TO LIVE YOUR DREAM: Get LOSERS Out of Your Life, Spend MORE Time Alone & Invest In Your Mind [Hint: Someone’s Opinion of You Does NOT Have to Become Your Reality] – Viral Video titled “DREAM” – “From Mateusz M” Transcribed & Retitled by Tayo K. Solagbade

Any true student of authentic success achievement will be familiar with the hidden truths shared in this viral video.

I only came across this video few months ago. But I csn tell you that as a relentlessly diligent student of authentic success achievement, I have LIVED my life based on the philosophy advocated for adoption by the speakers for decades.

During that time I evolved my understanding of it to repeatedly succeed at higher levels, even (and ESPECIALLY!) when people told me I could NOT – both within and outside paid employment.

And THAT is why I find this video’s message worthy of being transcribed from audio to written form. I believe more people need access to the message in as many forms as possible. Indeed for those who may lack the resources to watch the video, this PDF version offers them a viable alternative to accessing what is a truly empowering presentation.

Below, I offer download link to the PDF text transcript version I’ve prepared of the audio message contained in a powerfully motivational viral 6:19” video (over 54 million views on YouTube – see below) titled “DREAM” – “From Mateusz M”

Download a mobile friendly (22MB) MP4 version of the video along with my PDF verbatim text transcript version from www.tinyurl.com/lyd2019

Here’s an excerpt from the PDF transcript version:

Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.
That you don’t have to go through life being a victim.
And even though you face disappointments, you have to know within yourself that “I can do this. Even if no one else sees it for me, I must see it for myself.
“This is what I believe, AND I’m willing to die for it. Period.”
No matter how bad it is, or how bad it gets, I’m going to make it.

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You can watch the Mateusz M video online on:

  1. Youtube
  2. Vimeo

It features the following powerful speakers:

Les Brown: facebook.com/Brown.Les,
Eric Thomas: youtube.com/user/etthehiphoppreacher
Will Smith: facebook.com/WillSmith

 

PII 180: Learn How to Prepare Yourself to Claim Your Smart Money-Making INDEPENDENCE! [*FREE Confidential Business Startup Ideas Support Service]

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PII 180: Learn How to Prepare Yourself to Claim Your Smart Money-Making INDEPENDENCE! [*FREE Confidential Business Startup Ideas Support Service]

Tough economic times, fewer jobs for those seeking, and more job losses looming on the horizon for people in industries we once thought to offer job security, ALL combine to make the message in this issue of my newsletter most relevant and compelling!

You will want to read this write-up if you are:

a. preparing for retirement

b. an organizational decision maker who prepares employees for retirement

c. planning to start a business part-time, while remaining in paid employment

d. planning to quit your job to start/run your own business full time.

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The URGENT Need to Support Male Victims of Domestic Abuse [EVENT: 7th National Conference on Male Victims of Domestic Abuse – Thur. 14th Nov. 2019, Mercure Bristol Holland House Hotel, Redcliffe Hill,Bristol, BS1 6SQ United Kingdom | Organized by Mankind.org (Mankind Initiative)]

The narrative of Domestic Violence has changed a lot in recent years.

Statistics reported by Lagos State’s Domestic and Sexual Violence Response Team (DSVRT) clearly show alarming increases in male victims reporting domestic abuse at the hands of their female partners.

READ: Incredible! Wives batter 138 husbands in Lagos

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Considering the fact that men often shy away from reporting, the actual statistics are likely to be even more worrying. This means many more men are suffering in silence in their homes etc – and they have nowhere to go for help!

Over the past 3 years, and especially in the last 6 months, I have come to the painful realization that existing support systems in Nigeria, will continue to be skewed towards female victims of Domestic Violence (e.g Notice image and examples on the foregoing linked page ALL refer to male abusers!).

Abusive females know this and exploit it to make the lives of their male partners a living hell.

Most harmful is the ridiculous stereotype which makes people, including social workers insinuate that “he must have done something horrible to her, to make her do what she did. So he most likely deserved it”

This is very wrong and often not true. I say this based on my personal experiences as a survivor and observation of other victims.

With few exceptions I got the usual treatment everywhere I went for help. The DSVRT did what they could and I got useful relief for a while but it was not enough.

Read PII 135: Neglecting Domestic Violence Victims Can Cause Serious Tragedies – True Stories [Highlights from my discussion of “The Culture of Silence as it negatively affects male Survivors.” at the 2018 SYMPOSIUM IN COMMEMORATION OF THE LAGOS STATE DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH]

I realized others may not have my kind of resilience and would need more robust support systems.

So I launched my Facebook Advocacy page to share true stories, tips and strategies etc.

Read [DVAM] Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal) – NairaLand.com & PraiseWorldradio.com: This excellent article by Toyin – a female Nigerian lawyer – accurately captured the key aspects of Domestic Violence I had come to be aware of. That’s why I used bullet point excerpts from it, to highlight examples of abuse on the cover photo for my page.

I also began researching both locally and internationally to see the statistics and other information about trends in DV reporting.

Last year (2018), I discovered the work being done by Mankind Initiative to support Male victims of DV in the UK and was inspired to learn that one of the founders was himself a male survivor of DV.

That made me resolve to launch a similar support service for victims out here.

Mankind Initiative have coming up next month, an event I really believe needs to be organized in ALL societies across the world, especially where men are becoming more victimized. The fact that the conference is in its 7th year, in my view, indicates that stakeholders interest has been sustainable, and that means REAL PROBLEMS are being solved!

National Annual Conference

Details of my tentative plans are to be announced.

For now, I would say this conference linked above is one of the kinds of events I hope to challenge stakeholders to participate in and, at some point even organize as well.

Male victims and their kids will benefit greatly as a result.

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Alternatively, you can call me on +234-803-302-1263 or +229-66-12-21-36

 

Related Articles

  1. PII 135: Neglecting Domestic Violence Victims Can Cause Serious Tragedies – True Stories [Highlights from my discussion of “The Culture of Silence as it negatively affects male Survivors.” at the 2018 SYMPOSIUM IN COMMEMORATION OF THE LAGOS STATE DOMESTIC AND SEXUAL VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH]
  2. #SexForGrades Updates: The BBC Journalist “Kiki Mordi” Dropped Out of College Due to Sexual Harassment [Watch “Mr Lecturer” in which Eedris Abdulkareem rapped about #SexForGrades in 2002!]
  3. NPD – DVAM NEWS No. 004: Are There Children/Adults Suffering Emotional &/or Psychological Abuse Right Under Your Nose? [Subtitle: An Experience Based Discussion of The Frequently Overlooked Yet VERY TOXIC Personality of the Closet (or Covert) Narcissistic “Mother”]
  4. PII 178: Are You Confident That Your Child Can Stand Up to Peer Pressure? (Lessons from BBC’s #SexForGrades Video Documentary About University Lecturers)
  5. PII 165: [DVAM] So some social workers tell us “Children never lie” about sexual abuse? Garbage! Totally discredited herewith [READ THIS NEWS REPORT ABOUT A REAL LIFE USA COURT CASE]
  6. [DVAM] (Unwittingly) Coaching the children (to lie)
  7. [DVAM] HIGH‐CONFLICT CONTACT DISPUTES: EVIDENCE OF THE EXTREME UNRELIABILITY OF SOME CHILDREN’S ASCERTAINABLE WISHES AND FEELINGS – Family Court Review | An Interdisciplinary Journal
  8. [DVAM] When children lie and why they lie and why people who work with separated families should know that they lie and why
  9. [DVAM] Yes, sex is food, Nkechi Emmanuel tells married women – Here’s the URL for the ORIGINAL SOURCE of what I consider PURE WISDOM on relationships
  10. PII 147: Narcissists Can Harm Those They Live With – Especially Children [What You Need to Know]
  11. PII 142: Ideas for Unmasking and Dealing With Narcissists Anywhere, Anytime [Featuring “Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions” – from HigherPerspectivesDotCom]
  12. Ignore the Macho Myth™: Asking for Help Means You’re Truly Strong [Advice for Battered MEN]
  13. PII 136: [DVAM] How to Identify & Stop Domestic Violence [Key Combination of Approaches to Create Massive Awareness In Society]
  14. [DVAM] More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals – TheGuardianDotCom
  15. PII 134 – [DVAM] Ideas to Empower Women Without Emasculating Men [Five (5) Suggestions for women empowerment experts that may need to review domestic violence accusations while mediating between disputing couples]
  16. WebMD Dot Com Offers “Help for Battered Men” [Powerful Ideas for Identifying & Stopping Domestic Violence Against Men – DVAM]
  17. [DVAM] Man Writes Women Support Agency Saying His Estranged Wife is Teaching His Kids to Hate Him [Features Expert Articles/Research on the common problem of Parental Alienation]
  18. [DVAM] Who will save men from domestic violence?
  19. [DVAM] Group laments increase in violence against men
  20. [DVAM] EXTRA REPORT: Husband Battering, A New Face of Domestic Violence
  21. [DVAM] The Rising Women’s Domestic Violence Against Men: An Appraisal Of Violence Against Persons (Prohibition) Act, 2015 By: Hameed Ajibola Jimoh Esq.
  22. [DVAM] Experts Interviewed by Punch Newspapers Identify 5 Major Causes of Rising Domestic Violence Against Men, by Women in Nigeria
  23. [DVAM] Story of domestic violence against men is hidden, complicated and disputed – by By Cathy Moore on 23 November 2015 — 9:49pm for Brisbane Times, Australia
  24. [DVAM] VIRAL VIDEO > 1m Views – What It Really Means to Be a ‘Strong Woman’: Nigerian Woman Delivers Hard Hitting Message to Peers About Relationships [Download FREE Verbatim Transcript PowerPoint Slideshow created by Tayo K. Solagbade for www.facebook.com/stopdvambytks]
  25. [DVAM] How Women Destroy Love (Why Men Fall Out of Love) – by Kara Oh, US based National Relationship Expert | Download FREE VIDEO Based Transcript Slideshow created by Tayo K. Solagbade for www.facebook.com/stopdvambytks
  26. [DVAM] Women Who Emotionally Abuse Men
  27. [DVAM] The 3 Types Of Nagging That DESTROY Your Marriage
  28. [DVAM] Top 10 Things Women Do To Destroy Their Marriage
  29. PII 113 [AUDIO]: 1. One Serious Mistake Gov Ambode Needs to Stop Making If He Wants to Stop Domestic Violence | 2. Just Before You Blindly Join In Pointing Accusing Fingers at A Man Accused of Domestic Violence
  30. [RECOMMENDED] Do You Know How To Deal With People Who Mock And Ridicule You? (Syndicated Version)
  31. [DVAM] Woman As Aggressor: The Unspoken Truth Of Domestic Violence [There’s something very important that we’re not talking about when we talk about domestic violence. by Edward Rhymes]
  32. [DVAM NEWS UPDATE – FEATURE STORY] Man Reports Female Partner for Domestic Violence BUT Gets NAMED the Abuser, based on Lies & Edited Video Cooked Up by His Partner!
  33. [DVAM] VIDEO – Maryam Sanda arrested for stabbing husband to death [vanguardngr dot com – NOVEMBER 21, 201710:06 AM]
  34. [DVAM] Incredible! Wives Batter 55 Husbands In Lagos
  35. [DVAM] REAL MEN DO CRY ABOUT ABUSE
  36. [DVAM] Nigerian man narrates the domestic violence he faced in his wife’s hands
  37. PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]
  38. [DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]
  39. Human Beings Don’t Have On/Off Buttons Like Machines – We ALL Have Feelings & Will React Differently to Abuse!
  40. [HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!] People are posting an 8-ball emoji on Facebook – here’s what it means
  41. [RECOMMENDED] DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN ~ ARE WE RAISING ‘ENTITLED’ DAUGHTERS – By Adeela Kasoojee-Gathoo – irtiqa dot co dot za/
  42. [DVAM] Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Domestic Violence [Hint: Read These True Stories from batteredmen dot com]
  43. [DVAM] Violence against men – Wikipedia
  44. [DVAM] Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help – MayoClinic.org
  45. [DVAM] It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com
  46. [DVAM] Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal) – NairaLand.com & PraiseWorldradio.com

 

NPD – DVAM NEWS No. 004: Are There Children/Adults Suffering Emotional &/or Psychological Abuse Right Under Your Nose? [Subtitle: An Experience Based Discussion of The Frequently Overlooked Yet VERY TOXIC Personality of the Closet (or Covert) Narcissistic “Mother”]

 

Normal or healthier mothers are proud of their children and want them to shine. But a narcissistic mother may perceive her daughter as a threat. If attention is drawn away from the mother, the child suffers retaliation, put-downs, and punishments. The mother can be jealous of her daughter for many reasons: her looks, her youth, material possessions, accomplishments, education and even the young girl’s relationship with the father. This jealousy is particularly difficult for the daughter as it carries a double-message: “Do well so that Mother is proud, but don’t do too well or you will outshine her.” – Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201310/mothers-who-are-jealous-their-daughters

 

Verbatim Audio Text Transcript Excerpt:

I’m trying to tell you that we have a situation in which there are children and also adults, who are being exposed to severe forms of emotional and psychological abuse, as we speak, and who are looking for help, but do not know where to go – because nobody listens, nobody understands!

And the people that are guilty of subjecting them to this kind of abuse are typically CLOSET (or COVERT) NARCISSISTS. The ones that hide their behaviour, so that you cannot see it.

Click here to download the full audio (<4MB) 

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PII 179: One Mistake That May Cost You Profitable Business Growth Opportunities [True Stories/Experience Based Ideas]

“The mistake I discuss in this audio podcast is one that is holding countless Nigerian/African entrepreneurs (from micro to SME) on the continent back, from making ZERO COST use of potentially powerful growth and profit inducing opportunities that come their way.

 

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PII 179: One Mistake That May Cost You Profitable Business Growth Opportunities [True Stories/Experience Based Ideas]

 

Verbatim Text Transcript Preview Excerpt

“The mistake I discuss in this audio podcast is one that is holding countless Nigerian/African entrepreneurs (from micro to SME) on the continent back, from making ZERO COST use of potentially powerful growth and profit inducing opportunities that come their way.

Click here to download and listen to the full audio podcast – and share freely with others you feel may benefit.

The audio file  is in AMR format  which can be played back on mobile devices as well as on PCs with VLC Player installed. .

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PII 178: Are You Confident That Your Child Can Stand Up to Peer Pressure? (Lessons from BBC’s #SexForGrades Video Documentary About University Lecturers)

“I’m assuming you’re a(n uncompromising) person like me. So if you’re not, please JUMP OFF THE SHIP because I’m not interested in massaging any egos. So when they meet your child who has been brought up to be like you, then what will happen is that they will be threatened. So what are you going to give your child to ensure that s/he can protect him/herself from them (i.e. others who pressure him/her to do wrong)?” – Tayo K. Solagbade

Above: Verbatim Text Transcript Excerpt from the Audio Podcast

This week I share experience based insights and also suggest practical strategies you can adopt to EMPOWER your child to successfully resist ANY forms of abuse that others may try to inflict on him/her regardless of whether s/he has access to you or not.

Considering how widespread this problem has become over the years, in school, religious organizations and the workplace, it is self-evident that we need to prepare our kids to protect themselves, because we will not always be with them when they face those inevitable challenges.

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 I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.

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PII 178: Are You Confident That Your Child Can Stand Up to Peer Pressure? (Lessons from BBC’s #SexForGrades Video Documentary About University Lecturers)

This week I share experience based insights and also suggest practical strategies you can adopt to EMPOWER your child to successfully resist ANY forms of abuse that others may try to inflict on him/her regardless of whether s/he has access to you or not.

Considering how widespread this problem has become over the years, in school, religious organizations and the workplace, it is self-evident that we need to prepare our kids to protect themselves, because we will not always be with them when they face those inevitable challenges.

Verbatim Text Transcript Preview Excerpt

“I’m assuming you’re a(n uncompromising) person like me. So if you’re not, please JUMP OFF THE SHIP because I’m not interested in massaging any egos. So when they meet your child who has been brought up to be like you, then what will happen is that they will be threatened. So what are you going to give your child to ensure that s/he can protect him/herself from them (i.e. others who pressure him/her to do wrong)?” – Tayo K. Solagbade

Click here to download and listen to the full (3o minute) audio podcast – and share freely with others you feel may benefit.

The audio file exists – see screenshot below – in AMR format (3 MB) and 3gpp format (22 MB). Both formats can be played back on mobile devices as well as on PCs with VLC Player installed. It goes without saying therefore that you should download the much smaller sized AMR file to save data and reduce download time. 

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This issue of my Performance Improvement Ideas newsletter is an audio podcast offered as a Public Service. The topic is self-explanatory, and except you’ve been living under a rock, most likely to be one you are VERY familiar because of the trending #SexForGrades hashtag.

Below: Verbatim text excerpts from the mind-map-like Rapid Speech Preparation Template I used to deliver this topic as a 20 minute talk to an audience over a decade ago. Click here to invite me,

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If you always feel a need to be around to stop your child from being influenced to do wrong things, then it is possible YOU NEED TO DO MORE WORK TO COACH your child to function as an independent-minded person.

The reality is:

1. You will NOT always be there to stop him/her from being exposed to negative influences.

2. You cannot hide him/her away at home for ever.

3. Signs That Suggest You Have Not Taught Your Child How To Say NO…

*bad company

*lying, stealing to impress peers

*giving in to abuse of any kind – sexual, emotional, physical etc

Two stories of how being ineffective in handling my relationships made me engage in unbecoming conduct – and eventually got me into trouble.

Story 1: I describe bad activities I engaged in, without getting caught in my first year (as a 10 year old) in secondary school.

Story 2: I describe an instance in which I (along with others from the first story) did get caught, with serious consequences.

You must realize that if your child lacks proficiency in managing his relationships and does not know know who he is/wants to be, it can lead him into trouble

The Role YOU Need To Play As A Parent To Help Your Child

1. What It Takes To Say NO – And Think Independently?

2. Let them make their own mistakes – BUT…be on hand to help them LEARN from each one.

3. Here Are Ten(10) Practical Steps You Can Take

4. How Will You Know When Your Child Has Found Her Purpose?

Encourage a strong knowledge and sense of self. As a nine year old, Bill Gates reportedly knew himself well enough to pronounce to a family friend that “I can do anything I set my mind to”.

Mistake making is itself an essential requirement for a person’s balanced development.

A society only truly succeeds when its new members(children) learn what it takes to survive and flourish in it like the adults that arrive ahead of them.

With proper coaching by adults who have the right mix of knowledge, skills and experience, children can be prepared well ahead for most of the decisions they have to take and/or challenges they will encounter in life.

The result would be a dramatic increase in their capability for achieving success in life.

*Analogy: A lion cub that grows up in a pride of Lions roaming the African Savannah, is unlikely to go hungry from the lack of hunting prowess the way its orphaned cousin raised by humans could.

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It is NOW available in a specially bundled MP3 Audio and PDF Book package that can be downloaded online or accessed offline on a DVD delivered to you.
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#SexForGrades Updates: The BBC Journalist “Kiki Mordi” Dropped Out of College Due to Sexual Harassment [Watch “Mr Lecturer” in which Eedris Abdulkareem rapped about #SexForGrades in 2002!]

In this post, I feature highlights of updates I have recently shared on this theme of #SexForGtades
First, here;s the BBC video itself – watch below, or click here

Now, on to my updates..

1. THE JOURNALIST WHO CHAMPIONED THE BBC UNDERCOVER INVESTIGATION TO PRODUCE THE #SexForGrades video documentary says she dropped out of university due to Sexual Harassment…

BUT look where she works..,and see the quality of her work! The BBC knew enough to look BEYOND her lack of a “certificate”.
Once again my argument that SKILLS and NATURAL TALENTS/GENIUS matter more for success than paper qualifications becomes relevant. And when you consider the fact that sexual predators are prowling our colleges in large numbers, disguised as lecturers…Kiki Mordi’s chosen line of action may likely appeal to others, IF needed changes do not happen to ensure our GIRLS are safe in school!

2. DO YOU REMEMBER? Eedris Abdulkareem rapped about this over a decade ago… but all OBJ did was to harass him for saying “Nigeria Jaga Jaga”!

Notice the BBC video begins with this quote from one of the ladies interviewed:
“Nobody wants to listen. Nobody wants to believe victims”
 
That tells you that some of the girls must have tried to report the lecturers many times without success. Nigerians are experts at living with bad practices happening around them. That’s why Yahoo boys live and move freely among us for instance.
 
Ali this noise of approval for this documentary by Nigerians NOW that BBC has done what we with all our RELIGIOUSITY failed to do for years is just hypocritical rubbish.
 
This has been happening for a long time all over the country and most of us have always known it but refused to say anything and pretend instead. Sad!
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3″Mr. Lecturer” was released and became an instant hit in 2002 by Eedris Abdulkareem.

Amazing how yesterday’s BBC documentary’s revelation so closely resembles the plot in the song’s story… Over a decade and a half later!#SexForGrades

Watch it on Youtube at https://youtu.be/oNxlEorniRU

Below: Excerpt from (and URL to) an article on a website featuring Eedris Abdulkareem’s “Mr. Lecturer” in 2002 #SexForGrades

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“Going down to the memory lane Off Mr Abdulkareem’s (2002!) sophomore solo album is Mr. Lecturer – a song that addresses the problem of students using money and séx to solicit higher grades in Nigerian colleges and universities, as well as male lecturers exploiting female students by requesting séx and money in exchange for good grades.
 
The track gathered so much buzz that it sealed his status as one of hip-hop’s most revered acts in Nigeria as far back as the year 2002..”

PII 177: To Succeed, You Need to Fail – Warning to Naughty Pretenders and Inspiration for Authentic Success Seekers

Winning is not a sometime thing, it’s an all time thing. You don’t win once in a while, you don’t do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.” – Vince Lombardi

Important Note: Before you download and listen to THIS audio podcast, linked below, let me state upfront that my message in it does NOT mean I disagree with the Fake It Till You Make It (FITYMI) strategy that MANY who are successful today have confirmed kept then going till they reached the top,

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PII 177: To Succeed, You Need to Fail – Warning to Naughty Pretenders and Inspiration for Authentic Success Seekers

Winning is not a sometime thing, it’s an all time thing. You don’t win once in a while, you don’t do things right once in a while, you do them right all the time. Winning is habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.” – Vince Lombardi

[Important Note] Before you download and listen to THIS audio podcast, linked below, let me state upfront the following clarifiction.

The point I make in this audio podcast about people who “pretend” should NOT be wrongly interpreted to mean I disagree with the “honest” use of the Fake It Till You Make It (FITYMI) strategy that MANY who are successful today have confirmed kept then going till they reached the top. [TIP: Read How to Fake It Till You Make It Without Telling a Single Lie ]

No.

Indeed, quite to the contrary, years ago, I personally embraced the use of that same philosophy myself, and it helped me survive those heartrendingly prolonged periods adversity hat I had to go through to grow my brand.

My message in this podcast is targeted mainly as 2 main groups of people described below:

Group 1: Naughty Pretenders

People pursuing success, but who fail to realize that even when using the FITYMI strategy, it is important to KEEP IT REAL by opening up (or being “Psychologically Naked” in relating) – about their REAL SITUATION to trusted, competent or supportive others (e.g. mentors, coaches, close associates) who can help or support them to GROW from there to achieve authentic success they desire with time.

In other words I refer to those persons who, for instance, choose to fraudulently pretend that they are achieving when they are not making diligent efforts to do so.

These people have no problems LYING about their achievements to look good to everyone!

They habitually create misleading false impressions about what they are doing, and especially when they fail or have setbacks they NEVER or RARELY ever open up to anyone, so as to get help to do a better job of it next time. As a result, they end up living empty lives and quite often, at some point, get found out.

For this group, I offer a WAKE UP CALL of sorts – challenging them to change their ways, so they can achieve success that ENDURES.

Group 2: Authentic Success Seekers

Persons NOT living like those described in Group 1 i.e. who are doing the opposite in their lives – pursuing authentic success with integrity, by being OPEN and HONEST about their REAL SITUATION with their Inner Circle of support (mentors, coaches, associates/partners and loved ones).

For this group, I offer encouragement that they are on the right path, and if they do not stray from it, their success is inevitable.

These 2 groups of people are those my message is meant for.

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EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

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PII 176: 3 ZERO COST WAYS TO RECRUIT AND RETAIN CLIENTS FOR YOUR WORKSPACE BUSINESS [Hint: Ready-to-Use Money Making Leads Generation Ideas for ANY Business, in ANY Market]

Highlights of What You Will Learn

 How to attract MORE people who fit your desired target audience profile, to discover what you offer.

 What to say and do to make those you attract decide to CONTACT you about PAYING – so you can close the sale and make them clients.

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 I’m reinventing my Monday newsletter content and theme, to accommodate my vision of serving the growing audience of serious minded individuals and organizations reaching out to me, with information, education. news and research findings designed to help them do what they do better.

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PII 176: 3 ZERO COST WAYS TO RECRUIT AND RETAIN CLIENTS FOR YOUR WORKSPACE BUSINESS [Hint: Ready-to-Use Money Making Leads Generation Ideas for ANY Business, in ANY Market]

Highlights of What You Will Learn

 How to attract MORE people who fit your desired target audience profile, to discover what you offer.

 What to say and do to make those you attract decide to CONTACT you about PAYING – so you can close the sale and make them clients.

 What to do to get those who become clients to HAPPILY CHOOSE to DO REPEAT BUSINESS with you.

 How to make them talk about you (without your asking) in ways that make other potential clients become aware of the solutions you offer.

Download the FREE audio podcast from the link below or email tayo at tksola dot com if you need help getting access to it.

This information product is published as a Public Service via my Sales and Marketing Club

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1. PII 158: How My Farm Business Support Center Can Help Farm Owners Achieve Superior Results at Low to Zero Cost [3 Common Challenges It Will Address]

2. PII 155: Make Money Building & Selling Custom Excel-VB Software to Profitable Niche markets [Join my MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation club to Start Learning HOW]

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Connect with me using any of the following:

Phone: +234-8033021263 (in Nigeria) OR +229-66122136 (in Benin Rep)
Email: tayo at tksola dot com
Twitter:@tksola

INVITE ME TO DELIVER THE FULL 10 COMMANDMENT SERIES AS A LIVE TALK TO YOUR GROUP/TEAM MEMBERS

This talk is based on an educational weekly email series I created exclusively for members of my Web Marketing for CEOs club.
It provides experience based ideas, tips and insights for use by any persons engaged in business, who wish to achieve low to zero cost business marketing reach and impact by leveraging the the power of PC and Internet Technology.
It is NOW available in a specially bundled MP3 Audio and PDF Book package that can be downloaded online or accessed offline on a DVD delivered to you.
Attendees of THIS LIVE talk however get instant membership of my Web Marketing for CEOs club (N50k value – includes FREE weekly coaching via Private Facebook and WhatsApp groups) + FREE download link to the ebook/audios.
Standard FEE for Talk – N100k

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Get 1 Year Web Marketing Saupport: Become a member of my Web Marketing for CEOs club

Click here to learn how you can join my Web Marketing for CEOs club, and get my 1 year Web Marketing Support Service

Excel-VB Driven Ration Formulator

Click to view larger screenshot

1. Click here to learn more about this app – watch demo videos etc

2.Click here to watch a 4 part video in which I demonstrate how to use this app to formulate rations using real life data sent to me by an Algerian PhD student.

Click here to contact me about purchasing this product.

EXCEL-VB DRIVEN POULTRY LAYER FARM MANAGER SOFTWARE

Click here to download a detailed PDF user guide and watch 15 screen shot user guide tutorials of the Monthly Poultry Farm Manager that I now offer Farm CEOs.

Click here to watch a screenshot demonstration of the Excel-VB Driven Poultry Farm Manager I built for a client farm business in Ekiti state, South West Nigeria.

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PII 175: LOANS FOR FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS

[LOANS FOR FEMALE ENTREPRENEURS]

Hello all. I have been sending this out to all my female clients/contacts! about this exciting funding opportunity for female entrepreneurs RESIDENT IN NIGERIA”s LAGOS.

See full details im the flyer below.

NB: You may not be RESIDENT in Lagos, but it is possible that you might know one female entrepreneur who is.

If that is so, please SHARE to them.

To apply onlins, log on to the portal: go to http://apply.lsetf.ng

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