Category Archives: My Ideas for Making Nigeria Better

[FLYER] The Key Performance Indicators It’s Renowned For, Convince Me Educators and Parents in Nigeria/Africa BADLY NEED to ADAPT Tried and Tested Ideas From Finland About How to Create a Successful Education System!

This post is a follow-up on the preceding piece recommending a BBC report about Finland’s education system. I highlight specific examples of this country’s unique system – for the benefit of many in my part of the world, who clearly do NOT know anything of the sort exists e.g kids who do not start school before 7 years, who take NO EXAMS (Yep. You read THAT right!) etc.

Finnish kids do not start formal schooling until 7 years & they get:

1. Short school days

2. Long holidays

3. Relatively little homework

4. No exams

Finland’s education system has has “long fascinated experts” around the world…because it ”produces high academic results in children who do not start formal schooling until the age of seven (7)”

PROOF IT WORKS:

Finland’s 15 year olds have, for 2 decades, regularly scored amongst the highest in the global Pisa league tables for reading, maths and science.

My Question: How do Nigerian kids (who commence formal schooling from as early as 6 months, often staying morning till evening and taking assignments home) perform on those SAME international league tables?

The truth is Nigerians do NOT even appear there…if they did we would have heard their (expensive!) schools screaming it from the roof tops!!!

So it means the Finnish kids get to have so much free time and fun, only to outperform our over worked kids!

Nigerian educators and parents stop wasting kids’ time in a system that does NOT work, and borrow adaptable ideas from one that DOES work – like Finland’s.

This is especially important NOW, that Finland is “shaking up the way it is doing things – a move that it says is vital in a digital age where children are no longer reliant on books and the classroom to gain knowledge.

Read BBC report about Finland’s new direction in education at www.tinyurl.com/sdn-bbc-finland sdn-finland-bbc

 

[RECOMMENDED] BBC NEWS: Could subjects soon be a thing of the past in Finland?

I believe the rest of the world, if they are smart, should pay CLOSE and SERIOUS attention to what Finland is doing with its Education System.

My instincts with regard to the homeschooling I’ve been doing with my kids have been along this line – and that’s why this news from Finland resonates so much with me.

They are just starting out, so teething problems are likely inevitable.

BUT I strongly believe THAT is the way to go in the 21st century for best results!

Below is a preview of the article, ending with a link to the full piece:

BBC NEWS: Could subjects soon be a thing of the past in Finland?

Finland has long been renowned for the quality of its education and always scores highly in international league tables.

Now it is rethinking how it teaches in the digital age – seeking to place skills, as much as subjects, at the heart of what it does. But not everyone is happy, and there are fears it could bring down standards.

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How Finland has shaken up teaching for the 21st Century

“Its ability to produce high academic results in children who do not start formal schooling until the age of seven, have short school days, long holidays, relatively little homework and no exams, has long fascinated education experts around the world.

Despite this, Finland is shaking up the way it is doing things – a move that it says is vital in a digital age where children are no longer reliant on books and the classroom to gain knowledge.”

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Read the full report on the BBC Website here…

 

PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

One day Brian Banks was a high school football star poised to launch a promising career as a pro, and the next he saw it all go up in smoke when a former high school mate (Wanetta Gibson) accused him of raping her.

That happened in 2002 and he served over 5 years in prison – for a crime he NEVER committed!

But the story did NOT end there…

She later contacted him on Facebook and requested a meeting, at which she confessed that she’d fabricated the whole story – but refused to publicly admit it, for fear that her family would be asked to pay back money they’d been awarded.

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PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

One day Brian Banks was a high school football star poised to launch a promising career as a pro, and the next he saw it all go up in smoke when a former high school mate (Wanetta Gibson) accused him of raping her.

That happened in 2002 and he served over 5 years in prison – for a crime he NEVER committed!

But the story did NOT end there…

She later contacted him on Facebook and requested a meeting, at which she confessed that she’d fabricated the whole story – but refused to publicly admit it, for fear that her family would be asked to pay back money they’d been awarded.

Luckily, for Banks, he’d had the presence of mind to record her confession to him, and THAT was what the California Innocence Project, the organization that helped exonerate him, used to secure the reversal of his conviction on May 24, 2012.

[Read Wikipedia account at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Banks_(American_football)  | Also read Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

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Ten long years. That’s how long this nightmare lasted for this young man!

I feature his story in this issue of my Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter, as part of my Stop Domestic Violence Against Men advocacy campaign.

The story of Brian Banks is a perfect example of how a female can DECIDE to ruin a man simply by making a false claim, and succeed!

I don’t know about you, but reading Bank’s story, I could NOT help wondering about the psychological suffering he must have gone through, BEFORE this fortunate exoneration happened.

Banks had relatives, friends, colleagues and associates who would have looked at him differently when he got accused and ultimately sentenced to prison.

I cannot help thinking that he must have repeatedly protested that he did not do it, while others rolled their eyes heavenwards saying “Yeah, that’s what they all say!”

I also simply cannot help but wonder how he and all who identified with him must have had to ENDURE the embarrassment and humiliation arising from his false accusation ALL those years.

And I just cannot help but wonder if ALL those who heard that he got sentenced to jail back then, and who would have concluded that THAT happened because he was GUILTY of the crime the young lady accused him of, would EVER get to learn of the overturned court ruling that has since been given.

In reality, many may not get to hear that he has NOW been found innocent – so they will continue carrying those WRONG impressions about him in their minds!

And most importantly, I cannot help thinking that Banks LOST a HUGE opportunity to make it big in the NFL because of the action of this false accusation.

The damage to Banks simply cannot be erased by this reversed conviction, or the media publicity given to it and certainly not by the $2m fine imposed on his accuser.

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All of that is good – but they will not change what happened to him. It is my considered opinion that it should never have happened to him in the first place!

And the fact that it did should enough cause for society to introduce controls to PREVENT naughty females from succeeding with false accusations in future!

To think that he had to get a recording of her confessing to him in private, was how he managed to get his conviction overturned, and NOT that she came out to confess it willingly, really shows just how self-centered this lady was.

The sad thing is that so MANY females in today’s world are increasingly like Bank’s accuser.

They have this entitlement mentality, and will do anything to have their way. But if they cannot have their way, then they’ll do whatever it takes to get back at you for NOT letting them have it.

In a way, one could say men in today’s world are doomed in the sense that if at any point, a female with the above kind of mentality happens to set her sights on you, chances are good that she will get away with anything she does to you – because society has been programmed to believe her over you, the man.

However, as Bank’s experience proves, we need to change that situation and put in place systems to STOP naughty females from taking advantage of society’s protective systems, to inflict such vicious abuse on men in their lives.

We MUST stop this current situation in which ALL a woman or female needs to do is to simply SAY “He did it” for the male person she accuses to be INSTANTLY considered guilty by the rest of society.

This is not to say that authentic cases of women who have been abused by men do not exist.

What I’m saying is that their existence and the possibility of it happening is NO reason for us to leave innocent men at the mercy of naughty females looking for ways to use the protective systems put in place for women, to inflict abuse on men in their lives that they have an axe to grind with!

Learn more about my advocacy campaign on my page; Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It

A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.

In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the efforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defense” when their actions come under scrutiny.

What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better.

We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who belong to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.

That’s why I’ve launched this page.

Page URL: https://facebook.com/stopdvambytks/

[DVAM] Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Domestic Violence [Hint: Read These True Stories from batteredmen dot com]

Do you ignore efforts to Identify and Stop Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)? Let’s hope your silence (or indifference) does not cause your son, brother, uncle, dad or other male loved ones to suffer like those who tell their stories on batteredmen dot com featured below:

http://tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets/dvam-menweb-battered-men-mens-stories-batteredmen-dot-com/#.WQxy_Uhtldg

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2. Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.

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EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.

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New posts from last week*

Monday:

[Wednesday]:

[Thursday]:

FREE PDF | African Parents Need to Teach Their Kids About Their Rich Ancestry & Contributions to Civilization, So They Don’t Grow Up Feeling Inferior to Other Races! [Insights From Maiden Visit of the Tayo Solagbade Clan Members (i.e. my kids) to ABEOKUTA (Our Home Town) in Nigeria’s Ogun State on Saturday 22nd April 2017 for the African Drums Festival – held at the June 12 Cultural Centre in Kuto]

[Friday]:

[RECOMMENDED] VIDEO & TEXT TRANSCRIPT: Zimbabwean Pastor Tudor Bismarck preaches that Possessing an Understanding of How Things Work – and NOT Prayers – Is the Key to a Nation’s Economic Prosperity

[Saturday]:

[DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]

[Sunday]:

[RECOMMENDED] Lagos State Commissioner of Police Reads Bribe Taking Police Officers The Riot Act

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition

Mobile: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic)

http://www.tayosolagbade.com

Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement

Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter.

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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[IMPORTANT NOTE:====

On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
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[RECOMMENDED] Lagos State Commissioner of Police Reads Bribe Taking Police Officers The Riot Act

If the CP (Fatai Owoseni) can back up his words with action, Lagos will become a HEAVEN on earth – and will become a model for other states in this country to emulate in this regard.

“I am tired of hearing about shooting or killing of innocent persons. No one has the right to take another man’s life. It is only God that has the right to take life.

“It is your responsibility as a DPO to know those who are collecting bribe under you. If you refuse to stop them, they will stop you from being a DPO.

“It is embarrassing to see policemen collecting bribes and chasing yahoo yahoo boys for a DPO. I would not cover any DPO. I will expose you. Just leave Lagos before I get to your station. I cannot share out of your misconduct. I will give your photographs and details to journalists to expose you.”

“I am shocked to hear that some Area Commanders and DPOs are on the pay rolls of fraudsters. I am investigating. Just pray that I don’t get you. Just know that you are causing pains for taxpayers if you are intimidating them and collecting bribe from criminals.

“It is a curse to build a house with the money. The building would collapse on your head. Some of you even take people to the bank to collect money. If you train your children with the money, they won’t be useful to you.

“If those who were in the force before us bastardized it, we would not have the opportunity to be enlisted in the police. I am tired of pleading with police victims because you are doing what you are not supposed to do. Remember, one day, you are going to die and give account to your creator.”

“Special Anti Robbery Squad (SARS) should take note. I will not tolerate any act of indiscipline. Learn a lesson from DPO Ijeshatedo, who shot dead a fashion designer. He is in our custody and we are compiling charges against him. He would soon be arraigned in court.

“All DPOs in Ikorodu should use all resources within their disposals to fish out Badoo cult group that has been causing havoc in the community. I am giving you all 48 hours to decongest your cells. Nobody should be detained more than 48 hours. I will conduct checks on the cells,”

Source: https://www.pmnewsnigeria.com/2017/05/24/bombshell-lagos-cp-says-area-commanders-dpos-payroll-fraudsters/ and http://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/headlines/232120-angry-commissioner-curses-bribe-taking-police-officers-orders-them-out-of-lagos.html

 

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[DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]

[I said in an earlier post on this page: Even the most docile being will react when pushed to the wall. Below is text I’ve typed out of the full letter sent in by a male reader (see large size photo) of Gloria Ogunbadejo’s “Mental Health Matters” column on page 54 of Sunday PUNCH April 30, 2017]

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Dear Gloria.

Thank you for your very insightful column that comes out every Sunday in the PUNCH. I have been reading your column for quite some time and I have been very impressed with your views. I was intrigued with the topic of violence against women which you covered sometime in the past and I wondered if you were aware that there were men who also suffer domestic violence.

I am a married man and $y wife and I enjoy a normal married life. It is very difficult for me to express myself on this matter as I find it very shameful. I am well educated as you might be able to tell, and am gainfully employed. I say this not to suggest that it is the uneducated or poor that experience this type of abuse. I am just giving you an idea of my background.

My wife has a bad temper and has always been aggressive. Before we got married, there were times she would engage in physical combat when we had disagreements, but I just thought it was her way of expressing the extent of her love for me. After we got married, she seemed to settle down and was not as volatile whenever she was upset.

She had a very difficult time conceiving and I watched as her anger got worse again. I never used to hit her even when she slapped or hit me with all types of things. I could not take it anymore. Recently I beat her very badly. I think it was a build up of all the times I was on the receiving end. It was nothing compared to what I have suffered from her. However, her family acted as if the world had come to an end. Her brothers were threathening me and the family called a meeting to warn me.

I am very angry and frustrated because I have suffered a lot from her abuse but I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it. I have decided that I will not let her get away with the physical abuse any longer even if it means the marriage will break.

This is not a subject that people take seriously in this country. It is only if a woman is experiencing abuse that anyone will listen. I know other men experience similar things but they either fight back or they keep quiet about it. I just wanted you to know that it is not only women who experience abuse.

Please Gloria, I require coinfidentiality to maintain my respect and dignity.

Name and address withheld

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NB: This update was first published on my Facebook advocacy page earlier today at https://web.facebook.com/stopdvambytks/photos/a.1010876555679725.1073741828.1010096242424423/1044723925628321/?type=3

[RECOMMENDED] VIDEO & TEXT TRANSCRIPT: Zimbabwean Pastor Tudor Bismarck preaches that Possessing an Understanding of How Things Work – and NOT Prayers – Is the Key to a Nation’s Economic Prosperity

CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD PDF - Are People Who Achieve Success Luckier Than Those Who Don't? [Featuring TEDx Talk: “5 Major Reasons Why Religion Is No. 1 Cause of Poverty In Africa”]Click here to download FREE PDF and start reading…

Zimbabwean Pastor Tudor Bismarck preaches that Possessing an Understanding of How Things Work – and NOT Prayers – Is the Key to a Nation’s Economic Prosperity

I referred to this message in a past issue of my newsletter linked below:

===Transcript starts===

The Zambian Government sold the copper mines in Northern Zambia to an outside consortium for $25m – the copper mines for $25m because they couldn’t manage to keep them

Click here to read the rest in a PDF I prepared using the transcript I typed from the video.

Watch the video here

This preacher’s message needs to be passed to ALL Christian believers and their pastors across Africa!

 

FREE PDF | African Parents Need to Teach Their Kids About Their Rich Ancestry & Contributions to Civilization, So They Don’t Grow Up Feeling Inferior to Other Races! [Insights From Maiden Visit of the Tayo Solagbade Clan Members (i.e. my kids) to ABEOKUTA (Our Home Town) in Nigeria’s Ogun State on Saturday 22nd April 2017 for the African Drums Festival – held at the June 12 Cultural Centre in Kuto]

NB: I announced the impending publication of this PDF a month ago(27th April 2017), on my wall (click to view)

Preview: On Sunday 22nd April 2017, I suggested that my kids wear to church, the above Adire outfits I’d bought for them the day before, when we’d traveled from Lagos to the African Drums Festival venue in Kuto, Ogun State.

To my surprise, the 4 older ones protested that they would get laughed at by peers for wearing “strange” outfits, opting instead for their usual western themed attires.

BUT after I’d told them about the history of Adire fabric and its international reputation, they relented.

However, their initial reactions impressed upon me the need to make deliberate EDUCATION on African traditions, cultures, values and the History of Ancient African Civilization of my kids a MAJOR focus of my parenting efforts.

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If someone told African kids all these things and taught them about THEIR RICH ANCESTRY- of which a lot is being re-discovered even now by today’s archeologists and researchers, the young African would stop feeling inferior !

[In case you wonder what I mean by the foregoing, I offer 2 URLs:

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An African/Black kid informed and empowered in this manner, is likely to develop great self esteem knowing s/he comes from a line of humans who made significant contributions to civilization.

And from that realization, s/he would draw inspiration to do his/her own bit to move today’s civilization forward.

[TIP: Read this article titled “An Indigenous African Church Leader Who Makes World Class Talking Automobiles (Incl. Engines) From Scratch, Using Local Materials in Ghana (Meet Apostle Dr. Kwadwo Safo)” at

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For instance, many great African American inventors are NOT known – as black – to most African Americans..

Indeed many Americans and the rest of the world, do NOT know them because many had white names and got little media exposure, for their work, even though their inventions got widely used

The famous African American brain surgeon – Dr. Ben Carson – listed MANY such unsung African American inventor heroes in the trailer video for….

The list of inventions he credits to these black heroes is shocking in significance, because we use them virtually EVERYDAY, yet most  of us would never guess a black person made them!

See details in my special report titled [FREE] Powerful Truths About Real Black History Not Taught In Schools, But Which You and Your Kids Need to Know at…

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This PDF report (one of many to come) narrates highlights from our trip, offering potentially useful insights to parents.

Click here (or the cover image) to submit a web form request for the download link to the PDF report.

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Human Beings Don’t Have On/Off Buttons Like Machines – We ALL Have Feelings & Will React Differently to Abuse!

[This article was first published, yesterday Tuesday 23rd May 2017, as a status update on my Facebook advocacy page: Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It]

I’ve read and heard about some men being blamed for fighting back against a female abuser. The commentators typically argued that ‘a real man walks away” – no matter what (…Including when hot water is poured on his body causing painful burning peeling of the skin in affected areas lol!)

The question however to ask is this:

How much training or preparation do we give our male members in society to expect this kind of controlled behaviour from them?

if none or little (as currently happens), how can we realistically expect ALL our men (not being programmable robots) to arrive adulthood with this wonderful ability to “walk away” everytime, no matter how badly they are abused by female partners?

It is my considered opinion, that if we’re honest with ourselves, “walking away” again and again is easier said than done.

You see, it would be nice if everyone exposed to protracted DV (Domestic Violence) could take it all without reacting (especially in a society that offers little or no support service for abused men that he can get, compared to what females enjoy).

Unfortunately human beings differ in terms of temperament, self control, endurance limits etc.

This is why some people choose to commit suicide or run away/abscond when they feel they cannot take it anymore.

But not everyone will accept to go that route. A man’s ego may make him decide against taking that route, even as he stays conscious of the need to avoid being guilty of committing abuse himself in the process.

This is often the reality that faces many abused men in society due to the widely held bias that men are always at fault in matters relating to Domestic Violence.

The truth is that it takes being in it to know how it feels.

Indeed many of us, male or female cannot be certain what we will or will not do should we find ourselves on the receiving end of DV on a prolonged basis!

Men, just like women have feelings and nobody is Superhuman.

We all have breaking points.

A man just can’t leave himself open to relentless abuse – especially the vicious verbal, psychological kind combined with physical attacks or provocation that tends to happen in DV situations.

No one can emerge unscathed from such battering.

The above is why the Mayo clinic article linked below really merits careful reading with deep reflection..

They apparently understand the real psychological atmosphere that prevails in these kinds of situations.

Human beings don’t have On/Off buttons like machines!

They have blood running through their veins, and no matter how gentle people are, when pushed to their limits (we all have limits!) they will – eventually – react!

This Mayo Clinic article offers useful insights both men and women can learn from…

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence-against-men/art-20045149

 

PII 067: Today, Millions Work Together Without Needing to Meet –And I AM ONE OF THEM [True Story: Audio to a Prospect Demanding to Meet Physically With Me]

In this issue of my Performance Improvement IDEAS (PII) newsletter, I share excerpts from an audio message I sent to a prospect Web Marketing client, who requested to meet with me, before we could take our discussions about my helping him develop a Web Marketing System further.

If you’re even remotely considering doing business of any kind with me and happen to share similar sentiments about meeting face to face, BEFORE you sign up, I strongly recommend you read THIS piece!

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Monday 22nd May 2017

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NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016.
I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.

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View Tayo Solagbade's video tutorials and demonstrations on Facebook Productivity Tips, Web Marketing, and for his Custom MS Excel-VB driven software applicationsJoin the SD Nuggets community on Facebook.comConnect with Tayo on Twitter.comConnect with Tayo on Google PlusConnect with Tayo on LinkedIn.com

PII 067: Today, Millions Work Together Without Needing to Meet –And I AM ONE OF THEM [True Story: Audio to a Prospect Demanding to Meet Physically With Me]

In this issue of my Performance Improvement IDEAS (PII) newsletter, I share excerpts from an audio message I sent to a prospect Web Marketing client, who requested to meet with me, before we could take our discussions about my helping him develop a Web Marketing System further.

If you’re even remotely considering doing business of any kind with me and happen to share similar sentiments about meeting face to face, BEFORE you sign up, I strongly recommend you read THIS piece!

[Quick Tip] One thing I’m very conscious of as a Nigerian offering products and services 100% online like I do, from this part of the world, is the Nigerian “419 scam” stereotyping annoyance.

But I don’t devote any significant amounts of intellectual glucose to WORRYING about it, and how anyone may use it to interpret my insistence on working remotely, and getting paid to meet face to face.

But I remain conscious of it. So, when I do my stuff – especially with people from other countries – like Tanzania, Uganda and beyond Africa, I go to great lengths to ensure my brand is not tainted in any way. And that, for me, is all that is needed. Anyone who cannot connect with me AFTER that is simply not a good fit for me. We’re therefore better off not working together!

Below is the text of an audio message I sent to a gentleman with whom I once attended the same university (and even played in the same university team) – BUT have not met with since 1992 when I left the University…

Preamble: He had called me up and told me of his entry into the world of entrepreneurship,  in the insurance sector. At some point in our discussions, he mentioned that he wanted to get a car to facilitate moving around to find clients. I told him I could offer support by way of developing a WMS to drastically reduce the need for that, and save him considerable expense of funds.

One thing led to another, and I sent him some materials – including my trademark explanatory video and a draft Action Plan template – that he studied. Then he called me up and said he was interested in engaging me to develop the WMS I proposed.

BUT, he wanted us to meet, so he could “explain to me some things about the insurance industry”. I tried to explain that if he wanted that, he would need to pay a fee I required to meet with anyone – but I got the feeling it did not go down well with him. For me, however, there was no alternative to that. So, after the call ended I sent the message below:

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“Hi (name removed for privacy)…I got the impression that you have this feeling that you need to have a physical face to face meeting with me to explain anything to me about your industry.

I assure you that THAT is totally unnecessary.

The gentleman whose video I sent to you. Please you can contact him. We were all together in UI for your information. He graduated along with me in the same department – Agricultural Extension Services – in 1992!

He has not set eyes on me till today.

So you need to understand this.

And that’s just an example. I have so many clients that do business with me in and out of the country.

You do not have to believe me. It doesn’t matter. This is a due diligence update – not an attempt to win you over or convince you to sign up with me.

I’m doings this to give you some perspective on why I work the way I do, so you gain more accurate understanding and insights.

You see, what I’m offering to do for you is something I’ve been doing for years.

I never knew you were going to come to me, and I never knew you would have a requirement for this.

I only just reached out to offer help or support.

If you want to explain anything to me about your industry, you can ask Adesope about all the stuff I’m doing for him.

I got to a point that he was so busy he couldn’t do any writing. I said “..Sit  down with your Smartphone and record an audio for me, and I’ll transcribe it!”

I have transcribed entire books that are published – in print – and on sole via web stores, to a global paying audience

A legal consultant client of mine, who is based in a neighboring West African country for instance did not have to write a single sentence, to get his book written and published.

I simply did my research on him, and the book to prepare the initial content. Then I tracked him down to his office one day, after waiting endlessly for him to create free time from his busy schedule to write me what I needed, and I got him to record the audio while I was there.

But only did that was because I was physically in the same city at the time.

 

Another client, this time based in the UK, is someone I have never met with till this day!

Yet I ghost-wrote an entire book for him, before he then signed up for a promo version of my Web Marketing Systems development support service – for ONE year.

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Below is a screenshot (click to view larger version) of the reply the client I sent the audio message to has since sent to me….

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If he never returns, he’ll be denying himself an opportunity to achieve a valued goal, because he holds on to outdated ideas about how to do business with others!

There is also the fear of getting duped – but I argue that the way I present and position myself ALONE makes it clear that I’m not the kind.

I have worked with all sorts of clients in and out of the country, without the issue of meeting face to face with them stopping us from successfully completing the projects they paid me for.

I have a client in Kano, whose website I revived on a defunct domain when they signed up for a promo version of my Web Marketing Systems Development Support Service in 2015.

Last week, the MD wrote the email shown below, expressing their interest in taking up my offer to build a Video Marketing/Company Introduction Trailer for them.

This morning I spoke with the Chairman (Abdul) of the company, about their interest in the offer, offering my support in any way they required it, to take up the offer.

We STILL have NEVER met face to face, yet Abdul and I talk on phone as if we’ve known each other forever. He’s been on my mailing list for over 5 years now.

Same applies to a Farm CEO in Jos, who works as a lecturer in UNIJOS.

He has continued to signup up for most of my offers, and we speak on phone like we’ve known each other for years.

An Accra based Rabbit Farm CEO who first connected with me one night while I was working in a Cotonou cybercafé is today one of my most fervent advocates,

He recently thanked me for the support I’ve provided to him in use of my Excel-VB Ration Formulator software that he purchased late last year via Guaranty Trust Money Transfer (GTMT).

Today, using a lot of the guidelines and information I gave him, he produces livestock feed – pelletted – for his rabbits, and also for other animals, which people come to buy from him.

I could go on, but the point I’m making, is clear by now, I’m sure!

I am able to work successfully with clients in the above described manner, because I am driven to make smart, time-effort-and-cost-saving use of PC and Internet Technology to get Optimal Returns in my personal and work life!

If you want to tell me anything special or unique about your field of expertise, or market of interest or focus, simply record an audio (or video if you want) in which you speak freely about whatever it is you have in mind, and send to me.

I will then download and listen to/watch it, then respond or take action based on its contents as may be necessary.

It’s that simple!

This is the 21st century: Millions of People Work Together Without EVER Meeting Face to Face!

This is how I choose to work.

Back when I was in Guinness I was in the forefront of using automation to boost workplace productivity. I developed several custom automated spreadsheet application to replace manual brewing data recording and report preparation (Click here to read details in my LinkedIn.com profile or in my PDF resume here)

Some were eventually formally adopted for official reporting in the company – specifically Benin Brewery where I worked. And departmental heads from other sections of the brewery sought me out to help them do what I’d done in the brewing department.

The result was that I became “slightly famous” in the company – as my work got my name to be known right up to senior management levels, Most noteworthy was the fact that I did ALL that work in my SPARE time, since I was not employed in Information Technology, but worked as young brewer in the Technical Function.

So, you see, this is not a new thing for me. I’m an advocate of performance optimization. That’s why I call myself a Performance Improvement Specialist.

I chose to become an entrepreneur because my drive to achieve my full potential exceeded the opportunities I felt I was getting in Guinness back then.

Today, I’m glad I took that decision because I’ve since been able to establish myself as a force to be reckoned with in provision of ready-to-use custom Spreadsheet Software serving an international audience.

It is in order to further remove any limitation to achieve my full potentials that I have embraced the use of PC and Internet technology in doing what I do.

And the success I enjoy today is one that I intend to consolidate. I have proof to back up all the claims I make about how I work and who I work for, as well as how I get paid.

The reality I describe in this article is one that my kids are well aware of, as they LIVE it with me.

The screenshots of email messages with recent paying clients offer details of what I do and how I do it (Click each image to view larger version)

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ABOVE: A message submitted from my website by a CEO who watched the Youtube video for my software that he found through Google. He has since bought my software. See Proof 2 to 6 on the PDF pages (Click here to request download copy of the 6 page PDF) |

I have 3 main products that I sell:

  1. The Ration Formulator – tinyurl.com/RealRationDemo – used to formulate feed for farm animals.
  2. The 60 Page Feed Formulation Handbook : http://www.lulu.com/fr/fr/shop/tayo-solagbade/practical-livestock-feed-formulation-handbook/ebook/product-20817463.html
  3. The Poultry Farm Manager – tinyurl.com/15pfmVideos – used to manage Poultry Farms.

In the past, I drove my car around to market these products. In 2012 I decided to use only my WMS to find buyers. Today I sell them without needing to go out at all using the Internet! I provide real life evidence on the next page.

I sell without meeting the client. My Web Marketing System makes that possible. Over 80 percent of my sales happen online, because Google and other search engines make buyers find me, even though I do not spend money to advertise. My WMS is the secret weapon I use e.g when they type “software for managing a poultry farm” my video appears in page 1 of Google.

I can develop a Web Marketing System for your company to help you sell the way I do. IMPORTANT NOTE: A WMS is NOT a website. In fact, most of my clients already had websites when they hired me. The problem was that they were not getting buyers through the Internet. A WMS makes a website bring in customers through the Internet!  En savoir plus sur mon système de marketing Web à l’adresse

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Above (Client No. 4): This client paid N85k into my account via bank transfer on 20th April 2017 (about 4 weeks ago). The payment was for my Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager and a Bonus of 5 Audio Podcast Training Files sold at N10k, instead of N15k.

Below that is the email in which I delivered my Poultry Farm Manager software to client No. 4 on 21st April – 1 day after he sent payment (I have to personalize the software for each client – and that takes 24 to 48 hours)

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Above (Client No. 5): This client paid N85k into my account via bank transfer on 28th April 2017 (about 3 weeks ago). The payment was for my Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager and a Bonus of 5 Audio Podcast Training Files sold at N10k, instead of N15k. Below that is the email in which I delivered my Poultry Farm Manager software to client No. 5 on 30th April – 2 days after he sent payment (I have to personalize the software for each client – and that takes 24 to 48 hours)

Anyone who wishes to have me work on ANY project with him/her MUST be prepared to engage me based on how I prefer to work.

Should you wish to meet face to face with me, there will ALWAYS be a payment requirement to be met by YOU.

If/when you meet that condition, I will gladly make myself available to meet with you.

If you are not willing to meet my conditions regarding YOUR request for a face to face meeting, I will interpret it to mean you do NOT wish to take the relationship with me further.

Then an online, web-based interaction will be the only way to go…otherwise we both agree to walk away.

That (i.e. agreeing to walk away) happens every now and then, and it’s NEVER a bad thing.

However, I would add that it happens only about 5 to 10% of the time. Most times, I have been successful in winning clients over to work with me via my preferred online channel.

If you want to come into my world, you have to be willing to believe – that I AM WHO I SAY I AM!

That’s the thing, I believe in the power of technology. And I live a life that is proof of it. Right here in Africa/Nigeria, I’m living a 100% digital lifestyle.

You don’t have to believe me, but that is the truth about my existence as I type these words. If you want to do business with me, you will have to accept the way I operate!

Therefore if you share similar sentiments with those who cannot decide until they’ve seen the other person in the flesh and/or touched him/her, to be sure s/he is real, then it means I will NOT be able to help you.

You don’t have to meet with me in the flesh to do business with me. You CAN, if you want. I’m NOT hiding away from anyone. But there is a payment requirement that must be met.

By way of interest, past prospects, some who went on to become clients did go through that process of paying to meet with me (They were ALL told the amount was 100% deductible, if they chose to purchase a solution from me afterwards)

I recall a CEO representing a group planning to start an elaborate agro based training school of sorts, flew in from Abuja about 2 years ago (2015) to meet with me for 1 hour in a Lagos branch of Kentucky Fried Chicken (KFC). He’d paid N10k into my account several days earlier, in line with my request.

This payment requirement to meet with me, is a psychological hurdle any doubting Thomases will have to jump over, if they wish for me to take them seriously. They will need to take a LEAP OF FAITH to convince me I would not be wasting my time by agreeing to meet face to face with them!

As I have noted above, people have and do pay to meet with me in this manner. Some even pay to speak with me on topics in which I share my in-depth expertise.

Anyone unwilling to meet my terms in that regard will simply NOT get access to me. That is how confident I am of what I offer.

So even though I can be flexible with regard to certain areas of my work, there are aspects I simply will NOT budge on, because they are critical to my ensuring I connect with the RIGHT people as clients.

Now, if you’ve read the above and STILL want to do business with me, click here to let me know!

Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator

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1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc

2. Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.

Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.

EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.

Click here to watch a screenshot demonstration of the Excel-VB Driven Poultry Farm Manager I built for a client farm business in Ekiti state, South West Nigeria.

Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.

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Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition

Mobile: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic)

http://www.tayosolagbade.com

Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement

Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter.

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
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