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It\u2019s said that \u201ctalk is cheap\u201d. I argue (in this week\u2019s issue of my public speaking IDEAS newsletter), that every speaker can use that popular saying to remind herself to stay true to the values she professes \u2013 even when no one is watching!<\/p>\n

What You Do, And NOT What You Say, Defines Who You Are<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Publication:<\/strong>\u00a0Tayo Solagbade's Weekly Public Speaking IDEAS Page (PSIP)<\/strong> Newsletter<\/span><\/p>\n

Date:<\/strong>\u00a0<\/strong>Monday 4th February 2013<\/span><\/p>\n

No:<\/strong> 75<\/p>\n

Title: <\/strong>What Do You Really Stand For?<\/p>\n

Author & Publisher:<\/strong>\u00a0Tayo K. Solagbade [234-803-302-1263<\/a><\/strong>]<\/p>\n

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It\u2019s said that \u201ctalk is cheap\u201d. I argue (in this week\u2019s issue of my public speaking IDEAS newsletter), that every speaker can use that popular saying to remind herself to stay true to the values she professes \u2013 even when no one is watching!<\/p>\n

What You Do, And NOT<\/span> What You Say, Defines Who You Are<\/h3>\n

Maybe you\u2019re a Workplace Performance Improvement expert-speaker. You likely go on the platform and tell your audience how to create a conducive climate to get employees to give their best on the job at all times.<\/p>\n

One could however ask what working conditions exist in your <\/strong>own organization?<\/p>\n

Do your high performers enjoy commensurate career advancement or rewards for their efforts? Or are they frustrated by an absence of a sincere commitment to giving the best people an opportunity to flourish \u2013 to the company\u2019s ultimate benefit?<\/p>\n

One example:<\/strong> Would you promote a deserving employee over an under-performing relative, if you knew doing so would be best for the progress of the business?<\/p>\n

These are the kinds of hard questions I honestly believe speakers need to routinely ask themselves if they wish to be \u2013 and remain \u2013 authentic.<\/em><\/p>\n

Sadly, For Some, Their Words Are Not Their Bond<\/h3>\n

Public speakers are generally regarded by their audiences as trustworthy sources of knowledge and information in their various areas of expertise. Therefore when they speak, they potentially wield a lot of power and influence over their audiences.<\/p>\n

That privilege can however be easily abused by a speaker who chooses to be insincere. <\/em><\/p>\n

It is for instance quite possible to recruit a pedophile to manage a school or children\u2019s home, if decision makers or selection bodies depend only on his impressive credentials and rousing speech about children\u2019s rights and empowerment.<\/p>\n

His subtle character flaws that make him a potential danger to kids are unlikely to be easily detected when he\u2019s in public view. That\u2019s why background checks with associates from his past and present life can be quite revealing.<\/p>\n

Sometimes of course, nothing obvious may jump out at you when you do that.<\/p>\n

However, a tell tale pattern or trend in behaviour could be detectable with careful observation. And that could provide useful additional perspective from which to evaluate a candidate being considered.<\/p>\n

What Beliefs & Biases Do You Nurse?<\/h3>\n

As an expert speaker, your beliefs and biases can greatly influence the views you hold about people and issues. The problem is that as human beings we may not always let others know our true feelings on issues \u2013 especially if we feel they may be potentially controversial or embarrassing.<\/p>\n

In today\u2019s hypersensitive world, many have therefore learnt to employ a little duplicity or two-facedness in order to get along with others. Sometimes they\u2019ll do this to be able to put meals on the table for their families for instance. But deep inside they may nurse growing resentment at being unable to really act on their feelings.<\/p>\n

So when one day they see or hear of an opportunity to act in line with their true feelings they are likely to take it. And if those who know them later learn of it, they\u2019ll naturally be surprised.<\/p>\n

\u201cI never knew he felt that way of held such views!\u201d some would exclaim.<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Public speakers by the very nature of their vocation are perfectly equipped to operate in the above described manner if they choose to. And some do: <\/strong>They woo their audiences into believing they stand for one thing, while in reality their loyalties lies elsewhere.<\/p>\n

We see enough examples of this during political campaigns for instance, wherein candidates mouth valued ideals only to have damaging evidence from their past and\/or private lives expose them to be unfaithful to those same ideals!<\/p>\n

The word \u201cintegrity\u201d is unfortunately a word that\u2019s been badly abused in recent years. Even people well known for being crooked have sometimes been referred to in some societies as having \u201cintegrity\u201d!<\/p>\n

To me, having \u201cintegrity\u201d means being able to stand for what what you believe no matter what happens, or regardless of whose Ox is gored.<\/p>\n

Consider this: <\/strong>If you overhear \u201ccolleagues\u201d on a selection board talking about discriminating against a best qualified candidate based on her gender, what would you do<\/strong>?<\/p>\n

Would you look the other way, and one week later deliver a moving speech on equal rights and opportunities for women, to rousing applause at a women\u2019s conference?<\/p>\n

Any speaker who does the abive cannot lay claim to having integrity!<\/p>\n

Final Words: Questions To Help Us Stay Grounded In Our Values<\/h3>\n

This brings me to the following questions that I strive as often as possible to ask myself:<\/p>\n

What do I stand for<\/strong>?<\/p>\n

Is it consistent with what I say and do in my personal life<\/strong>?<\/p>\n

Or am I just acting out a script of sorts<\/strong> and taking my (listening and reading) audience for a cruelly misleading ride?<\/p>\n

These are questions I constantly ask myself in order to stay grounded. <\/em><\/p>\n

Another is:<\/strong> What would the audience think\/say\/do find if they could read my thoughts every time I stand before them to give a talk?<\/p>\n

And here\u2019s one more:<\/strong> What would I do if I knew no one would ever find out?<\/p>\n

You can also ask yourself these questions. <\/em><\/p>\n

The answers we individually settle on, if we\u2019re honest with ourselves, will determine what we really stand for.<\/p>\n

You and I must strive never to be found wanting in this regard as experts-who-speak.<\/p>\n

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Tayo K. Solagbade*<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Self-Development\/Performance Improvement Specialist<\/strong><\/p>\n

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