Self-Devpt. Nuggets™

Does it feel like nothing is working the way you want? Can’t find (or keep) a job or client? Bungling important assignments at work? Or having problems with your partner?

This post offers ideas you can use to succeed, in spite of negative situations in your life.

Those Who Seek Success, Must Embrace Hard Times Along The Way

The only way you can avoid experiencing difficulties in life will be if you choose to give up ambition. In other words, you would adopt a “do-nothing-noteworthy” attitude to life.

People who do this often go through life making sure they rock no boats. They take what they are given, do what they are told, and generally stay out of the way of everyone else.

Here’s a quote I coined for them some time ago:

“Some people join the crowd in order to become hidden or protected from criticism or scrutiny. Since they also take care never to voice contrary (and at times ANY) opinion, they are rewarded with the anonymity they seek – and the insignificance that results from it.” – Tayo K. Solagbade

The above implies that making progress means you’ll have to confront challenges, difficulties, adversity and negatives in different forms. That process will mould you into the person you need to be, to achieve the progress or success you desire.

That’s why if you pursue progress, each time think you’ve seen the last, another “difficulty” forces its way into your life. It does not matter how hard you try to avert it. Some adversity is needed to help you prepare for success.

Hard Times Make People Fail, But Why Do Some People Seem Immune To Them?

It’s true. And it’s being that way since the beginning of mankind, and will always be so.

Even as you struggle to deal with your challenge, you probably know some people who rarely seem to let anything set them back.

It’s almost as if they are incapable of failing.

I do not refer here to people who stay in their comfort zone, and never venture out to do something new, different or daring. Nor do I mean those who achieve a level of material comfort, and then decide to live the rest of their lives playing it safe.

No.

Instead I am talking about courageous individuals who boldly set new and challenging goals, and fearlessly pursue them till they succeed.

These persons would often be seen to encounter great obstacles, which they ultimately surmount. Sometimes emerge victorious, despite being bruised and bloodied (figuratively/literally speaking) making others conclude they cannot fail.

The truth is however often that people who excel as above rarely attain that level of competence overnight. They would have invested time and effort, learning to endure and overcome adversity, to succeed. And that’s how their demonstrated mastery often results.

What You Can Do

The above process cannot happen via shortcut for anyone. Every person who desires authentic success must be prepared to pay the price to get it.

That price is EXPERIENCE i.e. firsthand experience that cannot be bought with money…or obtained by proxy.

You must undergo it in person – or as the French would say “Toi-même” i.e. yourself.

When you do, you’ll gradually develop the capacity to defeat adversity. If you persist long enough, you’ll arrive at a point where others conclude YOU are incapable of failing.

Why would they think that of you?

Because you would have discovered that relentless persistence is the key to achieving progress, even when (it seems) nothing’s working.

And you would act based on that knowledge every time you encounter difficulty, hardship, adversity, negativity etc.

In other words, you would have become unstoppable!