his Facebook wall on 18th August 2014.

Here’s a download link I setup on a 3rd party file sharing service for Charles’ great story: http://www.tinyurl.com/Charles1stMillionOK.

If the link fails, you can contact Charles via Facebook (www.facebook.com/charles.a.dada) for a copy.

Alternatively, you can email tayo at tksola dot com and I’ll email it to you as a PDF attachment.

“But why do I do it?” – many people are likely to wonder…

Why do I go out of my way to create these kinds of elaborate resources without being asked, and without seeking ANY kind of remuneration?

Is it to get publicity, or to get those I feature to notice me and give me jobs? What is my real motive?

  1. My main reason is that I want to help people discover proven techniques and strategies they can use to IMPROVE themselves in whatever area of endeavour they are engaged.

That’s why I call myself a Self-Development/Performance Enhancement Specialist & Multipreneur.

I have a passion that has endured for over 20 years (right from my days as a student in the University, through my time as a high flying employee in Guinness Nigeria).

My passsion is to help serious minded and results focused individuals develop and implement practical strategies to do what they do better.

Due to my versatility, and quick learning ability, I have over the years proven myself to be a valuable addition to the arsenal of any group or organisation.

So many people find me to be a useful resource because my active search for practical information about what works enables me add value to them.

Anywhere I go, whatever I see or read, my natural instinct is always to find ways to share it with others to help them improve their performance.

I’m the kind of person who cannot help HELPING others. I am naturally driven to be a catalyst. No matter who I interact with, I create the impression of increase.

People generally find that they leave me better off than when they meet me.

Most of my clients often get much more measurable value from interacting with me, than they pay for.

I work this way not because I want to be Pope, or because I’m a priest. I do so because I LOVE to see people make the best use of their God-given abilities to achieve their fullest potential.

NO MATTER what challenges they have to confront and overcome in life. And that is why I pick on videos and presentations of authentic achievers, whose messages convince me they are who they say they are.

Due to the challenges of poor connectivity in my part of the world, I realise many who desire to benefit from the wonderful video and audio presentations available online may not get ready access to them – except via text transcripts like those I create.

Click here to continue reading this PDF personal philosophy paper…

 

No. 156: To Succeed, Always Count Your Blessings During Adversity (Hint: Would You Work At Your Best If Power Supply Was Erratic?)

I am not sure how many of you on my mailing list know what it feels like to endure YEARS of VERY erratic power supply on a daily basis from your country’s power company.

That’s what Nigerians in Nigeria endure daily.

During my visits to Ghana (in 2005) and Cameroon (in 1999 and 2001) most people did not believe that in Nigeria, a person may go WEEKS without power – even as his neighbor continues having it!

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Date: Monday 25th August 2014

No:156

Title: To Succeed, Always Count Your Blessings During Adversity (Hint: Would You Work At Your Best If Power Supply Was Erratic?)

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [Tel: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic) ]

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No. 156: To Succeed, Always Count Your Blessings During Adversity (Hint: Would You Work At Your Best If Power Supply Was Erratic?)

I am not sure how many of you on my mailing list
know what it feels like to endure YEARS of VERY erratic power supply
on a daily basis from your country’s power company.

That’s what Nigerians in Nigeria endure daily.

During my visits to Ghana (in 2005) and Cameroon (in 1999 and 2001) most people did not believe that in Nigeria, a person may go WEEKS without power – even as his neighbor continues
having it!

Why am I writing
about this?

Well, it’s because I want you all to understand
the conditions under which all the news, articles, reports and resources
you find on my website were created daily – especially from back in 2005, when I launched my former primary domain: spontaneousdevelopment.com

Today, due to the fact that I’ve relocated to Benin Republic (which also enjoys healthy uninterrupted power!), I do not have to endure the same hardship of working under the noise and discomfort of an electricity generator.

That is, except when I visit Nigeria for extended periods, as has been the case over the past 2 weeks!

In contrast to the way I work in Benin Republic’s Cotonou, many times here in Lagos, I have to work using generator power because the lights are often OFF longer than they are ON.

As
you can imagine, since I earn my living by building software, websites
and writing articles – all of which require a PC/access to the net and
of course electricity, I have to find a way to progress work given me
by paying clients if I want to make profits.

To make matters worse, since last week, the lights that went out have NOT come back on again. As a result we have to run the generator much more often.

So you find many people out here have to own
generators and buy fuel into kegs for use in these generators EVERY
single day.

But that would not be so bad if the fuel was always available
– but it sometimes tends not to be!

Every now and then Nigerians find that fuel shortages
cause long queues to build up at the fuel stations! A long vicious cycle
that affects this nation’s productivity and wealth generation severely.

I still recall coming home some months ago, earlier in this year. I had to buy fuel into 4 small plastic coke bottles at the border, to take home with me!

This was because of a prolonged fuel scarcity that made it impossible for my wife and kids to get fuel to buy. Yet I needed to do some work that night on arriving the house. So buying the fuel at N140 per litre (instead of N97 per litre) became necessary.

For those of you who live in countries
where your power supply is regular, it is likely you have no large markets
for generators and “kegged” fuels.

I want you to know how BLESSED you
are, that your country works that way, and you REALLY NEED to be grateful for it
!

The money that
should be left over in a barber’s pockets out here at the end of each
day very often gets spent on generator fuel and maintenance DAILY whether
s/he likes it or not!

At your end, the cyber cafe owner never has to
quickly run down stairs to switch on his generator because power supply
has suddenly gone off, and users browsing in his cafe may lose their
work online!

Now, this epileptic (or completely unavailable) power supply problem has always been a
feature of our lives here in Nigeria.

In the past two weeks, I estimate that I have not had light
for more than four hours in ONE single day – and even that was NOT for
a continuous stretch.

It is always a case of ON, then OFF, then ON again.
If you don’t believe me, come on a trip to Nigeria and stay in a hotel
for a few hours.

I assure you that’s all you’ll need – just a few hours),
and like a Ghanaian friend who was here on official work some years ago,
you’ll quickly learn that what I say is true from hearing the hotel’s
standby generator go ON and OFF, then ON and OFF …again and again!

On a lighter note, in your country the first
word that a baby learns to say may be “daddy” or “mummy”!

But in Nigeria, the problem is so severe that one of the first “words” a baby may learn to say is “NEPA!” – which
is what our power generation company(National Electric Power Authority)
is known by – though they now officially go by “PHCN” – whatever
difference that has made.

Having said all the above, despite all these challenges and limitations
in MY socioeconomic environment, many Nigerians keep forging ahead in
their work.

Like most other Nigerians in Nigeria, who were engaged in formal business, I had no alternatives while here (before I moved to Benin).

So I gritted my teeth (figuratively speaking) and focused on finding ways to get what I had to do DONE faster and cost-effectively by improving DAILY, for well over a decade.

The fact that I actually grew my client base and even began attracting attention from foreign based prospects from as far as Asia, Europe and America, indicates that I made progress in spite of this major limitation.

How
did I achieve all that despite these debilitating challenges posed
by the unpredictability of my social environment?

The answer is that I knew (and know) “How to habitually deliver peak performances by getting
into and STAYING in “flow” or the “Zone”.
If you want to know what that means, and how you can learn to
do the same thing, Google that article title and read it.

Final Words

I’ll end by noting that even though I made progress using the above, while in Nigeria, I knew I could make even better progress if I change my environment.

Eventually, I followed the creator’s guidance to relocate to Cotonou, on 1st April 2011, from where I have since taken my work to a whole new level – as can be seen on
my website and mini-sites on Excel-VB Software Development and Cost-Saving Farm Business Ideas/Solutions.

My message is therefore that while you’re still unable to move to your preferred environment, resolve to make the most of what you have, where you are, like I did. The Creator who observes you will eventually lead you to discover and seize the opportunity that you need, like he did for me!

PS: In a Bid to Save Money, My Kids Have Learnt to Service the Generator Themselves

One more thing.

This power supply problem, I must say, has added some indirect benefits to my family. And I feel a need to highlight it, just to remind the reader that adversity often has some equivalent benefit that once can reap – if YOU pay attention.

When you’ve experienced severe lack of money like I did in the past, you come to see money as it should be seen: a guest that should be treated properly, so it stays LONG with you.

And that means watching your expenses and being frugal at all times. This made me detest the need to pay to have our little generators serviced by the mostly unschooled mechanics we called in every 2 to 3 weeks.

Each time I watched them at work, it struck me that they were teenagers like my first son. That told me he could also learn to do what they did.

So, whenever I came home from Cotonou, I began challenging him and his siblings to watch the generator mechanics at work to learn how to do what they did.

I told them to pay close attention so they could do it themselves.

And I promised to give them at least half of the money that would be saved if we no longer had to call the mechanics in: THAT of course got their attention!

As of today, 25th August 2014, they have not called in those guys for routine servicing of the generator for over a month.

Instead, each time it shows signs of faltering, my kids – the 15 and 13 year old boys specifically – (as I shared in a past article) take the generator apart, clean up the various parts, then re couple and start it: ALL by themselves!

And it’s working well.The way I see it, that’s one useful benefit my kids have derived from this nuisance of poor power supply.

At least they now have a set of real world relevant skills to add to their oven-less cake backing etc – that can open doors for them in larger society in future.

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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to

Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organisations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organisations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name

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THEY WROTE…


“(Tayo Solagbade) is amazing and I think he is going to produce some impressive results online…” – click here to read full comment by Patrick Meninga (US based 6 figure income blogger who gained fame for building a $2,000 per month adsense website and selling it for $200,000).

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“Tayo, I honestly believe you are one of those who will succeed at anything he does. Your commitment and effort has been outstanding….Thanks for all your hard work since I’ve been here – you will be sorely missed. I don’t need to wish you good luck, you have the ability to make your own luck. – Andy”(R. Jones)*

*Operations Manager, Guinness Nigeria Plc Benin Brewery, December 2001 (Handwritten comments in farewell/xmas cards sent to Tayo Solagbade following his resignation to start his own business).

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To Succeed, Study and Persist in Creatively Emulating Authentic Achievers!

"There are no quick wins in business. It takes years to become an overnight success." – Richard Branson.

Since 2002, when I began offering unconventional Excel-VB (& other solutions) in Nigeria’s difficult socio-economic enviroment, I’ve grown my success by creatively applying ideas advocated by Richard Branson, and other authentic achievers.

Especially useful has been his "David vs Goliath" philosophy!

It gave me the confidence I needed to strike out on my own, with my unique brand of smartly priced, yet high profile products and services.

And it has repeatedly enabled me "out market" and "out perform" bigger rivals to win profitable clients/buyers…without needing to spend big. In fact at zero cost sometimes!

I must stress however, that the key to profiting by learning from those who have succeeded (like Branson), is to be willing to CREATIVELY adapt what you learn to suit what will often be your UNIQUE needs.

That is what I have done, and continue to successfully do – in both my personal and work lives. And I have ALREADY begun coaching my kids to emulate me.

"Focus on long-term progress, rather than rapid growth, and you’re more likely to go the distance." – Richard Branson

Learn more on the above theme from THE master himself – Sir Richard Branson in the article linked below titled "Business is an Endurance Race"

http://www.virgin.com/richard-branson/business-is-an-endurance-race

Below is an image flyer that announces the impending launch of a new range of information products I’ll be putting into the market based on the above.

Photo taken: Wednesday 23rd July 2014 outside a little cafe I periodically work from in Benin Republic’s Cotonou.

Photo: Tayo K. Solagbade - I took the above photo just after completing web marketing projects for 2 new clients in Cotonou: a 22 year old private university & a start-up multidisciplinary consulting firm.

I took the above photo just after completing web marketing projects for 2 new clients in Cotonou: a 22 year old private university & a start-up multidisciplinary consulting firm.

Then I checked myself into a hotel to finish off editing and proof reading my new book (Kukuru Danger™: get FREE 20 page PDF preview from here).

2 weeks later, on Thursday 7th August 2014, I arrived Lagos, in Nigeria, to – among other things (like spending time with my family) – fulfil orders placed by 2 Farm CEOs based in Portharcourt, for my Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator.

(Hint: They’d NOT wanted email download links sent to them, and instead paid for courier delivery of the DVD version. I help such buyers save over N6,000 in courier fees by crossing over to dispatch packages from Fedex or DHL offices in Lagos).

Since getting here in Lagos, I’ve continued working on a new Web Marketing System I’m building for an Ota-Ogun State based NGO client.

Soon, I’ll return to Cotonou…

It’s so EXCITING to be able to earn income regardless of my location!

I AM living my dream.

And I NOW offer to help YOU (& also YOUR kids) do the same!

This article, and the image flyer above are precursors to the launch of my Personal Achievement Coaching (PAC)™ Program’s “Learning Products” – STAY TUNED!

If you’d like to learn more about the program or wish to invite me to deliver it to your Parents Teachers Association, members of your School’s Administration Team, for students or other groups, click here to send me a message.

Acquire Self-Development skills. Create The Future You Want™ – www.tayosolagbade.com

Speaking & Acting With Self-Confidence Does NOT Make You Arrogant!

I’ve been accused of being arrogant several times – especially during my startup years. Some "critics" actually said MY arrogance was why I struggled in business back then. They told me to "humble" myself, so I could be "elevated". I laughed at such suggestions back then. And I still do today. Here’s why…

As a student of authentic success achievement, I have ALWAYS known that success achievement has little to do with such misguided sentiments!

Indeed, based on extensive reflection, I have come to realize people often said these things to me, because they were NOT comfortable with the self-assured manner I spoke about my intentions and achievements.

Here’s the answer I always gave (and still give!) to those who accused me in this manner – whether to my face, or behind my back: 

"I do not interprete speaking/acting self-confidently, the way I do, as arrogance. I speak/act that way because I KNOW who I am, and what I can do – if given a FAIR and IMPARTIAL opportunity, or what is called a LEVEL playing field, where there is no cheating (i.e. "Ojoro" or "Magomago"), or bad belle, or booby traps!"

Back when I was a high performing employee in Guinness, I routinely and repeatedly set numerous personal and work related goals, which I fearlessly told others about.

And in virtually all cases, though sometimes after repeated failures, I achieved ALL OF THEM.

How come? 

Well, it was mainly because I worked in an environment that was relatively (though not totally) devoid of devious manipulation by those with ulterior motives.

Back then, any biased, envious people, who thought I was "arrogant”, did not have the means or resources to throw logs in my paths.

Neither could they set booby traps that could have created an unfair and impartial atmosphere, which could have limited my ability to achieve.

And that was why the head of the Guinness brewery I worked in, who had known me for less than 12 months, came to believe so greatly in me.

So much so, that he made very positive & flattering comments verbally, and on paper about me during send-forth ceremonies, after I quit my job to go into business for myself.

Among others things, he wrote that he honestly believed I was "…one of those who will succeed at anything he does".

He also wrote that he did not need to wish me good luck because he believed I could create my own luck!"

Wow. I’m sure you will agree that he must have seen me achieve some impressive results, in spite of obstacles I faced, to make him so SURE about me!

Consider this: Mohammed Ali was not arrogant. He was self-confident about his abilities, and was NOT shy to say so to anyone, anywhere, at anytime.

Ali was not into the business of massaging egos! He always spoke his mind and without apology to anyone.

For this reason, the press nicknamed him the "Louisville lip".

But guess what?

Americans did not punish him for being himself.

Instead, they challenged him to PROVE himself, and provided a fair and impartial opportunity for him to do so. Today, he is a living legend, known and loved by many, the world over.

Every time I think of Nigeria’s Bash Ali, who has earned himself international laurels in boxing at an age when others have retired, I wonder what Nigerians are waiting to see before they can celebrate him.

On one occasion, when he appeared on TV, some individual phoned in to tell Bash Ali that he was "too arrogant; needed to humble himself; and should "give his life to Christ" etc.

I could not help asking:” What on earth was THAT about?!"

In Nigeria today, one has to endure exposure to all that negativity in order to still achieve one’s goals.

Nigeria is a country where all manner of "will-thwarting" wonders occur. As such you can only begin to imagine how daunting a challenge it is to live in it and try to excel without cutting corners!

ONLY my indomitable will, and hunger to achieve, helped me survive so many attempts made to "pull-me-down" over the decade I was based in Nigeria, as a self-employed professional.

I have had relatives set me up, and then withdraw from an agreed arrangement when they knew I was most vulnerable.

I have even had a client use my name (without my knowledge) in a manner that cast me in a negative light on the Internet.

It took me over 2 weeks to get him to remove the offending document after I discovered this abuse by accident, while surfing the net.

Yet, in spite of all the above, I have today established myself as a reliable service provider in my areas of entrepreneurial focus – and it shows in my constantly growing client base – and increasing client profiles!

I should add that my success has grown even faster in the last 17 months, following my decision to relocate to Benin Republic.

The irony of it all is however the fact that over 90% of my buyers/clients today are persons based in Nigeria, who readily send payment to me, without knowing me in person, or meeting me in the flesh!

In essence, my supposed "arrogance" has not stopped those who truly need the SOLUTIONS I offer from hiring, and paying me handsomely!

NB: This article is based on Tayo K. Solagbade’s original write-up which was first published online on 16 February 2010 via his 9 year old former primary domain name – www.spontaneousdevelopment.com.

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