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[DVAM] HIGH‐CONFLICT CONTACT DISPUTES: EVIDENCE OF THE EXTREME UNRELIABILITY OF SOME CHILDREN’S ASCERTAINABLE WISHES AND FEELINGS – Family Court Review | An Interdisciplinary Journal

This research paper’s findings speak for themselves. It was authored by “a child psychiatrist who acts as an expert witness within the family courts of England & Wales“.

Here’s an excerpt from his conclusion that I found powerfully compelling, and highly noteworthy:

I conclude that courts might exercise caution when evaluating the views of children and young people in this situation, and emphasises that assessors should consider including at least one observation of the child at a prolonged visit to the NRP. Because of the new orthodoxy some parents may be tempted to misuse their child’s right to a “voice” in court in order to achieve their own ends. Practitioners who advise courts may need to be more aware of these difficulties– Kirk Weir, Child Psychiatrist and Author of the Reviewed Paper

I preview/link to it below, as a follow up to the preceding recommended article that discusses “when kids lie, why they lie etc (which is also linked to at the bottom of the page”.

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HIGH‐CONFLICT CONTACT DISPUTES: EVIDENCE OF THE EXTREME UNRELIABILITY OF SOME CHILDREN’S ASCERTAINABLE WISHES AND FEELINGS

Abstract

This article challenges an increasing orthodoxy regarding the weight which courts might place upon the expressed views of children in a specific situation—high‐conflict contact disputes. I am a child psychiatrist who acts as an expert witness within the family courts of England & Wales. I have conducted a statistical analysis of cases in which I have conducted assessments of children caught in such disputes between their separated parents.

Fifty‐eight children met the criteria for inclusion in the study—the child’s consistent opposition to contact with the non resident parent (NRP), despite the court having determined that there was no good reason to constrain contact.

My assessment routinely included attempted observation of the child at a visit with the NRP. Despite their stated views most children had a positive experience in those visits that took place, and despite the fact that most had not seen the NRP for a long time. Overall there was a statistical association between increased resistance to contact and the greater age of the child and the longer the time during which no contact had occurred.

However, the responses of children and young people were unpredictable and it was impossible to conclude that apparent maturity or intelligence was a guide to the reliability of their expressed resistance. The possible reasons for this unreliability are discussed.

I emphasize that my sample of children is unusual as many of the cases had involved serious, though unfounded, allegations of abuse. In addition most of the children showed indications of having become “alienated” from the NRP.

I conclude that courts might exercise caution when evaluating the views of children and young people in this situation, and emphasises that assessors should consider including at least one observation of the child at a prolonged visit to the NRP. Because of the new orthodoxy some parents may be tempted to misuse their child’s right to a “voice” in court in order to achieve their own ends. Practitioners who advise courts may need to be more aware of these difficulties.

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https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1744-1617.2011.01414.x

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[DVAM] When children lie and why they lie and why people who work with separated families should know that they lie and why

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PII 144: Outline of Multiple Benefits for Attendees of my Paid Speaking Events on Entrepreneurship

With the exception of my speaking event on Using Pineapple Peels to Make Drinks You Can Sell, which is ALWAYS FREE ALL my other speaking events are provided for a moderate fee that I communicate to the Event Planner/Decision Makers.

My goal is to make attendees of my events learn what will REALLY boost their chances of success. Below is an outline of multiple benefits attendees will gain access to IN ADDITION to what they hear me say.

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PII 144: Outline of Multiple Benefits for Attendees of my Paid Speaking Events on Entrepreneurship

With the exception of my speaking event on Using Pineapple Peels to Make Drinks You Can Sell, which is ALWAYS FREE ALL my other speaking events are provided for a moderate fee that I communicate to the Event Planner/Decision Makers.

My goal is to make attendees of my events learn what will REALLY boost their chances of success.

Below is an outline of multiple benefits attendees will gain access to IN ADDITION to what they hear me say.

1. I Offer Information Products Describing Viable Business Ideas They Can Launch

I personally conduct interviews with established individuals in key fields and publish. The idea is to enable attendees explore ways to start-up with minimal funds. It’s often best to test the waters of entrepreneurship, with low capital overheads business ideas, to retain worthwhile profits.

Attendees will be grateful to have this kind of useful resource – because it will save the money!

2. I Offer Information Products Describing Guiding Philosophies They Need for Entrepreneurial Success

Most retirees or first time start-ups RARELY know many non-technical requirements for business success. Very few trainers talk about it. Attendees just learn the technicalities of the business. And then they launch out.

But they often lack the mental attitude to make it – especially when things get tough (which is often)!

I provide attendees a reliable reference document they can consult to draw inspiration, and ideas, to cope with INEVITABLE adversity in business can help them keep going till they succeed.

Example: My 80 page “Entrepreneur’s Survival Reference Manual” – Written in 2004
I wrote this “manual” originally for myself. I used to read and re-read it to remind myself to retain the right mental attitude in spite of great setbacks.

Later, I began offering it for sale (spiral bound and photocopied). A FREE 4 hour workshop is announced on the cover. See www.tinyurl.com/tks25mistakes

25 Avoidable Mistakes No One Will Warn You About In Starting Your OWN Business – in Nigeria.

3. I Provide a Business Start-Up Support Service for Your Attendees Post-Event

a. I can prepare feasibility study packs for intending start-ups or prospective retirees. And I will offer to help them work through it to implementation.

b. My talk can be prepared to highlight key factors that can prevent start-ups from succeeding in their local environment. I will actually investigate their real life socio-economic environment, to verify what’s worked.

c. I can Setup an Entrepreneur Support Network for Start-Ups for attendees. This goes beyond the learning event proper. I am convinced it’s a crucially important requirement.

I can Setup a coaching support network for attendees who (after attending my speaking event) decide to start their own enterprises. I ALWAYS have an emotional investment in my attendees, hence this opportunity is offered a zero cost.

I strongly believe entrepreneurship learning events MUST offer attendees an opportunity to get long term support and coaching, from competent experts. The journey to success is rarely a short one. I aim to make a massive difference in people’s lives, by being accessible post-learning-events, for the long term – even if only via phone or email.

The idea is to help attendees through the start-up phase, till they can stand on their own. I’ve seen enough for well over a decade of my OWN experiences, to know this is so important.

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PII 142: Ideas for Unmasking and Dealing With Narcissists Anywhere, Anytime [Featuring “Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions” – from HigherPerspectivesDotCom]

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Narcissists are what I like to call “conscience-less MASTER manipulators”. To be one, you must be a pathological liar and someone with near zero Emotional Intelligence i.e an extreme disregard for other people’s feelings.

I have had to LIVE and relate closely with two different narcissists (one half the age of the other and of a different gender) at various stages of my life.

Mayo Clinic’s definition is particularly useful for painting a clear picture of what a person with NPD is like:

“Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in whi

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PII 142: Ideas for Unmasking and Dealing With Narcissists Anywhere, Anytime [Featuring “Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions” – from HigherPerspectivesDotCom]

[DISCLAIMER: This issue of my weekly Performance Improvement Ideas (PII) newsletter is a special public information and education service. However, nothing I offer here should be taken to be professional advice. It’s simply experience based information and education that I have chosen to share, because sharing done by others has helpe me to deal with my own challenges many times. Consult relevant professionals if you need help]

Narcissists are what I like to call “conscience-less MASTER manipulators”. To be one, you must be a pathological liar and someone with near zero Emotional Intelligence i.e an extreme disregard for other people’s feelings.

I have had to LIVE and relate closely with two different narcissists (one half the age of the other and of a different gender) at various stages of my life.

Mayo Clinic’s definition is particularly useful for painting a clear picture of what NPD is:

“Narcissistic personality disorder — one of several types of personality disorders — is a mental condition in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, troubled relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of extreme confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism”(Source: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/narcissistic-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20366662)dvam-npd-mayo

I assure you, they are the worst kind of TOXIC person one can ever have to deal with.

Most times you’re better of getting away to achieve zero or minimal contact, if your well being (especially psychological/emotional) is NOT to suffer.

Sadly, I have found that sometimes people do NOT even realize they are with a Narcissist, because they do NOT know the signs. Then there are those who know, but feel helpless about what to do.

I say this based on many personal experiences and observations, and the resultant damage on those victims I have witnessed. This is what convinced me of a need to create a resource to help others detect and deal with these kinds of wicked personalities in their lives.

By way of interest, narcissists are particularly bad for kids – so if you have one as a spouse or influential adult in the life of your child, KNOW that your child needs to be protected from that individual, before it is too late.

I believe no one has the right to subject others to such a painful existence as narcissists do. I know what it feels like to be at the receiving end of such person’s negative ministrations. Believe me, it can rapidly turn you into an emotional and psychological wreck.

I survived and fought back successfully because I was relentless in learning ways to do so – even while dealing with them.

However, my ability to handle people I’ve found with Narcissistic Personality Disorder took time to develop. I realize not everyone has the capacity to endure and persist in finding a way out like I did.

This is why I’m preparing a special slideshow presentation that offers information and education to empower others. The damage I have seen narcissists do to people is simply too GREAT for me to ignore!

Click here if you want to be notified when my special slideshow becomes available for download.

For now, I recommend you read the aptly titled article on this theme, previewed and linked below:

Inside the narcissist’s wicked mind and their make-believe world of illusions

Narcissists are everywhere you turn in life.

You exercise alongside them at the gym, chat with them at the grocery store, worship with them at church, cheer on your kids together at youth sporting events.

They radiate qualities you admire and aspire to like confidence, a sense of humor, and the innate ability to know exactly what to say in any given situation.

Continue reading the above previewed article – click here

PS: Click here if you want to be notified when my special experience based educational slideshow on dealing with persons having NPD becomes available for download.

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[PHOTO SLIDESHOW] 9 Year Old Oluoma Plaits “Evelyn King” Hairstyle for 12 Year Old Temiloluwa On Sun 28/10/2018

The photos in the slideshow linked below show Oluoma, my 9 year old girl (recovering from a bout of Mumps) plaiting her older sister’s hair in the style for school.

Apart from hair styling. the girls and their brothers bake various confectionaries e.g. cake, cookies, pizza, bread, chin-chin, puff-puff in addition to making drinks from pineapple peels which they even sold in their former school.

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[RECOMMENDED] Education that can’t create jobs is useless –Ngige

This news report quoting Nigeria’s Minister of Labour and Employment, resonates greatly with me, because the minister’s expresses a view that perfectly captures the sentiments I have repeatedly expressed about today’s conventional schooling system.

It uses an obsolete curriculum which does VERY little to prepare learners to achieve income earning success post-schooling. Thanks to Adebowale Temitope for sending me the link to this report.

Like I have told anyone who cared to listen, THIS is why I temporarily pulled my kids out of the schooling system and immersed them in various vocational skills based training experiences, to complement their academic education. I believe today’s schools need a total overhaul of their curricula, to include at least 50% vocational skills training on a daily basis for learners.

Read: [BPP] This 2016 Viral Video Sues “School” for Killing Creativity, Individuality and being Intellectually Abusive

Enough of the time, money and effort wasting excessive focus on exclusive book based learning. Education needs to be customized for each learner. Our schools need to accept this, if they want to produce “graduates’ who don’t end up unemployable, and incapable of self-employment.

Education that can’t create jobs is useless –Ngige

The Minister of Labour and Employment, Dr Chris Ngige, says education that is not directed towards job creation is useless.

Ngige, therefore, said there was a need for schools to revise their current curricular to reflect modern challenges and development, according to a statement by the Director of Press at the Ministry of Labour, Samuel Olowookere.

Continue…

https://punchng.com/education-that-cant-create-jobs-is-useless-ngige/

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  1. Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You & Your Child! [How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools]
  2. Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself [Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner-Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!]

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[BPP] This 2016 Viral Video Sues “School” for Killing Creativity, Individuality and being Intellectually Abusive

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This 2016 viral video (Over 10 million views & 25k comments between YouTube and Facebook in its first FOUR days!) perfectly captures the essence of the message I’ve been preaching about the SERIOUS FLAWS in our Modern Schooling System that make learners’ exposure to it, insufficient preparation for success achievement.

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I only watched it for the first time 2 days ago (on 2nd Oct. 2018), but I’ve been pleasantly surprised to find key points, examples, analogies, and illustrations it uses are some of those I discussed in my 2018 published 62 page paper titled “Schooling is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself” and the shorter sequel “Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You and Your Childe.g the quote about school “making fish climb trees” & references to Finland, Khan Academy, Montessori etc.

Click the link or the thumbnail image of the cover below, to download and read the verbatim text transcript slideshow I’ve prepared/watch the video at the end, to LEARN why you need to DEMAND TOTAL OVERHAUL of the School System.

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TIP: Join my WhatsApp group to get download link to a mobile friendly MP4 version of the video you can watch offline (see instructions below)

Published as a Spoken Word Poetic rendition by the rapper Prince EA in 2016, this video boldly calls out the Modern Day Schooling System for its potentially “lethal” negative impact on learners.

This video explains why/how modern day schooling may hurt your child.

The compelling case made against today’s ANTIQUATED schooling system, uses a court room prosecution style against a symbolic representative of the schooling system (as defendant).

If your society refuses (or is slow) to eliminate those negatives, it’s up to you to protect your child from them and provide him/her what is missing from available schooling.

Only persons UN-willing to be objective will fault the arguments presented in this video… and in my White Paper/the sequel to it

Click here to download the slideshow

Like I’ve repeatedly said in my writing, on this theme, the harmful attributes of our schooling system, coupled with endemic corruption, drove me to (temporarily) withdraw my kids from the system, and develop/implement an alternative educational model, that I call a Vocational Skills Based Educational System.

My adopted approach involves use of a tool I call a “Life Skills Training Matrix” that enables me customize learning for each child, based on his/her unique needs, interests and talents/gifts, so s/he end up with useful competence to succeed in or out of paid employment.

Text me your WhatsApp Number via +234-803-302-1263 (not my WhatsApp no!) and I’ll add you to my Best Practice Parenting™ group where download links to my 62 page White Paper and the 17 page report sequel are accessible.

The Life Skills Training Matrix is a tool I developed to CUSTOMIZE education for EACH of my kids to ensure they actualize their full God given potentials in life by maximizing their unique gifts/talents.

I strongly recommend that other parents adopt a similar approach to ensure their kids get a truly balanced education that equips them to achieve financial and material success, with fulfilment in life.

For those looking for help, I offer a special Best Practice Parenting Coaching program for members of groups and organisations, in which I explain how to design a custom Life Skills Training Matrix for ANY child – or indeed ANY adult…and how to use it.

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  1. Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You & Your Child! [How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools]
  2. Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself [Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner-Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!]

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PII 134 – [DVAM] Ideas to Empower Women Without Emasculating Men [Five (5) Suggestions for women empowerment experts that may need to review domestic violence accusations while mediating between disputing couples]

We need to protect women from abuse and empower them to actualize their full potentials. However, we must not do this blindly. The needs and rights of men must also be protected. Reports indicate that some women do batter their male partners and know how to game the system to cover their tracks. This trend can – and should – be reversed, if worthwhile benefits are to be achieved. In this report, I offer five (5) suggestions about what can be done, and how to stop wrong things happening to men, when we try to empower women.

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PII 134 – Ideas to Empower Women Without Emasculating Men [Five (5) Suggestions for women empowerment experts that may need to review domestic violence accusations while mediating between disputing couples]

We need to protect women from abuse and empower them to actualize their full potentials. However, we must not do this blindly. The needs and rights of men must also be protected. Reports indicate that some women do batter their male partners and know how to game the system to cover their tracks. This trend can – and should – be reversed, if worthwhile benefits are to be achieved.

In this report, I offer five (5) suggestions about what can be done, and how to stop wrong things happening to men, when we try to empower women.

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[FREE PDF] Challenging Your Kids to Do Things for Themselves is NOT Bad Parenting: The Mistake Some Parents Make That Makes Their Kids Unable to Succeed In-spite of Adversity

Click the link below the preview that follows, to download and read my latest PDF report on Best Practice Parenting.

Title: Challenging Your Kids to Do Things for Themselves is NOT Bad Parenting

Subtitle: The Mistake Some Parents Make That Makes Their Kids Unable to Succeed In-spite of Adversity
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In my 62 page White Paper titled “Schooling is a Means to an End, and Not an End in Itself”, I noted that many of today’s parents have been sold the dummy, that if they challenge their kids to do things for themselves, they would be BAD parents.

Read this report to find out why this is a BIG mistake.

It offers eye-opening insights that wise parents can use to empower their kids to become competent income earning adults in society early in life, with or without access to paid employment opportunities.

Click here to download the PDF report now – no subscription required.

 

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PII 132 – Part 2 of 2 [New Report] Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You, and Your Child – Best Practice Parenting Ideas

In this second and concluding part of the PII 132 issue of my weekly newsletter, I offer a preview of  my new 14 page report titled “Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You, and Your Child”.

As more people have engaged me on what I’m saying, I’ve found many would not take the time to read the White Paper, yet wanted to voice opinions on what I was proposing/doing.

Most times it was apparent they did NOT fully understand that what I propose is meant to COMPLEMENT, and NOT replace the existing schooling system. And it certainly does NOT mean I am saying MY kids will no longer attend school.

Hopefully, those who read this will better understand, and go on to read the White Paper itself.

Please share with any persons you feel may find them useful.

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Title: Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You, and Your Child

Subtitle: How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools

Pages: 14

Format: PDF

Preamble: This 14 page PDF report offers an introduction to, and justification for an alternative educational model I proposedfor adoption in my 62 page White Paper that got me invited by the Ministry of Youth and Social Development earlier this year (2018).

That White Paper is titled: Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself…and it’s subtitled: Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!

Introduction

Introduction

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn,unlearn, and relearn. ” – Alvin Toffler

I always feel great empathy for people who blindly criticize me for the unconventional steps I’m taking to give my kids what I call Real World Relevant Education, that prepares them to succeed as competent income earning adults who thrive in or paid employment.

I feel for such people, because they miss an opportunity to learn empowering truths that can make them better parents – and better people, in the long term.

I’ve done thousands of hours of research and thinking – using myself as an experimental guinea pig of sorts – to uncover hidden truths that I reveal in my White Paper.

The insights I’ve gained tell me we CAN make our schooling system serve OUR kids better than it did US!

So, for those who may feel they are too busy to read 62 pages (there are some things ONE MUST NEVER be too busy to read though), but who question my ideas and actions, I’ve prepared THIS report to offer an overview of the ideas advocated in my 62 page paper…in the hope that THIS report will make you read THAT paper.

All I ask is that you keep an open mind when you do…

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  2. Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself [Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner-Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!]

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PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2

He lost his wealthy father at the tender age of 7, and along with 5 siblings had to be cared for by a struggling mother (who was deserted by family members and her husband’s friends)

But by the time he clocked 16, he was already earning $3,000 to 5,000 USD monthly, writing for international clients from his humble dwelling in Nigeria’s ancient city of Ibadan.

Today, he’s been featured as the “Ultimate Nigerian Business Success Story” on top platforms across the world, like Forbes.com and Business Insider.

And despite being just in his early 20s, he already owns a 50 acre (300 plots) parcel land with a thriving catfish farm business whch he runs on it, having invested some of his Internet earnings into the offline business.

How did he achieve all this, when he started out with next to nothing you wonder?

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PII 132 – NOT Being A Conventional Parent: A Proven Parenting Success Secret [True Stories + Ideas You Can Use] – Part 1 of 2

He lost his wealthy father at the tender age of 7, and along with 5 siblings had to be cared for by a struggling mother (who was deserted by family members and her husband’s friends)

But by the time he clocked 16, he was already earning $3,000 to 5,000 USD monthly, writing for international clients from his humble dwelling in Nigeria’s ancient city of Ibadan.

Today, he’s been featured as the “Ultimate Nigerian Business Success Story” on top platforms across the world, like Forbes.com and Business Insider.

And despite being just in his early 20s, he already owns a 50 acre (300 plots) parcel land with a thriving catfish farm business whch he runs on it, having invested some of his Internet earnings into the offline business.

How did he achieve all this, when he started out with next to nothing you wonder?

Especially doing what he does working in a very difficult socioeconomic environment like Nigeria (with erratic power supply and Internet connectivity), PLUS having to deal with the discrimination from some potential clients, due to the negative image of Nigerians created by 419ers?

Being the diligent student of success and human bevariour that I am, I have studied this chap for a while, since I first discovered him in 2014 or so. And here’s what my findings tell me:

1. He had exposure, very early in life to what is called TRIAL BY FIRE, and luckily for him, he USED it to build himself up for success.

Evidence that I’m right can be readily deduced from the following statement, he made in an interview published online:

“Losing my dad taught me a lot. It taught me tenacity: persistent determination. From the age of seven, other than God, I’ve had to do most things on my own; no fatherly support or resources to make things ‘manifest’ for me. As a result, I grew up being highly independent and persistent. A fighter of sorts, I grew up learning that if you want something, you demand and fight for it; and you don’t give up until you get it… because there is no dad who is going to give it to you. You either get it, or you don’t. For me, this lesson is more valuable than anything else a father could have given me. When I want something, I go for it… and I don’t give up until I get it. This tenacity is God’s gift to the fatherless, and I’m taking it with me all my life.” – Bamidele Onibalusi, Source: Losing my dad at 7 taught me how not to give up—Onibalusi, 24-year-old celebrated guest blogger/

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Note to reader: I first wrote about this young man on my blog back in 2014, when an elderly Swedish lady who connected with me on Facebook told me that HE was HER idol. Since then I’ve written several pieces about him, a recent one being: Choosing The Right Role Models for Success Achievement – What to Look For [Case Study: 21 year old Ibadan-based Nigerian freelance writer/blogger, who earns thousands of dollars writing for international clients AND also makes money from a Catfish Farm Business he started 1 year ago!]

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2. BUT  apart from exposure to trial by fire, he also did NOT have any OBLIGATIONS to fulfill that could have distracted him from maintaining his focus on doing what was required to achieve the success he needed.

This second factor is quire important – believe me. I know what it feels like to try pursuing success of this kind while having a family to support. It’s much more difficult!

This is why successful people strongly recommend starting as early as possible. And that’s why I’m supporting my kids to do just that.

Sadly, too many Nigerian parents do NOT understand the need for this.

They unwisely tell their kids to wait and finish school first!

Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Richard Branson, and many others including Robert Kiyosaki started long while they were STILL in school – and some even dropped out at some point to continue. Later, they came back and finished their schooling.

Now, it might interest you to know that the young man Onibalusi, is today sponsoring his own university studies using money he makes from his online and offline business.

Like I always say, if you lack money, there is a limit to how much formal schooling you can easily access in most societies.

So learning to make money as early as possible in life, can be to your advantage in so many ways. Smart parents will teach their kids to do it. There is just no better way to empower your child to excel in life as an adult.

It may NOT be conventional or popular to insist that your kids learn income earning vocational skills on a 50:50 basis alongside their academics, on a daily basis, for instance.

But the results you get, which will equip the child with useful real world relevant life skills that your child will OWN forever, will prove you right in the long run – and make your child grateful that you made him/her do it.

The true story linked below, provides a real life example of how I use the ideas I’ve shared above. Click the link or image to learn more.

PII 128 – Commandment No. 5 of 10 – You Shall Confidently Offer to Solve Real Life Problems For Your Target Audience [Features TRUE STORY of Teenager Who Started Making Custom Shoes for Himself Because Shoe Sellers Rarely Have Shoes Fitting His Size 46 Feet]

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NB: The second and concluding part of this special report will be published on this blog tomorrow.

 

Get these 2 FREE PDF Downloads on Best Practice Parenting and Education from Me When You Join my Best Practice Parenting Group on Whatsapp

  1. Stop Letting Nigerian Schools Cheat You & Your Child! [How Nigeria’s Law About Children’s “Right to Basic Education” Is Made Impotent Via “Poor Quality Education” Children Get Served DAILY in MANY Nigerian Schools]
  2. Schooling Is a Means to an End, and NOT an End In Itself [Hard Truths Parents, Teachers & Policy Makers Need to Understand, to “Educate” Kids for “Authentic Non-Corner-Cutting Success” in the 21st Century!]

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