Below is an excerpt from my recent report on the symposium I attended on Domestic Violence, which I’ve turned into a special one page image flyer offering ADVICE for battered men. Download and share to any person(s) you feel will find it useful.
“Even the fictional superman gets helped every now and then – and by little kids too (because unlike him, they are immune to Kryptonite). Refuse societal pressures to endure abuse to prove you’re strong, or because it’s what a man does. Nothing could be further from the truth. This quote, by a moderator at the 2018 Symposium organized by the Lagos State DSVRT puts it better:
“If boys were not meant to cry, they would not have tear glands.”
Understand that YOU, being male, are a human being, with feelings and emotions – just like women and children. The longer you stay exposed to abuse, the more damage it does to you. It will take its toll, wearing you down, until you crack. So, if you’re experiencing abuse, be it physical, emotional or psychological, from someone who refuses to stop, GET AWAY NOW, and seek help FAST.
Your manhood is not proven by a refusal to protect yourself from harm. That’s not bravery, that’s foolhardiness. It’s not strength, it’s stupidity. Asking for help will NOT make you any less of a man. Get help NOW, before something happens that you, and/or your abuser may end up regretting.” – Tayo K. Solagbade
PII 135: Neglecting Domestic Violence Victims Can Cause Serious Tragedies – True Stories [Highlights from my discussion of “The Culture of Silence as it negatively affects male Survivors.” at the 2018 SYMPOSIUM IN COMMEMORATION OF THE LAGOS STATE DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH] – held at MUSON Centre’s Agip Recital Hall on Lagos Island
Read this special report at www.tinyurl.com/dvamtalkmuson
Posted on 7 October 2018
Tags: Ignore the Macho Myth™: Asking for Help Means You're Truly Strong [Advice for Battered MEN]
About the Author
Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.
Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organisations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).
Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™, the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook, and developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator - as well as the increasingly popular Monthly Poultry Farm Manager app.
On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, writes and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, in the French Speaking Benin Republic on the first lap of his slow travels across the West African region. His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).
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