Due to the way some people have been brought up – coupled with the programming done on their minds in formal schooling systems – they believe that to get ahead in life, they need to compete with another person. That’s why you find people who claim to be friends(sometimes even relatives) working hard to outdo one another.

One frequent fallout of their desperation to better(or get “one-up” on) each other is the absence of true sincerity, love and free, candid expression of feelings that would normally be expected to exist in such relationships.

I believe anyone who wants to get great fulfillment in life, must live without carrying the burden of anxiety caused by a need to keep up with, or outdo another person, in order to look good/appear successful.

This article explains why competing ONLY against yourself(like I do!) will help you live a more productive, fulfilling and LONGER life.

First published online: 2006

(Based on excerpts from Tayo Solagbade’s Self-Development Bible : Ten Ways You Can Use Self-Development To Create The Future You Want) Continue reading →