{"id":3803,"date":"2014-01-24T22:52:21","date_gmt":"2014-01-24T22:52:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=3803"},"modified":"2014-01-24T22:52:21","modified_gmt":"2014-01-24T22:52:21","slug":"if-you-truly-love-your-kids-youll-do-this","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/if-you-truly-love-your-kids-youll-do-this\/","title":{"rendered":"If You Truly Love Your Kids, You'll Do This"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When children are with their parents they  go through a lot of experiences. Some are positive and others are not. In the  course of those experiences, they learn different things \u2013 some good, some not  so good, and then some, bad. You, as a parent can resolve to make those experiences  beneficial to the kids, most \u2013 if not all \u2013 the time. <\/p>\n<h3><strong>Sadly  today, the experiences that kids go through are not in any way planned or  structured. The result is that the learning, insight and \u201ceducation\u201d they acquire  tend not to be planned or structured either. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>  In the villages, especially back in the old  days, adults\/parents were a lot more deliberate in the ways they chose to  expose children to specific experiences. <\/p>\n<p>  There was often a specific\/desired outcome  in mind, most times when a young boy or girl or young man\/woman was asked to do  something. Books like Chinua Achebe\u2019s Things Fall Apart in which Okonkwo\u2019s rise  to adult (man) hood is described provide examples to support the foregoing  assertion. <\/p>\n<h3><strong>If  you want your child to quickly find direction\/purpose for him\/herself in life,  you need to help facilitate the process. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>  You can do this better than the teacher \u2013  because your child is more likely to trust you more. The teacher(s) can help  consolidate on your efforts while the child is in school, but you would be the  main \u201cplayer\u201d, helping steer the child towards eventual self-discovery. <\/p>\n<p><em>That  is the way it should be \u2013 you working with your child to chart his\/her future,  while the teacher (through close interaction with you) helps keep the child  focused on the journey to self-discovery. <\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>A  child that benefits from this kind of \u201ctraining\u201d, will gradually evolve into an  independent minded, self-motivated and focused adult. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>  She would be easier to teach because the  natural interest in a future goal would have been stirred, so that the need to  study\/learn would be obvious to her.<\/p>\n<p>  The experiences that children go through in  their developmental years often have a strong and lasting impact on them in  their adult lives. Any parent who wants those experiences to be positive ones  for his\/her kids, will have to get personally involved in providing those  experiences \u2013 and\/or helping the children deal with the results of having them.  It cannot be any other way. <\/p>\n<h3><strong>Newcomers  to a company typically have to undergo \u201cinduction\u201d\/training in different  departments to facilitate their settling into their new jobs\/roles in the  company. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>  They are made to go through this, despite  having been found to possess the needed qualifications and experience for their  jobs. This is because the management recognizes that for them to function  efficiently (to the benefit of the company), they will be better off being  \u201chelped\u201d to achieve familiarity with existing procedures\/systems faster. <\/p>\n<p>  Among other benefits, these newcomers will  thus be expected to make fewer, avoidable errors in the early stages of  performing their new duties.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>This  foregoing analogy describes what parents would be doing for their kids by  \u201cinducting\u201d them early on into the ways of the world. <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p><em>Parents  should be able to bring their \u201cexpertise\u201d in worldly affairs to bear on the  \u201ctraining\u201d of their children.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>  Do you love your children? Do you want to  give them the best possible preparation to succeed in their adult lives in  society? <\/p>\n<p><strong>If  YES, take the above ideas to heart, and apply them, from today, in relating with  your kids. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>  You will be glad you did.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When children are with their parents they go through a lot of experiences. Some are positive and others are not. In the course of those experiences, they learn different things \u2013 some good, some not so good, and then some, bad. 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