Hmmm…something made me Google for more on this title/theme and suddenly I discovered what would appear to be the ORIGINAL source of the excellent thoughts I shared to my Facebook wall on Christmas Day (screenshot below):
Monthly Archives: December 2018
PII 147: Narcissists Can Harm Those They Live With – Especially Children [What You Need to Know]
I’ve recently begun writing about Narcissism and how a Narcissistic person can cause great damage to others – especially his/her intimate partner and more importantly, ANY kids they have to parent.
Read PII 142: Ideas for Unmasking and Dealing With Narcissists Anywhere, Anytime [Featuring “Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions” – from HigherPerspectivesDotCom]
In fact the damage a Narcissistic parent can do to a kid, which I have seen firsthand, can be quite serious – which is why I’ve chosen to draw attention to it.
Sadly, Most of Those Responsible for Social Work Are Clueless About Narcissism – Yet The Words /Actions of Narcissistic Persons Often Influences Their Decision Making In Working With Such Person’s Families!
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Tayo Solagbade’s
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Monday 17th December 2018
NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016. I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.
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PII 147: Narcissists Can Harm Those They Live With – Especially Children [What You Need to Know]
I’ve recently begun writing about Narcissism and how a Narcissistic person can cause great damage to others – especially his/her intimate partner and more importantly, ANY kids they have to parent.
In fact the damage a Narcissistic parent can do to a kid, which I have seen firsthand, can be quite serious – which is why I’ve chosen to draw attention to it.
Sadly, Most of Those Responsible for Social Work Are Clueless About Narcissism – Yet The Words /Actions of Narcissistic Persons Often Influences Their Decision Making In Working With Such Person’s Families!
My resolve to do this stems from a scary discovery I have made, that MANY supposed experts/professionals/social workers I have come across out here seem to be completely unaware of what that serious personality disorder is, how to identify it in a person, and the damage such a person can do to those s/he relates within the home.
Their gross ignorance causes them to miss valuable opportunities to STOP the (often emotional/psychological) abuse being visited by a Narcissist particularly on the kids they parent – and also on the partners they co-parent them with (who they sometimes subject to Parental Alienation).
[NB: I argue, in a separate article to be published soon, that if a person is correctly assessed to be Narcissistic, if s/he decides to have kids, the case could be made for his/her parenting of such kids to be closely monitored to prevent possible harm to them.]
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Title: The Real Effect of Narcissistic Parenting on Children [Narcissists raise children who suffer from crippling self-doubt.]
Why does it matter if a parent is a narcissist? How does that hurt a child? You may be asking these questions if you are a person co-parenting with a narcissistic ex; someone raised by a narcissistic parent; one who is in a relationship with a narcissist; or maybe a divorce professional working on a case that involves a narcissistic parent. Given my research and clinical experience, I want to provide some education and awareness about how this disorder hurts children.
Author: Karyl McBride Ph.D. | The Legacy of Distorted Love
I say the above from VERY personal experience with Narcissists in my relationship with a co-parenting Narcissistic partner and also as an offspring to a Narcissistic parent.
Neither of those experiences is one that I wish on my worst enemy (if I had anyone I thought of in that manner).
The Most Dangerous Tendency Narcissists Have Is Their Pathological Lying & Penchant for Re-Writing Your Real Life History to Suit Themselves
In other words, they tell cold blooded, brazen lies to your face, about what they did to you, as well as what happened between you and them, in ways that benefit them at your expense (making you look bad).
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The article previewed/linked below highlights a dilemma that a person in dispute with a Narcissistic partner is likely to face.
=========Title: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN SOMEONE LIES UNDER OATH
Preview: The opposing party started making wild accusations. She said I had been abusive. She said I was unsafe with our children. She said I took money. My ex-wife was literally re-writing our history and lying under oath.
How can I disprove something that never happened? Do judges really believe wild accusations with no proof? The worst part is that my soon to be ex-wife would take an event that actually happened and turn it into something it wasn’t. If we went to a family get together and the adults were drinking, now she was saying everyone was fall down drunk.
She is telling the kids I’m an alcoholic, and since they have seen me drink, they believe her. This is the worst sort of deception. What can I do?
URL: https://mymodernlaw.com/what-happens-when-someone-lies-under-oath/
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Not everyone can deal effectively with this kind of behaviour. Especially since Narcissists do what they do without remorse.
They simply have no capacity to feel for others. That’s why they speak and act without consideration for their impact on those they relate with.
Like I have said in the past, they have close to zero Emotional Intelligence. This makes them toxic – persons one would be better off not staying in prolonged contact with.
Imagine the challenge therefore, that persons who have to live with them – especially kids that have to be parented by them! – will face every single day.
And this is why I feel this is driven to share as much information and education about Narcissists, to enable others use self-education to empower themselves towards handling such persons they have to deal with in their lives,
This is more so as it relates to protecting kids from serious emotional damage that could stunt their development into healthy functioning adults.
The Narcissist and His Lies: How They’re Different [The psychology of deception and the narcissist’s skillful mirages]
I knew that he and I had a different relationship to the truth but I didn’t really understand it. We joked about it—how I was a moralist and he was more of a relativist—but I didn’t get what motivated him. Because he had been a lawyer for over thirty years, I chalked it up to the hidden costs of his profession—that peculiar zone that resides between truth and what might be true.
The articles previewed/linked in the body of this write-up are the latest in the series of recommended pieces I will feature on this theme.
At the risk of stating the obvious, Domestic Violence can be physical, verbal, as well as emotional/psychological.
The non-physical dimensions are the kind that readily occurs when a Narcissist is involved. Indeed, it is practically impossible for a Narcissist NOT to be abusive. In other words, they subject those around them to DV frequently through verbal, emotional/psychological means.
This is why those who have to relate with them need all the help they can get, to handle them effectively.
Watch out for more recommended articles to follow on this theme.
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Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator
1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc
2.Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE
Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
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PII 146: Get Password Access to the Excel-VB Code in (& a Reseller Licence to Keep 100% You Make Selling) my Excel-VB Income & Expense Manager Software
On Wednesday 12th December 2018, I will be using THIS app for the Basic Introduction to Excel-VB Programming training during the workshop for members on Wednesday 12th December 2018.
Attendees will be able to see the back end code that drives the various interfaces in the app. They will be asked to write and run bits of code taken from the app, in blank workbooks they will open on their laptops.
The purpose is to use this real life app to give learners Experiential Coaching that they can draw on to use AFTER the event, in their own work.
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Tayo Solagbade’s
Performance Improvement IDEAS
(PI Squared) Newsletter
Monday 12th December 2018
NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016. I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.
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PII 146: Get Password Access to the Excel-VB Code in (& a Reseller Licence to Keep 100% You Make Selling) my Excel-VB Income & Expense ManagerTM Software
On Wednesday 12th December 2018, I will be using THIS app for the Basic Introduction to Excel-VB Programming training during the workshop for members on Wednesday 12th December 2018.
Attendees will be able to see the back end code that drives the various interfaces in the app. They will be asked to write and run bits of code taken from the app, in blank workbooks they will open on their laptops.
Below a JPEG version of reports generated from my 2008 data
The purpose is to use this real life app to give learners Experiential Coaching that they can draw on to use AFTER the event, in their own work.
For those interested, an opportunity to OWN this application, with CODE REMOVED so they can study it, is provided.
See details below.
Pay N2.5k (I sell it for N5k) – and get a specially branded version of this app with your name/details included as Authorized Reseller (and password access to the code).
WHY THIS OFFER?
Click here (or the image below) to download the PDF document containing the rest of this offer.
To get details about how to attend, text YES + your name, occupation and email address to 0803 306 1263
“Everybody knows some Excel, but stop seeing Excel as an office program that everybody MASTERS and that is used to organize numbers in columns and make a few calculations. Excel is the best reporting application on the market and it is fully programmable with its own PROGRAMMING LANGUAGE within called VBA” – Pierre LeClerc , Microsoft MVP/Veteran ExcelVB Solutions Developer
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Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator
1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc
2.Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE
Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
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Prospective Attendee Asks: (Is it) really possible to write and run programs in MS Excel environment?
Below is a screenshot of website contact form submission by a prospective attendee (and club member) of my forthcoming 4 Hour Training titled How to Use MS Excel Visual Basic to Build Custom Commercial Software You can Sell [BASIC INTRODUCTION]
In this post I share the response I just sent to the question he ended his submission with, which read as follows:
“(Is it) really possible to write and run programs in Ms Excel environment?
My response was to send him links to 2 of my most popular pre-built commercial Excel-VB software, which I have sold to buyers in and out of Africa for YEARS.
For now, a response to your question about running programs in MS Excel. I suggest you visit the 2 links to sales pages (for 2 of my most popular products) supplied in the event Speaker Sheet I sent out (see below):
1. The Excel-VB Ration Formulator:
2. The Excel-VB Poultry Farm Manager:
Let me know if you have questions or require further clarification
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LEARN MORE: What is Excel-VB?
Preview: Microsoft Excel is a powerful tool for recording, re-organising, analysing and presenting information. By Excel VB, I refer to Excel VBA – where VBA means Visual Basic for Applications(VBA). VBA refers to the highly extensive and flexible macro programming language developed by Microsoft for use in their MS office applications – Word, Power Point, etc.
VBA is therefore different from the Standalone Visual Basic program used(by conventional programmers) for developing “standalone” or “executable” (.exe) software applications – though it borrows many of the latter’s features.
Continue reading at http://excelheaven.tayosolagbade.com/?page_id=72
PII 145: FREE 4 HOUR TRAINING – How to Use MS Excel Visual Basic to Build Custom Commercial Software You can Sell [BASIC INTRODUCTION]
To get details about how to attend, text YES + your name, occupation and email address to 0803 306 1263
“Everybody knows some Excel, but stop seeing Excel as an office program that everybody MASTERS and that is used to organize numbers in columns and make a few calculations. Excel is the best reporting application on the market and it is fully programmable with its own PROGRAMMING LANGUAGE within called VBA” – Pierre LeClerc , Microsoft MVP/Veteran ExcelVB Solutions Developer
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PII 145: FREE 4 HOUR TRAINING – How to Use MS Excel Visual Basic to Build Custom Commercial Software You can Sell [BASIC INTRODUCTION]
This 4 hour training [FREE for members of my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club] will be used to get you started writing smart code you can take away and IMMEDIATELY apply to useful ends in your personal or work life.
“I found that Mr. Tayo Solagbade is brilliant in the areas of Web Design and Excel VBA.” – Ibrahim Salau, MD, Environmental Accord
Date: Wednesday 12th December 2018
Time: 11a.m to 3p.m
Venue: Sherryville Arcade
BONUS: 1 Hour Talk – How to Sell Anything to Anyone, ANYWHERE holds from 3p.m to 4p.m
Attendees get Tutorial
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Tayo Solagbade’s
Performance Improvement IDEAS
(PI Squared) Newsletter
Monday 3rd December 2018
NB: This PI Squared newsletter will be published weekly, on Mondays, in place of the Speaking/Web Marketing IDEAS newsletter, starting from today – 15th February 2016. I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.
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PII 145: FREE 4 HOUR TRAINING – How to Use MS Excel Visual Basic to Build Custom Commercial Software You can Sell [BASIC INTRODUCTION]
This 4 hour training [FREE for members of my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club] will be used to get you started writing smart code you can take away and IMMEDIATELY apply to useful ends in your personal or work life.
“I found that Mr. Tayo Solagbade is brilliant in the areas of Web Design and Excel VBA.” – Ibrahim Salau, MD, Environmental Accord
Date: Wednesday 12th December 2018
Time: 11a.m to 3p.m
Venue: Sherryville Arcade
BONUS: 1 Hour Talk – How to Sell Anything to Anyone, ANYWHERE holds from 3p.m to 4p.m
Attendees get Tutorial DVD [N5k]
To get details about how to attend, text YES + your name, occupation and email address to 0803 306 1263
“It has been a tremendous improvement in our weekly and monthly report…my medical director expressed his happiness when he saw the report…Mr. Tayo I am impressed with your talent…You’re thorough in your job, sincere and friendly with your client. Keep it up.” – Rev. M. Inyang, Manager Accounts, Med-In Specialist Hospital and Pharmaceutical Company
Businesses – Micro (One-Man), Small, Medium or Large – sometimes have peculiar data handling/analysis and report generation needs that can often not be satisfactorily met by existing, commercial type off-the-shelf applications.
Then sometimes when they do, it costs too much. MS Excel Visual Basic offers virtually any user willing to develop needed proficiency, the ability to exploit Excel’s powerful calculation engine in combination with smart Visual Basic coding, to deliver such custom solutions at MUCH lower costs.
I have personally created a niched market in/out of Africa for myself by building custom applications to meet the needs of niche markets I identify e.g my popular Payslip Generator, Ration Formulator, and Poultry Farm Manager.
A medium-sized medical establishment paid me $1,000 USD equivalent in Naira, to build a custom app for its management reporting. That’s apart from income I earn selling my pre-built apps to clients across over 20 states in Nigeria, and other countries (Canada, UK, UAE, Tanzania, Uganda, Ghana, Guinea etc)
“Preparation of staff salary has now been reduced from days to just two days. (The Payslip Generator) has helped me a lot…I really commend the CB Solutions* for (an) excellent job. It has solved my organisation’s accounting problem. More grease to your elbow.” – Adeniyi S. Elegbede, Accountant Motayo Hospital
In teaching what I know, I draw DEEP on my expertise and experience as one who has built high performing Excel-VB software (some adopted for official use in a corporate multinational + others purchased by clients in and out of Africa) to show learners:
(A) How to develop niched, customized spreadsheet applications that solve everyday problems
(B) How to ATTRACT PROFITABLE BUYERS for what they sell (an often neglected yet crucial strategy for product/service marketing)
To get details about how to attend, text YES + your name, occupation and email address to 0803 306 1263
“Everybody knows some Excel, but stop seeing Excel as an office program that everybody MASTERS and that is used to organize numbers in columns and make a few calculations. Excel is the best reporting application on the market and it is fully programmable with its own PROGRAMMING LANGUAGE within called VBA” – Pierre LeClerc , Microsoft MVP/Veteran ExcelVB Solutions Developer
Get 1 Year Web Marketing Saupport: Become a member of my Web Marketing for CEOs club
Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator
1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc
2.Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE
Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.
Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.
SDN Blog™
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PII 144: Outline of Multiple Benefits for Attendees of my Paid Speaking Events on Entrepreneurship
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EXPERT WHO SPEAKS: Know Your Worth. Resolve to Get It
As an authentic entrepreneur, I have paid my dues for well over a decade LEARNING the theory and practice of the various solutions I provider.
The client base I boast, comprises over 80% experts in their own right, who have maintained relationships with me for YEARS after making their first ever purchase from me.
It therefore goes without saying that I have proven myself capable of delivering what I promise, to clients’ satisfaction. That effectively makes me an AUTHORITY at what I do -and I refuse to be shy in stating that fact, or asserting myself based on it.
If I want to share what I know for FREE, I RESERVE the exclusive right to decide WHERE to do so, WHY I do so.
For instance, to make it easy for any persons trying to make up their minds, I recently published a blog in which I mentioned a FREE talk I offer on entrepreneurship. The others are PAID.
If I want to teach others how to get paid for what they know, it makes sense that I should DEMONSTRATE that I do it myself.
Below is an excellent tweet on this theme, that resonates with me -for obvious reasons.
The author rightly notes that he has unique insights to share and the requesting organisation is charging attendees BIG money but offers to pay HIM, the speaker they are inviting, NOTHING.
Like I always say, YOU NEED TO KNOW WHEN TO SAY NO!
If you are an expert, take a cue from what I’ve said here.
Know your worth. Resolve to get it.
In the long run, you WILL be glad you did.
