{"id":2613,"date":"2013-06-18T09:00:25","date_gmt":"2013-06-18T09:00:25","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=2613"},"modified":"2015-11-02T14:14:01","modified_gmt":"2015-11-02T14:14:01","slug":"attract-success-by-leaving-others-better-off-than-when-they-met-you-2-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/attract-success-by-leaving-others-better-off-than-when-they-met-you-2-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"Attract Success by Leaving Others Better Off Than When They Met You (2 Tips)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>FACT:<\/strong> In business, and life in general, doing what this title proposes is sure to lead you to attract long term recognition and success to yourself. I employ it in dealing with every person I encounter \u2013 both online, and off the web. I strive to do it no matter how brief our interaction is. And I continually reap useful progress as a result.<\/p>\n<p><em>This article offers 2 ways you can do the same thing and reap similar or better rewards. <\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>1. In Business \u2013 Give Potential Clients Value Even When They Have NOT Hired YOU<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>This can be hard to remember, and do. I say this from experience. But I urge you to invest time and effort in doing it. Believe me, it works!<\/p>\n<p><em>When searching for buyers for your products and services, do NOT focus on what you want (You\u2019ve heard - or read - that before I\u2019m sure!).<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Instead, actively explore ways to immediately add value to prospective clients \u2013 using what you know, or can do.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Specific example:<\/strong> I always give practical ready-to-use ideas on web marketing to potential clients during discussions or meetings we have. I even create marketing resources (e.g. downloadable PDF they can give away to capture subscribers, or generate leads).<\/p>\n<p><em><strong>There is magic in this. Psychological magic. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p>It makes you look bigger in their eyes, because you come across as having so much that you confidently and readily give free samples without fear of loss.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ll often be impressed by your willingness to give of yourself in that manner. <em>And that can actually attract or influence them to buy your products or services, or tell other about you.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>But even if no apparent benefits seem forthcoming, do it anyway. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It will pay off eventually.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>2. In General Life \u2013 Add Tangible Value to Others Even If You Have NOTHING to Gain<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>If you\u2019re like me, with a passion for what you do, your personal and work life are probably difficult to separate \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p>But all the same, distinctions exist. Sometimes you\u2019ll have to relate with people you do not consider potential buyers of whatever you sell.<\/p>\n<p>Always realize that everything you do still links back to building credibility for yourself. So, explore non-manipulative strategies to turn others into your raving fans and advocates.<\/p>\n<p><strong>We all know that people generally prefer to buy from persons they know \u2013 and trust. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>By aiming to leave everyone you meet better off than when you found them, you effectively build a <strong>reliable store of goodwill <\/strong>for yourself. <\/em><\/p>\n<p>Sooner or later, you will harvest the rewards - sometimes including positive gains in your business.<\/p>\n<h3><strong>One Specific Example (A True Story)<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>Years ago, while working in a large multinational, I used my spreadsheet programming skills to create an automated MS-Excel-VB driven application, for use by a senior colleague in the engineering function.<\/p>\n<p>It enabled him produce his complex graph based engineering reports within minutes, instead of the hours it normally took him.<\/p>\n<p><em>I did it without his asking, while off duty from shift brewing.<\/em><\/p>\n<p><strong>Some years later, I quit the company to become self-employed. <\/strong>Among other services, I offered <a href=\"http:\/\/excelheaven.tayosolagbade.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">spreadsheet programming services<\/a> to potential company clients.<\/p>\n<p>One day I got a lengthy email from this former colleague. He had moved to a well known multinational oil service company in a top position.<\/p>\n<p>He wrote asking me how much it would cost to build, for him, a similar application to the one I\u2019d built back when we worked together.<\/p>\n<p><strong>In that email, he wrote something as follows (not exact words): <\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><em>\u201cTayo\u2026I know you can help me with this because I\u2019ve seen your Midas touches from when we were together in (company name)\u201d.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><strong><em>NB: <\/em><\/strong><em>If I had not used my skills to add value to him years before, it\u2019s unlikely he would have developed this deep level of trust and confidence in my capabilities.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>We eventually had two meetings and followed up with emails and phone calls. Although he was eventually unable to get funding to pay the fee I quoted, it was still a useful experience for me.<\/p>\n<p><strong>This was because our discussions had given me an insider view, of areas in which I could add value to companies in the market place. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><em>I went on to use that knowledge in winning projects from 2 medium sized hospitals later on. <\/em><\/p>\n<h3><strong>Final Words (Watch Out for Wolves!)<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p>What I'm recommending in this piece is simple.<\/p>\n<p>Aim to get even people who DO NOT buy from you, to be grateful <strong>or glad<\/strong> that they met you. You can do this using abilities (or knowledge) you have, that can be of use to them.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Make doing this a habit, and many good people will love having you around. <\/strong>They will sometimes even go out of their way to help you, should the opportunity to do so arise.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Be careful however. Don\u2019t let yourself get exploited while doing this. There are always wolves out there!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It may take some work, but for best results, you <strong>MUST learn<\/strong> to use your gut level instinct to identify <strong>WHO to offer yourself to in this way<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><em>Not all those you meet will be sincere. Some insincere people will try to exploit your \"generosity\" to get you to work for them without (decent) pay.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>The truth is however that such people will rarely be hard to detect \u2013 <strong>especially if YOU are sincere<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p><em>Just pay attention to your sixth sense. Listen carefully to YOUR FEELINGS, and you\u2019ll know!<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>FACT: In business, and life in general, doing what this title proposes is sure to lead you to attract long term recognition and success to yourself. I employ it in dealing with every person I encounter \u2013 both online, and off the web. I strive to do it no matter how brief our interaction is. 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