Introduce Your Kids to the Philosophy of Personal Success Achievement (A Real Life Example) – Part 2 of 2

Yesterday, in part 1 of 2, I ended my true story at the point where I asked my kids: "What do you call a child of God?". They said: "A child of God."
But I told them: NO! [And they looked at me in confusion]. When I told them THE answer, I saw the looks of surprise on their faces.

This article is based on excerpts from a verbatim transcript of an MP3 audio presentation I now offer for download. If you’d like to get the MP3 to learn the answer I gave to that question, as well as hear my full message on this subject to boost your chances of personal/parenting success, fill/submit this form (click).

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"This is just my own way of giving back. Without access to…without exposure to the contents of that book (Think and Grow Rich), I would not be who I am today, as an entrepreneur.

If you go to www.tayosolagbade.com, you will find out more about me, and you will understand what I’m trying to say.

I want to share with other how I discovered that what I learnt in school – the traditional education that I got – would not help me achieve the success I desired passionately, to achieve and which I set out to pursue, in 2002 January, after I left my job as a high flying manager in Guinness Nigeria Plc.

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Introduce Your Kids to the Philosophy of Personal Success Achievement (A Real Life Example) – Part 1 of 2

On Sunday 17th August 2014 a.m, I had my first Personal Achievement Coaching (PAC) project conversation with my children. I asked them: “What is a child of God called?” and told them it was NOT “child of God”.

If you truly believe in God, know that this is a message from God to you. If you say I’m not a pastor (or other religious leader), I urge to keep your ears open, and your mind free from bias as you read. You will learn TRUTHS that will convince you.

[NB: If you’re not familiar with my PAC™ programme, read this article(click). I launched this coaching programme to share the magic formula for personal success I discovered by studying Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich – which has helped me achieve unrelenting success in spite of adversity over the past 2 decades.]

That morning, I sat them down – all five of them….

We’ve come a long way as a family. And they know the suffering we have been through.

They know the humiliation I have suffered as a member of my bigger family. I have said this in many articles recently.

At a point I became the "Bambialla" (local term for "beggar") of the Solagbade family. This is no secret. I have mentioned it in several past articles.

Apart from that, if you meet anybody who…is my relative, say my siblings, parents etc, they will confirm that I have told them I have no problems, I don’t feel any embarrassment of any sort – if they tell what they know happened to me.

For me, what happened to me is proof that there is something wrong with our educational system.

I don’t have a problem talking about it. Failure is never anything you should allow to be personal.

You MUST externalize failure at all times. Understand that if you fail, it is because there is something you need to learn.

These are some of the things you need to learn: The Philosophies of Success!

If you understand that, you will know you’re just on a journey of discovering how to succeed.

I understood that, because I had been exposed to the right books. But still, it didn’t make it any less painful.

But like I said, I have no problems hearing that somebody else is telling my story saying "Oh you know they were lending him money etc"…it is IMMATERIAL!

Like the saying goes: "It does not matter what happens to you what is important is how you deal with what happens to you."

Funny thing about the above saying is that people use it all the time, and yet they will not let the person who is going through it, and choosing to be courageous about it, focus on being courageous and succeeding!

Instead they begin to refer all the time to his failures. This is the reason why we know that the schooling system we have is FAULTY!

This is why people use success quotes like the above, and still turn around to mock the person that is going through failure, and persisting in spite of it!!

One example: Let’s say you have a radio program, and voice a quote like: "It does not matter what happens to you. What is important is how you deal with what happens to you."

Then 2 months later, you encounter a former school mate who is struggling in life, but is dealing with his challenges with courage – and YOU start LAUGHING at him! That would be a sign that you don’t understand the quote you shared on your radio program!!

And that’s the problem I see a lot in society today.

People read all these books and talk and talk and talk, but the fact is that in their lives, they do not apply the things they say with their mouths!

It’s the same thing when they take the affirmations from the bible and voice them. The way they live their lives, show they do not believe those things they say from the bible.

And this is the fundamental problem.

Now, with books like Think & Grow Rich, when the contents are properly taught, people discover that they change in form of their habits.

Their thinking habits and their habits in the real world change.

They become TRANSFORMED BEINGS and then they begin to act consistently, along the lines of what they have READ, and what they have been TAUGHT.

That is when they become SUPERIOR BEINGS and begin to achieve at a level that what we call MERE MORTALS will not be able to comprehend.

So, what I’m saying is that you need to understand that there are some things your school will not teach you. Yet you will need to learn those things to succeed authentically for the long term in your life, and also be able to teach your children to do same.

That was why I called my kids together that Sunday morning. I wanted to begin formally sharing the magic formula for achieving personal success with them

So, I asked them: What do you call the child of a Lion?

My children answered: A Lion.

Then I asked: What do you call the child of a Cat?

"A Cat!" they chorused.

I said: What do you call the child of a Goat?

They said: A Goat!

I said: Good!

Then I asked them: Can a Cow give birth to a Goat?

They said: No.

I asked: Can a Lion give birth to a Tortoise?

They said: No.

Then I asked: Can a Cat give birth to a Dog?

Again they said: NO

By this time they were beginning to look at me as if saying "What is wrong with this man today??!"

I continued by asking: Okay, now what do you call a child of God?

They said: A child of God.

Shaking my head in the negative, I told them: NO!

I then repeated the question: What do you call a child of God?

They were looking at me (in confusion).

When I told them THE answer, I saw the looks of surprise in their faces:

…end of part 1

[The 2nd and concluding part will be published on this blog tomorrow]

Is That Nice Person “Nice” To Everyone – Or Just YOU?

"A person who is nice to you, but is NOT nice to the waiter, is NOT nice" – Author unknown.

The foregoing quote captures my preferred definition of being nice, which is essentially entails treating others with "respect and consideration".

In this article, I offer five (5) practical ways to evaluate the "quality" of your relationships with persons you associate with – as it relates to being "nice".

Most people who consider themselves to "decent", try to treat others they meet with respect and consideration. They also (rightfully) expect others to do the same for them.

But life is not always straightforward. Good people do not always get treated fairly.

Indeed, sometimes bad people can seem to get a better bargain from the world than good people – possibly because the former actively work to subvert the will of others, so as to gain an unfair advantage.

This does NOT however make being good a BAD option to adopt. And part of being good is being "nice" to those around us.

What Does It Mean To Be Nice?

Nice could mean a whole lot of things, but mainly – to me – it comes down to the phrase I used earlier: "respect and consideration�. In essence, for me, being nice essentially entails treating others with "respect and consideration".

Therefore, every now and then, in moving around society, I quietly evaluate myself (and others) with respect to how "nice� I am (or they are).

Sadly, what I have found is that many people, especially adults, tend to be "selectively nice".

By this I mean their "niceness" seems to depend rather greatly on WHO they are relating with.

For instance, I have noticed fairly consistently that some people who act friendly and talk "nicely" to me, adopt very (I and do mean VERY) nasty dispositions in talking to "poor" relatives, or their hired hands – such as office workers, house helps, mechanics etc.

They typically display impatience, and intolerance at the slightest opportunity.

Indeed I have seen some instances where an acquaintance of mine (with his wife’s encouragement!) chose to needlessly ridicule a new employee right before me, by mocking the latter for his "slow" speed and lack of familiarity with the computer.

I could not help wondering why he did not think of coaching the young man to develop the missing skills, using more encouraging words to boost his morale. Past experience with this individual however made me keep my opinion to myself.

Speak Out Against Unfair Treatment Anywhere You See It

I have chosen to write on the subject, because such "selectively nice" people go around in their preferred social circles – like religious groups – being "nice" (e.g to the pastor, and other church members).

Few who see them in THAT mode would imagine they can be psychologically abusive to those under them, back in their homes or offices.

The rest of us need to avoid being fooled by such people. Then again, if anyone is guilty of being selectively nice, this article is a call for such a person to change.

It is instructive for you to note, at this point, that a person who maltreats others, while treating you nicely, WILL have his/her reason(s) for being nice to YOY, which is (are) likely to be ulterior.

Maybe you have more of something s/he values e.g. money, status, fame, a special skill etc. Whatever it is, for as long as s/he feels there is benefit to be had from continuing to be "nice’ to you, s/he will.

BUT, mark my words – the day s/he feels being nice to you no longer serves any useful purpose, the same "un-nice" treatment reserved for the "lesser" humans, will be handed down to YOU too!

And that is why no matter what you feel you stand to gain, you MUST, as a rule speak out (or caution) against any unfair treatment of others that you notice.

If you fail to do this, chances are NO ONE will stand up for you, if/when the same happens to you – and it can! (Re: Karma)

Here are some quick checks you can use to ascertain just how nice, THAT nice person you know is:

1. Does s/he openly relate with you regardless of who else is around?

Or is there a noticeable attempt to limit interaction with you to seemingly "safe" environments or situations?

Specifically, how does s/he introduce you to others – in a manner that enhances they way the other person sees you, or one that puts you in a one-down position?

2. How does s/he treat workers generally?

In passing out instructions, giving feedback or correction? Is there a noticeable effort to make people feel good about themselves.

Or does s/he go out of his/her way to put them down. Is the working environment positive, or are most of the workers scared stiff?

3. Does s/he demonstrate a healthy respect for YOUR experience, and knowledge? 

Or is s/he often keen to tell you (directly or indirectly) that you are not as "good" as s/he is?

Do you find that s/he is "nicest" to be around when you AGREE with his/her opinion, and gets very difficult if you insist on holding a position at variance with his/hers?

4. Does s/he call you a "good" friend when you say YES to his/her requests for help?

Or ANYTIME you say NO, s/he throws a tantrum and accuses you of being undependable?

5. What about when you NEED his/her help?

Does s/he readily give it, or is it often done grudgingly (complaining to your face, or behind your back)?

Does s/he expect you to be ready to go out on a limb for him/her? Do you think s/he would do the same for you, if the need arises?

The above are just to offer you some practical ways to evaluate the "quality" of your relationships with persons you associate with.

What I’ve said here is based on what I do – which is why I share it.

I honestly believe if we all try to be nice in the way I have described in this article, our societies can only become even BETTER than they already are, with people truly living to their fullest potentials.

To end this article, I recall the very apt quote I began this piece with…

"A person who is nice to you, but is NOT nice to the waiter, is NOT nice" – Author unknown.

That says it all, doesn’t it?

NB: This article was first published on 15th October 2009 by Tayo Solagbade via www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

Top Twelve Ways to Achieve Results Focused Self-Development

Too many people claim to do Self-Development, when what they do is mostly wishful thinking, with little or NO ACTION TAKING! The ideas I offer will help you practice results-focused Self-Development that yields tangible benefits!

1. BREAK the bad habit of idolising paper qualifications

Don’t rush like others to acquire the latest certification unless you’re sure it can really help you improve. Don’t feel inferior to another person for any reason – especially not because he has an MBA when you only have an M.sc.

Ask yourself: Do I really need this qualification to get ahead in my job/life – now or in the future?

2. Find a role model – Within your company or outside it

There are people who have done similar things to what you wish to achieve in their time, and who have chosen to write about how they did it. Make them your role models – use their methods or modify to suit your self/purpose.

3. Stop begin afraid to stoop to learn

Ask yourself who you work with that you have no idea what he does. Begin to show interest in understanding what your co-workers or subordinates do and how they do it. You WILL learn a lot and MIGHT have some useful ideas on improvement to pass on to them. And of course the personal interest you show in their work will do a lot to boost their morale.

4. Start knowing a little about everything

Show interest in other parts of the business for instance. Be interested in knowing how the production department did last week, what their problems were and how they resolved them. Before long you’ll begin to sound like you actually know a bit about what goes on there.

Better still; the department’s members may begin to see you in a more positive light.
At a point, managers not as close to Production as you are, may begin to regard you as a reliable source of information about that department.

Don’t be fooled – all these will be noticed/eventually filter to the decision-makers at the top and they will take note of it for the future.

5. Read, Read, Read and Read!

Build a personal library. Buy books that teach you what you want to know. Apply what you learn from the books.

6. Develop the right attitude toward problem-solving: Be a change agent!

Always seek ways to improve the way things are done. Never avoid problems. Problems are challenges that present us with an opportunity to learn “a little more” (in addition to what we already know) by trying to solve them.

7. Become a deep thinker

Be reflective. I do not mean that you should “worry”. Start doing the little things that others never seem to think matter. You must have depth. People who come to you should come away feeling that you have a lot to offer them.

They should feel that you have revealed something new about what they thought they knew to them. Others will enjoy working with you because they will get nourishment from you.

Never be superficial. Never lose interest in detail. It might appear fashionable, but it can be quite costly too.

8. Always finish what you start

To put it another way, never leave ANY job unfinished. You can delay or put off a job you started, but ensure you go back and finish it. It does not pay to have someone else come around to discover you did not do a complete job, when you had NO reason not to!

Your integrity automatically gets called to question…not good!

9. Learn from EVERY experience – be it failure or success

There are two sides to a coin – what you see depends on which side of the coin (the situation) you choose to look at. Do not fear failure – use it as a stepping stone instead.

10. Stay in the line of action

Always try to be in the thick of the action. Be ready to take risks.

Some people will tell you to avoid being too out in the open, but you will gain absolutely nothing by doing nothing. Confidence only comes from doing. Only when you have been a member of a problem-solving or project team, do you begin to understand how such a team works, what they do etc.

This immediately takes away whatever fears you had about being in such team when next the issue comes up. The knowledge/skill you pick up in the process will eventually serve you well if you get re-deployed or seconded in the future to an area where it becomes useful.

11. Believe in yourself & Think Positive ALWAYS

Free yourself from the discouraging limitations that naysayers may try to impose on you. That it has never been done before – or that they tried it and it did not work – does not mean you cannot do it.

What’s the point of saying “it’s been tried before and it did not work” anyway? We learn nothing by giving up! Conversely, we learn a lot by persevering through determination till we succeed.

12. Avoid re-inventing the wheel

Ask those who have been there and done it before, then modify what you learn to suit the present situation.

Use the Internet to see what is available that might be of use. The Internet is filled with various tools and resources put online by generous minded individuals and groups with a view to ensuring they make it easier for others across the world to do solve their problems quicker and more efficiently.

If you use it intelligently, you will find that you save yourself many hours of work and become more efficient and effective in the process.

Final Words

If you practice “Deliberate, Performance Enhancing” Self-Development, those around you WILL notice a major difference.

And they will eventually acknowledge you for it.

If that does NOT happen, there’s a good chance you are NOT doing it right – in which case, re-reading and diligently acting on – the 12 tips offered in this article may be what you need!

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To Succeed, You Need to Avoid Advice from Wrong People!

Who are you taking advice from in your business or personal life? Every day in Nigeria, and I am sure all over the world as well, people find themselves on the receiving end of advice from speakers, writers, presenters etc. On radio, TV, newspapers, the web, tons of advices are offered by (mostly) well meaning "experts".

But I cannot help periodically wondering about where some of those I hear dish out advice – especially about how to succeed IN NIGERIA – get their ideas from!

I have said it in past writings, and I am saying it again: The rules for success in developed societies, do NOT work as well out here.

Why? Simple: We are a nation of MANIPULATORS . We do not believe in following laid down guidelines to achieving a set goal. We are not prepared to nurture ourselves to develop needed competencies to achieve success. We always want to have an unfair advantage – to win, no matter how.

That’s why for instance, we got found out to be AGE cheats in the FIFA age group competitions. For instance, towards the 2009 U-17 world cup, the country had to endure the embarrassment of being told the tests conducted on our selected team members revealed about 18 of them were over aged!

And that was NOT a one-off occurrence. It goes way back.

If you doubt me, I’ll let you in one a little secret of mine: Nigeria has been age-cheating for a long time – at least as far back as 1983.

I say this because I played active competitive handball from school to state level for over 10 years (1983 to 1993), and during that time, I found myself in age group teams playing alongside individuals MUCH older than the maximum allowed age limits.

One example. Following my performance in the 1985 Kwara secondary schools state Handball competition finals, I was invited to join the Kwara state team in camp for the 1985 National Sports Festival. Towards the start of the competition, the coach asked each player for his age.

When I told him I was 15, he retorted "No, I mean what is your REAL age?".

Before I could respond, some of my team mates told him, "Coach, that’s his real age". The man looked me over in surprise, apparently because he thought my 5ft 11inches height suggested I would be older than that.

The intention, as I would later learn, was to find out how far above the 18 year maximum age limit I was, so he could tell me what under-18 "official" age he would put on the team list to be submitted .

I will also NOT forget how (in 1983, I think) I got dropped from the state team that went to the World Youth Championships in Sweden and Denmark. This was because the coach saw me in the line up for pictures to be taken for use in preparing our international passports, and pulled me out, saying "Ah, you are too tall".

I got replaced by a colleague who was smaller in stature, even though older than I was!

I look back now, and realise that THAT was (probably) why 3 Nigerian state teams kept winning those World Youth Handball competitions (sweeping first, second and third positions annually!) back then. We were fielding over aged players, who naturally over ran their much younger counterparts from other countries!

So, you see, we’ve been doing this age-cheating in sports thing for a long time.

It is against the back drop of all this that I wonder where all our wonderful "advice-givers" get their ideas from.

For heaven’s sake, how can anyone tell young Nigerians to DARE TO DREAM, when almost EVERYTHING in this society TELLS them VERY often, it’s not how good you are, that determines if you get what you want in life HERE in
Nigeria.

Instead, it is – among others things:

(a) where you are from in the country

(b) who you know in a position of influence

(c) how much money you have

(d) how much of what you
have you are willing to give up, no matter how unfair that may be to YOU.

Consider this: Five Nigerian bank MDs got hammered few years back, following the crisis in the banking industry, when it was found that they had given out UNSECURED loans to the tune of billions of naira, to friends, associates, and in certain cases, themselves.

All this happened in an economy where struggling business owners repeatedly have their bank loan applications turned down! Isn’t it just amazing?!

Yet, these same MDs before their exposure had been variously invited as guest speakers to "advise" the rest of us at different times on our finances – and even on the subject of "success".

If only we had known what they were doing behind closed doors, we would have been wiser. Some of us would probably not have lost so much money trading their "manipulated" stocks in the stock exchange for instance!

I can already hear those phony patriots screaming that I am bad mouthing Nigeria by writing all the above negatives about the country.

I respond by asking: what good has sweeping our bad habits under the carpet done us so far? What good has our unwillingness to bring unpleasant issues that retard our progress on the table for discussion brought us? Today, things are even WORSE than ever!

My patriotism requires me to QUESTION bad practices I notice, in a manner that influences CORRECTION to be effected.

I do NOT believe turning a blind eye to wrong doing will yield any positive long term benefits for anyone – EXCEPT of course the perpetrators.

Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, Gana Fawehimni (both now late) and Wole Soyinka are the PRACTICAL role models I can relate with. It is their example I will gladly follow.

Look at the Americans.

They do not even spare their presidents, when the need for corrective feedback is identified.

Ask Bill Clinton – who had to endure having the minutest details of his affairs x-rayed on TV, the web, radio and all other media for many months as his case with Monica Lewinsky progressed. Why can’t we copy America in this area – the way we ape them in their fashion, music etc?

You see, I believe we have other more useful lessons we can learn from the Americans, but we choose NOT to see them, because we are INSINCERE. That is also why we do not progress. American speakers, authors, radio/TV presenters etc can rightly tell their citizens in America to DARE TO DREAM.

This is because their society has in it, people (and systems) that will ALLOW those who are BEST qualified, those with proven competence, to WIN.

When we invite them to Nigeria, to speak to our people about achieving similar results, we must be prepared to CREATE an environment similar to that which the Americans have created for success to become a WAY OF LIFE.

Final Words: You owe yourself a duty to INVESTIGATE the credentials, and so called "achievements" of the numerous advisers that parade themselves today, in this society.

Take it from me, there are among us for instance, "success coaches" who speak and write about being able to weather hard times or adversity, but who will cave in, and compromise on all fronts, at the slightest sign that tough times are headed their way.

I have met them in large numbers out here.

And they are the ones usually most visible and available to offer advice to the rest of us in society.

Beware, therefore, who you take advice from – whether in your business or personal life!

No. 157: Deciding What You Need to Write – or Speak – About (3 Strategies You Can Use)

As an expert-who-speaks (or writes), the topic, subject, or theme you choose to focus on can be a crucial determinant of your success.

If your audience loves it, you’ll become a “hero” who demystifies it for them. Otherwise, you may get largely ignored…until you can do better.

Today’s issue was inspired by a question sent in by a friend “D”, after she’d read my writing/blogging category article published last Saturday (30/08/2014) titled “To Succeed, You Need a Reason for Writing“.

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No. 157: Deciding What You Need to Write – or Speak – About (3 Strategies You Can Use)

As an expert-who-speaks (or writes), the topic, subject, or theme you choose to focus on can be a crucial determinant of your success.

If your audience loves it, you’ll become a “hero” who demystifies it for them. Otherwise, you may get largely ignored…until you can do better.

Today’s issue was inspired by a question sent in by a friend “D”, after she’d read my writing/blogging category article published last Saturday (30/08/2014) titled “To Succeed, You Need a Reason for Writing“.

D” explained that she had always loved writing – and that it had been a passion of sorts since she was a kid. However, in order to take her writing to a more formal level, she wanted to know how to “figure out” WHAT to write about(?)

An Excellent Question: It Got Me Thinking Back to When I Started Writing…

I deliberately took my time to think about her question – reflecting on how I began my own writing on a formal basis back when I was a 27 year old brewer in Guinness Nigeria.

Then I thought about the stories of many other experts and how they had started out writing – in some cases they’d also explained WHY they had begun writing.

That mental journey has pointed me to the most critical consideration that I believe one needs to keep in mind in order to accurately decide what to write about.

Now, rather than simply send her my reply, it occurred to me that there might be others looking to also choose a subject to write about.

Indeed, I have written several articles (like this one) about my belief that MORE people need to write.

What I however failed to realize is that my readers may actually be keen to do as I suggest, but may be struggling to decide what to focus their own writing on.

Thankfully, D’s question has helped me to put that into consideration. So, I’ve used her enquiry to prepare this article, and at the end, I announce a special paid coaching service offer. (See further down).

I’ve Tried to Come Up With a Practical Answer: So I Suggest 3 Strategies…

To decide what to write about, you may find it useful to…

1. Think About What Drives You (i.e. Your Magnificent Obsession)

[Hint: I consider this the most important way to decide what to write about. You simply cannot go wrong. And it often determines what you do in using the 2 other strategies I discuss later. Click HERE to read an article I wrote few years back, which reveals insights offered by a billionnaire about the importance of having a Magnificent Obsession.]

Most of us have dreams and aspirations that drive us. When they are positive, and worthwhile, very often, that’s what it means to have a Magnificent Obsession (MO).

In my Self-Development Bible™, I outlined 10 key strategies that I have successfully used – over 2 decades – to DEVELOP needed competencies to excel in ANY vocation I ventured in life.

Screenshot of Table of Contents - My Self-Development Bible™ has a full chapter that describes how to develop a Magnificent Obsession that can help you. If you subscribe at www.tayosolagbade.com, a download link to it (and over 10 others) will be delivered to the email address you supply via an auto-response message.

From my time in school, right through paid employment, and over the past decade as an entrepreneur, I have repeatedly and successfully applied those strategies with great success, such that people kept (and keep!) saying: “Tayo, you are amazing, how do you do it?!”

In that book, the first strategy I recommend for the intending achiever (in writing or any other vocation) is:

Develop a MAGNIFICENT OBSESSION (MO).

Below, is a screenshot of useful excerpts that explain what a Magnificent Obsession is:

Screenshot of opening paragraphs in chaper 1 - My Self-Development Bible™ has a full chapter that describes how to develop a Magnificent Obsession that can help you. If you subscribe at www.tayosolagbade.com, a download link to it (and over 10 others) will be delivered to the email address you supply via an auto-response message.

I strongly recommend writing about anything and everything related to YOUR MO. But do it creatively, ALWAYS in a way that will make it interesting for your target audience.

EXAMPLE: My Magnificent Obsession is Using Self-Development to Achieve Performance Improvement (i.e. Finding Newer & Better Ways to Do What I Do, and Helping Others Do Same)

I am obsessed with learning new and better ways to do things I have an interest in or passion for. And my obsession drives me to share solutions I discover (and/or develop) with others, to help them improve in their personal and work lives.

This explains why I never get tired of creating new problem solving products/services needed by my target audiences, and writing about how to make the most of them.

I am able to do it all seemingly effortlessly, because it leads directly to the fulfilment of my Magnificent Obessiona.

To find YOUR OWN Magnificent Obsession, do some deep soul searching.

Make out quality quiet time to be alone to do this if needed.

What you learn will point you towards what you’re likely to be able to – tirelessly – write about so passionately and compellingly, that readers who need it will be unable to resist!

My Self-Development Bible™ has a full chapter that describes how to develop a Magnificent Obsession that can help you.

If you subscribe at www.tayosolagbade.com, a download link to it (and over 10 others) will be delivered to the email address you supply via an auto-response message.

Useful Note: Burt Dubin, in advising experts-who-speak on choosing their topic recommends in one of his articles, that you should “listen to your feelings”, and focus on that which will not remain unsaid i.e. your message for the world.

Those who signup for Burt’s Speaking Success System, get taught – and helped – to do this.

Indeed, Burt helps each client identify a flagsship subject to offer defined target audeiences. And then he helps you prepare, package, promote and present your message to them.

Many tutored by Burt have gone on to great success as speakers. And most acknowledge that helping them identify WHAT to speak about was how Burt helped them succeed.

Click here to learn more about Burt’s Speaking Success System. He offers an elaborate range of products and services for experts-who-speak, and those aspiring. NB: I represent Burt as Sole Agent for marketing his products and services.

2. Read – and Think – Frequently About What Drives You

This strategy should be guided by what you identify your MO to be.

Good writers are often great – even voracious – readers.

Judging from my experiences, to make knowing what to write about easy, you MUST invest major time and effort in reading.

“One must spend time in gathering knowledge to give it out richly…” – Samuel Johnson

What you read provides you raw material from which to creatively come up with new ideas to discuss based on the theme of your MO.

Now, if you correctly identify your MO from no. 1 above, I can tell you that knowing what to read, and actually reading it will NOT take you much effort. Indeed, you will find that you derive immense please from doing so.

Your experience doing this can only be different if you fail to correctly narrow down to your MO. So, be sure you get that right first!

My Example: I readily develop interest in reading and talking about anything related to performance improvement or finding better ways to do what my target audiences do.

For instance, any bits of information or news relevant to helping farm businesses spend less to make produce and/or sell more, always gets my interest.

But I don’t just read and tell others. Instead I immediately think about possible implications of what I read, for my Farm CEO clients I know. Sometimes I pick up the phone and call them to discuss possibilities.

This attitude was what led me to write my popular article on Poultry Farm Performance Calculations. And it eventually led me to develop my Poultry Farm Manager software (in which the 3 Key Performance Indicator calculations described in my article) are auto-computed based on daily entries of farm data.

Today, I get enquiries from Farm CEOs within and outside Africa for that app, and more are going ahead to make sales (see 16 video tutorials created for a recent buyer here).

3. Tap Into Your Personal Experiences & Where Possible, Those of Others

This is probably the easiest way to decide what to write about. Anytime I have interaction with prospects or clients, be it offline or on the web, it’s often a potential writing opportunity. This is why many of my articles tend to be based on such situations.

But sometimes I actually write to share specific experiences based on reflection on lessons learned or insights gained. There are times when I use my experiences, and others times when I use my observation of experiences some other persons had.

What matters is ensuring that useful VALUE is distilled for the reader to benefit from. There should be something worthwhile to take away from reading it. This implies you must be able to analyze experiences and distil useful knowledge or insights from them.

I must add here that writing based on your (or other people’s) experiences can often help you connect most effectively with your readers.

Many times I’ve noticed that such experience based (story telling) pieces are the ones that have made readers contact me about solutions I offer.

After Deciding What to Write About, Many Will Need A System To Keep Them Accountable!

For those looking to settle on WHAT to write about, FINDING it will just be the first step.

Getting the needed writing done, again and again, and AGAIN can however often turn out to be difficult for most people.

That’s where they struggle i.e. keeping at it!

What I’ve found is that it can get easier to continue writing (and less easy to stop!) if you have a formal audience (e.g. fans/followers) – and at some point even income – accruing from doing it!

They are likely to make it more difficult for a new writer to skip writing as and when due.

For instance, s/he will know those who “follow” his/her writing will come asking “WHY”, if no new write-ups are published for prolonged periods.

Also, if some income (no matter how small) is coming in, s/he is unlikely to give in to the temptation to stop or skip writing (NB: I will be offering – and researching – ideas on ways to earn income, after the startup phase, to each learner).

That’s why my coaching support service involves making learners carry out their exercises on a PUBLIC platform. They’ll they know a lapse will be easy to spot = No hiding place.

And it will all begin with YOU agreeing to make a public announcement that you are STARTING!

Final Words: I Know It Won’t Be Easy, So I Offer a Coaching for Early Writing Take-Off™ Service

Having outlined the 3 strategies above, for deciding what to write about, I realize not everyone can be like me, and find it easy to get started on their own. So, I offer a support service to help you overcome the “inertia”!

This is however not a writing course of any sort. And neither is it a certification program.

Instead it’s a special support service that uses real-world writing tasks/exercises based on YOUR MO, which I will work with the learner to identify.

Each learner will commit to delivering formally agreed “practice” write-ups weekly, which (following review) I will convert on his/her behalf into various formats, into online channels personalised/branded for him/her – by me.

My purpose is to guide interested persons from choosing WHAT to write about, to actually starting up and continuing for the 1st 3 months.

The discipline needed to write useful content consistently is not easy for most people to come by.

Even professional writers periodically battle with it!

And that’s where I aim to add value to people with this confidential coaching service. (To get details, fill/submit this form).

Those who enroll would be required to do a minimum of one 500 word piece per week (for example), under my guidance, using a special platform I will setup for each person.

In essence, I will work closely with you, to help get you started writing SOMETHING you care about, with purpose, on a reasonably consistent basis. Once we agree that you’re able to continue on your own, the formal coaching relationship will end…

Except you choose to keep it going.

Either way, by the time we get to this stage, you will ALREADY have a respectiable body of writign that you will be PROUD to show off to anyone as proof that YOU ARE A WRITER!

If the above benefit interests you, fill/submit this form to request futher details.

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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to

Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organisations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organisations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name

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THEY WROTE…


“(Tayo Solagbade) is amazing and I think he is going to produce some impressive results online…” – click here to read full comment by Patrick Meninga (US based 6 figure income blogger who gained fame for building a $2,000 per month adsense website and selling it for $200,000).

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“Tayo, I honestly believe you are one of those who will succeed at anything he does. Your commitment and effort has been outstanding….Thanks for all your hard work since I’ve been here – you will be sorely missed. I don’t need to wish you good luck, you have the ability to make your own luck. – Andy”(R. Jones)*

*Operations Manager, Guinness Nigeria Plc Benin Brewery, December 2001 (Handwritten comments in farewell/xmas cards sent to Tayo Solagbade following his resignation to start his own business).

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