“Reading can be a powerful catalyst for thinking; it has the potential for stimulating wisdom.” – Michael Angier(www.successnet.org)

In Robert Kiyosaki’s book titled “If You Want To Be Rich and Happy, Dont Go To School?”, he wrote about how the traditional educational system was teaching American children to be mindless parrots”.

He also quoted R. Buckminster Fuller on how each of us and our children can protect our minds from being numbed by such experiences.

Fuller stated that despite the fact that he was bothered by -and therefore questioned – many of the things he learnt in school, he found it necessary to give his teachers their answers in order to ensure he went through school successfully.

He however made sure he never stopped thinking along the lines of what he felt to be true.

By so doing, Buckminster Fuller was able to protect his own genius from the damaging impact of the traditional educational system.

The rest of us can learn from this approach, and teach our kids to use it as well.

The World Needs Thinkers: Help Your Child Become One

“Reading without thinking gives a disorderly mind, and thinking without reading makes one unbalanced” – Confucius

There appear to be fewer real thinkers in this part of the world today.

One great thinker we had who passed on years ago, was Fela Anikulapo-Kuti, the legendary Afro Beat Musician whose music and life story is the subject of a successful broadway musical that now inspires millions across the world.

Even today, the lyrics of Fela’s songs show us how far ahead he had seen into the future of this country and continent.

He had reflected deeply over the problems of the black race in Africa, and tried to open their eyes to the folly of the ways they chose (or were advised to follow).

A few listened, but the majority missed it.

Why?

Because they found it difficult to comprehend what he was saying and understand his concerns.

So they simply stopped at enjoying his good music!

“The mind must be exercised if it is to grow and strengthen. The more you use your mind, the more it will improve your ability to think” – Jay Anderson

This inability (or unwillingness?) to think is not unusual.

A long ago, Henry Ford said:

“Thinking is the most exacting job there is, which is why so few people engage in it.”

To Encourage Them To Think, We Must Stop Our Kids From Cramming

Not all kids will be smart enough to protect themselves the way R. Buckminster Fuller did, as earlier described above.

And that’s why we need to discourage ROTE Learning (i.e. cramming) by our kids in schools.

It is important for them to “understand” what they learn so they can be equipped to put it to productive use in the real world.

For instance, you learn how to drive so that you can eventually drive your car around unaided.

As Robert Kiyosaki explained in one of his books, if we employed the traditional school approach, you would learn all the theory of driving by memorizing the steps involved.

But, you would actually spend little (if any) time practicing how to drive the car using your new knowledge!

When that happens, you end up unable to drive a car even though you’ve been to driving school!

Thankfully that is hardly ever the case, because it is easy to assess the value of the training given you in a driving school.

When you complete your driving lessons (and IF you have been a diligent student), you should be able to drive a car by the time you are leaving.

If you can’t, then you would have a right to challenge your driving teacher.

I have personally met many graduates of computer science from Nigerian universities, who after graduation go on to enroll for courses in private computer schools to gain basic computer appreciation skills!!

This is often because they discover that in the real world, the things they’ve been taught were irrelevant to current industry practice.

Cramming Makes Learning Unpleasant & Damages A Child’s Natural Learning Ability

The above is a major reason our traditional educational system does not really make kids enjoy reading and thinking.

They still have to memorize notes given by the teacher, and do a “verbatim return to sender” (like R. Buckminster Fuller wisely did) to get full marks in class!

Under such situations, whether the student can explain what he has written down, and apply it in real life to a productive end is never an issue as far as the teacher is concerned

Let’s consider for instance, the inter-schools debate competitions sometimes aired on our local TV stations.

I am constantly amazed by the ability of the students to make their arguments by reeling off one point after another, employing sophisticated vocabulary (that even university undergraduates would struggle with!) in the process.

The manner in which they deliver their speeches however often betrays the fact that they are simply reciting what they memorized!

Typically, the teacher writes the paper for the student to “upload to memory” for later “download” at the event. They therefore often do not understand the things they say.

Which explains why a student can get totally confused if it happens that she misses a line during her “recitation” at (what is meant to be a) debate!

Final Words

I have seen the above happen on more than one occasion.

My question is what responsible school teacher or administrator would allow such damage to be done to students’ thinking abilities in order to win a competition?

Please understand my argument here. I have not said all the schools and students have this problem. There are exceptions, as is the case with everything in life.

It’s just that the larger majority are affected by the problem I have described above.

This is why YOU as a parent must – for the sake of your kid – get involved in challenging her school, and teachers, to make a change for the better.

But don’t stop there.

“A chapter a day, keeps failure at bay” – Anon

More important is the role you can play in creating an environment at home that stimulates your child’s desire to read and think.

Get her books and movies that task the viewer to think e.g detective series or thrillers.

Engage her in discussion about the different titles and episodes.

Aim to get her used to thinking deep about issues instead of accepting things on surface value.

You’ll gradually discover she’s taking a natural interest in doing more qualitative thinking and reading, even beyond what you’ve taught her.

And it will give her a noticeable edge in interpersonal relations, compared to her peers.

NB: This article is based on excerpts from Tayo Solagbade’s Self-Development Bible available for purchase as a print manual on Lulu.com.

This article explains why today’s parents need to avoid the mistake of waiting for their kids to grow up before talking to them about ways of making money or earning income OUTSIDE paid employment.

The world as we know it today is very different from what it was when many of today’s parents were kids, over 2 decades ago.

Technology aided advancements have radically – and rapidly – transformed the way we live and work.

And that includes how we play our roles as adults in general, and parents in particular.

Decades Ago, Children Had Fewer Independent Sources Of Information For Making Career Choices

For example, about 30 years ago, I was a year away from becoming a teenager.

As a child from a middle class home, my awareness of opportunities the world of my country held for me was mainly limited to what I learnt from my parents, adult relatives, teachers and books.

Odd as it may be to admit today, I only read about computers in books and magazines.

It would be over 10 years later, in 1993, before I set eyes on a real desktop PC for the first time.

This was after I graduated from the university, and completed a year of compulsory national service.

I’d followed my instincts to enroll for an introductory course on MS-DOS, DBASE, Word Perfect and Lotus 1-2-3.

It lasted only for 4 weeks and touched mainly on the basics of each topic.

Yet less than a year later, I was rapidly implementing high profile PC based report generation solutions (in my spare time) while working as a shift brewer in a large corporate multinational manufacturer.

Another three years on, I became one of the earliest adopters of Internet technology in the company.

Back then in 1998, the company had not even given thought to providing Internet access anywhere on the premises.

Yet, within a week of learning that the first Cyber Cafe in my Benin city base was open, I’d become a customer, and soon after enrolled for private HTML webdesign coaching classes under the tutelage of a teenage cafe attendant.

Eight weeks after, while acting as Training & Technical Development Manager, I used my newly acquired HTML coding skills to create an information and news delivery network of web pages.

It served departmental engineering teams with best practice maintenance and training tips, and was hosted on the company’s intranet (with assistance from the local IT guys with whom I’d become friendly).

How Limited Information & Exposure To Opportunities Denied Me An Early Start In My Preferred Career

In reflecting on my performance in the above mentioned company, I realised that developing those valuable PC solutions came naturally to me.

As a result, even though I had no formal IT qualifications, I effortlessly excelled at it to the delight of my employers – and the appreciation of the company’s IT personnel.

The above fact remains evident in the work I do for clients, as it is on this blog, my websites, and in the unique solutions I provide e.g custom spreadsheet automation and web marketing systems development.

That’s why I’ve said in a previous write-up (based on the wisdom of hindsight) that if I had gained steady access or exposure to PCs earlier in life, I would most likely have never taken up paid employment – where I spent 7 years before finally quitting to take up my true calling

Give Your Children Adequate Information & Exposure To Guide Their Career Choices

Which brings me to my core message for this write-up.

Due to the negative outcome of the experience I had, I’ve resolved to do everything in my power to help my children avoid a similar fate.

That’s why I constantly expose them to everything I believe can guide them to make smarter decisions about what they want to do for a living – earlier on in their lives.

For instance, I regularly share with them about how I earn income providing a variety of web based solutions to people within and outside the country.

In doing this I highlight the fact that people of almost all ages earn income in the same manner all over the world.

Just today I told them about a trend recently reported by Lulu.com, in which parents are increasingly collaborating with their kids to jointly self publish storytelling fiction books.

Through the above process, kids get an early and fun based introduction to the book writing and publishing business.

And as the case studies of families featured in the report revealed, there’s a good chance the kids may go on to gain useful public speaking and public relations exposure as they record success with sales of their published works over time.

Incidentally, for about 5 months now, I’ve been challenging my 3 sons (who are 9, 11 and 13 years old respectively) to finish off the short stories they’ve been taking turns to type on the laptop.

To secure their interest, I’d told them we would get them published like my own books.

As you can imagine, the Lulu.com report has now provided a valuable boost to the relevance of my message to the kids!

My purpose is to make them see that today’s technology driven world provides ready opportunities for them to make an early start in life.

The days when kids had to wait to finish school, then get a job to start earning income are long gone.

Your child can still follow that formula if it appeals to you, or her.

However, it’s important to let her know she can do both i.e attend school, and simultaneously learn to earn income – using her creative skills for instance, by writing.

Remember that there’s a good chance that other parents will be doing exactly that for their own kids today.

Therefore, as a responsible parent, you owe your child an obligation to provide the access and exposure needed to help her make up her mind intelligently.

Then you must support her to act on/implement her decision.
By so doing, you’ll equip her to compete effectively with her contemporaries, from early on in life.