Publication: Tayo Solagbade’s Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP) Newsletter

Date: Monday 12th August 2013

No:102

Title: Succeed by Showing You’re Special

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade

Blog URL: http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com/blog

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Hi,

Please find below the latest issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter.

Today, he enjoys growing recognition as a competent business coach, from clients in different parts of the world. But he had to overcome poverty and repeat failures to get where he is today… From the age of 13 to 21, he sold groceries on the streets to help his parents make ends meet. The tough times were however so unrelenting, that at a point, his father fell ill and passed on. Then things got even worse, to the point that the girl he was dating, and dreaming of marrying left him saying: “…This is not going to work. I don’t know what you’re up to in life. You don’t have a future. You don’t have money, nothing is working for you. Your background is very poor.“ He was devastated, but eventually clawed his way back to sanity, and moved on, till he succeeded. This guy’s story is as amazing, as it is gripping. Email tayo at tksola dot com to get the FREE PDF transcript I created, of the TV interview in which he tells it all. Click HERE to download a FREE PDF copy of the 21 minute TV Interview verbatim transcript I created!

 

No. 102: Succeed by Showing You’re Special

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YOU are special. Do YOU know that? Many do not. Yet, as an expert in your field, convincing people you can help them requires showing you are different, unique…one of a kind. That you are SPECIAL!

People are attracted by that.

But many experts do not know (or they forget) that they are “special” (every human being IS). As a result, they frequently fail to show that side of themselves. This makes them get lost in the sea of formless “experts” clients choose from!

This issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter discusses why/how letting the world see that you are different – and therefore special – can lead you to greater success.

1. The Creator is Never Afraid. You Never Should Be.

There are experts who play down their abilities for fear of criticism. They let others tell them that boldly showing what they can do amounts to being proud, or over ambitious.

But nothing could be further from the truth!

God wants every one of his creations to make the most of him or herself. When you can fly and you settle for hopping from tree to tree, you do the creator a major disservice.

He has given you the gift or talent to be much more. Are you making the best use of it?

Keep this in mind: Most times our unique abilities given us by the creator are not meant for us to use ourselves alone. Quite often we are required to develop them for use in serving others (e.g. our clients) and helping them make the most of themselves too!

As an expert-who-speaks, strive to discover and develop that which makes you special. And when you do, boldly show the world – via your learning events – how you can help them with it like your creator intended you to.

2. The Creator Always Acts True to Type. You Should Do The Same.

Acting true to type basically means walking our talk in every area of our lives.

The Christian bible asks a rhetorical question: “For what has darkness got to do with light”?

I like that question, because it clarifies one’s choices in life very easily. And you don’t even need to be a Christian to use it.

There is no midway when it comes to integrity. In relation to this, Burt Dubin once said “There is no partial virgin”. And he was right.

When presented with a choice between right and wrong, honesty and dishonesty, good and bad, any sincere person will know the correct decision to take.

Here’s a true story that illustrates the above point…

A fairly wealthy client once told me that if one is due to be paid say $1 million by a company, and the person to write the cheque demands for $100,000, it would be better to let him have it, rather than risk making him block the entire payment using his connections.

According to him, where ignorance is bliss, it is folly to be wise.

But I knew I would never accept such treatment. For over 2 decades I’ve felt this way. It however occurred to me that if I said nothing, he would assume I agreed with him.

I therefore felt compelled to let him know where I stood. So, in a respectful tone, and without sounding judgmental, I said:

“Ehm, Sir. I understand what you mean, and I really appreciate the point you make about one standing a risk of suffering major delays in getting paid (or even losing it all), especially in our kind of society. But I must be honest with you, and say that if anyone ever gives me the condition that I must give him/her a cut from payment due to me, I would not accept it.”

Taking the above stand, has in the past cost me friendships with well paying clients who engaged in that practice, and argued that there was no other way.

Yet I chose to act true to type – with faith – and tell this man the very same thing.

Know this: Never compromise on your values and morals. Doing so will cost you more than you can ever hope to gain. Your creator will open new doors of opportunities for you as needed, every time you act true to type with faith. Therefore in negotiating the terms of a proposed speaking gig with any decision maker, ALWAYS act true to type.

Over time, only people willing to deal with you on your preferred terms will be attracted to you. Take it from me – I live this stuff, and it works!

3. The Creator Increases Others. Emulate Him.

Never ever seek to diminish others – not even those who hurt you. If you do, what would make you different from them?

Only when you do the opposite will they stop and wonder: “What? He’s still willing to play fair, despite the nasty stuff I did last time? This guy is something else!”

And that will make it obvious you are definitely one of a kind i.e. SPECIAL.

Final Words: Emulating the Creator Will Make You Special…and Ultimately More Successful

I often tell people I meet that each day of my life is a miracle. Time and time again, strange – but positive – coincidences occur in my life.

They continually reassure me that one who stays consistent in acting true to type will be rewarded with whatever s/he seeks.

All that is required is faith, patience and a willingness to persist.

None of these three requires money to be had…meaning they are available to everyone…including YOU!

Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?

If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I’ve shared in this newsletter, send me a message using this request form – with “Re: Succeed by Showing You’re Special” in the subject line.

SD Nuggets Blog™ New posts from last week that may interest you! * Public Speaking[Monday]: No. 101: Speaking Can Make You a “Meaningful Specific” Entrepreneurship [Tuesday]: Can You Market and Advertise When You Lack Money? Self-Development [Wednesday]: Breakthrough to Purpose – Andy Brine Interviews Efe Ohwofasa (Verbatim Text Transcript Created by Tayo K. Solagbade) Career Development [Thursday]: No Company Will Pay Anyone to Be Idle! Parenting [Friday]: Acknowledge Others, and You Will Be Acknowledged Writing/Blogging [Saturday]: Your Writing Competence Matters Greatly Want me to write for you? Click here…

Have a lovely week!

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Sole Agent For Burt Dubin’s Speaker Mentoring Service In Africa

Mobile: 234-803-302-1263

http://www.spontaneousdevelopment.com

Self-Development/Performance Enhancement Specialist – Tayo Solagbade – works as a multipreneurial freelance writer providing  zero risk article and report writing support for website owners, while travelling slowly across West Africa as a Location Independent Entrepreneur.

He’s presently based in Benin Republic, where he’s preparing an English-French Language Guide, City Travel Guides, and a Commercial Rabbit Farming Guide.

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Self-Development Nuggets™ blog, and Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter (which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

For a limited time, Tayo is available to speak to your group or organization for a moderate fee. Send e-mail to tayo at tksola dot com. You can also visit www.tksola.com to learn more.

Connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

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