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When it comes to DELIVERING desired results, LOWERING YOUR STANDARDS (or COMPROMISING) in order to avoid being called \"difficult\" by clients (or representatives) unwilling to honour their end of the bargain, can end up making you look incompetent.<\/p>\n

In this write-up I explain why doing the above to please others is never worth it, IF you want authentic and lasting success.<\/p>\n

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Date:\u00a0<\/strong>Monday 19th October 2015<\/span><\/p>\n

No: <\/strong>215<\/p>\n

Title: <\/strong> Don\u2019t Be So \"Nice\" That You Appear Incompetent (Hint:<\/strong> Sometimes It Pays to be Initially \u201cDifficult\u201d So as to be Successful Later)<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/a>1 of 2: PUBLIC SPEAKING - <\/span> No. 215: Don\u2019t Be So \"Nice\" That You Appear Incompetent (Hint: Sometimes It Pays to be Initially \u201cDifficult\u201d So as to be Successful Later<\/span>) <\/span><\/h1>\n

When it comes to DELIVERING desired results, LOWERING YOUR STANDARDS (or COMPROMISING) in order to avoid being called \"difficult\" by clients (or representatives) unwilling to honour their end of the bargain, can end up making you look incompetent.<\/p>\n

In this write-up I explain why doing the above to please others is never worth it, IF you want authentic and lasting success.<\/em><\/p>\n

Some people always want to cut corners, or give too little, if possible nothing, to get ALL they want!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

In today\u2019s NIGERIA, a person can easily get labelled wicked if s\/he REFUSES to allow or tolerate wrong behaviour from those who report to him\/her or who s\/he has to LEAD.<\/p>\n

The problem is widespread, and begins right from the schooling system, from primary to tertiary level.<\/p>\n

For instance, today the following can earn a teacher\/lecturer the label of \"WICKED\":<\/strong><\/p>\n

1. Insisting students meet minimum required attendance, or get penalized.<\/p>\n

2. Insisting students score required passing grade for a credit course, or repeat\/carry over.<\/p>\n

3. Refusing to entertain \"pleas\" that a student whose performance falls below cut-off level be allowed to advance to the next class.<\/p>\n

Like I said, it\u2019s everywhere...even on the Nigerian roads, the traffic offender thinks the same way. S\/he will plead in the same manner after DELIBERATELY jumping the lights and getting caught. <\/strong><\/p>\n

They always believe they can plead (and if necessary BUY) their way out of any trouble. Quite often they also find enforcers willing to let them do just that.<\/em><\/p>\n

In Nigeria, when people \"BEG\" you to bend the rules for them and you agree, they say \"God Bless You\". When you refuse, they call you \"WICKED\"!<\/strong><\/p>\n

I argue that it becomes impossible to ensure the required high standards are met, and the DESIRED RESULTS achieved when we fail to enforce rules put in place to make that happen!<\/h3>\n

For instance, how do we turn out competent medical surgeons if we let those who fail tests designed to test \u201ccompetence\u201d to advance to the next class...because we don't want to be WICKED, or we want to HELP?<\/p>\n

The truth is that there are times when the best way to HELP people will be to make them pay the price for their wrong doing. <\/strong><\/p>\n

We need to challenge people to put in the needed effort to QUALIFY to move to the next level in pursuit of a reward they want.<\/p>\n

The reason Nigeria has become home to \u201cmass mediocrity\u201d is because too many people are UNWILLING to EARN merit-based access to rewards they seek\u2026AND<\/strong> too many people in decision making positions are WILLING to BEND the rules to let such people have their way.<\/em><\/h3>\n

We see the result in the pitiful state of our sports today, compared to our rich past!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Save for some individuals who are excelling in their fields using raw talent and drive (e.g. Table Tennis), our Sportsmen and Women today give us little or no reason to cheer.<\/p>\n

Many people are getting picked to represent us through corner-cutting, and it's preventing the BEST talents that we really have from getting to represent us.<\/p>\n

It's the same problem in other areas.<\/p>\n

Merit gets second place most times in decision making when it matters most. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Until we change this harmful and shameful culture, Nigeria will continue to crawl in fields of endeavour where she should be SOARING high above other nations, in the skies of achievement.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been called DIFFICULT, UN-REASONABLE, RIGID (or even WICKED!) quite a bit in Nigeria\u2026and I have NO PROBLEMS with it!<\/strong><\/h3>\n

That\u2019s because I do NOT tolerate mediocrity in any guise or form, and I constantly demand EVERYONE around me to pull their weight, and earn the right to access rewards they seek.<\/p>\n

My kids will tell you this is true - and like I've told their grandparents, the results WILL be obvious in the abilities they manifest for the world to see in the VERY near future.<\/p>\n

In the meantime, if YOU are a parent, I urge you to entrench a similar culture in your home, so your kids get the best preparing to excel in the real world.<\/p>\n

They will arrive adulthood with the right mental attitude and discipline to make the most of opportunities that come their way!<\/em><\/p>\n

Question: How do you serve clients successfully? <\/strong><\/h3>\n

Answer: By delivering the results YOU promised them and which they agreed to pay YOU for.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s VERY unlikely that you can successfully serve clients by being NICE to them, while failing to do the above i.e. delivering what you promised!<\/em><\/p>\n

This is why it\u2019s crucially important that you avoid making the dangerous mistake of LOWERING your standards to please any client.<\/p>\n

Let me explain using a personal example:<\/strong><\/p>\n

In developing and implementing Web Marketing Systems (WMS) for clients, I sometimes get asked to meet with and\/or give a talk to decision makers (who pay to have that happen) on what I am to do for them.<\/em><\/h3>\n

During such interactions I spell out what I will do for them, as well as what they need to do on their own part, to meet me halfway, so that the solution works as expected.<\/p>\n

But I don\u2019t just stop at telling them\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

When work starts, if\/when I identify that a client is going off track in terms of delivering what s\/he has agreed to enable me progress the work (e.g. sending me a profile, or articles to use in creating new content), I firmly, but politely remind him\/her noting problems likely to occur.<\/p>\n

Trying too hard to be \u201cnice\u201d with a client (or representative) failing to give you what you need to do YOUR work, can end up making YOU look bad at the end of the day.<\/strong><\/h3>\n

How?<\/p>\n

Myriad possibilities exist.<\/p>\n

For instance, in order to be \u201cnice\u201d, you may say nothing about the delays to those who need to know. The problem is that the culprit could later turn around \u2013 when eye brows are raised, and say YOU did not ask\/remind him\/her \u2013 effectively blaming you!<\/p>\n

So don\u2019t take the business of being nice too far: You must think and act like a true professional at all times \u2013 IF you want the client to respect you. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Learn to assert yourself to get your work done.<\/p>\n

No one is going to give you a pat of the back for failing to deliver. Remember that you\u2019re getting paid!<\/p>\n

If the decision maker has given you the go ahead, and some person(s) assigned to work with you are delaying things, find a way to set them right before they make you look bad. <\/strong><\/h3>\n

If they fail to change despite your best efforts, get the relevant decision maker involved.<\/p>\n

THAT could get you labelled \u201cWICKED\u201d by any naughty mediocre minds involved. However, my experiences indicate that such a situation will only be temporary. <\/em><\/p>\n

You see, taking such decisive action WILL often enable you deliver a solution works, just like you promised. When that happens, you\u2019ll look good to decision makers WHO TRULY MATTER!<\/h3>\n

All others will simply fall in line and join in applauding you from them on! <\/em><\/p>\n

Take it from me. I\u2019ve been there countless times in paid as well as self-employment\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2026as a shift manager leading over scores of men to achieve daily targets on bottling lines; as a shift brewer leading a dozen operatives to meet daily brewing targets; as Technical Training and Development Manager leading a team of Training Instructors and Engineering Trainees to serve the brewery with custom training, and also as Acting Production Manager, leading others (some 15 years my senior in the company) to achieve target brewing outputs.<\/p>\n

Since becoming an entrepreneur over a decade ago, I\u2019ve also been \u201cthere\u201d countless times at an even more demanding level\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2026as a multi-skilled Performance Improvement Specialist working \u2013 in person and online - with clients within and outside Africa, to deliver promised results.<\/p>\n

Sometimes it\u2019s not deliberate on the part of the client or representative. They tend to get so busy with their own business tasks that they \u201cforget\u201d or \u201cde-prioritize\u201d what they agreed to do for you. <\/em><\/h3>\n

But the problem created for you WILL always remain the same! <\/strong><\/p>\n

That\u2019s why you need to call their attention, if\/when they inadvertently fail to meet you halfway as agreed.<\/p>\n

If you do not do so in a timely manner, you will be setting yourself up to look bad. <\/em><\/p>\n

You have been warned!<\/p>\n

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THE FARM CEO (Issue 19): Feed Formulation for Farm CEOs Workshop: FREE Entry for Buyers of Feed Formulation Pack, How a Ugandan Woman Became a Millionaire from Piggery, Mixed-Crop Livestock Farming: Traditional technologies for animal production, FINANCIAL MANAGEMENT OF CATFISH FARMS : Catfish Growth-Cash flow MS Excel Models, Genetic improvement of indigenous cattle breeds in Zimbabwe : a case study<\/a><\/p>\n

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[RECOMMENDED READING] An adventure to discover the best teacher in Nigeria. Drama Galore\u2026lol!<\/a><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
[Friday<\/span>]:<\/strong><\/td>\n\n
Making Nigeria Work Again: We ALL Need to Beat The Nigerian Factor (BTNF) \u2122<\/a><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n
[Saturday<\/span>]:<\/strong><\/td>\n\n
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Motivational Speaking is NOT Self-Development Education<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n

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\"www.tayosolagbade.com<\/a><\/p>\n

Tayo K. Solagbade*<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Self-Development\/Performance Improvement Specialist<\/strong><\/p>\n

*Sole Agent For\u00a0<\/em>Burt Dubin's Speaker Mentoring Service<\/span><\/a><\/em> In Africa<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

Mobile:<\/strong> +234-803-302-1263 (in Nigeria<\/strong>) or +229-66-122-136 (in Benin Republic<\/strong>)<\/p>\n

http:\/\/www.tayosolagbade.com<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

Tayo K. Solagbade<\/a> is a Location Independent Performance Improvement <\/b><\/p>\n

Specialist and Multipreneur (i.e. a highly versatile\/multi-skilled entrepreneur), with a bias for delivering Best Practice solutions to<\/p>\n

Farm Businesses and others.<\/p>\n

Since 2002, he has earned multiple streams of income providing individuals and organizations with personal development training and coaching, custom MS Excel-VB solutions<\/a>, web marketing<\/a> systems\/web hosting<\/a>,<\/p>\n

freelance writing services, and best practice extension support services (for farm business owners<\/a>).<\/p>\n

Tayo is the author of the Self-Development (SD) Bible\u2122<\/a> and the<\/p>\n

popular Livestock Feed Formulation<\/a> Handbook. He is also the developer of its accompanying Excel-VB driven Ration Formulator\u2122<\/a> and the Poultry Farm <\/a><\/p>\n

Manager\u2122 software.<\/p>\n

He has delivered talks\/papers to audiences in <\/a><\/p>\n

various groups and organizations, including the Centre for Management Development, University of Lagos, Christ Baptist Church, Volunteer Corps, Tantalisers Fast Foods<\/p>\n

and others.<\/p>\n

In May 2012 he was the Guest Speaker at the Centre for Entrepreneurship Development\u2019s Annual Semester Entrepreneurial Lecture at Yaba College of Technology in Lagos.<\/p>\n

On 1st April 2013, Tayo (who reads, write and speaks the French language) relocated to Cotonou, Benin Republic<\/a> to begin slowly<\/p>\n

traveling across the West African region.<\/p>\n

His key purpose is to deliver talks, seminars <\/strong><\/p>\n

and workshops on his key areas of focus and interest to interested audiences (Email tayo at tksola dot com for details).<\/p>\n

In a previous life, before leaving to become self-employed, Tayo served for seven years as a high performing manager in Guinness Nigeria. He rose from Shift Brewer, to Training<\/p>\n

& Technical Development Manager, and then later acted in senior management roles as Production Manager and Technical Manager.<\/p>\n

He is an Associate Member of the UK Institute & Guild of Brewing, a 1997 National Finalist of the Nigerian Institute of Management\u2019s(NIM) Young Managers\u2019<\/p>\n

competition, a Certified Psychometric Test Administrator for Psytech UK, innovator of Spontaneous Coaching for Self-Development\u2122 (SCfS-D\u2122), and Founder of the Self-Development Academy Limited<\/a>.<\/p>\n

When he's not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his Daily Self-Development Nuggets blog<\/a> - on which he also publishes his Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS <\/a><\/p>\n

newsletter(which he uses to promote Burt Dubin's Public Speaking Mentoring service<\/a> to experts working across the African<\/p>\n

continent).<\/p>\n

You can connect with him on Twitter @tksola.com<\/a> and Facebook<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Visit Tayo Solagbade Dot Com<\/a>, to download over over 10 performance improvement resources to boost your<\/p>\n

personal and work related productivity.<\/p>\n

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On 4th May 2014, Tayo's 9 year old domain (Spontaneousdevelopment dot com), which hosted his website, was taken over by Aplus.net. <\/em><\/p>\n

Within a few days however, Tayo used his advanced self-taught web development skills to build a SUPERIOR \"reincarnation\" of it the website http:\/\/www.tayosolagbade.com<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But updates are still ongoing to URLs bearing the old domain name in most of the over 1,000 web pages, and blog posts <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

he's published.<\/p>\n

If you experience any difficulties finding a page or document, email Tayo at tksola dot com.<\/p>\n

Click \"Tayo, What Happened to <\/a><\/p>\n

SpontaneousDevelopmentDotCom ?\" to read a detailed narrative about how the above event occurred :-))<\/p>\n

Here's an article Tayo wrote, to inspire others to defy adversity, and bounce back to even greater reckoning at what they do EVERY time:<\/h4>\n
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Succeed by Emerging from Adversity Like a Phoenix <\/a><\/p>\n

(TayoSolagbade.com launches extra Hosting plan with FREE Web Marketing!)<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

And he wrote the one below, to explain why losing a domain name, no matter how old NO LONGER determines your online success or otherwise:<\/h4>\n

A Proven Strategy to Find Profitable Buyers Regardless of Your Domain Name<\/a><\/p>\n

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