[RECOMMENDED] Why are Nigerians fleeing Nigeria? – Quora.com responder says “Nigeria is the land of cunning people. I can’t cope because I have no cunning bone in me”.

This Quora contributor’s additional responses to the question of “Why Nigerians are fleeing Nigeria” perfectly captured my sentiments – especially number 2:

“Nigeria is the land of cunning people. I can’t cope because I have no cunning bone in me”.

In addition, the points made by 2 other contributors, one of who still lives in Nigeria (and therefore should know), are in agreement with the views I’ve expressed about the country’s future prospects.

It’s sad, but true. Unless a miracle of unprecedented proportions happens, there is NO HOPE for Nigeria or those who live in it.

In other words, I honestly do not believe they simply can ever change, for the better. 

Read the full thread at the link below…

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PII 140: True Story – “Tayo Solagbade – Steroid Man” [Authentic Success Leaves a Trail – 3 Key Attributes You Need to Achieve It]

This week, I share a verbatim reproduction of a “news report” that was “published” on notice boards about me at the end of my final undergraduate year, by a member of the PRESS team in my university campus hall of residence. This was after I’d led the hall’s Handball team to a first ever victory at the 1992 edition of the University of Ibadan’s Annual Inter-Halls competition.

Now this may appear self-serving, but my ultimate purpose for reproducing this piece (see photo below of photocopied version I obtained before leaving campus) is really to highlight key attributes I possessed back then, which helped me succeed.

Examples:

  1. works like a “steroid user”
  2. resilient attitude
  3. determined to hit the top, trained extra hard

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PII 140: True Story – “Tayo Solagbade – Steroid Man” [Authentic Success Leaves a Trail – 3 Key Attributes You Need to Achieve It]

This week, I share a verbatim reproduction of a “news report” that was “published” on notice boards about me at the end of my final undergraduate year, by a member of the PRESS team in my university campus hall of residence. This was after I’d led the hall’s Handball team to a first ever victory at the 1992 edition of the University of Ibadan’s Annual Inter-Halls competition.

Now this may appear self-serving, but my ultimate purpose for reproducing this piece (see photo below of photocopied version I obtained before leaving campus) is really to highlight key attributes I possessed back then, which helped me succeed.

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Examples:

  1. works like a “steroid user”
  2. resilient attitude
  3. determined to hit the top, trained extra hard

The above were what the author commended me for in that report, and they have since helped me succeed repeatedly in every other area of endavour I have ever ventured, since leaving the university.

My message therefore is for YOU to understand that not only does authentic success leave a trail, but that achieving IT it in ANY field, will often require that YOU develop and actively use similar attributes.

====Start of 1992 News Report published on Independence Hall’s Notice Board=====

TAYO SOLAGBADE – STEROID MAN

[NB: U.I. = University of Ibadan]

He was once summoned by the Chief Coach of U.I (Handball) for drug test, but it was all a joke. Yes, he works like a steroid user, he is a final year Agricultural Extension “first class level” student, Abeokuta indigene of Ogun state. He is of the twenties bracket, a demagogue, pedant, patriot, agnostic, a primus-inter-pares, and he is not impious.

This young man, ever since he got admission into this citadel of learning, some five years ago, and out of his love for handball joined the Indy (Independence Hall) Handball team and was consequently invited to join the U.I Handball team (that was in his first year too). From them on, he has been consistent in the team and in his training too.

Due to his resilient attitude (after losing form for some years), and determined to hit the top, trained extra hard in camp, and this attitude towards success of his, earned him the (nickname) – STEROID MAN. His colleagues in camp, due to their laziness (would) not allow him lead any of their training sessions. Watch him in training and you’ll understand!

During the Inter Halls Competition (which Handball is an entry), Indy Hall has participated and never won despite having some U.I. stars amongst them. And this year was about becoming the one of those years until TAYO (SOLAGBADE) being in his final year, and determined to make lifting the cup for Indy a parting gift, and out of sheer determination, assembled some players together for early morning session trainings (constant early morning whistling heard by Independites is by him). This was consistently done for days and the end justified the means, as Kuti Hall was battered, Zik Hall (our terrorist for years) fell into the hands of Tayo (in fact, he scored the fastest, most spectacular “shocking” goal during the Indy-Zik meet) the hall of “LAME” inhabited by “Tedderats” refused to show up for the finals and so Indy won the Handball tournament (the only tournament won during the Inter Halls competition).

U.I Chief Coach Nwosu even commented about the Indy-Zik match saying (quote) “Indy played the match of their lives and Tayo was in his best” unquote.

[Note to reader: See my 2007 article titled “Become A Habitual Peak Performer – Learn How To Get Into Flow Or – The Zone More Frequently” – in which I narrate details of an experience I had while playing that match]

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Despite Zik’s delay tactics and importation of Papa (a good player from Lagos), Zik fell. Tayo was seriously “cut-out”, but due to the match plan he had previously, the job was left for Collins, Yomi Oduguwa, Kayode Abbas, Deji, Dicta and Bambo, not forgetting Bammy (Oh he was good), and they had the job perfectly done.

It is my surprise that after years of playing Handball for Indy and U.I., and being the only event won this year, due to the patriotism shown by Tayo (and the dedicated efforts of his colleagues) the Sports Commissioner and Indy exco refused to accord the Indy team its place during the annual dinner, making it a point for all Handballers to boycott the dinner. So that explains why Tayo and his colleagues were absent during award/recognition.

I look forward to a situation whereby Indy Hall exco should not be ingrates (especially Sports Commissioner), by at least making him realize his worth by organizing a send-forth or make sure that of the N30,000 generated by the exco, he is given a parting present.

I learnt he may come back for his Masters programme. By then Awo or Balewa should be watched out for. With him leaving us now (and maybe “as I heard” his eventually playing International/professional) Collins will now be bestowed the opportunity of seeing Tayo’s pet to constant fruition and maturity. Bammy too is not left out. Handball is now gaining prominence, being world’s second fastest game. TAYO (SOLAGBADE), Indy Press wishes you the best in your future endeavours. BRAVO.

DANCING PEN ’92

====End of 1992 Independence Hall News Report =====

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[RECOMMENDED] Education that can’t create jobs is useless –Ngige

This news report quoting Nigeria’s Minister of Labour and Employment, resonates greatly with me, because the minister’s expresses a view that perfectly captures the sentiments I have repeatedly expressed about today’s conventional schooling system.

It uses an obsolete curriculum which does VERY little to prepare learners to achieve income earning success post-schooling. Thanks to Adebowale Temitope for sending me the link to this report.

Like I have told anyone who cared to listen, THIS is why I temporarily pulled my kids out of the schooling system and immersed them in various vocational skills based training experiences, to complement their academic education. I believe today’s schools need a total overhaul of their curricula, to include at least 50% vocational skills training on a daily basis for learners.

Read: [BPP] This 2016 Viral Video Sues “School” for Killing Creativity, Individuality and being Intellectually Abusive

Enough of the time, money and effort wasting excessive focus on exclusive book based learning. Education needs to be customized for each learner. Our schools need to accept this, if they want to produce “graduates’ who don’t end up unemployable, and incapable of self-employment.

Education that can’t create jobs is useless –Ngige

The Minister of Labour and Employment, Dr Chris Ngige, says education that is not directed towards job creation is useless.

Ngige, therefore, said there was a need for schools to revise their current curricular to reflect modern challenges and development, according to a statement by the Director of Press at the Ministry of Labour, Samuel Olowookere.

Continue…

https://punchng.com/education-that-cant-create-jobs-is-useless-ngige/

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PII 139: How to Sell Anything to Anyone, Anywhere [Practical Experience Based Ideas including Examples, Analogies and Real Life stories] that Fit Any Industry or Market – LIVE TALK OR AUDIO PODCAST OFFER

What follows below is a verbatim text transcript version of an audio podcast preview for this topic.

I offer you the ideas that are contained in this podcast, as one who has LIVED the stuff that I’m going to tell you about.

 

“I have made sales of all kinds (on and off the web) to clients – total strangers – in over 20 of the 36 states in Nigeria – such as Lagos, Edo, Kano, Kaduna, Plateau, Ogun, Osun, Ekiti, Oyo, Rivers, Akwa Ibom, Anambra, Ebonyi, Delta, Niger, FCT-Abuja etc.

I have also sold my unique range of products and services (see some examples at www.tayosolagbade.com/sdn-sell.htm, www.lulu.com/sdaproducts, and www.tksola.com) to people within and outside the African continent – such as Canada, Ghana, Uganda, Tanzania, Kenya, Guinea, Benin Republic, United Kingdom, Phillipines, United Arab Emirates etc.

Every claim I make above is verifiable – I can supply detailed information to back it up.” – Tayo K. Solagbade
Now, with these items, I can give you names and phone numbers to verify. I’m talking from more than 10 years of experience.

And it took me a long time to get where I am today, that I can teach you these things.

Get across to me and I’ll tell you what it entails so we can get started – click HERE NOW.

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PII 139: How to Sell Anything to Anyone, Anywhere [Practical Experience Based Ideas including  Examples, Analogies and Real Life stories] that Fit Any Industry or Market – LIVE TALK OR AUDIO PODCAST OFFER

What follows below is a verbatim text transcript version of an audio podcast preview for this topic.

This is Tayo Solagbade.

I am the owner of www.tayosolagbade.com

I’m doing this special audio podcast (which I also offer as a LIVE talk – click here to invite me) because I want to help people – in the course of my interactions with them over the last few months, in 2018 – understand what they need to do to develop the ability to find buyers for whatever it is they sell.

So, the title of this podcast/talk is How to Sell Anything to ANYONE, whether you’re online or offline. In other words, on or off the Internet.

And I offer you the ideas that are contained in this podcast, as one who has LIVED the stuff that I’m going to tell you about.

I have made money by selling…you will not believe the kinds of things I’ve sold. I’ve sold the words of my mouth, in various forms – even just to talk with somebody who has never set eyes on me before.

I have made people pay as much as ten, to twenty, thirty, forty, fifty thousand naira, to have access to the information I offer – as I said in various forms.

Sometimes just to have a conversation with me on phone. Sometimes through MP3 audio podcasts, like THIS one. Sometimes in form of videos that I put on DVDs that I send through FEDEX courier service to various people across the country.

“I have made sales of all kinds (on and off the web) to clients – total strangers – in over 20 of the 36 states in Nigeria – such as Lagos, Edo, Kano, Kaduna, Plateau, Ogun, Osun, Ekiti, Oyo, Rivers, Akwa Ibom, Anambra, Ebonyi, Delta, Niger, FCT-Abuja etc.

I have also sold my unique range of products and services (see some examples at www.tayosolagbade.com/sdn-sell.htmwww.lulu.com/sdaproducts, and www.tksola.com.) to people within and outside the African continent – such as Canada, Ghana, Uganda, Tanzania, Kenya, Guinea, Benin Republic, United Kingdom, Phillipines, United Arab Emirates etc.

Every claim I make above is verifiable – I can supply detailed information to back it up.” – Tayo K. Solagbade

Now, the point I’m making is this. It took me a long time to learn the things I know, and that I offer to teach, in this audio podcast series.

I went through the psychological process of realizing that knowing how to do something did not translate to knowing how to get people to buy it.

Whether it is what you know how to do, in terms of your ability physically, maybe you’re a person that’s good at sewing things or making things. Or you’re a person that has knowledge or expertise that you share with people as a consultant.

Getting people to pay you, what you feel is worth your while, is not something that comes easily.

You may be good at what you do and you have major difficulty getting people to pay you good money for what you do.

So you find yourself constantly struggling.

I have a philosophy that I developed based on the years of suffering and hardship I experienced, trying to find buyers, before I understood how to make it happen.

And that philosophy is this:

I would rather stay without a client, and continue to work on myself, building up new products, creating new opportunities to find buyers, than for me to have a hundred clients, who – for the most part – pay me very little that is commensurate with the effort (I make) and value I add to them.

In other words, people who cheat me, people who underpay me. I do not want to have such clients.

The reason why you don’t want to have such clients is you will never grow. You will constantly be trying to make ends meet. And you will often find that they will (always try to) keep you at that level.

Typically these are people who want to keep you in a position where they will always be able to gain access to you, without YOU becoming too expensive for THEM.

So they see you’re good, and they want to keep you in their shirt pocket. They want to bring you out when they need you, because they know you’re extremely good at what you do, but they don’t want you to grow too big for them to afford.

So these are the kind of people that never want to see you explode i.e. manifest and flourish in your full path.

They don’t necessarily hate you. They are just people who are cheap minded.

Now, one of the rules for finding the buyers that will pay you what you want, so that you can sell anything to anybody, is to understand that you have to have what is called a Target Audience Profile.

You have to define your ideal customer.

So, what you’re going to learn from me here, is based on the experiences I’ve had, and the years of deep thinking and reflection I did, to understand that I could not have everybody that walked up to me, as a client – and that I had to have a screening process, to separate the “wheat from the Chaff” as it were.

To understand that not everybody that has money, would be a good client for me. Even if s/he is a millionaire, s/he may not be a good client for you. Those are realities you have to face.

There are a lot of things I’m going to tell you in this audio podcast series. If you pay attention to what I tell you, and you put them into use – forget about whether you have money in your pockets. You must be able to do the things I will tell you, with confidence.

Your confidence should never be in direct correlation to the amount of money in your pockets.

In other words, if the level of your self-confidence is directly proportional to amount of money you have in your pockets or your bank account, you have a problem.

You must be a person that can speak and act with confidence as a salesman, regardless of how much money you think you have; regardless of what you think your need is. I have walked into people’s offices with empty pockets, with no fuel in my car, no idea of how I was going to get home – and  I’ve walked out of the place with sometimes a cheque of N150, 000.0 (One Hundred and Fifty Thousand Naira) or even cash of that amount or more.

Now, with these items, I can give you names and phone numbers to verify. I’m talking from more than 10 years of experience.

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And it took me a long time to get where I am today, that I can teach you these things.

But like I said the first thing I want you to understand is your philosophy. And the philosophy is that I would rather be completely “clientless” (if there’s such a word) – have no clients, no business, nobody giving me jobs, than for me to be engaged serving clients, working my (butt) off, for people who for the most part, will not pay me what is worth my while.

What is worth the effort, time and value I add to them?

So you’ve got to have that understanding. Sometimes you need to be able to walk away from (some) opportunities to make money, because the opportunity to make money is one that is going to enslave you.

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If you want to be able to sell anything to anybody, you’ve got to be able to do that profitably. If you’re going to be somebody that can say that you’re in business really.

You’ve got to be able to grow your brand. So you’ve got to understand that not everybody who offers you money will be good for you.

Okay. So that’s the foundation of everything I’m going to teach you. And I want you to understand that you need to accept and adopt that philosophy, if you want to be able to succeed with the ideas I give you, in this series.

So, in the next couple of clips, I’m going to be telling you more. I’m going to give you what I call the rules for making sales.

Maybe I should just hint you. The first one is this (and I got it from Burt Dubin)…

“You are a marketer first, and an expert second” – Burt Dubin, www.burtdubin.com [World Renowned mentor of some of the world’s highest paid speakers, Creator of the celebrated Speaking Success System]

No matter what it is you do that you sell. No matter what you’re good at that you make money with. Forget about that. Put it behind you (or aside in your mind) and focus on how to develop your marketing and selling skills.

That is your priority as a person in business to make money.

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If you don’t have marketing and selling competence, you are going to be in trouble, no matter how good you are at what you do.

So you are a marketer first, and an expert second. Keep that in mind. In the next audio clip, I’ll break it down and let you know what that means (in detail – using examples, analogies and real life stories) and what you need to do.

My name again is Tayo Solagbade. This is supposed to be a preview to the actual training titled “How to Sell Anything to Anybody or to Anyone” – whether you’re online or offline. In other words whether you’re on the Internet or not on the Internet.

 And if you want to get the full compliment, the full package of this audio podcast series, then all you have to do is send me an email via tayo at tksola dot com or send me an SMS on +234-803-302-1263 in Nigeria, or +229-66-122-136 in Benin Republic.

Send me an SMS. DO NOT CALL ME. Send me an SMS and tell me you’re interested in this audio podcast series and I’ll send you details of how you can get a copy.

Now I do offer a talk – click the link below to get across to me if you want to invite me to speak to your group.

Maybe you’re a group of farmers, or CEOs in an association or business location (e.g. plaza or complex) etc.

Fill and submit the form on the page linked below to request details of how to invite me:

Get across to me and I’ll tell you what it entails so we can get started – click HERE NOW.

Wherever you may be.

If you want me to come and speak to your group on this topic (How to Sell Anything to Anyone) – believe me when I say that I have practical experience based ideas (including  examples, analogies and real life stories) that will fit any industry or market.

As a multipreneur, my keen multidisciplinary aptitude equips me to come up with workable ideas for problem solving in different situations.

Get across to me and I’ll tell you what it entails so we can get started – click HERE NOW.

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What Is A Payslip Generator, And Why Would Anyone Want One?

If this question popped up in your mind, I can assure you that you are not alone.

I’ve lost count of the number of companies and business owners who do not use a Payslip Generator, even though they have upwards of five or more employees.

Please note that FIVE as used above is simply my personal estimation of the maximum number of people I would personally be prepared to engage in computing salary details for, if I had to do it.

Payslips are required for a variety of important purposes, and this is why many government wants businesses to issue them to employees every pay period. However, due to its calculation intensive nature, manually preparing payslips can be a delicate process, and as a result mentally tasking and time consuming.

A TESTED & FUNCTIONAL system, that can cut down on the need for manual calculation will not only save effort, but also cut down on time taken, while increasing productivity, and accuracy. Payslip Generators offer such a system. A variety of platforms have been used to build Payslip Generators.

What I discuss in this tutorial series is MS Excel-based. I do this using my industry relevant experience from 5 years of delivering customised MS Excel-VB driven Payslip Generators for use by companies catering for employees numbering over 120.

Why Am I Offering YOU A Tutorial On Building A Custom Payslip Generator?

Everybody knows some Excel, but stop seeing Excel as an office program that everybody MASTERS and that is used to organize numbers in columns and make a few calculations. Excel is the best reporting application on the market and it is fully programmable with its own PROGRAMMING LANGUAGE within called VBA” – Pierre LeClerc PLI Consulting Inc

It’s because I have found it is a subject of KEEN and SERIOUS interest, for many people who run their own businesses or have to manage salaries in companies. In other words, people like that are looking for solutions that can help them generate payslips.

I have been deliving such solutions for clients, for some time now, and today I have companies within and outide Lagos that use my custom MS Excel-Based Payslip Generators.

I decided to offer this tutorial because I have found that the sensitive nature of the salaries data, makes MANY of those who may need help rather wary of engaging an “outsider” to develop the unique solution they need.

Are There NO “Off-The-Shelf Payroll Applications” That Generate Payslips?

Of course there are. However, my experiences and observations from working (as Graduate Trainee, later Process Manager, and then Head of Department) in a large multinational manufacturing company, and with CEOs of small, medium and large client companies, reveal the following:

1. Many companies do not have a reliable payroll system of any sort in place. Preparation of payslips thus becomes near impossible. As a result errors and fraud tend to happen. Sometimes they go undetected. In many cases, it hurts such companies.

2. Companies which have payroll systems in place, sometimes do not generate payslips. This could be because they do not think it’s necessary. Or those in charge cannot be bothered, maybe due to work pressure. Then there are cases in which the number of salaried persons to be given payslips is intimating.

For instance, the companies that use a basic version of my automated Payslip Generator in Lagos, each have more than 120 employees. Before they began using my application, their paylips were hand-written out for each employee into pre-printed payslip formats. According the accountant for one of those companies, it used to take them at least a week, to get it all done!

3. Some companies already have a working system that takes care of permanent, regular or contract employees. However, perhaps due to the way they operate, say in plants or factories, they have to regularly take on and disengage temporary workers e.g. for overnight offloading, packing, etc. Most of these temps are typically students or unskilled labour. Yet, they need to be paid, and their earnings/payments to them captured comprehensively for record and tax purposes.

It is the situation described in 3. above in particular that tends to make the use of a custom MS Excel App justifiable. That way, the manager responsible will be able to minimise the hassle of tracking and making payments(or reconciling issues). Items 1 and 2 of course also have potential benefits if they are addressed.

What If I Just Want To Buy A Good Payslip Generator(& Don’t Want A Tutorial or Training)?

I realise YOU, the reader, could be someone who need application of the kind described above, but might not have the time, training or interest to learn to build one yourself. Then again, you could be the boss of someone who needs this kind of application – and are also possibly not keen to do it yourself.

If the foregoing apply to you, you can still benefit, by simply getting someone you know to be averagely familiar with MS Excel, to follow the steps described in this tutorial, and use it to create the application you want for you.

And if you are keen to save money or to NOT spend ANY, I propose you talk to a student, or your nephew or niece, who may be inclined to do this as a favour. Tell them they’ll come away with massively enhance MS Excel know-how. It’s true!

If you insist on buying, consider one of these options:

1. Do a Google search and you should come up with some good results – many likely to be free. I have found that at this “micro” level of needs, virtually every person (or company) has a preference in terms of salary information and/or payslip details they wish to capture or present. As a result, there is always a need to make changes to whatever one finds on the web – be it free or paid.

2. Alternatively, you can fill/submit my signup form, and then call me on 234-803-302-1263 to discuss your needs with me. 5 to 10 minutes should be adequate to steer you in the right direction. If it appeals to you, we could discuss customizing my existing apps for your use, or building one from scratch for your company.

So, What Will I Learn/Get From This Tutorial?

In this tutorial, I aim to show you how you can build YOUR very own customisable MS Excel based Payslip Generator in a way that allows you to quickly, and conveniently make changes to accommodate new developments or future preferences. I will be demonstrating and explaining (via Audio Video clips) the time and cost saving techniques and worksheet design/layout logic that I use in building custom applications for my clients.

Specifically, you will gain access to :

1. Written step-by-step instructions with annotated screenshots

2. User-friendly audio-visual instruction videos like those available on my Youtube Channel.

3. Email support to address any requests you have, or clarifications you require.

4. The download link, to a FREE, fully functional copy of the Basic Version of my Payslip Generator ($170 USD), used by my clients since 2007*(Terms apply)

5. Explanations about the essential spreadsheet worksheet design and basic Excel application development principles/logic that I use. You will come away with a better understanding of why and how to layout your worksheets/interfaces for optimal user enhancement of user productivity. This will help you make more effective use of MS Excel in future. Consider the following TWO examples:

a. It’s always a VERY good idea to leave some rows blank above and to the left of your spreadsheet data tables/content area. Failing to do that can create MAJOR challenges when you want to introduce automation or link reports etc. Do you know why that is so?

b. It’s important to understand where your data entry interfaces and report preparation interfaces should be, relative to each other, in your workbookShould they be on the same worksheet or on different ones? Many will argue for and against. The FACT is that best practice permits ONLY ONE of those two possible options. Do you know which one it is?

You will learn the why’s and how’s of the above and other relevant aspects from my tutorial.

Fill/submit THIS form, and then call 234-803-302-1263 for details of how to enroll for this tutorial series.

If you apply yourself diligently, and carry out the steps I show you in the tutorial, you WILL end up with a custom Payslip Generator built by YOU, to enhance your work performance.

Better still, you would actually be able to offer YOUR application to others, for FREE or a FEE. They would find it greatly flexible and adaptable, with minimal effort required on their part.

Unconventional Techniques

As an Excel-VB Solutions Developer, I’m a bit contrarian and unorthodox in my approach – and I have NO apologies for being that way.

My “style” has been influenced by the need adapt to serve clients in my unique socio-economic environment. The focus I maintain, is on helping clients develop applications that SOLVE their problems as quickly and efficiently as possible, in a manner that enables me to STAY profitable.

So, even though I have applied stuff I learnt from studying books like Professional Excel Development and others, I will in some cases be showing you my own unconventional methods that help ME deliver the results I need .

If you’d like to access my step-by-step description (and demonstration) of how to build a BASIC MS Excel Payslip Generator, like the one I’ve described above, sign up to get details of how to enroll, by submitting the form below.

Who Am I & Why Should You Learn From Me?

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My name is Tayo Solagbade. I work as a multipreneur, serving clients in different industries and lines of business, using a variety of skills.

As the opportunities appear in the market place, I leverage over fifteen (15) years of Spreadsheet Solutions Development experience, to help clients develop custom MS Excel Visual Basic(VB) driven application, for their company’s data handling and report generation.

My greatest strength is however NOT in my knowledge or mastery of MS Excel formulas, functions or VBA. Instead, it is my high aptitude for simplification of complex tasks, by providing intuitive graphical interfaces driven by intelligent, non-superfluous coding.

The Spreadsheet Automation achievements I recorded in – my spare time – as an employee in Guinness Nigeria (from when I was a trainee) helped me quickly achieve a high-flyer status over a 7 year period, fom 1995.

Departmental heads (Laboratory Service, Engineering Services Packaging) constantly demanded my help to automate their report generation and data handling.

This was especially after I successfully introduced similar automation in my brewing department, and while on secondment to Training Department.

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You will recall I earlier mentioned helping out my Utilities Manager colleague by automating his Engineering Services usage monitoring charts preparation.

Well, here’s what he wrote (in part) to me via email from the new company – a multinational Oil Service company – he had resumed working for some months after my departure:

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To:olufelatks@xxxxxx.com
Subject:WANT US TO MEET 
Date:Wed, 26 Jun 2002 09:59:16 +0100

Hi Tayo,…my main reasons for my search for you are… to involve you in my new task of computerizing my departmental reports….I believe you have the competence to transform our reports having seen your Midas touches in Guinness.

The report will be in Excel spreadsheet, segmented into sheets but to be viewed and accessed by macro buttons. The report should be able to auto print and shows graphs. Presently, we have two mains Computerized Maintenance Systems from which some data need to be downloaded.

The report must be able to give quick predetermined checks for immediate management decisions. In pursuit of this goal, I want us to discuss and agree on the execution modalities and other things.

I am proposing to be in Lagos this weekend and wish to see you…Shola”

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What made him so sure that I could help him? The answer is obvious: I had shown that I could deliver the kind of results he wanted in the past and he had witnessed it.

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Since becoming Self-Employed in 2002, I have created a niche market catering to the needs of clients (churches, hospital, audiologist, photography services, manufacturing companies, health and fitness clubs, hotels, health care data analysis consultants etc).

A visit to my Custom MS Excel Solutions development site at will tell you more about me. Some of my video demonstrations and tutorials using my custom built MS Excel applications can also be viewed on my Youtube channel.

If you signup (click here) for details of how to enroll for this tutorial, you get to pay $125 (instead of $250) 

Fill/submit THIS form, and then call 234-803-302-1263 for details of how to enroll for this tutorial series. 

 

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Depending on his availability, Tayo accepts invitations to deliver customisable talks and keynote speeches (on  Self-Development, Career Development, Best Practice/Workplace Performance Improvement, Getting Maximum Benefits From Spreadsheets, and Entrepreneuring) for an affordable fee. Visit
http://www.tksola.com to learn more about how you can invite Tayo to speak to your group or organisation’s members at your next meeting or retreat.

VIDEO : Advanced MS Excel-VB Driven Payslip Generator

The video demonstration below, of the latest ADVANCED version of my Custom Payslip Generator shows what is possible in terms of custom MS Excel automation of payslip preparation.

1. Automated Chart Plotter interface in one of the advanced version of my Payslip Generator

Beyond simply preparing salary schedules, and printing out payslips, this automated chart plotter makes it possible to quickly and easily :

(1) plot/trend salary paid by department

(2) display the data in different chart styles

(3) view charts for different months using drop menu

(d) save ANY chart generated as picture to your PC.

2. Automated Data Handling Form in another of the advanced versions of my Payslip Generator

About The Custom Automated Modeless Data Handling Forms I Create

It can be a headache to find one’s way around a large data entry spreadsheet, even if it’s report preparation interface is automated via formulas.

The custom built modeless data handling forms (with minimise buttons), that I build into ADVANCED versions of my applications, make crawling around a large data entry spreadsheet (no matter how large) totally unnecessary.

You simply click the relevant control on the form, make entries or changes into fields provided, and the application implements them immediately WITHOUT ERROR – again and again. When you are ready to print (salary schedule or payslip), save changes, export or import salary data and so on, the relevant buttons are also on the form.

Like I said, the tutorial I’m offering will NOT cover the use of form automation.

GET ADVANCED LEVEL TUTORIALS

The know-how to create this higher level of functionality can be learnt by ANY serious minded persons. The tutorial offered here will NOT cover this, but on-demand training is available for groups and organisations. You can also request for FULL audio-visual tutorials showing how to build this kind of app.

Fill/submit THIS form, and then call 234-803-302-1263

BUILT-IN EXCEL SOLUTIONS DEVELOPMENT

Tayo Solagbade’s Excel Heaven™ is the FIRST provider of Preprogrammed and Custom Spreadsheet based solutions in Nigeria.

We offer Workbook Auditing/Optimisation and VBA Automation; Custom Spreadsheet Software Development; Sales; Job-Based Spreadsheet Coaching; and Consulting/Advisory Services on effective application of spreadsheets for business use.

Call 234-803-302-1263 to find out how we can help you.

See video demos of Tayo’s custom built MS Excel applications at http://www.youtube.com/user/TKSolagbadeSDAc

Visit our Excel Heaven mini-site at :

http://www.excelheaven.tayosolagbade.com

Click this link or the image below, to request my FREE PDF report.

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PII 138: VIDEO – Ugandan Lawrence Okettayot’s Garden Waste Powered Dryer Boosts Farmer Profits by 400% and Reduces Food Waste by 75%

This week, I offer a verbatim text transcript of a BBC News series report about an excellent invention by a young Ugandan, which has serious potential to solve Africa’s severe food waste crisis. If you are a crop farmer, this is one video you MUST watch.

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[Video Text] Could Lawrence Okettayot hold the answer to Africa’s food waste crisis?

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PII 138: VIDEO – Ugandan Lawrence Okettayot’s Garden Waste Powered Dryer Boosts Farmer Profits by 400% and Reduces Food Waste by 75%

This week, I offer a verbatim text transcript of a BBC News series report about an excellent invention by a young Ugandan, which has serious potential to solve Africa’s severe food waste crisis. If you are a crop farmer, this is one video you MUST watch.

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[Video Text] Could Lawrence Okettayot hold the answer to Africa’s food waste crisis?

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He’s on a road trip across Uganda to find out.

Lawrence Okettayot: “When you talk to someone they’re like, ‘Man, how do you think you’re going to accomplish this? There are European white people out there who have done a lot of technology. And you’re just a mere African. How do you think you are going to make this thing go big?”

[Video Text] There’s a lot of food waste in Africa. Enough to fee 300 million people every year.

So this is Lawrence’s solution.

It’s called a Sparky Dryer.

Powered by garden waste, it dehydrates fruits and vegetables, extending the shelf life from two days, to two years.

Lawrence Okettayot: So, this is our very own first prototype of the Sparky Dryer.

This is our heat source here.

Then this is the drying chamber, where we dehydrate all our products from.

[Video text] Lawrence is now taking the Sparky Dryer to the world.

Starting in remote northern Uganda.

The people here are still recovering from 20 years of brutal conflict that almost destroyed their farming way of life.

Lawrence Okettayot: We have lost quite a lot of people. So basically we lost how to do a lot of faming and agriculture.

[Video text] The problems here sparked the Sparky Dryer idea

So it happened when I was discussing with my uncle, and I asked him “What is really the problem with agriculture? Because you are telling me you wanted to leave farming and do some other things like building.”

Then he was like “You know the main problem is when we harvest our product, it’s quite hard for us to store all of it, because we don’t have any other means of storing it, like preserving it.”

[VIDEO TEXT] Browsing the market in the town of Kitgum reveals that more than a third of everything grown here goes to waste.

Lawrence Okettayot: When I see rotten vegetables like these…these quite inspire me to keep on going, so that next time when I get here, I don’t see anything like this. I only see nice fruit, dried fruits and dried vegetables around.

[VIDEO TEXT] But so far Lawrence has only sold seven Sparky Dryers. And one of those was to his uncle. So far has the Sparky Dryer has helped Uncle Joe?

[Uncle Joe] Before the Sparky Dryer, we were wasting a lot of our income. And we were so really poor because of that thing. We could not even take our children at school, because there was no money.

[VIDEO TEXT] But now Uncle Joe can dry his crops in just a few hours, every day. Come rain or shine. So he no longer wastes 75^ of his harvest. In fact, he wastes nothing. And he’s made enough extra money, to pay for this new building on his farm.

[Uncle Joe] When you take these two mangoes in the market, you will get only 500 shillings. A mango like this one, when it is dried, you will get 1000 shillings out of it.

[VIDEO TEXT] So the Sparky Dryer has increased Uncle Joe’s income by 400%.Just what Lawrence wanted to hear. And on the way back to Kitgum there’s more good news. Another order for a Sparky Dryer.

So the product works and demand is growing.

But will that be enough to make the Sparky Dryer a life-changing African innovation?

[Dr. Roy William Mayega – Resilient African Network] People in Uganda tend to prefer products made elsewhere, trusting that this thing really works better, if it comes, let’s say, from outside of Africa, or from some other country that they consider credible.

So that is a real issue that we need to change.

[VIDEO TEXT] But maybe that change has just begun…with Lawrence and his Sparky Dryer innovation.

Lawrence Okettayot: We want to scale this up to reach East Africa, then South African and other parts of the world. And by doing that, I’ll be the happiest man on Earth because I would have saved quite a lot of people going hungry every day.

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This BBC series was produced with funding from the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation.

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2.Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.

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EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

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TOP QUALITY READY MADE SHOES AT UNBELIEVABLY LOW PRICES – From Emeka’s Handicraft RESELLERSHIP

I bought a brand new pair of these Flip-on Leather Ankle Boots for N15,000.0 on 27th September 2018 and wore them to a dinner event I was invited a night later at Excel Events Centre, Oregun, Ikeja – Lagos.

Not only did they fit perfectly, and match the Full Ready Made Traditional Outfit I purchased for N19,500.0 (Aso Ofi cap included), but I also got lots of compliments and questions about where I got them.

So I decided to meet and discuss with the company that makes them, about getting my 17 year old son, who sells his custom handmade shoes, a reseller arrangement with them.

Now, he offers shoes like mine, (and others shown below) in addition to his hand made creations to single & bulk buyers.

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PII 137 – Commandment No. 8 of 10: You Shall NEVER be Satisfied With Whatever Web Marketing Success You Achieve

In this commandment, I propose something that’s likely to initially sound improper. But It’s actually EXPEDIENT for your success. NEVER being satisfied with Web Marketing success you achieve means you MUST  NEVER stop Researching, and Investigating New Ideas & Strategies succeed even MORE than you already have.

This is one area of life where being contented is UNWISE – because  in business you will be in constant competiton with others who do what you do, so complacency will NOT benefit you!

There are 2 areas of what you do, that this commandment addresses :

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PII 137 – Commandment No. 8 of 10: You Shall NEVER be Satisfied With Whatever Web Marketing Success You Achieve

My experiences have taught me that it is when your WMS is working well that one MUST actively seek newer and better ways to succeed with it.

In this commandment, I propose something that’s likely to initially sound improper but is actually EXPEDIENT for your success. NEVER being satisfied with Web Marketing success you achieve means you MUST NEVER stop Researching, and Investigating New Ideas & Strategies to succeed MORE than you already have.

Generally, especially in the spiritual sense, contentment is regarded a positive attribute that one would do well to cultivate. However, where BUSINESS MARKETING is concerned, especially as it relates to generating sales leads, being contented would be an UNWISE state of mind to develop. This is because in business you will be in constant competition with others who do what you do, so complacency will NOT benefit you!

There are 2 areas of what you do, that this commandment addresses:

(a). Delivering the product/service/solution to clients you recruit using your WMS such that they express SATISFACTION

(b). Using your WMS to find, and attract MORE potential buyers to win over in a manner that yields useful profits.

These 2 things seem straightforward, but doing them can prove to be quite challenging for most people.

Request the PDF &  MP3 Audio version of Commandment No. 7 using the links provided below…

1. Request the MP3 podcast here: Fill and submit a web request form (Click)

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1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc

2.Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.

Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.

EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.

Click here to watch a screenshot demonstration of the Excel-VB Driven Poultry Farm Manager I built for a client farm business in Ekiti state, South West Nigeria.

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Ignore the Macho Myth™: Asking for Help Means You’re Truly Strong [Advice for Battered MEN]

Below is an excerpt from my recent report on the symposium I attended on Domestic Violence, which I’ve turned into a special one page image flyer offering ADVICE for battered men. Download and share to any person(s) you feel will find it useful.

“Even the fictional superman gets helped every now and then – and by little kids too (because unlike him, they are immune to Kryptonite). Refuse societal pressures to endure abuse to prove you’re strong, or because it’s what a man does. Nothing could be further from the truth. This quote, by a moderator at the 2018 Symposium organized by the Lagos State DSVRT puts it better:

“If boys were not meant to cry, they would not have tear glands.”

Understand that YOU, being male, are a human being, with feelings and emotions – just like women and children. The longer you stay exposed to abuse, the more damage it does to you. It will take its toll, wearing you down, until you crack. So, if you’re experiencing abuse, be it physical, emotional or psychological, from someone who refuses to stop, GET AWAY NOW, and seek help FAST.

Your manhood is not proven by a refusal to protect yourself from harm. That’s not bravery, that’s foolhardiness. It’s not strength, it’s stupidity. Asking for help will NOT make you any less of a man. Get help NOW, before something happens that you, and/or your abuser may end up regretting.” – Tayo K. Solagbade

PII 135: Neglecting Domestic Violence Victims Can Cause Serious Tragedies – True Stories [Highlights from my discussion of “The Culture of Silence as it negatively affects male Survivors.” at the 2018 SYMPOSIUM IN COMMEMORATION OF THE LAGOS STATE DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH] – held at MUSON Centre’s Agip Recital Hall on Lagos Island

Read this special report at www.tinyurl.com/dvamtalkmuson

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[RECOMMENDED] 5 Ways Narcissists Compensate for Their Inferiority

“Some people try to be tall by cutting off the heads of others.” — Paramahansa Yogananda

The above quote is taken from the expert article I’ve previewed/linked below, written by Prof. Preston Ni (Author of ” How to Successfully Handle Narcissists”, and “A Practical Guide for Narcissists to Change Towards the Higher Self”).

The article in discussing 5 attributes of persons “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” has opened my eyes to the fact that I KNOW two people with this disorder.

And I NOW understand why they act the way they do – which has deeply bothered me for YEARS!

Sadly, with regard to author’s question “Can a narcissist change for the better? “, what I know about BOTH persons from over a decade and a half of interacting with each one of them, convinces me they are simply incapable of changing for the better.

One must therefore try as hard as possible to minimize contact with them, to avoid negative consequences that often result from doing so.

To put it another way: i consider both of them toxic personalities. My experiences tell me maintaining good mental health requires being able to identify persons with this disorder, so as to effectively manage their impact on oneself.

This is why I strongly recommend that YOU read it.

Good luck!

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5 Ways Narcissists Compensate for Their Inferiority

Posted Jul 29, 2018

“Some people try to be tall by cutting off the heads of others.” — Paramahansa Yogananda

“However other people make you feel is always a reflection of how the world makes them feel.” — Anonymous psychologist

The Mayo Clinic research group defines narcissistic personality disorder as “a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance and a deep need for admiration. Those with narcissistic personality disorder believe that they’re superior to others and have little regard for other people’s feelings. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem, vulnerable to the slightest criticism.”

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