No. 195: (a) Being Likeable Can Cost You Success (b) To Achieve Sustainable Success, Closely Monitor News About Current Affairs and Politics! – [MP3]!

When defending his title for the first time, under his new name (Muhammad Ali), the crowd roundly booed Cassius Clay and cheered Sonny Liston. Yet Ali knocked out Liston in round 1. Some claim it was a phantom punch (but that’s a whole other issue) – MY point is that YOUNG Ali’s self-confident, and cocky attitude, bordering on what some called “arrogance”, earned him lots of criticism.

At some point, he was dubbed “The Louisville Lip”.

But Ali never let the negativity get to him. He remained defiant in the face of it all, and stayed true to himself, doing good BOXING and TALKING while doing it – thus giving MORE entertainment!

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No:195

Title: (a) Being Likeable Can Cost You Success (b) To Achieve Sustainable Success, Closely Monitor News About Current Affairs and Politics! – [MP3]!

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1 of 2: PUBLIC SPEAKING – Being Likeable Can Cost You Success

When defending his title for the first time, under his new name (Muhammad Ali), the crowd roundly booed Cassius Clay and cheered Sonny Liston. Yet Ali knocked out Liston in round 1. Some claim it was a phantom punch (but that’s a whole other issue) – MY point is that YOUNG Ali’s self-confident, and cocky attitude, bordering on what some called “arrogance”, earned him lots of criticism.

At some point, he was dubbed “The Louisville Lip”.

But Ali never let the negativity get to him. He remained defiant in the face of it all, and stayed true to himself, doing good BOXING and TALKING while doing it – thus giving MORE entertainment!

That attitude of believing in himself, and NOT letting what others thought or said influence him to act contrary to his nature, led him on a confrontation path with the government, when they tried to draft him to fight in the Vietnam war.

Long story short, Ali was stripped of his title and banned from boxing. He spent some of his best years unable to compete instead giving public speeches on human rights and race etc – and that raised his profile beyond boxing, to national and even international levels.

He later won back his title and did so well that today, many decades on he is a LIVING legend LOVED the world over.

Funny isn’t it? The same guy who got booed as a “mouthy” young boxer is today hailed as the greatest boxer ever, with scores of his famous utterances quoted by people everywhere!

Ali refused to be cowed or intimidated into NOT speaking his mind. He refused to let others dictate what topic he spoke on.

He did it so consistently and so well, that some of his critics over time developed a grudging admiration for him, and eventually, most backed down!

Today, it’s hard to find any persons with anything but good to say about Muhammad Ali!

How does this apply to you as an expert-who-speaks?

Some time ago, I read a Facebook post by a trainer/speaker, that commenting on current affairs/politics was (for him) a taboo for public speakers, especially if they belonged to a particular body of speakers that I will leave unnamed here.

I DO NOT AGREE with that view at all!

It is in fact my considered opinion, that public speakers are actually best positioned to help society evolve to better heights by speaking intelligently on current affairs/politics!

Why?

Because the role they play, makes them function as thought/opinion leaders: which gives them potentially great power to INFLUENCE the thinking of MANY people at once!

Incidentally, if there is one issue that affects the well being of a public speaker’s target audience, it’s current affairs/politics.

A smart speaker will therefore want to arm him/herself with latest information regarding a society’s current affairs/politics, towards guiding the DELIVERY of his/her message there.

Now don’t get me wrong. I’m not asking you to go to a client company’s Management Conference and begin making polarising statements to the audience in your keynote speech!

No. That’s NOT what I’m saying.

What I AM saying is that, using your skill as a speaker, you can tactfully incorporate, where relevant and possible, your own thinking about the state of affairs in society, as it relates to the PURPOSE of the gathering you have to address at any point in time.

And sometimes that may cause you to NOT be liked (by some people).

The truth is however that if you focus too often on NOT rocking boats, you may end up NOT making lasting impact in a way that will make your audience reckon with you!

This is a sensitive topic, I know…

However, I’ve learnt a LOT from studying people who used public speaking to achieve greatness, like Muhammad Ali, Mahathma Ghandhi, Abe Lincoln, Martin Luther King Jr. , Malcolm X etc.

You see, most of them achieved greatness because they did NOT shy away from PUBLICLY stating HARD TRUTHS, even when they knew (powerful) others could be upset.

They did not go out of their way to be “LIKEABLE”, especially when they saw justifiable cause!

Be a Speaker With a Conscience…& It’s Okay to be Opinionated, If You Have Conviction!

The great achievers I mentioned earlier understood the above truth, and that’s why they went about their purpose without FEAR!

A truly authentic expert-who-speaks must have a CONSCIENCE that cannot be bought and that WILL NOT be compromised!

I’ll end by paraphrasing myself -below – from a chat message I recently shared with an American – lady – friend (who is also a subscriber to this newsletter):

“Some people tell me I am opinionated. I just tell them when I’m convinced about something, I do NOT see any reason why I have to let someone else brow beat me to see it their way. They never like that…but…that’s just me. I accept others for being themselves, and so long as I know I’m not being un-reasonable, then I expect them to accept me for being ME. But then even the issue of being “unreasonable” remains a matter of personal perspective. Which is why I LOVE this quote credited to George Bernard Shaw: The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man.’“ – Tayo K. Solagbade

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2 of 2: WEB MARKETING: To Achieve Sustainable Success, Closely Monitor News About Current Affairs and Politics! [FREE MP3 DOWNLOAD]

“If you want to achieve sustainable success in business (especially in a volatile market place like Nigeria), it’s in your best interest to develop interest in current affairs and politics, because those are the two key ingredients that really keep this country from having a stable sociopolitical climate.
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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to

Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name

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