Category Archives: Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)

PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

One day Brian Banks was a high school football star poised to launch a promising career as a pro, and the next he saw it all go up in smoke when a former high school mate (Wanetta Gibson) accused him of raping her.

That happened in 2002 and he served over 5 years in prison – for a crime he NEVER committed!

But the story did NOT end there…

She later contacted him on Facebook and requested a meeting, at which she confessed that she’d fabricated the whole story – but refused to publicly admit it, for fear that her family would be asked to pay back money they’d been awarded.

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PII 068: We Need to Stop Letting Naughty Females Succeed With False Accusations Against Men [Case Study: Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

One day Brian Banks was a high school football star poised to launch a promising career as a pro, and the next he saw it all go up in smoke when a former high school mate (Wanetta Gibson) accused him of raping her.

That happened in 2002 and he served over 5 years in prison – for a crime he NEVER committed!

But the story did NOT end there…

She later contacted him on Facebook and requested a meeting, at which she confessed that she’d fabricated the whole story – but refused to publicly admit it, for fear that her family would be asked to pay back money they’d been awarded.

Luckily, for Banks, he’d had the presence of mind to record her confession to him, and THAT was what the California Innocence Project, the organization that helped exonerate him, used to secure the reversal of his conviction on May 24, 2012.

[Read Wikipedia account at https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Banks_(American_football)  | Also read Woman Who Falsely Accused Brian Banks of Rape Ordered to Pay $2.6M]

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Ten long years. That’s how long this nightmare lasted for this young man!

I feature his story in this issue of my Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter, as part of my Stop Domestic Violence Against Men advocacy campaign.

The story of Brian Banks is a perfect example of how a female can DECIDE to ruin a man simply by making a false claim, and succeed!

I don’t know about you, but reading Bank’s story, I could NOT help wondering about the psychological suffering he must have gone through, BEFORE this fortunate exoneration happened.

Banks had relatives, friends, colleagues and associates who would have looked at him differently when he got accused and ultimately sentenced to prison.

I cannot help thinking that he must have repeatedly protested that he did not do it, while others rolled their eyes heavenwards saying “Yeah, that’s what they all say!”

I also simply cannot help but wonder how he and all who identified with him must have had to ENDURE the embarrassment and humiliation arising from his false accusation ALL those years.

And I just cannot help but wonder if ALL those who heard that he got sentenced to jail back then, and who would have concluded that THAT happened because he was GUILTY of the crime the young lady accused him of, would EVER get to learn of the overturned court ruling that has since been given.

In reality, many may not get to hear that he has NOW been found innocent – so they will continue carrying those WRONG impressions about him in their minds!

And most importantly, I cannot help thinking that Banks LOST a HUGE opportunity to make it big in the NFL because of the action of this false accusation.

The damage to Banks simply cannot be erased by this reversed conviction, or the media publicity given to it and certainly not by the $2m fine imposed on his accuser.

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All of that is good – but they will not change what happened to him. It is my considered opinion that it should never have happened to him in the first place!

And the fact that it did should enough cause for society to introduce controls to PREVENT naughty females from succeeding with false accusations in future!

To think that he had to get a recording of her confessing to him in private, was how he managed to get his conviction overturned, and NOT that she came out to confess it willingly, really shows just how self-centered this lady was.

The sad thing is that so MANY females in today’s world are increasingly like Bank’s accuser.

They have this entitlement mentality, and will do anything to have their way. But if they cannot have their way, then they’ll do whatever it takes to get back at you for NOT letting them have it.

In a way, one could say men in today’s world are doomed in the sense that if at any point, a female with the above kind of mentality happens to set her sights on you, chances are good that she will get away with anything she does to you – because society has been programmed to believe her over you, the man.

However, as Bank’s experience proves, we need to change that situation and put in place systems to STOP naughty females from taking advantage of society’s protective systems, to inflict such vicious abuse on men in their lives.

We MUST stop this current situation in which ALL a woman or female needs to do is to simply SAY “He did it” for the male person she accuses to be INSTANTLY considered guilty by the rest of society.

This is not to say that authentic cases of women who have been abused by men do not exist.

What I’m saying is that their existence and the possibility of it happening is NO reason for us to leave innocent men at the mercy of naughty females looking for ways to use the protective systems put in place for women, to inflict abuse on men in their lives that they have an axe to grind with!

Learn more about my advocacy campaign on my page; Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It

A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.

In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the efforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defense” when their actions come under scrutiny.

What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better.

We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who belong to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.

That’s why I’ve launched this page.

Page URL: https://facebook.com/stopdvambytks/

[DVAM] Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Domestic Violence [Hint: Read These True Stories from batteredmen dot com]

Do you ignore efforts to Identify and Stop Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)? Let’s hope your silence (or indifference) does not cause your son, brother, uncle, dad or other male loved ones to suffer like those who tell their stories on batteredmen dot com featured below:

http://tayosolagbade.com/sdnuggets/dvam-menweb-battered-men-mens-stories-batteredmen-dot-com/#.WQxy_Uhtldg

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[DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]

[Sunday]:

[RECOMMENDED] Lagos State Commissioner of Police Reads Bribe Taking Police Officers The Riot Act

Tayo K. Solagbade*

Self-Development/Performance Improvement Specialist

*Best Practice Farm Business Support Specialist & Founder of the MS Excel Heaven Visual Basic Automation Club and Competition

Mobile: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic)

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Tayo K. Solagbade is a Location Independent Performance Improvement

Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to Farm Businesses and others.

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting, freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years (October 1994 to December 2001) as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer to Training & Technical Development Manager, and later acted in senior roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

In addition to constantly challenging the status quo and influencing positive work changes, he built a reputation for using self-taught spreadsheet programming skills (starting with Lotus 1-2-3, and later moving to Excel Visual Basic) – in his spare time – to develop Automated Spreadsheet Applications to computerize manual report generation processes in the departments he worked. Over four(4) of his applications were adopted for brewery level reporting.

Tayo holds a B.Sc degree in Agricultural Extension Services from the University of Ibadan, Nigeria, having graduated top of his class – with Second Class Upper Division honors – in 1992. He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy (SDAc).

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes The Farm CEO Weekly Newspaper (sent via email to paid subscribers) and his Weekly Performance Improvement IDEAS newsletter.

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your personal and work related productivity.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old, NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name
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[DVAM] Domestic Violence: A male reader’s experience [“I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it”]

[I said in an earlier post on this page: Even the most docile being will react when pushed to the wall. Below is text I’ve typed out of the full letter sent in by a male reader (see large size photo) of Gloria Ogunbadejo’s “Mental Health Matters” column on page 54 of Sunday PUNCH April 30, 2017]

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Dear Gloria.

Thank you for your very insightful column that comes out every Sunday in the PUNCH. I have been reading your column for quite some time and I have been very impressed with your views. I was intrigued with the topic of violence against women which you covered sometime in the past and I wondered if you were aware that there were men who also suffer domestic violence.

I am a married man and $y wife and I enjoy a normal married life. It is very difficult for me to express myself on this matter as I find it very shameful. I am well educated as you might be able to tell, and am gainfully employed. I say this not to suggest that it is the uneducated or poor that experience this type of abuse. I am just giving you an idea of my background.

My wife has a bad temper and has always been aggressive. Before we got married, there were times she would engage in physical combat when we had disagreements, but I just thought it was her way of expressing the extent of her love for me. After we got married, she seemed to settle down and was not as volatile whenever she was upset.

She had a very difficult time conceiving and I watched as her anger got worse again. I never used to hit her even when she slapped or hit me with all types of things. I could not take it anymore. Recently I beat her very badly. I think it was a build up of all the times I was on the receiving end. It was nothing compared to what I have suffered from her. However, her family acted as if the world had come to an end. Her brothers were threathening me and the family called a meeting to warn me.

I am very angry and frustrated because I have suffered a lot from her abuse but I feel ashamed to tell anyone. I don’t think they will believe me and she will never admit to it. I have decided that I will not let her get away with the physical abuse any longer even if it means the marriage will break.

This is not a subject that people take seriously in this country. It is only if a woman is experiencing abuse that anyone will listen. I know other men experience similar things but they either fight back or they keep quiet about it. I just wanted you to know that it is not only women who experience abuse.

Please Gloria, I require coinfidentiality to maintain my respect and dignity.

Name and address withheld

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NB: This update was first published on my Facebook advocacy page earlier today at https://web.facebook.com/stopdvambytks/photos/a.1010876555679725.1073741828.1010096242424423/1044723925628321/?type=3

Human Beings Don’t Have On/Off Buttons Like Machines – We ALL Have Feelings & Will React Differently to Abuse!

[This article was first published, yesterday Tuesday 23rd May 2017, as a status update on my Facebook advocacy page: Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It]

I’ve read and heard about some men being blamed for fighting back against a female abuser. The commentators typically argued that ‘a real man walks away” – no matter what (…Including when hot water is poured on his body causing painful burning peeling of the skin in affected areas lol!)

The question however to ask is this:

How much training or preparation do we give our male members in society to expect this kind of controlled behaviour from them?

if none or little (as currently happens), how can we realistically expect ALL our men (not being programmable robots) to arrive adulthood with this wonderful ability to “walk away” everytime, no matter how badly they are abused by female partners?

It is my considered opinion, that if we’re honest with ourselves, “walking away” again and again is easier said than done.

You see, it would be nice if everyone exposed to protracted DV (Domestic Violence) could take it all without reacting (especially in a society that offers little or no support service for abused men that he can get, compared to what females enjoy).

Unfortunately human beings differ in terms of temperament, self control, endurance limits etc.

This is why some people choose to commit suicide or run away/abscond when they feel they cannot take it anymore.

But not everyone will accept to go that route. A man’s ego may make him decide against taking that route, even as he stays conscious of the need to avoid being guilty of committing abuse himself in the process.

This is often the reality that faces many abused men in society due to the widely held bias that men are always at fault in matters relating to Domestic Violence.

The truth is that it takes being in it to know how it feels.

Indeed many of us, male or female cannot be certain what we will or will not do should we find ourselves on the receiving end of DV on a prolonged basis!

Men, just like women have feelings and nobody is Superhuman.

We all have breaking points.

A man just can’t leave himself open to relentless abuse – especially the vicious verbal, psychological kind combined with physical attacks or provocation that tends to happen in DV situations.

No one can emerge unscathed from such battering.

The above is why the Mayo clinic article linked below really merits careful reading with deep reflection..

They apparently understand the real psychological atmosphere that prevails in these kinds of situations.

Human beings don’t have On/Off buttons like machines!

They have blood running through their veins, and no matter how gentle people are, when pushed to their limits (we all have limits!) they will – eventually – react!

This Mayo Clinic article offers useful insights both men and women can learn from…

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence-against-men/art-20045149

 

[HIGHLY RECOMMENDED!] People are posting an 8-ball emoji on Facebook – here’s what it means

Facebook users are posting an emoji of an eight-ball – and it’s all part of a viral campaign to raise awareness about prostate cancer.

The black eight-ball emoji is popping up due to a viral message which is spreading via Facebook Messenger – urging men to post the image on Facebook.

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The message says, ‘Hi mate,

Continue reading…

http://metro.co.uk/2017/03/08/people-are-posting-an-8-ball-emoji-on-facebook-heres-what-it-means-6496846/

[RECOMMENDED] DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AGAINST MEN ~ ARE WE RAISING ‘ENTITLED’ DAUGHTERS – By Adeela Kasoojee-Gathoo – irtiqa dot co dot za/

Surprisingly, and despite the typecast of female as the weaker sex – there are many men that endure daily abuse at the hands of their wives.

 

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“It is just not something we speak about”, says soft spoken * Hamza (*name changed to protect identity) who was abused so much by his spouse that he opted to leave his marriage as a result.

http://www.irtiqa.co.za/domestic-violence-against-men-are-we-raising-entitled-daughters/

READ  MORE ON MY PAGE: https://web.facebook.com/stopdvambytks/ [Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It]

[DVAM] Your Silence May Cause Your Son, Brother, Uncle, Dad or Other Male Loved Ones to Suffer Avoidable Domestic Violence [Hint: Read These True Stories from batteredmen dot com]

Do you ignore efforts to Identify and Stop Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM)? Let’s hope your silence (or indifference) does not cause your son, brother, uncle, dad or other male loved ones to suffer like those who tell their stories on batteredmen dot com featured below:

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“It(DVAM) doesn’t happen.” “It only happens to a few guys–puny, little guys.” “Women who batter only do it in self-defense.” “I wonder what he did, to make her do that?”

There are a lot of myths floating around.

In these pages, we present men’s stories, in their own words.

Story 1:

Another man, whose story is not here e-mailed me:

“I have a problem.

I feel that, if I report my wife, I will be the one that winds up in custody.

When I mentioned dialing 911 while my wife was hitting me with a skilet this morning, she told me to “Go ahead – I will just tell them that I was defending myself”.

Story 2:

“My wife—in one of her drunken rages—took our daughter’s baseball bat and used it to smash the locked door to my study, where I was trying desperately to meet a deadline. And since I’m over 6 feet tall and muscular, I wouldn’t get much sympathy posing as a “battered man!”: I had thought of calling the police that night. When I recalled this incident to my divorce lawyer some time later, his response was: “It’s a good thing you didn’t, because the police probably would have arrested you.”
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Continue reading…

http://www.batteredmen.com/gjdvstor.htm

Learn more about DVAM on my Facebook page

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[DVAM] Violence against men – Wikipedia

Excerpts from this Wikipedia article offer insights into just how imbalanced the reporting and understanding of Domestic Violence Against Men (DVAM) really is….!

Violence by women against men is widespread and underreported. The official figure in the United Kingdom, for example, is about 50% of the number of acts of violence by men against women, but there are indications that only about 10% of male victims of female violence report the incidents to the authorities, mainly due to taboos and fears of misunderstanding created by a culture of masculine expectations.[9]

A report from Canada even found men to be more than 22% more likely to be victims of spousal violence than women.[9][10] Sexual violence by women against men is even more taboo and even less studied or recognized.[11]

Men who are victims of domestic violence are at times reluctant to report it or to seek help. There is also an established paradigm that only males perpetrate domestic violence and are never victims.[26] As with other forms of violence against men, intimate partner violence is generally less recognized in society when the victims are men.[27][28]

Violence of women against men in relationships is often ‘trivialized'[3][29][30] due to the supposed weaker physique of women; in such cases the use of dangerous objects and weapons is omitted.[3] Research since the 1990s has identified issues of perceived and actual bias when police are involved, with the male victim being negated even whilst injured.[31]

Writing for TIME, Cathy Young (http://time.com/3432838/emma-watson-feminism-men-women/) criticised the feminist movement for not doing enough to challenge double standards in the treatment of male victims of physical abuse and sexual assault.[22]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Violence_against_men

[DVAM] Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help – MayoClinic.org

Prevailing stereotypes about Domestic Violence are making it so easy for cunning female offenders to get their male victims vilified as the abusers!

These manipulative women know how the system works, and they are “gaming” it to have their way at the expense of their intimate male partners.

Thankfully, we have females with integrity speaking out about this harmful trend (e.g Toyin Omoniyi, a female Nigerian Lawyer in her excellent piece titled Domestic Violence Against Men by Toyin Omoniyi (TyLegal))

And these fair minded females are demanding more recognition for DV Against Men.

Most are mothers to sons and siblings to brothers who they’ve seen suffer serious abuse at the hands of female partners.

Many are joining the movement to inform and educate, as are the men in their lives.

The information in the truly excellent (!) article published by the famous Mayo clinic (MayoClinic.org) – which is previewed/linked below – can help you get started learning what you need to know, to identify and stop DVAM

So I say this to you now…

If you’re male, lookout for the signs for YOUR own sake…

If you’re parent to someone who is male, and you really care for him lookout for the signs for HIS sake…,

If you’re uncle/aunt/brother/sister or relative to someone who is male, lookout for these signs for HIS sake…,…

Domestic violence against men: Know the signs – Mayo Clinic

Domestic violence against men isn’t always easy to identify, but it can be a serious threat. Know how to recognize if you’re being abused — and how to get help.

By Mayo Clinic Staff

Women aren’t the only victims of domestic violence. Understand the signs of domestic violence against men, and know how to get help.

Recognize domestic violence against men

Domestic violence — also known as intimate partner violence — occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. It can happen in heterosexual or same-sex relationships.

Continue reading…

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence-against-men/art-20045149

 

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A new generation of shrewdly manipulative and cunningly abusive women are using protective systems put in place by society to exploit males that are their intimate partners.

In other words, they are gaming the system and by so doing are making a mockery of the eFforts to stop domestic violence by exploiting stereotypes about males being the only perpetrators, to abuse their partners at will while readily adopting the accepted posture of “victim in self-defence” when their actions come under scrutiny.

What they do, they teach other women and their own daughters, who rarely know better.

We need to fight and stop this trend. Our sons, brothers, fathers, uncles and other loved ones who beloing to the male gender, remain at grave risk if we don’t.

That’s why I’ve launched the page described below…

Page Name:

Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It

Page Description:

This page is dedicated to empowering men who find themselves, by some accident of fate on the receiving end of abuse from an intimate female partner.

Page URL:

https://facebook.com/stopdvambytks/

DISCLAIMER: I Do Not Sell Fish etc!!! [Suspected Impersonator/Attempts to Discredit Me]

This is the 2nd or 3rd time I’m getting this kind of bothersome feedback.

It would appear some person(s) have been impersonating me in relating with Farm CEOs and other stakeholders.

A member of my Farm Business Ideas club – Tunde Okunuga – called me up at 08.56 this morning to say he’d referred his brother based in Ede to me a while back, and that the latter said he had been corresponding with me – claiming that I had even sold FISH to him!!!

Fish ke! Where would I keep them? Ede is a location I have never gotten a single call from. This made no sense at all!!

My mouth was hanging on the floor by this time, and I recalled a Real Estate CEO who’d told me a “Tayo Solagbade” – with a different photo from mine – had been sending him messages!

Beliow is the SMS I sent him after the call, which I post here as a precursor to a formal disclaimer I will publish later.

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Hey Tunde.

I just spoke with MTN call center about your assertion that Alfa, in Ede, spoke with me on phone, noting that I never got such a call and have never heard that name or had an enquiry from Ede in my life.

Neither do I sell fish to anyone! The operative at my instance checked and found no active call direct on my line. A

s things stand it would be useful for me to speak with your brother to get a better idea of what’s going on.

Do respond.

Tayo

NB: I have since not been able to reach Tunde Okunuga on his line for some strange reason. And he has yet, as at this moment (4p.m) to reply my above SMS.

UPDATE (17th April 2017 @ 20:21): Tunde, who is on my newsletter mailing list, replied to the email broadcast version of THIS post, which I sent out, saying he would call his brother today, to find out what was really going on, noting that it did appear that someone was using my name. I’ll be posting any feedback he sends me, here, as soon as I get it,

[DVAM] It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com

[TIP: Yesterday, I formally launched my new Facebook page named “Domestic Violence Against Men – Ideas for Identifying & Stopping It“. The page is dedicated to empowering men who find themselves, by some accident of fate on the receiving end of abuse from an intimate female partner. Click here to visit it].

The Huffington Post article previewed and linked below, is yet another (like this one from yesterday) in a series that I’m compiling to SHOW clearly that DVAM is a major reality that is being ignored by most stakeholders, especially those tasked with duty of providing support and protection to abused persons.

This neglect of male victims of domestic abuse by females, is being exploited by a growing number of manipulative females to visit serious physical, emotional and psychological abuse on their partners, knowing prevailing stereotypes about domestic violence will make it easy to later claim to be the victims!

I have seen this happen MANY times over the past decade. So I speak from a position of personal knowledge and experience when I make these assertions. My mission is to influence a positive and permanent change in THIS unsatisfactory situation for the better.

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It’s Time to Acknowledge Male Victims of Domestic Violence – By Bari Zell Weinberger, Esq. – huffingtonpost.com

When we discuss domestic violence, it is often assumed that the victims are women. And the statistics are truly traumatic. The less-told story is that a striking number of men are victims, too, suffering physical, mental and sexual abuse in both heterosexual and same-sex relationships.

According to the CDC, one in four adult men in the U.S. will become a victim of domestic violence during his lifetime. That’s upwards of three million male domestic violence victims every year, or one man in America abused by an intimate or domestic partner every 37.8 seconds.

Highlighting these statistics is not meant to downplay in any way domestic violence among women. It is, however, intended to add to the growing conversation that anyone can be the victim of domestic abuse and everyone who needs protection deserves access to it.

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