{"id":2401,"date":"2013-05-13T20:20:18","date_gmt":"2013-05-13T20:20:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/?p=2401"},"modified":"2013-05-13T20:20:18","modified_gmt":"2013-05-13T20:20:18","slug":"no-89-no-mentor-can-shield-you-from-mistakes","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/tayosolagbade.com\/sdnuggets\/no-89-no-mentor-can-shield-you-from-mistakes\/","title":{"rendered":"No. 89: No Mentor Can Shield You from Mistakes"},"content":{"rendered":"<style type=\"text\/css\"><!--\n.style3 { \tfont-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; \tfont-size: 12px; } .style18 {font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; font-weight: bold; } .style20 {color: #000000} .style30 {font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-weight: bold; font-size: 18px; color: #990000; } .style31 {font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif} .style42 {color: #990000} .style44 {color: #000033} .style46 {font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; color: #990000; } .style53 {font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px; } .style55 {font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-weight: bold; font-size: 18px; color: #000033; } .style57 {font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; color: #990000; font-size: 12px; } .style73 {color: #000066; } .style74 {color: #0000FF} -->\n--><\/style>\n<p>This is a universal truth. Any self-respecting mentor will acknowledge it. Whoever says s\/he can help you avoid making mistakes is lying to you. A mentor can guide you to minimize mistakes you make.<\/p>\n<p>But you WILL have to make some to gain full mastery or competence.<\/p>\n<p>This week\u2019s issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter explains why and how you can use mistakes to intelligently discover what you need to know, to succeed.<\/p>\n<p><strong>SCROLL DOWN TO READ FULL ISSUE<\/strong><\/p>\n<table width=\"500\" border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"1\" cellpadding=\"1\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td>\n<div style=\"background-color: #ffffff; padding: 5px; margin: 0px;\">\n<p style=\"font-family: Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><a title=\"Click now to view the latest issue of Tayo Solagbade's Public Speaking IDEAS page\" href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/blog\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" style=\"border-style: initial; border-color: initial; color: #666633; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; text-align: left; background-color: #f2f2eb; border-width: 0px;\" alt=\"Click now to view the latest issue of Tayo Solagbade's Public Speaking IDEAS page\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/logo.jpg\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-family: Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\" align=\"center\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/TKSolagbadeSDAc\" target=\"_blank\"><span class=\"style20\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"View Tayos video tutorials and demonstrations on Facebook Productivity Tips, Web Marketing, and for his Custom MS Excel-VB driven software applications\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/youtube_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/span><\/a><span class=\"style20\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/tayo.solagbade\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Connect with Tayo on Facebook.com\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/facebook_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/tksola\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Connect with Tayo on Twitter.com\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/twitter_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/u\/0\/117041728654417267212\/about\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Connect with Tayo on Google Plus\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/google_plus_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<div style=\"color: #000000; font-family: Arial; font-size: 10px; line-height: 100%; text-align: left;\">\n<div align=\"center\"><strong class=\"style3\">Is this email not displaying correctly?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"style3\"><a style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: underline;\" href=\"*|ARCHIVE|*\" target=\"_blank\">View it in your browser<\/a>. <\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<p style=\"font-family: Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\" align=\"left\"><span class=\"style3\"><strong>Publication:<\/strong>\u00a0Tayo Solagbade's Weekly <strong>Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP)<\/strong> Newsletter<\/p>\n<p><strong>Date:<\/strong><span class=\"style31\"><strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Monday 13th May 2013<\/p>\n<p><strong>No:<\/strong>89<\/p>\n<p><strong>Title: <\/strong>No Mentor Can Shield You from Mistakes<\/p>\n<p><strong>Author & Publisher:<\/strong>\u00a0Tayo K. Solagbade [<strong><a href=\"tayo@tksola.com\" target=\"_blank\">234-803-302-1263<\/a><\/strong>]<\/p>\n<p><strong>Blog URL:<\/strong>\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/blog\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/blog<\/a><\/span><\/span><span class=\"style31\"><\/p>\n<p><strong>Archive (For E-mail only version started 14th May 2012): <\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/us5.campaign-archive1.com\/home\/?u=2b21f22849a1458efbbb7026f&id=89f027febc\">Click here to view<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>Archive (For Blog version started 24th September 2011):<\/strong> <\/span><a class=\"style31\" href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/blog\/archives.php\" target=\"_blank\">Click here<\/a><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-family: Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Hi,<\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">Please find below the latest issue of my Speaking IDEAS newsletter.<\/p>\n<p style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\">\n<table width=\"500\" border=\"1\" cellspacing=\"1\" cellpadding=\"1\" align=\"center\">\n<tbody>\n<tr bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<td class=\"style3\" valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"D3DFEE\">\n<h2 class=\"style73\" align=\"center\"><span class=\"style74\">Autorun CDROM<\/span> for Part <em><strong>1 (<span class=\"style42\">Greetings i.e. Salutation\/Accueil<\/span>) <\/strong><\/em>of the Quick & Dirty <span class=\"style44\">Guide to<\/span> <span class=\"style42\">English Language for French Speakers<\/span><span class=\"style44\">...<em>and to <\/em><\/span> <span class=\"style42\">French Language for English Speakers<\/span>)<\/h2>\n<p align=\"center\"><strong>a).<\/strong> Video you can playback repeatedly from start to finish<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><strong>b). <\/strong>Excel workbook you can open and click individual phrases to listen, or print out to read.<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><strong>c). <\/strong>26 individual audio files you can listen to on your PC or mobile<\/p>\n<p align=\"center\"><strong>Price: N2,000 \/ 6,000 F CFA<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"style42\" align=\"center\"><strong><em>(free delivery in Cotonou & Calavi in Benin Republic) <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style31\" align=\"center\"><a title=\"Screenshot of autorun CD ROM for Part 1 of the Quick and Dirty Guide for French and English Learners\" href=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/autorun.png\" target=\"blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Screenshot of autorun CD ROM for Part 1 of the Quick and Dirty Guide for French and English Learners\" src=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/autorun-thb.png\" width=\"500\" height=\"313\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/h3>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<h4><em><strong>Above:<\/strong> Screenshot of autorun CD ROM for Part 1 of the Quick and Dirty Guide for French and English Learners<\/em><\/h4>\n<h4><em>(<a href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/qdg.html\" target=\"_blank\">Click HERE to see screenshots & Watch video<\/a>) <\/em><\/h4>\n<\/div>\n<h3 class=\"style31\" align=\"center\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/contact.htm\" target=\"_blank\">Find out how to get a copy here ... <\/a><\/h3>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<h2 style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;\"><span class=\"style44\">No. 89: <span class=\"style42\"><strong>No Mentor Can Shield You from Mistakes<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"style3\" align=\"center\"><em>****<em> <strong>****<\/strong><\/em><strong>******<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>NB: <\/strong>If you ever find yourself wondering what else I've written, some days after you've read THIS Speaking Ideas newsletter I send out on a Monday, <strong>here's what you can do to find out:<\/strong><\/em> <em>Point your browser to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\" target=\"_blank\">www.sdacademy.org<\/a> to read at least ONE new post added to my <strong>SD Nuggets blog<\/strong> on a different category from Tuesday till Saturday (sometimes even Sundays) in line with <a href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/how-to-use-the-self-development-nuggets-blog\/\" target=\"_blank\">this publishing schedule<\/a> \ud83d\ude42<\/em><em><\/p>\n<p><strong>****<\/strong><\/em><strong>******<\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">This is a universal truth. Any self-respecting mentor will acknowledge it. Whoever says s\/he can help you avoid making mistakes is lying to you. A mentor can guide you to minimize mistakes you make. But you <strong>WILL<\/strong> have to make some to gain full mastery or competence. This week\u2019s issue of my speaking IDEAS newsletter explains why and how you can use mistakes to intelligently discover what you need to know, to succeed.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style31\"><strong>1. <span class=\"style42\">Sometimes Re-Inventing the Wheel May Be Necessary<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\"><a title=\"Man giving a lecture - related to quote: 'Teachers have it wrong. The right answer doesn\u2019t mean anything. Learning comes from mistakes.'  - Robert Kiyosaki\" href=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/sdn-robert-kiyosaki-quote.jpg\" target=\"blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Man giving a lecture - related to quote: 'Teachers have it wrong. The right answer doesn\u2019t mean anything. Learning comes from mistakes.'  - Robert Kiyosaki\" src=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/sdn-robert-kiyosaki-quote.jpg\" width=\"500\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Not everything your mentor or teacher\/coach tells you will work as expected. And except s\/he\u2019s psychic, s\/he may not tell you all you need to know.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">That won\u2019t make him\/her incompetent. It would simply mean s\/he\u2019s not all knowing. So, there\u2019s a chance you\u2019ll encounter a challenge you\u2019ll have to find your own solution to.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><em>Under such circumstances, finding what works for you will become inevitable \u2013 and could even involve re-inventing the wheel.<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">I say this based on personal experience.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">I\u2019ve taken many (crazy) risks over the years, in relation to my academics, career, business and even personal safety. On a number of occasions, doing so led to massive blunders. And in each instance I had to endure the pain, embarrassment and humiliation to recover.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Today, <strong>being wrong or failing<\/strong> does not bother me. Why? Because every time I\u2019ve made mistakes I\u2019ve always emerged smarter, stronger and\/or better skilled.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">And it\u2019s those qualities that make me effective in pursuing any goal I set my sights on. It may take a while to get there, depending on a variety of factors. But I often do.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><em>So, for me, making mistakes is process \u2013 a journey \u2013 you undertake in order to narrow down a list of possible options to find what works \u2013 for <strong>you<\/strong>.<\/em><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style31\"><strong>EXAMPLE:<span class=\"style42\"> Learning from My Mistakes With Domain Names<\/span> <\/strong>(<a href=\"http:\/\/www.tksola.com\">www.tksola.com<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.sdacademy.org\">www.sdacademy.org<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.webmarketingsystemsdemo.com\">www.webmarketingsystemsdemo.com<\/a>, and <a href=\"http:\/\/www.cbstudio.biz\">www.cbstudio.biz<\/a>)<\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\">To learn from mistakes, we must accept that we\u2019ve made them.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><em>I practice what I preach. <\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Last year I almost did not renew any of the above 4 mentioned domain names. But I decided to keep them for an extra year and see what value I really got from each one.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">This year (last week) I\u2019ve chosen to renew only <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tksola.com\">www.tksola.com<\/a> \u2013 the URL that forwards to my <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tksola.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">speaking service website<\/a>. Between February and last week, I\u2019ve let the others expire as they came due. My checks show they no longer add tangible value to me.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">What I\u2019ve learnt from doing these \u201ctests\u201d will help me in future. <em>All my work is now consolidated on <a href=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/\">www.spontaneousdevelopment.com<\/a> (tksola.com points to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tksola.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">a sub-domain<\/a>). <\/em><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style31\"><strong>2. <span class=\"style42\">Minimize Trial & Error: But Go Out & Make Your Own Unique Mistakes!<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<blockquote><p>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<\/p>\n<p>\u201cThe reason I know so much is because I have made so many mistakes\u201d<\/p>\n<p>- R. Buckminster Fuller<\/p>\n<p>~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p class=\"style3\">No matter how much you learn from others in order to minimize trial and error, you <strong>must<\/strong> make <strong>YOUR OWN<\/strong> mistakes. Otherwise your development will be incomplete.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><em>Don\u2019t try to get to the finish line by avoiding mistakes. <\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Learning from a guru or mentor will not protect you from mistakes. If you think it will, you set yourself up for <strong>mediocre accomplishments<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">For instance, the wisdom you share in your speaking events will lack unique flavor that resonates with audiences who hear, or read your messages \u2013 as their response will show.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><strong><em>There\u2019ll always be something missing: <\/em><\/strong><em>and it will be your lack of authenticity. <\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Without making<strong> your own<\/strong> mistakes, you will find it literally impossible to develop authenticity. <strong>You will not really have a \u201cmessage\u201d that you truly own. <\/strong>Audiences will often tend to see you as one who \u201cborrows\u201d from those you learn(t) from, or refer to.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Some of the greatest speakers - in various areas of life \u2013 famously use (or used) stories to communicate their messages.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><em>There are 2 kinds of stories you can tell your audiences: yours or other people\u2019s. <\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Certain schools of thought argue that talking about yourself makes you appear boastful.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">I recommend using your initiative to decide what approach to use at any point in time.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style31\"><strong><em>Don\u2019t be over humble. When YOUR story will do a better job, tell it without apology!<\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\"><em>Share anecdotes about how you fought your own battles in various phases of your life. \u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Someone in your audience may be at a stage in her own life when the ideas, and lessons you share, may be what she needs for<strong> inspiration<\/strong>...<em>NOT stories about historical figures<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">You will do this not just in formal settings, but even during informal interactions.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">It\u2019s a powerful way to build credibility and influence with others.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style46\"><strong><span class=\"style20\">3. <\/span>What Works Today, May Not Work Next Year: So Use Mistakes To Evolve Solutions for the Future<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\"><a title=\"Woman conducting quality control checks - related to quote: \u201cAvoiding mistakes makes us stupid, and having to be right all the time makes us obsolete. When I finally discovered that I learned more by making mistakes than by having the right answers all the time, I set out to perfect the art of making more mistakes faster\u201d.  \" href=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/sdn-robert-kiyosaki-quote2.jpg\" target=\"blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Woman conducting quality control checks - related to quote: \u201cAvoiding mistakes makes us stupid, and having to be right all the time makes us obsolete. When I finally discovered that I learned more by making mistakes than by having the right answers all the time, I set out to perfect the art of making more mistakes faster\u201d.  \" src=\"http:\/\/www.spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/sdn-robert-kiyosaki-quote2.jpg\" width=\"500\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">The way I see it, succeeding means you\u2019ve reasonably mastered a level of competence. And that implies you now need to move to the next level \u2013 and NOT to rest on your oars.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><strong>Here\u2019s why: <\/strong>Sometimes you\u2019ll find that the strategy that works for you today, or this year, may not work so well next year.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">That\u2019s why doing new things, and actively learning from mistakes made in the process, is a valuable strategy.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Doing so implies stepping out \u2013 again \u2013 of your comfort zone.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Consider a high jumper. Each time she scales a new height, the bar is raised. It\u2019s the same with a weight lifter. With each successful lift, new weights are added.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Mistakes will help you learn smarter ways to get the results you want, no matter how often things change. And that will <strong>effectively guarantee you long term success.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style31 style42\">Need More Details of How to Make The Above Ideas Work for YOU?<\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\">If you need more specific details of how to make use of the ideas I've shared in this newsletter,<strong> <\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/contact.htm\" target=\"_blank\">send me a message using this request form<\/a> (with \"<strong>Re: No Mentor Can Shield You from Mistakes<\/strong>\" in the subject line).<\/p>\n<table width=\"500\" border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"2\" cellpadding=\"2\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td bgcolor=\"#CCCCCC\">\n<table width=\"500\" border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"2\" cellpadding=\"2\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<p class=\"style44\" style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 18px;\" align=\"left\"><strong>SD Nuggets Blog<\/strong>\u2122<\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td bgcolor=\"#00FFFF\"><span class=\"style55\">New posts from last week that may interest you! * <\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#00FFFF\"><span class=\"style53\"><strong>Public Speaking<\/p>\n<p>[<span class=\"style42\">Monday]<\/span>:<\/strong><\/span><\/td>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<div align=\"right\">\n<p><a class=\"style53\" title=\"Permanent Link to Outsmart Competitors (& Earn More) Using Foreign Language Skills\" href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/outsmart-competitors-earn-more-using-foreign-language-skills\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Outsmart Competitors (& Earn More) Using Foreign Language Skills<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#00FFFF\">\n<p style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px;\" align=\"left\"><strong>Entrepreneurship [<span class=\"style42\">Tuesday]<\/span>:<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<div align=\"right\">\n<p style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px;\"><a title=\"Permanent Link to What Do You Do When People Are Scared To Trust You?\" href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/what-do-you-do-when-people-are-scared-to-trust-you\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">What Do You Do When People Are Scared To Trust You?<\/a><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#00FFFF\"><span class=\"style53\"><strong>Self-Development [<span class=\"style42\">Wednesday<\/span>]: <\/strong><\/span><\/td>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<div align=\"right\"><a class=\"style53\" title=\"Permanent Link to Deliver to Deadlines, Even After a Setback, Using This Smartphone Based Productivity Hack for Writers\" href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/deliver-to-deadlines-even-after-a-setback-using-this-smartphone-based-productivity-hack\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Deliver to Deadlines, Even After a Setback, Using This Smartphone Based Productivity Hack for Writers<\/a><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#00FFFF\">\n<p style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px;\" align=\"left\"><strong>Career Development [<span class=\"style42\">Thursday<\/span>]:<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<div class=\"style53\" align=\"right\"><a title=\"Permanent Link to Unruly Employees \u2013 An Employer\u2019s Worst Nightmare (3 Tips for Dealing With Them)\" href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/unruly-employees-an-employers-worst-nightmare-3-tips-for-dealing-with-them\/\" rel=\"bookmark\">Unruly Employees \u2013 An Employer\u2019s Worst Nightmare (3 Tips for Dealing With Them)<\/a><\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#00FFFF\">\n<p style=\"font-family: Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 10px;\" align=\"left\"><strong>Parenting [<span class=\"style42\">Friday<\/span>]: <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<td valign=\"top\" bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<div align=\"right\"><a class=\"style53\" title=\"Permanent Link to When Is The Right Time to Start Having Kids? 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He works with individuals\/businesses who want to achieve highly profitable outcomes, and also with parents who want to raise real-world competent children. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Tayo earns multiple streams of income providing clients with <a href=\"http:\/\/www.tksola.com\" target=\"_blank\">performance improvement training\/coaching<\/a>, custom <a href=\"http:\/\/excelheaven.spontaneousdevelopment.com\">MS Excel-VB<\/a> solutions, <a href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/joomla\">web marketing<\/a> systems, <a href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/category\/writingblogging\/\" target=\"_blank\">freelance writing services<\/a>, and best practice <a href=\"http:\/\/iff.spontaneousdevelopment.com\" target=\"_blank\">extension support services<\/a> (for farm business owners).<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">When he\u2019s not amazing clients with his superhuman skills (wink), Tayo works as the creative force behind his\u00a0<strong><a href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sdnuggets\/how-to-use-the-self-development-nuggets-blog\/\">Self-Development Nuggets\u2122 blog<\/a><\/strong>, and\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/blog\">Public Speaking IDEAS newsletter<\/a>\u00a0(which he publishes to promote Burt Dubin's Public Speaking Mentoring service to experts working across the African continent).<span class=\"style18\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><\/p>\n<p>==================<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style31\"><strong><span class=\"style44\">Have you been undecided about whether or not to become a paid speaker? <\/span><span class=\"style20\">Or have you been trying to get your speaking career off the ground with little success?<\/span> <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\"><strong>Here\u2019s a tip: <\/strong><a href=\"http:\/\/burtdubin.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">Burt Dubin<\/a> works with people who want to be speakers, and with speakers who want to be masters. <a href=\"http:\/\/burtdubin.com\/contact_test.html\" target=\"_blank\">Click here<\/a> to visit his website NOW and submit a contact form message telling him what challenges you\u2019re facing, and how you\u2019d like him to help you. <em>Tell him I sent you, and you\u2019ll get a pleasant surprise offer from him<\/em>.<\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style46\"><strong>Comments?<\/strong><\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\">What do you think of the above message? Do you have any personal experience to share on this subject? Are there some other points you feel can be added, to help persons looking for answers? <strong>Please share your thoughts!<\/strong><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style46\"><strong>Share this issue! <\/strong><\/h3>\n<p class=\"style3\">Do you know anyone who might benefit from reading this newsletter issue? Why not hit the forward button now, and send it to him\/her with a short recommendation. You can also use share it via your social media channels. Thanks in advance.<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><span style=\"font-family: Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/TKSolagbadeSDAc\" target=\"_blank\"><span class=\"style20\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"View Tayos video tutorials and demonstrations on Facebook Productivity Tips, Web Marketing, and for his Custom MS Excel-VB driven software applications\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/youtube_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/span><\/a><span class=\"style20\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.facebook.com\/tayo.solagbade\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Connect with Tayo on Facebook.com\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/facebook_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><a href=\"http:\/\/twitter.com\/tksola\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Connect with Tayo on Twitter.com\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/twitter_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><a href=\"https:\/\/plus.google.com\/u\/0\/117041728654417267212\/about\" target=\"_blank\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Connect with Tayo on Google Plus\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/google_plus_32.png\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"style46\">What fears or doubts are keeping you from <span class=\"style20\">(a) <\/span>taking up Burt Dubin's monthly speaker mentoring, or <span class=\"style20\">(b) <\/span>buying his products?<\/h3>\n<h3 class=\"style57\">You can choose to purchase Burt's mentoring at any of the three (3) levels listed below:<\/h3>\n<h3 class=\"style3\"><strong>1.<\/strong> <strong>Top Shelf <\/strong>[<a href=\"http:\/\/www.speakingsuccess.com\/speaking_success_system.html\" target=\"_blank\">Click here<\/a>] <strong>| <\/strong> <strong>2.<\/strong> <strong>Mid Range<\/strong> [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.burtdubin.com\/tools\/177monthly.html\">Click here<\/a>] <strong>| <\/strong> <strong>3. 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It's that simple \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\"><strong>So, make your choice:1.<\/strong> <strong>Top Shelf <\/strong>[<a href=\"http:\/\/www.speakingsuccess.com\/speaking_success_system.html\" target=\"_blank\">Click here<\/a>] <strong>| <\/strong> <strong>2.<\/strong> <strong>Mid Range<\/strong> [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.burtdubin.com\/tools\/177monthly.html\">Click here<\/a>] <strong>| <\/strong> <strong>3. Budget Delight<\/strong> [<a href=\"http:\/\/www.burtdubin.com\/tools\/underground_mentoring.htm\" target=\"_blank\">Click here<\/a>]<\/p>\n<p class=\"style3\">Send me an e-mail with your questions via\u00a0<strong>tayo at tksola dot com<\/strong>. In the meantime, why not get started by subscribing\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/burtdubin.com\/tools\/signup_form.html\" target=\"_blank\">here<\/a>\u00a0to get his\u00a0<strong>7-Part\u00a0Course (How To Succeed And Get Paid As A Professional Speaker)\u00a0.\u00a0\u00a0.\u00a0.\u00a0<\/strong>and\u00a0receive\u00a0his<strong>\u00a0monthly newsletter (Speaking Biz Strategies Letter)<\/strong>\u00a0at no cost.<\/p>\n<div style=\"text-align: left; margin-bottom: 0px;\"><\/div>\n<div style=\"background-color: #ffffff; padding: 5px; margin: 0px;\">\n<table width=\"500\" border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"1\" cellpadding=\"1\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td bgcolor=\"#00FFFF\">\n<table id=\"Table11\" width=\"500\" border=\"0\" cellspacing=\"1\" cellpadding=\"3\" align=\"center\" bgcolor=\"#FFFFFF\">\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td width=\"445\"><a title=\"Get mentored by Burt Dubin - coach of some of the world's highest paid public speakers\" href=\"http:\/\/burtdubin.typepad.com\/blog\/\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Get mentored by Burt Dubin - coach of some of the world's highest paid public speakers\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/sphpblog-content\/images\/burt-cut-banner.jpg\" width=\"500\" border=\"0\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"style3\">For over 25 years,\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/burtdubin.com\" target=\"_blank\">Burt Dubin<\/a>\u00a0has provided a variety of speaker mentoring products and services to clients worldwide.<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><strong style=\"font-family: Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><span style=\"font-size: larger;\">Download this flyer as PDF: <\/span><\/strong><a style=\"cursor: pointer; color: #3b5998; text-decoration: none; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 11px; line-height: 14px; text-align: left;\" href=\"http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/bdubin-africa\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow nofollow\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: larger;\">http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/bdubin-africa<\/span><\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p style=\"font-family: Arial, Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;\"><a title=\"Burt Dubin now offers his speaker mentoring service to experts based in Africa. Click now to download this flyer as PDF\" href=\"http:\/\/tinyurl.com\/bdubin-africa\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Burt Dubin now offers his speaker mentoring service to experts based in Africa. Click now to download this flyer as PDF\" src=\"http:\/\/spontaneousdevelopment.com\/uploads\/burt_new_flyer.png\" width=\"539\" height=\"723\" border=\"0\" \/><\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><\/p>\n<p><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This is a universal truth. Any self-respecting mentor will acknowledge it. Whoever says s\/he can help you avoid making mistakes is lying to you. A mentor can guide you to minimize mistakes you make. But you WILL have to make some to gain full mastery or competence. 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