This 17 year old who started making his own footwear because most vendors did not have shoes fitting his size 46 feet, now makes shoes for sale to others. This post highlights three of his custom hand made products…
Category Archives: My Ideas for Making Nigeria Better
[RECOMMENDED] How my preaching against tithes rendered me poor, jobless – Freeze cries out
I feature this report previewed/linked below, because it confirms one of the biggest claims I’ve made about Nigeria – which is that it is a place where truth tellers and geniuses with a passion for doing right often end up being stifled to death – often with the active connivance of those they are trying to “help” or “save”!As for me, like I always say: I FEAR NOBODY and I FEAR NOTHING. I will continue doing what I do, no matter whose Ox is gored. The Creator ALWAYS brings me out on top. ALWAYS.
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[RECOMMENDED] How my preaching against tithes rendered me poor, jobless – Freeze cries out
Controversial On-Air Personality (OAP), Daddy Freeze has cried out over his poor financial status since he began to preach against payment of tithes in churches.
Freeze writing on his Twitter Page said that his campaign against tithe has crumbled his finances and affected his career.
[FREE PDF] Challenging Your Kids to Do Things for Themselves is NOT Bad Parenting: The Mistake Some Parents Make That Makes Their Kids Unable to Succeed In-spite of Adversity
Click the link below the preview that follows, to download and read my latest PDF report on Best Practice Parenting.
Title: Challenging Your Kids to Do Things for Themselves is NOT Bad Parenting
Subtitle: The Mistake Some Parents Make That Makes Their Kids Unable to Succeed In-spite of Adversity
Preview:In my 62 page White Paper titled “Schooling is a Means to an End, and Not an End in Itself”, I noted that many of today’s parents have been sold the dummy, that if they challenge their kids to do things for themselves, they would be BAD parents.
Read this report to find out why this is a BIG mistake.
It offers eye-opening insights that wise parents can use to empower their kids to become competent income earning adults in society early in life, with or without access to paid employment opportunities.
Click here to download the PDF report now – no subscription required.
PII 132 – Part 2 of 2 [New Report] Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You, and Your Child – Best Practice Parenting Ideas
In this second and concluding part of the PII 132 issue of my weekly newsletter, I offer a preview of my new 14 page report titled “Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You, and Your Child”.
As more people have engaged me on what I’m saying, I’ve found many would not take the time to read the White Paper, yet wanted to voice opinions on what I was proposing/doing.
Most times it was apparent they did NOT fully understand that what I propose is meant to COMPLEMENT, and NOT replace the existing schooling system. And it certainly does NOT mean I am saying MY kids will no longer attend school.
Hopefully, those who read this will better understand, and go on to read the White Paper itself.
Please share with any persons you feel may find them useful.
Tayo
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Title: Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You, and Your Child
Subtitle: How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools
Pages: 14
Format: PDF
Preamble: This 14 page PDF report offers an introduction to, and justification for an alternative educational model I proposedfor adoption in my 62 page White Paper that got me invited by the Ministry of Youth and Social Development earlier this year (2018).
That White Paper is titled: Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself…and it’s subtitled: Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!
Introduction
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“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn,unlearn, and relearn. ” – Alvin Toffler
I always feel great empathy for people who blindly criticize me for the unconventional steps I’m taking to give my kids what I call Real World Relevant Education, that prepares them to succeed as competent income earning adults who thrive in or paid employment.
I feel for such people, because they miss an opportunity to learn empowering truths that can make them better parents – and better people, in the long term.
I’ve done thousands of hours of research and thinking – using myself as an experimental guinea pig of sorts – to uncover hidden truths that I reveal in my White Paper.
The insights I’ve gained tell me we CAN make our schooling system serve OUR kids better than it did US!
So, for those who may feel they are too busy to read 62 pages (there are some things ONE MUST NEVER be too busy to read though), but who question my ideas and actions, I’ve prepared THIS report to offer an overview of the ideas advocated in my 62 page paper…in the hope that THIS report will make you read THAT paper.
All I ask is that you keep an open mind when you do…
“The mind is like a parachute. It works best when it is open” – Author
Tayo
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- Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You & Your Child! [How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools]
- Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself [Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner-Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!]
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PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2
He lost his wealthy father at the tender age of 7, and along with 5 siblings had to be cared for by a struggling mother (who was deserted by family members and her husband’s friends)
But by the time he clocked 16, he was already earning $3,000 to 5,000 USD monthly, writing for international clients from his humble dwelling in Nigeria’s ancient city of Ibadan.
Today, he’s been featured as the “Ultimate Nigerian Business Success Story” on top platforms across the world, like Forbes.com and Business Insider.
And despite being just in his early 20s, he already owns a 50 acre (300 plots) parcel land with a thriving catfish farm business whch he runs on it, having invested some of his Internet earnings into the offline business.
How did he achieve all this, when he started out with next to nothing you wonder?
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Monday 3rd August 2018
NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016. I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.
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PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2
He lost his wealthy father at the tender age of 7, and along with 5 siblings had to be cared for by a struggling mother (who was deserted by family members and her husband’s friends)
But by the time he clocked 16, he was already earning $3,000 to 5,000 USD monthly, writing for international clients from his humble dwelling in Nigeria’s ancient city of Ibadan.
Today, he’s been featured as the “Ultimate Nigerian Business Success Story” on top platforms across the world, like Forbes.com and Business Insider.
And despite being just in his early 20s, he already owns a 50 acre (300 plots) parcel land with a thriving catfish farm business whch he runs on it, having invested some of his Internet earnings into the offline business.
How did he achieve all this, when he started out with next to nothing you wonder?
Especially doing what he does working in a very difficult socioeconomic environment like Nigeria (with erratic power supply and Internet connectivity), PLUS having to deal with the discrimination from some potential clients, due to the negative image of Nigerians created by 419ers?
Being the diligent student of success and human bevariour that I am, I have studied this chap for a while, since I first discovered him in 2014 or so. And here’s what my findings tell me:
1. He had exposure, very early in life to what is called TRIAL BY FIRE, and luckily for him, he USED it to build himself up for success.
Evidence that I’m right can be readily deduced from the following statement, he made in an interview published online:
“Losing my dad taught me a lot. It taught me tenacity: persistent determination. From the age of seven, other than God, I’ve had to do most things on my own; no fatherly support or resources to make things ‘manifest’ for me. As a result, I grew up being highly independent and persistent. A fighter of sorts, I grew up learning that if you want something, you demand and fight for it; and you don’t give up until you get it… because there is no dad who is going to give it to you. You either get it, or you don’t. For me, this lesson is more valuable than anything else a father could have given me. When I want something, I go for it… and I don’t give up until I get it. This tenacity is God’s gift to the fatherless, and I’m taking it with me all my life.” – Bamidele Onibalusi, Source: Losing my dad at 7 taught me how not to give up—Onibalusi, 24-year-old celebrated guest blogger/
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Note to reader: I first wrote about this young man on my blog back in 2014, when an elderly Swedish lady who connected with me on Facebook told me that HE was HER idol. Since then I’ve written several pieces about him, a recent one being: Choosing The Right Role Models for Success Achievement – What to Look For [Case Study: 21 year old Ibadan-based Nigerian freelance writer/blogger, who earns thousands of dollars writing for international clients AND also makes money from a Catfish Farm Business he started 1 year ago!]
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2. BUT apart from exposure to trial by fire, he also did NOT have any OBLIGATIONS to fulfill that could have distracted him from maintaining his focus on doing what was required to achieve the success he needed.
This second factor is quire important – believe me. I know what it feels like to try pursuing success of this kind while having a family to support. It’s much more difficult!
This is why successful people strongly recommend starting as early as possible. And that’s why I’m supporting my kids to do just that.
Sadly, too many Nigerian parents do NOT understand the need for this.
They unwisely tell their kids to wait and finish school first!
Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, and many others including Robert Kiyosaki started long while they were STILL in school – and some even dropped out at some point to continue. Later, they came back and finished their schooling.
Now, it might interest you to know that the young man Onibalusi, is today sponsoring his own university studies using money he makes from his online and offline business.
Like I always say, if you lack money, there is a limit to how much formal schooling you can easily access in most societies.
So learning to make money as early as possible in life, can be to your advantage in so many ways. Smart parents will teach their kids to do it. There is just no better way to empower your child to excel in life as an adult.
It may NOT be conventional or popular to insist that your kids learn income earning vocational skills on a 50:50 basis alongside their academics, on a daily basis, for instance.
But the results you get, which will equip the child with useful real world relevant life skills that your child will OWN forever, will prove you right in the long run – and make your child grateful that you made him/her do it.
The true story linked below, provides a real life example of how I use the ideas I’ve shared above. Click the link or image to learn more.
PII 128 – Commandment No. 5 of 10 – You Shall Confidently Offer to Solve Real Life Problems For Your Target Audience [Features TRUE STORY of Teenager Who Started Making Custom Shoes for Himself Because Shoe Sellers Rarely Have Shoes Fitting His Size 46 Feet]
NB: The second and concluding part of this special report will be published on this blog tomorrow.
Get these 2 FREE PDF Downloads on Best Practice Parenting and Education from Me When You Join my Best Practice Parenting Group on Whatsapp
- Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You & Your Child! [How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools]
- Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself [Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner-Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!]
Text me your WhatsApp Number via +234-803-302-1263 (not my Whatsapp no!) and I’ll add you to my Best Practice Parenting™ group where download links to BOTH this report and the 62 page White Paper are accessible.
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Successful People Say Making Mistakes Is What YOU Need to Succeed [FREE DOWNLOAD]
For over 25 years I’ve used the ideas I share in this short piece to excel – in spite of adversity – in EVERY area of endeavor I’ve ventured. You can use them too. Click the image under the following body of text to download it as a JPEG version you can read OFFLINE and even print/share to inspire others.
Buckminster Fuller once wrote:
“I know so much because I have made so many mistakes”
Very profound statement, based on deep insight.
Accomplished achievers who defied adversity to succeed, like Robert Kiyosaki have noted that MISTAKE MAKING and the sometimes resultant TEMPORARY DEFEAT (aka FAILURE) are necessary ingredients for authentic success achievement.
I have TESTED the above wisdom for over 25 years, first in paid employment and later self-employment, and found it works.
You become wiser by being willing to take RISKS to try new things you never did before, because doing so helps you LEARN what does not WORK, so you can narrow down to fewer options remaining until you do find WHAT WORKS.
By the time you succeed, you will KNOW MORE and it will show in the CONFIDENCE you display in relating with others.
You will boldly speak and act based on what I call STREET-WISDOM (aka YOUR experience based CONVICTIONS) and NOT textbook or armchair theories!
However, not everyone will LIKE you for that. Some will WRONGLY interpret your “confidence” as “ARROGANCE” and proceed to try discrediting you before others for that reason alone.
My attitude has always been to IGNORE the efforts of such people, even as I feel sorry for them for failing to grab the opportunity to LEARN what they can from me.
Indeed, anytime I encounter such people, I remember the following quote and smile inwardly, as they yap away:
“A person that does not know, BUT does not know, that s/he does NOT know, is a BIG FOOL” – Anonymous
[NB: Capitalized emphasis mine]:
T.K. Solagbade
Lagos, 25th August 2018
Email: tayo@tksola.com Web: www.tayosolagbade.com
[DVAM] Man Writes Women Support Agency Saying His Estranged Wife is Teaching His Kids to Hate Him [Features Expert Articles/Research on the common problem of Parental Alienation]
Below is a paraphrased excerpt from a letter written by a Nigerian man to a women support agency, in which he complains that the mother of his kids, who he is no longer on good terms with, keeps trying to ALIENATE him from the kids – by influencing them to hate him.
This article features previews/links to Authoritative Research Papers and News Reports on the – common – problem of PARENTAL ALIENATION of a parent by an embittered spouse. using the kids as a weapon.
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I DO NOT DO IT TO HER. So she needs to stop teaching the kids to hate, disrespect, lie and bear false witness against ME – their father
Examples:
1. I always ask each child to apologize to her when rude, but she does the opposite to me e.g sometimes even praising them – saying things to the child like “I trust you. Well done!”
2. She tells them I hate them when I discipline them – so that some actually say so to me.
I’ve made several complaints about this to older relatives and later various agencies, with no improvement. This was after efforts to reason with her one on one, repeatedly failed.
3. When I try to correct the kids for wrong doing, she often takes sides with each rebelling child, to not only defy, but also insult me, and even goad them to physically attack me – sometimes causing injury to me.
To make matters worse, she even coached the kids to claim they’d attacked me because I was beating HER – when that was NEVER the case!
4. But the truth is that whenever she is away, and the kids are ALONE with me, they readily relax/have fun with me. However, as soon as she comes around the kids become stiff and less responsive to me, because they know she could get angry seeing them bonding with me.
I want all this to stop. What she is doing is abusive to me and the kids.
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What this man’s partner is doing to him is called PARENTAL ALIENATION – a very common occurrence between disputing couples, with kids
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What follows below are reports and papers that discuss Parental Alienation in elaborate detail…
It is instructive to note that BOTH women and men can be guilty of doing this to their spouses – as shown in reports and records from various societies.
Nigeria however lacks accurate information about the nature of occurrence of this problem.
I believe it’s time responsible bodies, and stakeholders began formally recording data on Parental Alienation, especially in light of the potentially damaging effect it can have on the target parent and the kids involved.
A. Children’s Lie-Telling to Conceal a Parent’s Transgression: Legal Implications
“””…the present study examined the lie-telling behavior of children aged 3–11 years to conceal their parents’ transgressions. It revealed that the majority of children told the truth about their parents’ transgressions. However, children’s lie or truth-telling behavior was adaptive and situation-specific. When the possibility of the child being blamed for the transgression was reduced, a significantly greater number of children lied about their parents’ transgressions.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2785013/
B. Divorcing parents who poison children against their former partner…
…The demonizing of a parent, usually by the one with whom the child lives, has long been recognized as damaging…’
“C. What Is ‘Malicious Mother Syndrome’? …Someone suffering from the syndrome:
1. Attempts to punish the divorcing parent though alienating their children from the other parent and involving others or the courts in actions to separate parent and child;
2. Seeks to deny children visitation and communication with the other parent and involvement in the child’s school or extra-curricular activities;
3. Lies to their children and others repeatedly and may engage in violations of law;
4. Doesn’t suffer any other mental disorder which would explain these actions.
NB: I’ve repeatedly stated EVERYWHERE I’ve gone to report these issues that Nkechi is mentally unstable – so item 4, to me, may not apply to her, and therefore she may not suffer from this syndrome.
https://family.findlaw.com/paternity/what-is-malicious-mother-syndrome.html
“D. The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children [Undermining loving parent-child relationships as child maltreatment]
“Parental Alienation involves a set of strategies, including bad-mouthing the other parent, limiting contact with that parent, erasing the other parent from the life and mind of the child (forbidding discussion and pictures of the other parent), forcing the child to reject the other parent, creating the impression that the other parent is dangerous, forcing the child to choose between the parents by means of threats of withdrawal of affection, and belittling and limiting contact with the extended family of the targeted parent.
There is now scholarly consensus that severe alienation is abusive to children (Fidler and Bala, 2010), and is a largely overlooked form of child abuse (Bernet et al, 2010),as child welfare and divorce practitioners are often unaware of or minimize its extent.
Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child; it has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate or fear the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child. ”
“A father who was the victim of (parental) alienation, speaking anonymously, told the Guardian:
“I’ve lived through and witnessed the inexorable alienation of my older daughter over the past five years, which has culminated in complete loss of contact. I will not have seen or heard from her for three years this coming January. We had a fantastic, loving relationship for the first 12 years of her life. This is a horrible form of child abuse that is struggling to get out from under the rock of prejudice and ignorance.””
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[DVAM] Who will save men from domestic violence?
This report really resonates with me, because it speaks my mind with regard to the near total disregard of the plight of many men suffering domestic violence (both physical and emotional/psychological) at the hands of their intimate female partners in Nigeria – and elsewhere. The author of this piece really nails the ISSUE that’s been begging for attention for so long now. It’s time for the desired change to be effected by the authorities and stakeholders!
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Who will save men from domestic violence?
Just as women keep complaining of being abused by their husbands, there are men who are also victims of domestic violence though can’t come out.
https://www.pulse.ng/gist/who-will-save-the-men-from-domestic-violence-id6957184.html
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[DVAM] Group laments increase in violence against men
The founder of the NGO featured in the news report previewed/linked below, reveals an interesting trend in which (to use her own words) “scores of married men” have visited her office to complain about domestic violence inflicted on them by their wives – AFTER she led a placard carrying awareness campaign at “Federal High Court, Jabi, in Abuja” on the problem.
Group laments increase in violence against men
An NGO, Girls and Youth Re-integration Network (GYRIN), has expressed concern over rising cases of domestic violence against men in the country.
The founder of the NGO, Miss Kehinde Awojola, said that GYRIN has received alarming reports from men after it launched its campaign on “No To Violence Against Men”.
Continue reading…
https://aljazirahnews.com/group-laments-increase-violence-men/
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[DVAM] EXTRA REPORT: Husband Battering, A New Face of Domestic Violence
Below, I share a linked preview to yet another publication from the Nigerian social space, that draws attention to the hidden scourge of Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM) that continues to be generally ignored by key authorities and stakeholders.
As usual, a the bottom of the post, I append a link to my Facebook sdvocacy page titled “Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM) – Ideas for Identifying and Stopping It”.
EXTRA REPORT: Husband Battering, A New Face of Domestic Violence
By The Nigerian Expression on May 14, 2018
By Supo Balogun, The Nigerian Expression
In contrast to the often stereotyped narrative which regularly painted women as the unhappy underdog in many homes, the Lagos State Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence Response Team (DVSRT) recently published a total of 138 men as suffering from domestic violence between May 2016 and April 2017.
Perhaps, one should yield to the women: If they have been subjected to domestic violence for so long, it may not be out of place if men too have a slight carriage of that burden women have carrying for many decades.
Such abuse includes slapping, hitting, kicking or forced sex as well as non-physical abuse like insults, threats, chronic disparaging remarks and controlling behaviours.
The latest figure, although relatively small when compared with the statistics of abuse against women and children, however, offers a new perspective to the growing incidence of domestic violence to which Kazeem had alluded in a 2017 report which indicated that 55 men were battered by their wives in 2016.
http://thenigerianexpression.com/2018/05/14/extra-report-husband-battering-a-new-face-of-domestic-violence/