All posts by Tayo Solagbade

Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others. Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organisations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners). Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™, the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook, and developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator - as well as the increasingly popular Monthly Poultry Farm Manager app. On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, writes and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, in the French Speaking Benin Republic on the first lap of his slow travels across the West African region. His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details). When he's not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog - on which he also publishes previews of paid issues of The Farm CEO™ Newspaper (www.thefarmceo.net), in addition to his FREE Weekly Public Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter - which he uses to promote Burt Dubin's Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts across the African continent. Visit Tayo's Flagship Performance Improvement website to download over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity. Join Tayo's international community of fans on his Flagship MS Excel Heaven Facebook page (click here). You can also connect with him via Twitter (@tksola).

The Twin Brothers Raised By An Alcoholic Father [VERY IMPORTANT LESSON FOR CHILDREN & YOUNG PEOPLE]

This story has been popular for years – because it teaches a simple but VERY IMPORTANT LESSON FOR CHILDREN AND YOUNG PEOPLE.

[PARENTS – WATCH THIS VIDEO WITH YOUR KIDS & EXPLAIN THE LESSON TO THEM, TO BE SURE THEY TRULY UNDERSTAND & APPRECIATE IT]

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The Twin Brothers Raised By An Alcoholic Father [VERY IMPORTANT LESSON FOR CHILDREN & YOUNG PEOPLE]

[FREE PDF] ExcelVB Spreadsheet Automation: What Every Business User of Spreadsheets Needs to Boost Productivity

Quick Take-Away: This article will benefit ANY business user who wishes to understand how to get more productive work done by him/herself and/or others who work with/for him/her – using spreadsheets.

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[FREE PDF] ExcelVB Spreadsheet Automation: What Every Business User of Spreadsheets Needs to Boost Productivity

10 Qualities That Make Black Soldier Fly Farming a Cost-Saving/Profit Boosting Addition to Your Biz

Click the link below to download the Fact Sheet and/or Watch the Video…

10 Qualities That Make Black Soldier Fly Farming a Cost-Saving/Profit Boosting Addition to Your Biz

Meet Nigeria’s Crying Teacher Whose Story Proves Our School System Needs to Incorporate Money Making Vocational Skills Education! [Subtitle: How ZERO Salaries During Lockdown Forced Hundreds of Private School Teachers to Trade/Acquire Vocational Skills to Survive]

This edition of my BPPS™ is focused on the “Crying Teacher”. So, it’s a short edition. It’s more like a bulletin. But I’m doing it because I need to spread the message about the Crying Teacher who became popular during the COVID-19 lockdown.

True Story: Fun Outings (PART 1) To Reward My 2 Multi-Skilled Daughters – Temi and Oluoma – Who Combine DAILY Schooling With Vocational Skills Training

REWARDING MY GIRLS!

True Story: Fun Outings (in 2019 & 2020) To Reward My 2 Multi-Skilled Daughters – Temi and Oluoma – Who Combine DAILY Schooling With Vocational Skills Training  

Part 1: LAGOS-NIGERIA | Tuesday, 26th November 2019

I took my girls (13 & 10 years old at the time) out to lunch – picked them up from school with a change of clothes. The photos & videos you’re about to see describe how we spent our day.

Watch the video – CLICK HERE  NOW https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ADv8BW9DeU&feature=youtu.be

TIP: Visit their website at www.temiandoluoma.com [Sisters With Skills™] to learn more about their progress.

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PART 2 – COMING SOON!

Features highlights of our dinner outing at Westgate + our visit – via Lagos BRT – to Ikeja Computer Village & PANIC/DRAMA on the evening of 31/12/2020 when the girls run out of Crochet to finish Oluoma’s hairdo!!

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Be a Farm CEO & Chef: 7 Foods You Can Use Soyabeans to Cheaply Make at Home Or Your Farm Restaurant!

This re-invented version of my Farm CEO Newspaper is designed to challenge Farm CEOs and other stakeholders to look beyond their current focus on core production activities, towards exploring additional capacity boosting and income generating opportunities in industries and markets they serve.

WATCH IT HERE…

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VIDEO: 21 Year Old Reveals Secrets You Need to Achieve Success Making Braided Wigs [Ifeanyi (21) Trains Temi (14) & Oluoma (11)!]

Watch this video trailer – click www.discovercotonou.com/jcsi-ifeanyi – to learn more about the training session.

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[DVAM] TRUE STORY: “Bad” Women Often Play the “WOMAN CARD” to Paint “Good” Men “Bad” [REAL LIFE CASE STUDY – DO NOT EMPOWER ABUSERS: UNMASK THEM!] – Download Digital Version

“Gender equality does not mean women ruling over men; rather it guarantees a level-playing field devoid of all forms of discrimination” – Oyinkan Olasanoye, Chairperson of TUC Women’s Commission

“A man suffering abuse may experience deep trauma that damages his work related productivity, resulting in job loss, or if he’s self-employed, client loss. Being a digital nomad, the latter happened severally to me due to relentless abuse from my ex-partner & secondary abuse (due to bias) from some support agencies. Ironically, these people still demanded I meet ALL financial obligations without fail! Clear proof they need EDUCATION on how abuse impacts mental health! – Tayo K. Solagbade

Prevailing stereotypes about Domestic Violence are making it so easy for cunning female offenders to get their male victims vilified as the abusers!

The shocking true story shared on Facebook (see screenshots below) is an example of how far an abusive woman can go to hurt a male partner.

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[SOURCE: Shared by me at 3.40a.m Tuesday 15th December 2020 to my wall (from Abigail Olutusin’s wall). You can view the shared post on Facebook via www.tayosolagbade.com/woman-card ]

These manipulative women know how the system works, and they are “gaming” it to have their way at the expense of their intimate male partners.

Thankfully, we have females with integrity speaking out about this harmful trend.

And these fair minded females are demanding more recognition for DV Against Men. Most are mothers to sons and siblings to brothers who they’ve seen suffer serious abuse at the hands of female partners.

Many are joining the movement to inform and educate, as are the men in their lives. Two examples:

1. Toyin Omoniyi, a female Nigerian Lawyer in her excellent piece titled Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal) – read it via www.tayosolagbade.com/toyin-dvam

2. Jane Felix Ogbonna, a relationship coach and passionate advocate for fair treatment of Men – watch her video at www.tayosolagbade.com/jfo.

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Verbatim Text Transcript of a Video Message by Jane Felix Ogbonna – a Relationship Coach

“…listen again, the topic today that men should take care of themselves from now on. As you’re training your children, as you e building houses, as you’re paying house rent. As you’re taking care of your…everything, your affairs – take care of your old age. Ask me why. Why are men dying before 60 years after retirement, after active service?

…This suffering that you’re suffering in your marriage now had been there for years – but you did not see it. The love of mother closed your eyes. You did not know that your mother is among these modern women. When that woman will brainwash your children and begin to tell them…and you know that every child – even you listening to me, even if you’re Baba, your mother is still alive, you still believe your mother. You don’t know the mothers tell lies. When they will sweet talk you.

Everything your Daddy do. They know how to manipulate their children. They know how to manipulate children. Even if the children is Obama, even if the child is Baba, this Buhari now, if the mother is still alive, s(he) know how to manipulate their children. And they capitalize on the love of children because the children, every children love their mother. They capitalize on that and finish the men.

God bring me into this world, to tell the men the truth and to open the eyes of the men, so that…God has told me that men, so many men die in pain. They die secretly in pain in their own home – people do not know. I’m telling you my message is to talk about men. The marginalization of men.

I beg you as you’re listening to me. Take care of yourself. So that you will not have high blood pressure. So that you will not have stroke. So that you can live long.” – Jane Felix Ogbonna | Watch the full video at www.tayosolagbade.com/jfo

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We need to protect women from abuse and empower them to actualize their full potentials. However, we must not do this blindly.

The needs and rights of men must also be protected. Reports indicate that some women do ABUSE their male partners and know how to game the system to cover their tracks.

“A man suffering abuse may experience deep trauma that damages his work related productivity, resulting in job loss, or if he’s self-employed, client loss. Being a digital nomad, the latter happened severally to me due to relentless abuse from my ex-partner & secondary abuse (due to bias) from some support agencies. Ironically, these people still demanded I meet ALL financial obligations without fail! Clear proof they need EDUCATION on how abuse impacts mental health! – Tayo K. Solagbade

There are “good” women/men and “bad” men/women. Some men lie. And some women do too.

If you have to mediate between disputing couples, regardless of the gender you advocate on behalf of (if at all), do the RIGHT thing.

Be objective. Take no sides – except the side of truth and justice. Refuse to let stereotypes limit your thinking. Give EACH party a FAIR and IMPARTIAL hearing then take decision without bias.

Otherwise you WILL damage the integrity of the service you offer i.e. true male victims of abuse MAY REFUSE to come to you or refer others to you – because they MAY conclude that you do NOT have their best interests at heart.

To those who BLINDLY support abusive women they see playing the WOMAN CARD, REMEMBER that you may have a male loved one (son, brother, uncle, father, cousin, friend, business partner etc).

What if one of them finds himself faced with false accusations from a “bad” woman? Would YOU be happy to hear others BLINDLY support his accuser when you KNOW he did NOTHING wrong?

Would you have the moral courage to defend him? This can happen to ANYBODY.

Think about it, and don’t let the desire to be politically correct make you shoot yourself in the foot.

“Do you ignore efforts/invitations to challenge Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)? Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Abuse! Take a stand today. No man or woman – deserves abuse.” – Tayo K. Solagbade

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STOP DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN: JOIN THE MOVEMENT & SPREAD THE WORD!

A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.

In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the efforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defence” when their actions come under scrutiny.

What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better. We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who beloing to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.

That’s why I launched the page described below in 2017, based on my personal experiences…

Page Name:

Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It

Page Description:

This page is dedicated to empowering men who find themselves, by some accident of fate on the receiving end of abuse from an intimate female partner.

Page URL:

https://facebook.com/stopdvambytks

Tayo K. Solagbade

*Digital Nomad/Location Independent Multipreneur

**Publisher of the Stop Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM) Advocacy Page & PDF Newsletter

Phone: +234-803-302-1263
E-mail: tayo@tksola.com
Web: www.tayosolagbade.com, www.tksola.com & www.discovercotonou.com

 

TRUE STORY: How I Went from Struggling to Feed & Sleeping on Streets in Benin Republic to (a) winning a Nigerian diplomat as client who gave me a room, and a driver to take me to his Farm in Nigeria and (b) getting paid 2,500 Euros by a European Union Funded NGO based in Holland [HINT: The Power of Blind Faith & Refusal to Recognize Failure]

From sleeping on the streets of Cotonou and Porto-Novo in Benin Republic for about 2 of my first 4 weeks in Cotonou (after relocating on 1st April 2013), I went on several months later to:

A. Win a diplomat in the Nigerian Embassy as a client who:

1.  Engaged me to build a website for his farm business based in Iludun, Ekiti state, in Southwest Nigeria.

2. Provided me accomodation in his official residence – for 3 solid weeks.

3. Arranged for his driver to take me down to his Farm in Southwest Nigeria (3 different times) – click photo below to view actual Facebook post from September 2013 – to install my Excel-VB poultry Farm Manager software on his farm, and coach his Farm Manager (and young relative of his – a graduate of agriculture in her early 30s) on how to use it.

B. Get contacted by a European Union Funded NGO: who went on to pay me 2,500 Euros for writing (at their request) a Case Study paper about my Excel-VB Ration Formulator and how it was being purchased and used by Farm CEOs in and out of Africa.

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Using funds I’d earned from him and other payments I had begun receiving for my digital products and services (even locally), I moved out of the diplomat’s residence after 3 weeks and rented a face-me-I-face-you single room apartment in Cotonou.

Then I continued my relentlessly focused online marketing to generate more search engine based sales leads…

By January 2014, I’d gotten paid 2,500 Euros by CTA.int for the international Case Study paper they commissioned me to write about how my Excel-VB Ration Formulator was being purchased and used by Farm CEOs in and out of Africa.

They contacted me in September 2013 [Read: No. 119: How to Achieve Success in Any Field (True Story)]

By mid-2014, I was able to spend about N287k (money from payments recived from buyers of my Excel-VB Ration Formulator Software, Feed Formulation Handbook and Poultry Farm Manager Software) to rent a lovely 2 bedroom “sanitaire” apartment in “Aibaten” (Click here or image below to view article showing photos of it) – and moved in with a few furniture items.

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My plan to return to Nigeria and move my family to join me there (which I actually announced on my blog and Facebook!) however failed when my spouse did an about face, having previously agreed that I should go pay for the place.

After waiting in Nigeria for over 2 months pleading for her to change her mind, I was forced to return to Cotonou to inform my Landlady I no longer needed such a big space to live in.

I lost over 60% of the money (to cover the rental period I’d been the occupant, and also utilities bills), but true to her real estate agent’s word, the balance I had left was refunded to me in full. 

This totally unexpected development really set me back considerably, as I had to return to spending on hotel accommodation. But I survived and my growing earnings helped me keep going.

Today, the online marketing based income earning generation system I was able to establish using 24/7 access to electricity in Benin continues to serve me well, enabling me to live my dream working as a Location Independent Multipreneur/Digital Nomad.

Now that I have almost sorted out  – via permanent separation – the negative impact of periodic domestic abuse on the home front, after my return to Lagos, which kept causing me problems delivering some client projects, I am achieving sustainable progress in my work.

My earnings are proof of it. (FYI: You can watch my 1st November 2020 IG LIVE Interview with Coordinator, Lagos State Domestic & Sexual Violence Response Team – DSVRT – Coordinator here – and/or get the video to text PDF transcript here).

Soon, I will resume traveling again and commence video interviews to promote my brand even further via my YouTube channel.

QUESTION: But how did I go from struggling to feed, and sleeping on the streets in Benin Republic, to (a) winning a Nigerian diplomat as client who gave me a room, and a driver to take me to his Farm in Nigeria (b) getting paid 2,500 Euros by a European Union Funded NGO based in Holland to write a 4,000 word Case Study Paper about my Excel-VB Ration Formulator software  ???

The full story of the actions I took, and especially the mental attitude I maintained – which continues to help me defeat adversity in various shapes and forms today – will be told in an Audio Podcast True Story Narration I will be posting in my YouTube channel soon.

To get notified when it goes LIVE, send your email address and WhatsApp number to me via +234-803-302-1263 with the phrase “Send me the ‘Streets-to-Success’ Podcast”. Alternatively, fill/submit this web marketing form.

[VIDEO] Why I Do Not Want My Kids to Have the Same Education I Got [Meet 19 Year Old Lagos Based CEO With 3 Employees] – Junior CEO Spotlight Interview

This Lagos based Phone Repair and Accessories Sales business is owned by a 19 year old – Secondary School leaver – called Kelvin. Click here to continue…

Why I Do Not Want [VIDEO] My Kids to Have the Same Education I Got [Meet 19 year old CEO With 3 Employees] - Junior CEO Spotlight Interview