This is a universal truth. Any self-respecting mentor will acknowledge it. Whoever says s/he can help you avoid making mistakes is lying to you. A mentor can guide you to minimize mistakes you make.
But you WILL have to make some to gain full mastery or competence.
This week’s issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter explains why and how you can use mistakes to intelligently discover what you need to know, to succeed.
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Publication: Tayo Solagbade’s Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP) Newsletter Date: Monday 13th May 2013 No:89 Title: No Mentor Can Shield You from Mistakes Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263] Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog Archive (For E-mail only version started 14th May 2012): Click here to view Archive (For Blog version started 24th September 2011): Click here Hi, Please find below the latest issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter.
No. 89: No Mentor Can Shield You from Mistakes**** ********** NB: If you ever find yourself wondering what else I’ve written, some days after you’ve read THIS Speaking Ideas newsletter I send out on a Monday, here’s what you can do to find out: Point your browser to www.sdacademy.org to read at least ONE new post added to my SD Nuggets blog on a different category from Tuesday till Saturday (sometimes even Sundays) in line with this publishing schedule ********** This is a universal truth. Any self-respecting mentor will acknowledge it. Whoever says s/he can help you avoid making mistakes is lying to you. A mentor can guide you to minimize mistakes you make. But you WILL have to make some to gain full mastery or competence. This week’s issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter explains why and how you can use mistakes to intelligently discover what you need to know, to succeed. 1. Sometimes Re-Inventing the Wheel May Be Necessary
Not everything your mentor or teacher/coach tells you will work as expected. And except s/he’s psychic, s/he may not tell you all you need to know. That won’t make him/her incompetent. It would simply mean s/he’s not all knowing. So, there’s a chance you’ll encounter a challenge you’ll have to find your own solution to. Under such circumstances, finding what works for you will become inevitable – and could even involve re-inventing the wheel. I say this based on personal experience. I’ve taken many (crazy) risks over the years, in relation to my academics, career, business and even personal safety. On a number of occasions, doing so led to massive blunders. And in each instance I had to endure the pain, embarrassment and humiliation to recover. Today, being wrong or failing does not bother me. Why? Because every time I’ve made mistakes I’ve always emerged smarter, stronger and/or better skilled. And it’s those qualities that make me effective in pursuing any goal I set my sights on. It may take a while to get there, depending on a variety of factors. But I often do. So, for me, making mistakes is process – a journey – you undertake in order to narrow down a list of possible options to find what works – for you. EXAMPLE: Learning from My Mistakes With Domain Names (www.tksola.com, www.sdacademy.org, www.webmarketingsystemsdemo.com, and www.cbstudio.biz)To learn from mistakes, we must accept that we’ve made them. I practice what I preach. Last year I almost did not renew any of the above 4 mentioned domain names. But I decided to keep them for an extra year and see what value I really got from each one. This year (last week) I’ve chosen to renew only www.tksola.com – the URL that forwards to my speaking service website. Between February and last week, I’ve let the others expire as they came due. My checks show they no longer add tangible value to me. What I’ve learnt from doing these “tests” will help me in future. All my work is now consolidated on www.spontaneousdevelopment.com (tksola.com points to a sub-domain). 2. Minimize Trial & Error: But Go Out & Make Your Own Unique Mistakes!
No matter how much you learn from others in order to minimize trial and error, you must make YOUR OWN mistakes. Otherwise your development will be incomplete. Don’t try to get to the finish line by avoiding mistakes. Learning from a guru or mentor will not protect you from mistakes. If you think it will, you set yourself up for mediocre accomplishments. For instance, the wisdom you share in your speaking events will lack unique flavor that resonates with audiences who hear, or read your messages – as their response will show. There’ll always be something missing: and it will be your lack of authenticity. Without making your own mistakes, you will find it literally impossible to develop authenticity. You will not really have a “message” that you truly own. Audiences will often tend to see you as one who “borrows” from those you learn(t) from, or refer to. Some of the greatest speakers – in various areas of life – famously use (or used) stories to communicate their messages. There are 2 kinds of stories you can tell your audiences: yours or other people’s. Certain schools of thought argue that talking about yourself makes you appear boastful. I recommend using your initiative to decide what approach to use at any point in time. Don’t be over humble. When YOUR story will do a better job, tell it without apology!Share anecdotes about how you fought your own battles in various phases of your life. Someone in your audience may be at a stage in her own life when the ideas, and lessons you share, may be what she needs for inspiration…NOT stories about historical figures. You will do this not just in formal settings, but even during informal interactions. It’s a powerful way to build credibility and influence with others. 3. What Works Today, May Not Work Next Year: So Use Mistakes To Evolve Solutions for the Future
The way I see it, succeeding means you’ve reasonably mastered a level of competence. And that implies you now need to move to the next level – and NOT to rest on your oars. Here’s why: Sometimes you’ll find that the strategy that works for you today, or this year, may not work so well next year. That’s why doing new things, and actively learning from mistakes made in the process, is a valuable strategy. Doing so implies stepping out – again – of your comfort zone. Consider a high jumper. Each time she scales a new height, the bar is raised. It’s the same with a weight lifter. With each successful lift, new weights are added. Mistakes will help you learn smarter ways to get the results you want, no matter how often things change. And that will effectively guarantee you long term success. Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, send me a message using this request form (with “Re: No Mentor Can Shield You from Mistakes” in the subject line).
Have a lovely week!
Tayo K. Solagbade* Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist *Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa Mobile: 234-803-302-1263 http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com Tayo Solagbade is a Performance Improvement Specialist & multipreneur. He works with individuals/businesses who want to achieve highly profitable outcomes, and also with parents who want to raise real-world competent children. Tayo earns multiple streams of income providing clients with performance improvement training/coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners). When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent). ================== Have you been undecided about whether or not to become a paid speaker? Or have you been trying to get your speaking career off the ground with little success?Here’s a tip: Burt Dubin works with people who want to be speakers, and with speakers who want to be masters. Click here to visit his website NOW and submit a contact form message telling him what challenges you’re facing, and how you’d like him to help you. Tell him I sent you, and you’ll get a pleasant surprise offer from him. Comments?What do you think of the above message? Do you have any personal experience to share on this subject? Are there some other points you feel can be added, to help persons looking for answers? Please share your thoughts! Share this issue!Do you know anyone who might benefit from reading this newsletter issue? Why not hit the forward button now, and send it to him/her with a short recommendation. You can also use share it via your social media channels. Thanks in advance.
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