Publication: Tayo Solagbade’s Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP) Newsletter

Date: Monday 25th March 2013

No:82

Title: Speakers Are Self-Confident People

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263]

Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog

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Hi,

Please find below, the latest issue of my weekly Public Speaking Ideas page for 2013. 

No. 82: Speakers Are Self-Confident People

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Many self-confident people seem to fear nothing. They often act as if they recognize no limitations. Even when they encounter rejection, or setbacks, they never take it personally. And they seem to be able to talk to anybody.

Are you self-confident? If no, think what it would mean personally to you i.e. limitless possibilities! In this week’s issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter, I offer ideas to help you build self-confidence that can change your life for better, and forever.

Being Self-Confident Will Make You Better in Every Area of Your Life

It’s amazing how people get drawn to someone who displays self-confidence. We see it happening all the time. People like someone who appears to be sure of him or herself.

You will reap rewards useful in your business.

As an expert or professional, if people who see and hear you get the impression that you’re not sure of yourself, you’ll lose credibility before them. The success of your business marketing depends on your ability to speak and act with self-confidence.

Not just in person, but also over the phone – and even when you do audio and video presentations.

So, for you as an expert, being seen by others to be self-confident means more potential clients/customers are likely to be attracted to you, boosting sales leads.

And you will also reap socially beneficial rewards.

Many confident often earn informal and sometimes formal leadership status in their personal and business circles. They get chosen to lead teams, to represent others, to champion causes etc.

These roles inadvertently help them achieve valuable name/brand recognition. Think about every successful speaker that you know. The above is true for them.

Here are three simple steps you can follow to build your self-confidence:

1. Start By Confronting & Conquering Your Fears

It’s an interesting irony – but it’s also the truth. What is it that scares you in your business or personal life? To gain self-confidence, go out and do those things. From today – now.

A common challenge for many experts is going out to speak to others about their products and services. Standing and speaking convincingly about what you know – without fear or anxiety – to strangers takes hard work (i.e. preparation) and courage.

But if you will yourself to do it the first time, and then keep on doing it afterwards, you’ll eventually stop feeling fear or anxiety.

Experiencing the thrill of standing before an appreciative audience can boost your self-esteem greatly. It makes you say to yourself: “Wow. I really can do this! People appreciate that I know this stuff!!”

So, next time around, that exciting realization will drive you to prepare even better. And with each little “victory” (even if you’re not getting paid…yet), you’ll gain self-confidence. It’s as simple as that. Just like learning to walk as a baby

2. Then Get Varied Experiences Under Your Belt

Some things may not scare you. Yet doing them could help you develop additional know-how, and that would boost your self-belief…your self-confidence.

In other words, to develop greater confidence, aim to explore new frontiers in life by having as many varied experiences as possible.

By this I mean hands-on experience.

If you lack insights gained from engaging directly in the practice or study of your subject, you will not be convincing when you speak: Your audiences will respond accordingly.

Speakers who succeed often tell stories and use analogies to explain their concepts or ideas to audiences. Now, many times a speaker’s choice of stories and analogies may not even be directly related to the theme of his/her message.

For example, in explaining the importance of diligence for persons seeking speaking success, Burt Dubin told stories about Jan Vermeer (a painter), and Colonel Sanders (the founder of Kentuck Fried Chicken).

If one were adopt a puritanical (or narrow) point of view, neither of those two stories has anything to do with helping someone learn how to be a better speaker.

However, by referring to Vemeer’s and Sanders’ diligence in pursuing their goal, Burt used their stories to illustrate how diligence can lead to success in the speaking business.

By implication therefore, a speaker who exposes himself to a wide variety of experiences (in real life, and through books) will harvest useful wisdom with which to communicate more effectively with audiences.

3. Go Out And Take Daily, Repeated Action

Do items 1 and 2 above, daily, weekly, monthly – as frequently as possible. Sooner than later, you will forget your fears, and develop unconscious familiarity with your subject.

You would have become one with your message, and would be bursting with the urge to share it, knowing that you have a limitless well of insights to give.

That’s when even if you’re woken up at 2 a.m, you would still be able to speak convincingly on your subject without rehearsing.

Once you attain that state of mind, your self-confidence will manifest itself spontaneously, anytime you perceive a speaking opportunity, be it with an individual, or before a packed auditorium!

Final Words: Speakers Are Self-Confident People – To Succeed, YOU Must Be That Way Too!

Professional public speakers are some of the most self-confident people one can find anywhere. To do what they do, as well as they do it, they have to be that way.

Yet many will tell you they were never always like that. Indeed before achieving success, quite a number admitted lived in morbid fear of ever having to stand before others, to give even the shortest speech.

That means it is doable for YOU too. The truth is, you will NOT succeed as a speaker if you constantly come across as being insecure and/or unsure of yourself!

Having said that, you become self-confident by just thinking about it. Start putting the ideas you’ve read here to immediate use. Then get more from reliable sources like this one. And you’ll soon be well on your way.

Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, call me on 234-803-302-1263 or email tayo at tksola dot com.

Alternatively, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: How to develop Self-Confidence” in the subject line).

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

Tayo Solagbade is a Performance Improvement Specialist & multipreneur. He works with individuals/businesses who want to achieve highly profitable outcomes, and also with parents who want to raise real-world competent children.

Tayo earns multiple streams of income providing clients with performance improvement training/coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

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Comments?

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