PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2

He lost his wealthy father at the tender age of 7, and along with 5 siblings had to be cared for by a struggling mother (who was deserted by family members and her husband’s friends)

But by the time he clocked 16, he was already earning $3,000 to 5,000 USD monthly, writing for international clients from his humble dwelling in Nigeria’s ancient city of Ibadan.

Today, he’s been featured as the “Ultimate Nigerian Business Success Story” on top platforms across the world, like Forbes.com and Business Insider.

And despite being just in his early 20s, he already owns a 50 acre (300 plots) parcel land with a thriving catfish farm business whch he runs on it, having invested some of his Internet earnings into the offline business.

How did he achieve all this, when he started out with next to nothing you wonder?

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PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2

He lost his wealthy father at the tender age of 7, and along with 5 siblings had to be cared for by a struggling mother (who was deserted by family members and her husband’s friends)

But by the time he clocked 16, he was already earning $3,000 to 5,000 USD monthly, writing for international clients from his humble dwelling in Nigeria’s ancient city of Ibadan.

Today, he’s been featured as the “Ultimate Nigerian Business Success Story” on top platforms across the world, like Forbes.com and Business Insider.

And despite being just in his early 20s, he already owns a 50 acre (300 plots) parcel land with a thriving catfish farm business whch he runs on it, having invested some of his Internet earnings into the offline business.

How did he achieve all this, when he started out with next to nothing you wonder?

Especially doing what he does working in a very difficult socioeconomic environment like Nigeria (with erratic power supply and Internet connectivity), PLUS having to deal with the discrimination from some potential clients, due to the negative image of Nigerians created by 419ers?

Being the diligent student of success and human bevariour that I am, I have studied this chap for a while, since I first discovered him in 2014 or so. And here’s what my findings tell me:

1. He had exposure, very early in life to what is called TRIAL BY FIRE, and luckily for him, he USED it to build himself up for success.

Evidence that I’m right can be readily deduced from the following statement, he made in an interview published online:

“Losing my dad taught me a lot. It taught me tenacity: persistent determination. From the age of seven, other than God, I’ve had to do most things on my own; no fatherly support or resources to make things ‘manifest’ for me. As a result, I grew up being highly independent and persistent. A fighter of sorts, I grew up learning that if you want something, you demand and fight for it; and you don’t give up until you get it… because there is no dad who is going to give it to you. You either get it, or you don’t. For me, this lesson is more valuable than anything else a father could have given me. When I want something, I go for it… and I don’t give up until I get it. This tenacity is God’s gift to the fatherless, and I’m taking it with me all my life.” – Bamidele Onibalusi, Source: Losing my dad at 7 taught me how not to give up—Onibalusi, 24-year-old celebrated guest blogger/

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Note to reader: I first wrote about this young man on my blog back in 2014, when an elderly Swedish lady who connected with me on Facebook told me that HE was HER idol. Since then I’ve written several pieces about him, a recent one being: Choosing The Right Role Models for Success Achievement – What to Look For [Case Study: 21 year old Ibadan-based Nigerian freelance writer/blogger, who earns thousands of dollars writing for international clients AND also makes money from a Catfish Farm Business he started 1 year ago!]

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2. BUT  apart from exposure to trial by fire, he also did NOT have any OBLIGATIONS to fulfill that could have distracted him from maintaining his focus on doing what was required to achieve the success he needed.

This second factor is quire important – believe me. I know what it feels like to try pursuing success of this kind while having a family to support. It’s much more difficult!

This is why successful people strongly recommend starting as early as possible. And that’s why I’m supporting my kids to do just that.

Sadly, too many Nigerian parents do NOT understand the need for this.

They unwisely tell their kids to wait and finish school first!

Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, and many others including Robert Kiyosaki started long while they were STILL in school – and some even dropped out at some point to continue. Later, they came back and finished their schooling.

Now, it might interest you to know that the young man Onibalusi, is today sponsoring his own university studies using money he makes from his online and offline business.

Like I always say, if you lack money, there is a limit to how much formal schooling you can easily access in most societies.

So learning to make money as early as possible in life, can be to your advantage in so many ways. Smart parents will teach their kids to do it. There is just no better way to empower your child to excel in life as an adult.

It may NOT be conventional or popular to insist that your kids learn income earning vocational skills on a 50:50 basis alongside their academics, on a daily basis, for instance.

But the results you get, which will equip the child with useful real world relevant life skills that your child will OWN forever, will prove you right in the long run – and make your child grateful that you made him/her do it.

The true story linked below, provides a real life example of how I use the ideas I’ve shared above. Click the link or image to learn more.

PII 128 – Commandment No. 5 of 10 – You Shall Confidently Offer to Solve Real Life Problems For Your Target Audience [Features TRUE STORY of Teenager Who Started Making Custom Shoes for Himself Because Shoe Sellers Rarely Have Shoes Fitting His Size 46 Feet]

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NB: The second and concluding part of this special report will be published on this blog tomorrow.

 

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WebMD Dot Com Offers “Help for Battered Men” [Powerful Ideas for Identifying & Stopping Domestic Violence Against Men – DVAM]

I was excited to come across this wonderful professional article published on the respected WebMD Dot Com on Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM). What I particularly liked was the author’s identification of a factor I have been screaming about for SO LONG about how abusive WOMEN (who inflict domestic violence on men in their lives) are skilled at GAMING the system society put in place to STOP domestic violence!

Read the preview below  and click the link at the end to view the full article.

Help for Battered Men [Excerpts]

Another distinguishing factor is that while women who are abused are more likely to be pushed or shoved, beat up, or threatened with a gun, the women who do the abusing are more likely to throw something, kick or bite, hit with an object, threaten with a knife, or actually use a knife, according to the National Violence Against Women Survey.

And perhaps the most important difference is that women who batter may have a greater ability to use the “system” to their advantage.

“Systemic abuse can occur when a woman who is abusing her husband or boyfriend threatens that he will never see his children again if he leaves or reports the abuse,” says Philip Cook, program director of Stop Abuse for Everyone. “A man caught in this situation believes that no matter what his wife or girlfriend does, the court is going to give her custody, and this greatly limits his ability to leave. While this can occur when a woman is being abused, it is more likely to happen when a woman is abusing.”

Women, explains Cook, who is author of Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence, may also be able to use the system to their advantage in that they are less likely to be arrested if police are called as a result of a domestic dispute.

“There is no national data on average arrest rates for women in domestic disputes,” says Cook. “My best guess is that it’s about 20%. But we do know anecdotally that there are many men who, when the police arrive, clearly have the most serious injury, clearly when interviewed separately indicate the female started it, and nonetheless, the man gets arrested. This does indeed happen.”

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Read the full piece at https://www.webmd.com/balance/features/help-for-battered-men#1

 

It’s great to see that competent others, even if not in Nigeria, SEE what I am saying: Here’s how I described what these women do, on my Facebook page…

A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.

In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the eFforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defence” when their actions come under scrutiny.

What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better. We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who belong to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.That’s why I’ve launched this page.

Hopefully, with time, others will acknowledge it happens, and begin to treat EACH case they handle on it’s own merit, rather than use harmful stereotypes and MALES being abusive while FEMALES are always the abused victim. The BAD women know this and use it to their advantage – making the men in their lives suffer needlessly. That must stop!

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PII 131 – Commandment No. 6 of 10: You Shall Diligently Monitor and Measure Web Marketing KPIs [*Features Explanation of 6 Web Marketing KPIs]

This week I publish commandment No. 6 of 10 from my 10 part/10 week educational audio series titled “Ten Commandments of Web Marketing for Business Success“.

Commandment No. 6 of 10: You Shall Diligently Monitor and Measure Web Marketing KPIs [*Features Explanation of 6 Web Marketing KPIs]

Preview:

For those of you who have been with me for a while, you know that I’m a fan and a passionate believer in the use of KPIs. KPIs are called Key Performance Indicators, and you have them in every area of life. In web marketing what are the measures of performance?

What are the KPIs to choose?

There are a variety of them – but there are some that are standard. And over the years I have carefully reviewed what is available on the web. What people do – all the experts telling us to do different kinds of things.

And I’ve looked at what I needed to do in relation to my target market – which was Nigeria, West Africa and Africa. Of course I’ve gotten sales outside the African content as you know, for those of you who have followed me

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PII 131 – Commandment No. 6 of 10: You Shall Diligently Monitor and Measure Web Marketing KPIs [*Features Explanation of 6 Web Marketing KPIs]

[Ten Commandments of Web Marketing for Money Making Success]

This week I publish commandment No. 6 of 10 from my 10 part/10 week educational audio series titled “Ten Commandments of Web Marketing for Money Making Success“.

This is a special FREE DOWNLOAD edition. Any interested person can download the MP3 and PDF versions and share FREELY. See download links below.

Preview: For those of you who have been with me for a while, you know that I’m a fan and a passionate believer in the use of KPIs. KPIs are called Key Performance Indicators, and you have them in every area of life. In web marketing what are the measures of performance?

What are the KPIs to choose?

There are a variety of them – but there are some that are standard. And over the years I have carefully reviewed what is available on the web. What people do – all the experts telling us to do different kinds of things.

And I’ve looked at what I needed to do in relation to my target market – which was Nigeria, West Africa and Africa. Of course I’ve gotten sales outside the African content as you know, for those of you who have followed me

Request the PDF &  MP3 Audio version of Commandment No. 6 using the links provided below…

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Successful People Say Making Mistakes Is What YOU Need to Succeed [FREE DOWNLOAD]

For over 25 years I’ve used the ideas I share in this short piece to excel – in spite of adversity – in EVERY area of endeavor I’ve ventured. You can use them too. Click the image under the following body of text to download it as a JPEG version you can read OFFLINE and even print/share to inspire others.

Buckminster Fuller once wrote:

“I know so much because I have made so many mistakes”

Very profound statement, based on deep insight.

Accomplished achievers who defied adversity to succeed, like Robert Kiyosaki have noted that MISTAKE MAKING and the sometimes resultant TEMPORARY DEFEAT (aka FAILURE) are necessary ingredients for authentic success achievement.

I have TESTED the above wisdom for over 25 years, first in paid employment and later self-employment, and found it works.

You become wiser by being willing to take RISKS to try new things you never did before, because doing so helps you LEARN what does not WORK, so you can narrow down to fewer options remaining until you do find WHAT WORKS.

By the time you succeed, you will KNOW MORE and it will show in the CONFIDENCE you display in relating with others.

You will boldly speak and act based on what I call STREET-WISDOM (aka YOUR experience based CONVICTIONS) and NOT textbook or armchair theories!

However, not everyone will LIKE you for that. Some will WRONGLY interpret your “confidence” as “ARROGANCE” and proceed to try discrediting you before others for that reason alone.

My attitude has always been to IGNORE the efforts of such people, even as I feel sorry for them for failing to grab the opportunity to LEARN what they can from me.

Indeed, anytime I encounter such people, I remember the following quote and smile inwardly, as they yap away:

“A person that does not know, BUT does not know, that s/he does NOT know, is a BIG FOOL” – Anonymous

[NB: Capitalized emphasis mine]:

T.K. Solagbade

Lagos, 25th August 2018

Email: tayo@tksola.com Web: www.tayosolagbade.com

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[DVAM] Man Writes Women Support Agency Saying His Estranged Wife is Teaching His Kids to Hate Him [Features Expert Articles/Research on the common problem of Parental Alienation]

Below is a paraphrased excerpt from a letter written by a Nigerian man to a women support agency, in which he complains that the mother of his kids, who he is no longer on good terms with, keeps trying to  ALIENATE him from the kids – by influencing them to hate him.

This article features previews/links to Authoritative Research Papers and News Reports on the – common – problem of PARENTAL ALIENATION of a parent by an embittered spouse. using the kids as a weapon. 

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I DO NOT DO IT TO HER. So she needs to stop teaching the kids to hate, disrespect, lie and bear false witness against ME – their father

Examples:

1. I always ask each child to apologize to her when rude, but she does the opposite to me e.g sometimes even praising them – saying things to the child like  “I trust you. Well done!

2. She tells them I hate them when I discipline them – so that some actually say so to me.

I’ve made several complaints about this to older relatives and later various agencies, with no improvement. This was after efforts to reason with her one on one, repeatedly failed.

3. When I try to correct the kids for wrong doing, she often takes sides with each rebelling child, to not only defy, but also insult me, and even goad them to physically attack me – sometimes causing injury to me.

To make matters worse, she even coached the kids to claim they’d attacked me because I was beating HER – when that was NEVER the case!

4. But the truth is that whenever she is away, and the kids are ALONE with me, they readily relax/have fun with me. However, as soon as she comes around the kids become stiff and less responsive to me, because they know she could get angry seeing them bonding with me.

I want all this to stop. What she is doing is abusive to me and the kids.

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What this man’s partner is doing to him is called PARENTAL ALIENATION – a very common occurrence between disputing couples, with kids

 

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What follows below are reports and papers that discuss Parental Alienation in elaborate detail…

It is instructive to note that BOTH women and men can be guilty of doing this to their spouses – as shown in reports and records from various societies.

Nigeria however lacks accurate information about the nature of occurrence of this problem.

I believe it’s time responsible bodies, and stakeholders began formally recording data on Parental Alienation, especially in light of the potentially damaging effect it can have on the target parent and the kids involved.

A. Children’s Lie-Telling to Conceal a Parent’s Transgression: Legal Implications

“””…the present study examined the lie-telling behavior of children aged 3–11 years to conceal their parents’ transgressions. It revealed that the majority of children told the truth about their parents’ transgressions. However, children’s lie or truth-telling behavior was adaptive and situation-specific. When the possibility of the child being blamed for the transgression was reduced, a significantly greater number of children lied about their parents’ transgressions.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2785013/

 

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B. Divorcing parents who poison children against their former partner…

…The demonizing of a parent, usually by the one with whom the child lives, has long been recognized as damaging…’

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/divorce-laws-child-custody-parental-alienation-cafcass-mother-father-a8062941.html

 

“C. What Is ‘Malicious Mother Syndrome’? …Someone suffering from the syndrome:

1. Attempts to punish the divorcing parent though alienating their children from the other parent and involving others or the courts in actions to separate parent and child;

2. Seeks to deny children visitation and communication with the other parent and involvement in the child’s school or extra-curricular activities;

3. Lies to their children and others repeatedly and may engage in violations of law;

4. Doesn’t suffer any other mental disorder which would explain these actions.

NB: I’ve repeatedly stated EVERYWHERE I’ve gone to report these issues that Nkechi is mentally unstable – so item 4, to me, may not apply to her, and therefore she may not suffer from this syndrome.

https://family.findlaw.com/paternity/what-is-malicious-mother-syndrome.html

 

“D. The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children [Undermining loving parent-child relationships as child maltreatment]

“Parental Alienation involves a set of strategies, including bad-mouthing the other parent, limiting contact with that parent, erasing the other parent from the life and mind of the child (forbidding discussion and pictures of the other parent), forcing the child to reject the other parent, creating the impression that the other parent is dangerous, forcing the child to choose between the parents by means of threats of withdrawal of affection, and belittling and limiting contact with the extended family of the targeted parent.

There is now scholarly consensus that severe alienation is abusive to children (Fidler and Bala, 2010), and is a largely overlooked form of child abuse (Bernet et al, 2010),as child welfare and divorce practitioners are often unaware of or minimize its extent.

Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child; it has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate or fear the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child. ”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/co-parenting-after-divorce/201304/the-impact-parental-alienation-children

 

“A father who was the victim of (parental) alienation, speaking anonymously, told the Guardian:

“I’ve lived through and witnessed the inexorable alienation of my older daughter over the past five years, which has culminated in complete loss of contact. I will not have seen or heard from her for three years this coming January. We had a fantastic, loving relationship for the first 12 years of her life. This is a horrible form of child abuse that is struggling to get out from under the rock of prejudice and ignorance.””

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/divorce-laws-child-custody-parental-alienation-cafcass-mother-father-a8062941.html

 

 

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PII 130: Proven Secret to Generating Repeat Purchases from Buyers

Some people do not sell with integrity – and this is often apparent from the fact they do (what I describe as) “Hit and Run” business

In other words, they sell to buyers, without caring whether or not the latter are satisfied – and often because of that, they never consider trying to sell to the same persons again.

If that describes you, then stop reading right here. This article is NOT for you – as what it recommends is very unlikely to appeal to you…except you wish to turn over a new leaf, and start treating buyers RIGHT!

What I propose in this piece will make people who buy from you WANT to stay on and relate with/buy even more from you, for the long term – because they will be happy to have bought from you!

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PII 130: Proven Secret to Generating Repeat Purchases from Buyers

Some people do not sell with integrity – and this is often apparent from the fact that they do (what I describe as) “Hit and Run” business

In other words, they sell to buyers, without caring whether or not the latter are satisfied – and often because of that, they never consider trying to sell to the same buyers again.

If the above describes you/what you do to make money in your business, then stop reading right here. This article is NOT for you – as what it recommends is very unlikely to appeal to you…except, of course, if you wish to turn over a new leaf, and start treating buyers RIGHT!

What I propose in this piece will make people who buy from you WANT to stay on and relate with/buy even more, from you, for the long term – because they will be happy to have bought from you the first time!

I say the above, based on my experience based achievements. And I share below a few examples, to illustrate the point I wish to make.

READ: No. 119: How to Achieve Success in Any Field (True Story) -this article has been read over 26,000 (26k) times. Click to read it in a new browser window.

Most of the buyers of my multidisciplinary range of performance improvement products and services (especially since 2010, when I resolved to focus on selling remotely to a globally paying target audience) have NEVER met with me in the flesh

And yet, many of them have – since buying from me (by taking MASSIVE LEAPS OF FAITH) gone on to maintain relationships with me that have gone beyond “business” into real friendships that both parties truly cherish.

READ: Can You Be Trusted?(Real Life Farm Business Sales Conversations With People Just Like You)

Every now and then the possibility of meeting up has of course been raised.

For instance, recently a long time Kano based Farm CEO client – Alhaji Sanni – (who has made repeated purchases from me) called to thank me for sending him a replacement of his personalized version of my Excel-VB Ration Formulator software[NB: He’d lost the one he’d paid for – I send the latest version to EVERY past buyer who requests it, at zero cost to him/her]

Before ending the call, Alhaji expressed the desire to one day meet me in person saying

“Tayo, it would be nice to meet with you one of these days. Look, why not come down to Kano – and we will host you…”

I replied that I wanted that just as much as he did, noting that I would plan such a visit, especially since apart from him, I actually had 4 other Kano based clients – all never having met me before.

TIP: Several times in the past, my efforts to organize a live feed formulation workshop, free for my clients (see example here) had not worked out too well, because we could not agree a date convenient for most of them to attend. That challenge was what led me to create my Practical Feed Formulation (& Compounding) Home Study Video Series.

I’ve had many of my past buyers/clients – from within and outside Nigeria/Africa – express the desire to meet me, like Alhaji did.

Over a year ago, a client based in Ghana’s Accra called to tell me how he’d used my Ration Formulator to improve his custom feed compounding for his Commercial Rabbit farm, to the extent that he’d begun selling custom formulated feed to other livestock farmers.

READ: PII 032: Maximise Returns by Integrating Rabbit Farming into Your Farm Operations [True Story: Excerpts from my response to a tweeted request from Eno, a Nigerian Rabbit farm owner]

At a point he suggested that if I ever came down to Ghana, he would want to introduce me to other farm CEOs in his network who he believed would need my help etc.

More recently, a Real Estate Consultant who has been a Web Marketing client for almost 2 years now , while we were talking on phone suggested it might be good to meet up somewhere in Lagos. We’ll probably be making that happen sometime in the near future.

For now, however, only on a handful of occasions has it so far been possible to make in person meetings with my past buyers happen.

Sometimes it has been through small group coaching events – like the one I organized for members of my MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation club, which I came down from Cotonou, to run in Lagos.

READ: PII 006: Succeed by Becoming an Expert at Solving Real World Problems [Hint: Highlights from Maiden Edition of Tayo Solagbade’s FREE Monthly Workshop for his MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club Members Held on Sat 19th March 2016 in Lagos-Nigeria]

At other times, it has been through agreed face to face meetings – like the one I had with the chap – Enuenwemba Chukuyenum (Chuks) – standing with me in the photo below taken back in 2014.

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Read the article I published about our meeting here (click).

Read the Facebook post I published here (click).

An agribusiness consultant with an agro allied company at the time, Chuks had purchased my Ration Formulator in 2012. That was before I began my Lagos-Cotonou corridor shuttling as a Location Independent Multipreneur.

Over the course of several phone and email conversations we found we were like minded and began to share news of what we were doing with one another – ME doing more of it!

One day, I’d come into town late in the evening, and called him up to say hello/share some new ideas/insights I had, which I thought (based on our past exchanges) might interest him.

As our conversation got more animated, he said it would be nice to meet face to face, so he could put a real life face to the name. I thought THAT made sense  – so we discussed ways to make it happen.

A few days later, we met up for the first time EVER, since he became a paying client over 2 years earlier. But we hugged one another like old friends, back patting and all – on lookers would have been fooled!

Venue was the inside of the Mr. Bigg’s outlet located at Maryland bus stop area.

The photo of us was taken by my first son – who was 15 years old at the time.

By way of interest, I took the boy along to witness my meeting with this never-before-seen client of mine, so he could UNDERSTAND how I made/make money remotely, selling digital products and services to buyers, who are mostly total strangers when we first begin “talking”.

Indeed, I do this with my kids all the time – as part of what I call Best Practice Parenting.

READ: Selling Skills Development in Tayo Solagbade’s Personal Achievement Coaching for Kids (PACK)™ Project [Hint: Finding Buyers for Cakes Made Without Oven]

At my coaching/speaking events, I take one of more of my kids along to SEE what I do and how, so as to give them a mental preparation towards doing similar stuff at some point in their lives, when they eventually discover the purpose and passion.

READ: [Advice for Smart Parents] You Need to Give Your Kids Real World Relevant Coaching NOW, If They Are to Succeed…In Their Adult Lives!

READ: TRUE STORY: An Invitation from The Ministry of Youth and Social Development to Discuss My Paper Titled “Schooling Is a Means to an End and NOT an End In Itself”

READ: PII108: Why I Do NOT Want My Kids to Get the Same Formal Schooling I Got [PDF Report]

Final Words

Having said all of the above, it goes without saying, that if the product/service they’d bought from me had not met their expectations,  my clients would not be staying in touch with me, for so long (year in year out, some for OVER 7 years now – and buying more!) like they do, talk less of asking to meet with me in person.

So what have I been doing that’s made my buyers often act this way towards me?

Well, it’s simple.

I ALWAYS – and I do mean ALWAYS – under-promise to over-deliver in terms of what I SELL to them.

And by under-promising, I do not imply aiming to undercut or cheat/deny the client of what is due to him/her.

No.

Instead, what I do is to assess the client’s need, based on what s/he tells me, and then decide whether THAT need is something the SOLUTION I offer can MEET.

If YES, I tell him/her so, and if s/he’s convinced, I make the sale and deliver to him/her.

BUT…I do NOT stop there…

Instead after delivering what s/he has paid for and is expecting, I begin, over time, to give him/her all kinds of follow up benefits in various forms e.g. surprise bonuses targeted to meet the unique needs I have DEDUCED, from our “conversations” that s/he has.

And as I do that, I gently check for any challenges s/he may be having with using the solution I’ve delivered, or with making progress towards a valued goal s/he has told me about.

Wherever I discover an opportunity to add value, I go out of my way, to offer it – most times at little or no additional cost to him/her i.e. FREE.

Why do I do this?

I do it because I KNOW that when people buy from vendors, most times they do not expect that kind of passionate, enthusiastic no-strings-attached follow up from a seller who has nothing to gain by doing so.

And THAT makes them take a second look at me, and it clicks in their minds that I REALLY care.

Once they realize that I am honestly interested in helping them succeed, they open up and subsequently begin to reach out.

Over time, the relationship grows and sooner than later, the natural happens: TRUST is cemented.

As is common knowledge, when there is trust, sales become so much easier to close.

READ: Can You Be Trusted?(Real Life Farm Business Sales Conversations With People Just Like You)

And THAT is the reason why it pays to under-promise and over-deliver!

Those you serve, in that manner, with your products and services, WILL notice the difference between YOU and others who do what you do.

And they will want to bring you closer to them, so they can have constant access to benefit from you – translating to REPEAT SALES OPPORTUNITIES for you!

 

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[DVAM] EXTRA REPORT: Husband Battering, A New Face of Domestic Violence

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[DVAM] Who will save men from domestic violence?

This report really resonates with me, because it speaks my mind with regard to the near total disregard of the plight of many men suffering domestic violence (both physical and emotional/psychological) at the hands of their intimate female partners in Nigeria – and elsewhere. The author of this piece really nails the ISSUE that’s been begging for attention for so long now. It’s time for the desired change to be effected by the authorities and stakeholders!

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Who will save men from domestic violence?

Just as women keep complaining of being abused by their husbands, there are men who are also victims of domestic violence though can’t come out.

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https://www.pulse.ng/gist/who-will-save-the-men-from-domestic-violence-id6957184.html

 

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[DVAM] Group laments increase in violence against men

The founder of the NGO featured in the news report previewed/linked below, reveals an interesting trend in which (to use her own words) “scores of married men” have visited her office to complain about domestic violence inflicted on them by their wives – AFTER she led a placard carrying awareness campaign at “Federal High Court, Jabi, in Abuja” on the problem.

Group laments increase in violence against men

An NGO, Girls and Youth Re-integration Network (GYRIN), has expressed concern over rising cases of domestic violence against men in the country.

The founder of the NGO, Miss Kehinde Awojola, said that GYRIN has received alarming reports from men after it launched its campaign on “No To Violence Against Men”.

Continue reading…

 

https://aljazirahnews.com/group-laments-increase-violence-men/

 

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[DVAM] EXTRA REPORT: Husband Battering, A New Face of Domestic Violence

Below, I share a linked preview to yet another publication from the Nigerian social space, that draws attention to the hidden scourge of Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM) that continues to be generally ignored by key authorities and stakeholders.

As usual, a the bottom of the post, I append a link to my Facebook sdvocacy page titled “Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM) – Ideas for Identifying and Stopping It”.

EXTRA REPORT: Husband Battering, A New Face of Domestic Violence

By The Nigerian Expression on May 14, 2018

By Supo Balogun, The Nigerian Expression

In contrast to the often stereotyped narrative which regularly painted women as the unhappy underdog in many homes, the Lagos State Domestic Violence and Sexual Violence Response Team (DVSRT) recently published a total of 138 men as suffering from domestic violence between May 2016 and April 2017.

Perhaps, one should yield to the women: If they have been subjected to domestic violence for so long, it may not be out of place if men too have a slight carriage of that burden women have carrying for many decades.

Such abuse includes slapping, hitting, kicking or forced sex as well as non-physical abuse like insults, threats, chronic disparaging remarks and controlling behaviours.

The latest figure, although relatively small when compared with the statistics of abuse against women and children, however, offers a new perspective to the growing incidence of domestic violence to which Kazeem had alluded in a 2017 report which indicated that 55 men were battered by their wives in 2016.

Continue reading…here 

http://thenigerianexpression.com/2018/05/14/extra-report-husband-battering-a-new-face-of-domestic-violence/

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Why Nigeria BADLY Needs a Proliferation of AUTHENTIC Entrepreneurs [The Root Cause of (& The Surest Cure for) Unemployment in Africa’s Crawling Giant] – FREE PDF DOWNLOAD

This report begins with the following review of what I consider an uncannily accurate opinion submission – on Nigeria – by a foreigner, in a reputable international magazine – TIME – of August 23, 1999:                                                  

Nigeria suffers from a dearth of rapidly growing small private businesses. Such businesses create 80 percent of the new jobs in the United States. This must be disturbing for Nigeria that needs to modernize for the 21st century and bring down persistently high unemployment. But what really causes this entrepreneurship gap? And what can be done about it?

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