Category Archives: Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)

PII 113 [AUDIO]: 1. One Serious Mistake Gov Ambode Needs to Stop Making If He Wants to Stop Domestic Violence | 2. Just Before You Blindly Join In Pointing Accusing Fingers at A Man Accused of Domestic Violence

In a few days from now (13th April 2018 to be exact), my “Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying and Stopping It” Facebook page will clock 1 year (12 months) old, since I launched it.

During the past year, it’s been interesting to see people following the page despite the fact that I have not gone out of my way to create ANY awareness about it, other than publishing new content every other month or so. More interesting has been the fact that those who have LIKED the page have been BOTH male and female!

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Monday 9th April 2018

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NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016.
 I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.

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PII 113 [AUDIO]: 1. One Serious Mistake Gov Ambode Needs to Stop Making If He Wants to Stop Domestic Violence | 2. Just Before You Blindly Join In Pointing Accusing Fingers at A Man Accused of Domestic Violence

In a few days from now (13th April 2018 to be exact), my “Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying and Stopping It” Facebook page will clock 1 year (12 months) old, since I launched it.

During the past year, it’s been interesting to see people following the page despite the fact that I have not gone out of my way to create ANY awareness about it, other than publishing new content every other month or so. More interesting has been the fact that those who have LIKED the page have been BOTH male and female!

The above tells me that this page’s message resonates with growing number of people.

On my part, as I note in the 2 audio podcasts I’ve just published in my SoundCloud.com channel, there are MANY men who are suffering in silence as victims of Domestic Violence, because little if at all ANY provision is made to address their needs where it relates to a situation in which their intimate FEMALE partners are the aggressors/abusers in the relationshop.

For those not aware of it, DVAM is a BIG problem that is hidden because few men have the courage to report it, and also because most of those assigned to tackle issues of Domestic Violence tend to focus on Women and Children to the exclusion of men.

My purpose is to influence a change in that narrative – and I AM using my platform here at TayoSolagbade.com to do what I can to draw attention to the need for a change in this trend that currently exists which puts men at a disadvantage.

Click the links below to listen to my 2 messages…

1. https://soundcloud.com/tayo-solagbade/one-serious-mistake-gov-ambode-needs-to-stop-making-if-he-want-to-succeed-with-his-campaign-against-domestic-violence

2. https://soundcloud.com/tayo-solagbade/just-before-you-blindly-join-in-pointing-accusing-fingers

Below: Screenshot of the 2 audio podcasts I just published in my SoundCloud.com Channel

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Related Article:

[DVAM] Woman As Aggressor: The Unspoken Truth Of Domestic Violence [There’s something very important that we’re not talking about when we talk about domestic violence. by Edward Rhymes]

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Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur

*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition

Mobile: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic)

http://www.tayosolagbade.com

Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutionsweb marketing systems/ web hosting, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter.

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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[IMPORTANT NOTE:====

On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
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[RECOMMENDED] Do You Know How To Deal With People Who Mock And Ridicule You? (Syndicated Version)

I wrote this article over a decade ago, less than 5 years after I quit my job to become self-employed. It was a period when I was experiencing a lot of repeat rejection from potential clients, especially as I tried to find buyers for my Excel-Visual Basic Automation solutions.

Many people simply ignored me (or my letters/flyers) while some walked me out of their offices.

But some went out of their way, to mock and ridicule me in ways that remain so painful for me to remember even now.

I will however add that what they was what I ended up using to inspire myself to succeed in creating a lucrative niche market for my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation products and services – which have since been purchased by clients within and outside Africa.

Read this article (which has been widely syndicated online – see examples here) to learn the exact ideas I used to enable myself to succeed inspite of ANY mockery and ridicule directed at me. Apply them as recommended and you WILL become UNSTOPPABLE, like I am!

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[DVAM] Woman As Aggressor: The Unspoken Truth Of Domestic Violence [There’s something very important that we’re not talking about when we talk about domestic violence. by Edward Rhymes]

I continue my STOP Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM) Campaign by featuring this powerfully eye opening report about a serious aspect of the Domestic Violence epidemic that most of society is missing – but thankfully, MORE and MORE experts are beginning to identify and call attention to i.e. that women have been found, many times to BE the abuser in cases of DV, and we need to address SUCH situations!

Woman As Aggressor: The Unspoken Truth Of Domestic Violence [There’s something very important that we’re not talking about when we talk about domestic violence.  by Edward Rhymes]

Let’s put this into perspective: a significant amount of the findings regarding male-as-victim intimate partner violence came about as the result of studies and surveys that were aimed at understanding domestic violence against women. These are not studies conducted by rabid anti-women men’s groups or right-wing think tanks. They were conducted by organizations like the Centers for Disease Control, National Institutes of Health, the American Sociological Association, Psychology of Women Quarterly and the American Journal of Public Health, to name a few.

Read full report:

https://www.mintpressnews.com/woman-aggressor-unspoken-truth-domestic-violence/196746/

LIKE OUR DVAM Advocacy page at https://facebook.com/stopdvambytks/

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[DVAM NEWS UPDATE – FEATURE STORY] Man Reports Female Partner for Domestic Violence BUT Gets NAMED the Abuser, based on Lies & Edited Video Cooked Up by His Partner!

When Ade had first visited that office, a female officer of the agency has loudly stated, in a surprised tone, that Ade would be the very first man she would ever encounter coming for their help. To her, it was something that seemed almost impossible. The letter in her hand however suggested otherwise.

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[DVAM] VIDEO – Maryam Sanda arrested for stabbing husband to death [vanguardngr dot com – NOVEMBER 21, 201710:06 AM]

Maryam Sanda arrested for stabbing husband to death [vanguardngr dot com – NOVEMBER 21, 201710:06 AM]

The Nigerian Police has confirmed the arrest of Maryam Sanda for allegedly stabbing her husband, Haliru Bello to death (on Sunday morning the 19th of November 2017). Bello, 35, son of Haliru Bello, a former chairman of the Peoples’ Democratic Party (PDP) has been buried according to Islamic rites in Abuja, after prayers at the National Mosque.

According to reports, it was not the first time Maryam  would attack Bello violently. She once  bit part of his ear off  during an argument. Bello was treated at a hospital before returning home. Some report said he was advised to leave the house but he refused, only to be brutally attacked the second time.

Read more at: https://www.vanguardngr.com/2017/11/maryam-sanda-arrested-stabbing-husband-death/

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[DVAM] Incredible! Wives Batter 55 Husbands In Lagos

[DVAM] Incredible! Wives Batter 55 Husbands In Lagos

This may sound incredible, but it is true, 55 husbands have reported to the Lagos State Government how their wives battered them in renewed cases of domestic violence in the state.

Continue…

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[DVAM] REAL MEN DO CRY ABOUT ABUSE

Date: January 1, 1970:

The article looks at male abuse. It states that though men are not as likely to fall victim to abuse as women, they are not immune to it and sadly those that are abused are unlikely to speak out because of fear of losing face.

This article may be used to:

> Highlight how abuse has been mainstreamed in the media.

> Challenge perceptions that men are immune to abuse.

> As an example of a good piece of journalism

> As an example of gender sensitive language.

> Highlight different types of abuse

> Raise discussion about the gendered nature of abuse.

Continue:

http://genderlinks.org.za/programme-web-menu/real-men-do-cry-about-abuse-2009-03-31/

[DVAM] Nigerian man narrates the domestic violence he faced in his wife’s hands

Nigerian man narrates the domestic violence he faced in his wife’s hands

STORY HIGHLIGHTS

What happens when the victim is a man?

It is not so often that we hear cases of men facing domestic violence in their homes.

It is usually women who have to suffer the terrible ordeal, sometimes suffering their pain in silence, other times finding courage to speak up or flee the situation.

What happens when it is a man? Who defends or even believes them? How do they go about speaking about their problem without sounding like weaklings or attention-seeking liars?

A Nigerian man, @rosanwo, living in the diaspora got the courage to speak up about his case on social media, and as expected, many discouraged him and asked him to find a better medium to air his dirty linen, while some supported and sent him kind words.

Find his story below:

http://thenet.ng/2017/01/nigerian-man-narrates-the-domestic-violence-he-faced-in-the-hands-of-his-wife/

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[DVAM] Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Domestic Violence [Hint: Read These True Stories from batteredmen dot com]

Do you ignore efforts to Identify and Stop Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)? Let’s hope your silence (or indifference) does not cause your son, brother, uncle, dad or other male loved ones to suffer like those who tell their stories on batteredmen dot com featured here:

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PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

One day Brian Banks was a high school football star poised to launch a promising career as a pro, and the next he saw it all go up in smoke when a former high school mate (Wanetta Gibson) accused him of raping her.

That happened in 2002 and he served over 5 years in prison – for a crime he NEVER committed!

But the story did NOT end there…

She later contacted him on Facebook and requested a meeting, at which she confessed that she’d fabricated the whole story – but refused to publicly admit it, for fear that her family would be asked to pay back money they’d been awarded.

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NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016.
I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.

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PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

One day Brian Banks was a high school football star poised to launch a promising career as a pro, and the next he saw it all go up in smoke when a former high school mate (Wanetta Gibson) accused him of raping her.

That happened in 2002 and he served over 5 years in prison – for a crime he NEVER committed!

But the story did NOT end there…

She later contacted him on Facebook and requested a meeting, at which she confessed that she’d fabricated the whole story – but refused to publicly admit it, for fear that her family would be asked to pay back money they’d been awarded.

Luckily, for Banks, he’d had the presence of mind to record her confession to him, and THAT was what the California Innocence Project, the organization that helped exonerate him, used to secure the reversal of his conviction on May 24, 2012.

[Read Wikipedia account at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Banks_(American_football)  | Also read Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

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Ten long years. That’s how long this nightmare lasted for this young man!

I feature his story in this issue of my Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter, as part of my Stop Domestic Violence Against Men advocacy campaign.

The story of Brian Banks is a perfect example of how a female can DECIDE to ruin a man simply by making a false claim, and succeed!

I don’t know about you, but reading Bank’s story, I could NOT help wondering about the psychological suffering he must have gone through, BEFORE this fortunate exoneration happened.

Banks had relatives, friends, colleagues and associates who would have looked at him differently when he got accused and ultimately sentenced to prison.

I cannot help thinking that he must have repeatedly protested that he did not do it, while others rolled their eyes heavenwards saying “Yeah, that’s what they all say!”

I also simply cannot help but wonder how he and all who identified with him must have had to ENDURE the embarrassment and humiliation arising from his false accusation ALL those years.

And I just cannot help but wonder if ALL those who heard that he got sentenced to jail back then, and who would have concluded that THAT happened because he was GUILTY of the crime the young lady accused him of, would EVER get to learn of the overturned court ruling that has since been given.

In reality, many may not get to hear that he has NOW been found innocent – so they will continue carrying those WRONG impressions about him in their minds!

And most importantly, I cannot help thinking that Banks LOST a HUGE opportunity to make it big in the NFL because of the action of this false accusation.

The damage to Banks simply cannot be erased by this reversed conviction, or the media publicity given to it and certainly not by the $2m fine imposed on his accuser.

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All of that is good – but they will not change what happened to him. It is my considered opinion that it should never have happened to him in the first place!

And the fact that it did should enough cause for society to introduce controls to PREVENT naughty females from succeeding with false accusations in future!

To think that he had to get a recording of her confessing to him in private, was how he managed to get his conviction overturned, and NOT that she came out to confess it willingly, really shows just how self-centered this lady was.

The sad thing is that so MANY females in today’s world are increasingly like Bank’s accuser.

They have this entitlement mentality, and will do anything to have their way. But if they cannot have their way, then they’ll do whatever it takes to get back at you for NOT letting them have it.

In a way, one could say men in today’s world are doomed in the sense that if at any point, a female with the above kind of mentality happens to set her sights on you, chances are good that she will get away with anything she does to you – because society has been programmed to believe her over you, the man.

However, as Bank’s experience proves, we need to change that situation and put in place systems to STOP naughty females from taking advantage of society’s protective systems, to inflict such vicious abuse on men in their lives.

We MUST stop this current situation in which ALL a woman or female needs to do is to simply SAY “He did it” for the male person she accuses to be INSTANTLY considered guilty by the rest of society.

This is not to say that authentic cases of women who have been abused by men do not exist.

What I’m saying is that their existence and the possibility of it happening is NO reason for us to leave innocent men at the mercy of naughty females looking for ways to use the protective systems put in place for women, to inflict abuse on men in their lives that they have an axe to grind with!

Learn more about my advocacy campaign on my page; Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It

A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.

In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the efforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defense” when their actions come under scrutiny.

What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better.

We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who belong to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.

That’s why I’ve launched this page.

Page URL: https://facebook.com/stopdvambytks/

[DVAM] Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Domestic Violence [Hint: Read These True Stories from batteredmen dot com]

Do you ignore efforts to Identify and Stop Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)? Let’s hope your silence (or indifference) does not cause your son, brother, uncle, dad or other male loved ones to suffer like those who tell their stories on batteredmen dot com featured below:

http://tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets/dvam-menweb-battered-men-mens-stories-batteredmen-dot-com/#.WQxy_Uhtldg

Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator

Click to view larger screenshot

1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc

2. Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.

Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.

EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.

Click here to watch a screenshot demonstration of the Excel-VB Driven Poultry Farm Manager I built for a client farm business in Ekiti state, South West Nigeria.

Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.

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New posts from last week*

Monday:

[Wednesday]:

[Thursday]:

FREE PDF | African Parents Need to Teach Their Kids About Their Rich Ancestry & Contributions to Civilization, So They Don’t Grow Up Feeling Inferior to Other Races! [Insights From Maiden Visit of the Tayo Solagbade Clan Members (i.e. my kids) to ABEOKUTA (Our Home Town) in Nigeria’s Ogun State on Saturday 22nd April 2017 for the African Drums Festival – held at the June 12 Cultural Centre in Kuto]

[Friday]:

[RECOMMENDED] VIDEO & TEXT TRANSCRIPT: Zimbabwean Pastor Tudor Bismarck preaches that Possessing an Understanding of How Things Work – and NOT Prayers – Is the Key to a Nation’s Economic Prosperity

[Saturday]:

[DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]

[Sunday]:

[RECOMMENDED] Lagos State Commissioner of Police Reads Bribe Taking Police Officers The Riot Act

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition

Mobile: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic)

http://www.tayosolagbade.com

Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement

Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter.

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

====
[IMPORTANT NOTE:====

On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
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View Tayo Solagbade's video tutorials and demonstrations on Facebook Productivity Tips, Web Marketing, and for his Custom MS Excel-VB driven software applicationsJoin the SD Nuggets community on Facebook.comConnect with Tayo on Twitter.comConnect with Tayo on Google PlusConnect with Tayo on LinkedIn.com

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[DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]

[I said in an earlier post on this page: Even the most docile being will react when pushed to the wall. Below is text I’ve typed out of the full letter sent in by a male reader (see large size photo) of Gloria Ogunbadejo’s “Mental Health Matters” column on page 54 of Sunday PUNCH April 30, 2017]

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Dear Gloria.

Thank you for your very insightful column that comes out every Sunday in the PUNCH. I have been reading your column for quite some time and I have been very impressed with your views. I was intrigued with the topic of violence against women which you covered sometime in the past and I wondered if you were aware that there were men who also suffer domestic violence.

I am a married man and $y wife and I enjoy a normal married life. It is very difficult for me to express myself on this matter as I find it very shameful. I am well educated as you might be able to tell, and am gainfully employed. I say this not to suggest that it is the uneducated or poor that experience this type of abuse. I am just giving you an idea of my background.

My wife has a bad temper and has always been aggressive. Before we got married, there were times she would engage in physical combat when we had disagreements, but I just thought it was her way of expressing the extent of her love for me. After we got married, she seemed to settle down and was not as volatile whenever she was upset.

She had a very difficult time conceiving and I watched as her anger got worse again. I never used to hit her even when she slapped or hit me with all types of things. I could not take it anymore. Recently I beat her very badly. I think it was a build up of all the times I was on the receiving end. It was nothing compared to what I have suffered from her. However, her family acted as if the world had come to an end. Her brothers were threathening me and the family called a meeting to warn me.

I am very angry and frustrated because I have suffered a lot from her abuse but I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it. I have decided that I will not let her get away with the physical abuse any longer even if it means the marriage will break.

This is not a subject that people take seriously in this country. It is only if a woman is experiencing abuse that anyone will listen. I know other men experience similar things but they either fight back or they keep quiet about it. I just wanted you to know that it is not only women who experience abuse.

Please Gloria, I require coinfidentiality to maintain my respect and dignity.

Name and address withheld

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NB: This update was first published on my Facebook advocacy page earlier today at https://web.facebook.com/stopdvambytks/photos/a.1010876555679725.1073741828.1010096242424423/1044723925628321/?type=3