[DVAM] Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help – MayoClinic.org

Prevailing stereotypes about Domestic Violence are making it so easy for cunning female offenders to get their male victims vilified as the abusers!

These manipulative women know how the system works, and they are “gaming” it to have their way at the expense of their intimate male partners.

Thankfully, we have females with integrity speaking out about this harmful trend (e.g Toyin Omoniyi, a female Nigerian Lawyer in her excellent piece titled Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal))

And these fair minded females are demanding more recognition for DV Against Men.

Most are mothers to sons and siblings to brothers who they’ve seen suffer serious abuse at the hands of female partners.

Many are joining the movement to inform and educate, as are the men in their lives.

The information in the truly excellent (!) article published by the famous Mayo clinic (MayoClinic.org) – which is previewed/linked below – can help you get started learning what you need to know, to identify and stop DVAM

So I say this to you now…

If you’re male, lookout for the signs for YOUR own sake…

If you’re parent to someone who is male, and you really care for him lookout for the signs for HIS sake…,

If you’re uncle/aunt/brother/sister or relative to someone who is male, lookout for these signs for HIS sake…,…

Domestic violence against men: Know the signs – Mayo Clinic

Domestic violence against men isn’t always easy to identify, but it can be a serious threat. Know how to recognize if you’re being abused — and how to get help.

By Mayo Clinic Staff

Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help.

Recognize domestic violence against men

Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. It can happen in heterosexual or same-sex relationships.

Continue reading…

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence-against-men/art-20045149

 

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A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.

In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the eFforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defence” when their actions come under scrutiny.

What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better.

We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who beloing to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.

That’s why I’ve launched the page described below…

Page Name:

Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It

Page Description:

This page is dedicated to empowering men who find themselves, by some accident of fate on the receiving end of abuse from an intimate female partner.

Page URL:

https://facebook.com/stopdvambytks/

The FARM CEO (Issue 79): Attend Lagos State Ministry of Agriculture’s Annual 4 Day Executive Weekend Training Programme On Investment Opportunities in Fish Farming [5th, 12th, 19th and 20th August 2017]

In this week’s issue of the Farm CEO newspaper, I feature specially, a flyer announcing the forthcoming August run of Lagos State Ministry of Agriculture’s Annual 4 Day Executive Weekend Training Programme On Investment Opportunities in Fish Farming

 

Lagos State Government, Ministry of Agriculture Invites you to the:

4 Day Executive Weekend Training Programme On Investment Opportunities in Fish Farming

Training Objectives

– To Equip The Participants With Relevant Knowledge of Best Practices In Agriculture

– To Broaded The Respective Participants Practical Experience In Fish Feed Production

– To Expose Participants To The Rudiments of Fish Fingerlings Production

– To Acquaint Participants With Modern Techniques In Fish Farming

Training Programme 1 (ONE) = Concluded!

Already held on 1st, 8th, 15th and 16th April 2017

Training Programme 2 (TWO) – Date” 5th, 12th, 19th and 20th August 2017

Venue [Days 1 & 2]: Cooperative College, Training Room, Johnson Agiri Agricultural Complex, Oko-Oba, Agege, Lagos State

With Special Focus On:

– Overview of Fisheries Development in Lagos State

– Fish Culture Systems and Management

– Water Quality Management & Disease Control

– Prospect of Cage and Pen Culture System in Lagos State

– Hatchery Management and Fingerlings Production/Introduction to Shrimp Culture in Lagos State

– Fish Feed Formulation and Nutrition

– Fish Farming Insurance

– Fish Preservation, Processing, Packaging, Marketing and Export Potentials

Venue [Days 3 & 4]: Ikorodu Fish Farm Estate Beside Lagos State Polytechnic, Ikorodu-Sagamu Road, Odogunyan, Lagos.

Time: 10.00a.m

Day 3: Saturda7, 19th August 2017

– Fish Hatchery Management and Fingerlings production(Practical)

– Fish Feeds (Practical)

Day 4: Sunday 20th August 2017

– Fish Processing (Practical)

– Internactive Session and Closing Ceremony

Targeted Audience

  1. Aspiring Fish Farmers
  2. Retiring Executuves Both in Private and Public Sectors Who May Wish to Investin Fish Farming
  3. Local Government Chairmen and Supervisory Councillors of Afric
  4. Agro Allied Companies Who May Want to Diversify Into Fish Farming

Fee: N45,000.00

For Further Enquiry and Reservations, Contact:

  1. The Permanent Secretary

Ministry of Agriculture,

Block 23, Room 105

The Secretariat, Alausa, Ikeja, Lagos

  1. Director of Fisheries

Ministry of Agriculture

Block 23, Room 012,

The Secretariat, Alausa, Ikeja, Lagos

Tel: 0802-305-0072

A.N Busari: 0802-315-1440 OR O.F. Hamzat; 0802-811-0939

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SPREADSHEET AUTOMATION WORKSHOP INVITATION: Anatomy of N200k Excel-VB Cash Book Spreadsheet Software [Secrets to Build Yours Successfully]

To formally close the maiden year (May 2016 to May 2017) in the life of my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation club, I’ve decided to conduct a LIVE hands-on workshop titled “SPREADSHEET AUTOMATION WORKSHOP INVITATION: Anatomy of N200k Excel-VB Cash Book Spreadsheet Software [Secrets to Build Yours Successfully]“.

Duration: 11a.m to 5p.m

Location: Sherryville Arcade, Ojodu-Berger Bus Stop, Opposite First Bank Plc, Ikeja – Lagos

Date: Sat 29th May 2017

The commercial quality Excel-VB software application to be reviewed is one that I built for a large Specialist Hospital based in Ogudu, Lagos in 2007, for approximately $1000 USD equivalent at the time (Back then $1 USD = N200)

Name: Excel-VB Driven General Accounts Manager [GAM]

Watch the YouTube demonstration video on my YouTube channel at:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUl4_RAja-g

gam-youtube

Below are its key features and details of the app:

Description: This is a highly sophisticated Automated Cash Book with a Powerful Modeless Dynamic Data Entry Form & Menu Driven Reports Summaries Generator.

  1. Allows user to post cash office receipt using in-house format register (cash, cheque. value card etc) and payment (expense) amounts using custom automated floating modeless data entry forms.
  2. Automatically generates – using drop menus – Weekly, Monthly/Annual Income & Expense Reports on one A4 page.
  3. The reports are integrated with charts/graphs of EACH heading value

During the workshop, I will show attendees the various interfaces in the app, and demonstrate how they were built from scratch, using a blank workbook template.

In other words, by the time we are done, a simplistic version of the app would have been built – though not with all the bells and whistles I added to the real app, for obvious reasons that they would take more time to incorporate.

Attendees will be able to ask questions and try their hands at doing what I show them.

My learning events are always EXPERIENTIAL i.e. designed to give learners what they need to know, in a way that builds on what they already know, and what they already do in their work/on their jobs.

This event is designed to be a way of saying THANK YOU to members of my Excel Heaven club over the past maiden year (May 2016 to May 2017)

From 1st May 2017, ALL members will be required to renew their membership for another year, to continue receiving the weekly email tutorials I send out.

All those who attend the event will get FREE copies of a home study video tutorial version of the workshop that I will create AHEAD of the event.

The reason is to ensure that they are able to study and understand anything we are unable to cover in the event using the DVD version.

Question: So, what’s the FEE for attending this Workshop Event “Anatomy of an Excel-VB Driven Commercial Automated Cash Book Spreadsheet Software [Including Tips of How to Build It from Scratch]”?

Answer: Simply pay the ONE year membership fee of $65 USD @ N200 per dollar i.e. N13, 000.0

The above payment requirement is however for non-members.

Payment gets you the DVD FREE, PLUS ONE full year of club membership (May 2017 to May 2018).

IMPORTANT NOTE TO CURRENT EXCEL HEAVEN VISUAL BASIC AUTOMATION CLUB MEMBERS:

All current club members should recall that their membership entitles them to a 50% discount, for life, to buy my products/services.

That therefore means they only have to pay N6,500.0 to attend this event, and also get the double benefit of the FREE Tutorial DVD and renewed membership from May 2017 to May 2018.

Click here contact me if you have need further details or require clarification.

Visit my Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Solutions Development website to learn more about what I offer (while there you can watch videos of other app demos and tutorials).

RELATED ARTICLE

PII 006: Succeed by Becoming an Expert at Solving Real World Problems [Hint: Highlights from Maiden Edition of Tayo Solagbade’s FREE Monthly Workshop for his MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club Members Held on Sat 19th March 2016 in Lagos-Nigeria]

This True Story About Abraham Lincoln and the Message in a Nigerian Author’s Article Teach Anyone to Succeed Despite a Humble Beginning

Article Title = There Is Nothing Wrong With A Humble Beginning- Achieve YOUR Success With Honour & Integrity by Tayo K. Solagbade

Read the full article at http://tinyurl.com/humblestartup

Ten years ago, in March 2007, I published the above linked article online, via SpontaneousDevelopment Dot Com (my old website, now defunct), and I also republished for syndication via EzineArticles.com.

Last year, I came across the true story reproduced below, about US President Abraham Lincoln, which perfectly captures the sentiments I expressed in my article, and even ends with an admonition consistent with the message in my own article’s title.

I invite YOU to read and learn from both!a-true-story-and-article-ab

 

DISCLAIMER: I Do Not Sell Fish etc!!! [Suspected Impersonator/Attempts to Discredit Me]

This is the 2nd or 3rd time I’m getting this kind of bothersome feedback.

It would appear some person(s) have been impersonating me in relating with Farm CEOs and other stakeholders.

A member of my Farm Business Ideas club – Tunde Okunuga – called me up at 08.56 this morning to say he’d referred his brother based in Ede to me a while back, and that the latter said he had been corresponding with me – claiming that I had even sold FISH to him!!!

Fish ke! Where would I keep them? Ede is a location I have never gotten a single call from. This made no sense at all!!

My mouth was hanging on the floor by this time, and I recalled a Real Estate CEO who’d told me a “Tayo Solagbade” – with a different photo from mine – had been sending him messages!

Beliow is the SMS I sent him after the call, which I post here as a precursor to a formal disclaimer I will publish later.

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Hey Tunde.

I just spoke with MTN call center about your assertion that Alfa, in Ede, spoke with me on phone, noting that I never got such a call and have never heard that name or had an enquiry from Ede in my life.

Neither do I sell fish to anyone! The operative at my instance checked and found no active call direct on my line. A

s things stand it would be useful for me to speak with your brother to get a better idea of what’s going on.

Do respond.

Tayo

NB: I have since not been able to reach Tunde Okunuga on his line for some strange reason. And he has yet, as at this moment (4p.m) to reply my above SMS.

UPDATE (17th April 2017 @ 20:21): Tunde, who is on my newsletter mailing list, replied to the email broadcast version of THIS post, which I sent out, saying he would call his brother today, to find out what was really going on, noting that it did appear that someone was using my name. I’ll be posting any feedback he sends me, here, as soon as I get it,

[RECOMMENDED] 10 Things Exceptionally Successful People Do on the Weekends | SUCCESS S

Preview:

It is one thing to be successful and it is another thing to be exceptionally successful. But to attain a high level of success, you have to be willing to put in the work. Because the theme of the modern-day careerist is this: How do you get more done in less time?

So while a lot of people see the weekend as a time to hang out and relax, exceptionally successful people have a different idea of how Saturdays and Sundays should be spent. Here is how they spend their weekends to set the tone for a week of crazy productive work.

1. They wake up early…”

Continue reading…
http://www.success.com/article/10-things-exceptionally-successful-people-do-on-the-weekends

Experience Based Tips to a Web Marketing Client On Sending Large Video Files

Quick Take-Away: This article features excerpts from an email I sent to a client, offering experience-based tips about how to send large (video) files to me at zero cost (including how to save time/effort by FIRST of all compressing the large files by as much as 60%).

In developing custom Web Marketing Systems for clients, I sometimes encounter a need to offer tips and guidance to them about how to get samples of their original content across to me (or prospects/clients who contact them) via the web.

This need occurs fairly often due to the fact that I work 95% of the time remotely (and LOVE it). So I very rarely have to meet or work face to face with clients – even when we are in the same city as I am!

Why do I prefer to work this way (i.e. remotely or 100% online) you wonder?

Well, first of all, it enables me avoid dealing with traffic  of vehicles and humans, and exerting myself physically in a way that eventually eats into work related stamina I could make better use of.

Secondly, I have found that I am able to provide my services – efficiently and profitably – to a larger number of clients within the same period this way, than if I had to move around and meet each one.

Thirdly and most importantly, I work this way because it gives me the power to make use of my time they way I want, so that I am able to deliver to client’s satisfaction and feel fulfilled at the same time.

Smart business owners today are constantly on the lookout for ways to use PC and Internet technology to get more done with less effort, in less time, and at less cost.

Working the way I do makes that possible for me. I am convinced many others would find it works well for them too. But fear of the unknown holds many back!

But back to the point I want to make: Sometimes a client may need to get some files across to me via the web, but they could be a bit big.

S/he, if not familiar with ways to get that done, would typically ask me for support to get it done – and I would gladly respond by offering a variety of experience based suggestions for him/her to consider.

That happened recently with a client, whose work in providing vocational training in agro-based enterprise startup and management, struck me as being worthy of being showcased as a core offering in the flagship Web Marketing System I am developing for him.

After I’d sent him an email with pointers on possible ways to go, it occurred to me that other persons with similar challenges might find the tips I sent to him useful.

So, I decided to publish excerpts from that email on this blog (see below) – so I’ll be able to sent the URL to any other persons who request similar support in future.

I invite you to read through the ideas I offer below, on this theme, and if you find them useful, do not forget to share this piece with others you know may also need the information it offers!

Hi (name removed),

Regarding getting the big video files to me, I suggest using either option 1 or 2 outlined below.

But before you try to send it, I strongly recommend you try reducing the video file size – and if possible convert it to a popular format like MP4, if it’s not already in that format.

Below is a link to one video compression software that – based on its review by CNET – should work well for you:

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Free Video Compressor – Free download and software reviews – CNET Download.com

http://download.cnet.com/Free-Video-Compressor/3000-13631_4-76114769.html
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Reducing the video’s filesize will make your job of uploading it easier.

So I recommend you try it.

Now, there is a way to kill 2 birds with 1 stone using Youtube.com that you may also wish to explore:.

My experiences indicate you can upload your big video file to your Youtube channel and then download the MP4 version created by Youtube to your PC.

I’ve done that several times with great results to show.

Over 60% file size reduction can be achieved this way, while preserving original video quality.

I’ll send you a Whatsapp audio to explain how to use Youtube as described above

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Finally, once you have the video file size you want to send, you can then email the files using either 1 or 2 outlined below:

1. How to send large files to anyone for free – PC Advisor

http://www.pcadvisor.co.uk/how-to/storage/how-send-large-files-free-email-big-photos-3509067/

NB: I recommend WeTransfer, MailBigFile – based on the descriptions given. Though I’ve bever used either.

One that I’ve used is Pcloud.transfer.com – with great results. You can check their filesize limits

2. 3 Ways to Email Large Video Files – wikiHow

To email large video files, you can use Google Drive in Gmail, Skydrive in Windows mail, or Dropbox in Yahoo mail.

http://wikihow.com/Email-Large-Video-Files

NB: If you choose this option, I suggest you use GoogleDrive, since we both use Gmail

Let me know if you have questions or require clarification.

Talk later,

Tayo

Final Words: You can achieve superior marketing reach and impact, if you adopt a custom Web Marketing System in promoting your unique solution(s)

I created a mind map, years ago, that anyone can study and use to develop and implement a WMS for his/her own brand.

In other words, you can either DIY or have someone (like me) do it for you.

See it at:

http://tayosolagbade.com/uploads/wms-mindmap-writers.pdf

You can read some of my past articles on web marketing using the links below:

1. http://tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets/pii-058-do-you-want-a-marketing-manager-that-never-sleeps/#.WPFKaUhtldg

2. http://tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets/to-remove-time-wasters-from-your-sales-leads-you-need-a-web-marketing-system/#.WPFKakhtldg

If you’d like me to help you develop a custom WMS, send me a message (click to fill this form) so I can ask you a few questions and further explain to you, how using a WMS can help you better connect with, and win over potential buyers.

[DVAM] It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com

[TIP: Yesterday, I formally launched my new Facebook page named “Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It“. The page is dedicated to empowering men who find themselves, by some accident of fate on the receiving end of abuse from an intimate female partner. Click here to visit it].

The Huffington Post article previewed and linked below, is yet another (like this one from yesterday) in a series that I’m compiling to SHOW clearly that DVAM is a major reality that is being ignored by most stakeholders, especially those tasked with duty of providing support and protection to abused persons.

This neglect of male victims of domestic abuse by females, is being exploited by a growing number of manipulative females to visit serious physical, emotional and psychological abuse on their partners, knowing prevailing stereotypes about domestic violence will make it easy to later claim to be the victims!

I have seen this happen MANY times over the past decade. So I speak from a position of personal knowledge and experience when I make these assertions. My mission is to influence a positive and permanent change in THIS unsatisfactory situation for the better.

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It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com

When we discuss domestic violence, it is often assumed that the victims are women. And the statistics are truly traumatic. The less-told story is that a striking number of men are victims, too, suffering physical, mental and sexual abuse in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships.

According to the CDC, one in four adult men in the U.S. will become a victim of domestic violence during his lifetime. That’s upwards of three million male domestic violence victims every year, or one man in America abused by an intimate or domestic partner every 37.8 seconds.

Highlighting these statistics is not meant to downplay in any way domestic violence among women. It is, however, intended to add to the growing conversation that anyone can be the victim of domestic abuse and everyone who needs protection deserves access to it.

Continue…

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/bari-zell-weinberger-esq/its-time-to-acknowledge-m_b_8292976.html

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[DVAM] Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal) – NairaLand.com & PraiseWorldradio.com

[Starting yesterday Thursday 13th April 2017, I formally announced my public service initiative to research, investigate and publicize potentially useful information and education by competent expert authorities on Domestic Violence Against Men]

The article previewed below was published by a female Nigerian lawyer, I find its contents most accurate, and recommend it to members of both genders,
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Domestic Violence Against Men by TyLegal: 2:22pm On Nov 19, 2015

Other forms of abuse are where a woman manipulates her man into granting her wishes or goes about spreading negative rumours about him to his friends or even on social media.

She might insinuate that her man beats her or does not provide for the family or that he is a ‘two-minute man’. She might also threaten to take the kids and disappear so that the man will not have any access to his kids. Women have also been known to drug their men or attack them in their sleep. If as a man, you are experiencing any of these, please get help fast.

Other forms of domestic violence against men are:
· Constant accusations of infidelity.

· Putting him down or insulting him.

· Seizing his medications as a form of threat.

· Trying to control what he wears, eats or how he spends his money.

· Verbally abusing him, be it in the presence of friends, colleagues or even within closed doors.

· Blaming the man for her violent actions or making him feel that he deserves such treatment.

Towards the end she writes:

This is not to give women ideas on how to abuse their men o. It is to create awareness that men also get abused and they also need to be protected. Men should be on the lookout to ensure that they are not in such a relationship otherwise it would shatter the man’s ego and leave him a shadow of himself.

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What a wonderfully balanced mind this Nigerian Lady Lawyer has!

Read the full article at: http://www.nairaland.com/2748370/domestic-violence-against-men

[RECOMMENDED] Domestic Violence against Men: The Nigerian Experience

Domestic violence can take many forms, including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, shoving, restraining, slapping, throwing objects, battery), or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive / covert abuse and economic deprivation[1]. It is perpetrated by, and on both men and women.

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The Nigeria society is a highly patriarchal one, in which men have bloated egos. Though there is a prevalence of domestic violence against women in Nigeria as many women have died, brutalised or maimed for life by their violent male counterparts[30], however, there is also a prevalence of domestic violence against men, which has largely remained under-reported. According to Watts and Zimmermann (2002), the under-reporting of domestic violence is almost universal and may be due to the sensitive nature of the subject. Husband punching, slapping, kicking, nail scratching, sex deprivation and killing are realities that occur in Nigeria[31].

The tragedy is that men who find themselves in this situation hide and do not talk openly about their experience, as talking about it will bruise their ego and expose them to ridicule in a patriarchal society. I was beaten by my wife is a misnomer! It is unheard of in a male egoistic society. Hence such men prefer to suffer in silence until it becomes critical to the point of likely death. An instance is that of Israel Obi, who was a victim of hot vegetable oil bath by his wife.

In His words;

Click below to continue reading…

3-days-later

http://article.sapub.org/10.5923.j.sociology.20140401.03.html

RELATED:

1. Lawyer Stabs Husband To Death In #Ibadan, #Nigeria, Following Domestic Squabble Opening A Debate On Violence Against Men

2. WHY NIGERIA’S NEW VIOLENCE AGAINST PERSONS (PROHIBITION) ACT IS ONLY THE BEGINNING

3, Domestic Violence Against Men: Shocking Experiences of Male Victims in Nigeria