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Proven Blogging Strategy That Works for Anyone Who Works it Correctly (Hint: How I’m Succeeding With My Blog Using Lessons I Learnt About Blogging from Patrick Meninga’s Interview With Yaro Starak)

Last year, I published a post titled “10 Valuable Lessons I Learnt About Blogging for Passive Income, from Yaro Starak’s 60 Minute Podcast Interview with Patrick Meninga (click to read).

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By diligently applying those lessons on this blog, I’ve been recording a lot of success which I’ve described in several past articles.

Not only has my name recognition/authority status continue to grow, I have also been earning higher quality sales leads/paying clients for my range of products and services.

Without the insights I gained from studying Patrick’s methods (which includes reading MANY of his blog posts), I would not have progressed as rapidly as I have.

Like I wrote in a recent article, I was able to quickly recover from the loss of my 9 year old spontaneousdevelopment.com domain loss, by continuing with his recommended strategies of daily passion based purpose driven blogging.

However, what really has made me feel most fulfilled is that I now have a rapidly growing body of work that enables me quickly create new products I now sell.

For instance, in the last 3 months or so, I have launched several new books (in both digital and print format) based on 3 of my blog categories: Parenting, Public Speaking, Farm Business (this one being a 4 part series).

To keep easy track of them, I’ve setup a page (see here) on which I list my available products and to which I add any new ones as they become ready.

You see as I kept writing my daily posts on each blog category, over the months, it occurred to me that I could compile the top performing posts per category into an Information Product or book for sale.

I’d actually done that with 25 of my articles back in 2006. My first 25 Articles PDF e-book (titled 25 Articles/True Stories On Self-Development, Entrepreneuring & Web Marketing To Help You Succeed More Often) that resulted has been on sale in my online store at www.lulu.com/sdaproducts since then.

So, I already knew the idea worked. All I needed to do was review and choose from hundreds of articles in my archives!

Patrick’s recommendation to write as many articles as possible every day, was what inspired me to go all out and write so many MORE articles (especially since I knew it was possible from his achievements).

Today, I’ve gotten so used to it that my work rate has shot even further up. I am able to turn out my write-ups at more than twice the rate I used to.

This has made me more effective in delivering to meet the stated needs of my clients, and I’m getting repeat jobs from them as a result.

You see, doing what Patrick recommended made me DIG deep into myself to unearth/recall long forgotten yet highly valuable experiences and insights I’d gained over the years.

I went about my blogging with the deliberate intention of delivering real value to my readers, as he’d advised. I continue to do that even now.

As a result, I’ve ended up, for instance, writing the full story of my troubled teenage years in form of several LONG articles, which now make up my new book on Best Practice Parenting: Kukuru Danger: 5 True Stories About the Adventures – and Misadventures! – of a School Age Child, Trying to Find Purpose in Life.

It’s a book I’d always wanted to write, but never knew how to start.

When I began writing daily however, I was able to deliberately write one article on various aspects of my life back then, till I had most of the stories written. Then I simply added an introduction, a conclusion, and designed the covers etc!

Now, I am ready to place orders for copies of the paperback version to be delivered to me, so I can present a copy to EACH of my kids as part of the coaching I’m giving them, to prepare them for life.

My new book on Public Speaking, came into being in similar fashion – as did the 4 part e-book series I just launched on Farm Business Best Practice.

If I’d tried to sit down and just write each book from scratch, I would NEVER have gotten it all done this quickly!

Simply put, Patrick’s blogging model/formula works – unlike SO MANY other experts’ whose methods I had adopted without reaping the promsied rewards.

If it can work for me, I am convinced it will work for YOU as well.

The only requirement is that you apply yourself to following the tips provided by Patrick, with diligence, persistence and passion. You simply cannot go wrong with that. Take it from me. I know from first hand experience.

To get started, I recommend you proceed as follows:

1. Listen to Patrick’s Interview with Yaro Starak, on Yaro’s website – here.

2. Read my bloy post titled “10 Valuable Lessons I Learnt About Blogging for Passive Income, from Yaro Starak’s 60 Minute Podcast Interview with Patrick Meninga.Then follow the instructions provided at the end to request a FREE download copy of the verbatim transcript version of the interview, that I produced as a PDF document.

Podcast interview transcript with headshots and time stamps.

3. Waste no time in getting started with your writing. The only way to do it is to BEGIN. As you progress, you’ll learn anything else you need to know, and improve yourself. That’s what I did. So, don’t make the mistake of learning perpetually, and becoming a professional student in the process.

If you need any help getting started with your blogging, click here to send me a message.

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If You Never Stop Believing in the Creator, Haters Will NEVER Stop YOU! (True Story)

On 4th May 2014 my 9 year old spontaneousdevelopment.com was taken over by Aplus.net. But within a few days I moved my content to what I boldly declared would be a SUPERIOR reincarnation at www.tayosolagbade.com.

As at October 2014, I’d surpassed ALL performance levels I achieved with my old domain spontaneousdevelopment.com.

Indeed, with the exception of traffic, when I wrote about this incident about 4 months ago, I was already recording more than double my old newsletter subscription rates, as well as sales leads generation and conversions.

However, website traffic on tayosolagbade.com was still much lower compared to what it used to be on my lost domain, which peaked into May 2014 at just under 2,500 visits per day. And I was feeling quite cool about it back then – especially since I was getting formal emails from advertising companies wishing to partner with me to post ads for my visitors.

Other than that, I’ve never been one to make much of a fuss about traffic.

It goes without saying though that attracting more traffic – especially if it is the right kind i.e. from a pre-qualified target audience – implies more eyeballs on your offers/content.

Over time, this does boost name recognition and search engine visibility as well.

I always knew the traffic to my website – especially the blog – would eventually pick up.

I knew this from past experience. It was just to be a matter of time.

If you’ve been a follower of my writing for a while, you most likely know that I have said that authentic success is always repeatable and reproducible.

And I have always been an advocate and keen practitioner of authentic success achievement.

You see, the key to achieving that kind of success is carefully studying what you do to find out WHY you succeed, then making diligent efforts to do those things that make you succeed, again and again.

Where possible, you will employ improved methods and strategies, to increase your rate and quality of success achievement.

If you do it right, it’s just a matter of time before you climb right back up to the former levels of success and eventually exceed them.

That is exactly what has been happening on this blog over the past month and a half.

In my usual habit of periodically checking to see how things are progressing, I’ve been monitoring the website visitors “Stats” auto generated by the WordPress  plug-in installed in the right panel of this blog.

[NB: I know this is not necessarily a finely accurate indicator of actual traffic. But it serves my needs because, what I use it mainly for is to get a “feel” for the difference (be it an increase or decrease) in visits over time.]

Since May 2014 when I moved my blog to tayosolagbade.com, I’ve had to start from zero visits showing on that widget.

Then for several weeks on end, I saw only single digit counts for Daily Visits. But gradually those numbers began to rise – though only to a few hundreds per day.

Rather than fix my attention on that however, I focused on creating new and varied content daily, as had been my practice with the old domain.

But this time around, I drew from the lessons I’d learnt from over a year of daily making DAILY blog posts.

Not too long ago – on 18th October 2014 – my eye caught an unusually high number of visits (over 3,000) for the day before (i.e. 17th). Also, the visits for that day itself were already above 2,000 even though the time  was still around noon!

It was the first time in a long time that I had bothered to look at the stats.

Weeks before then, I’d seen numbers around the 1,500 to 1,800 visits per day range.

But they never went up to 2,000 visits per day!

So this made me pay attention over the next few days, and that was when I realized how far my efforts had gone.

By the 21st October 2014, I was seeing visits shoot well over 5,000 per day several times, and generally stay above 4,000 for others!

See some screenshots I took below…

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Now, I hasten to note again, that I’m not so interested in traffic. I only discuss this development because it shows another way to measure the impact of one’s blogging efforts.

For me, since I don’t do adverts and do not get paid for “traffic”, it’s not my priority.

However such noticeable improvements provide useful feedback. I was keen to see which aspect of my content was getting that much attention.

So I began checking views per posts to establish some trends.

Eventually, I narrowed down to my weekly newsletter on public speaking and weekly blog posts on entrepreneurship (especially those on farm business), followed by those on parenting, and career development – in that order.

These are some of the categories under which I publish posts on this blog.

I believe most of the visits are from people with interests in those areas, and the experience based stories I often tell resonate with them – hence the growing interest.

Other than that, I cannot think of any other thing that could have generated that much interest.

This brings me to my main reason for recalling the above and writing this piece…

As with everything else in life, the above described positive development has also attracted some negative attention, from mean spirited individuals.

In this case I refer to hackers.

It’s nothing new. Most websites online, especially those deemed to be getting good traffic, ultimately become targets of hacking attempts.

Years ago, I had a spammer hack into my website (on spontaneousdevelopment.com) via a security flaw in the code contained in a CGI script I naively installed. He then used a spam robot to launch massive spam campaigns from my old domain – and that got my hosting account suspended by my webhost for a week at the time, because they assumed I had done it!

More recently, before I lost spontaneousdevelopment.com (my 9 year old domain), I wrote several blog posts sharing security issues I was alerted to by Google via email updates they sent me.

At a stage mid-last year (2013) I even had a case in which efforts were made – over several months – to use negative SEO strategies to discredit my website with Google etc.

For instance, some people went to great lengths to link BACK to different pages on my website from ADULT (i.e. pornographic) websites!

Yep. It happened!

Each time I discovered this during my checks, I would use the DISAVOW tools in Google Webmaster interface to try dislodging them.

But a week or two later, I would discover more simply got added!

Eventually, I chose to ignore them and instead began “fighting back” by focusing on publishing better content MORE often.

Over time, that problem went away. That happened with spontaneousdevelopment.com.

I could be wrong, but it would appear tayosolagbade.com’s success has begun to attract some negative attention…

Something VERY strange and unusual has been happening.

This blog’s website statistics widget (which I earlier showed screenshots of) NOW periodically gets reset to zero!

I don’t know how or why it happens, but it has now happened several times over the past few weeks. And the frequency of occurrence is increasing.

In fact, earlier this afternoon, the abuse level had been taken up a notch:

Instead of just the day’s visit being reset, even the week and month’s visit have also been reset so the numbers now make no sense – see below.

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I already know what I need to do, but I share “news” of this development here, only to point out that pursuing success will sometimes attract detractors, and negativity.

Rather than complain, we should always aim to use those attempts to pull us back or bring us down, to MOTIVATE ourselves to do even better than we are already doing.

Remember that if you were not doing well they would not bother about you.

You would be where they WANT you to be i.e. down, and out.

So, if they are coming after you, it can only mean they see that you’re going places – and that bothers them.

Be proud of yourself for achieving that!

Rest assured in the knowledge that as long as you keep your heart pure and your faith in the Creator strong, NOTHING they do can ever stop you.

They can hurt you, but it will only be temporary.

You WILL always bounce back to even greater reckoning if you don’t quit.

And if you keep doing that, your progress will ultimately take you out of their reach.

Enjoy your weekend!

 

You Cannot Pass Secrets of Your Success to Your Kids Via Osmosis

Successful people don’t always have offspring who do well like them. This often happens because such people fail to “coach” their offspring to develop their potential for greatness. Successful parenting demands MORE than that!

I’ve spent YEARS doing lots of reading and deep thinking about this subject…

My efforts have led me to closely explore the parenting efforts and ideas of some highly successful people in order to find answers.

In the process, I also examined myself, and my experiences/observations right through my childhood, alongside those of my siblings, as well as my peers in school, at work etc.

Here’s what I found out:

With the exception of a tiny few, who achieve self-discovery on their own, and go on to record great works, most times the offspring of great people will need to be COACHED to develop their potential for greatness by their GREAT parents or some other competent adult.

The problem is some successful parents make the mistake of assuming they do not have time to spend COACHING their kids to be like them

Nothing could of course be further from the truth.

Like I have said in my past writing, I believe Time Management is a myth.

Instead Intelligent Self-Management is the key to relentless continuous improvement in ANY area of life.

Successful parents who claim (or feel) their “busy” schedules or work related responsibilities are too enormous to include coaching their kids, do themselves a great disservice.

Here’s the point I always make…

When it comes to doing other things they want to do, these same parents are able to find time, don’t they (including attending parties, going to play Golf with friends etc)?

That’s how you know it’s NOT that they are too busy!

Which means IF they want to, they CAN make out time.

The truth is they fail to self-manage properly to make out meaningful “time” to SHARE their experienced based insights into the secrets of their success with their offspring,

Take the example of a successful sports person who achieves worldwide fame by setting and breaking records that contemporaries are unable to equal.

Very rarely does achievement of that magnitude come due to only physical ability. The art of breaking records has both mental and physical dimensions to it.

Insights provided by Dr. Roger Bannister in several Sports Illustrated articles he published after becoming the first man to run the mile under 4 minutes, revealed that much.

An existing “record” is often a reflection of where current top level human efforts have reached.

To break that record, a human being must not only have the physical ability/training, but s/he must also have the right mental state or mind set to do so.

In the book titled “Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude”, Napoleon Hill and W. Clement Stone noted that Dr. Thomas Kirk Cureton, then director of University of Illinois’ physical fitness laboratory,  taught Bannister the “art of record breaking”.

Interestingly, Dr. Cureton’s ideas reportedly apply to both athletes and non-athletes, because they enable the former run faster, and equip the latter to live longer!

Get yourself a copy of the book and read the chapter titled “How to Raise Your Energy Level”.

Now, the role played by Dr. Cureton in helping Bannister discover those “secrets”  can easily be played by a world class athlete to his/her offspring from an early age.

The case of Ghana’s Abedi Pele provides a relevant practical and real life example.

I have no personal knowledge of how he went about it, but since he retired from professional football, 2 of Abedi’s sons have featured prominently in the Ghanaian national teams at various levels – including the senior team, at the World Cup.

What’s more, they have often given good accounts of themselves.

Interviews with Abedi indicate he’s been a guiding force/inspiration behind the evolution of his boys.

And that’s my point.

Their performance can be said to be consistent with their pedigree or background/ancestry. If they keep up the tradition, we should see their offspring emulate them.

But don’t get me wrong here…

I’m not saying a great or successful person’s offspring must go into the same field as his/her parents’ to achieve greatness.

Instead I argue that the MENTAL and/or PHYSICAL CAPACITY for achieving greatness which the parent has, can be successfully passed on to the child via coaching.

Especially if it is started at an early age.

The parent simply needs to nurture a close enough relationship with the child to be able to help him/her identify one or more areas of keen interest/passion that s/he has.

Then drawing from his/her experienced based know-how of the basic requirements for succeeding, such a parent can guide his/her child to successful achievement…or at least set him/her up for it.

This approach of “coaching” one’s offspring, has helped some families keep their wealth across several generations. E.g. the Rockefeller family.

I’ve written several articles in the past in which I mentioned reading a story about the Rockefeller family.

According to the narrative, every child in the Rockefeller family, from a very early age, gets taken through some kind of “in-house” coaching program that teaches various life skills.

For instance, they learn to consciously save money that they get, and they are given money making micro-business projects to handle e.g. rabbit rearing.

I think if you Google around a bit, you’ll come across some of these accounts.

My point is the Rockefeller family children end up arriving adulthood well equipped to succeed.

They ultimately possess financial/vocational education and skills to maintain or even help grow the family wealth.

This is unlike what happens with the estates of some other great achievers, who after they pass on have their fortunes frittered away,  (often due to lack of know-how) by their offspring.

I argue that such incidents can be avoided, IF the successful parent chooses to adopt the approach described in this article, to empower his/her offspring, before s/he passes on.

Final Words: Human beings do NOT learn by Osmosis (& even if they do, it won’t be efficient)!

To assume or expect that your child “sees” you doing it every day, and will therefore learn what is needed by so doing, would be a big mistake.

Not everyone can learn that way.

And sometimes even those who can learn that way can miss doing so, IF they do NOT know there’s something they need to learn other than those they are already paying attention to!

As a parent succeeding in the real world, you have an obligation to POINT your child in the right direction, and guide him/her along…

You need to draw on YOUR better perspective of what s/he needs to survive in the world that YOU arrived in ahead of him/her.

If you’re not sure how to proceed, consider getting someone with real life coaching experience to support you in doing it.

Don’t pass it all on to a paid coach to work with your kids.

Insert yourself in the process to make the experience more meaningful for your child.

That way, you can continue with your child, after the outsider is gone.

Good luck!

 

EMUFEST 2014 (Nov 10th to 16th) : Free Music Workshops, Talent Night and LIVE Concert for Your Kids & You – by Beautiful Nubia at EniObanke Arts Centre, 19 Adekunle Fajuyi Way, GRA Ikeja.

[This post is a Public Service] EniObanke Music Festival (Monday 10th November to Sunday 16th November 2014):

[a]. *November 10-12 – FREE MUSIC WORKSHOPS

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Come and learn the rudiments of percussion (agogo, shekere, etc.), talking drum, rhythm guitar, keyboard, bass guitar, drum set, songwriting and music production, etc., from experienced musicians and teachers.

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Workshops will run from 10am-1pm and 3p-6pm each day.

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[b]. *Thursday, November 13 – TALENT NIGHT

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25 new and emerging music artists from all over Nigeria will perform their original materials in various genres live.

Free entry.

Time: 4pm-10pm.

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[c]. *Sunday, November 16 – EMUFEST GRAND CONCERT.

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Featuring Beautiful Nubia and the Roots Renaissance Band and several notable artists, including:

1. The legendary 86-year old Chris Ajilo

2. “Egbe Awon Omo Alaketu” (a large ensemble of traditional folk singing grandmothers from Yewa)

3. Tthe 18-member Brave Voices Children Choir

4. Ibadan-based multi-instrumentalist and singer Femi Ajayi

5. Soulful songstress Amoke Olarinde

6. Lawyer-musician Akin Akinola

7. The Akoko-Edo vibes of the Ososo Moonlighters

8. Latoya Aduke (longtime partner, singer and dancer for Afrobeat legend OJ Ekemode stepping out in her own right)

9. The Bolojo-Egbado sounds of Prince Ejiwunmi Ege

10. The folky jazz of Olatunde Obajeun

11. And last year’s EMUfest discovery, Mr. Hat and the Quadlibet Band.

Fee: N1500 (Students with ID Cards and children get free entry).

Time: 2pm-9pm.

Venue: EniObanke Arts Centre, 19 Adekunle Fajuyi Way, GRA Ikeja.

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We Who Are Authentically Connected with our Creator MUST Remain a LIGHT for Others to Follow [Hint: Dealing With False Accusations]

How would YOU deal with a FALSE ACCUSATION if it’s leveled against YOU? If you think it can’t happen, you need to read THIS article!

All my life, I have been taught to take the high road, and never to dignify salacious or false accusations. And I have been taught never, never to lie. Not only do I never lie, I never respond to lies, no matter how vicious, no matter how hurtful. ~Paula Abdul

In this article, I explain why we all need to STOP and THINK CAREFULLY when we hear of someone getting PUBLICLY accused of doing any kind of wrong – before passing judgement!

There may be more than meets the eye going on. And if you’re not careful, you could get USED to do evil…and one day, it may come right back at YOU!

I’ve told my kids how a female primary school classmate falsely accused me of peeping at her in the girls room.

That story appears in my new parenting book – Kukuru Danger™ (you can get a FREE PDF chapter preview here). Each of my kids will get a physical copy as a gift, to remind them of what can happen…to even the innocent!

We’ve talked about it several times – me and my 3 boys (15, 13, and 11 years old), and I’ve also discussed it with my 8 year old daughter.

The boys I asked: What would you do if a girl accused you in that manner of doing something you did not do?

It was all fun and laughter, as they tried to give answers. But I did my best to impress upon them the fact that stuff like that happens all the time. And that’s why I wrote my story book – Kukuru Danger™ – to share my experiences and guide them as best as I can.

This aspect of false accusations being leveled against an innocent person is one that really strikes me as having the most devastating potential of all.

It seems as the quality of THINKING in larger society is dropping –partly due to less preference for self-improvement – fewer people are capable of critical thinking.

Now, many people don’t immediately realize that the above has far reaching implications. So I’ve formed a habit of pointing out some of them.

1. When people are too lazy or distracted to do critical thinking, most lame ideas proposed to them will either get accepted or ignored.

Either way, they will not engage in conscious, deep seated examination of issues that occur. As a result, others with manipulative intent will find it easy to exploit their shallowness and naivety, to do naughty things.

The above is why it is so easy today for someone to discredit another person simply by coming forward to make unsubstantiated allegations.

Even if afterwards, nothing is found to incriminate the person wrongfully accused, many people go on thinking “well there’s no smoke without fire”. Maybe s/he was so smart that they could not find evidence to pin it on him/her.

2. Taking it further, and again this does happen, a person with ulterior motives, who sees another person as a potential rival threatening his/her ambitions, may decide to launch a campaign of calumny against the latter.

For instance, people have been known to pay individuals and/or groups, to publicly make false allegations against a rival, so as to drum up public outrage.

In the process, the “rival” often gets discredited, or at least some doubts are raised over his/her credibility.

What is most shocking is the fact that PERMANENT damage can be done to another person’s reputation – SO EASILY today!

…by someone, from virtually anywhere, choosing to come out and say s/he did (or did NOT do) something!

It seems to rarely matter whether the accuser is lying or not. Most people today seem not to be too keen to consider that possibility. This is often so when the “news” is disseminated gleefully by the mass media, or via some powerful or connected person(s) or organization.

In other words, if you want to take a stand on an issue that could pit you against a powerful person, or someone with media links, you could end up getting badly burnt, image wise.

Indeed, if you’re not careful, you could end up serving some punishment e.g. a fine or worse, jail time…and STILL be innocent. History offers useful examples!

I ask: Why is it so easy for these kinds of extreme injustices to happen?

1. Why are those who make all sorts of false accusations that literally destroy the lives of others allowed to do so, and to get away with it?

2. And why is it that even after the truth is discovered, the same people who publicized the lies, do not circulate the truth with the same zeal?

More importantly, I ask the reader to consider the following questions:

1. Do you consider yourself safe from this pandemic of false accusations?

Especially in this day and age when unscrupulous news channels grant audience to those willing to narrate outrageous accounts of phony incidents, to reap financial and other benefits?

2. Do you realize that there was a time when journalists did proper investigation to ascertain the veracity of claims made by those who offered them news? Are you aware that very little of that happens anymore?

3. Does it bother you AT ALL you that an excellent role model in society, who paved the way for others to achieve success, can end up having his/her name discredited via false allegations?

Can you imagine what it must feel like to be the spouse, child, grandchild, brother, sister or parent to such an individual?

Do you know how much pain will be inflicted on multiple souls related to him/her, every time those false allegations are made the subject of the court of public opinion?

The embarrassment and humiliation of bearing the same name with someone who previously one was proud to be related to!

And yet, not because s/he did wrong. But because a mean spirited few chose to discredit him/her for their own gain or out of envy…or both!

More questions for the reader…

1. Have YOU ever played a part in any of the above described incidents?

What did you say, or do? Were you willing to examine the facts, if any were provided, objectively, before coming to a conclusion?

And if no compelling facts or evidence were provided, did you have the courage to point that out, and demand that something be done?

2. Lastly, has it ever occurred to you that whether or not you partake in any such acts as I’ve described above, YOU, and/or YOUR loved ones could also be on the receiving end some day?

All it takes is for one of such mean spirited persons to identify any of you as a target…and before you know it, your lives could take a dramatic turn for the worse!

Now, you could argue that you’re not a celebrity orpublic figure and that they are the ones who often get treated that way.

But consider the REAL possibility that as YOU/YOUR kid or loved one climb the ladder of success/fame, or even after you “arrive”, some person(s) can decide to do that to any of you?!

Did I get your attention there? Hmmm!

Well, chew on that over the weekend…

Then in the new week, I hope you emerge with a resolve to NOT let false accusers get an easy ride wherever you are, if you have a say. By the time we begin to resist their advances, fewer will be able to boldly come out and do their evil at the expense of the lives of others.

These people make a living from destroying what others spend decades of their lives building.

And majority of others in society just stand by and let them. You don’t have to take sides – just seek the truth. Don’t let them win you over with ridiculous claims that lack substance!

I’m saying all this because I have experienced what it feels like to be falsely accused – more than once too!

Luckily for me though, I always had persons guided by the creator to help me.

The first time, as I said earlier, I was 8 years old. So you could say it was not so serious.

The second instance occurred over 2 years ago…and it was dead serious!

As a custom spreadsheet software developer, I had a client (who proudly displayed a picture of himself standing next to a former Vice President of Nigeria on his office wall) make false accusations against me to the police.

Not just him – he also got his accountant and manager to do the same thing!

I was shocked to my bones to see/hear those 2 employees of his, who I’d often chatted with while working on the project bold facedly saying I’d done things I never did.

It was bizarre, as if they were drugged. In truth however, the ONLY “drug” influencing them was a FEAR of losing their jobs…LOL!

Their boss – the client – wanted me to resolve a problem they had using the software  – but he bluntly refused  to pay my overdue balance which I’d been requesting for over 2 months, after handing over.

I stood my ground, and told the Divisional Police Officer (DPO) why.

The latter (a graduate of Nigeria’s University of Ibadan!) proved to be a rare man of integrity, gifted with excellent skills of persuasion.

That same day, he got the client to pay me my balance soon as I was done.

The same client and his staff went on to use that software for SIX solid years (paying me several times a year to provide call out support).

Then at the tail end of the 6th year, he paid me twice what he paid 6 years before (all of it 100% up front), to add a billing system to the app – only to repeat the same thing later on during the test run phase.

Long story short, I got TIRED of being treated that way, and today (with the help of the Attorney General’s office) we’ve parted ways.

But I kept copies of all our correspondence, as proof of all that transpired. Just in case.

I’ve shared that client’s story with my kids as well.

That experience was however the one that broke the camel’s back for me. I decided I NEEDED to better protect myself from such abuse.

It subsequently occurred to me that I needed to FREE myself from exposure to exploitation or situations that could lead to false accusations being leveled against me. This led me to focus more on providing online products and services.

Today, less than 20% of the income I earn comes from working directly with clients. That’s why I’ m so HAPPY and FULFILLED, working as a Location Independent Multipreneur – the photo below says it all!

Photo: Click to view LARGER size. Taken around Cotonou's Etoile Rouge. I cherish the freedom that a mobile office affords me, as a Location Independent Multipreneur. As long as there's an Internet connection I can do work that I need to do. Whenever I want, I can take a break. My self-discipline developed from well over 2 decades serves me well, ensuring that I can deliver what I promise!

Today’s world is full of mean spirited people, who will stop at nothing to have their way – even if it means harming others.

Those of us who are connected with our Creator MUST ensure we remain a LIGHT for others to follow.

We must continue to be the conscience of our respective societies. And we must prepare our offspring to do the same thing.

We are the hope of the world.

We are the ones who can HEAL it.

If we fail, society is doomed!

I hope you will join me.

PS: In the event that it does happen, hold on to the faith you have in the creator, and let these wise words of Paula Abdul guide you in dealing with ANY false accusations that may come your way…

All my life, I have been taught to take the high road, and never to dignify salacious or false accusations. And I have been taught never, never to lie. Not only do I never lie, I never respond to lies, no matter how vicious, no matter how hurtful. ~Paula Abdul

It’s Not Always Smart to Follow the Crowd!

Everybody’s doing IT won’t always make IT OK! Photo: These “rear views” of 2 trouser-sagging young chaps in a Cotonou cybercafé I worked in recently, made me spontaneously burst into loud laughter, surprising myself and others! When they turned towards me. I quickly straightened my face, and attacked my key board with dead seriousness :-))

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But I was still laughing internally for a while after that!

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t go around making fun of people…

I mean it was not the first time I was seeing any of them – often engrossed in multiple Facebook chat sessions of all kinds (I leave you to use your imagination there).

However on this particular day, what seemed to be brownish/dirty coloured underwear sticking out from under their trousers cracked me up. I just could not help wondering “How could anyone think that THIS makes him look good in any way?!!

For me, this was the quickest way to attract ridicule – justified ridicule – to one’s self.

Having said that, the truth is our value systems have changed over the years. So, what was “cool” when my generation was growing up naturally is no longer so “cool” these days.

I’m just not so sure I can accept that keeping my trousers above and on top of my underwear should ever be “un-cool” at any stage of life, and no matter how much society evolves.

In fact, I refuse to accept it. At least not for myself or my kids. Or indeed for any person who wants ME to take him/her seriously.

And I don’t care if all the sponsoring companies in the world pay fees to celebrities who dress that way.

I don’t care if those trouser-sagging celebrities have more money than Richard Branson, Aliko Dangote and Robert Kiyosaki put together.

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If they refuse to let their God given brains and inner knowing about what makes decent dressing guide them, then they are NOT worthy of my serious attention or consideration.

Plus, I will make sure my kids know why such people are NOT worthy of emulation – their popularity and fame notwithstanding.

Sometimes majority may win the vote – but their VOTE may be a wrong “choice”!

Anatole France, the shipping magnate once said:

If fifty million people say a fooling thing, it is still a foolish thing” – Anatole France

I have a saying of my own that I conceived to communicate the same message…

 “Some people make the mistake of equating consensus with truth. That you, and others who think like you, agree among yourselves that a centipede is a millipede wearing a metal coat, will not make the centipede become a millipede.” – Tayo Solagbade

In other words, sometimes the “majority” may win a “vote” over an issue in contention, but THAT will not mean they are right, and that the “minority” are wrong.

This is why it is possible for a crooked and dishonest person to bribe his way to win an election in a society where check and balances are not in place.

Such a person then assumes the mantle of leadership based on the premise that majority voted him in.

But the majority that voted him in could have held misguided opinions.

Those with the right mindset and views could have been in the minority, and yet their vote would have enabled a more competent or qualified person – who did NOT choose to cheat – to win the vote.

The essence of the above analogy I’ve made is that is not always wise to use the number of people in agreement about how to dress, or how to act or how to think, as a means of determining what to do.

Sometimes, the majority may have been too blinded in their desire to conform, to do the right thing.

The onus may end up being on YOU or ME, to be the ones that will critically examine the issue under consideration. Then give a balanced and well informed view, unaffected by your knowledge of how many people already agree with a particular position.

Sadly, in today’s society, very few people are willing to play this role.

Even when deep inside of them they know that the majority are wrong – they still follow! They are afraid of being singled out for criticism, for being different.

And that’s why we have what has been called a “herd mentality” afflicting many people today.

You see it in the zombie like thinking and actions of people, when they find themselves in GROUPS e.g religious gatherings, associations, even workplaces.

It’s the reason why today’s youngsters sag their trousers: because most people do it.

It’s also the reason many African women detest their short hair, and wear straight human hair from Brazil. Plus, that’s why some black skinned women, and even some men, use bleaching creams to try changing their skin colour from black to white.

It’s because they see “many” people do it – and get admired for doing it!

This mental attitude make such people o easy to manipulate by powerful and cunning others…

It’s happening daily- at various levels in society.

The question is ARE YOU one of those being manipulated that way?

It’s not easy to find out: if you’re scared to speak YOUR MIND (and ACT accordingly) when you feel differentl about something YOUR “group” demands, YOU have THIS problem!

Now, if that is so, is that the best you can do with the wonderful talents and abilities the Creator has put in your brain?

Furthermore (if you have a child) do you realize that being that way makes it likely that your child will learn nothing better than to be that way too – from you?

And lastly, do you know that the Creator will hold you responsible for letting your child go astray in that manner?

I do hope you’ll take this article as a wake up call, and realize that you NEED to assert yourself more decisively as a conscious living being.

It’s the least the Creator expects of you.

And your child will benefit from your being that way, more than s/he could ever gain from learning to follow the crowd, like a mindless robot!

Go out and be a light for others to follow, to self-discovery!

 

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Why You Need “Sales & Marketing Education” – Even If You’re a “Job Seeker” or Employee! (Based on a True Story)

I sat down for one week in 2002 (my start-up year), and wrote what is now my popular Feed Formulation Handbook (photo below). It was based on my knowledge/experience as a key member of the self-funding Student’s Farm Research Foundation (SFRF) in the University of Ibadan. But…my first sale did NOT happen until 2004! (NB: But it came early, and with feedback that led me to build the Ration Formulator software that now accompanies the app).

By way of interest, my decision to write the book came after I read Michel Fortin’s “10 Commandments of Power Positioning” and “Burt Dubin’s Why & How to Get Published”(click that link if you want to know what those guys said that made me decide to write a book).

Holding a Ready-to-Dispatch Print Copy of My Popular Practical Feed Formulation Handbook

It took me just ONE week to type all 65 pages in MS Word – but 2 years to make my first sale!

I know several people who’ve written books but keep waiting to get it published with a big name publisher, to make the “selling” process easier. Well, in my case, I could not be bothered. I went into selling mode as soon as I got it printed out from MS Word onto A4 paper, and spiral bound (more on this later).

Like I said, it took 2 solid years to make my first sale of that book.

I KNEW the subject inside out, having been involved in formulating and compounding rations for livestock we (SFRF) reared commercially on the university’s research and teaching farm.

We never had to beg for patrons to give us money etc.

It was also 100% run by us, the students. We had lecturers as patrons, but they only gave advice. They never interfered.

And we had a bank account, managed by elected executives who ran the foundation’s affairs competently.

I know all this, not just because I was a member, BUT because I was an active one. In fact, within ONE year of joining, I got so active that in my second year as a member (a year before my graduation), I was elected (without my indicating interest in contesting!) as “Supplies Coordinator”.

That executive position enabled me get to see the inner workings of the executive team.

It was impressive to observe the professionalism that undergraduates displayed in their affairs back then. As Supplies Coordinator, I often had to work out the ration formulas or get them from the Project Coordinator (the overall head) and then get the needed funds to visit the feed mill to have them compounded.

I would then return with a pick up van of compounded and bagged feeds to be used for 2 or more weeks. An exciting experience it was!

Sometimes I would be told a particular ingredient was in short supply, and I would have to use my knowledge of ration formulation to choose a suitable substitute ingredient to replace it in the ration without significantly affecting the ration’s formulated balance etc.

You must understand that despite being a “foundation” we were PROFIT focused. So, it was important to get things right as often as possible.

To ensure we could repeat our success, we kept good records. We frequently reviewed the performance of our chicks, layers, broilers, cockerels etc, over time, against different batches of formulated ration fed to them.

That guided us on what ration formula to use in future. And it was that diligence that led us to make healthy profits by keeping our feeding costs low while boosting productivity.

These are the same factors I try to point out to Farm CEOs. They are not complex, but they require diligence to get right. And that was why I wanted to explain in my book, how we derived such cost-effective ration formulas to reap healthy profits.

We did so well, that we were able to organize end of year parties, and even give ourselves gifts of eggs and chicken to take home!

When you have seen and experienced something on such a deep personal level, it’s NOT hard to talk (or write!) about it…

That was why the contents of that book that’s still purchased today by Farm CEOs (and those aspiring) for N8,000.00 came pouring out of me in just ONE week!

But selling the book proved to be much more difficult than writing it!

Once I was done, I went out and printed/spiral bound a copy.

Then I printed flyers and began visiting farm businesses all across Lagos.

Each day, as I found free time from my other business startup activities, I drove to farms in Ipaja, Egbeda, and even as far as Epe, then back to Oko Oba in Agege.

I even went to farm support experts in the Ministry of Agriculture. And YES I did meet with leaders of farmer groups/associations about introducing my book to their members…but nothing ever came of it, other than “Ok. No problem. Call me later, and let’s talk“, then “Ah, let me call you back after I leave the meeting I’m going for now“…LOL!

In essence, I was unable to make a sale!

Stupidly, I tried placing small classified ads in some newspapers and magazines. For 2 years I tried selling it that way.

Even then, NO SINGLE enquiry came in!

Have you ever experienced being SURE that something will work, but having to contend with the reality that it just is NOT working?

Well, that was my experience with my Feed Formulation Handbook in those startup years.

I knew the contents would be cherished by livestock farm owners looking to lower their costs of feeding, and boost their farm output.

And that was why I felt it was best to go straight to them and show them the book: Makes a lot of sense that way doesn’t it?

Well, I found out the hard way, that it was NOT the best way to go about it!

But I did not know what I was doing wrong until the rejections and lack of sales FORCED me to go back and re-read Michel Fortin’s book and Burt Dubin’s articles…

I read a few others too…

Then I sat down and did some deep reflecting on what I had read.

Within a few days the insights began to come to me…in trickles. I realized I had been doing the marketing bit completely wrong.

I had read those write-ups the first time around without INTERNALIZING the most important lesson…

That lesson was that you MUST ESTABLISH authority status FIRST, to make profitable buyers seek YOU out – and so that YOU don’t have to go looking (or is it “hunting”?) for them!

I’ve since learnt those lessons well, and even come up with a few of my own.

The book has been on sale via my online store as a downloadable PDF for years now. I sell it as a spiral bound book, and also email it as a PDF attachment to buyers from within/outside Nigeria who send payment directly to me, instead of using my online store.

All I had to do was change the way I was trying to sell.

I did NOT need to go back to school, or get another degree to make that happen.

Instead, I only had to pick up some Unconventional Sales and Marketing Education – the kind that is NOT taught in schools!

And it so happens that one of the 2 main gurus I learnt what to do from (who is world renowned in his field, and recently turned 80 years) describes himself as a high school drop out!

I have to say though that I was lucky, to have persisted in digging long enough to find out where I was going wrong. Otherwise I would have probably ended up frustrated – or concluded I was a failure…

Now, hat I’m saying here applies to job seekers, as much as it does to those who choose to start their own businesses

Most people often miss this…Sales & Marketing Education – of the right kinds – can often help with Passing Job Interviews!

In other words, with the right experience based sales/marketing “education”, YOU can record better results in searching for jobs than those who lack those abilities.

Among other benefits, your “know-how” will guide you right from when you write and submit your resume, to what you do and say when invited for the job interview!

Look around you, and you’ll see signs that this is true

Carefully observe people as they relate with one another – and you will see that WE ARE all in the business of WINNING one another over.

Maybe it’s to make them like you, or to make them give you something you want. We are all trying to “influence” one another!

Every now and then you are trying to “sell” a point of view or perspective to others, in a way that makes them LEAN towards your line of thinking. That makes them TRUST you more.

And when they trust you more, they are more likely to make decisions in YOUR favour.

This is why companies pay celebrities handsomely to “front” for their products by making them BRAND ambassadors. They know fans will tend to “adopt” something if they see that someone they admire, respect or trust (e.g. a celebrity), ENDORSES it.

So, to succeed, just LEARN how to gain the positive attention, interest, and ultimately TRUST, of those you need to decide in your favour.

It could be a prospective employer, or a potential client…a pretty girl or handsome chap…

Once you can win their “trust”, you will find that those who really need you, or what you offer, will choose you more often, over any others they may be considering.

And that’s what results in success…

In my case, that’s what leads to successful selling of my Feed Formulation Handbook, my other books, in addition to my Excel-VB software as well as other solutions I offer.

Yet, you must remember, that I basically had to go and discover how to succeed like this on my own. I had to re-learn and unlearn MANY things I was taught in school in the process too!

So, here’s my challenge to you: ASK YOURSELF...

Why don’t our schools teach US what we need to EXCEL in the real world?

Why do we so often leave school and then find we need to go and learn so many others things in order to succeed in the real world?

[NB: A possible exception is if we find paid employment that readily suits formal schooling we got. But that’s harder to find these days]

And why is it that when we retire, resign or get kicked out of our jobs, and we start our own businesses, one thing we struggle the most with is how to profitably MARKET whatever we offer???

To take this further, let ME now ask YOU this…

Don’t you think that our schools should be teaching us “sales and marketing that works” LONG before we are due to enter the real world?

Isn’t that what school is meant to do i.e. to EQUIP us with the knowledge and skills to care for ourselves in the real world ?

Even YOU in paid employment right now…these thoughts also apply!

For instance, should you NOT be learning “sales and marketing that works” in preparation for your inevitable departure from your salaried job???

After all, when that happens (e.g. you retire), you may have to “open a grocery shop, or supermarket”…or even start a consulting firm or cookies factory (ALL of which will benefit and do better with effective sales and marketing)!

The implications are however more far reaching that most people readily see…ASK YOURSELF this second set of questions:

What is school teaching MY own kids right now????

What has school BEEN teaching MY own kids since I began sending them there???

Does any of it include the stuff mentioned above, that is likely to determine their ability to succeed by profitably “sell” themselves???

If NO, what can I do to “CORRECT” that deficiency in the “education” my kids are getting???

Now that I’ve gotten you thinking all these (scary?) thoughts, what will you do?

Or should it be what CAN you do?

I say CAN, because there is indeed something you CAN do to change things if your questions reveal the need for that to happen!

Let me refer to myself from this point on…

Here’s what DRIVES me, to keep writing on this theme at every opportunity.

It’s also pushing me to TAKE concrete action to coach my kids to be better prepared for the real world.

Example 1: Their recent Selling Skills Development Project

At the end of August 2014, I made my go out to try marketing their cup cakes, to compare with how they sell to their classmates in school. It was a most revealing experience for them. I shared photos in my Facebook album.

Flyer for the Selling Skills Development Project

Screenshot of the Selling Skills Development Project Facebook Album - click to view photos

Example 2: Our forthcoming book titled “How We Cheaply Make Cup Cakes without an Oven or Cooker (PDF) – By Tayo, Fela, Emeka,and Chika SOLAGBADE

Just before leaving Nigeria during my last visit earlier this month, I got them together to quickly record a video in which they demonstrated the process they follow in making their cup cakes using only a pot and charcoal stove.

I’m now using the photos and video clips in writing a book that we will jointly publish as co-authors, for sale in my online store.

The purpose? Click the sneak preview cover image below to find out in the PDF report I’ve published about it.

This is a precursor to our forthcoming Quick Start Guide Book titled “How to Cheaply Make Cup Cakes without an Oven or Cooker & Sell Them for Profit” – based on what we do, as a family.

You see, dear reader, EVERY single day that passes, I ask myself: What can I do to SPARE my kids the painful hassle of re-learning – AFTER SCHOOL – in order to succeed in life that I experienced???

Hassles that made me a clueless “job seeker” post graduation.

Humiliating hassles that made me a “clueless” startup entrepreneur for years after I quit my job to run my own business in the real world!

These are HARSH truths, but I use them to keep myself awake to the realities my kids are bound to face, if I leave them to learn based on the SAME system that I passed through!!!

That’s what makes me determined to show them that a better way exists.

In fact, let me share a secret with you: If I have my way NONE of my kids will EVER become an employee.

I’ve told them this already, and we are all agreed on it in principle.

Judging from the way things are going for us right now, we’re already headed in that direction e.g. with our plans for a family based business.

This picture of the resulting cakes (though without pineapple peels added), prove they were right.

What will YOUR (and YOUR children’s) story be???

 

How Exposure To Poverty & Trial-By-Fire Can Be Deliberately Used To Prepare People To Succeed

[NB: This article is based on lessons I learned from my real life personal experiences, as an individual AND a parent] The concept of “Trial By Fire” can be successfully applied in different social settings. The ultimate purpose of a “Trial By Fire” approach should however always be to help “participants” discover and/or develop FURTHER their innate abilities and capabilities, to the point where they can truly function at their FULL potential.

No matter how we look at it, helping people to perform at their optimal best is the most important way to bring about progress and development. The “Trial By Fire” approach provides a tested and proven “fast-track” avenue through which these valuable twin goals can be achieved.

Exposure To “Poverty” Can Prepare A Person To Be Successful

Poverty often manifests in form of a lack of money, and painfully limited access to basic necessities and conveniences.

People born into poverty often find early responsibility and attendant hardship thrust on them as a result. Biographies have been written of great men and women who in their formative years, had to help their parents out by doing odd jobs to earn income to feed the family (Walt Disney for instance sold newspapers as a child to complement his father’s efforts).

But just as their situation caused (often serious) pain, it also toughened them.

In other words, t hey learnt to “fight” to get what they wanted. They did so sometimes driven by the knowledge that their parents or siblings waited at home for them to return with “something”.

This acceptance of early responsibility, and the fighting spirit/mental stamina they developed over time became useful qualities. Especially when they turned their attention to their chosen vocations.

Walt Disney’s early struggles for instance, must have taught him the discipline of hard work, which helped him relentlessly pursue his dreams to build an empire that survives till today.

Austin “Jay-Jay” Okocha while being interviewed on a radio program (I recall vividly) said:

All I know is Jay-Jay Okocha sold Oranges on the streets of Lagos“.

Think about it a minute.

This was a man whose accomplishments in his profession(football) cannot be ignored internationally. Yet, when confronted with evidence of widespread adoration for him based on those achievements he chose to recall what could probably qualify to be called the most humbling moments in his entire lifetime.

As has been confirmed by numerous research studies, and real-life stories of other great people, periods of adversity can often bring out the best in a person. So much so that s/he develops qualities that will ultimately enable him/her archive notable success in the future.

Okocha, by that statement obviously recognized those harrowing days of living in a single room with his mother and sisters and selling oranges to sustain them, as instrumental to the development of the never-say-die mental attitude that led him to achieve success and fame as a footballer.

“Poverty” Can Be Deliberately Used To Develop Talent In People

Poverty imposes severe lack of resources which the affected person(s) need to function effectively in their current situation. I believe the concept of “poverty ” can be extended beyond the more common one that relates to poor people, and applied in a more general sense.

You could for instance talk about poverty of “good leadership”, which may result in slow development in a nation or poor performance of a company.

In essence I am saying that poverty can be translated to mean “lack”(deliberate or accidental) of resources or environment normally required for effective functioning of an individual, group or organisation.

The above implies that deliberately putting individuals or groups into controlled environments of “poverty” and/or “hardship” similar to those they are likely to encounter in real-life, can help them.

Apart from boosting their mental toughness, they are likely to develop “survival skills and abilities” that they can successfully use to achieve improved performances at work/in life, even when their actual circumstances are limiting.

For instance, it is well known that creativity tends to flourish when there are limited resources, which force people to explore alternative routes to achieve their intended goals.

Without the challenge introduced in form of the removal of ready access to the needed resources, most people would rather not apply any sustained intellectual effort towards finding a better way to do the same thing.

The above principle is used in military training. Soldiers are exposed to various adverse conditions which if they successfully undergo make them tougher and readier to meet the “enemy”.

The use of simulators in various spheres of training endeavours(e.g. pilot training etc), also provides some evidence that this is an approach that has proven merit.

In summary, “poverty” imposes the test of “Trail By Fire” on persons born/thrust into it, equipping those who “pass”, with competencies that help them excel later on in life.

Organisations (and even societies) which want to develop high performing members can learn from nature. They can utilise the “Trial By Fire” approach (like some progressive ones already do) to develop management talent of their people, and ultimately record exceptional employee performances.

Steps You Can Take To Develop Talent Using The “Poverty/Trial-By-Fire” Approach

1. Create a deliberate atmosphere of lack (i.e. artificial scarcity) or hardship THEN Demand those in it to deliver the same results that would be expected if they had all that they needed.

For instance if you want to start up a new arm of your company – you may choose NOT to let the parent company give the managers of the new company ALL the money and resources they need.

Instead, it would be smarter to give them a little, and then challenge them to find their own feet by working hard to start earning income, as quickly as possible, to keep going.

That way, they get to learn the important (and sometimes harsh/hard) lessons that you learnt – which enabled you build the parent company to the level at which spinning off new subsidiaries like theirs become possible.

Such lessons would equip them to run the NEW company profitably.

2. Watch out for the reactions of those who are challenged in this way – Note those who reject the assignment. Identify those who take action to get the described results by improvising and being creative.

3. Decide on the next level of challenge(s) to throw at your “proteges” – depending of course on how they have responded up to this point.

4. Take them out to the real world and see if they put what they have learnt/discovered to use as the opportunities to do so arise.

5. Provide qualitative, experience based feedback. Those you put through this process will need guidance from someone with the right mix of knowledge and experience, to make “sense” of what they have gone through.

You will ensure that they get this guidance by way of feedback delivered in a manner that enhances each person’s self-esteem, thereby boosting enthusiasm to work harder to achieve the needed learnings/results.

The concept of “Trial By Fire” as described in this article can be successfully applied in different social settings

It could be at home with your kids, in the workplace with employees etc. One must however always remember that the ultimate purpose of a “Trial By Fire” approach is to help those to whom it is applied discover and/or develop FURTHER their innate abilities and capabilities, to the point where they can truly function at their FULL potential.

No matter how we look at it, helping people to perform at their optimal best is the most important way to bring about progress and development. The “Trial By Fire” approach provides a tested and proven “fast-track” avenue through which these valuable twin goals can be achieved.

FINAL WORDS: A Mistake Some Parents Who Rose from Rags to Riches Often Make

Some parents who rose from lowly beginnings where they had to overcome severe hardships to achieve notable successes sometimes vow they will never let their own kids suffer the way they(the parents) did. In a sense this feeling is understandable.

The problem however is that in trying to make sure your kids do not “suffer”, you may end up making them “weak” – by over protecting them – so that they grow up incapable of withstanding challenges that life may throw at them in their bid to achieve their own goals.

You need to realise that YOUR contact with poverty and its attendant hardships contributed significantly to making you capable of overcoming those challenges.

If you really want to help your kids, you may need to seriously consider periodically exposing them to similar experiences in ways that will teach useful lessons they can draw upon later in life.

This article has described some potentially useful approaches that YOU can apply to learn those empowering lessons – and which you can also teach your kids.

I urge you to do both.

NB: This article is based on excerpts from a write-up originally published Online on 6th July 2007 via www.spontaneousdevelopment.com and Ezinearticles.com

The Company You Keep (Even Online!) Determines The Quality of Life You Live (Practical Ideas You Can Use)

I have a relatively tiny Facebook friends list (<300). So one would imagine I’d readily accept every friend request I get. Instead, accepting a friend request – for me (especially since I moved to Cotonou in April 2013) – actually involves SCREENING people as if for employment…those I subject to that process just NEVER know it…LOL!

But seriously – you will NOT believe the lengths I go to check – and DOUBLE check them, and their backgrouds – in every way possible.

I do this ONLINE (and even OFFLINE), going as far as reaching out to friends of friends to the person who added me as a friend.

I rigorously screen friend requests as above, because I want GOOD QUALITY people, who can ADD VALUE to me as “friends”…

I want that because I WORK HARD to be that kind of friend to others – both on and off the web.

The above is why I also periodically WEED my friends list.

For instance, I’ve had funny “conversation” attempts by some friends I made about 2 years ago…

Some send messages like “Sup…!” and “T-boy…!” – without saying much else.

And then, if in a bid to be polite (thinking maybe the connection cut off the full message), I respond with a “Hi…can I help you?”… they follow up with some silly link etc…argh!

Look I don’t know about others out here on the web, but I want to be PRODUCTIVE, and I need to be connected with people who can help me do that.

If achieving the above means I’ll end up with a micro-sized friends list, SO BE IT!

I’d rather have top quality interactions with 5 clued up friends several days in a YEAR, than endure mind numbing relations with 5,000 “air heads” every day!

NB: It goes without saying that I am comfortable with having the same rules applied to me by those who have ME on THEIR friends list.

But why am I making a case based on Facebook in particular, you wonder?

Actually, I’m only using Facebook as a point of reference.

Generally, my message is directed at all people as they relate with one another online or offline.

However, we all know that a vast majority of today’s population across the world go through daily life glued to their PC and Internet related tools and resources.

Most of them use Facebook – which now has users across the billon mark.

But they also use several other platforms.

On their phones they are constantly messaging one another via “Whatsapp”, “Messenger” etc.

In essence, so much talking is happening today and a lot of it is in small chunks of often severely abbreviated words.

I once read somewhere that we now have some people who think and speak in “Tweets”, and I agree!

My observations indicate that some of them are even journalists, whose spelling skills now “suck” as a result – thereby punishing readers!

The situation is so bad now, that those who feel what should be a normal “need” to think, speak and write words normally, struggle to “get through” to such “Tweet” brained persons.

The latter’s minds can often not hold a train of thought beyond the volume allowed for Tweeting.

I exaggerate not: There ARE adults and young people like that out there today!

And they are in such numbers that those who are NOT like them appear to be the ones who are NOT normal.

Ultimately, this is why the quality of thinking and social interaction today is deteriorating.

To protect myself from the decay, I choose to filter out people who are THAT shallow from getting too close in my social space.

In this article, I’m asking you to do the same thing too – for your own good.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t condemn or reject them. And I’m NOT asking you to either!

For those I perceive to be willing to be coached and influenced to IMPROVE themselves, I make the effort to stay connected.

But if after a while I get the impression I’m “pouring water in a basket” (i.e wasting my time/efort or “Mo nda omi si akpere” – as the Yorubas would say), I generally avoid them.

The truth is that it is unwise to try and save the world, if those in it are NOT interested.

Make it clear that you are available, to any persons who are willing to be helped. If anyone comes, do what you can.

Otherwise, keep your peace. You have enough to occupy you in pursuit of your own self-improvement and ultimate self-actualization.

Final Words: My message in this piece is for both adults and their kids.

To achieve your goals in life, especially in a way that adds value to others and the society, you will sometimes need to be ruthless in the way your choose those you spend your time with.

Not just in person, but also on the web.

Those you give your conscious attention to (e.g. online) determine the THOUGHTS you nurture.

If they are “no-good” people (and you know what I mean by that I’m sure!) then you are going to end up with MORE “no-good” (aka useless) thoughts that you need.

By implication, you will be wasting your valuable, and non-recoverable, time!

Life is just too short to spend it with people UNWILLING to add value to YOU or society.

Challenge them to step up, and if they don’t seriously consider WALKING AWAY!

Like we say in Africa: A word is enough for the wise!