It’s said that “talk is cheap”. I argue (in this week’s issue of my public speaking IDEAS newsletter), that every speaker can use that popular saying to remind herself to stay true to the values she professes – even when no one is watching!
What You Do, And NOT What You Say, Defines Who You Are
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Is this email not displaying correctly? Publication: Tayo Solagbade’s Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP) Newsletter Date: Monday 4th February 2013 No: 75 Title: What Do You Really Stand For? Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263] Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog Archive (For E-mail only version started 14th May 2012): Click here to view Archive (For Blog version started 24th September 2011): Click here Hi, Please find below the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013.
No. 75: What Do You Really Stand For?**** ********** NB: If you ever find yourself wondering what else I’ve written, some days after you’ve read THIS Speaking Ideas newsletter I send out on a Monday, here’s what you can do to find out: Point your browser to www.sdacademy.org to read at least ONE new post added to my SD Nuggets blog on a different category from Tuesday till Saturday (sometimes even Sundays) in line with this publishing schedule ********** It’s said that “talk is cheap”. I argue (in this week’s issue of my public speaking IDEAS newsletter), that every speaker can use that popular saying to remind herself to stay true to the values she professes – even when no one is watching! What You Do, And NOT What You Say, Defines Who You AreMaybe you’re a Workplace Performance Improvement expert-speaker. You likely go on the platform and tell your audience how to create a conducive climate to get employees to give their best on the job at all times. One could however ask what working conditions exist in your own organization? Do your high performers enjoy commensurate career advancement or rewards for their efforts? Or are they frustrated by an absence of a sincere commitment to giving the best people an opportunity to flourish – to the company’s ultimate benefit? One example: Would you promote a deserving employee over an under-performing relative, if you knew doing so would be best for the progress of the business? These are the kinds of hard questions I honestly believe speakers need to routinely ask themselves if they wish to be – and remain – authentic. Sadly, For Some, Their Words Are Not Their BondPublic speakers are generally regarded by their audiences as trustworthy sources of knowledge and information in their various areas of expertise. Therefore when they speak, they potentially wield a lot of power and influence over their audiences. That privilege can however be easily abused by a speaker who chooses to be insincere. It is for instance quite possible to recruit a pedophile to manage a school or children’s home, if decision makers or selection bodies depend only on his impressive credentials and rousing speech about children’s rights and empowerment. His subtle character flaws that make him a potential danger to kids are unlikely to be easily detected when he’s in public view. That’s why background checks with associates from his past and present life can be quite revealing. Sometimes of course, nothing obvious may jump out at you when you do that. However, a tell tale pattern or trend in behaviour could be detectable with careful observation. And that could provide useful additional perspective from which to evaluate a candidate being considered. What Beliefs & Biases Do You Nurse?As an expert speaker, your beliefs and biases can greatly influence the views you hold about people and issues. The problem is that as human beings we may not always let others know our true feelings on issues – especially if we feel they may be potentially controversial or embarrassing. In today’s hypersensitive world, many have therefore learnt to employ a little duplicity or two-facedness in order to get along with others. Sometimes they’ll do this to be able to put meals on the table for their families for instance. But deep inside they may nurse growing resentment at being unable to really act on their feelings. So when one day they see or hear of an opportunity to act in line with their true feelings they are likely to take it. And if those who know them later learn of it, they’ll naturally be surprised. “I never knew he felt that way of held such views!” some would exclaim.. Public speakers by the very nature of their vocation are perfectly equipped to operate in the above described manner if they choose to. And some do: They woo their audiences into believing they stand for one thing, while in reality their loyalties lies elsewhere. We see enough examples of this during political campaigns for instance, wherein candidates mouth valued ideals only to have damaging evidence from their past and/or private lives expose them to be unfaithful to those same ideals! The word “integrity” is unfortunately a word that’s been badly abused in recent years. Even people well known for being crooked have sometimes been referred to in some societies as having “integrity”! To me, having “integrity” means being able to stand for what what you believe no matter what happens, or regardless of whose Ox is gored. Consider this: If you overhear “colleagues” on a selection board talking about discriminating against a best qualified candidate based on her gender, what would you do? Would you look the other way, and one week later deliver a moving speech on equal rights and opportunities for women, to rousing applause at a women’s conference? Any speaker who does the abive cannot lay claim to having integrity! Final Words: Questions To Help Us Stay Grounded In Our ValuesThis brings me to the following questions that I strive as often as possible to ask myself: What do I stand for? Is it consistent with what I say and do in my personal life? Or am I just acting out a script of sorts and taking my (listening and reading) audience for a cruelly misleading ride? These are questions I constantly ask myself in order to stay grounded. Another is: What would the audience think/say/do find if they could read my thoughts every time I stand before them to give a talk? And here’s one more: What would I do if I knew no one would ever find out? You can also ask yourself these questions. The answers we individually settle on, if we’re honest with ourselves, will determine what we really stand for. You and I must strive never to be found wanting in this regard as experts-who-speak.
Have a lovely week!
Tayo K. Solagbade* Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist *Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa Mobile: 234-803-302-1263 http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com Tayo Solagbade is a Performance Improvement Specialist & multipreneur. He works with individuals/businesses who want to achieve highly profitable outcomes, and also with parents who want to raise real-world competent children. Tayo earns multiple streams of income providing clients with performance improvement training/coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners). When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent). ================== Have you been undecided about whether or not to become a paid speaker? Or have you been trying to get your speaking career off the ground with little success?Here’s a tip: Burt Dubin works with people who want to be speakers, and with speakers who want to be masters. Click here to visit his website NOW and submit a contact form message telling him what challenges you’re facing, and how you’d like him to help you. Tell him I sent you, and you’ll get a pleasant surprise offer from him. Comments?What do you think of the above message? Do you have any personal experience to share on this subject? Are there some other points you feel can be added, to help persons looking for answers? Please share your thoughts! Share this issue!Do you know anyone who might benefit from reading this newsletter issue? Why not hit the forward button now, and send it to him/her with a short recommendation. You can also use share it via your social media channels. Thanks in advance.
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