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No. 204: The Process of Succeeding Is Messy [Hint: If Arnold Schwarzenegger’s “Terminator” Was Selling Stuff, What Would He Say to REPEAT Rejection?]

Yep. “The Process of Succeeding Is Messy”. That’s not just MY opinion. It’s a statement of FACT acknowledged by authentically successful people worldwide! You WILL make mistakes, look foolish, get laughed at, lack money and more – on the way to YOUR success.

Simply put, THINGS will go wrong a lot, for you, before they eventually begin to go right (Except you cut corners, in which case your success would NOT be authentic)!

But why does succeeding have to be so messy?

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Title: The Process of Succeeding Is Messy [Hint: If Arnold Schwarzenegger’s “Terminator” Was Selling Stuff, What Would He Say to REPEAT Rejection?]

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1 of 2: PUBLIC SPEAKING – The Process of Succeeding Is Messy [Hint: If Arnold Schwarzenegger’s “Terminator” Was Selling Stuff, What Would He Say to REPEAT Rejection?]

Yep. “The Process of Succeeding Is Messy”. That’s not just MY opinion. It’s a statement of FACT acknowledged by authentically successful people worldwide! You WILL make mistakes, look foolish, get laughed at, lack money and more – on the way to YOUR success.

Simply put, THINGS will go wrong a lot, for you, before they eventually begin to go right (Except you cut corners, in which case your success would NOT be authentic)!

But why does succeeding have to be so messy? [Case Study 1: Richard Branson]

It’s because succeeding is a learning process.

It’s not a one-off thing. You don’t just decide to – and become – successful at anything: at least NOT when you want exceptional, ABOVE AVERAGE, non-corner cutting success.

Sadly, many people fail to LOOK beyond the outer appearance of successful people they admire. As a result, they miss valuable opportunities to discover the CIRCUMSTANCES under which they succeeded.

For instance, we see Richard Branson, and LOVE the wonderful brands he represents: But many of us have not bothered to find out what his journey to success was like.

How many of us know that being Dyslexic, he found it difficult to succeed in conventional schooling, and eventually dropped out when he could not take it anymore?

That happened when he was just 15 years of age. He NEVER went back to school after that.

Instead, what he did was to start a micro business, buying and selling things…

However, that journey was also NOT a straight line. Many failures were recorded. Each time he fell, he dusted himself off, and went right back – in what must have been a messy process.

Yet he kept at it.

Today, he is a billionaire business owner – and boss to MANY who did well in conventional school!

But few of us KNOW what it really feels like to fail in the many ways Richard Branson has all these years. Even fewer understand what failing repeatedly has TAUGHT him about succeeding!

By reading up on, and studying Mr. Branson (and other successful people), I have learned a lot about what it takes to succeed.

Here’s one FACT: Those messy encounters and experiences he had, combined to make him the seemingly unstoppable success machine we know him to be today!

In other words, what I discovered to be common to virtually all successful people is that there was a time when they got MORE wrong, than they got right.

During that period, there was little to be admired about their efforts. But they knew enough to keep going, learning from the messy failures they had, and using what they learned to try again more intelligently – till success came.

The process of succeeding is necessarily messy [Case Study 2: Analogy using two popular action movie heroes]

If Arnold Schwarzenegger as Terminator, or Sylvester Stallone as Rambo, did not get bruised and battered, in beating bad guys, their movies would not be so interesting – would they?

Think about it. Why do people connect so deeply with those characters?

It’s not that they NEVER face adversity or fall/get wounded…NO!

Instead, it’s because they defy adversity in whatever form it comes to them…and go on to achieve their goals e.g. saving lives etc.

Human beings love people who can turn bad circumstances around for the better.

When the bad guys tried to take down Rambo, he came back with a vengeance.

Sometimes, it “looks” like the bad guys have actually succeeded in “killing” the hero.

But the hero, with his/her never-say-die attitude (what Burt Dubin calls “Bulldog blood”) digs deep and draws inspiration from his/her REASON for doing what s/he does.

Eventually, that helps him/her find the needed extra reserve of physical and/or mental energy to get right back up, and take the fight to the bad guys again…until s/he wins.

Let’s leave the movies, and come back to YOU…

As an expert in your field, if you want to excel at what you do, YOU need to choose challenging GOALS and go after them, no matter what, until you succeed.

Sadly, many people today do NOT want to get “dirty”, talk less of emerging at any point in the course of trying to achieve their goals, looking “bruised”.

Unfortunately, life’s reward systems designed by the Creator, do NOT work like that. You must be willing to VENTURE!

For instance, if you want to make more money, by selling more of your products or services, you need to develop your skills in Marketing & Sales.

Among other things you will need to LEARN how to go out and TALK to the RIGHT people, and to DEAL with rejection by NOT taking it personally.

In other words, you must develop the ability to BOLDY promote solutions you offer to those you IDENTIFY to need it, in a way that makes them gladly decide to buy.

When they say NO (and some will), that will be rejection.

The truth is rejection WILL happen often, and in sometimes embarrassing ways.

That’s why many people dread having to “sell”. It’s also why many competent experts struggle to find buyers for the products and services they offer.

But get this: If you go out to “sell” and end up meeting a LOT of people who say NO (some being nasty in doing it), that’s equivalent to an action movie hero emerging “bruised and bloodied” from an encounter with the “bad guys”.

However, whether you go on to succeed like a true hero, will depend on how much you let the “messy” state of affairs you find yourself in AFFECT you, as you pursue your success!

If you dwell on what others say…especially if/when they mock you, and let it demoralize you, chances are good that you WILL end up quitting.

Now, if that happens it will not be anything new. Most people are experts at quitting or giving up. You would NOT be the first or the last.

But imagine if Arnold Schwarzenegger’s “Terminator” was selling stuff, what would he say to rejection?

I’m willing to bet it would be: “I’ll be back!

That attitude is what makes a person achieve exceptional success others LOVE to talk about!

Have you noticed that the story of a person who kept going till s/he achieved success, despite facing massive odds, is one that people find interesting?

The story of the person who quit rarely excites anyone – for obvious reasons!

This is why some of the greatest stories in the world are those about people who succeeded in spite of exposure to great suffering and prolonged adversity e.g. South Africa’s Nelson Mandela, Nigeria’s Fela Anikulapo Kuti, and America’s Abraham Lincoln.

The above is why anytime I face rejection. I never let it get me down, or make me scared to try again. Instead I simply silently say: “I’ll be back!

The success I enjoy today is proof that this works.

While being messy, the journey to authentic success can also get lonely [Case Study 3: Glenn Cunningham]

So, if you want success, don’t expect others to be with you all the way. You may have to go it alone at some point – and that’s when it can get even messier!

The amazing story of an 8 year old boy who, despite getting badly burned in a fire (leading Doctors to tell his mother he would NEVER walk again)…went on to become the first human being to run the mile under 4 minutes!

Burt Dubin’s excellent narration of Glenn Cunningham’s story is best read in its original form titled “THE POWER OF DETERMINATION (as published in the popular Chicken Soup for the Soul, Copyright 1993 by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen): Click here to read it now.

That story graphically illustrates what I mean by saying “The Process of Succeeding is Messy!”

Glenn Cunningham for weeks and months, in a lonely environment, with no crowds to cheer him on, dragged himself, on the ground in the fields, with his limbs hanging useless behind him, until he managed to begin walking.

Imagine what Glenn Cunningham must have looked like every time he did that? Dirty, soiled clothes and body? Imagine how many stares of pity he must have had to ignore, to keep doing it again, and again and again.

Remember: he was doing it when no one believed it could help him.

So, it was not like he announced it on Facebook, and everybody clicked LIKE, giving him some moral support.

He was ALL alone. Only when he eventually succeeded, and went on to WIN, did he get the applause. By then however, he had so mastered the whole process that he made it look EASY, and he certainly did NOT look pitiful!

Final Words: If you don’t want to get dirty, don’t expect to reap lasting success!

I decided to write this piece because today I see too many people who want to succeed, without getting “dirty”.

I mean that literally and figuratively…

If you want to ALWAYS look “in control”, or “cool, calm and collected”, you are very unlikely to achieve exceptional success.

Learning precedes competence. To achieve success, you must be prepared to experience failure (i.e. you will make mistakes, fall, and get dirty), and use that to improve, till you succeed.

So, don’t fool yourself – and do NOT let anyone fool you…

You simply cannot get a FREE ride in a fancy car, on the way to authentic, non-corner cutting, exceptional success: if you want success, be prepared to get dirty!

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In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to

SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

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And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name

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