Six Potentially Useful Measures of Your Blog’s Performance (Hint: Comments Vs. Five Others) – No. 3 of 4

This is the third post in the series I began on the 6th October 2012. The first post argued that you need to determine if your blog needs comments to succeed – instead of worrying about what others say. Note that I refer specifically to blogging for business purposes, with emphasis on earning income via sales of products and services.

The second post discussed five questions you can ask yourself, to decide if your blog type needs comments to succeed (especially in financial terms). Going by my personal experiences and observations, if you avoid needless sentiment, these questions WILL help you take the right decision.

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Blog Comments Multi-Post Series – Table of Contents

Post 1: Should You Worry About Getting Blog Comments?
Post 2: Deciding If Your Blog Needs Comments To Succeed (5 Questions To Ask Yourself)
Post 3: Hint: Comments Vs. Five Others)

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Why this series? There’s a lot of debate surrounding the value of comments. Many blog owners are not sure what to think or do as a result. This series offers ideas to help interested blog owners decide if their kind of blog needs (or does not need) comments to succeed – and steps to take in either case.

IntroductionWordPress Third Party Plugins

After you’ve decided on whether or not comments can help your blog succeed, you need a reliable means of measuring its "success". In this third post, I review six performance indicators that you can consider.

I love WordPress because of the elaborate array of third party plugins that developers continually create (in free and paid versions), to enhance its features and functions. The six potentially useful performance indicators I will be discussing can be easily monitored using nifty plugins available online from a variety of developers.

You just choose the one that suits your needs best. Be sure to check for compatibility with your WordPress blog version. Also make sure there are reliable reviews/ratings to indicate it delivers what it promises. And that the developer offers active support to address user problems – even if for a fee.

A visit to the WordPress plugins directory will get you started in your search. Note that in using any of the plugins mentioned in this post, you will be acting on your own conviction. Nothing I say here can be taken to be an endorsement or recommendation. Your due diligence is therefore advised and encouraged!

1. Comments

This multi-post series arose from a need to determine if the presence or absence of comments on a blog was a significant indication of performance in any way.

What answers did you settle on for the questions posed in my second post? It they indicate that comments provide a reliable measure of goals attainment for your blog, then you will want to track relevant comments related statistics over time.

For instance, number of comments per post would be a useful stat to track. Measuring the "quality" of comments would also be useful, where relevant. But the question of HOW to measure it would present a bit of a challenge! However, it’s up to you to find a way to do that, or develop relevant alternatives e.g.via a sticky comments plugin.

Plugins exist to record/report total comments and ratings per post, for instance. The more comments (and say the higher the number of facebook likes e.g. via a Facebook comments for wordpress plugin) – by readers – of the posts on your blog, the better the blog would be doing – in theory anyway. However, that could depend on whether you’ve already established that blog comments have a significant impact on your blog’s ability to succeed.

Many plugins exist for managing blog comments. A plugin that reports the Most Commented Posts can be useful to have. So would a Threaded Comments Numbering plugin.

2. Blog Traffic (Incl. Number of Returning Visitors and/or Hits Per Visitor)

Traffic to your blog should also be a useful performance measure. You can track and use it as a guide to decide what content type to produce more or less of, to move faster towards your goal.

Again plugins abound to automatically generate relevant stats for this parameter. The one I use comes pre-installed as a " Statistics" widget by default in WordPress. It displays a report panel on the side banner showing daily, weekly, monthly summaries; total posts and other stats. For now, this plugin serves my purpose. So, I do not see any reason why I should go hunting for any other.

Traffic stats can give you a decent impression of the progress (or otherwise) of your blog. It can also be useful to monitor stats for number of returning visitors which is used by the statistics widget I mentioned above to compute number of hits per visitor in a day, week or month. Returning visitors are a useful measure of your blog’s ability to build a loyal readership. The higher that value is, the better your blog is performing in this regard.

When I started with this new blog back in mid-June, I recall seeing about 50 visits per day – sometimes much less. Now I get as high as 490 to 800 per day.

(This is in spite (or even because?) of distinct Negative SEO activity I recently discovered to be targetted at this domain – more on this in a future post.)

I’ve also noticed that the nmber of views per post fluctuate based on the blog post topics. Indeed, I have found that most of the posts in which I told true stories quite often attract MUCH higher views than all the others.

This trend is replicated on my Public Speaking IDEAS blog – which happens not to be WordPress based. (It was recently the victim of a hacker attack, and I’m now planning to integrate its future content into this SD Nuggets blog, under the already existing "Public Speaking" category. More on that in the near future).

3. Bounce Rate and Number of Views Per Post

It’s great to see traffic. But you need to know what happens AFTER they get to your blog.

The "bounce rate" is a good measure. Estimates I’ve come across suggest that blogs generally have about 75% bounce rate – and that you can aim for 20% reductions by making effort to setup your blog and create content in a way that draws visitors in, so they do not exit from the same page they come in.

One thing on this: I like to drill down and analyze data trends, so as to make better sense of them. The blog type comes to play here again – in a powerful way. A news service blog is likely to maintain fairly high bounce rates even after it puts in measures to increase visitor time spent. And that’s because majority of people can follow a specific news headline, and once they’ve read it may not stay around to see what else there is to offer.

Some would. But a larger majority of web users are "click-happy" and often in a hurry to move on (or back) to others things they had their minds on BEFORE the news item caught their attention.

However, for other blog types, efforts to create interesting content that’s relevant to the post being read by the visitor can produce useful results. This blog for instance has benefitted from my installation of a plugin ( wp-category-posts-list plugin) early this week. That plugin now automatically displays a list of additional posts from the same category as the one being viewed by the visitor. This increases the chances that s/he will get drawn to read MORE of the other posts from the same category.

Over time, this is likely to produce a drop in bounce rate, and an increase in time spent on the blog per visitor.

The need to introduce this feature became apparent when I used hitsniffer. There was a distinct trend in which when I added consecutive posts from the same category, they seemed to get viewed in succession by visitors. On the other hand, when I posted one post per category in succession, visitors tended to leave from the same post that they arrived on.

The value to be had from tracking views per post are obvious. I actually consider this more important as a performance measure than traffic in a way. It tells you WHAT your visitors show a preference for in terms of your post topics, titles or themes.

That makes it easier for you to instantly see where they went in terms of posts viewed. Apart from a general interest in reading "stories" (no surprises there), I have also discovered a distinct interest shown by my visitors in subjects relating to handling clients or dealing with client issues.

I’ll be tracking the bounce rate and number of views per post over the next two weeks to see if there’s a marked improvement.

4. E-mail Subscription Rates and RSS Feed Size

These two parameters have to be monitored together. Again, it depends on your blog type. But generally it helps to provide an email subscription form on your blog. Offer latest update notifications to those who signup. Entice them to give up their email addresses in exchange for some useful gift e.g. an e-book that offers them good value.

NB: I’ve found the MaxBlogPress Optin Form Adder Widget to have amazing integration capabilities on my blog. It directly links a signup form to my website contact form script, while presenting my "offers" on every post/page (based on my specifications) to the visitor. All in pretty HTML format I have control over.

People like to stay in touch with developments on a blog that offers content they find appealing. They want to get more of that content. That will make them look around on your blog for the signup form or RSS feed link. Don’t make those tools hard to find!

You will gain subscribers over time. And you will definitely lose some via attrition. It’s a natural process that will happen – no matter how awesome you are. People will get bored or have a change of preference or interest, and choose to unsubscribe. What is important is that you keep generating new content to attract more subscribers than you lose. That way, your list grows.

And that list CAN be "mined" for useful financial returns later on. As I emphasized in the first post, that is the preferred measure of success I’m looking at in this series (I discuss this along with other ideas, next week, in my fourth and final post).

You need to keep in mind, that some visitors will however prefer to receive your content through the less intrusive RSS feed. As a result they might skip subscribing to your email list. That implies you will not gain access to their email in boxes. But they will receive your blog posts.

Feedburner offers useful variations to their default feed service that allow you to capture email addresses from your feed subscribers. You may wish to check it out.

Whatever happens, your best bet here will be to track stats for both email subscription (using a reliable mailing list management system) and RSS feed size (feedburner automatically generates this value for you).

Important Note: Beware of the danger of focussing on more obvious performance indicators to the exclusion of more subtle, yet equally, if not more powerful ones. I recall reading a list ranking top blogs in which some of those featured tended to have relatively unimpressive Alexa traffic stats .

This grossly understated the huge following they enjoyed in form of hundreds of thousands of RSS feed subscribers (some up to 500k!). Without access to this less obvious but very important latter measure of performance, a casual observer would have concluded those blogs were not doing as well as others boasting more impressive traffic stats (Subscriptions rank greater in terms of potential value compared to traffic).

5. Volume/Type Of Contact Form Enquiries

This can be a useful indicator of sales leads generation by your blog – depending on the content/subject of the enquiries, and of course the sender. But it’s relevance may also depend on what kind of blog you run (see the second post in this series). Sometimes your blog might attract persons offering to sell YOU a product or service, more often than it generates queries from potential buyers! That said, you should explore ways to make more of the latter happen, as often as possible.

One good way would be to include calls to action for as many of your products or services as may be relevant to each post a visitor reads. I have had noticeable jumps in web form enquiries whenever I’ve done this. And it’s a continuous process – with constant testing and tweaking required, until you arrive at an optimal rate of return.

I use the extremely flexible Contact Form 7 and it has served me quite well. It comes with a feature that enables you create fully customized forms, with ability to indentify the page they were submitted from. This guides you to measure the leads generation capacity of the different pages on your blog that you place the form. That way, you know what works and can then work towards getting better results.

Fourth and Final Post: Using Your Blog To Make Money – Little Used Strategies You Can Exploit – Coming on Saturday 27th October 2012

Blog Comments Multi-Post Series – Table of Contents

Post 1: Should You Worry About Getting Blog Comments?
Post 2: Deciding If Your Blog Needs Comments To Succeed (5 Questions To Ask Yourself)
Post 3: Six Potentially Useful Measures of Your Blog’s Performance (Hint: Comments Vs. Five Others)

Post 4(Final): Using Your Blog To Make Money – Little Used Strategies You Can Exploit

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Your Kids Need Teacher-Educators, NOT Teacher-Dictators (10 Distinguishing Traits)

This write-up discusses distinguishing attributes of a "Teacher-Dictator" (aka Traditional "Old School" Style Teacher) – as compared to those of a "Teacher-Educator". I also explain why (among other things) a person involved in teaching in today’s world needs to be challenged, to exhibit more "Teacher-Educator" traits. This latter style empower learners to apply what they learn via formal schooling.to productive purposes in their personal lives and the larger society.

(Published Online: 20th July 2007)

Preamble

I am strongly convinced that every parent needs to emphasize – for their kids – acquisition of knowledge/skills, alongside academic ability. Doing so will enhance the child’s ability to succeed in the real world.

In previous years, traditional educational institutions (mainly geared towards feeding industries with employees), had teachers concentrate on "moulding" learners to meet employers’ requirements. Teaching methods were generally rigid and rote learning was emphasized – with dire consequences for learners who did not have the "stomach" for it.

One notable example which proved the inefficacy of that approach was Albert Einstein. His failure to learn competently via memorization made teachers call him "dull-witted". How ironic – in retrospect – considering that today, the same person is regarded as one of the greatest minds that ever lived!

Incidentally, Einstein himself did have a few things to say about the "Old School" teaching method. Reports have it that once, when asked the question “What is the speed of sound?” by a reporter, Einstein replied: “I don’t know. I don’t carry information in my mind that is readily available in books”.

That answer, in my opinion, effectively makes the case for exploration/use of other learning methods outside rote memorization etc.

Some Of Today’s Teachers Still Use "Old School" Methods

Thankfully, over the years educationists gradually realized that the instincts of learners needed to be allowed to play a more influential/leading role in the learning process. Schools consequently adopted new approaches (like Montessori etc), which allowed children the freedom to explore and learn by discovery, experimentation through play etc. This change in approach has generally resulted in longer lasting and qualitative learning experiences.

However, despite all the progress that has been made, some (presumably) modern day teachers continue to employ obsolete and inefficient teaching methods from the past. In the process, their learners are being short-changed on a daily basis.

The difference between old, traditional methods and the modern approaches being advocated has to do mainly with the style of teaching employed by the teacher. To put it another way, the type of teacher determines the type of teaching/learning situation that is created.

Differentiating Between A "Teacher-Educator" And A "Teacher-Dictator"

In my assessment, the foregoing make it important to identify the characteristics of the two main types of "teachers’" I have referred to. That will guide parents and even teachers to ensure the right teaching behaviour is employed at all times. It will ultimately help to create the right learning situation, thereby producing the desired learning output.

Below, I offer bullet point descriptions of what I consider distinguishing attributes of the "Teacher-Dictator" (or Traditional Old School Style Teacher). Each of those attributes is then compared to those of the modern teacher who I like to call a "Teacher-Educator".

Important: Please note that even though I have used these two broad categories/groupings of teacher "types", in real-life there will be cases of individuals who exhibit traits from both sides of the divide. What is essential is that a person involved in teaching in today’s world be encouraged, to strive to exhibit more "Teacher-Educator" traits. Doing so, has greater potential to empower learners to derive life-long benefits from their formal learning experiences.

The "Old School" Style "Teacher-Dictator" The 21st Century "Teacher-Educator"
1. Very often TELLS (but seldom SHOWS practically) the learner how to do something. 1. Frequently helps the learner to "Learn By Discovery" (guiding by example as necessary). Encourages use of natural learning instincts.
2. Is often more concerned about presenting him/herself as the final authority/source of knowledge to the learners. 2. Typically offers him/herself as a guide/coach/mentor who will point out possible directions for the learner to follow on the path to self-discovery.
3. Frequently inadvertently makes (or wants!) leaner to remain dependent on him/her. 3. Will be “popular” for empowering learners to be independent in thinking/actions from him/her.
4. Sometimes recycles teaching aids/materials used, to the point that learners sometimes correctly predict likely “content” to be delivered. 4. Continually exploring new areas of thinking/development as they occur, with a view to discovering better ways to achieve the results desired by his/her learners. There’s always something new/refreshing to learn from him/her.
5. Not inclined towards formal self-development efforts to improve his/her competence. Often feels what s/he already knows will always be more than enough for the learners. 5. Vigorously pursues Self-Development opportunities to acquire new/useful additional KAS (i.e. Knowledge, Attitudes & Skills) to deliver better value to learners.
6. Often more concerned about being part of a teacher-group, and expressing similar ideas to its members. 6. Values his/her independence in deciding what to do to help the learners – even as s/he abides by set rules/seeks input from colleagues to improve quality of learning delivered. Places emphasis on freedom to express his/her own ideas/convictions, and pursue them.
7. Often not comfortable with learners who demonstrate keen desire to explore beyond what s/he has taught or is prepared to teach. 7. Derives great satisfaction from seeing learners demonstrate improved competence based on “discovered” learning achieved via self-directed efforts in their spare time.
8. Tends to emphasis theoretical concepts and classroom based situations. Spares little thought for showing learners how the what they learn can be usefully applied in the real world. 8. Keen to make learning real-world relevant. Helps learners relate knowledge acquired to its application in the real world (E.g. What can we use an understanding of compound interest for in life? How does the nitrogen cycle sustain aquatic life?). This way, learners are better prepared to apply their knowledge PROFITABLY to productive purposes in life.
9. Generally believes that his/her job ends in the classroom and that whatever the learners do outside of it is unlikely to require his/her attention or action. 9. Demonstrates passion for “educating” others around (colleagues, parents etc) about how they can contribute to improving the learning experience for his/her pupils/students etc.
10. Products(learners) turned out often display undue penchant for “rote” learning, with seeming aversion for independent self-expression, and creative thinking. 10. Products(learners) turned out tend to be creative, and independent-minded thinkers – often expressing original ideas with passion, and pursuing self-improvement with enthusiasm.

Summary

Decision makers in educational institutions – especially those engaged in provision of early education for young children – must ensure their teachers employ the "Teacher-Educator" style as frequently as possible, if not at all times. The benefits (outlined above) accruable to the children, and the school itself (in terms of quality of learning performances the kids deliver ) strongly suggest there is wisdom in doing this.

Parents will also want to regularly discuss "school/class work" with their kids. They could even interact with their kids’ teachers to get a feel for the teaching style favoured by the latter. If necessary, they could then gently request needed modifications in the teacher’s approach. Or they could work with the kids back at home to make up for any shortcomings they identify.

Learning experiences should be made as pleasurable/rewarding as possible for our kids. When they find joy in learning, their desire to continually seek new learning as they grow into adulthood will never diminish. As a result, they will be able to develop their full potential over time to the ultimate benefit of the larger society.

FINAL WORDS: It goes without saying that all I have advocated in this write-up is my personal opinion. You would therefore be well advised to seek the counsel of competent persons in deciding what line of action to pursue. Having said that, let me add that I practise what I have preached above, with my own kids. And I have useful results to show for it.

Summary

Decision makers in educational institutions – especially those engaged in provision of early education for young children – must ensure their teachers employ the "Teacher-Educator" style as frequently as possible, if not at all times. The benefits (outlined above) accruable to the children, and the school itself (in terms of quality of learning performances the kids deliver ) strongly suggest there is wisdom in doing this.

Parents will also want to regularly discuss "school/class work" with their kids. They could even interact with their kids’ teachers to get a feel for the teaching style favoured by the latter. If necessary, they could then gently request needed modifications in the teacher’s approach. Or they could work with the kids back at home to make up for any shortcomings they identify.

Learning experiences should be made as pleasurable/rewarding as possible for our kids. When they find joy in learning, their desire to continually seek new learning as they grow into adulthood will never diminish. As a result, they will be able to develop their full potential over time to the ultimate benefit of the larger society.

FINAL WORDS: It goes without saying that all I have advocated in this write-up is my personal opinion. You would therefore be well advised to seek the counsel of competent persons in deciding what line of action to pursue. Having said that, let me add that I practise what I have preached above, with my own kids. And I have useful results to show for it.

How To Turn A Major Blunder At Work Into A Career Advancement Opportunity

Quick Take Away

Have you ever made a mistake that cost your employer, and/or co-workers loss of valuable time, effort or even money? How did you get over it? If it has never happened to you, have you considered what could happen if it did? How you would feel? Would you be able to muster the courage to carry on? Especially if others openly blame or castigate you for costing them so much? This post describes a real-life experience of early failure I had as a 25 year old rookie brewer on my very first night shift. My mistake caused an entire workforce of men, in two large departments, to end up sitting idly with nothing to do for more than half of a night shift. This resulted in the factory’s inability to meet an important weekend volume output target. The story however ends – on a good note – with an account of how I later developed a permanent solution that benefitted the entire team – and earned me positive recognition!

Background – Obsolete Work Methods Are A Turn Off

As a Trainee Brewer, I went through that harrowing experience on my first night shift as Brewer On Duty. I made a costly calculation error in passing instructions for mixing beer to the neighbouring packaging deparment’s bottling hall. Before going solo, I had been attached to senior, more experienced brewers. They had coached me on managing the workforce, and taught me how to do the various calculations for blending beer.

During my training I had been particularly uncomfortable with the older brewers use of hand held calculators. They used them in computing weighted averages for as many as nine(9) beer parameters for each bottling tank to be blended. It was not uncommon to see a duty brewer punching furiously at a calculator while the operator waited. Within a few minutes, the brewer would announce quantities of beer and other additives to be used for filling the next bottling tank.

There were times when to correct some poor beer parameters, we had to blend mature beer from up to four different storage vessels into one bottling tank. This was done to produce beer with the right parameters for bottling. Can you just imagine what it must have been like using a calculator to compute weighted averages for parameters of four (4) different volumes of beer to get one set of nine(9) parameters for a bottling tank? Pure drudgery I tell you!

What I found most difficult to accept was the fact that the brewers’ had a desktop PC with Lotus 1-2-3 spreadsheet on it. And yet they kept using the calculator for this very complex task! To be fair to them however, very rarely did any of them make the kind of error I eventually did in their calculations. I guess that was because they had become very good at it over time.

For rookies like me however, the learning curve was simply too(needlessly I thought) steep. And the entire routine too prone to avoidable errors. I did not like that one bit. I also knew I could never get used to working that way especially when a spreadsheet offering better value was in the PC on my desk!

How The Mistake Happened

So, I made a mental note to explore using the spreadsheet to compute beer blending and make up volumes whenever I was on duty. But for that first night shift, since I was just starting, I settled for the calculator – a decision I would later seriously regret.

Here’s what happened. That day, after reading the handover notes, I knew it was going to be a long night. My department(Brewing) had been struggling to keep up with the bottling lines which had been enjoying smooth operations since the start of the day. We had only one full tank of beer left, which was already being blended to two bottling lines at the same time. I checked the combined speeds of the lines, and estimated that it would take them another hour and a half to empty it. If I was to avoid a beer outage, I would have to ensure I got another full tank into the bottling hall before that time.

Unfortunately, we did not have comfortable stocks of matured beer – with good parameters – ready for blending. This was mainly because the centrifuges had been acting up, failing to stop yeast from getting into the filtered beer. To cut the long story short, I managed to send two half tanks of beer to packaging. That should have bought us enough time to send another full tank in within 2 hours.

But alas, it was not to be! By the time the laboratory analysis came out, the beer color turned out excessively high for both half-tanks – way beyond what the company specifications permitted for bottling. I was devastated, but nothing could be done at this stage, other than to watch the two bottling lines run out the remaining beer from the last tank!

Trying To Make Sense Of It All

The beer outage lasted over four hours. It was painful – and embarrassing – to see the idle men and machines waiting all night for me to get a new stock of beer for them to continue the work they were paid to do! Just before my shift ended the next morning, I was able to send one full tank to packaging so bottling resumed as the morning duty brewer took over. By then however, the damage had been done. My inability to keep the lines going had meant the brewery’s chances of meeting the bottling volume target for the week had been severely jeopardized. I shuddered at the thought of what my boss would say. He had specifically told me to ensure we did not run out of beer. I felt very bad for having let him down.

Downcast but still puzzled as to what could have led to such gross miscalculation on my part, I went back to the brewers’ office and checked the paper I had used for my calculations again. That was when I noticed the error I made in computing the amount of Guinness extract to be added to the beer. In my rush to supply the needed figures to the operator, I had inadvertently punched in a wrong volume of mature beer to be added. That was what resulted in the calculator returning a much larger volume of Stout flavouring extract than required.

As soon as I realized this, I could not help wondering if I had used a spreadsheet, the mistake would have been avoided. I would have had a better chance of discovering my error earlier!

Deciding To Develop A Permanent Solution For Myself To PREVENT A Future Occurrence

There and then I made up my mind to develop a spreadsheet that would enable me accurately and reliably calculate needed make-up volumes for beer, and additives blending whenever I was on duty. Over the next two night shifts, I began building a Lotus spreadsheet for my calculations. Gradually modifying it to accommodate every possible scenario I could anticipate – including documented occurrences I had been told about by my senior colleagues.

Eventually, after about a month, my spreadsheet had become a close companion that helped me safely plan for accurate beer blending for bottling whenever I was on duty. I never bothered to tell anyone about it because as I said earlier, my senior colleagues were mostly quite comfortable using the calculator. Also, a few had scoffed at the idea. They doubted it was possible to convert the calculator dependent computations to PC spreadsheet based format as I had proposed when I first joined them. So I thought it would be easier and better to simply use it for myself.

My “Personal” Solution Is Formally Adopted By The Department

As fate would have it however, my boss one day walked into the office and saw me using the spreadsheet, which I had named “Beer Racking Projection Table”(“Racking” being a term describing beer make-up and transfer from the storage/maturation area into bottling tanks). He asked me what I was doing with the spreadsheet. I demonstrated how it worked – including how close(to +/- 2 units) the computed final results it gave often were to those the laboratory returned by their analysis of the blended tank. I had actually been carefully collating the results from the lab and comparing them with the spreadsheet’s computed parameters for each bottling tank that was filled. The high degree of positive correlation between the computer and lab results was glaring.

That benefit, in addition to over 90% reduction in time taken to do weighted average calculations for beer blended to packaging (and increased flexibility in choice and number of storage vessels used for blending) instantly appealed to my boss. Suddenly, it became obvious that brewers could safely dispense with the exclusive use of calculators for this task. All 9 parameters for blending of up to 4 mature beer tanks could be seen at once in my application’s printable on-screen (projection results table) format. Necessary adjustments in volumes of beer, additives etc could also be easily made to achieve the desired final beer parameter specifications.

At the next departmental meeting, my boss announced the existence of the spreadsheet and asked me to put all other brewers through on how to use it. From then on, the entire department formally adopted the Racking Projection Table.

If I Had NOT Made That Mistake, I May Never Have Been Driven To Develop That Solution!

But if you recall how I began this story, it was a very unpleasant first attempt at doing my job the way it had always been done by those who taught me to do it, that led me to find a better

way of doing it myself. If I had simply given up I would never have come up with that valuable solution. The moral here is:

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“It’s not what happens to you that’s important. It’s how you deal with it” – Anon

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People may say “I told you so” or laugh at you etc. Yes, you may have made a mistake. Maybe you were overconfident. The important thing is not that you have now fallen. No. What should matter to you is what you get out of the experience. Do you know more to be able to do better next time? If your answer is “Yes”, then you have absolutely nothing to worry about.

Failure Is A Shrewd Instructor…Listen To It, And You’ll Be Better Off!

If you listen carefully to your intution, there is always a lesson to be had from every setback, disappointment, or failure you have. And that’s why, you must never let yourself lose courage when you make mistakes, or fail at anything you do at work – or indeed in any area of your personal life.

No matter how sensational your failure or mistake is, you can pick yourself back up, and try again, more intelligently of course, till you succeed. Let them laugh if they want – it would not be the first time people who eventually achieve phenomenal success get laughed at before they succeed!

There is a part of the lyrics of England’s Manchester United Football club’s marching song(“Stand Up For The Champion”) that I love so much. It goes thus: “When I fall down, I have to pick myself back up(2ce)”.

It does not say “If I fall down”. It says “When I fall down ”. Periodic setbacks are inevitable, but when a true champion falls, she picks herself up and tries again, and again – and never stops trying (making intelligent modifications to her efforts as she persists) – UNTIL she succeeds!

Final Words: A Formula You Can Use To Recover From Failure or Setbacks

Too many people are afraid of failing or making mistakes. They think it is better to play safe by not taking any risks. What they fail to realize is that they deprive themselves of the opportunity to “grow” by their unwillingness to venture beyond the realms of what they already know, or are comfortable with. They remain in their “comfort zones”, and by so doing miss out on valuable learning opportunities.

“I have made mistakes, but I have never made the mistake of claiming I never made one”

– James Gordon Bennett (1841 – 1918) Journalist

There is a saying that “you have not failed until you give up trying to succeed”. In life, there will be times when things do not happen in the way we plan for them to. Sometimes, it may be our fault, and other times, it might be difficult to even determine the cause. What is most important however, is that we carefully analyse what happened and decide on a solution that will enable us prevent a re-occurrence in the future.

In the story narrated above, I applied a simple formula I developed in developing the solution that eventually redeemed me. This formula can be applied in any situation (be it the workplace or out of paid employment).

Here it is: W x R(to the power of 3) i.e. Withdraw, Reflect, Refocus and Return. Let’s take them one at a time:

Withdraw – Step away. Take a break – maybe a stroll to a quiet place where you can free your mind from the potential worries about the problem. Alternatively, relax your mind by reading a book or doing something else that has little to do with the problem that occurred.

Reflect – Analyse what happened and try to establish what went wrong to cause your failure. You will need to be honest with yourself here. (Maybe a close associate or confidant might come in useful to help inject some objectivity into the analysis. Note that I said “Maybe”). At the end of this process you should have identified (possibly written out) specific aspects of your failed plan most likely to have caused the problem.

Re-focus – Here you will take the findings from the Reflect stage and use them to decide on modifications that will be needed to make your plan work when next you try to achieve your goal. Again, here the benefit of input from other “trusted” persons(close associates who share your vision, and sincerely empathise with you) could be explored. Just make sure that those you invite (as Napoleon Hill warned) are people who DO NOT take defeat or failure seriously. You should end this stage with a clear idea of what you need to do differently or better when next you try out your plan.

Return – You take your modified plan back to the real world and try again to use it to achieve your cherished goal!

IMPORTANT NOTE: Now, in all likelihood, as has been my personal experience, this entire process can happen within a very short period(hours, minutes or seconds even). That would depend on what the problem is, and how much experience you’ve had with it previously. Or the nature of circumstances under which it has happened. As such, I expect that if at all you decide to use the formula, you will adapt the above elements to suit your needs in planning how you may deal with setbacks that come your way when they do occur.

Why Do YOU Do What You Do?

(Personal Philosophy paper – originally written/e-published on 2nd March 2003 by Tayo Solagbade – Founder SDAc)

As can be seen from the above, this was written over nine years ago. I remain as committed to the ideals outlined below, as I was back in 2003. To me, that’s an indication that I’m on the right path.

The personal growth and fulfillment I have benefitted as result has been invaluable. Every person who wishes to achieve his/her full potential as a human being, will find it useful to prepare a personal philisophy statement of this kind.

And that’s why,. at the end, I ask : Why do YOU do what you do?

Those who accept the need to seek assistance from successful persons, and/or be religious in order to achieve success, in my opinion sometimes tend to assume that’s ALL they need to do. Which is why they neglect to do the most crucial thing necessary to achieve the success they so fervently desire. They fail to take personal action !

Too many people think all they need to do is DESIRE success and express that desire to anyone they believe can help them, who will then help them! Maybe it happens that way at times, but it won’t be often!

My objective is to show people how they can apply tested and proven SD principles to achieve their personal goals in life.

I hope to help them realize they can do more for themselves than they currently believe. All it takes is for them to STOP being fatalistic and LEARN to accept life’s challenges as pre-requisite for achievement of their set goals.

I have chosen this approach because I found that methods employed by many others to effect socio-cultural change in Nigeria/Africa have not really worked well.

I have chosen NOT to be a Social Critic or commentator because even after criticizing or commenting, one will suggest alternatives, which then have to be implemented by others (or with the cooperation of others).

The problem with that method is that any resultant plans could be easily frustrated via bureaucratic processes, and other extraneous influences prevalent in our developing societies etc.

I have chosen to be a Social Change Agent who advocates, and propagates, Self-Development Education (SDE). I strongly believe SDE can stimulate people to take PERSONAL ACTION to create changes that enable them achieve their personal goals consistently and repeatedly.

Spontaneous Coaching™ Makes It Possible

The technique I use (Spontaneous Coaching™) ensures that I can carry on – day and night – preaching SDE wherever I go, with or without the cooperation of decision makers or “authorities”.

How?

Through influencing others by my actions and also by sharing my thoughts, ideas, failures and successes (some people wrongly interprete this as an attempt to boast or show off).

I developed this concept myself, and have used it successfully for over 10 years. I have testimonials from many individuals confirming how I helped them greatly, using this method.

People with mental attitudes that enable them take control of what happens to them daily, are unlikely to be seriously (if at all) affected by vagaries of their country’s socio-economic circumstances.

They are more likely to make the best of them, rather than fall apart.

It is my conviction that knowing how to ADAPT to inevitable changes that could make your survival skills obsolete, is of crucial importance(SDE will equip anyone with the requisite preparation to do the foregoing).

The Solution To Unemployment

For example, graduates unemployment statistics would drop if they acquired income-generating skills while still in university! SDE if started early, will get young Nigerians/Africans thinking about ALTERNATIVES to traditional employment much earlier on in their lives.

The Self-Development Academy for instance aims to expose them to low startup capital vocations they could venture into, and even facilitate “entry” for those of them who indicate interest.

The foregoing is one of my motivations for being a Muiltpreneur. To succeed more frequently, one needs a multiple-career strategy.

Acquisition of a variety of skills to generate income and capture opportunities in today’s fast-changing marketplace will boost one’s chances of achieving prosperity and fulfillment independent of economic fluctuations.

This concept has been used in developed societies since the early 90s. My article titled “How To Be A Jack Of Many Trades™, And Why It Can Make You Succeed More Often” elaborates on how anyone with the necessary interest and motivation can successfully adopt it for use wherever s/he is.

I should add though, that it can be more difficult in some societies than others. And you’ll be tested the limits of your endurance in places where merit may not readily be recognized.

As explained in Tom Gorman’s book on “Multipreneuring”, one can develop multiple sources of income and pursue multiple careers( in paid, or self-employment).

A key suggestion made in the book, is for the individual to continually acquire new learning, and also take advantage of opportunities that appear in the market place as they become apparent.

I successfully employed this technique while in paid employment for seven(7) years, and earned significantly rapid career advancement ahead of people with higher qualifications, and years on the job.

My earlier mentioned article on Multipreneuring gives details. This is what I want to share with other young (and not so young) people in Nigeria/Africa – and beyond. They can also achieve similar successes by diligently practicing Self-Development . All that is required is adoption of the required mental attitude.

Sadly, many people are instantly biased against anyone who ventures into multiple vocations. They belong to the “traditional school”, which insists a person must specialize. Such sentiments betray a scary lack of exposure to 21st century trends in skills acquisition now crucial for successful as opposed to existential living.

Success Through Versatility

Robert Kiyosaki advocates becoming a generalist first, before specializing. Herman Holtz, the late legendary Consultant’s Consultant, acknowledged that certain individuals can find success through their versatility(learn more about his interesting revelations in my article on Multipreneuring).

I have frequently suffered discrimination because I “wear many hats”. In my former workplace, it initially earned me criticisms, but later got me recognition and career advancement opportunities because my versatility became an asset to every team I worked in! Since I became an entrepreneur, the story has been the same.

Some people erroneously think that their “schooling” will be adequate to cater for them through life. Technology has made that a thing of the past.

Today, without diligent practice of Self-Education, one stands a chance of becoming suddenly obsolete or extinct – virtually overnight!

In summary, my message is that through SDE, ANYONE can be empowered to become the best s/he can possibly be in life. Maybe I won’t change the world. But for those few people who will appreciate it, I certainly intend to try!

What about YOU? Why do you do what you do?

The Internet’s Role In My Approach To Self-Development Education

The method I employ in my work on Self-Development Education is multifaceted and continually evolving. I believe this is the only way to stay relevant in the face of rapid changes in the business of people development and empowerment. I consult old/new literature alike, modifying concepts, ideas etc (where necessary) to what I believe suits the present. I also draw heavily from my personal experiences (and those of others I know to be authentic) as it relates to the practice of self-development – and it’s teaching.

I have found the Internet to be a particularly invaluable resource, for staying on the cutting edge of developments in virtually ANY area of endeavour I have had to explore in my pursuit of Self-Development/Self-Development Education.

Video recordings/film shows etc may sometimes be limited in content/scope, and could become obsolete over time. The Internet however, by its very nature, cannot become obsolete – because it readily lends itself to TIMELY updates from every part of the world. For instance, the contents of a website can be changed within minutes to reflect the most recent developments in a particular area of interest on earth!

Therefore, in my opinion, to successfully embark on Self-Development/ Self-Development Education in the 21st century and beyond, WE must harness the immense opportunities offered by the Internet in a way that will ENABLE us (and those who learn from us), grow and develop more successfully.

T.K. SOLAGBADE
(Excerpted from text of presentation delivered – on 25th September 2002 – at Center for Management Development titled “Self-Development As A Tool for Achieving Career Advancement“)

Should You Write With A Target Audience In Mind?

If you do any writing towards earning your living, this question is probably one that you’ve had to contend with. There is no one size fits all answer to it. Read this post for ideas to help you find YOUR answer.

For this discussion, I have chosen to view writers in two groups: (a). Those who sell their writing skills directly for a fee and (b). Those who write to promote their businesses i.e. they do not get hired to write for a fee. Instead they use their writing as a cost-effective strategy to promote products and services to people who need them.

Both groups write to earn a living (directly or indirectly) – and are therefore entrepreneurs.


A Writer’s Readers May Come from Widely Differing Fields

Take a quick tour of the comments section of a popular writer’s blog. Click on hyperlinked names of any number of those whose comments appear, to visit their websites.

You’ll discover these individuals come from widely differing backgrounds. And sometimes only a few would be involved in the same line of work as the blog owner.

In other words, your writing can attract readership from any conscious thinking adult, whose interests intersect with the subject or topic of your write-up.


Of What Use Is A Target Audience Profile Then?

The logical question to ask is this: In light of the above, does it make sense at all to write with a particular audience in mind as target?

I believe that to some extent it still does. Here’s why:

While developing and implementing web marketing systems, I have had to write website content and do article marketing for clients. Their different fields included real estate, interior design, hearing improvement, hospitality, training and development and others.

This experience is what makes me appreciate the difference between people who fall into group “b” (e.g. my clients), and conventional writers who mostly belong in group “a”.

It goes without saying that some writers fall into both groups (like me).

Writers in group “a” may not need target audience profiling to succeed. All they need do is show they can research and write useful material for use by those who hire them.

Conventional Business Owners Who Write, Should Use a Target Audience Profile

 

For writers who fall into group “b”, defining a target audience profile can improve their ability to attract those who need their business’ products and services. I would however suggest that the profile only be used to guide their writing – and not restrict it.

Like I mentioned earlier, I also help brick and mortar business owners learn to use writing as a marketing tool i.e. to work as group “b” type writers.

Looking back, I recall frequently having to “remind” clients that their potential clients will often be everyday people, with no interest in technical jargon.

Such people are likely to come looking for answers to questions they have, or solutions to problems they are faced with. (How often do you think an audiologist can get visited by another audiologist as a patient needing hearing rehabilitation? That would be the exception – not the norm!)

To me, this is what makes it important for this second group to write with a target audience in mind. If you belong here, there is a greater need to tailor the message in your write-ups to appeal to people who may be in need of solutions that you “sell”.

Summary

 

Regardless of what group you belong, you can write using a variety of techniques, weaving in personal stories and illustrations.

But if you belong in group “b”, add calls to action, and make “offers” at relevant points in the body of your writing, or in your byline, to generate pre-qualified sales leads. Your writing will rarely be for pure entertainment or just information.

Writers belonging to group “a” may not have to worry about doing that often – or at all. Many will get new writing jobs via referrals, through the quality of writing they display on their blogs etc. This is probably why some tend to be more laid back in their use of the byline.

And those who belong to both groups typically sell their writing skills, as well as information products created by them or by affiliates. That’s in addition to services like training, coaching, mentoring or consulting. To do this, they have to write sales copy on their blogs, mixed with calls to action and promotional offers.

So, now that you’re here, what’s YOUR answer? Do you think you need to write with a target audience in mind?

Wine Making…& Your Speaking Proficiency

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Date: Monday 15th October 2012

No: 59

Title: Wine Making…& Your Speaking Proficiency

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No. 59: Wine Making…& Your Speaking Proficiency

The wine making process is one that intrigues me a lot. It all began when I got my first job, 18 years ago, as a trainee sales coordinator in a wine manufacturing SME in Lagos.

This was five months after completing my compulsory one year of National Youth Service (NYSC)*: I served as a Math/Physics teacher in two secondary schools in a remote Niger state village that wasn’t connected to the national grid. In other words, I NEVER saw public power supply all through my stay there :-)

 

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By way of interest, I developed my passion for coaching kids (and parenting) during that period, when I found that many of the students struggled with certain basic principles. This made me employ multiple approaches to presenting information to them, to facilitate their understanding.

Recently, I was able to put that experience to use for the benefit of my own kids in tackling challenges I discovered they had with Math. If you’re a parent, read my new SD Nuggets post titled “Is Your Child Silently Screaming for Help?” It provides insights into my methods, which you may wish to adapt for your kids.

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Back To Wine Making As It Relates To A Speaker’s Development Of Proficiency…

The wine making process is fairly similar to beer making – both involve brewing and fermenting at start. But in the later stages things get done differently to the processed raw materials (e.g. fermented wort) to produce beers, wines, spirits.

Now that I look back, it actually feels like I was destined to work in the brewing industry! I say this because only three months after joining the wine company, I scaled tests, and selection board interviews to win a place as one of twelve new Graduate Management Trainees in Guinness Nigeria (1994). And a few weeks later, I commenced my induction as a trainee brewer.

My exposure to world class brewing/manufacturing took what I’d learned in the wine maker to a whole new level. But one trend remained: similar preliminary processing eventually differed depending on final product type being aimed at.

For instance, the more refined the product had to be, the longer the processing tended to take: Stouts take relatively shorter time to brew, ferment, filter and mature, compared to Lagers.

And the handling requirements for the latter are more stringent because of it’s very delicate nature – clarity in glass is a cherished quality indicator for instance, which the slightest error can damage irreparably. Unlike stout which can tolerate “rougher treatment” with less severe consequences.

However, when it comes to wine making, age is one word that means a lot to the quality of the finished products.

You may have heard the saying that “wine tastes better with age”. Or that “old wine tastes better”.

Those are not unfounded assertions.

Once the initial processing has been done right, the best wine makers all over the world do not take their cold storage cellar management processes lightly.

The conditions under which young wine is left to mature, are crucial to it’s development of the taste that wine lovers appreciate. And that will determine the rating they accord it.

Your Audience Will Be Your Connoisseurs

And you can be sure some of them will be skilled at evaluating speaker performance. Such individuals will probably get asked by the meeting planner to rate you, in comparison with other speakers. That could determine whether or not you get called back, or considered for other events in future.

So, how proficient are you currently at speaking? You may know your stuff well.

But can you speak engagingly on your subject to audiences who want to hear you, without boring, alienating or intimidating them with your expertise? Or with awkward mannerisms, stiff deliver etc?

Let’s say an expert on surgery has to deliver a talk to young school athletes and their parents, on how to boost recovery following post-injury surgery. He’ll want to avoid technical medical jargon, and probably employ more stories and analogies to pass his message across effectively.

That’s not something everyone finds easy. People try. But nature can be stubborn. That’s when we get zoned out in our passion for our subject, and by the time we’re done, it’s too late: we would have lost the audience!

(This is why it sometimes helps to find a coach or mentor to provide guidance and support)

I can relate to the above in a way. Audience feedbacks on forms I give out indicate that I sometimes speak too fast for a few of my listeners to follow.

And it’s not just them: the first day I spoke with Burt Dubin on phone, he started by saying “Tayo, slow down, slow down, so I can hear you clearly…!”

I’ve therefore been practicing speaking slower without sounding stiff or unnatural. While reading, I also discovered from articles by Burt Dubin, and Communispond that PAUSES can be powerfully used to improve delivery and audience comprehension. So, I plan to incorporate that into my delivery as well.

Final Words: Baby Steps Can Be Better!

Note here that my wine analogy does not imply you need years (like some wines are aged) to “refine” your speaking proficiency!

What I’m saying instead, is that the changes you make may not produce results overnight.

However (and this is where the wine analogy is most relevant), you MUST maintain the right conditions (mental and action-wise) needed to bring about the results you want, for as long as it takes!

It was Abe Lincoln who said “I may be slow, but I never walk backwards”.

I often advocate taking baby steps as against trying to make quantum leaps – especially when reaching your goal requires sustained effort. That can usually not be hurried.

Taking baby steps can pay off better, because it slows you down enough to ensure you internalize essential lessons. Those lessons will help you manage successes that will come from becoming a better speaker, IF you do not quit.

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Are You Setting Up Your Child To Fail? (Read This to Find Out)

Have you ever wondered why we sometimes have single generation success stories in society? For instance you hear of a person(s) who rose from rags to riches, passing on. But their legacy of wealth subsequently dries up in a few years – despite offspring being in charge. How come the children lack life skills that made their parent(s) successful?

I believe it’s because some parents don’t take time to prepare their kids to take over the management of the wealth they amass.

Does Your Child Know What It Takes You?

It appears that as parents some of us tend to forget that our kids will eventually become adults. And when that happens, we’ll no longer need to do things for them. Instead, they will have to do things by themselves.

Think about it. As a mother for example you may have to work, do housekeeping, go to the bank, take them to/from school, attend meetings, plan finances for the week etc.

Now ask yourself. How many of these "adult" roles you play is your child currently consciously aware of? Does she really understand what you have to do, to keep things running smoothly? Or does she take them for granted. This is a mindset issue here.

Let’s take an example: When you and your husband keep your promise to take them on overseas on a trip to Paris during summer, does s/he appreciate the planning and budgetting that made it possible?

You may have had to defer spending on some other stuff on your own personal wish list(s) for instance, to save up for the trip. Does s/he know truly understand how much self-discipline it would have taken you to practice such delayed gratification?

Would s/he be prepared to act in the same manner should the need to do so arise today?

Question: Why today, and not when she becomes an adult?

My answer: Most skills one needs to function competently in society require practice. The earlier a child starts working on them, the more competent she’s likely to be as adult.

Between Delayed Gratification & Success (An Interesting Research Finding)

A brief elaboration on the benefits derivable from a habit of self-denial is appropriate.

In a study described in Daniel Goleman’s bestselling book on "Emotional Intelligence", it was discovered that kids who demonstrate the ability to practice self-denial (or delayed gratification), frequently do well as adults.

During the survey, two groups of kids were offered a reward on the following terms: “If you want it now, you’ll get a dollar to spend as you wish. If you’re willing to wait till next week, you’ll get two dollars to spend as you wish.”

The researchers who carried out the study then followed the respondents from the starting point in high school right into their later adult years.

Guess what they found? The kids who betrayed a preference for instant gratification mostly ended up struggling as adults later in life.

No surprises there. Quick fixes and shortcuts often hurt in the long term.

Transferring Life Skills Across Generations – One Family’s Example

The above findings are consistent with what happens in real life. Most adults know that being able to practice delayed gratification helps us get more out of life. An example: Saving up for retirement by being frugal, instead of living a high consumption lifestyle.

The ability to employ delayed gratification in pursuit of valued goals is a dimension of Emotional Intelligence, and a key attribute associated with startup business success.

It however takes self-discipline, constant practice, and time to imbibe this powerful habit. Many people want to be wealthy, but lack the discipline to do the little things daily, that are required to build their fortunes, sometimes slowly. If they had been coached as kids, doing it as adults would probably have come more naturally – or at least easier.

Going by biographical accounts, the Rockefeller family has – for years – successfully applied this philosophy to preserve their family’s wealth across generations.

One anecdote tells of how every Rockefeller child gets tasked from about age 3, to save part of any money she gets (e.g. as gift or allowance) in a piggy bank. Then she is tasked to use the remainder to start/run a real life micro-business e.g. rearing rabbits for sale.

Money made is then saved, and ploughed back into the business in the set sharing ratio. Over time, the child is also exposed to learning activities that teach other life skills.

The ultimate objective is always to make the child appreciate the value of money, and develop the competence to “grow” it. In this way, the Rockefellers ensure they have competent hands to manage the family’s wealth, from generation to generation.

It Sounds Straightforward, So Why Don’t More People Do It?

That’s the strange thing about us humans. Simple stuff can sometimes be so difficult for us to unravel :-)

More seriously, it could be that some parents try to pass it on, but their kids would not listen. We know that can – and does – happen…sometimes for unknown reasons.

But then again, the method adopted by the parents could have been ineffective. For instance certain rags to riches parents have been known to make the mistake of over pampering their kids, saying they never want them to lack the way they did while poor.

This over indulgent approach can make a child fail to imbibe useful values from parents e.g. about being willing to work hard to get what you want. Instead, she could develop what I call an entitlement mentality. Such kids typically squander wealth they inherit.

But I personally believe the main reason this problem occurs, is that the parents do not invest enough effort in coaching their kids.So they fail to transfer their survival skills and knowledge (acquired via experience), which formal schooling cannot provide.

Parents who make the above mistake usually give the excuse that they are too busy. That attitude can however produce offspring who display poor competence, or a painful lack of interest in protecting the legacy their parents slaved to build.

You can avoid that unpleasant outcome for your family. While there’s still time, start helping your kids develop life skills to enhance their chances of success as adults.

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Deciding If Your Blog Needs Comments To Succeed (5 Questions To Ask Yourself) – No. 2 of 4

This is the second post in the series I began last week. The first post titled " Should You Worry About Getting Blog Comments? argued that you need to determine if your blog needs comments to succeed – instead of worrying about what others say. Note that I refer specifically to blogging for business purposes, with emphasis on earning income via sales of products and services.

Why this series? There’s a lot of debate surrounding the value of comments. Many blog owners are not sure what to think or do as a result. This series offers ideas to help interested blog owners decide if their kind of blog needs (or does not need) comments to succeed – and steps to take in either case.

In this second post, I suggest you find your own answers to the following five questions, to help you decide if your blog needs comments to succeed.

1. Will Comments Help You Achieve Your Performance Goals?

As already stated, I’m talking blogging as a strategy to facilitate earning financially rewarding returns for products and service you offer. Traditional indices for measuring business progress apply here. Marketplace name/brand recognition, leads generation, and sales are examples.

If getting blog comments will significantly improve the results you record for the above indices, then it could mean your blog needs them to succeed.

2. What Is Your Target Audience’s Preference?

Is your target audience the openly "chatty" kind? Or are they mostly people who prefer not to be visible (even though they appreciate the content your “serve”)?

The latter usually favour communicating less publicly e.g. via email or phone. Examples are corporate types in sensitive positions who need your "consulting" know how to enhance their work performance. But they do not wish to draw undue attention to themselves, or their employers, by engaging you "publicly".

Your answer(s) will influence your decision about how to “chase” comments.

Defining your target audience profile is a basic requirement in business. Even if you’re not worried about comments, you need to do this. It will guide you in creating new, targetted content to attract pre-qualified prospects traffic.

In addition, knowledge of your target audience can help you decide how to present your sales offers. People react to being sold differently. Also, what you’re selling may sometmes influence how you sell.

Once you understand your audience, you’ll have a feel for how best to engage them. Of course there will always be need to try new things, and even test old ones, to ensure you’re getting the best possible results.

The above reasoning applies to comments as well.

3. How Are Other Blogs (In Your Niche) Doing With Comments?

Study other blogs in your chosen niche. Take care to ensure you’re comparing like with like. Otherwise, you’re likely to arrive at misleading impressions.

Who are the owners? 

If the blog you are comparing yours with, is owned by a celebrity of some sort, be careful. What you see may not represent a normal situation. Except of course you’re one as well (in which case I’d be truly at a loss as to why you’d possibly need to read this post!)

How long have the other blogs been around? 

An older blog may have started out with "quiet" followers who over time became clients/customer via sales facilitated by email and telephone interaction.The owner may then have over time subtly used the established trust to encourage them to comment visibly on the blog. Even then, comments volume on this kind of blog may still be low – though possibly high quality in nature. 

Now, even if you find blogs in your niche boasting volumes of comments, you still need to ascertain IF (and how) getting those comments benefits them.

If "popularity" or the impression of "busy-ness " is the main benefit they seem to be getting from having many comments, you should pass!

4. What Will Managing Comments Cost You?

Your answer to this will depends on the kind of work you do. Like I said earlier, some people (me, for example) run blogs to complement other marketing they do both on and off the web. Some may lack time that can be devoted to managing high volume of comments, if such a situation develops.

The above becomes pertinent in light of a "rule" in the blogosphere that recommends responding to every comment posted – to at least say "thanks!".

Doing so can however become a demanding maintenance chore at some point, especially if/when comments volume grows. For those with other legitimate business building tasks to attend to, a conflict emerges about how to prioritize.

If blog comments do not directly generate a potentially beneficial return for you, managing them becomes a productivity drain you can do without.

You could of course hire someone to do it…but that option would only be viable, if the cost of doing so, can be justified by the ROI you expect to reap.

If Steve Pavlina’s published reasons for closing comments on his site some time ago are anything to go by, you’ll probably want to think carefully over this one!

5. Will Comments On Your Blog Be (Directly or Indirectly) Cashable?

Can you set your blog up in a way that attracts visitors to post (a) request for your order page URL or account details to make payment or (b) testimonials/useful buying advice for other intending buyers? If YES, then comments on your blog could be considered “cashable”.

I recently visited a popular expert’s blog, and noticed something like the above. Some visitors posted enquiries that prompted him to insert a link to his book’s sales page, or to recommend they signup for a paid consultation or coaching.

Interestingly, others who followed read the earlier entries, and promptly commented that they would also be registering for the expert’s coaching or buying his books. In this case, the commenting system inadvertently facilitated sales for the blog’s owner. Whether you can reliably control the outcome of that process on your blog is, of course, an entirely different matter!

Final Words

At the end of the day, it’s really all about strategy. Technology was made for us, and not the other way round. We just need to establish what works for us. So, think carefully about what you currently offer (or plan to) on your blog, based on this post’s five questions. Then decide how comments fit into the picture.

Next Post: Six Potentially Useful Measures of Your Blog’s Performance (Hint: Comments Vs. Five Others) – Coming on Saturday 20th October 2012

Blog Comments Multi-Post Series – Table of Contents

Post 1: Should You Worry About Getting Blog Comments?
Post 2: Deciding If Your Blog Needs Comments To Succeed (5 Questions To Ask Yourself)
Post 3: Six Potentially Useful Measures of Your Blog’s Performance (Hint: Comments Vs. Five Others)

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Is Your Child Silently Screaming for Help?

I was recently opportune to help my kids overcome certain challenges I (accidentally) discovered they had with Math. This article was inspired by that experience. When was the last time you asked your child about school? Are you sure she’s doing well? Or could she be struggling with some basic concept that now makes learning with her peers less fun?

As adults we sometimes forget how difficult it can be for kids to find people who understand their needs e.g. when they are confused about a subject, or an issue.

Shyness Can Make A Child Suffer Academically In Silence

No child wants to look stupid before her classmates.

I recall that in school I often avoided asking questions during class, if it appeared that most of my classmates had already grasped a concept I had issues with. That “shyness” eventually contributed to my failing math in the final year exam. It took 3 subsequent months of intensive tutorials in a private training centre to repair my poor foundation in that subject – after which I scored a straight A in the Nov/Dec G.C.E exam.

Without your close monitoring and timely intervention when appropriate, your child could develop a similar “hidden” handicap in one or more subjects. Without help, her grades could slip, with potentially serious implications.

This is why you owe her – and yourself – an obligation to keep abreast of her progress. Do you know her class teacher? Have you met with him/her to gain an impression of his/her personality, and disposition? Do you have his/her phone number, so you can call to confirm or discuss observations or trends you notice? These are things you could do in your child’s interest.

Every parent wants the best for his/her kids. But we should not stop at just “wanting”. We must go out of our way to help them get the best – which will at some point need personal involvement.
 
But quite often, some parents settle for actions that do not require their personal involvement. This is sometimes because they have demanding jobs that keep them busy. And so, if the child complains about problems with class work, they prefer to buy new books, get/change home tutors etc. They will often do anything to avoid having to personally attend to it.

Five (5) Minutes Spent Helping Your Child Learn Can Do Wonders for Her

Making out time to help your child with that academic exercise could enable you pass useful knowledge and insights about the subject to her. .

By investing quality time in coaching her on better ways to tackle subjects you are familiar with, you can literally help her climb to a new level of learning competence. Another useful outcome would be the self-confidence she could develop from learning that way from you.

Everything I say here is based on very recent occurrences with my own kids who I accidentally discovered to lack adequate understanding of some basic math principles. I immediately modified my work schedule, to coach them with practical exercises.

After 2 intensive weeks, a marked improvement has been achieved. I am now able  to task the eldest two, to teach their siblings the different techniques they’ve learnt from me.

There’s also a noticeable increase in enthusiasm they now display towards the subject that was not there before. For instance, yesterday I came home to find their workbooks piled on my table awaiting my attention. In the past, I had to chase them around to get them to finish assignments!

This proves that kids will not dislike any subject, if given a good introduction to it. They just need to be helped to understand it well enough to tackle tests you give them. We adults – parents and teachers – need to keep this in mind at all times.

It’s a human tendency to avoid things that do not give us pleasure. We must therefore help our children know their subjects well enough to find pleasure in studying them

The best way to do that is by coaching our children on the basic principles of any subject. Once they have that down, learning for them will become almost effortless. They would be able to independently derive their own solutions more often than not. And that would be proof that they have truly been educated!

“If you learn only methods you’ll be tied to your methods, but if you learn principles you can devise your own methods” ~Emerson

Below is a screenshot illustration of one of a number of techniques I use to teach kids basic math.

The emphasis is on training the child to find and use the shortest route in solving problems e.g. in objective tests. Time saved by doing so, can then be applied to solving more difficult questions.

A screenshot illustration of one of a number of techniques I use to teach kids basic math

I developed my interest in coaching kids on subjects like Math/Physics in 1993, during my year of national service as a secondary school teacher in a remote village in Niger state (which lacked electricity). Many of the SS3 students I had to teach struggled with certain basic principles. So I had to explore multiple alternative ways of presenting the SAME information to them, until they had a firm grasp of the concept.

Final Words: Beyond School, Your Child Could Need Help In Other Ways

Although I have dwelt on school work, your child could – figuratively speaking – be screaming for help in so many other areas of life.

For example, she could be conflicted about whether or not to give in to peer (or boyfriend) pressure to have pre-marital sex. Or she could be on the receiving end of bullying or some other form of abuse.

It could be anything – even sexual abuse
!

YOU need to get so close to your child, and study her so well, that you can reasonably tell if/when something is bothering her.

Make conscious effort to know what’s going on in your child’s life, so you can provide necessary support or corrective influence before things get out of hand.

I’m not trying to preach at anyone here. A lot of my passion for the subject of parenting comes mainly from reflection on what I have gone through as a child – and also from observing other parents, and their children.

Hopefully, you will find something useful to take away from all that I have said above.

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Secret Formula for Succeeding At Your Job

Can you easily party or socialize for long hours, but struggle to find the energy to work as long as is sometimes necessary to finish important work? If YES, then I suggest you check with your doctor. If s/he declares you have no medical condition limiting you, ask if adopting regular exercise can help you improve your performance. There’s a good chance s/he’ll say YES!

In this article, I explain how diligently observing as little as 10 to 15 minutes of daily exercise can help you build  the physical/mental stamina to achieve dramatic improvements in your workplace productivity, even as you continue to enjoy a healthy social life.

Disclaimer: The ideas I offer in this piece are purely for information and education only – and are not to be considered professional advice. Consult a competent expert before putting them to use.

You Can Get More Done Than You Know!

Many people who say they “feel” tired towards the end of a day at work do not know that tiredness really exists only in their minds. Most of them can still go on working for much longer than they realize. It does not matter what kind of work you do – whether physically or intellectually tasking. This is a universal truth I’ve discovered about many in paid employment when it comes to the work they do.

The above also applies to entrepreneurs – especially those who work alone/ from home. Many lose valuable hours of productivity because they let their bodies tell them they are tired, when they are not!

Understand this: A physically fit person does not take orders from his/her body!

I say this from very personal experience. It’s a truth I learned from over 20 years of delivering high performance output in virtually every area of endeavour I’ve been engaged in.

A few years ago, I wrote an article describing the experience I gained from participating in the 2006 MTN marathon. In it, I recalled that an article was written about me in my final year, while a member of the University of Ibadan handball team. The author noted that my team mates dreaded instances when the coach asked me to lead the warm up sessions for training. Why? I often pushed them to the limit, and rarely showed fatigue – even during matches. They nicknamed me “Steroid Man” for that reason!

But what I discuss here is not that intense.

Becoming physically fit to deliver superlative workplace performance does not require training as if for the Olympics. This is the kind of fitness level that an average kind of person can reasonably aspire to attain. And it would enable her achieve dramatic personal/workplace performance improvements.

For over 20 years, I have diligently observed a daily 10 to 15 minute exercise regime. Over time it has enabled me develop mental/physical stamina to achieve what former co-workers, friends, associates, clients – and even relatives – have told me is a phenomenal work rate.

Based on my achievements, I can tell you that observing a consistent exercise regime (even 10 minutes of brisk walking!) can help you achieve similar outcomes to mine, over time.

Two circumstances that persons in paid employment may face to get their work done

1.         Working Unusual Hours (e.g. Night Shift Duties)

During my days as a shift brewer in a multinational manufacturing company, I recall reading articles about our “body clocks” which “tell” us when it’s time to sleep, as the night progresses.

A nurse on night shift has to resist the urgings of the body clock if s/he is to do a good job in caring for patients on his/her shift. One way to ensure this is to get enough sleep and rest during the day. However, if you’ve done shift work before, you will know that THAT is easier said than done.

When you’re working night shifts, the opportunity to be at home in day can be tempting. Shift persons often take advantage of that daytime freedom to do some running around that we would never be able to do (or complete) if we worked normal hours.

As a result, sometimes we end up resuming night shift without having done any sleeping, talk less of resting. When this happens, except for the rare individuals, many shift persons go through their shifts like zombies, performing at less than their best i.e. if they do not accidentally drop into deep sleep, till the early morning hours!

This problem of staying awake when our bodies “feel tired” also confronts non-shift persons such as students preparing for exams.

2. Working Longer Hours (E.g. Overtime Duties)

We’ve all had those moments that occur now and then. Our normal working hours unexpectedly get disrupted by the organization’s urgent need to get something finished to meet a looming deadline.

Instead of casually coasting through the day as usual, you suddenly find yourself struggling to find free time and extra hours to finish what appears to be a mountain of unending tasks.

By the time you get home, you feel like someone drained the blood from your veins and replaced it with water. You’re exhausted!

But the next day you have to be back in the office. And you find yourself filled with dread, worrying that you may not be able to cope. That you might make a mistake due to fatigue – and that this could affect your appraisal, etc.

Regular Exercise Is The Key To Your Success!

I’ve worked in circumstances similar to the two described above – and repeatedly successfully handled highly demanding workplace schedules in people and process management positions. The main secret of my success was a diligent commitment to a 10 to 15 minute exercise regimen at the start of (almost) every day.

That was what kept me going without suffering any damage to my health.

Here’s how I like to explain it, based on how it feels to me: Regular exercise helps you condition your body to respond when you call on it to deliver extra performance. Every day you fulfill your exercising obligation, you are making an “energy reserve” deposit in your body’s performance bank. If you keep exercising, your fitness level will gradually improve. By the time the need arises for you to deliver exceptional performance, your body will respond as quickly as you think the thought. And as you make use of it, to get more done; you will learn when to slow down/rest and how far you can push your body.

Believe me – that has been the key to achieving my phenomenal work rate for over 2 decades as a student, later salaried employee, and (for the past ten years) as an entrepreneur.

And you know what? I discovered long ago, that any day I fail to observe my 10 to 15 minute exercising ritual, I never really perform as well as I normally would.

As you can imagine, that realization hardened my resolve to carry out my exercise regimen as often as possible.

What You Can Do

My exercise regimen comprises 70 push-ups (sometimes 50 sit-ups), ending with 5 key Yoga exercise routines. These days my 3 year old daughter and her elder sister join in of their own accord! I’m often done in 15 minutes at the most. But I feel fully charged up by then. And my output reflects it.

Committing to as little as 10 minutes of similar exercise (within the limits of your ability) can go a long way towards achieving reliable fitness level to boost your productivity – IF you are consistent.

If you are already committed to an exercise regimen, I congratulate you, because except you’re lazy or disorganized, it WILL enhance your ability to achieve goals you set for yourself at work.

For more detailed examples of simple exercise techniques that have served me well for over two decades, which you can explore using, read my earlier mentioned (4,509 words long) article about the MTN Marathon. It’s titled “You Need To Be Physically Fit In Order To Excel".