This morning I came across the following quote while reviewing past tweets by Corey Jahnke (@CWJahnke):<\/p>\n
\u201cThe only man who makes no mistakes is the man who never does anything.\u201d \u2013 Eleanor Roosevelt.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Do you have dreams or ambitions that haunt you because you keep letting a fear of making mistakes hold you back? Are you one of those who start each year setting ambitious resolutions only to falter when others question your sanity or ability to achieve? Have you ever felt \u201cisolated\u201d by disapproving friends and family members because you persisted in the pursuit of your valued goal, in spite of their advice to the contrary?<\/p>\n
If yes, know that you are not alone. People, who achieve success by achieving the uncommon, often have to travel a lonely road to success.<\/p>\n
Ask Nelson Mandela about the 27 years it took him (while \u201croasting\u201d in jail) to bring apartheid rulers round to his line of thinking. The truth \u2013 as all success conscious people know \u2013 is that your conviction<\/strong> is what will see you through. Mandela\u2019s conviction about his purpose led him to become a living legend today. But the road was not smooth.<\/p>\n
When many people start out, they will often have heard stuff like those I\u2019ve outlined above. However, as human beings we hear a lot, but consciously apply too little. Today\u2019s fast paced world makes us even more distracted. We never pay close attention until something hits us where it hurts. Then we start looking for solutions - often desperately.<\/p>\n
Human beings have a need to experience things in order to retain what they learn for the long term. That\u2019s the reason why even when we were told as kids that the kettle is hot, very many of us never really listened to our parents until the day we got burnt while fooling around in the kitchen. The cycle repeats itself with our own kids.<\/p>\n
To consistently succeed at anything you set your mind on, you must accept that intelligent mistake making will help you learn. You\u2019ll need to take risks. Leave your comfort zone. Do the unfamiliar. Without going out on a limb, it is unlikely that you\u2019ll be doing anything out of the ordinary or note worthy.<\/p>\n
Making mistakes means you will not always come across as being \u201ccool\u201d to those other \u201csafe playing\u201d friends, relatives or associates watching from the sidelines. During the time you\u2019re trying and failing at reaching your goals, some may be sneering or laughing in the background\u2026sometimes to your face.<\/p>\n
After the news has filtered out that you have (once again) \u201cfailed\u201d at your new attempt, even those who stayed in touch may begin to carefully distance themselves. The could for instance fear mockery from others.<\/p>\n
It is important that you welcome and relish periods like this, because they present you a perfect opportunity to know those who really like you for whom you are, and NOT just for what you are (e.g. a celebrity) or what you own (riches).<\/p>\n
A lot of people miss out on gaining this extremely liberating insight into life. I come from a culture in which \u201cfriends\u201d and relatives (no matter how distant) frequently announce their relationship to successful people to gain the respect and admiration of others.<\/p>\n
Indeed, some celebrities get accused of failing to pay such friends and relatives visits whenever they are \u201cin town\u201d for instance They\u2019ll say: \u201cSo, you\u2019ve forgotten us so quickly now that you\u2019re successful? When was the last time you visited us at home? You\u2019ve got to come over and stay the weekend next month. We absolutely insist.\u201d<\/em><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
Fast forward to 2 years later, after the \u201ccelebrity\u201d has run into a patch of bad times. Maybe he\u2019s been the victim of an elaborate scam that forced him to adopt a modest lifestyle while trying to start over. The news would have spread quickly.<\/strong><\/p>\n
And when he shows up at the same relatives\u2019 place to ask for a loan, he may be accorded a guarded reception. Suddenly there may be little if any enthusiasm to see him. And the entire proceedings during the short lived visit would be tense and uncomfortable for all present. When he gets up to leave, they most likely won\u2019t ask: \u201cWhat, you\u2019re leaving so quickly?\u201d <\/strong>If anything, they will appear in a greater hurry to get to the door than he is!<\/p>\n
And that\u2019s probably the closest most people not afflicted with leprosy, may ever get to experiencing what it feels like to be a leper. Like I tell people based on my personal experience, if you want to know those who really like you for who you are, watch what happens if\/when bad times appear. If such times don't show - and you're keen - try the trick of \u201cpretending<\/strong>\u201d that things are not going well for you.<\/em><\/p>\n
Note that it may take a while to see the ripple effects.<\/strong> People like this generally stick around to see if things will get better. If you keep it up long enough, they'll show their true colours. Some will come to see what they can get off you in your vulnerable state. But most will simply disappear \u2013 and won\u2019t even return your calls. You would have become a leper in their eyes. And no matter how \u201cfriendly you try to act, they\u2019ll be resolute about keeping you at more than arm\u2019s length.<\/p>\n
The irony is that when a person is successful, but won't let them get close to him\/her, these same friends and relatives (and even strangers!) readily accuse him\/her of being \u201cunfriendly\u201d.<\/p>\n
Isn\u2019t it funny how the successful person who chooses to be friendly and makes him\/herself available to them, gets conveniently dumped or even ostracized as soon as misfortune befalls him\/her?<\/em><\/p>\n
Here\u2019s what you should take away from this:<\/strong> You can never be sure why people choose to befriend or associate closely with you \u2013 especially when you\u2019re doing well. Develop the ability to better identify those who seek you out for selfish gain, so you do not waste energy investing emotionally or otherwise in building relationships with them.<\/p>\n
To become successful \u2013 and stay that way \u2013 you must surround yourself with the right kind of people. True friends will readily support you regardless of what happens - even if you get falsely accused and it\u2019s in the news. When the inevitable challenges come, if you don\u2019t have such people in your inner circle, you could end up being a friendly leper no one likes!<\/p>\n
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