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SNEAK PREVIEW: How We Cheaply Make Cup Cakes without an Oven or Cooker (PDF) – By Tayo, Fela, Emeka,and Chika SOLAGBADE

This is a precursor to our forthcoming Quick Start Guide Book titled “How to Cheaply Make Cup Cakes without an Oven or Cooker & Sell Them for Profit” – based on what we do, as a family.

Details of the book’s contents are supplied at the end of this PDF, which – for now – offers some background about why we do what we do, the way we do it.

PLUS, a little peek into an impromptu real life production session we had yesterday – Tuesday 8th October 2014!

This is a precursor to our forthcoming Quick Start Guide Book titled “How to Cheaply Make Cup Cakes without an Oven or Cooker & Sell Them for Profit” – based on what we do, as a family.

Start Something You Never Need to Retire From (Hint: Why We All Need to Emulate Muhammad Ali – the BOXER, and the MAN!)

“When you saw me in the boxing ring fighting, it wasn’t just so I could beat my opponent. My fighting had a purpose. I had to be successful in order to get people to listen to the things I had to say.” – MUHAMMAD ALI, The Soul of a Butterfly

I recently watched a video – click here to watch now – of Muhammad Ali (at age 35) speaking to a large audience (comprising adults and kids). A young boy asked him “What will you do when you retire?” Ali’s answer proved his boxing genius was matched by an acute sense of “life purpose”.

Basically, Ali told the young mane and the listening audience how he’d emerged from deep reflection to realize that after he retired from boxing, the best way to spend his time would be helping others.

Now, he did not just state it simply in a few words. Ali – always a man who practiced what he preached – took the audience on what I would call an intellectual journey of self-discovery. Especially as it relates to finding one’s purpose in line with the creator’s will.

In order to prepare their minds, Ali started by asking if there were people in the audience who believed in God. Then he asked to see the hands of any who did NOT believe there was a God. In both cases there were hands raised.

To one of those closest to him amongst the latter group, Ali then used the analogy of how the different parts of the world came into existence.

But before that he took asked if man made objects we use daily – like cups etc – could have made themselves. The answer was no.

Following upon that, he then asked if those who claimed not to believe in God could explain how such well planned collection of parts that make up the earth came into being.

Ali went on to conclude that the amazing complexity of the earth itself provided ample proof that a superior and supreme form on intelligence, well above ours, was at work.

So, for him, he said that was why he was convinced of God’s existence.

And as a result, he knew there had to be a purpose for which God had made him. Ali added that if Hell – where those who fail to do God’s will are said to be sent – existed, he would rather work to NOT go there after he dies.

In order to achieve that goal of making heaven, Ali said he had thought of the active years in his life outside those spent sleeping etc – and decided he would use his fame and success to help others e.g. by partnering with NGOs and other support groups.

AND THAT, he said was what he would do after he retired from boxing.

What Amazing Foresight from a Man of Real Vision!

Today, everybody knows that Ali has kept his word with regard to what he said on that day. Several decades ago as a young man.

And his fame has not waned up till now. Neither has the respect and admiration AND love he enjoys from people across the world diminished. This is one man with the rare ability to make people forget their differences. The Muhammad Ali Centre continues to carry on the Ali legacy of helping those who need it.

And Ali remains a central figure – even now in his old age, and despite the health challenge he has had to deal with.

His words spoken over the past decades that get shared on the wall of his Facebook page continue to inspire millions across the world. I, for one continue to draw MASSIVE inspiration from this man’s words that I read as a fan on his page.

Each of Us Needs to Emulate Ali – By Choosing to Start Something We Won’t Need to Retire From

Ali did that. He looked beyond his vocation, to carve out a vision – and a mission from the vision.

He had a message for the world, and he was determined to share that message. But he knew the world would not easily pay attention to a person who was not NOTEWORTHY. So, he let that need to make them LISTEN to him drive his boxing efforts.

That led him to explore all sorts of creative ways to draw attention to himself while boxing.

For example, Ali’s habit of using rhyming poems to communicate – especially to opponents – was unique. Till date, no other boxer has succeeded in doing what he did so well.

As a result, even when he was not boxing, he remained in demand.

People wanted not just to SEE him. They also wanted to hear him speak. To know what he thought about issues affecting them. Even to know what his stand was.

Evidence that Ali’s thinking was as described above can be found in material he shares from his archives even today.

For instance, not long ago, he shared a photo of himself, with a quote that helped me better understand why he chose to adopt such a boldly vocal approach to his own brand of boxing.

When you saw me in the boxing ring fighting, it wasn’t just so I could beat my opponent. My fighting had a purpose. I had to be successful in order to get people to listen to the things I had to say. – MUHAMMAD ALI, The Soul of a Butterfly [Click here for source]

Each of us can do what Ali did i.e Use your VISION for the future, to drive yourself to EXCEL at what you do NOW!

No matter what it is. Think of how you can link what you succeed at today, to what you can do well into your later years that can make the lives of others better.

That desire to achieve your long term vision will help you do what it takes to excel in your more immediate pursuits.

Then later on, you will find that the platform of success you arrive on in future, will make it easy to carry on with your bigger vision/mission right into your old age.

That’s why Ali’s impact continues to be felt even today – LONG after he retired from boxing. Each one of us can make our impact felt the same way too – if we emulate the great Muhammad Ali!

“I try not to speak about all the charities I help, because I believe we can only be truly generous when we expect nothing in return.” – Muhammad Ali

 

No. 162: You Need Childish Enthusiasm to Achieve Uncommon Success

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” – Pablo Picasso

I am VERY childishly excitable and I SHOW IT. Not all my clients understand IT, but most like IT, because (IF I take on their project) IT  makes me DELIVER what I promise them.

Unlike Most “Mature & Enlightened” Adults (Whatever That Means), I Don’t Act “Cool, Calm and Collected” When I’m EXCITED!

 

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Publication: Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Newsletter

Date: Monday 6th October 2014

No:162

Title: You Need Childish Enthusiasm to Achieve Uncommon Success

Author & Publisher: Tayo K. Solagbade [Tel: +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic) ]

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No. 162: You Need Childish Enthusiasm to Achieve Uncommon Success

“Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” – Pablo Picasso

I am VERY childishly excitable and I SHOW IT. Not all my clients understand IT, but most like IT, because (IF I take on their project) IT makes me DELIVER what I promise them.

Unlike Most “Mature & Enlightened” Adults (Whatever That Means), I Don’t Act “Cool, Calm and Collected” When I’m EXCITED!

Many “schooled” adults often argue that one must act reserved to command respect.

Well, that’s never worked for me. Instead my willingness to “let myself go” has helped repeatedly record superlative performances in EVERY area of endeavour I have ventured in life.

And believe me, they are many.

Luckily for me, this has always come naturally.

Unfortunately for many I come across however, if they ever had such instincts in them (which I argue they were actually born with as children), society made them GROW out of it, to “qualify” to be called “mature adults” (again; whatever THAT means!)

I’m not asking you to go goofing around in your suit and tie – although I would argue that one should do a bit of that every now and then :-))

Highly successful people like Richard Branson, who alternately does VERY cool, and sometime goofy stuff, have shown that it helps to connect to your target audience in ways that build trust and credibility much faster.

To this end, I am actually planning a series of my own special publicity stunts to be implemented and shared via social media over the next few months.

Let me share with you a massive truth I discovered over 2 decades ago from applying my above mentioned instincts to relentlessly succeed at school, at work, and in life.

“If you refuse to acknowledge and express the “childish” enthusiasm you periodically feel (and you know you feel it!), you’re unlikely to excel at what you do. Period.” – Tayo K. Solagbade

I AM Living Proof That Indulging In “Childlike Imagination and Wonder” Yields Superior Performance

What’s more my extensive studies done DEEP into the successes of many well known figures that caught my interest have repeatedly confirmed that many of them also share my sentiments.

A few quotes I’ve inserted in this article offer examples, but many more abound.

As an expert in your field, nurturing and preserving this mindset of childish enthusiasm and awe towards life, and its LIVING, can prove CRUCIAL to “dusting” any competition you have.

Like I already mentioned above, it is what has helped me excel very many times in various – often unrelated – vocations.

Many of the stories I’ve told on this blog – including my current string of Location Independent Multipreneuring based successes (since I relocated from Nigeria to Benin Republic), – offer verifiable proof.

In case you are a client or have been one in the past, what I say here should (hopefully) help you understand why I always seemed as excited – sometimes MORE! – than even you were about the project YOU hired ME to do for you!

Because I choose to “remain childish” in the way I embrace new discoveries, and new opportunities and new learning, I excel!

That basically sums it up really.

Each time I connect with a client (old or new), I always check to see if a proposed project is one that EXCITES me.

If I do not get a feeling of anticipation, or surge of adrenaline just contemplating it, the hindsight of past experiences often warn me that I may not do well in it.

On the occasions that I have “forced” myself to take on such jobs, I struggled to finish them to MY satisfaction.

Ironically, the  clients expressed satisfaction with the finished work – yet I felt I had not done “enough”!

And that feeling came from knowing that I’d not been on “fire” in doing it i.e that I could have a WHOLE lot more (You see, I have a principle I adhere to, of “under-promising” to “over-deliver” – to each client).

Today, I try hard to avoid taking on such jobs when clients request my services.

Generally, I avoid telling such a client “I’m too busy”. It’s not polite, and can offend.

Instead, if it’s an old client that I hesitate to simply walk away from, I would subtly show my reservation by “delaying” in giving a response to the question of “how much will it cost?

Usually I simply say…”Hmm, let me think about it and get back to you”. Then I generally “forget”. Sometimes s/he may ask again.

If it happens I have another project in hand from the same client, I could tactfully try to redirect his/her attention to an aspect, as an excuse.

If s/he persists, I give him/her a “fee” on the HIGH end that I know is likely to make him/her balk. This last tactic often works – and s/he may eventually choose to find someone else…and I of course NEVER ask about it afterwards!!

The above strategy has often worked for me. If you struggle with a similar dilemma, I recommend you try it.

Final Words: Let Your Enthusiasm Guide Your Decision Making

“I wanted to do two things when I was growing up, about your age. I wanted to play in the NBA, and I wanted to be a businessman after my basketball career was over, and that is what I am doing now.” – Michael Johnson, NBA Basketball Hall of Fame Legend, and Millionaire Entrepreneur

By freeing yourself from doing work that does NOT excite you, it will only be a matter of time before clients offering projects YOU consider exciting – with GREAT pay on top of it – begin to seek you out.

And when that happens, don’t lock up your “childlike imagination”!

They key to “wowing” those clients will be unleashing it.

Plunge into the project with a determination to re-discover even those things you (think you) already know.

EXAMPLE: Practicing What I Preach Above Recently Helped Me Discovered a 100% FREE – Way to Re-Launch My 10 Week Scheduled Flagship Auto Responder Email Course From My Website i.e. www.tayosolagbade.com

It’s titled “10 Ways You Can Use Self-Development to Create The Future You Want”

Last time I ran that auto responder course, it was hosted on a 3rd party service website – which today charges over $25 USD per month.

Since my course was FREE, continuing with that service made no financial sense. So, I took it down. That was in 2004 or so.

But recently, in the process of applying my childish enthusiasm towards implementing the web marketing project for a client here in Cotonou, I spent MANY DAYS researching the web for all sorts of resources.

Last week I stumbled on an amazingly powerful – yet FREE – tool that I have NOW installed on my website.

Not only will it NOW enable me launch an even more powerful lead generation platform on my website (i.e. the e-course), I am already preparing to offer use of this same tool for my clients on THEIR own websites!

In other words, if all goes well, I’m about to generate 2 additional potential income streams.

All this due to my shameless willingness to CHILDISHLY believe enough, to actually INVEST hundreds of hours to find uncommon zero cost ways to make my client’s website EXCEL!

As you can see, there’s a LOT of value to be had in being childish in THIS manner – especially when you do it with a mindset to ADD VALUE to others!

Let’s bring it back home to YOU, as an expert-who-speaks (or aspires to) for instance…

In choosing a niche subject to speak about in your industry, I recommend you let follow your – childlike – intuition/instincts.

How you feel about each topic or subject, should inform your choice.

Final Words: Wherever You Find Yourself Feeling “Awe & Wonder” At Possibilities to be Had in Any Area, Be “Childish” Enough to EXPLORE Them Till You’re S-a-t-i-a-t-e-d!

It could take time before you find a speaking “topic” worth developing for your target niche as an expert-who-speaks.

Sometimes you may need to look closer, dig deeper, and/or even polish or refine what you find.

But eventually, the subject or theme you make your flagship offering should be the one you find most exciting.

Your chosen subject should be the one you feel most UN-inhibited thinking, reading and speaking about.

In other words, the one for which you feel the greatest – shameless – ENTHUSIASM. i.e. that which you are most comfortable responding to questions about – and which comes most naturally to you.

Quite often, going about using the above described approach will lead you to establish yourself as an authority in less time than others who do what you do.

And you would do it with much less effort too!

Now, since meeting planners and audiences always want someone with proven competence, that authority status will make YOUR speaking service offer MORE compelling than whatever most others offer.

The above is why this approach helps those who adopt it to EXCEL:

If you put it to diligent use, it will help YOU EXCEL too!

Now, if only someone had told most of us THIS right when we were kids, we would probably have found our ways to success much earlier. But it’s never too late. You can make the needed changes now – and don’t forget to tell your kids to do the same!

“If parents pass enthusiasm along to their children, they will leave them an estate of incalculable value” – Thomas Edison

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Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organisations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions, web marketing systems/web hosting,

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners).

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible™ and the popular Livestock Feed Formulation Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator™ and the Poultry Farm Manager™ software.

He has delivered talks/papers to audiences in various groups and organisations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods

and others.

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development’s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic to begin slowly traveling across the West African region.

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training & Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management’s(NIM) Young Managers’ competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development™ (SCfS-D™), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited.

When he’s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog – on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin’s Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com and Facebook.

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo’s 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net.

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR “reincarnation” of it the website http://www.tayosolagbade.com.

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts

he’s published.

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.

Click “Tayo, What Happened to SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?” to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))

Here’s an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:

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Every Time You Achieve Success, Find Out Why, So That You Can Reproduce It.

I often groan when I hear a celebrity answer the question about the secret of his/her success by saying something like “Na God O!” (i.e. “It’s God’s handiwork!”).  You see, I also succeed with God’s help. BUT, I KNOW there’s more to success achievement than saying “Na God O!” suggests!

And this is where successful people in developed societies often differ from us.

Read an interview with them, and you’ll come away with practical ideas – sometimes step by step instructions – of how to proceed in trying to replicate the success they are celebrated for.

That is why they are able to write books that offer actionable advice on how to succeed the way they have. It is why they are able to demystify their own success achievement for those following them to learn from, and improve upon.

In our societies across Africa too many successful people rarely offer tangible insights into what made them succeed. But to be fair, sometimes they actually do not know – or have not given it enough thought to articulate it into any useful form.

The truth is NOT all those who say they worship God are able to produce performances that will make them become successful/celebrated personalities!

And that is because there are so many specific actions/steps that successful persons take that those NOT as successful do not take as frequently and/or as diligently.

When The Right Questions Are Asked, More Useful Answers Emerge

I believe that many of the interviewed authentic celebrities I refer to would have loved to give more insight into HOW and WHAT made them succeed, if the right kinds of “probing” questions had been asked of them.

Unfortunately, often times their interviewers are not alert to the need to do this for the enhanced benefit of their viewing/listening audiences.

Anyone who has read transcripts of the popular “Conversations With Millionaires” series will understand what I mean.

I refer to the ability of certain interviewers to ask “probing” questions that get answers OUT OF successful persons, IN A WAY that gives listeners more accurate insight into HOW and WHY the celebrities succeeded.

“Clearer Answers” which would then guide those aspiring to follow the same, proven path, even if with modifications or adjustments.

As they say, “Success leaves a trail…”

Our celebrities need to be “helped” to “remember” what they did (& how), in the manner I propose above.

This is because many of them never really sat down (after having succeeded) to THINK about what they actually did to get the results they wanted – and for which they subsequently became celebrated.

In Africa, We Do Not Currently Investigate & Document Achieved Success ENOUGH

This is a fact.

In our society, if we want success to happen for MORE people, MORE frequently, we need to establish and rigorously maintain systems to INVESTIGATE and DOCUMENT what makes celebrated members of society succeed.

This is so that others who aspire can use the information recorded to achieve similar or greater successes – FASTER and with LESS EFFORT.

One over riding benefit is that society will as a result develop faster, contributing to a better world.

The problem is that in our society, we are too much of “DOERS” – and LESS of thinkers!

Each person is so self focused that s/he hardly ever gives a thought to how s/he can make the journey shorter, and less difficult for those who follow.

Tell him/her to GO for a particular goal, and s/he will.

But most often it will be done in a haphazard manner, and with little or no effort to ANALYSE experiences and document lessons learned for future reference/guidance.

The Result of Doing So Much Without Thinking Enough is: Poor Repeatability & Reproducibility Of Achieved Successes

Following from the above, when things fall in place, s/he takes it in his/her stride without sparing a thought for HOW to make those same things fall in place like THAT again in future – repeatedly.

A direct consequence of that inadvertent oversight, is that when things eventually go WRONG, s/he once again has to adopt the trial and error approach used in the past, until, if s/he is lucky, ANOTHER break through occurs.

For many who use this haphazard approach, it possibly works often. However, compared to the alternative proposed in this article, it can be quite costly in terms of time, effort, and even money.

Summary: Below I list three (3) compelling reasons to AVOID using such a haphazard approach:

1. The stress/strain that will arise from recovering from the problems occasioned by the use of a trial and error approach will wear you down – making the “journey to success” more PAINFUL than it should be.

2. You will be inefficient – because it takes you LONGER and costs you MORE time, effort, resources etc, to get the same results.

3. You won’t improve significantly – meaning you may never become good enough to beat your own “Personal Best”. Look at it this way: Only a sprinter who measures and knows her best 100 metres time is 9.99 seconds can AIM to run faster and therefore cross the line at LESS than that time. To achieve that goal, she will then have to CHECK what she can do better or differently to INCREASE her running speed, then TRY it out, UNTIL she succeeds.

The above potentially negative outcome of failing to investigate and understand why you succeed, is that you will LACK the means to EXPAND or GROW.

This could end up giving critics and/or cynics an opportunity to “question” your success.

Evidence to confirm that what I have said in this article is true, can be readily found when one looks at the number of World Champion Long Distance runners that have come out of an African country like Kenya.

Almost yearly, that country produces World Class athletes who gain quick prominence in international circles.

This happens because Kenya has a SYSTEM in place that enables it to REPEAT and REPRODUCE its athletic successes. I have listened to interviews conducted with athletes from that country, and the answers they gave to questions asked confirm this.

Final Words: Check Yourself – Do You Know How to Reproduce Your Success?

If you were to look at yourself, your organisation, your society or your country from a similar perspective, is it possible that there are areas where the success(es) achieved in the past now appear to have been just a “flash(es) in the pan”?

IF YES, maybe it’s time you (and/or others concerned), sat down to INVESTIGATE and DOCUMENT why you succeeded back then, so that you can REPRODUCE it NOW and into the future.

NB: This article was first published Online via spontaneousdevelopment.com on16th June 2008.

How Nigeria Can Manifest Real – & LASTING – Benefits of Independence (Hint: A Proven Zero Cost Strategy that INDIVIDUAL Nigerians Can use to Get Nigeria THERE!)

[Update: Uploaded CORRECTED PDF which now has pics – and NO missing text  at 3.50p.m] Today, 1st October 2014, is Independence Day in my country – Nigeria. In this special issue No. 9, of “My Ideas for Making Nigeria Better” series (downloadable below as a PDF), I explain why I believe Nigeria’s ability to reap FULL benefits from her Independence from colonialists, will depend MAINLY on INDIVIDUAL Nigerians learning to THINK and ACT INDEPENDENTLY at ALL times.

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Always Stand Up and Speak Truth on Behalf of Those Who Need It!

I spontaneously help others I identify to need it, without waiting to be asked. And I never expect to get thanked for it. I do not need it.

The only way anyone can thank me is by helping others in the same way!

I never let what anyone wants to do (or is doing) for me, influence my self-esteem.

You see, I fear no one, and am never intimidated by anyone’s success, influence or wealth.

That’s why those who know me accept that I will always speak my mind on ANY issue regardless of whose Ox is gored – even if it’s someone who just did me a favour.

I say this especially with reference to instances I’ve seen unfair treatment being meted out to another person by someone I knew.

You see, I believe every living being deserves to be treated with respect and consideration.

But what I have found out about this strange world we’re in is that too many people pay lip service to preserving values like those mentioned above.

It does not matter if a person is handsome/pretty, ugly, rich, poor or lives on the streets – treat him/her right!

I choose to relate with – and acknowledge – people based on who they are, and not some notion of their status.

For instance, back when I still lived in Nigeria, I often went out of my way – sometimes till well after 12 midnight – to help total strangers.

One time, an innocent Okada (commercial motorcycle rider) got wrongfully picked up by Police, just outside their command.

I followed them into the station, and insisted he be released, because I witnessed what happened and he was not at fault.

For over 3 hours, close to 11.30p.m, I left my car parked outside the police station, and engaged the officers in a debate, over the matter, until they agreed to let him go.

Acts like the above eventually earned me amazingly loyal friendships with some of those I helped.

They would later seek me out, and do things for me that others had to pay for.

Even when I tried to decline, they would insist.

This is what I teach to my kids to do as well…to stand up and speak truth on behalf of those they identify to need it!

Some people dislike me for it, but that’s the way life is.

Everyone cannot like you. But that does not mean we should fail to treat people right – or stand up for them, when we see them being treated wrongly.

My question to you is this…

Those who flock around you, who “like” you…how many are you sure will really stand by you when the chips are down?

I mean in bad times, when associating with you may be perceived as unwise by others, will they STILL stand by you?

What I have learnt is that many people can be amazingly good at hiding their true feelings.

Especially if they feel there is a useful benefit to be had by being on your good side.

So, even when they see you have qualities or faults they detest, they will stick around, and keep telling you they like you.

But that does not mean they will not stab you in the back if they find someone they feel they will benefit more from. Or that they will not look the other way, if they see you getting treated badly.

And what about YOU? Would you stand up for others you identify to be in need of your support?

I certainly hope you do. Like I tell anyone who cares to listen. Every time you do so for someone, you effectively make it possible for someone, at some time in the future, to also do the same thing for you – or for someone you care about!

Know what they about Karma? Well, it’s true. I know, because I have experienced it countless times.

Which is why I’m writing this article and recommending you do what I propose in it.

I’m hopeful that you’ll adopt a positive view of all that I’ve said here, and see if there is any truth in it, that you can act on for the future.

Final Words: This was NOT at attempt to judge or “lecture” anyone.

My purpose was simply to challenge the reader to RESOLVE to be more REAL in his/her interpersonal interactions.

Too many phonies seem to be around in society these days. As a result too few people are speaking and acting truthfully. The result is that we have a lot of dishonesty, deception, happening across society – and especially even within families.

Only those who take the conscious decision to be different, and to remain that way, will emerge unscathed in the end.

The rest, who indulge themselves in these naughty tendencies, will end up wondering why they never achieve sustainable progress at what they do.

This is because whether they like it or not, there are rules, set by the creator, to govern our conduct here on earth. And every person who flouts those rules will attract what could be considered “hidden penalties”.

That will happen because when they begin to manifest, time may have passed so much that we forget the wrong we did, that triggered it.

You don’t want that to happen to you, because it rarely ends well for those who do things that attract such penalties from the creator!

 

Achieving Your Goals Requires This ONE Ingredient (Hint: It’s Not What You Think)

“You may be on the right track – but you will get run over if you remain there” – Anon

5 questions for you to ponder:

1. How come NOT every Harvard graduate becomes “successful” in life?

2. Why do we all have the same MS Excel software on our laptops, yet some of us (like me) can do stuff with it that most others – initially – argue are impossible?

3. Why do people attend the same learning event, get the same handouts and yet perform differently from each other afterwards?

4. Why do some people complain they achieve less than a colleague (who does the same job) because they don’t have “time” (makes no sense does it)?

5. Why do people want to learn to speak French like you, until they learn how much time and effort needs to be devoted to achieving it like you did?

The answer to all those questions is the will (or lack of it) to practice Diligent Self-Development!

That is what ultimately makes the difference between the performer and non-performer.

Or the achiever and non-achiever.

Nine times out of ten, it is what EACH individual goes out of his/her way to learn, and which s/he puts to diligent use, in addition to what s/he has been taught along with others, that gives him/her a competitive edge or comparative advantage.

Look around you at those who out-do others based on merit, in an environment devoid of deliberate manipulation by any persons with vested interests, and you will see it’s true!

Following from the above explanation, I believe the answer is already obvious. To succeed, on a continuous basis, you MUST practice DELIBERATE, RESULTS-FOCUSED Self-Development.

NB: I said “deliberate, results-focused” because too many people claim to do Self-Development, when in actuality what they do is mostly wishful thinking, with little or NO ACTION TAKING. And that of course does NOT equate to real Self-Development!

Here are 4 good reasons to practice deliberate, result-focussed Self-Development…

a. To ensure you always have an edge – a little extra where/when it matters most – to out-perform your rivals or competitors.

b. To ensure you always deliver desired results, or to be able to under-promise, so as to over-deliver, no matter the odds (well almost always).

c. To keep yourself from getting run over (or overtaken by your competitors) as this quote implies:

“You may be on the right track – but you will get run over if you remain there” – Anon

d. So you can recover quickly (“bounce back”) when things go wrong.

Success Comes “Easy” When You Practice DILIGENT Self-Development with Commitment…

Note that word – COMMITMENT!

It is the key to success in life. When you say you want something, quite often it may mean nothing, until you demonstrate that you are prepared to go out and do whatever it takes, for a long as it is necessary, to get it.

Commitment can make you stay up till 4.19a.m (like I am doing RIGHT this moment in my new apartment in Cotonou, Benin Republic) to get an article finished, and published on your blog – that should have gone out before 12 midnight, just over 4 hours ago.

Question: Why did I wait till this late?

Answer: Because I had to work over 18 hours, to put finishing touches to, and dispatch an urgent Poultry Farm Business Plan, to a Nigerian client, who has a meeting with a prospective investor less than 16 hours from now. And I made it.

Yes. You would tell yourself, I AM going to get it done no matter what. Late I may be, but it will not go undone.

In my case, recently having to meet multiple client needs, due to a rapidly growing demand for my services, and products is proving to be a new learning experience for me.

But I trained myself to be a fast learner years ago. So, it’s unlikely to be long before I develop a strategy to permanently address this new need.

Indeed, I’ve already settled on a solution I anticipate will succeed.

And it has to do with building what I call a “publish-ahead” buffer of new write-ups.

If truth be told, I always knew this time would come.

Over a year ago, when I was planning to relocate here in Cotonou, from Nigeria, I’d had to write a whole month’s worth of (Monday to Saturday) articles – about 25 – to use in case I was unable to find time to write while trying to settle down in my new country.

That turned to be a very useful proactive step. I simply used my blog “automated scheduling” feature, to set most of the articles to publish at dates I chose in the future.

During that period, I sometimes stayed 3 or more days at a stretch, without coming online, and yet my articles kept popping up as and when due, on the blog.

Plus the RSS syndication I’d set up as part of my Web Marketing system automatically republished them to my Facebook and Twitter feeds.

Most of my friends probably did not notice I was away all that time – because my wall always had new posts popping up!

Today, I now know I was practising ahead for when I would need to deal with increased work loads.

Like now.

Thankfully, I already possess the self-development discipline to drive myself to step up my game in the face of such challenges.

So, in a few weeks, I should have sorted this all out, and freed myself to be more and do more.

The message to you is that you also may need to critically examine yourself, to identify what is holding you back from getting more done than you currently do.

Critical Thinking Can Save You Money (True Story)

“Even when you can afford it, you can get MORE done with LESS money, if you learn to apply Critical Thinking. Do NOT fall into the habit of throwing money at your problems or goals…” – (me to my kids)

Here’s how 2 of my sons used critical thinking to solve – at ZERO cost – a recent power “cut” problem, which the neighbourhood electrician had earlier demanded N2,500 for…!

That Saturday Morning (in September 2014), the Lights Had Flickered Suddenly & Gone Off

We initially thought it was the usual power cut from the public power company. However, one of the kids coming in from running an errand soon alerted us to the fact that our neighbours lights were still on.

My wife and I went out to see, and soon confirmed it was true. To be sure, I told the kids to start the generator. They did so and when we changed over, nothing happened. It was obvious the current was not getting into the house’s supply line.

Now, none of us had any training (formal or informal) in electrics or electronics.

However, as I have written severally in past articles, my 11 year old son has shown an amazing flair for fixing things especially electricity related. And he’s gotten so good that in our home everyone (including his mother) readily calls on him to fix damaged plugs, replace fuses etc.

That, in addition to the many instances he had used damaged parts from laptops, mobile phones, phone chargers, and old batteries to build useful contraptions (e.g. a crude but functional rechargeable lamp) made me buy him an electrician’s kit for his last birthday present, when I  visited Nigeria.

It was this 11 year old of ours who led his 13 year old brother to begin brainstorming on what the possible causes of the current not getting into the house could be.

On my part, I was too angry, indeed frustrated, to get involved. I thought of calling the neighbourhood electrician, but recalled that the last time I’d visited, I had to contend with his excessive and arbitrary pricing of his services.

That day, I’d had to take him down to the ATM to get more cash to get him off my back for fixing a single ceiling fan and a rewriting job. I knew he’d over charged me, but since I did not know how to do it, and I did not want to leave for Cotonou without fixing the problem, I gave in.

So, when this incident happened, I told myself I would rather wait and find someone else to do it.

What I did not expect was that my kids – who I had always challenged to be curious and to think of ways to solve problems without spending money – would choose to apply what I’d told them that day.

My Wife Decided to Call In the Neighbourhood Electrician

I heard her grumble about how I’d not said anything more about the problem. Then soon after, I heard her call the electrician on the phone. He soon arrived, and promptly asked what the problem was.

She replied that she did not know, and explained that current was not getting into the house from either the public power supply or the generator.

I was in the bedroom and listening without saying a word.

Without even going round to do any checks, this chap quickly announced:

“Aha! Your kids must have put one something that’s caused extensive damage. Ask them to tell you what they put on. I’m sure they’ve cause major damage that needs to be traced and fixed”

His voice had assumed a note of superiority. He sounded sure that no one could challenge him. My wife asked him how much it would cost to find and correct the problem.

He wasted no time in saying “N2, 500” (Two Thousand Five Hundred Naira).

When I heard that, I screamed to myself silently wondering how he could arrive at such an outrageous sum without even doing any checks to ascertain that his suspicions were right.

Indeed, I wondered how he could be so sure it was not even something worse, that would cost more than what he was quoting.

But I kept my protests to myself. I let my wife respond instead. She soon told him that she could not pay that much, and asked for a reduction.

He bluntly refused and then to apply pressure on her, he said “Look, are you ready to pay or not? I have other things to do. If you’re not ready, let me leave.”

My wife told him she could not pay that much. Without saying anything more, he picked up his backpack and left.

Once I heard the gate shut after him, I came out and told my wife and kids that I was convinced it was a good thing to have let him go.

Then I announced that I intended to go out and get someone else to look at the problem and give his opinion. I pointed out how he’d used indirect threats to try forcing her hand, to make her pay up. They nodded in understanding

I returned inside and began dressing up to go out.

Suddenly I heard my 2 sons who had been brainstorming all the while, now screaming excitedly saying “Look, there’s light here!”

In response to a suggestion their mother had made, they had disconnected the plug linked to the panel, and put the wires directly back into the socket.

That had caused the little lamp on the side of the socket to come on – confirming there was current up to that point.

This meant the only reason we did not have current in the house was that the fuse in the 15Amp plug was burnt.

When I joined them, I saw what they were referring to, and told them we needed a new fuse.

Not surprisingly, our 11 year old “electrician” – who has a box in which he collects all sorts of electrical parts – said there would be no need to buy a new 15Amp fuse, as he had one stored away.

He quickly dashed into his room and returned with an old plug he’d salvaged from one of his many “scavenging” walks, and he replaced the bad fuse.

A few seconds later, the lights came back on! This happened less than 15 minutes after the neighbourhood electrician left.

Ecstatic, I called the kids together and said:

“See what I mean about not hurrying to spend money to solve a problem, or achieve any goal? Even when you can afford it, you can get MORE done with LESS money, if you learn to apply Critical Thinking. Do NOT fall into the habit of throwing money at your problems. If we had paid that man N2, 500, he would most likely have made a show of doing a lot of work, to justify taking that much. But he would ultimately, only have replaced this same fuse we have just replaced. And we would never have been the wiser!”

As they eagerly nodded their heads and high-fived themselves, I could see they understood – finally!

I knew it was a lesson they would not forget in a hurry.

Now they knew the electrician (an “expert” of sorts) could be wrong, and that THEY could solve a problem themselves if he walked away!

Nothing Is More Empowering for Children than That

Sadly, too many adults easily get stumped when confronted with the unexpected or unusual.

This makes them easily accept defeat when things turn out differently from what they expect. Children who get an opportunity to solve problems that others walk away from – by applying critical thinking – often come away with greater levels of self-esteem and confidence.

That will often prove invaluable to them in their adult lives. Those they relate with will consequently marvel at their seeming ability to defeat failure or setbacks!

The truth is however that people who achieve long term authentic successes often do so because they never stop thinking up new ways to attack a problem they have.

That eventually leads them to what we call breakthroughs – like the one my kids had. I’m so excited for them, because it means they are well on their way to success in adult life.

Challenge your kids to develop a similar passion for Critical Thinking, and they WILL do even better!

To Perpetually Achieve Noteworthy Success, You May Need To Be Moderate In Your Humility

I once read the following quote in a magazine, and it really hit home with me:

“In all things, apply moderation – including moderation” – Anon

There is, in some societies, this issue of “humility” and how important it is for a person not to appear “proud” or “arrogant”. I believe it is sometimes taken too far. Indeed, my personal experiences convince me that in the real world, one needs to be considerably bold and fearless in pursuing a valued life goal or purpose.

Yes, it is not bad to be humble and unassuming, BUT it is very bad to overdo it!

In this article I explain why it is important for anyone who desires to routinely and repeatedly achieve challenging goals, to demonstrate an unshakeable belief in her ability to do so, evidenced by a readiness to speak/act assertively about it wherever and whenever necessary.

Let’s take Muhammad Ali for example.

As a young boxer, Ali often boldly voiced the affirmation:“I am the greatest!” wherever and whenever he fought. He was perpetually “talking himself up”, employing various adjectives designed to emphasise his superiority over the opponent.

What I found most impressive was the way he repeatedly predicted what he was going to do.

For instance, prior to the fight in which he won the World title for the first time, the press (who dubbed him “The Louisville Lip” for his mouthiness) widely publicised his prediction which was made in the following exact words:

“Yes I predict, and I know the score. I’ll be Champ of the world in ’64!”.

Mohammed Ali knew himself well and knew what he was capable of achieving.

I once had the good fortune to re-watch – on TV – the fight Ali had with Joe Frazier, which he (Ali) lost.

During the press conference after the fight, Frazier read out a speech in which he mentioned how Ali repeatedly said (grunting between words as Frazier’s punches hit him) “Don’t – you – know – I – am – God?”!!

Frazier said he responded with something along the lines of “Well, ‘God’, looks like you’re gonna get whupped tonight!”, to which everyone laughed.

Yes, it wasn’t quite Mohammed’s day that day, BUT can you imagine how someone could believe that much in himself to the point of comparing himself with God?

I believe Napoleon Hill, asked to comment, would have said Ali had the essential mental attitude of “blind faith”.

Phrases like “Float like a butterfly and sting like a bee” were credited to this legendary boxer.

One thing was clear – Ali was NOT shy. But neither was he arrogant. Cocksure probably, but not arrogant. AND he was definitely very far from being “over-humble”.

“The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt” – Bertrand Russel

Ali knew how important it was to be bold and assertive, and all through his boxing career he was like that. That he became the legend he is today, is no doubt a testimony to the fact that “one becomes what s/he thinks”.

Know this: You will not get yourself any closer to achieving your magnificent obsession(your valued goal) if you do not boldly and assertively speak about it.

It is not wrong to talk or speak affirmatively about what you intend to achieve. I have been doing it for years. And in the past 10 years of my life as an entrepreneur, I have successfully used this strategy to put myself to recorder newer and better levels of achievement.

ONE EXAMPLE: Late last year, I launched my unique range of pineapple peel based drinks and cake.

Then I began talking openly about renting a larger place here in Cotonou, and starting a restaurant business based on those products, with my family.

I have NOT stopped talking about it, and I AM recording MEASURABLE progress towards that goal.

For instance, about 40 days ago, after a long search, I finally found and paid for a place I like.

While I was still searching, I had already taught my kids – as early as September 2013 – to make and sell the products back in Lagos. And they had really taken to it!

Click here to see how I’ve ALREADY built this concept into a branded offering on my website.

I returned – today – from a one month stay in Lagos with them, and we carried out all sorts of Personal Achievement projects that I’d planned as part of a new coaching program I’ve conceived.

One of them was a Selling Skills Development exericise that required them to go out and find buyers for cakes they baked. This is to prepare them to be active players in the family business. Work continues still!

So you see, the key to succeeding with this strategy is to SAY it, with faith, and then TAKE DILIGENT PERSONAL action to make it happen.

Maybe you might want to watch the kind of audience you have before you say some of it, but please do talk about it!

That way you enlist others to help you stay focused on pursuing it.

This is because by talking about it to others(who have empathy for your purpose), you put yourself under psychological pressure to achieve that which you’ve told them you intend to achieve.

What then happens subsequently is that they will naturally ask you how far you’ve gone with your plans.

You would of course want to be able to give them a positive progress update, or else risk losing “face”, and not being taken seriously in future. That need to avoid appearing “unserious” would force you to remain committed to achieving your goals, sustaining you till you eventually succeed.

“Excess on occasion is exhilarating. It prevents moderation from acquiring the deadening effect of a habit.” — W. Somerset Maugham

So, if you want to achieve notable success on a consistent basis, seriously consider being moderate in your humility. Your success might just depend on it.

NB: This article is based first published online in April 2006 via Tayo Solagbade’s former 9 year old domain – www.spontaneousdevelopment.com – and later submitted to, and eventually published for syndication at Ezinearticles.com