Self-Devpt. Nuggets™

What are your thoughts towards your colleague in the office? That cocky rich guy who lives next door? Your cash strapped relative’s child living with you? What about your younger brother who happens to be doing better than everyone else – including you? Do you honestly wish them well?

What Happens Among Relatives?

Maybe you have a great job, or successful business that enables you send your kids to good schools.

Some people have relatives struggling to send their kids to school. In some cases, such relatives send the children to live with the more successful brother, sister, uncle or aunt.

Imagine the relative’s child begins to show promise in academics, sports or some other useful vocation, and an organisation indicates interest in awarding him/her a scholarship or grant.

They naturally send the child with their offer letter to the guardian – the more successful relative – with whom the child lives. Maybe there’s a deadline for the paper to be returned with approval signature.

However, for some strange reason, the paper never gets back to the organisation!

The successful relative “forgets” to sign and return it until the submission deadline passes. As a result the child loses that opportunity. Similar events like that re-occur, until the child in frustration – if s/he can find the courage – tells his/her teachers in school, and/or calls the parents.

Those found guilty of repeatedly doing the above often vehemently deny that it was deliberate.

Yet, they never forgot (or forget!) to sign similar documents for their own kids!

Strange isn’t it?

Could it possibly be that some affluent relatives desire to keep others – and their offspring – perpetually under? Possibly so they and their kids can be remain “superior” in the family?

Big question. Difficult to answer.

If you’re wondering, the scenario I just painted above is based on a real life occurrence. No, let me rephrase that: REAL LIFE occurrences… that I have personal knowledge of!

What About in the Workplace – Amongst Colleagues, and Superiors?

Imagine hearing through the corporate grapevine, that a direct report of yours is close being elevated to the same management level as you.

Then a week later you receive a 360 degree feedback form you’re to fill on that person. And there’s a note stating that your rating of him/her will strongly influence the final decision, given your respected status in the company/

What would you do? Especially if this is someone you agree is very good on the job, but you personally are not very fond of, because he doesn’t “respect” you enough?

Knowing the process guarantees your anonymity, how objectively would you complete that form?

Would you give the guy a fair and impartial rating, wishing him, in your heart, the best?

Once again, the above painted scenario is based on real life events that I am aware occurred.

People who smile with you can still be mean to you, if they fear you will equal or surpass them!

It’s Time to Rediscover How to Care For Others

Ever walked past an old woman or young child apparently terrified of crossing the busy road by him/herself?

What about driving past someone struggling – at night – to fix a car tyre in a deserted area?

Important Note: I must state this here. My experiences as one born and raised in Nigeria, indicate con artists, (even robbers!) often setup fake incidents to attract sympathisers they can rob. As a result, many compassionate Nigerians generally avoid helping under such situations. Unless they’re really sure!

Having said that, many other opportunities exist to care for others – some mentioned in this article.

What Are YOUR Thoughts Towards Others? (My Suggestion)

Whoever you meet or relate with, always wish them the best – and do what you humanly can, to help them – no matter how far ahead of you they end up as a result.

Do it, and nurse only pure thoughts towards such persons at all times, and you will be amazed by how massive goodwill will be channelled to you by the creator.

This philosophy has guided my thoughts and actions for over 2 decades. I am convinced it is responsible for advancements I continue to experience in my personal and work life.

And that’s despite many attempts by mean spirited others to pull me down!

You see, the creator always supports – and rewards – those who do what I’m proposing you do.

Why?

That’s because he wants us to look out for one another. As his creations we do his will, when we act like Him. And He is NOT mean!

This Russian Video Says It All!

Click here to watch touching examples of people in a society where caring for others is highly valued!

Watching it brought me close to tears. If you watch it, I’m sure you’ll also be touched…and changed!