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No. 202: If People Write You Off ?

Africans have many wise sayings. A good example in Yoruba (i.e. my) language is:

Aropin ni ti eniyan. Ko da ise Oluwa duro!”

Translation:Human beings have a tendency to readily write others off (e.g. when a person suffers failure or setback in business or life). But their doing so NEVER changes God’s plan for that person’s progress!

The problem I keep seeing is that the same Africans who OWN these sayings are often guilty of NOT applying their wisdom in THEIR PERSONAL LIVES.

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Date: Monday 20th July 2015

No:202

Title: If People Write You Off?

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1 of 2: PUBLIC SPEAKING – If People Write You Off?

Africans have many wise sayings. A good example in Yoruba (i.e. my) language is:

Aropin ni ti eniyan. Ko da ise Oluwa duro!”

Translation:Human beings have a tendency to readily write others off (e.g. when a person suffers failure or setback in business or life). But their doing so NEVER changes God’s plan for that person’s progress!

The problem I keep seeing is that the same Africans who OWN these sayings are often guilty of NOT applying their wisdom in THEIR PERSONAL LIVES.

It’s strange how many people know the above proverb for instance, and yet lack the capacity to see BEYOND the present or to think deeply about issues/to be better judges of character!

They generally prefer to LEAN on what OTHERS think and/or say, to decide what their own personal thoughts and actions should be at any point in time.

As a result, they readily write others – even themselves! – off.

I recall several people who pointedly stated – when I still struggled to establish my brand – that I could not achieve my goal of attracting paying clients for my products or services 80% of the time via online channels, while based in Nigeria/West Africa [NB: I do that regularly today, as a Location Independent Multipreneur]

They said “Look Tayo, this is Nigeria/Africa, and NOT America. All those your ideas are from Americans. You have to understand that over here things don’t work the same way!”

What they failed to realize, and which I tried without success to get them to understand was that IDEAS will often not work if used EXACTLY the same way they were used in another socio-cultural environment.

On the contrary – and history attests to this fact – most times YOU will have to take an idea you like and ADAPT (i.e. modify) it to suit the unique peculiarities extant in the society you wish to transplant and use it.

All over the world we see evidence of it.

Yet in Nigeria/Africa, especially those of us who travel little or not at all, there is this unwillingness to recognise this important requirement.

The Japanese are today considered leaders in car making with special emphasis on ergonomics, durability/longevity, and fuel economy, among other benefits.

But a look back in time will reveal that when they began, they basically studied and then copied what car makers in Europe and America were doing, making intelligent improvements, to suit the needs of their intended target audience, until they got it right, and over time won the market over.

As an expert in your field, your ability to “borrow” ideas from ANYWHERE, and creatively apply them to achieve your goals in the market you serve, will determine how much impact you make, and ultimately how successful you become.

I say this as one who has done – and continues to do – just that.

Everything you see me do offline, and on this website – www.tayosolagbade.com – is based on over 10 years of hard work studying highly successful experts from across the world, and incorporating ideas from what I saw them doing, to boost my own efforts.

From how I talk or write about what I do, to how I think about it, and who I choose to offer my solutions to, I have borrowed countless ideas from countless successful experts, and adapted to my own purposes.

One expert, whose work has most greatly influenced me is Burt Dubin. What’s most exciting for me is that today, he and I are business partners!

For those who may miss the significance of the foregoing point, it has to do with what Napoleon Hill called the Power of Association in his classic bestseller “Think and Grow Rich”.

You see, the QUALITY of minds you expose your mind to, will often greatly determine how much personal growth and success you are able to achieve in life.

If you spend your time rubbing minds with people of LOW QUALITY thinking (and I KNOW I do NOT need to give you examples of this!), you will not make much quality advancement towards any tangible success in your personal or work life.

But if you devote your quality time to INTERACTING purposefully with people of great MENTAL CAPACITY (and I do NOT mean “book worm” or academic types), you are likely to eventually begin to record exception successes consistent with what those great minds you associate with are known for.

Many people who tell me they’ve read Think and Grow Rich often express surprise when I tell them that THAT Henry Ford started out in life as a stark illiterate, working for Thomas Edison, before leaving to build his car-for-the-masses manufacturing empire!

Yet the story of how Ford began is told in a chapter in Think and Grow Rich (Which makes me wonder, as I’ve said in past articles, if they really read the book as they claim)!

That book explains the impact of the Power of Association with great minds (like Thomas Edison, Luther Burbank and others) on Henry Ford.

Since he was illiterate, it was not his IQ or academic abilities that led him to success. Instead, it was the QUALITY of great minds he was opportune to associate with that stimulated his creative insights till he conceived his own magnificent obsession and achieved it.

In the same way, YOU need to understand that what people say or think about where you are or how far you can go with your dream should NOT matter to you.

What you need to do is seek out people of GREAT MENTAL CAPACITY like those Ford courted in his start-up years, and it will only be a matter of time before you begin to manifest your full potential.

In my case I can confirm that years of reading works by Burt Dubin, Napoleon Hill, James R. Cook, Zig Ziglar, Wole Soyinka, Chinua Achebe, Patrick Meninga, Jim Rohn, Michel Fortin and so many others, helped me in no small way BUILD myself into the relentless force of personality that I am today.

So, the above is one proven way of connecting with great minds and learning to succeed from them i.e. reading their works.

But if other opportunities present themselves, to get even closer, I recommend you SEIZE them with both hands (Two Examples/True Stories)!

For instance, about 4 or 5 years ago, I got the unique opportunity to partner with Burt Dubin and relate one-on-one via multiple channels with him.

That relationship continues to evolve in multiple dimensions today, and my growth has jumped up several notches in a manner that’s obvious to those who have watched my progress.

For instance: Burt generates income by monetizing his knowledge and expertise via home study resources (books, manuals, Audio CDs, Telephone Mentoring etc for experts-who-speak). As a result, he earns passive income, without having client projects in hand!

Today, I have grown my own range of branded products, to generate passive income via multiple channels – and continue to do so. Most of the ideas I’ve used to develop my brand came from studying what Burt does, and from relating with directly with him.

Another example: Patrick Meninga achieved celebrity status for his accomplishments in blogging few years ago. I went out of my way to study and apply his recommended blogging strategy, and not only am I enjoying great sales leads generating rewards for it, but my efforts have earned me Patrick’s friendship in the process, leading to more useful tips coming my way!

And that is the power of associating with great minds. It rubs off…IF you stay in contact long enough!

Incidentally, the opposite is also true: when you stay too long with mediocre minds, THEY also tend to rub off, till you begin to manifest mediocre outcomes like them as well!

Like I said at the start of this piece, Africans have so many wise sayings…

So, it is not surprising that Yoruba people (of which I am one) have a proverb that perfectly illustrates the above final point, providing a fitting end to this write-up:

Ti ewe ba pe ni ara ose, o ma ndi ose ni.”

Translation:When a leaf stays for a prolonged period in contact with soap, it will eventually become soap” (In Yoruba culture, traditional/locally made soaps are wrapped in leaves, which – as they age in storage – blend into the body of the soap, becoming one with it).

In my case, the longer I stay in contact with Burt Dubin, Patrick Meninga and other great minds, the more LIKE THEM I will become!

The Moral: Watch the kinds of minds you choose to have prolonged association with, as that will influence the kind of mind you BECOME, which WILL in turn determine your ability to achieve your God-given potential, especially when others have written you off!

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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to

Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name

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