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Conversation between Entrepreneur Parent and His Kids’ Lesson Teacher

How well do you know your child’s teacher(s)? By “know” I mean meeting and engaging him/her in conversation about what s/he thinks education for success in life is about, and how to go about giving it.

I share excerpts from a conversation (online chat) with my kids’ lesson teacher, which reveals why connecting with your child’s teacher(s) in the above manner may be necessary.

If you don’t do it now, you may have to contend, in future, with mis-educated adult kids, failing in life!

==Conversation Begins===

Lesson Teacher: “ Sir, the kids are fond of selling iron rods and I don’t know why.

Me: “What is the problem: Are they doing it during lesson periods?”

Lesson Teacher: “It’s distracting their focus at home and school.”

Me: “I don’t understand. Are they doing it when they are supposed to be in lesson with you…or when they are supposed to be attending classes in school? Or are they failing to do assignments given them during school or lesson periods. Let me know…”

Lesson Teacher: “Ok I will let you know.”

Me: “What did you observe that made you say what you did? I have a reason for asking…Did their mother complain to you?”

Lesson Teacher: “I realised they look for iron rods on street and I’m not comfortable with it.”

Me: “Well, from a SAFETY and SECURITY point of view (with all the kidnapping going on in Nigeria), I do see how it may not be OK. However, I can tell you that I have STRONGLY encouraged them to do what you see them doing, since they told me about it.

But I have always told them to avoid straying away from the neighbourhood, and to ALWAYS move together. This, I’m sure applies mainly to <12 year old’s name> and <10 year old’s name>.”

Lesson Teacher: “Ok sir…You got it exactly.”

Lesson Teacher: “I will call them tonight to find out how they’ve been going about it, and remind them of the need to be careful. Other than that, I am determined to help my kids  develop their entrepreneurial instincts and talents.

Indeed, before they clock 15 years, I aim to ensure EACH of them has a micro business s/he is running on the side. Seriously.  That’s what our schools are NOT teaching us. And that’s why so many of us have our “certificates”, but can only look for jobs.

We don’t know how to create products and services we can sell if NO jobs are available. I don’t want my kids to end up like that.

Think about the matter you and I are discussing regarding my seeking audience with Mr. <name of my client> about your business idea.

It’s because you’re trying to do something for yourself, since jobs you got are not giving the JOY and satisfaction you want.

I’m trying to kill 2 birds with one stone for my kids.

They learn school work, but they also learn to be entrepreneurial in their thinking and actions. And they learn to value and respect money – by EARNING it, instead of asking their parents all the time, to give them money. See?”

Lesson Teacher: “I understand…But they need proper orientation”

Me: “I don’t understand? Proper orientation…please explain?”

Lesson Teacher: “I mean they should know the value of education alongside the entrepreneur upgrading.”

Me: “I’m glad you expressed this opinion. It’s now obvious you have yet to understand certain IMPORTANT things my friend.

Education must NEVER be considered separate from ENTREPRENEURSHIP TRAINING. The two go together.

My advice to you is this: Google “Sir Ken Robinson” and watch one or more of his videos (e.g. Schools Kill Creativity). There are articles I have written, and others (like Seth Godin, Robert Kiyosaki etc), which explain why what we learn in our schools today is mostly useless to us in life.

Ask yourself: Why are you talking to me about starting a business, and having such a hard time doing so? I would have thought the EDUCATION you got in school would have prepared you for that???

But apparently it did not!

Does that not tell you something is wrong with the education we get? What is education…should it not prepare one to succeed in the real world?

You have a lot to learn. And the first step will be to understand that you have been wrongly oriented about what education really means.

Here’s my advice. Start reading Robert Kiyosaki’s works online. I owned a copy of his book:

http://www.amazon.com/Want-Rich-Happy-Dont-School/dp/0944031595

If You Want to Be Rich & Happy Don’t Go to School: Ensuring Lifetime Security for Yourself and Your Children.”

It was his first best seller if I recall correctly.

That man is a multi-millionaire. He was an OLODO*in school, while his father was a top educationist in USA!

[NB*: “Olodo” = “Yoruba” word for “dismal performer”]

Robert kept embarrassing the father by doing poorly in school. But today he’s super rich. His father was (often) broke, as a teacher!”

Lesson Teacher: “I understand everything and will Google what you said now.”

Me: This website (linked below) offers a review of Robert Kiyosaki’s book that I just mentioned above. Since you’re unlikely to be able to get the book to read without buying it, I suggest you read the review at http://charlesholmes.net/2013/05/if-you-want-to-be-rich-and-happy-dont-go-to-school-by-robert-kiyosaki/

I am telling you all this because I have SUFFERED greatly for being too focussed on school success and ending up unprepared to succeed in the real world, outside a salary job.

There are fewer and fewer jobs out there today, for people finishing from school. Most people will have to start a small business of their own, no matter how well they perform in school.

And it is those who already know how to find what people will pay them GOOD MONEY for, that will succeed the best.

That’s what my kids are learning.

I challenged them to find a way to make money for themselves. One day they told me they discovered Mallams would pay them for iron**  they are able to find.

[NB**:  “Iron” here refers to scrap made of iron e.g damaged devices, mechanical parts from cars, and other machines etc]

I encouraged them to continue.

On a certain occasion, I was around when a Mallam came to buy, and I joined them in negotiating a better selling price.

My advice to you: read, and think about what I’ve said.

It’s the key to your success in the new venture you say you wish to start. I have to go offline now on my laptop. Will be on my Blackberry, if you still wish to continue.

(Few minutes later, his next message arrives via my Blackberry app interface)

 Lesson Teacher: “I really need you by my side to continue the chat and learn more from you. I am appreciating all (the) fact(s) you are telling me.”

Me: Click the links to the websites I posted above, and READ the information there. It is the key to your mental emancipation or freedom. You need that to truly succeed outside paid employment.

==Conversation Ends===

Final Words: Your Kid’s Teacher May Need YOUR Help…to Teach YOUR Child Better!

NB: I’m assuming here that YOU do not yourself need re-orientation. Otherwise, start with yourself!

This young man, in my estimation, is in his mid to late 30s.

Earlier in January, he came to me saying he was not happy with his employment in the tutoring agency handling my kids’ home coaching.

According to him, the pay was poor, despite the heavy workload.

So he wanted to know how he could pursue his dream of starting his own business.

But he was not sure what he could do to make money.

He just knew he did not want to continue working for an employer, because he felt he would earn better if self-employed.

I told him that since he’s not married and has no dependants, then he’s perfectly positioned to achieve his goal.

That’s a much better way to start. I had the opposite experience – VERY VERY TOUGH!

I explained that he just needs to identify the right business to start, and work hard.

With the  exchange we’ve now had above, I’m hopeful the first obstacle to his succeeding with his plans has been (or is in the process of being) removed.

By this I refer to the “employee” mentality or orientation, that conventional schools instil in people.

It makes them think no other way exists for succeeding in life, except to “go to school, study hard, get good grades, and get a good job”.

The realities in today’s world make it obvious jobs are no longer there. Even not-so-good ones!

And THAT is the dilemma that’s facing many young people today.

When they finish school, and discover this truth, they are left confused about what to do next.

If you fail to guide your kids to develop their entrepreneurial instincts AHEAD of time, you may end up doing extra parenting for them when they should already be independent of you.

And it may NOT be a pleasant experience.

I wish you well as you prepare your children with the right educational experiences.

Experiences which equip them with the ability to succeed, regardless of whether they are in paid employment, or out of it.

That – in my considered opinion – is what makes successful parenting.

And you may need to check and ensure your kid’s teacher(s) are on the same wavelength with you, if you want to succeed!

A Strategy to Overcome Adversity

It can be tough dealing with adversity in the workplace. Did you make a mistake that made your boss, superiors or colleagues look bad…and they now resent you(?) Or are you being harassed by negative minded co-workers jealous of your progress? This article offers you ideas you can use to move on to success!!

I recently posted the following quote by Jim Rohn, on my Facebook wall:

“Resolve says, ‘I will.’ The man says, ‘I will climb this mountain. They told me it is too high, too far, too steep, too rocky, and too difficult. But it’s my mountain. I will climb it. You will soon see me waving from the top or dead on the side from trying.'” — Jim Rohn

A friend – Efe Ohwofasa – came by and posted a question that I greatly appreciated, because answering it enabled me share insights into how I learnt to use adversity to succeed MORE!

Efe’s simple question was: “Tayo, how did you get to know about Jim Rohn?”

What Follows Below Is a Paraphrased – But More Elaborate – Version of the Answer I Gave Him

In 1997, I came across and began subscribing to the Success Digest Magazine. What attracted me to the publication was mainly the wealth of experience based articles by accomplished authors and experts from across the world.

In particular, I was really struck by the deep wealth of wisdom Jim Rohn offered in short article pieces he authored.

It was amazing.

He was always able to present any issue from a perspective that instantly helped the reader see the big and more important picture, to solve his/her problem.

But it was when I read his view about adversity, that I got hooked. And I’ve memorised a particular block of text taken from one of his books since then, that has helped me defeat EVERY mountain of difficulty.

In 1997, I memorised this particular quote on dealing with adversity from Jim Rohn's books and it has helped me defeat EVERY mountain of difficulty ever since!

When I first read those powerful words by that great man, I was still in paid employment, as a 27 year old trainee shift brewer, in a large manufacturing multinational.

I Was However an Unusual Kind of Trainee…

This was because right from my arrival in the brewery, I’d begun trying to change things, using my skills to introduce PC spreadsheet automation based changes.

This was especially with respect to routine data recording and report generation.

Unfortunately, not everyone liked my eager-beaver attempts to change things.

Some senior colleagues felt I was “moving too fast”. That I was a glory seeker etc.

One day, I was walking on the factory grounds, and as I went past a much older manager from another department, I greeted him.

He grunted a response, then suddenly called out to me saying: “Solagbade!”.

I stopped and replied: “Yes sir?

Then he said: “You want to do what some people did in 5 years in 2 years ehn?

That Day, I Realized My Actions Were Being Negatively Viewed By a Tiny Few…

But I did not know who was doing the talking, and why it seemed to be mostly negative.

Especially since my automated reporting applications were being used officially.

I started feel sorry for myself, and to complain to close friends and relatives outside work.

Then I Encountered Jim Rohn’s Words!

Luckily, I had my Success Digest magazine, and kept up the habit of reading it when back at home.

One day I read Jim Rohn’s above mentioned quote.

And it hit home!

I realized I could use the negativity to challenge myself to excel even more.

So I began to ignore snide remarks, and subtle attempts to put me down. Instead I focussed on looking for better ways to use my spreadsheet automation skills to improve the workplace.

One year later (1998), at least four of my applications were in use in my department(brewing). And the entire brewery was aware of it.

Not Long After, Other Departmental Heads Began Asking For My Help…

You must keep in mind that I was doing this “spreadsheet automation” business ALL in my spare time.

In other words, it was NOT part of my official role as per my job title/description. This was just a hobby/passion I willingly put to use at work, because I believe the changes would help the team.

I soon began to get rewards for my extra efforts to add value to the company.

For instance, in March 1998, I got nominated to act as Training and Technical Development  Manager (a senior role to that of brewers), ahead of senior colleagues who had never held the position.

I was only about 3 years old in the company.

I eventually got promoted to that position, and other great career advancement opportunities followed.

If I Had Not Learnt to Handle My Adversity, None of that Would Have Happened!

Jim Rohn’s writing opened my eyes to the hidden benefits of adversity.

I bought his books, and later joined his website mailing list, and I continue reading his writing till today!

In fact, about a year ago, I wrote a tribute to him and 4 others, who “made” me.

No matter what you’re going through at work (or in life), if you do what I did above – with intelligent persistence – you WILL turn your adversity into success!

To Succeed, Stop Waiting For a Perfect Moment or Idea

“No enterprise worthy of accomplishment would ever begin, if all obstacles were first to be overcome” – Napoleon Hill.

This article narrates a true story about how the foregoing words of wisdom helped me get my books published – and sold – in print as well as digitally, even when I had NO MONEY!

It All Began in Late 2002, My Start-up Year

I’d been delivering my 1 hour flagship talk in different organisations and their branches. And it was very well received everywhere I went. I got back lots of filled feed back forms with rave testimonials.

One day it occurred to me that I needed to find a way to use the web to promote my speaking service and message to more people.

I did not however have the funds I could commit, to paying for web design and hosting (at this time I’d not learnt web design).

Yet I Knew the Web Could Enable Me Get Word Out About My Talks at LOW to Zero Cost

So I began searching online in a café. A few later I discovered “scheduled auto responders” – and www.getresponse.com stood out with a FREE version packed with great features for beginners.

That was when the idea struck me: I could offer a weekly auto responder course without a website!

And it was perfect for my talk which was titled “Ten Ways You Can Use Self-Development to Create the Future You Want”.

Since it had 10 parts, I could make each part go out on a particular week. In effect, I ended up conceiving a 10 week auto responder email course!

Excited, I Quickly Sat Down and Wrote Out The Text of the Talk

I’d up till then delivered it using ONLY a 5 page (2 parts to a page) outline.

So, to write it out, I basically thought back to my outings and recalled the key points I discussed and wrote them down. Within 2 weeks I had written over 100 pages, comprising an introduction, all 10 chapters (or parts) and a conclusion/summary.

Next, I created a FREE account on www.getresponse.com (not sure if they still offer it today though) and setup the course using the content I’d written up.

Each “part” was to be delivered to a subscriber’s inbox weekly. After the 10th week, each person would get a final message thanking him/her. There was a short “blurb” announcing that I was available to speak etc. My phone number, email etc were appended.

I Had Something to Say, & Was Determined to Be Heard!

Looking back I believe I was able to succeed like I did because I focussed on using my experiences.

I drew inspiration by reflecting on the successes I’d achieved both in formal schooling (where I almost got a first class degree despite heavy extracurricular activities), and in paid employment (where rapid career success came via multiple self-taught skills I had).

I wanted my listeners/readers to know they could do what I’d done.

And I also intended to prove my ideas worked, by applying them in my new career as an entrepreneur (my successes since then confirm they do!)

Not surprisingly, my message resonated greatly with the audiences.

But I did not expect it would catch on as quickly as it when I put it online…

Within a week, over 20 people had signed up for the 10 week auto-responder e-course!

And I noticed about 40% of them were non-Nigerian, from the UK and one from the US. All of those “foreigners” indicated they were “referred by a friend”.

As you can imagine, by this time I’d tasted blood.

I began testing offers of different kinds, including training courses, talks, e-book writing services etc.

Guess what?

Some subscribers to the e-course wrote back asking if I could help them create digital versions of books they wanted to write, or already had on paper.

One such person travelled all the way down from Makurdi, Benue State, in the north of Nigeria, to meet with me in Lagos.

He brought with him a beautiful book manuscript which he wanted made into an e-book.

We’ve been friends on Facebook for years now.

But it all clicked for me when three different subscribers, at different times, after reading the latest “part” delivered to them, wrote to me asking:

“Is it possible to get the complete book, instead of having to wait a full week to read the next part?”

I was stunned.

Not once had the thought of writing a book occurred to me!

Then as I read those requests, it occurred to me that I’d ALREADY written THE complete book!

Parts 1 to 10 made up the different chapters.

All I needed was introduction/forewords and possibly a “summary” to end with.

So, once again, I settled down and did just that.

Like I always did when speaking, I made sure I wrote from my heart.

When it came to getting my “book” in print however, I soon discovered traditional publishing could cost an arm and a leg!

As usual, my stubborn attitude made me think there had to be another way.

Persistent searching eventually led me to discover Zero Cost Print On Demand publishing.

To cut the long story short, that book has been selling as a 113 page physical manual that I call the “Self-Development Bible” online since 2005.

And I’ve since added other books, in digital form – including my popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook – which just 2 days ago, recorded yet another sale from my online store.

Final Words: My Advice to You

Stop waiting for a perfect moment, or for everything to fall in place, or for your manuscript or idea to be perfect.

Start with what you have, where you are.

You’ll be surprised that whatever you need to dot your I’s and cross your T’s will spontaneously appear as, and when, you need it.

The key is to GET STARTED first!

PS: In 2004 I taught myself to build websites using Macromedia Dreamweaver, Flash and Photoshop (with the aid of some international professional web design magazines – and CDROM tutorials that came with them).

Apart from building websites for clients, I’ve since built and maintained this multi-disciplinary website – www.spontaneousdevelopment.com – which I launched in June 2005.

Today, I focus my efforts on using Content Management Systems like Joomla! and WordPress, to build and maintain websites, while employing intelligent Web Marketing Systems to create and propagate their content for business promotion.

All of that continues to boost my search engine visibility – leading to more sales of my books and other products (like my Ration Formulator Software)!

No. 129: Speak (& Act) From Your Heart, or You’ll Sabotage Yourself

Some people speak (and act) in ways that impede their own progress, but often don’t know it. So they blame others, or their circumstances. I explain below, how failing to speak(and act) from your heart amounts to shooting yourself in the foot…which is why you need to STOP IT!

The Need to Be Your Original Self…

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Title: Speak (& Act) From Your Heart, or You’ll Sabotage Yourself

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No. 129: Speak (& Act) From Your Heart, or You’ll Sabotage Yourself

Some people speak (and act) in ways that impede their own progress, but often do not know it. So they blame others, or their circumstances. I explain below, how failing to speak (and act) from your heart, amounts to shooting yourself in the foot…which is why you need to STOP IT!

The Need to Be Your Original Self…

The header for this newsletter reads “Proud African” (scroll up to see it).

That’s what I am.

My primary purpose is to use this newsletter to influence Africa based experts (including my favourites: Farm Business CEOs) – to adopt public speaking to promote their businesses, AND also generate additional income via paid speaking gigs.

To achieve the above goals, I periodically recommend they make Burt Dubin their mentor.

Having said that, since 2006, when I launched my first online newsletter (The Self-Development Digest), experts and professionals from many other parts of the world have joined my mailing list – and some have purchased from me.

The truth is I’ve always added content to this website, with a passionate desire to have my ideas/solutions, transcend geographical boundaries worldwide.

As an Expert in Your Field, You Can Do the Same Thing

And why not? Others are doing it everyday.

Back in 2002, I was a volunteer tutor in a community based NGO that provided weekend Maths and English lessons to final year secondary school students.

One day I passionately expressed the opinion, to a fellow tutor, that the web lacked an authentic African “flavour”.

Most of the content online about Africa/African was NOT being authored by Africans. And I was not referring to news.

Instead I meant “original creative content”. New ideas, concepts, philosophies in the many different areas of endeavour we were engaged.

I told him I felt Africans needed to do more CRITICAL THINKING and contribute solutions that could move the world forward.

Of course there were pockets of that happening here and there. But they were too few and far between online.

He looked at me and said “Well, if you feel that strongly about it, why don’t you start something yourself?

I realised he’d made an excellent point. And I resolved to do just that.

So I began learning. And then I diligently applied what I learnt to generating content for my work both on and off the web.

In doing ALL of this, I’ve ALWAYS let my heart guide me…

And I honestly believe that has helped me succeed.

Expressing my thoughts about issues – in my personal and work life – back when I was in paid employment, and since becoming an entrepreneur, is a passion of mine.

It sometimes earns me both criticism – and some “haters”.

But I prefer that, to the awful feeling that comes from being untrue to myself…from NOT speaking up, or taking action I know I should take…or from”giving in”!

“I had no idea that history was being made. I was just tired of giving in.” – Rosa Parks

[Here’s something noteworthy: My best teachers have been Americans. To give you an idea of what I mean, I wrote an article about a year ago titled “Paying Tribute To 5 Experts Who Made Me“: At least 4 of them are American!]

Over a decade later, www.spontaneousdevelopment.com (this website) offers useful information, education, and solutions, on my key areas of focus and interest. And I get visits/enquiries from all over the world.

As an Authentic Expert, You Have Knowledge and Unique Insights Others Can Benefit From: Are You Speaking (and Acting) From Your Heart?

It’s an important question. Think about it carefully.

If yes, you’ll be doing the world a great service, because your useful ideas will be shared with those who need it.

Note that your “speaking” can happen via your website, blog, newsletter/articles/white papers, audios, videos etc. In other words, even when you do NOT speak at a LIVE event, you can still “speak” via those other media …to a potentially unlimited audience!

Sadly, too many experts I meet out here, who can be powerfully influential in helping others this way, shy away from doing it.

They doubt that they have anything worthwhile to say.

What they fail to understand is that as authentic experts in their chosen fields, the daily experiences they have already equip them to add value to audiences they address.

You only need to have INTEREST, PASSION, and access to EXPERT GUIDANCE (like the “Inside Speaking Business Success Secrets” provided by Burt Dubin), to achieve that outcome.

Many times you can even get started on some basic level, and later on choose to connect with a mentor to help you effectively “package” a flagship offering you can “sell” to audiences.

Sometimes you may not even wish to get paid.

Instead, you may just wish to give back, by sharing what you know with those who need it.

Whatever the case, the reality is that you MUST challenge yourself to speak/act – from your heart – regardless of your fears, doubts, concerns etc.

And you must choose to speak on something you have conviction about. It can even be a subject totally unrelated to what you’re known for.

The key here is YOUR conviction!

Let me illustrate this point, by sharing the interview video of a famous boxer, who delivered a very entertaining, yet seriously ENLIGHTENING “talk” about a subject unrelated to his professional occupation.

His name?

The legendary Mohammed Ali!

This has been labelled “Lost Footage” from an interview done in England (I think) when he much younger. Using great humour, he speaks about how he learnt to deal with racism, from some people, even AFTER winning Olympic Gold for his country!.

Think about it for a moment…

Ali could have chosen to focus on explaining how he got so good at boxing to become champion etc.

And no one would have complained.

But he skilfully used the opportunity of the interviewer’s question, to “inform” and “educate’ his audience about the silly misconceptions promoted by a narrow minded few.

Ali Was an “EXPERT AUTHORITY” In the Eyes of the Studio Audience…Like You Already Are…

In his case, he did not sabotage himself.

Instead, he wisely used the “credibility” he KNEW he had, to drive home crucial points he felt strongly about – to the multi-racial audience he KNEW could/would end up watching that interview).

As one commenter on Facebook said: “He basically gave us a history lesson!”

And he did it VERY impact-FULLY, but without offending.

Amazing!

Ali must have earned for himself that day, GREAT respect from everyone that was there, I’m sure.

That respect would later have carried over into the boxing arena.

Even people who did not have any interest in boxing, would have felt drawn to him, and the sport, because of what he said!

So, speaking his mind boosted his name recognition, and credibility!

Click the image below to watch the video (NB: It’s on Facebook).

Click to watch - This is a piece of “Lost Footage” from an interview he granted in England (I think) when hew as a VERY young man, about how he learnt to deal with racism (even in his home town AFTER winning Olympic Gold for his country!).

Among other things, you’ll learn from that NO MATTER what people think of you, or do to you, it’s wiser to let love, tolerance, and self-control guide ALL you do and say.

Here’s one excerpt from Ali’s speech that drives home the above:

“…I have no racial problems. I don’t go where I’m not wanted. I’m proud…” – Mohammed Ali

Final Words

As you enter this new week, I urge you to go out DAILY, and be YOUR PROUD SELF, no matter who you are, what you do, where you come from, or what you look like.

Make sure you speak (and act) from your heart, at all times – because when you don’t, you’ll effectively be sabotaging yourself.

Now why would you want to do something like THAT???! :-))

Have a great week :-))

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Self-Development/Performance Enhancement SpecialistTayo Solagbade – works as a multipreneurial freelance writer providing  zero risk article and report writing support for website owners, while travelling slowly across West Africa as a Location Independent Multipreneur.

He’s presently based in Benin Republic, where he’s preparing an English-French Language Guide, City Travel Guides, and a Commercial Rabbit Farming Guide.

He earns multiple streams of income providing clients with performance improvement training/coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

For a limited time, Tayo is available to speak to your group or organization for a moderate fee. Send e-mail to tayo at tksola dot com. You can also visit www.tksola.com to learn more.

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Success Depends on Your Extracurricular Activities, and Not Just Studying!

Would you focus 100% on your studies, to seal a 1st class degree? Or would you ADD extracurricular activities, and risk missing a sure 1st class? I did the latter and narrowly missed 1st class. But my achievements since then prove I did the right thing. Here’s my story…

Meeting An Old School Mate Who Felt I Did It Wrong

We both graduated from University of Ibadan, in 1992. We had not seen each other since 2005.

During our discussion he recalled that I’d maintained a 1st class Cumulative Grade Point Average (C.G.P.A) right from our first to 3rd year. But he felt my extracurricular activities made me narrowly miss graduating with a 1st class in Agricultural Extension (which would have been a first for the department).

I recalled that I finished with a C.G.P.A of 5.9. First class was 6.0. It was indeed a narrow miss.

He referred to a club I’d joined – the Student’s Farm Research Foundation (SFRF) – in annoyance

To him, that club prevented me from clinching a first class degree. Apparently, from what he said, some of my classmates with whom he’d spoken also felt so.

On my part, I simply smiled and changed the subject.

I doubted I could change his mind. And I was also amused by his inability to see the bigger picture.

But that was understandable. He had become an academic. He naturally still thought in such terms.

I had chosen not to take up the offer of graduate assistantship sent to me by the university, as the best graduating student. (Instead, I accepted Guinness Nigeria’s invitation to become a Graduate Management Trainee/Brewer.)

My experiences have shown me many great benefits of engaging in such extracurricular activities!

I explain below…using 3 main activities I engaged in while on campus

Extracurricular No. 1: Playing Competitive University Handball

The first day I joined the university team in training as a freshman, I won a shirt on the team (NB: I began playing state level competitive handball in my teens, while in secondary school in Kwara state).

NB: In a future article, I’ll elaborate on many benefits university sports persons enjoy (e.g FREE accommodation EVERY year), which make engaging in sports worthwhile. But you must have the discipline to combine it with your studies.

In my final year (1992) I captained both the Independence Hall and University teams. The former I led to win the Inter-Halls Handball competition, while the latter I led, in a severe bashing at the West African Universities Games preliminaries. A bitter-sweet ending for me!

However, despite my heavy involvement in sports, I still graduated top of my class.

Interestingly, I would get an award from the University Sports Council, and my hall of residence in 1992.

Now, my course of study was for for 5 years. I played Handball right from my first year (1987) to my final year (1992) year. Yet, all through to 1989 (my 3rd year), I kept my C.G.P.A in first class range.

So I think it’s safe to say sports did not really prevent me from doing well with my studies.

Extracurricular No, 2: As a Member of Students Farm Research Foundation(SFRF)

In my 3rd year (1989), I joined the Student’s Farm Research Foundation (SFRF) – an innovative, self-funding farm research oriented student group in the University of Ibadan.

Most members were Veterinary Medicine majors. Only about 3 of us were studying Agriculture. Every day, we did practical livestock (poultry, rabbits etc) management – including feeding, feed formulation/ compounding, disease prevention and control.

In my 4th year (1990), I was elected “Sales Coordinator”. I was 20. My job involved purchasing feed ingredients and compounding formulated rations for pullets, layers, broilers, cockerels, and rabbits produced (for sales income) on the SFRF farm. I still remember getting my uncle to teach me how to keep track of money I spent using a simple book keeping notebook.

Here’s why I remain grateful till today, that I got that involved in SFRF:

My successes today derive from that exposure – none of which I could have gotten in class, or by studying alone. It was practical and very relevant for me as an Agricultural professional!

One Example:

In 2002, while speaking with some farm owners in Lagos, I discovered they lacked proper feed formulation knowledge and know-how. This made their feeding costs high.

So I decided to write my now popular Practical Feed Formulation Handbook and offer it for sale with practical training to farmers. (See a one chapter PDF preview: http://tinyurl.com/ffhbprv)

2 years later, in 2004, I developed my Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ software to accompany the handbook following requests by buyers of the handbook, for a faster and less tasking means of doing the Pearson Computation described in it

Recall my friend said SFRF was responsible for my failure to get 1st class?

Well, maybe. Or maybe not.

The above example however shows that the name recognition and sales I’m getting for my expertise in feed formulation has more than made up for those lost C.G.P.A points!

Extracurricular No. 3: As President of Readers’ Club

Looking back, I think this 3rd extracurricular was the one that really led me to “choke” on my work load.

I quickly earned a number of nicknames from my freshman days.

When results of first year exams came out, colleagues noticed that Matriculation Number 52xx3, repeatedly came out tops in key subjects, with scores often in the 70s to late 80s.

They got curious, and soon found it was mine. From then on, many good naturedly began calling me “Iwe” (Yoruba for “book”) and “Material” (short for “First Class Material).

They did not stop there.

Right through our second year, they would check the results once they were pasted on notice boards, and come to inform me of my scores. Indeed at a point, I did not have to bother going to check when results came out. Someone would just say “Hey material…you scored …%!

It was great to be on campus in those days. There was so much goodwill amongst the students.

My”book worm”  reputation was to later get me into “trouble” of sorts…

In my fourth or final year, I got nominated by classmates to be the pioneer president of a “Readers’ Club launched in the department.

But I knew I already had my hands full with sports, and SFRF.

Try as I could, no one was prepared to pass me over. It seemed they felt my nicknames of “Iwe” and “Material” made me perfect for the job.

So I found myself having to arrange meetings, excursions, and do a variety of other tasks.

That Was When I Began to Feel the Pressure…

My study routine, developed from my first year, began to suffer e.g. I began getting to my room too tired to wake up and study from midnight till 4.00a.m, before hitting the tracks by 5.00a.m.

When the final C.G.P.A was announced, I had no regrets. Instead I let others lament on my behalf :-)

I felt I’d gotten the best of all the worlds I’d been in while on campus.

The merit award from the sports council, and my hall of residence, made me feel I’d achieved a decent balance in my university education.

My Extracurricular Experiences Have REPEATEDLY Helped Me Succeed in Various Ways in Life!

I’ve since discovered over more than 2 decades, that I was right!

My sporting background has continued to help me deliver seemingly superhuman work related performances to the amazement of many older/younger persons.

To succeed in competitive sports mental and physical stamina are things you MUST develop. Add to that a rock hard never-say-die mentality, in the face of pain, difficulty, or any other form of adversity.

I’ve explained in several articles on fitness (like this one) that stamina will help one excel in life.

Stamina – both physical and mental – enables me – seemingly effortlessly – churn out articles/reports, create Excel software, and complete web marketing projects, to meet deadlines.

I’ve also given examples above, of how my SFRF experience provided the basis for developing what is today my most popular, and profitable range of farm business products and services.

If you’ve been reading this blog, you should by now have deduced that my SFRF exposure equipped me to write the 4,000 word agribusiness paper I got paid for in December 2013.

And if all goes well, there’s yet another potential benefit of my SFRF exposure headed my way!

Just today, I emailed the final version of a proposal about entering my Ration Formulator™ for an international competition.

When I clicked “send”, my head felt HOT from over 2 weeks of carefully crafting answers to the questions in the “brief” document provided!

It required most responses pegged to 150/200 words. They wanted no long stories…like this article…LOL! But I got it done :-))

In giving my answers, I made a point of stating that my SFRF experience helped me create the handbook and software innovation.

The proposals will be reviewed and selected by an “expert jury”, and contracts will be awarded to the 20 highest-scoring applicants, who will also be invited to a cross-learning workshop etc.

I gave it my best shot. Who knows…my proposal could just get chosen!

Final Words: The Right Extracurricular Activities Can Make Giving Up a Few C.G.P.A Points Worthwhile

The truth – no matter what anyone chooses to believe – is that over 80% of my increasingly popular software and handbook feed formulation solutions did NOT come from my classroom exposure.

Instead, they came directly from the 3 years I spent as a VERY active member of SFRF.

Indeed, no one has ever asked me about my C.G.P.A score since I graduated!

And that’s why I’d advise my child, ANY DAY, to give up a few C.G.P.A points, if it’s unavoidable, to acquire such life changing extracurricular experiences!

To Succeed, Act with Courage on Your Convictions (Hint: The TRUE Meaning of Valentine’s Day)

I read a story yesterday about St. Valentine and what happened to him, that resulted in celebration of Valentine’s day.

If the story is accurate, then his was not a Romeo and Juliet or romance tale.

Instead St. Valentine bravely died for what he believed.

A law had been passed barring marriage of young people, because the ruler at the time believed married men tended to be less courageous and commited at war, because thoughts of their wives and children made them want to play safe.

So the law aimed to keep young people from wedlock to ensure the right mindset in those recruited to go to the war front.

St. Valentine found himself sympathizing with many young lovers who desperately went around asking priests to marry them. The priests naturally declined, knowing the law forbade it.

One day Valentine began secretly conducting marriage ceremonies for those who came to him.

He knew it was dangerous but he felt convinced it was the right thing to do.

He was eventually found out and ultimately put to death for his actions.

The narrative ends by saying that on the day he was to die, he sent a note to a young lady (daughter of a top officer in government) who’d reportedly regained her eye sight when he prayed for her while he was in prison.

It was not a love letter though. But he signed it with his name thus: “Your Valentine”.

And that was apparently how the use of “Valentine” came to be.

I believe a quick Google search will bring up a more articulate narration of this story behind the Valentine’s day celebration.

However, in this article I’ve chosen to extract a lesson on courage from the story.

St. Valentine believed he had a duty to help people who loved one another fulfill their dreams of getting married.

He searched his heart and knew failing to perform that duty would be wrong.

So he bravely went ahead and acted on his convictions despite being aware of what could come of it.

Today, the whole world celebrates LOVE using his name!

I believe that in our personal and work lives, we can emulate St. Valentine by acting with courage on our convictions to do things right…AND to do the right things!

I also believe that we need to teach our kids, from as early as possible in their lives, to do the same.

If we do so consistently, the world is bound to become a better place over time.

Do You Want a Comprehensive Guide to Private Universities in Benin Republic?

A recent email from one of my newsletter subscribers read (in part) as follows: “Tayo, pls can u guide me on university education in Benin Republic? Ranging from the standard ones to qualifications and range of tuition fee as well as accommodation.”

Sadly, I was only able to send her links to a list of approved universities published on the Nigerian Embassy website, and to the website of a client who is a top decision maker in one of the leading universities here.

In truth, what she wanted was a WHOLE lot of information that cannot be found in one place!

Here’s the detailed response I sent to her…

“I’m not sure what your understanding of my work is, and especially how I operate here in Benin Republic.

The truth is I do not have access to that kind – and volume(!) – of information on private universities here.

Even people who OWN or work in them would struggle to give you all you’ve asked for!

My Suggestions:

1. I have a client: www.nanaarnold.com who is a top decision maker in one of such private universities.

You may contact him via his site to see if he can help you.

Note that you take full responsibility for your subsequent actions in this regard.

2. Check with the Nigerian embassy.

The ambassador once published a list of accredited institutions and their approved courses at http://nigerianembassybenin.org/?page_id=633

You may wish to contact them for additional guidance.

3. I’m an entrepreneur based here.

My work in the area of web marketing/freelance writing brings me in periodic contact with stakeholders in the industry.

I can do a detailed survey of the accredited schools along the lines of your enquiry, and prepare a comprehensive table on which the different institutions can be compared, to aid your decision making.

But that would be a lot of work, and it would be for a professional fee.

Hope this helps :-)

===End of email reply===

After sending the above email, I realized I could have added a 4th suggestion:

4. Consider taking a trip down to Benin Republic for a few days to see things for yourself.

Plan to come in early in the week – say from Tuesday.

You would have possibly printed out the list of approved institutions and courses from the Embassy website. If possible you could visit the Ministry of Education in Nigeria to get the list.

Indeed it is likely they would also be able to give you a more comprehensive list that includes all approved courses offered by EACH institution.

Armed with that, you would then visit Benin Republic, and go to the equivalent ministry of education office here, to obtain get the full contact details of the institutions on your list.

Once you get that, the next step will be to call and/or visit each one to find out the details you want.

If any have website addresses, you could start by checking them out online.

But only START by doing that…do NOT stop there!

My experience however strongly indicates you would be VERY wise to STILL plan a physical visit to each school to establish what they really have to offer.

Or what would be the point of traveling ALL the way down to Benin in the first place, if you then did NOT visit their premises in what is such a small country?

What’s more moving around in Benin is generally not a problem. So you will rarely have to worry about traffic or any other annoyances.

Final Words: “My Comprehensive Guide to Private Universities in Benin Republic” – Coming Soon

I did not like the fact that I was unable to help that email enquirer on such an important matter. Considering that I’m based here, and engaged primarily in freelance writing online and off the web (of articles, reports and guides on different subjects), I believe I should help out in this area.

So, that email has now made me resolve to do the necessary detailed research and investigation to come up with a comprehensive guide to “Private Universities in Benin Republic”.

I’ll offer it as a new information product from my website.

This is because it’s obvious – from what I’ve seen over the past 10 months – that many people (parents and students) looking for reliable and unbiased resources to help them make their choices.

Hopefully, what I come up with will fill that need, to some extent.

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Anyone – Including Kids In School – Can Achieve Success Via Part Time Entrepreneuring

Photo 1: Wed. Dec. 11, 2013 – My 10, 14, and 12 year old sons, and the 50% pineapple peel based cakes they baked WITHOUT an oven. All they used was the charcoal stove, a heavy metal pot, and flour, sugar etc that I brought ALL the way from Cotonou…LOL!
Photo: Wed. Dec. 11, 2013 - My 10, 14, and 12 year old sons, and the 50% pineapple peel cakes they baked WITHOUT an oven. All they used was the charcoal stove, and a heavy metal pot I brought ALL the way from Cotonou

Now They’re Selling Their Cakes!

Yep. I found out just yesterday afternoon, when I called to speak with them.

Actually, I called to scold them for leaving their rooms, and most of the house disorganized.

Their mother had complained about that the night before.

So I decided to call and speak with the boys. One is a teenager already, while the other 2 are approaching that age, but the restlessness of youth makes their attention span notoriously short.

I started with the 12 year old, asking him why he’d left the sitting room un swept and disorganized. He mumbled a number of excuses.

None of them held water. But I played along.

Then I told him I would call by 10p.m to ask if he’d done his chores. And if he had not, he and I would have issues. He knew what I meant, and promised he would get it done.

I had a similar chat with the 10 year old.

The 14 year old, this time around, was not at fault. He has had to support his mother a lot since I began traveling, and the many different roles he’s playing have made him mature beyond his years.

He’s become extremely capable in terms of handling house hold chores, including cooking.

The teenage excesses still come over him at times, but he’s learning to better manage them.

I told him to follow up with his younger brothers and make sure they did what they’d promised to do.

Just as I was about to end the call, the 10 year old (he’s always the one who leads these initiatives) snatched the mobile from his older brother, and exclaimed: “Tayo, we’re now selling our cakes!”

It was like a repeat of how they told me they had started selling their drinks.

I asked: “Really? Where?”

“In our school. Our classmates bought all the ones we took to school yesterday!” he replied.

“How much do you sell them?” I asked.

“N50!” he replied in an excited voice “They bought everything, and told us to bring more.”

Photo 2: The 14 year old has a finger in his mouth. That’s where most of the first set  of cakes they made went…before they recently began selling them…lol!)

Photo: Wed. Dec. 11, 2013 - My 10, 14, and 12 year old sons, and the 50% pineapple peel cakes they baked WITHOUT an oven. All they used was the charcoal stove, and a heavy metal pot I brought ALL the way from Cotonou (The 14 year old has a finger in his mouth. That's where most of the first set  of cakes they made went...before they recently began selling them...lol!)

As Shown Below I Also Brought Them the Cake Cups I Used In Cotonou

The price he mentioned was one we’d agreed on before I returned to Cotonou. That day we sat down and did simple costing of the inputs, to agree a reasonable selling price for each cup cake.

Our computation came to roughly N55.

Photo 3: Heavy metal pot my kids use for “non-oven” baking of the pineapple peel cakes. I also brought them the Cake Cups I used to make mine back in Cotonou

Heavy metal pot my kids use for "non-oven" baking of the pineapple peel cakes. I Also Brought Them the Cake Cups I Used In Cotonou

In Cotonou, I’d seen many people, towards the Christmas celebrations selling similar cake sizes for 150 FCFA.

This amounted to approximately N50.

So we agreed they should try selling the cakes at that price.

I Had No Idea If They Would Find Buyers or How/Where!

I just told them: Try and sell them(just as I did after teaching them to make the drinks)…LOL

For one thing I noticed the first set of cakes they made using my “zero-oven-village-charcoal-stove-baking” method tended to be a bit undercooked.

(That did not however stop them and their sisters from gobbling everything up. They really had fun making cakes with over 3kg of flour I brought with me, plus another 2 kg I bought before I left. All the cakes were eaten up. No attempt was made to sell. Kids!!!! LOL)

I later found the cakes undercooked because they were not keeping the charcoal bricks burning. As a result the heat tended to diminish with time.

So I told them to let each cakes batch stay longer, and to fan the embers for longer periods.

As You Can Imagine, An Oven Would Have Made All This Hassle Unnecessary…

That’s true.

However, the improvisational approach I used helps people – especially kids – discover how to use their creativity to do things inexpensively.

And it also equips them with valuable life skills.

The way I see it, as young Africans, it’s useful for them to know how our traditional cooking “equipment” work.

Who knows where they’ll find themselves in future!

Anyway, considering that they now make sales, and buyers want more, it’s safe to say they’ve now gotten the “Cooking Time” for their cakes right 😉

Next Step: Getting Them to Understand Why They Must Re-Invest – & Save – Money They Make

I told the 10 year old I was pleased with what they had done, and to “Keep it up!”

But he was not done yet…

He quickly cut in to say: “Tayo, tell Mommy to give us N300, so we can buy more flour and sugar, to make more cakes.”

That request reminded me of a mistake they had been making since they began recording sales.

They’d showed me wooden piggy banks they put their money in. But it rarely stayed there. They always found ways to spend it all!

In fact, the last time I spoke with their mother, she complained they got money from her to buy sugar, flour and other ingredients for making the cakes and drinks.

But they never brought home the money from sales. Instead they spent it on snacks right in school!

Since they are kids, this was not surprising, and I expected it.

I told him to give the phone to his mother. Then I told her to give them the money, BUT to demand that they hand over sales they make to her.

The next step I have planned is to sit them down, and explain why they must plough back part of their sales income to purchase materials for the next production.

And I’ll also tell them why they have to save some of what is left.

Final Words: One Thing I Know From Coaching Kids Over The Years…

If you explain it clearly to them, so they see the benefits, you will NOT need to chase them to do it.

For now, I’m letting them enjoy the feeling of being able to make the classmates part with N50 for each of the cakes they make by themselves.

I know it’s a wonderful feeling, and it will inspire them to think of more ways to put their skills to use.

I urge you to do the same for your kids.

Entrepreneurial skills of this kind can prove crucial for their achievement of success in their adult lives.

Children find activities of this kind exciting/challenging, so interest is unlikely to be lacking.

And as shown above, they can do it, while still schooling full time!

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Achieve Writing Success by Reading More Frequently and Deliberately

Late last year, I decided to begin writing short story pieces. Click here to read my first ever (500 word) attempt titled “The High School Students Street Fight”, which I entered for the GKBCinc Short Story Competition on 31st December 2013.

I intend to write many more short stories. Most will be based on real life experiences I’ve had, but written in a language that will appeal to kids as well as adults.

My plan is to challenge myself by deliberately entering each piece for ANY available online competitions. Or offline ones that do not require much registration hassle.

Why This Interest in Writing Short Stories?

You see, I’ve noticed that people love to read stories…often fiction or part fiction. They love to read novels – be it fiction or those based on real life events.

I happen to have lots of stories from real life experiences to share.

Over the years, I’ve noticed formal non-fiction writing does not appeal to all those who stand to benefit from the lessons offered in my writing.

But I’ve observed that most people react positively to true story pieces I write.

So, I’m deliberately adopting the use of short stories, to reach out to more members of my target audience.By infusing more entertainment – and less formality – into my writing, I aim to succeed more often in getting my message across to people who need to “hear” it.

I’ll be doing it based on the categories I focus on (e.g. career development, self-development, parenting, entrepreneurship, writing/blogging etc).

To this end, I have now created a Short Stories category to aid people who may wish to search for my write-ups that fall into this new area.

I’m Also Doing It to Help My Kids Become More Competent Writers and Readers

You see, I pay a lot of attention to what my kids tell me about school. I ask them questions about what they learn, their teachers etc.

What I learn convinces me I need to help my kids learn to use self-study techniques to complement whatever they get in school.

My passion for self-education drives me to challenge them to work hard at developing self-tutoring skills.

Succeeding with self-tutoring requires forming a healthy reading habit.

The problem is traditional schools, the way they operate, often make learners develop an aversion for reading.

When reading is not felt to be pleasurable, by the learner, s/he will avoid it wherever/whenever possible. And that will happen a lot when s/he is outside school …where it is unlikely to be “formally required”.

I noticed this was affecting my kids. They did not like being told to read – except it was a comic or magazine with fun content.

So I began encouraging them to think up and write short stories of their own.

To give them ideas, I suggested they read short story books by other authors, and to refer to narratives of traditional African folk tales.

The process has been slow, but so far I’ve gotten the 14 year old to complete one short story, while the 10 and 12 year olds are working to finish their first pieces.

Starting a Parent and Children “Self-Publishing Venture”

I have decided we’ll publish – both online and off the web – a collection of our short stories as a family, in one book, that will be offered for sale.

Years of experience working with kids and young people tells me this strategy can help me boost their natural interest in reading and writing.

I believe when my kids see their names and stories in print, they’ll get excited. Then even if only ONE sale happens, it will inspire them to think of writing more!

And that desire to write more, with coaching I provide, will make them want to read more as well.

Why will this happen?

It’s because the writing process often benefits greatly from reading that is done by a person. And they will discover that, as they participate in this exercise.

Many Great Writers Are Reputed to Have Started Out as Great – Often Voracious(!) – Readers

This is true. And it makes a lot of sense does it not? Very common sense I might add!

But one thing to note is that the quality of what is read is crucially important.

When you read “junk”, your development as a writer is likely to suffer. That’s why great writers recommend reading books by great authors…and nothing else.

Again, it’s just simple common sense.

I’m going to apply that common sense in coaching my kids to develop sound reading/writing skills.

And I aim to help them acquire the ability to earn tangible income using those skills.

Publishing My First Ever Short Story Is the First Step

As I’ve mentioned earlier in this piece, I intend get “The High School Students Street Fight” published as one of a collection of short stories to appear in a book by me and my kids.

Read my 14 year old son’s article titled “The Fool Who Thought He Was Wise (A 14 Year old’s Useful Story About HIV Aids Prevention)”. It will also be included…possibly with changes to make it a more compelling read.

For now, I’ve published my first ever short story (500 words) on this blog – click here.

I’ll try and make our collection of stories have illustrations to make each one interesting, especially to kids.

Today’s advanced PC and Internet technologies make doing the above relatively easy, convenient and affordable.

In fact it can even be done very cheap or at zero cost – if you choose to use Print On Demand Publishing – like I do, and which I strongly recommend.

NB: Read my 2005 article titled “How I Discovered Zero Cost Print On Demand publishing.” AND another titled “Do You Really Have To Find A Conventional Publisher? (A Case for Print On Demand Publishing)

That’s why I believe more parents may find it useful to adopt a similar approach, to help their kids develop more real world relevant reading and writing skills.

You Can Agree to Disagree and Still LOVE (Tribute to my father at 80!)

Photo: My father – Ezekiel Oluwajimi (E.O) Solagbade – cuts his 80th birthday anniversary cake on Tuesday 4th Feb. 2014, with my mom (his wife for 43 years now). Dad is a Civil and Structural Engineer by profession. I absolutely LOVED the cake, because it was beautifully decorated to depict technical drawing tools he uses!

Dad & Mom Cutting the 80th Birthday Anniversary “Structural Engineering Cake!”

Close Up Photo - The cake is beautifully decorated to depict technical drawing tools Dad uses!

 

A little history: Before starting his consulting outfit, Dad supervised the construction of some major roads across the country, while with the Ministry of Works – in the 60’s. This meant he had to travel a lot – with my mother.

It was during one of those periods “on the road” that I was born, on 6th July 1970 in a place called New Bussa.

New Bussa used to be in Kwara State, but following the redefinition of state boundaries some years ago, it now falls into Niger State.

(NB: I still have my ORIGINAL birth certificate issued back then. The paper is all brown now, but still very legible.)

Deciding to Visit my “Place of Birth” During my NYSC Service Year (1992/93)

As a student, I’d always filled “New Bussa” in forms while trying to imagine what the place looked like. So, when the time came to go for my one year of mandatory service as a member of the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC), I wrote a letter requesting the NYSC directorate to send me to Niger state.

This was in 1992/93 (I’d completed my degree course at the University of Ibadan, in Oyo state, in 1992)

They were glad to approve my request since the scheme had always been intended to promote regional integration. Here was this Tayo Solagbade, Yoruba guy, asking to be posted to Niger state in the middle belt area of the country.

It was perfect…for them…and for me (or so I thought…LOL).

So I Got Deployed to Spend My Service Year in Niger State…In a REAL VILLAGE!

But my place of primary assignment, much as I’d hoped it would be, was NOT New Bussa.

Instead it was a remote Vatsa village (Yes, “THE late”General Vatsa’s village), on the outskirts of the state.

At the time, they were NOT connected to the National Grid!

For a guy raised in the city, this would turn out to be a perfect introduction to REAL village life…and I fell in LOVE with it!

Newspapers typically arrived 3 days late. Yep. And they didn’t always come…LOL!.

Plus, if you were still there by 5 to 6p.m, you would most likely NOT find any commercial transportation to leave…till the next day!

Sitting Out The June 12 Presidential Election Riots

You may recall the June 12 crisis happened during that service year(?)

Well, 4 fellow NYSC members and I were stuck in that village all through that crisis period!

We only heard the little news that filtered in about the elections and the riots that followed.

Then, we began to see lorries carrying the belongings of Igbos who were fleeing from their Northern bases back to their homes in the East.

The Niger State NYSC director would later come around to visit us.

I recall him telling us we were safer where we were(in the village), than we would be if we tried making it back to our various homes in the south.

Well, back then, it turned out he was right.

None of us got harrassed or disturbed by anyone.

We lived amongst the people – who were mostly farm-loving Gwaris.

I made many great friends amongs them – teachers, and students alike. We made friends with Mohammed Vatsa…the late general’s son.

He was the ONLY person (if I recall correctly) who owned a generator (albeit small – the “I pass my neighbour” type) in the entire village at the time. So we used to spend time with him watching films…poor Corpers we were…LOL!

Demonstration of REAL LOVE from a father!

However, I tell this story to paint a picture of what life was like back then, for youth corpers.

Danger was certainly not something that bothered us.

Unlike today when serving outside your region can pose real dangers – for you…sadly.

During that June 12 crisis, my father kept sending messages through a cousin of ours who owned/ran his business in Abuja (Gwagwalada was just about one hour’s drive from the village).

His Experience of the Kano riots in his younger days, made him believe I was in danger. So he kept sending messages, refusing to accept my replies that I was safe and well, until I agreed to move into my cousin’s house in Abuja.

I stayed there for about 2 weeks.

My Dad scolded me when he finally got to speak with me on the phone.

He said “Look anything can happen. You need to take precautions and protect yourself from danger.”

We all (i.e. my siblings and I) enjoyed such protective gestures from him (and my mother).

Nothing compares to it!

Dad & Mom, flanked by me &my wife (of 14 years -Nkechi)...ehm & one more person...lol

Final Words: We (i.e. Dad and I) Do NOT, of Course, Get Along All The Time…

That’s a fact of life.

No two people ever do.

We’ll always have our differences!

Indeed there was a time when Dad and I argued – sometimes quarrelled(!)- quite a bit 😉

But even those interactions have made me better as a person.

I’ve learnt to appreciate that people will periodically hold divergent, uncompromising views from mine…and to be OKAY with it.

The truth is we CAN always agree to disagree!

Here’s wishing my SUPER DAD, many more prosperous years filled with joy, good health, happiness, and MORE grandchildren!!!!

Dad, Mom, and grandchildren (my kids)

PS: In next Friday’s post on parenting, I’ll share a story about how he found out I was secretly keeping a baby turtle in our home – and gave me a thorough thrashing…LOL!

Dad and Mom...with ‘Tomi - my sister and her husband, Ayo.

 

Dad & Mom.with Tutu , my sister who came in from the UK to represent her family. Her husband (Segun) & kids could not make it, due to work /school

 

Dad & Mom. + entire family...my brothers Victor(beside Ngozi - wife) & Femi (behind Peju - wife)

 

 

 

Dad and Mom...with Victor - my brother, and his wife, Ngozi

 

Dad and Mom...with Femi - my brother, and his wife, Peju