On Sunday 17th August 2014 a.m, I had my first Personal Achievement Coaching (PAC) project conversation with my children. I asked them: “What is a child of God called?” and told them it was NOT “child of God”.

If you truly believe in God, know that this is a message from God to you. If you say I’m not a pastor (or other religious leader), I urge to keep your ears open, and your mind free from bias as you read. You will learn TRUTHS that will convince you.

[NB: If you’re not familiar with my PAC™ programme, read this article(click). I launched this coaching programme to share the magic formula for personal success I discovered by studying Napoleon Hill’s Think and Grow Rich – which has helped me achieve unrelenting success in spite of adversity over the past 2 decades.]

That morning, I sat them down – all five of them….

We’ve come a long way as a family. And they know the suffering we have been through.

They know the humiliation I have suffered as a member of my bigger family. I have said this in many articles recently.

At a point I became the "Bambialla" (local term for "beggar") of the Solagbade family. This is no secret. I have mentioned it in several past articles.

Apart from that, if you meet anybody who…is my relative, say my siblings, parents etc, they will confirm that I have told them I have no problems, I don’t feel any embarrassment of any sort – if they tell what they know happened to me.

For me, what happened to me is proof that there is something wrong with our educational system.

I don’t have a problem talking about it. Failure is never anything you should allow to be personal.

You MUST externalize failure at all times. Understand that if you fail, it is because there is something you need to learn.

These are some of the things you need to learn: The Philosophies of Success!

If you understand that, you will know you’re just on a journey of discovering how to succeed.

I understood that, because I had been exposed to the right books. But still, it didn’t make it any less painful.

But like I said, I have no problems hearing that somebody else is telling my story saying "Oh you know they were lending him money etc"…it is IMMATERIAL!

Like the saying goes: "It does not matter what happens to you what is important is how you deal with what happens to you."

Funny thing about the above saying is that people use it all the time, and yet they will not let the person who is going through it, and choosing to be courageous about it, focus on being courageous and succeeding!

Instead they begin to refer all the time to his failures. This is the reason why we know that the schooling system we have is FAULTY!

This is why people use success quotes like the above, and still turn around to mock the person that is going through failure, and persisting in spite of it!!

One example: Let’s say you have a radio program, and voice a quote like: "It does not matter what happens to you. What is important is how you deal with what happens to you."

Then 2 months later, you encounter a former school mate who is struggling in life, but is dealing with his challenges with courage – and YOU start LAUGHING at him! That would be a sign that you don’t understand the quote you shared on your radio program!!

And that’s the problem I see a lot in society today.

People read all these books and talk and talk and talk, but the fact is that in their lives, they do not apply the things they say with their mouths!

It’s the same thing when they take the affirmations from the bible and voice them. The way they live their lives, show they do not believe those things they say from the bible.

And this is the fundamental problem.

Now, with books like Think & Grow Rich, when the contents are properly taught, people discover that they change in form of their habits.

Their thinking habits and their habits in the real world change.

They become TRANSFORMED BEINGS and then they begin to act consistently, along the lines of what they have READ, and what they have been TAUGHT.

That is when they become SUPERIOR BEINGS and begin to achieve at a level that what we call MERE MORTALS will not be able to comprehend.

So, what I’m saying is that you need to understand that there are some things your school will not teach you. Yet you will need to learn those things to succeed authentically for the long term in your life, and also be able to teach your children to do same.

That was why I called my kids together that Sunday morning. I wanted to begin formally sharing the magic formula for achieving personal success with them

So, I asked them: What do you call the child of a Lion?

My children answered: A Lion.

Then I asked: What do you call the child of a Cat?

"A Cat!" they chorused.

I said: What do you call the child of a Goat?

They said: A Goat!

I said: Good!

Then I asked them: Can a Cow give birth to a Goat?

They said: No.

I asked: Can a Lion give birth to a Tortoise?

They said: No.

Then I asked: Can a Cat give birth to a Dog?

Again they said: NO

By this time they were beginning to look at me as if saying "What is wrong with this man today??!"

I continued by asking: Okay, now what do you call a child of God?

They said: A child of God.

Shaking my head in the negative, I told them: NO!

I then repeated the question: What do you call a child of God?

They were looking at me (in confusion).

When I told them THE answer, I saw the looks of surprise in their faces:

…end of part 1

[The 2nd and concluding part will be published on this blog tomorrow]