Not all women behave in the bad ways described in this video by Sydney (who is also a woman!). But some (like my Ex) do and they often get away with it. That’s the point being made.
Due to harmful stereotypes, male victims often get NO opportunity to be heard, talk less believed. This amounts to being abused both inside their home and outside whenever they try to ask for help!
That situation pushes some to give up and commit suicide.
For instance, I was told about a former schoolmate in his forties who – last year – left a suicide note saying anyone who found his body should ask his wife – adding her name. No one knows what transpired between them, but he certainly was devastated enough to feel ending his life was the best option…while she did not.Of course, when asked it’s unlikely she will respond in anyway that will make her look bad – except some other person KNOWS the truth, she is likely to bury it!
Sydney’s message resonated greatly with me, because it accurately captured my sentiments and frustrations as a Male Survivor of Domestic Violence.
Too many people do not connect with this topic because the male victims are not their relations. And that needs to change.Men feel pain too. I do not need to be related to you, for you to feel my pain when YOU SEE CLEAR PROOF that I am being abused – because I refuse to be abusive in return.As a male survivor of DV, my friends, relatives/siblings knew my pains and had repeatedly feared for my life. They knew firsthand what I had endured. That’s why they ALL told me to walk away.
We need to STOP these badly behaved women. They are few, but their numbers are growing – because they are raising daughters and mentoring others…to be like them.
They are giving GOOD, WELL BEHAVED WOMEN a bad name!
But some other men don’t choose suicide. Instead they “snap” and attack their abuser – injuring her in the home or elsewhere.
On April 30, 2017 Gloria Ogunbadejo shared a letter – in her SUNDAY PUNCH Newspapers “Mental Health Matters” column – from a man who said he’d lost control and severely beaten his wife of 10 years (for the first time ever) when he could no longer endure her relentless provocation and abuse.Another time, she shared one from a husband who said he’d been contemplating suicide due to his wife’s abuse.
To ensure others can fully UNDERSTAND the points being made, so they can CHANGE their attitudes for the better, I’ve prepared a verbatim text transcription in PDF format for FREE download, and also inserted subtitle text into a review version of the video – a downloadable mobile friendly version is available HERE.
These 4 Highlight Text Transcript Excerpts from Sydney’s Video Drive The Point Home!
Highlight Excerpt No. 1:
Author Kimbrely Taylor interviewed women who were the sole abusers in their relationships. What she found was that this group was much more likely to use non-physical tactics, such as emotional, verbal and psychological abuse. A lot of the time it was about manipulation, control, using the children against the partner or threatening to take the children away.Gee weez. That kinda sounds familiar. We actually see this play out all the time, not only in the justice system, but also in the family court. We know that women will manipulate the system in order to get ahead, as well as use their children and other measures as a means of control when it comes to their ex-partners.That, my friends, is SUPER TOXIC BEHAVIOUR!
Highlight Excerpt No. 2:
And while I can’t say that there is a ton of research out there about women being controlling (’cause like I said before, it predominantly doesn’t exist), I did find data from 2013 that says that women are more likely than men to be classed as intimate terrorists and displayed aggression at a much higher rate than their male counterparts.
Highlight Excerpt No. 3:
So in the end, in my twenty something years as a female, something that I’ve come to really dislike is the victimhood mentality that so many women have adopted.And this is just my opinion, my observation. It’s not backed up by science. so don’t yell at me. I see this kind of behavior in women all the time, where they blame sexism or the patriarchy and use it as an excuse to defend and excuse their terrible behavior.They think being overly emotional and acting irrationally and erratically is somehow a sign of power, and the rest of society seems to think this behavior is absolutely perfectly fine and justifiable.They think that being psychologically and emotionally abusive towards men in particular is perfectly fine because the man is bigger and stronger and can handle it. But when that same man falls apart, they take absolutely no responsibility for their part in it. I er I don’t get it.
Highlight Excerpt No. 4:
Personally, I don’t really believe that femininity or masculinity are inherently toxic in and of themselves. I do just believe that there are toxic people out there, who do toxic things.
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