{"id":2574,"date":"2013-06-10T11:03:29","date_gmt":"2013-06-10T11:03:29","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=2574"},"modified":"2013-06-11T16:06:23","modified_gmt":"2013-06-11T16:06:23","slug":"no-93-aim-to-be-reliably-competent-not-popular","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/no-93-aim-to-be-reliably-competent-not-popular\/","title":{"rendered":"No. 93: Aim to Be Reliably Competent - Not Popular"},"content":{"rendered":"

Competence, when reliable - and especially when exceptional - can lead to popularity or fame. However, chasing popularity ahead of competence can make you prone to avoidable mistakes e.g. going inadequately prepared for a speaking gig, and goofing up.<\/p>\n

Now that, could also make you popular \u2013 but it would be for the wrong reasons!<\/p>\n

In this issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter, I discuss 2 reasons why chasing popularity ahead of reliable (and preferably \"exceptional\") competence, exposes you to the risk of looking bad as an expert-who-speaks.<\/p>\n

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Publication:<\/strong>\u00a0Tayo Solagbade's Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP)<\/strong> Newsletter<\/p>\n

Date:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Monday 10th June 2013<\/p>\n

No:<\/strong>93<\/p>\n

Title: <\/strong>Aim to Be Reliably Competent - Not Popular.<\/p>\n

Author & Publisher:<\/strong>\u00a0Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263<\/a><\/strong>]<\/p>\n

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Competence, when reliable - and especially when exceptional - can lead to popularity or fame. However, chasing popularity ahead of competence can make you prone to avoidable mistakes e.g. going inadequately prepared for a speaking gig, and goofing up.<\/p>\n

Now that<\/strong>, could also make you popular \u2013 but it would be for the wrong reasons!<\/p>\n

In this issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter, I discuss 2 reasons why chasing popularity ahead of reliable (<\/strong>and preferably \"exceptional\") competence<\/strong>, exposes you to the risk of looking bad as an expert-who-speaks.<\/p>\n

1. Premature Popularity Can Cause Subtle \u2013 But Potentially Costly - Distractions<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n

Celebrities in various areas of endeavor know fame can be a double edged sword. So they\u2019ve learnt to take necessary precautions in their daily lives.<\/p>\n

Some of us do not appreciate the value of having<\/strong> \u201cunknown\u201d faces. We can walk down the street anytime we like, to the bar, or to watch a local football team play in the neighborhood. Not many people - except friends, family or associates \u2013 would take any notice of us, talk less of calling out to others to say \"look!\".<\/p>\n

Michael Jackson was often referred to as a mega star. He could not dare go out in public that way. Just like many other famous people still with us today.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Thankfully, popularity comes in degrees. I doubt I could tolerate such loss of my personal freedom that Jackson had to endure. But we all have our passions. He achieved results in his chosen area of expertise, that made him that <\/strong>popular.<\/p>\n

When what you do puts you in the public\u2019s eye, popularity tends to be a natural outcome of demonstrating reliable competence<\/span> - over a reasonable period of time. <\/strong><\/h3>\n

For Jackson and other celebrities, their popularity, which came as a result of what they did(do) so well, also posed (poses) a serious source of distraction. <\/em><\/p>\n

You cough, and it becomes news. You decide to change your attire, or car, and someone comes up with a creative interpretation in the media. Suddenly everyone has something new to say about you, or what you did \u2013 and sometimes it may not be so nice.<\/p>\n

Okay, so that\u2019s more common in the entertainment industry. <\/strong><\/p>\n

But famous people in more formal vocations (e.g. public speaking) also get plenty of attention from the public. This is why it pays to FIRST devote time and energy to honing<\/strong> your skills, until you\u2019re able to flawlessly deliver solutions or results to those you serve.<\/p>\n

If popularity subsequently results from that, you\u2019ll be relatively safe, since doing more of what you do, AFTER it arrives, will be easy for you.<\/p>\n

However if you go around drawing attention<\/strong> to yourself as a \"superstar\" of sorts in your field, without gaining reliable<\/strong> competence, you set yourself up to look bad \u2013 eventually (emphasis on reliable).<\/p>\n

2. You Can Mistake Your Premature Popularity for Achievement<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n

Secondly, chasing popularity can make you stop striving to improve - you start thinking you\u2019ve arrived. Especially once your efforts to be popular make people start paying more<\/strong> attention to you.<\/p>\n

I read a quote credited to a famous writer. It admonished aspiring or up and coming writers not to<\/strong> mistake recognition for achievement<\/strong>. In other words, don\u2019t get carried away by the applause of your admirers. Focus on moving to the next level of accomplishment. <\/em><\/p>\n

Look at great achievers in the world. Even when they have been acknowledged as being the best at what they do, they never really stop trying to do more. <\/strong><\/p>\n

No they don't. Instead they strive to create new value to add to what exists. And sometimes they invest energy and time in helping others learn how to do what they have done<\/strong>. <\/em><\/p>\n

There is a big difference between \u201chaving potential<\/span>\u201d and \"actualizing\" it.<\/h3>\n

For instance, a person can arrive with talent and abilities never before seen or heard of.<\/p>\n

However, long term success achievement cannot be compared to one flash in the pan \u2013 no matter how big the flash is.<\/p>\n

Reproducibility & repeatability are crucial for demonstrating reliable competence!<\/em><\/p>\n

You have to be able to deliver to expectations over and over, to prove you\u2019re reliably competent. And this applies in ANY area of endeavor.<\/p>\n

So, even when people begin to announce that you\u2019re the next big thing, it pays to focus on actually BECOMING that big thing, rather than playing to the gallery.<\/em><\/p>\n

Final Words<\/strong><\/h3>\n

You can\u2019t just do one big thing, and then think you can ride on the back of that, (followed by other relatively mediocre showings), to achieve long term relevance.<\/p>\n

People who try to do that rarely end up well - for obvious reasons!<\/em><\/p>\n

The late Zig Ziglar gained worldwide fame by FIRST demonstrating reliable competence. Robert Kiyosaki also achieved global recognition the same way.<\/p>\n

Both handle(d) their popularity well as a result. <\/em><\/p>\n

Many other examples abound (including that of this renowned veteran in the speaking business<\/a>), that confirm it pays to achieve (exceptional<\/strong>) competence first, rather than chase popularity.<\/p>\n

Doing otherwise could lead to costly negative consequences.<\/p>\n

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If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I've shared in this newsletter, <\/strong>send me a message using this request form<\/a> (with \"Re: Aim to Be Reliably Competent, Not Popular<\/strong>.<\/strong>\" in the subject line).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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For a limited time, Tayo is available to speak to your group or organization for a moderate fee. Send e-mail to tayo at tksola dot com<\/strong>. You can also visit www.tksola.com<\/a> to learn more.<\/p>\n

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