{"id":3430,"date":"2013-11-08T03:44:28","date_gmt":"2013-11-08T03:44:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=3430"},"modified":"2014-09-22T03:17:18","modified_gmt":"2014-09-22T03:17:18","slug":"we-need-not-be-good-at-the-same-things-to-succeed","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/we-need-not-be-good-at-the-same-things-to-succeed\/","title":{"rendered":"We Need Not be Good at the Same Things, to Succeed!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.\" - Albert Einstein<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

Remember The Above Quote EVERY Single Time You Think About Your Child<\/h3>\n

When your child does not perform well in school, sports or any area of life, relative to his\/her peers. <\/p>\n

When s\/he fails to demonstrate proficiency in vocations that his\/her siblings excel in.<\/p>\n

ALWAYS remind yourself of that powerful quote credited to Einstein.<\/em><\/p>\n

Einstein was one of the greatest minds\/achievers to ever grace this planet with his presence. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Most people know that. <\/p>\n

Some may however not know that he generally displayed intolerance \u2013 even impatience \u2013 with traditional schooling systems. <\/p>\n

He saw the defects in the teaching system employed in traditional schools. He did not enjoy learning that way (more on that later).<\/p>\n

How is Your Child Being Judged By You and\/or Others\u2026in Your Family or Elsewhere? <\/strong><\/h3>\n

It\u2019s important to control the environment in which a child grows up with respect to how s\/he is \u201cevaluated\u201d on a daily basis.<\/p>\n

Like I said in a past article, there are hundreds of different intelligences. <\/p>\n

Not everyone will have the kind of intelligence that will make him\/her an academic genius for instance. <\/p>\n

If you really think of it, some of the people who make this world turn round with their genius would be lost if asked to discuss anything academic.<\/p>\n

For some it will be intelligence in the use of the different parts of their bodies e.g. the feet (for sprinters and footballers), the mouth (for singers) etc.<\/p>\n

Think About Some of The Great Professional Footballers We've Known<\/h3>\n

I'm not sure I want to know what Diego Maradona scored in Mathematics as a student. Or if Jay-Jay Okocha was good in Algebra!!!<\/p>\n

Such subjects have no relevance to the genius of these 2 mentioned achievers. <\/p>\n

The club and national team coaches do not ask for school certificates or university degrees to decide who gets to play in the team.<\/p>\n

It's your demonstrated \"ingenuity\" on the pitch that counts. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

D'banj, one of Nigeria\u2019s current international music superstars once sang about how he followed his passion for music, against his father\u2019s wishes.<\/h3>\n
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\u201cI read, read, read, but book no gree enter my head\u201d (singing in pidgin English). <\/em><\/p>\n

Literal translation: \u201cI tried my best, but just could not make anything of studying in school\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

\n Well, today no one can correctly argue that he took the wrong path. <\/p>\n

He\u2019s apparently a genius at what he does, and he obviously enjoys it. And that\u2019s what matters in life at the end of the day. <\/p>\n

The examples I've used are not exhaustive. <\/p>\n

This Thinking Needs to Be Applied to All Areas of Life<\/strong><\/h3>\n

For instance, your child's choice of course to major in at university. <\/p>\n

The fact that you and his siblings all majored in Engineering, does not mean s\/he has to. <\/strong><\/p>\n

That's why we have people who say \"I studied XYZ because my father wanted me to\". <\/p>\n

Sometimes it's because the parents wanted someone with that qualification in the family, to handle an aspect of the family business.<\/em><\/p>\n

If the child happens to like the idea, there will be no issues. <\/strong><\/p>\n

However, if s\/he displays ineptitude, that seems to derive from a lack of real interest, compared to a sibling, or a friend's child, DO NOT put him\/her down for it.<\/h3>\n

That could be a sign that s\/he is not cut out for that kind of vocation. <\/strong><\/p>\n

The smart thing to do would be to help him\/her find what works for her, in way that s\/he can still contribute to the family's joint goal. <\/p>\n

Not to conclude s\/he's not \"smart\" enough...or that s\/he;s not as good as the others. <\/em><\/p>\n

Find your passion and purpose, and pursue it, till you succeed. Then take it to the next level\u2026again and again!<\/h3>\n

Do that for yourself. But even if you don't do it for yourself, at least help your child do it for him\/herself.<\/p>\n

Remind yourself that s\/he is one-of-a-kind, and will have areas where s\/he will also excel effortlessly (same applies to YOU, by the way).<\/p>\n

Your role as a parent is to guide him\/her to discover his\/her genius in that regard. <\/p>\n

And that may end up being something s\/he can do that the world has never seen.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Imagine if Lionel Messi had been forced to finish his schooling FIRST, before his parents let him\/her explore his passion and develop his amazing footballing talent? <\/p>\n

Or if Fela Anikulapo-Kuti<\/a> - the late legendary Afro Beat Musician - had not gone ahead - against his parents' wishes - to enroll and study music on arriving in London?<\/h3>\n

What about if Thomas Edison's mother had not defiantly withdrawn him from school, to begin \"home schooling\" him herself.<\/p>\n

This was AFTER his teachers announced to her that his brain was \"addled\" and that he could not possibly do well, being so \"retarded\"??!<\/p>\n

It turned out that Edison had problems in school, because his mind could not adopt rote learning aka \"cramming\" required in the traditional schooling system. <\/h3>\n

He had a highly developed creative thinking ability. As a result, his mind rejected the attempt to make him what Robert Kiyosaki has called a \"mindless parrot\"! <\/p>\n

No wonder he invented the light bulb, and went on file 1093 patents for his inventions!<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

So, be careful about how much importance you attach to what others (teachers or otherwise) tell you about your child's ability and potential.<\/h3>\n

Realize that they are just human. People with poor self images abound in society. They discount others <\/p>\n

An \"Olodo\" (poor performer) in one field can be a genius in another. <\/p>\n

Each one of us is born with a unique ability i.e. a genius. <\/strong><\/p>\n

Find yours - or at least make sure you help your child find his\/hers. <\/em><\/p>\n

We cannot all be equally good at the same things. <\/strong><\/p>\n

The creator would never make such a ridiculous mistake!<\/p>\n

Enroll Your Child For My Life Skills Coaching Program (Download Flyer Below)<\/strong><\/h3>\n

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